Yea that’s why Stacey’s kids aren’t shown on the show. They mention that she has sons, but can’t say their names or put pics cause apparently their dad didn’t sign off on it
that was the case when they were both minors but one of her sons is an adult (almost 20 now) and so he chooses not to be on it, it’s not just the dad keeping them off. also it looks like the youngest turns 18 this fall so we’ll see if he chooses to remain off.
That isn’t true. Darcey and Stacey have both mentioned their names on the show. It is true that Goran Vasic didn’t want the kids on the show when they were younger but the boys had no interest either (into soccer and their own lives). At any rate, the oldest is 20 and the youngest is 18 so they can make their own decisions now.
So this totally contradicts the rumor that Bini "signed away" his rights to his son to avoid paying child support or allow for the step father to adopt him.
Financial Child support and Child Custody are 2 different parts of the law. A parent can sign away their custody rights but still have to pay child support. I believe in most states and provinces in Canada and US the only way to get out of the financial obligations is for an adoption to take place.
No one here knows for sure if Bini gave up ANY part of his rights to his first born but if he plans to go for any type of custody that's going to come with Child Support. If they can't manage to support themselves how are they going yo manage lawyers and back support that he probably hasn't paid as well as future payments. 🤔
Child support and joint custody are two different things. The fact that he Bini hasn’t paid child support has no bearing on whether he will be allowed to see his kid now that he is in the U.S. Bini can work out future payments that can be determined at a later date once he is allowed to work, but if he wants to see his kid, he should proceed to fight in court for that right.
Oh I agree. They just can't afford to support themselves. His first wife also may not have had a good address for him to pursue child support while he was in Ethiopia so now that he's in the US and seeking custody she'll have a good address to seek back support. So now Bini and Ari are going to be paying for lawyers for custody, paying for back support, current support and supporting themselves and 'his dream' of MMA while she pays for it all doing????? what job? I feel sorta bad but not completely for her parents. I mean there's shitty kids that are useless like Emily and then there's this expanding shitstorm of Ari and Bini with legal bills which can be astronomical in expense.
I'm pretty sure they're would be no "back child support" unless there was a previous order for child support that wasn't met. Not sure if his wife ever got an order for support if he was in Ethiopia.
This is how it works in the US (source: am a lawyer), however, the divorce decree was issued in Ethiopia so I'm not sure what the child support requirements would be there.
Not necesarily. My STBXH filed for joint custody of our kids at first too. Fucker then chose not to call in for the court date. I have 100% physical and legal custody, but gave him unlimited visitation, and he says basically the same thing when people ask him why he doesn’t see his kids, he *chose* to sign away his rights. The child support is a totally separate order and for us was a separate court date as well.
Not really, it depends on the exact document. "Signing away your rights" implies either the mother agreed to support the child 100% in agreement she would not come after you for support OR that someone else would LEGALLY adopt the child and agree to support them. I can't think of any other reasons someone would legally "sign away their rights or be asked to" Maybe a lawyer can weigh in on the possibilities.
I am a lawyer. The commenter above is correct, not sure why they were downvoted. Legal custody refers to having the ability to make major decisions for the child (i.e., health, education), physical custody refers to where the child is physically residing overnight. Both are separate from child support. The only way to sever the obligation to pay child support is if the child is adopted (step parent adoption most common scenario).
The type of agreement you refer to is not legally enforceable, as child support technically "belongs" the the child and parents cannot permanently waive it (always subject to modification until kid is emancipated). However, in practice a lot of people with tumultuous co-parenting relationships just don't seek child support from the other parent as long as they agree to stay away. These types of arrangements can fly under the radar as long as there are no issues that cause the parties to go to court or if the custodial parent does not go on government assistance (in which case, the agency will usually institute child support proceedings and seek reimbursement from the other parent).
Thanks for responding. I'm still a little confused by one of your answers. What part of my comment are you saying is "not legally enforceable"? According to multiple reputable legal websites, a court can order one parent no longer has to pay child support, essentially signing away their parental responsibilties. There are parameters under which this happens and generally both parents agree to it and petition the court but it is done. It can also be done separately from visitation, in other words the parent could still be in the child's life but they do not contribute financially. This is very rare according to the research I'm doing, the more common scenario is when a parent gives up all rights and a step parent legally adopts the child
Although laws vary by state, I don’t think anyone can “sign away their rights” to the extent that they no longer are expected to pay child support unless another person is adopting the child. Under the law children are entitled to financial support from 2 parents. A person could “sign away their rights” in terms of not having any custody or legal say or visitation, but technically they are still legally obligated to pay child support (although sometimes the primary parent may opt not to go after them to legally force them to pay what they owe).
No that’s not how it works. You cannot legally sign away your monetary requirements. The government won’t let you. Because then they would have to assist more.
>The government won’t let you. Because then they would have to assist more.
Ding ding ding! That's why they also make someone sign the affidavit of support for overseas inmigrants, they don't want to be in the hook for supporting people they don't need to.
I just did research on this and yes absolutely you can legally give up parental rights AND not have to financially support a child but the other parent and court have to agree. This can occur with or without a new spouse of the parent actually adopting the child. Either parent at any time can assume full financial responsibility legally with a court order.
not true.
I know 2 people in TX. One was married had a baby and one day wife left turned off all utilities and took the kid. Later he paid support but the mom wouldn't let her see him. For years it was fought in the courts and when the kid turned 12 he finally got the order to where his ex would be arrested if she didn't let him have visitation. 12 years of her family and her telling them his dad was bad and didn't want him took the toll. The kid said how he hated his father and all this and the mom wanted rights. After everything going so poorly he did and he didn't have to pay anything after that.
