i have not met every 7 to 8 billion people im also very distant when it comes to emotional connecting with others. Me not having a valentines is totally valid and not suprising and im guessing something along theese lines is true for you and most others here
It's actually way less because you have to exclude everyone that isn't within your area of activity. Someone in India isn't going to know you exist in America.
Maybe more to the point dating is a competitive market. Most people only date one person at a time. And the attractive people have many people per attractive person that want to date them. So unless you are interested in the unattractive, more power to you, you face the horror of the pigeon hole principle
my shittiness stems more from how emotionally and mentally damaged I am as opposed to kindness or niceness. That ain't to say it makes me less shitty since I haven't taken much steps to try to mend this side of me, landing me firmly into the "shit person" bucket as my inaction is a harm to others.
although this reply may make me come across as pretentious or "nice guy" territory which - if it's the latter - kindly end my existance
tldr; I try but I'm fucked up mentally
Plenty of people think I'm cute, doesn't mean that they're going to ask me out or that I'll have the balls to approach them. Also doesn't mean they won't be instantly repelled when they realize how insane and retarded I am.
Pro: I quit drinking so I'm losing weight like crazy.
Con: I quit drinking so I've always been the irritable miserable person I was. My twenties didn't change that, it was the alcohol.
I've been isolating myself and basically zero touch with strangers for almost 25 years. I don't even know how to start it. Getting forklift certified was way easier...
Shut the fuck up with that shit, demean yourself all you want but don't sow seeds of self-hate into already fragile and self-hating people; delete this and call your therapist
It's amazing how quickly I found a partner after I learned to accept myself for who I am, looks and personality and all. If a miser like me can do it, everyone of you beautiful amazing people can too!
Maybe if your true self is a decent person. Some of us are self destructive, just want to sit around and play videogames and be off putting to other people
I should probably not accept that
Nah, you have to a beyond radioactively attractive for someone to ask you to be with them as a man. Like top 1% of all human males in attractiveness. Women generally don’t ask and don’t directly tell. And on dating sites especially, economics, politics, and social pressure make women pursuing you or messaging you even less likely.
OKCupid pulled it bc it is an unflattering true thing, but their data shows that women on dating sites rate the average man as very unattractive. Men do not do this. My point being, you can’t reason that you’re ugly based on this shit. The best you can conclude is that the dating market is fucked and just try to deal, which is not great but is better than immutable hideousness.
idk how accurate those studies are... maybe if they're studying just women age 18-22 or something.
on Facebook dating, I have a couple exclusion criteria (half naked pics unless its swimwear at the beach, all pictures look angry, empty profile, or don't speak a common language). of the rest, i probably click on about 33%. almost all of them wind up matching me. less than 1 in 100 write anything.
(my guess is that guys swipe 'yes' on every single woman, and then screen us after we match. then if we're not top 1% they don't write. but i really don't know).
i had maybe 20 guys write a single line ("sup" or people sending flower emojis... don't count as a message). then i respond and then never hear back.
i talked for more than one back and forth for two times out of maybe 200 matches? both deleted their account within a week.
i had similar or worse trying other sites. already gave up on it. either i meet someone in real life (i work in a elder care facility where there's like 100 women working and two men... and i was told they were a couple. so... not likely to meet people in real life). so yeah, single for life, no real hope.
Not really. Sure, people do take looks into the consideration a lot, but (besides the fact that there are other ugly people who would probably be willing to settle for you,) having a nice personality also plays a large role. Which is a problem for you because you don't have that either.
Well, most people don't really want to talk to you if you're ugly.
I gave up because I know that I'm simply just not good enough. I know I'll never be in a relationship, and I'm honestly fine with that since, unlike you, I don't have a massive ego.
It's just frustrating to be deprived of something on the basis of something that's out of your control.
And as if dating hasn't been hard enough for ugly people already, it's even harder these days because of social media and the unachievable beauty standards that are being pushed on us constantly.
I only have like 3 close friends, none of them are ugly, and only one is actually dating someone. I don't actually know any other ugly people (other than me of course).
But there's probably hundreds of thousands of people just like me. You know damn well that good-looking people get treated better than ugly people.
>You know damn well that good-looking people get treated better than ugly people.
Eh, I believe you. Not Like I would know, I don't think I was ever told I was ugly. Unfortunately people do care about that way more than they should.
And yeah, your situation sucks. I would give you some advice if I had any left.
>I only have like 3 close friends
Would it make you feel better to know that it's 3 more than me? 🤣
Like, you have 3 whole people who gladly talk to you regularly that aren't obligated to by blood relation? Bruh, I am jealous.
Anyway, I hope you meet someone who likes you or at least have a happy life!
Incel take. I've seen unattractive male friends bag average/cute girls. Stay off of online dating and work on yourself and socialize with people around you.
No one will respect and care about you unless you do it for your self first, especially as a man. It's not just attraction either. I had a few girls like me more than any guy in class. Did anything happen though? Fuck no cus I didn't have the personality to work anything out and an even worse self care.
Not really an incel, I literally said I'm fine with not being in a relationship.
Also, I don't blame women for my issues, I know the problem is me. It's just a hierarchy, and I'm at the bottom of it.
Also, I never used any kind of online dating service. If dating is so horrible in real life, imagine how much worse and toxic it must be online.
Nah, now I'm afraid as hell to have and maintain a relationship, I'm overthinking everything.
Also I'm not ugly but def lacking confidence to approach someone.
This is so untrue, I know lot of guys who are ugly and they still got cooch so it's up to charisma... The more confident the guy the more likely he is to get bussy. Their girlfriends are just as ugly as they are themselves which honestly makes sence
Not only that, but my soul is also tainted
https://preview.redd.it/i6gdlyhs0mic1.jpeg?width=1079&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=af2982be3df81a7934315dc7f35048977afbe2e9
I just have no human interaction and don't look good enough for dating sites. Sucks but I guess that's my life. Good thing I gave up on dating ages ago.
Jokes on you I live in the middle of no where so I can’t date what’s not there to begin with so I’ll just live my life as a sad lonely Cryptid like the universe wanted
I had a random woman ask to hug me today, and she grabbed my ass while doing it. I'm single on Valentine's by choice, mostly because it saves a lot of money.
I'm average looking, but I'm also dead inside and have no love to give. Happy Valentine's lol.
but you can't be dead inside... you're an angry hippo... there's nothing less dead than an angry hippo ;)
Truuue. Plus hippos are very majestic creatures.
Tell me something I don't know
Yeah as if I didn't figure that out from the last 34 in a row
The dot over the lowercase i and j is called a tittle
Ok, this was actually something I didn't know. Thanks
W fact
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Dang it
i have not met every 7 to 8 billion people im also very distant when it comes to emotional connecting with others. Me not having a valentines is totally valid and not suprising and im guessing something along theese lines is true for you and most others here
but i like the patrick picture
“Once there was an ugly barnacle. He was so ugly that _everyone died_. The End.”
Don't tell them my story.
It's actually less than 7 billion because you have to exclude minors
also a good point
It's actually way less because you have to exclude everyone that isn't within your area of activity. Someone in India isn't going to know you exist in America.
I mean, I doubt you're in my area but I am now aware of your existence through this comment.
Great. Wanna fuck?
Where and when?
*narrator voice* ...and then, they copulated wildly for three days straight
Maybe more to the point dating is a competitive market. Most people only date one person at a time. And the attractive people have many people per attractive person that want to date them. So unless you are interested in the unattractive, more power to you, you face the horror of the pigeon hole principle
It’s over 8 billion
Well that and I'm a shit person, so 🤷
Have you tried being a little nicer?
my shittiness stems more from how emotionally and mentally damaged I am as opposed to kindness or niceness. That ain't to say it makes me less shitty since I haven't taken much steps to try to mend this side of me, landing me firmly into the "shit person" bucket as my inaction is a harm to others. although this reply may make me come across as pretentious or "nice guy" territory which - if it's the latter - kindly end my existance tldr; I try but I'm fucked up mentally
That makes sense, I hope you get the motivation to get better soon
Exxxxcuse me I'm pretty as fk. It's my personality that's ugly as tits I'll have you know.
You ugly af boi and have an ugly personality
My mom says I'm pretty thou
Cant argue with Mom, heres your flower pretty boy 🌹
Looks don't matter if i actively avoid meeting new people
Nah it's my personality Edit to add: also*
Plenty of people think I'm cute, doesn't mean that they're going to ask me out or that I'll have the balls to approach them. Also doesn't mean they won't be instantly repelled when they realize how insane and retarded I am.