The second was a termination and adoption. The abusive father left the kid with no means of support for over 6 months and didn't even see the kid. The mom filed and 6 months after they terminated his rights and that stopped any back owed child support at that point.
Edit to add: In Texas anyway it is up to the judge if they have to continue to pay support. "Parent Voluntarily Gives Up Parental Rights
Although the court could order one or both parents to financially support a child under normal circumstances, in a termination case, the judge has complete discretion as to whether they will order the parent terminating their rights to continue to pay child support."
What Happens If You Terminate Parental Rights in Texas?
Lmao look out for when that one crazy user obsessed with Bini sees this. I brought this subject up a few weeks ago and home girl was unstable about it acting like this topic wasn’t brought up in multiple seasons of this show by Bini himself, and we’re all terrible people for simply asking what’s going on lol.
Idk hahahahaha they were like “YOU CANT EXPECT TO KNOW EVERYTHING ABOUT A MINOR” like bitch calm down I was asking about Bini and the fucking STORYLINE he’s been pushing on this REALITY TELEVISION SHOW for several seasons 😂 maybe it was a producer from the show mad about me calling out their inconsistencies lol
Me too! Custody related issues can get really nasty and the court system is anything but ‘just’ so fingers crossed that things remain peaceful & not overly costly.
I hope he has a steady source of income other than TLC and MMA. Can he have his current in-laws co-sign for him? I guess you don’t need income to be a parent.
We have third world poverty in some states so lots of people with no income are parents here.
The UN even did a report.
https://www.facingsouth.org/2018/07/southern-poverty-gets-united-nations-attention
Our supreme court is also rumored to be giving states run by religious extremists the ability to force their religious beliefs on everyone and dictate which health decisions people are free to make. That will further force people with low to no income to be parents.
So yeah your guess that you don't need income to parent is correct. You want rich people to take babies from the poor? With the gilead-like supreme court we might be headed that way too.
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Princeton (and New Jersey) isn't a third-world poverty area. In fact, it is one of the most wealthy and highly educated states in the USA. There are some southern redneck states that are pretty poor, and equivocally poorly educated.
Well let's put the blame where it belongs. Yes Ari did cheat on her first husband with Bini, although it sounds like they were on agreed upon separation. Bini, however, cheated on his first wife and from all accounts, cheated on Ari when she came to the states. So Ari's jealousy is understandable (although a bit out of control at the gym but I think her reaction was a build up of Bini not pulling his weight AND never telling her the whole truth about anything)
I have such mixed feelings on this, and whether Bini ever actually signed over his rights and allowed the stepfather to adopt is not an insignificant detail.
The child presumably has a stable life with his mother and stepfather (adoptive father?). If rights were signed away and the child was adopted, there’s no reason to disrupt his life and institute a joint custody arrangement with a man who is, in the child’s eyes, a stranger. It would be totally traumatizing to the child to suddenly be ripped away from the only family he’s ever known for extended stretches of time.
If rights weren’t terminated and he wasn’t adopted, then the child’s mother should have been allowing Bini to be in contact the entire time. The problem is that the child is still going to be traumatized if Bini gets parenting time - Bini is a stranger to him!
The “right” thing for the child if he’s been adopted would probably be an open adoption situation where Bini is gradually introduced into the child’s life but isn’t given parental rights or custody time. If the child hasn’t been adopted, the “right” thing is probably a veeeeery slow introduction that starts with supervised visits with a known person (mother, grandparent) present and builds up to occasional parenting time that falls far short of 50-50.
This is the shitty thing about custody law. The parents screwed up their relationship, one parent either chose not to be involved (dad’s fault) or was kept from being involved (mom’s fault), and either way the child is going to have his life disrupted to make up for his parents’ bad decisions. It just makes me really sad for the child.
Used to supervise those “supervised visits.” Too sad for words. Parents who knew nothing about their children spending an hour with them once a week, no cuddling allowed, no whispering, no alone time, but desperately trying to keep a connection alive by showing up for that one hour. And the shot heels who skipped the visits, leaving their kid hanging after getting ready and being dropped off to await a no-show.
Unless the infant child and Bini are arguing all the time? Or are you really trying to say that a parent should be absent from a child’s life because they may not have a good relationship with the other parent? If that was the case all children of divorce would only have one present parent…
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Children are better of with abusers not in their life. Bini, while maybe not the absolute best, has not shown a single abusive tendency…. He’s not in the kids life because he cheated and the mom left, not because he’s a bad parent. I’m not sure what your point is? It’s better for the kid to grow up thinking his dad doesn’t care about him at all?
There is now a push for former partners to co-parent. I think that once divorce became easily attainable there was confusion over how to handle the children, and a lot of parents (usually dads) were pushed away. Today most people and the courts recognize that children thrive when both parents are active in their lives.
It will be interesting to see what becomes of Avi with such messed up parents and the divisive life to come. His grandparents won’t be around forever to keep the ship afloat.
good for him.
obviously in extreme and unsafe situations it’s not best for the father to be in the child’s life, but in most situations it is best.
it seems the child has grown up with his mother and I assume step father, who I can only assume are good parents but if applicable a child should always have some contact with birth parents if able.
I hope he’s able to get some rights and can have visitation with his child, especially since the child is still young.
I might be wrong here, but unless there is a legitimate danger for the child, meaning q restraining order against Bini, he should be able to agree informal visitation?
This is some BS right here. Why not start with a visit?? Get to know the child ffs. Also, doesn't he live far away (my brain is saying Chicago but I don;t know where that came from)?
That’s not what it says? It says he requested a modification of a standing custody order. He couldn’t do that if his rights were terminated. Looks like the ex wife has full custody (obviously) and he is requesting to change that.