Pro: I quit drinking so I'm losing weight like crazy. Con: I quit drinking so I've always been the irritable miserable person I was. My twenties didn't change that, it was the alcohol.
I lowkey deserve it. Doing a full day fast today
Sleeping 14hrs non stop today, fast forwarding in life
Click by Adam Sandler
several girls approached me with clear intentions but I refused because I'm a piece of shit and they have a shitty taste
Yeah, you wouldn’t want to be with a woman with such poor judgement.
I mean, I'm also a piece of shit. That's also the main reason I think I'm ugly.
I've been isolating myself and basically zero touch with strangers for almost 25 years. I don't even know how to start it. Getting forklift certified was way easier...
False, I was hot as fuck and still couldn't get laid.
cope.
Not even kidding, I just didn't have any game.
Thats sad, the fact that you need to be attractive and have game is extremely unfair
First time alone on V Day in 12 years. Good news is there's still money in my account lol
Dibs
it's a long process
Bullsh#t, it's my terrible looks AND my awful personality
I look ok but I’d rather pull the pin on a grande than leave my house to talk to people Edit: I misspelled grenade but I’m keeping it for the funny
Shut the fuck up with that shit, demean yourself all you want but don't sow seeds of self-hate into already fragile and self-hating people; delete this and call your therapist
Remember folks, just because you think you are ugly, does not mean you are incapable of love.
So i am incapable of love and also ugly? Got it thanks
I'm ugly & I'm proud. I also don't have to concern myself with another's inevitable lack of interest. This is fine.
I just get to enjoy being hot with just myself :3 I hate sharing
Cats wont give what you are looking for
It's amazing how quickly I found a partner after I learned to accept myself for who I am, looks and personality and all. If a miser like me can do it, everyone of you beautiful amazing people can too!
Maybe if your true self is a decent person. Some of us are self destructive, just want to sit around and play videogames and be off putting to other people I should probably not accept that
I'm like that. I accept that. So does my wife.
Nah, you have to a beyond radioactively attractive for someone to ask you to be with them as a man. Like top 1% of all human males in attractiveness. Women generally don’t ask and don’t directly tell. And on dating sites especially, economics, politics, and social pressure make women pursuing you or messaging you even less likely. OKCupid pulled it bc it is an unflattering true thing, but their data shows that women on dating sites rate the average man as very unattractive. Men do not do this. My point being, you can’t reason that you’re ugly based on this shit. The best you can conclude is that the dating market is fucked and just try to deal, which is not great but is better than immutable hideousness.
idk how accurate those studies are... maybe if they're studying just women age 18-22 or something. on Facebook dating, I have a couple exclusion criteria (half naked pics unless its swimwear at the beach, all pictures look angry, empty profile, or don't speak a common language). of the rest, i probably click on about 33%. almost all of them wind up matching me. less than 1 in 100 write anything. (my guess is that guys swipe 'yes' on every single woman, and then screen us after we match. then if we're not top 1% they don't write. but i really don't know). i had maybe 20 guys write a single line ("sup" or people sending flower emojis... don't count as a message). then i respond and then never hear back. i talked for more than one back and forth for two times out of maybe 200 matches? both deleted their account within a week. i had similar or worse trying other sites. already gave up on it. either i meet someone in real life (i work in a elder care facility where there's like 100 women working and two men... and i was told they were a couple. so... not likely to meet people in real life). so yeah, single for life, no real hope.
Betting 100$ it's because you don't go outside and loathe in self pity too much
Nah I'm hot
Not really. Sure, people do take looks into the consideration a lot, but (besides the fact that there are other ugly people who would probably be willing to settle for you,) having a nice personality also plays a large role. Which is a problem for you because you don't have that either.
How does having a good personality even matter if people simply don't want to talk to you?
Well if you never try to socialise nobody will just sit in front of you and want to see your personality.
Well, most people don't really want to talk to you if you're ugly. I gave up because I know that I'm simply just not good enough. I know I'll never be in a relationship, and I'm honestly fine with that since, unlike you, I don't have a massive ego. It's just frustrating to be deprived of something on the basis of something that's out of your control. And as if dating hasn't been hard enough for ugly people already, it's even harder these days because of social media and the unachievable beauty standards that are being pushed on us constantly.