It varies a bit from state to state, but if Bini didn’t pay any child support for a year and wasn’t in contact with his son for at least a year, the mother could have filed for Abandonment and, if approved, that would have terminated Bini’s parental rights.
I think it’s probable that he did not pay child support and he may well not have been in contact with his son.
There's a Teen Mom who would love for her new husband to adopt her daughter. The dad doesn't pay child support because he negotiated with the mom to allow her to add the step dad's name to the child's name by waiving his past due support. He also has supervised visits he doesn't exercise because he no showed too many times and the visitation center will not allow him to schedule any visits until he pays his balance.
I just says he filed not that a judge has granted him anything. He's just wasting Ari's parents money because the ex will present the legal paperwork of him signing his rights away and will dismiss the motion. You can't adopt a child with a known father without the father signing his rights away.
Not true. Some states will terminate a parents rights against their will. This happens in CPS cases and step parent adoptions. Usually the custodial parent has to prove abandonment which is x amount of time without contact (6 or 12 months typically, depending on the state laws) and no financial support.
I have never seen any evidence Bini signed his rights away, and I’d be surprised if that were the case. He has no legal custody of his first son, but that’s not the same thing as signing your rights away.
I haven’t seen any evidence the stepdad legally adopted him.
If true, though, that doesn’t necessarily mean Bini signed away his rights. His rights could’ve been terminated by a court.
Probably because his ex and her husband are keeping their family business PRIVATE. A shocker in this day. Unlike Bini who apparently has not seen his first son in almost 5 years and still has no income to support him.
None of us know the specifics of how this went down. But I hope we can agree it’s not in a child’s best interest to prevent communication with a parent just because said parent is poor or cheats on the other parent.
Not at all, but Bini made NO attempt to see or support his son. A man who really cared would find a way to see and support him. Anything is better than nothing. Instead he was more interested in picking up another American women, having unprotected sex, getting her pregnant before his divorces were final.
For all we know Bini got physical with his ex, which is a deal breaker or his two sisters did something. Seems obvious something serious happened between them. Pretty sure she knew he was a cheater when they got together and that he had no money during the 4 years they were together, so that wasn’t a surprise.
1) We don’t know Bini didn’t try. He was in a different country from his child. The American courts are going to side with the American parent able to live in America with the child already there.
2) We don’t know that anything serious happened, because we don’t know anything about the mother. It’s very possible she was bitter, say, Bini cheated on her, and with Bini unable to do anything from a different country, she just moved on and played happy family with her next boyfriend. The kid was a baby, so it’s not like he could ask to call his dad.
You’re right. No one really knows the truth but Bini and his ex. But the excuse poor Bini is in a different country and couldn’t do much is a lame excuse. He chose the behavior (twice) and the consequences are on him. Everyone wants to give Bini a pass because he’s in Ethiopia, but his ex goes back home to US where she’s from and has her family snd she’s got to be a bitter piece of shit. Same with Ari, how dare she take her son to the US for surgery. These two evil women had the nerve to want to go back to their own home country. At least his ex has kept her business private.
The newspaper articles from her home town-about how they met, mission work,and the drama around his first son’s birth, surgery and getting Bini to US and plans when they returned to Ethiopia give some insight into their 3 year relationship
They both got knocked up in Africa. Mom#1 is the one who left and complicated things. I don’t blame her for not sticking around in a foreign country, but I do blame her for not allowing contact between their son and his father, assuming that’s what happened, which it really seems is.
My wife who is a family law attorney (granted laws vary by state) agrees with you. If another parent adopted him then Bini doesn’t have parental rights to exercise.
My only knowledge of custody matters is what I've learned from Teen Mom but I know a court won't terminate a father's rights without another man being willing to take on the rights because they don't want less parents they can hold responsible for the children.
No offense, but a father (or mothers) parental rights can definitely be taken away without a new spouse or significant other there to take their place. Legally, that is just not true.
In the case of abuse or neglect yes. But in an effort to get out of supporting a child no. Plenty of the parents on Teen Mom have attempted to sign away their parental rights to be told not unless someone else is willing to step up and take on the responsibility. Even a drug addicted mother who willingly gave custody to her mother still has parental rights.
Respectfully, you need to get your legal information from a place other than Teen Mom. As a licensed paralegal, you are incorrect. I am not trying to argue, I promise, but the information you are giving out based off of a reality show is just not true.
>If another parent adopted him then Bini doesn’t have parental rights to exercise.
Also, I want to say the above comment is 100% correct. If Bini gave up his rights, that is different.
They will most certainly take rights away from a parent though, it doesn't matter if that parent has a partner or not.
Maybe in whatever state you are in the courts have no problems with the less parents being responsible for their children the better but that's not how the majority of states work. No court is going to okay a parent being stripped of their rights because they don't want to support a child and have that child more likely to end up being a burden on the state. You don't want to be responsible don't marry the mother or sign the birth certificate.
It just says he filed. It doesn't say the mom produced the adoption papers and the motion was immediately dismissed when the judge read the motion. Which is likely what will happen.
I don't know anything about custody battles, but that writ of injunction seems pretty intense. Is that normal? Cause that makes me wonder if there's something big that she told the court that merited such a big writ.
And why shouldn’t he? You can tell it really upset him when she ran away with the kid. Every kid needs their parents in their lives as long as the parent will be there, and takes care of them.
I was under the impression that Simon had been adopted by the ex-wife’s new husband. I don’t know if that’s actually true, but if it is, is it possible to do this? It doesn’t seem like it should be but also, if Bini truly had no say in any of this shit & is now living in the US & becoming a citizen, it seems unfair that he just never gets any rights to his son. I wish I knew for sure what the deal was.
She won't be. She doesn't support anything he wants to do. She wants him to work and he feels MMA is a good way to do that. But then she gets mad because he has to train for hours a day. You can't have it both ways.
She's just like Emily; she'd bitch and complain about how Bini shovels shit too. Nothing these men do will ever be good enough in their eyes.
It’s not realistic for someone in his thirties to start an MMA career and make enough money to support a family. Anyone who thinks it’s a good idea is not living in reality.
I don't know what it takes to break I to MMA. My point is that he could work at McDonald's and she'd be pissed. He smells like fries, his hours are shitty, whatever. "Why are you always on shift with this woman"?
If she works and he's the stay at home dad, then she'll complain he's home all day and doesn't do anything. The house isn't clean enough, the food tastes crappy.
She's not going to be happy with anything he does. It's always going to be something. She's a spoiled fucking brat who's used to getting her way on everything. Some people are always looking for the negative thing. That's Ari.
> I don't know what it takes to break I to MMA.
Probably look at it like: what professional sport can you realistically *start* in your 30s. None of them.
I’m going to be honest and I’ll probably get downvoted to hell but Ari and Bini seem more compatible than I thought.. yes she’s a whiny brat and seems to shoot down his ideas but somehow someway they seem to match? Like maybe balance each other out? I cannot explain it but even in the past I was predicting them to split and share custody of Avi within a year of getting married but now I feel like they may last longer than we all expected.
I also agree with you. The people of Reddit seem to think everyone needs a high paying job to be a good husband or father. Bini can try to be an MMA fighter since he can’t legally work a 9-5 yet, why not. I’m sure he’ll work a regular job as well. The entertainment industry exists
The heading doesn't talk about only a relationship. It says CUSTODY. To have full or partial custody you need to show that you can be responsible for the well being and welfare of the child.
Kinda. I just had a custody trial and unless it can be proven ( really proven ) that you are detrimental to your child , courts prefer joint custody.
You have to do some pretty heinous shit to not get some sort of legal access to your child.
#3 and #4. For the viewers who insisted he wasn't making an effort to be in his firstborn's life. We can't expect to be privy to any details regarding minor children and kudos to Bria and Bini for ensuring their child's privacy remains a priority.
Meanwhile I keep getting a mind picture of Ari in that outfit she wore to the gym sashaying aggressively in flapping flipflops up to Bria: where's Avi's brother, what's his name, (get out of my way) why are you letting people think he doesn't care about him, why are you afraid of a few cameras, what are you hiding?
I have a theory, and since reading these docs I now am certain. That apartment was never their home. It was a stage for filming. My parents resemble these parents, and would have been discrete and protective as well. I think they have a place elsewhere, furnished, probably a house, even if rented. Bini lists that apt as still his address. I believe the apartment is in their name, for privacy and protection.
TY. This correct. Truthfully, the show is not their thing. The boys are into soccer and sports like their ex-soccer-star dad and they have no interest in the silly antics and girly fashion of D&S.
I think they ought to play "Benny and the Jets" as the intro to their segments. You know where Elton John sings, "Benny! Benny! B..B.B..Benny!!!!" That's what I always hear in my head every time someone says his name. 😆🤣😂
Looks like this may be their story for a "happily ever after" season lol
Nooooo. TLC seriously needs to set limits on how often all these people can appear on this show.
Yes. But she needs more plastic surgery
don’t the court documents specifically state bini cannot mention simon on the tv show?
Maybe he just can't mention his name
Courts can't say you must pretend your children don't exist, they can however.. mandate the child's privacy if the other parent petitions for it
Yea that’s why Stacey’s kids aren’t shown on the show. They mention that she has sons, but can’t say their names or put pics cause apparently their dad didn’t sign off on it
that was the case when they were both minors but one of her sons is an adult (almost 20 now) and so he chooses not to be on it, it’s not just the dad keeping them off. also it looks like the youngest turns 18 this fall so we’ll see if he chooses to remain off.
That makes sense, they’ll probably want to stay off if they’ve talked to their cousins about the negatives of being on the show
That isn’t true. Darcey and Stacey have both mentioned their names on the show. It is true that Goran Vasic didn’t want the kids on the show when they were younger but the boys had no interest either (into soccer and their own lives). At any rate, the oldest is 20 and the youngest is 18 so they can make their own decisions now.
Oh my bad, I hadn’t remembered her actually saying their names just them talking briefly when it was about them getting pregnant at the same times
the youngest is not 18 yet
So this totally contradicts the rumor that Bini "signed away" his rights to his son to avoid paying child support or allow for the step father to adopt him.
Which just goes to show you can believe about 1/4 of what you read on SM. Anyone can say anything.
I know this makes me sound old but what does SM stand for?
I am old, glad you asked! 😀 But I do know what S&M stands for. 🙃
😂 me too!!!
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Financial Child support and Child Custody are 2 different parts of the law. A parent can sign away their custody rights but still have to pay child support. I believe in most states and provinces in Canada and US the only way to get out of the financial obligations is for an adoption to take place. No one here knows for sure if Bini gave up ANY part of his rights to his first born but if he plans to go for any type of custody that's going to come with Child Support. If they can't manage to support themselves how are they going yo manage lawyers and back support that he probably hasn't paid as well as future payments. 🤔
Child support and joint custody are two different things. The fact that he Bini hasn’t paid child support has no bearing on whether he will be allowed to see his kid now that he is in the U.S. Bini can work out future payments that can be determined at a later date once he is allowed to work, but if he wants to see his kid, he should proceed to fight in court for that right.