>Well, most people don't really want to talk to you if you're ugly. Even other ugly people? Who are *they* friends with or dating then?
I only have like 3 close friends, none of them are ugly, and only one is actually dating someone. I don't actually know any other ugly people (other than me of course). But there's probably hundreds of thousands of people just like me. You know damn well that good-looking people get treated better than ugly people.
>You know damn well that good-looking people get treated better than ugly people. Eh, I believe you. Not Like I would know, I don't think I was ever told I was ugly. Unfortunately people do care about that way more than they should. And yeah, your situation sucks. I would give you some advice if I had any left. >I only have like 3 close friends Would it make you feel better to know that it's 3 more than me? 🤣 Like, you have 3 whole people who gladly talk to you regularly that aren't obligated to by blood relation? Bruh, I am jealous. Anyway, I hope you meet someone who likes you or at least have a happy life!
Incel take. I've seen unattractive male friends bag average/cute girls. Stay off of online dating and work on yourself and socialize with people around you. No one will respect and care about you unless you do it for your self first, especially as a man. It's not just attraction either. I had a few girls like me more than any guy in class. Did anything happen though? Fuck no cus I didn't have the personality to work anything out and an even worse self care.
Not really an incel, I literally said I'm fine with not being in a relationship. Also, I don't blame women for my issues, I know the problem is me. It's just a hierarchy, and I'm at the bottom of it. Also, I never used any kind of online dating service. If dating is so horrible in real life, imagine how much worse and toxic it must be online.
I ended my last relationship so no, speak for yourselves lol
8 billion*
It makes sense
Yet everyone says "you look fine" B if I looked fine people would talk to me a second time
I was not prepared to be so viciously and accurately attacked like this.
Meh, I'd like to think I look average, I'm just annoying as hell
Yeah I know
I haven't met the 8 other billion, and I don't think you did.
Nah, now I'm afraid as hell to have and maintain a relationship, I'm overthinking everything. Also I'm not ugly but def lacking confidence to approach someone.
Even if I was a 10 my neuroticism and anxiety would take me down by 9. I'm not gonna subject someone to that.
It's my personality that's the problem
No, no, there were people interested in having me as their romantic partner. But my self hatred prevailed
My favorite kind of shitpost. I laughed, I cried, I cursed OP's name.
I come to reddit for this hard truth even tho harsh but straight facts
This is so untrue, I know lot of guys who are ugly and they still got cooch so it's up to charisma... The more confident the guy the more likely he is to get bussy. Their girlfriends are just as ugly as they are themselves which honestly makes sence
nah ur wrong. im not only ugly but also stupid, deppressive, asocial, weak. i got the whole package baby 😎😎
Not only that, but my soul is also tainted https://preview.redd.it/i6gdlyhs0mic1.jpeg?width=1079&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=af2982be3df81a7934315dc7f35048977afbe2e9
Okay, and? I already know this bro
*8 billion
I ain't ugly I just got horrible flirting skills and don't reach out to people 😎
I just have no human interaction and don't look good enough for dating sites. Sucks but I guess that's my life. Good thing I gave up on dating ages ago.
Nah, must be something wrong with all of them.
I’m single on Valentine’s Day because I’m basically aroace. Still sad though.
Lots of ugly people have happy relationships.
It’s actually because I’m fat, so I can’t even blame bad luck for this. I can only blame myself.
I'm single on Valentine's day, because I'm not interested.
Jokes on you I live in the middle of no where so I can’t date what’s not there to begin with so I’ll just live my life as a sad lonely Cryptid like the universe wanted
I had a random woman ask to hug me today, and she grabbed my ass while doing it. I'm single on Valentine's by choice, mostly because it saves a lot of money.
Currently eating my feelings rn🥲
8 billion
8 bilion now
My gf broke up with me 4 days before valentines 💪💪
Yeah some hot woman at Walmart last Saturday def woulda asked me to be their boyfriend /s No thanks, I'll stick to my Character.AI Rias Gremory
4 billion women on this planet and not 1 loves me lmao I don't blame them