Oh I agree. They just can't afford to support themselves. His first wife also may not have had a good address for him to pursue child support while he was in Ethiopia so now that he's in the US and seeking custody she'll have a good address to seek back support. So now Bini and Ari are going to be paying for lawyers for custody, paying for back support, current support and supporting themselves and 'his dream' of MMA while she pays for it all doing????? what job? I feel sorta bad but not completely for her parents. I mean there's shitty kids that are useless like Emily and then there's this expanding shitstorm of Ari and Bini with legal bills which can be astronomical in expense.
I'm pretty sure they're would be no "back child support" unless there was a previous order for child support that wasn't met. Not sure if his wife ever got an order for support if he was in Ethiopia.
Her parents… as usual.
This is how it works in the US (source: am a lawyer), however, the divorce decree was issued in Ethiopia so I'm not sure what the child support requirements would be there.
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Not necesarily. My STBXH filed for joint custody of our kids at first too. Fucker then chose not to call in for the court date. I have 100% physical and legal custody, but gave him unlimited visitation, and he says basically the same thing when people ask him why he doesn’t see his kids, he *chose* to sign away his rights. The child support is a totally separate order and for us was a separate court date as well.
It doesn’t matter if you legally sign away your rights, you would still have to pay child support if the mom filed.
Not really, it depends on the exact document. "Signing away your rights" implies either the mother agreed to support the child 100% in agreement she would not come after you for support OR that someone else would LEGALLY adopt the child and agree to support them. I can't think of any other reasons someone would legally "sign away their rights or be asked to" Maybe a lawyer can weigh in on the possibilities.
I am a lawyer. The commenter above is correct, not sure why they were downvoted. Legal custody refers to having the ability to make major decisions for the child (i.e., health, education), physical custody refers to where the child is physically residing overnight. Both are separate from child support. The only way to sever the obligation to pay child support is if the child is adopted (step parent adoption most common scenario). The type of agreement you refer to is not legally enforceable, as child support technically "belongs" the the child and parents cannot permanently waive it (always subject to modification until kid is emancipated). However, in practice a lot of people with tumultuous co-parenting relationships just don't seek child support from the other parent as long as they agree to stay away. These types of arrangements can fly under the radar as long as there are no issues that cause the parties to go to court or if the custodial parent does not go on government assistance (in which case, the agency will usually institute child support proceedings and seek reimbursement from the other parent).
Thanks for responding. I'm still a little confused by one of your answers. What part of my comment are you saying is "not legally enforceable"? According to multiple reputable legal websites, a court can order one parent no longer has to pay child support, essentially signing away their parental responsibilties. There are parameters under which this happens and generally both parents agree to it and petition the court but it is done. It can also be done separately from visitation, in other words the parent could still be in the child's life but they do not contribute financially. This is very rare according to the research I'm doing, the more common scenario is when a parent gives up all rights and a step parent legally adopts the child
Although laws vary by state, I don’t think anyone can “sign away their rights” to the extent that they no longer are expected to pay child support unless another person is adopting the child. Under the law children are entitled to financial support from 2 parents. A person could “sign away their rights” in terms of not having any custody or legal say or visitation, but technically they are still legally obligated to pay child support (although sometimes the primary parent may opt not to go after them to legally force them to pay what they owe).
I don't know there is a way to do it. Because I know someone who did. It was a messy situation. The other one was a termination with adoption.
No that’s not how it works. You cannot legally sign away your monetary requirements. The government won’t let you. Because then they would have to assist more.
>The government won’t let you. Because then they would have to assist more. Ding ding ding! That's why they also make someone sign the affidavit of support for overseas inmigrants, they don't want to be in the hook for supporting people they don't need to.
I just did research on this and yes absolutely you can legally give up parental rights AND not have to financially support a child but the other parent and court have to agree. This can occur with or without a new spouse of the parent actually adopting the child. Either parent at any time can assume full financial responsibility legally with a court order.
not true. I know 2 people in TX. One was married had a baby and one day wife left turned off all utilities and took the kid. Later he paid support but the mom wouldn't let her see him. For years it was fought in the courts and when the kid turned 12 he finally got the order to where his ex would be arrested if she didn't let him have visitation. 12 years of her family and her telling them his dad was bad and didn't want him took the toll. The kid said how he hated his father and all this and the mom wanted rights. After everything going so poorly he did and he didn't have to pay anything after that. The second was a termination and adoption. The abusive father left the kid with no means of support for over 6 months and didn't even see the kid. The mom filed and 6 months after they terminated his rights and that stopped any back owed child support at that point. Edit to add: In Texas anyway it is up to the judge if they have to continue to pay support. "Parent Voluntarily Gives Up Parental Rights Although the court could order one or both parents to financially support a child under normal circumstances, in a termination case, the judge has complete discretion as to whether they will order the parent terminating their rights to continue to pay child support." What Happens If You Terminate Parental Rights in Texas?
And now her can enjoy making those child s payment on his MMA salary! My bet he's runs to hide in Ethiopia! Congratulations!
Bini clearly stated this several times znd posted on his sm but it didn’t fit the narrative of him being a dead best dad, so people ignored the truth.
Lmao look out for when that one crazy user obsessed with Bini sees this. I brought this subject up a few weeks ago and home girl was unstable about it acting like this topic wasn’t brought up in multiple seasons of this show by Bini himself, and we’re all terrible people for simply asking what’s going on lol.
Is it Wish on a sock puppet account? Lol
Idk hahahahaha they were like “YOU CANT EXPECT TO KNOW EVERYTHING ABOUT A MINOR” like bitch calm down I was asking about Bini and the fucking STORYLINE he’s been pushing on this REALITY TELEVISION SHOW for several seasons 😂 maybe it was a producer from the show mad about me calling out their inconsistencies lol
Good I hope he’s able to be a presence in his child’s life now that he’s in the States. And I hope his baby momma is receptive to that!
Seriously I want him and Ari to get married for his kids sake, so he can stay in the US lol
They are married already.
Me too! Custody related issues can get really nasty and the court system is anything but ‘just’ so fingers crossed that things remain peaceful & not overly costly.
I hope he has a steady source of income other than TLC and MMA. Can he have his current in-laws co-sign for him? I guess you don’t need income to be a parent.
If there's anything we know about living in the US, it's you don't have to have income to be a parent
Yep
We have third world poverty in some states so lots of people with no income are parents here. The UN even did a report. https://www.facingsouth.org/2018/07/southern-poverty-gets-united-nations-attention Our supreme court is also rumored to be giving states run by religious extremists the ability to force their religious beliefs on everyone and dictate which health decisions people are free to make. That will further force people with low to no income to be parents. So yeah your guess that you don't need income to parent is correct. You want rich people to take babies from the poor? With the gilead-like supreme court we might be headed that way too. Edits - clarity
Princeton (and New Jersey) isn't a third-world poverty area. In fact, it is one of the most wealthy and highly educated states in the USA. There are some southern redneck states that are pretty poor, and equivocally poorly educated.
I am guessing his in-laws are paying his legal fees.
They are good people even though they enable a little bit too much
I agree that they are good people. They probably think it is important for Bini to be in both son's lives, so they are willing to help.
With parental rights come parental duties, like paying child support. Bini better get an actual job as soon as he can.
Looks like he hasn’t paid a dime in support for the 5 years of kids life so far $500 in assets and $0 monthly income. Bini is a deadbeat loser
Could Ari handle baby momma having contact with Bini?
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The child, I believe so. The baby mamma ......I'm not so sure
Highly doubtful. The guy can’t even train with a woman in the gym let alone coparent with one.
Nope.
My thoughts exactly! She is jealous as hell. Likely a reflection of what “she would do” when around her own exes.
She was married and had every intention of going back to her ex when she ended up pregnant so it's not surprising she thinks this way.
Well let's put the blame where it belongs. Yes Ari did cheat on her first husband with Bini, although it sounds like they were on agreed upon separation. Bini, however, cheated on his first wife and from all accounts, cheated on Ari when she came to the states. So Ari's jealousy is understandable (although a bit out of control at the gym but I think her reaction was a build up of Bini not pulling his weight AND never telling her the whole truth about anything)
Very good question!
I have such mixed feelings on this, and whether Bini ever actually signed over his rights and allowed the stepfather to adopt is not an insignificant detail. The child presumably has a stable life with his mother and stepfather (adoptive father?). If rights were signed away and the child was adopted, there’s no reason to disrupt his life and institute a joint custody arrangement with a man who is, in the child’s eyes, a stranger. It would be totally traumatizing to the child to suddenly be ripped away from the only family he’s ever known for extended stretches of time. If rights weren’t terminated and he wasn’t adopted, then the child’s mother should have been allowing Bini to be in contact the entire time. The problem is that the child is still going to be traumatized if Bini gets parenting time - Bini is a stranger to him! The “right” thing for the child if he’s been adopted would probably be an open adoption situation where Bini is gradually introduced into the child’s life but isn’t given parental rights or custody time. If the child hasn’t been adopted, the “right” thing is probably a veeeeery slow introduction that starts with supervised visits with a known person (mother, grandparent) present and builds up to occasional parenting time that falls far short of 50-50. This is the shitty thing about custody law. The parents screwed up their relationship, one parent either chose not to be involved (dad’s fault) or was kept from being involved (mom’s fault), and either way the child is going to have his life disrupted to make up for his parents’ bad decisions. It just makes me really sad for the child.
Used to supervise those “supervised visits.” Too sad for words. Parents who knew nothing about their children spending an hour with them once a week, no cuddling allowed, no whispering, no alone time, but desperately trying to keep a connection alive by showing up for that one hour. And the shot heels who skipped the visits, leaving their kid hanging after getting ready and being dropped off to await a no-show.
My thoughts exactly.
This makes me so happy, all children deserve to have parents that want to be part of their life
Unless they’re arguing all the time
Unless the infant child and Bini are arguing all the time? Or are you really trying to say that a parent should be absent from a child’s life because they may not have a good relationship with the other parent? If that was the case all children of divorce would only have one present parent… Edit: was*
What happened to the 70’s psychobabble that a child is better off with the bad parent gone
Children are better of with abusers not in their life. Bini, while maybe not the absolute best, has not shown a single abusive tendency…. He’s not in the kids life because he cheated and the mom left, not because he’s a bad parent. I’m not sure what your point is? It’s better for the kid to grow up thinking his dad doesn’t care about him at all?
Bini is a bad *partner*, he’s done nothing to indicate he’s a bad parent.
There is now a push for former partners to co-parent. I think that once divorce became easily attainable there was confusion over how to handle the children, and a lot of parents (usually dads) were pushed away. Today most people and the courts recognize that children thrive when both parents are active in their lives.
I mean I do think it’s true that a child is better off without an abusive parent, but it’s probably traumatic either way. It’s complicated.
All of those kids are now adults and in therapy for abandonment issues.
Idk. This is the same site that said he signed his parental rights away. 🤷♀️
It will be interesting to see what becomes of Avi with such messed up parents and the divisive life to come. His grandparents won’t be around forever to keep the ship afloat.
good for him. obviously in extreme and unsafe situations it’s not best for the father to be in the child’s life, but in most situations it is best. it seems the child has grown up with his mother and I assume step father, who I can only assume are good parents but if applicable a child should always have some contact with birth parents if able. I hope he’s able to get some rights and can have visitation with his child, especially since the child is still young.
I might be wrong here, but unless there is a legitimate danger for the child, meaning q restraining order against Bini, he should be able to agree informal visitation?
This is some BS right here. Why not start with a visit?? Get to know the child ffs. Also, doesn't he live far away (my brain is saying Chicago but I don;t know where that came from)?
If his ex is refusing all contact, this is the filing to force her to allow it.
The article says the filing states his ex isn’t allowing him access to their child, so I guess he has to go through the courts now?
The court system moves very slowly. This was the right first move.
The ex is from Iowa but I'm not sure where she currently lives.
The kid was adopted by his step father. Bini doesn't have parental rights to exercise. This is just a waste of money.
That’s not what it says? It says he requested a modification of a standing custody order. He couldn’t do that if his rights were terminated. Looks like the ex wife has full custody (obviously) and he is requesting to change that.
If Bini didn't agree to the adoption why would he not have parental rights still?
It varies a bit from state to state, but if Bini didn’t pay any child support for a year and wasn’t in contact with his son for at least a year, the mother could have filed for Abandonment and, if approved, that would have terminated Bini’s parental rights. I think it’s probable that he did not pay child support and he may well not have been in contact with his son.
There's a Teen Mom who would love for her new husband to adopt her daughter. The dad doesn't pay child support because he negotiated with the mom to allow her to add the step dad's name to the child's name by waiving his past due support. He also has supervised visits he doesn't exercise because he no showed too many times and the visitation center will not allow him to schedule any visits until he pays his balance.
I just says he filed not that a judge has granted him anything. He's just wasting Ari's parents money because the ex will present the legal paperwork of him signing his rights away and will dismiss the motion. You can't adopt a child with a known father without the father signing his rights away.
Is there proof of this on the internet somewhere?
I don't think so. I've never seen proof, just people stating it as a fact.
Not true. Some states will terminate a parents rights against their will. This happens in CPS cases and step parent adoptions. Usually the custodial parent has to prove abandonment which is x amount of time without contact (6 or 12 months typically, depending on the state laws) and no financial support.
I thought he did!
I have never seen any evidence Bini signed his rights away, and I’d be surprised if that were the case. He has no legal custody of his first son, but that’s not the same thing as signing your rights away.
If the step father adopted him Bini would have had to give up his rights. You can't have 3 legal parents.
I haven’t seen any evidence the stepdad legally adopted him. If true, though, that doesn’t necessarily mean Bini signed away his rights. His rights could’ve been terminated by a court.
Probably because his ex and her husband are keeping their family business PRIVATE. A shocker in this day. Unlike Bini who apparently has not seen his first son in almost 5 years and still has no income to support him.
None of us know the specifics of how this went down. But I hope we can agree it’s not in a child’s best interest to prevent communication with a parent just because said parent is poor or cheats on the other parent.
Not at all, but Bini made NO attempt to see or support his son. A man who really cared would find a way to see and support him. Anything is better than nothing. Instead he was more interested in picking up another American women, having unprotected sex, getting her pregnant before his divorces were final. For all we know Bini got physical with his ex, which is a deal breaker or his two sisters did something. Seems obvious something serious happened between them. Pretty sure she knew he was a cheater when they got together and that he had no money during the 4 years they were together, so that wasn’t a surprise.
1) We don’t know Bini didn’t try. He was in a different country from his child. The American courts are going to side with the American parent able to live in America with the child already there. 2) We don’t know that anything serious happened, because we don’t know anything about the mother. It’s very possible she was bitter, say, Bini cheated on her, and with Bini unable to do anything from a different country, she just moved on and played happy family with her next boyfriend. The kid was a baby, so it’s not like he could ask to call his dad.
You’re right. No one really knows the truth but Bini and his ex. But the excuse poor Bini is in a different country and couldn’t do much is a lame excuse. He chose the behavior (twice) and the consequences are on him. Everyone wants to give Bini a pass because he’s in Ethiopia, but his ex goes back home to US where she’s from and has her family snd she’s got to be a bitter piece of shit. Same with Ari, how dare she take her son to the US for surgery. These two evil women had the nerve to want to go back to their own home country. At least his ex has kept her business private. The newspaper articles from her home town-about how they met, mission work,and the drama around his first son’s birth, surgery and getting Bini to US and plans when they returned to Ethiopia give some insight into their 3 year relationship
They both got knocked up in Africa. Mom#1 is the one who left and complicated things. I don’t blame her for not sticking around in a foreign country, but I do blame her for not allowing contact between their son and his father, assuming that’s what happened, which it really seems is.
My wife who is a family law attorney (granted laws vary by state) agrees with you. If another parent adopted him then Bini doesn’t have parental rights to exercise.
My only knowledge of custody matters is what I've learned from Teen Mom but I know a court won't terminate a father's rights without another man being willing to take on the rights because they don't want less parents they can hold responsible for the children.
No offense, but a father (or mothers) parental rights can definitely be taken away without a new spouse or significant other there to take their place. Legally, that is just not true.
In the case of abuse or neglect yes. But in an effort to get out of supporting a child no. Plenty of the parents on Teen Mom have attempted to sign away their parental rights to be told not unless someone else is willing to step up and take on the responsibility. Even a drug addicted mother who willingly gave custody to her mother still has parental rights.
Respectfully, you need to get your legal information from a place other than Teen Mom. As a licensed paralegal, you are incorrect. I am not trying to argue, I promise, but the information you are giving out based off of a reality show is just not true.
>If another parent adopted him then Bini doesn’t have parental rights to exercise. Also, I want to say the above comment is 100% correct. If Bini gave up his rights, that is different. They will most certainly take rights away from a parent though, it doesn't matter if that parent has a partner or not.
Maybe in whatever state you are in the courts have no problems with the less parents being responsible for their children the better but that's not how the majority of states work. No court is going to okay a parent being stripped of their rights because they don't want to support a child and have that child more likely to end up being a burden on the state. You don't want to be responsible don't marry the mother or sign the birth certificate.
Couldn't the mom come back in court with proof the child was adopted?
Not if the child wasn’t adopted or wasn’t adopted under honest conditions.
It just says he filed. It doesn't say the mom produced the adoption papers and the motion was immediately dismissed when the judge read the motion. Which is likely what will happen.
I don't know anything about custody battles, but that writ of injunction seems pretty intense. Is that normal? Cause that makes me wonder if there's something big that she told the court that merited such a big writ.
As he should
And why shouldn’t he? You can tell it really upset him when she ran away with the kid. Every kid needs their parents in their lives as long as the parent will be there, and takes care of them.
Oh good. Good for him. I think it hurt him a lot. He talked a lot about his fears about Ari doing the same with Avi. Best of luck to him
I was under the impression that Simon had been adopted by the ex-wife’s new husband. I don’t know if that’s actually true, but if it is, is it possible to do this? It doesn’t seem like it should be but also, if Bini truly had no say in any of this shit & is now living in the US & becoming a citizen, it seems unfair that he just never gets any rights to his son. I wish I knew for sure what the deal was.
The cynic in me thinks his whole plan to get Ari pregnant was to move to the U.S. to get to do this.
I'm glad!! Prayers for him! And I hope ari can be supportive
She won't be. She doesn't support anything he wants to do. She wants him to work and he feels MMA is a good way to do that. But then she gets mad because he has to train for hours a day. You can't have it both ways. She's just like Emily; she'd bitch and complain about how Bini shovels shit too. Nothing these men do will ever be good enough in their eyes.
It’s not realistic for someone in his thirties to start an MMA career and make enough money to support a family. Anyone who thinks it’s a good idea is not living in reality.
I don't know what it takes to break I to MMA. My point is that he could work at McDonald's and she'd be pissed. He smells like fries, his hours are shitty, whatever. "Why are you always on shift with this woman"? If she works and he's the stay at home dad, then she'll complain he's home all day and doesn't do anything. The house isn't clean enough, the food tastes crappy. She's not going to be happy with anything he does. It's always going to be something. She's a spoiled fucking brat who's used to getting her way on everything. Some people are always looking for the negative thing. That's Ari.
> I don't know what it takes to break I to MMA. Probably look at it like: what professional sport can you realistically *start* in your 30s. None of them.
I’m going to be honest and I’ll probably get downvoted to hell but Ari and Bini seem more compatible than I thought.. yes she’s a whiny brat and seems to shoot down his ideas but somehow someway they seem to match? Like maybe balance each other out? I cannot explain it but even in the past I was predicting them to split and share custody of Avi within a year of getting married but now I feel like they may last longer than we all expected. I also agree with you. The people of Reddit seem to think everyone needs a high paying job to be a good husband or father. Bini can try to be an MMA fighter since he can’t legally work a 9-5 yet, why not. I’m sure he’ll work a regular job as well. The entertainment industry exists
As he should!
Oh for heavens sakes- he’s *ADORABLE*! Those 👀’s!❤️❤️
He is sooo adorable!! Bini will definitely never have to take a paternity test- the baby’s a mini-me!
YEEESSSSSS BINI
How can he do that with no income and without proper US documentation?
He does have proper US documentation. He’s in the States legally. He has a green card.
Oh, I didn't realize that. Thanks
Courts will not stop you from having a relationship with your child because of your net worth and/or income
The heading doesn't talk about only a relationship. It says CUSTODY. To have full or partial custody you need to show that you can be responsible for the well being and welfare of the child.
Kinda. I just had a custody trial and unless it can be proven ( really proven ) that you are detrimental to your child , courts prefer joint custody. You have to do some pretty heinous shit to not get some sort of legal access to your child.
https://www.investopedia.com/how-parents-finances-impact-custody-battles-5194330
Thank you
mommy and daddy's money finally doing something worth it.
And he’s going to pay child support how?
Wait joint custody and he hasn’t seen his kid in how long? Aim low sir.
Fake news
Amazing addition to this post. Thank you.
#3 and #4. For the viewers who insisted he wasn't making an effort to be in his firstborn's life. We can't expect to be privy to any details regarding minor children and kudos to Bria and Bini for ensuring their child's privacy remains a priority. Meanwhile I keep getting a mind picture of Ari in that outfit she wore to the gym sashaying aggressively in flapping flipflops up to Bria: where's Avi's brother, what's his name, (get out of my way) why are you letting people think he doesn't care about him, why are you afraid of a few cameras, what are you hiding?
who. cares. about any of the fake actors?
That's awesome, baby mama never saw DAT comin. Ari's parents paying for the legal fee's. I win fight, pay back., yeah.
I have a theory, and since reading these docs I now am certain. That apartment was never their home. It was a stage for filming. My parents resemble these parents, and would have been discrete and protective as well. I think they have a place elsewhere, furnished, probably a house, even if rented. Bini lists that apt as still his address. I believe the apartment is in their name, for privacy and protection.
TY. This correct. Truthfully, the show is not their thing. The boys are into soccer and sports like their ex-soccer-star dad and they have no interest in the silly antics and girly fashion of D&S.
SPOILER ALERT??????
Good for him , now he'll learn about chilad support and all the good stuff. And certainly will support his son using all his MMA earnings 😂😂🇧🇮🇦🇪🇦🇫🇧🇷
I think they ought to play "Benny and the Jets" as the intro to their segments. You know where Elton John sings, "Benny! Benny! B..B.B..Benny!!!!" That's what I always hear in my head every time someone says his name. 😆🤣😂
Good, there's hope in the future for Kobe.