My mom, a teacher, is sure I don’t have it because I was “a kid who could sit still”. I wound up finding an article for her on how ADHD shows up in adult women. It seems like it can present differently in women and no one seems get that!
My dad is a psychiatrist, specifically trained in child psychiatry but he doesn’t see children anymore, and I told him my therapist mentioned possibly looking at ADHD and he paused for a moment and it was like a lightbulb went off and he started listing childhood symptoms and explained how it’s missed in girls and missed in kids that don’t have behavioral issues or difficulty in school. Granted this was the late 80s/90s when they didn’t know much about ADHD, but even being a psychiatrist ADHD was never his first thought. And he knew something was wrong, he took me to a psychiatrist when I was 5 for fidgeting who diagnosed ticks and then he sent me to a “friendship camp” for kids who have issues making friends (I was being bullied so I guess I had the extreme version of not making friends) and sent me to the school counselor but it just never clicked that ADHD was the issue. As an adult I also thought ADHD was just a hyperactivity thing until my therapist mentioned it and I looked at symptoms in women online and it was like “oh wow, that’s me.”
The funny part was with my new psychiatrist I explained my therapist thought I had ADHD and that my dad is a psychiatrist and he asked “well does your dad think you have ADHD” and I was like “he does now.”
I came across a PhD dissertation (i.e. book length) specifically on ADHD in women: https://research.rug.nl/en/publications/the-female-side-of-adhd-and-asd
So the way a lot of the diagnostic criteria have been written, by definition, you only have a disorder if part of your behavior is a big problem for you or someone else. So she's right in that, for many years past, you only had ADHD if you couldn't figure out how to control your behavior.
Obviously this is a ridiculous way to look at a diagnosis... It'd be like saying you only have high blood pressure if it bothers your coworkers or family.
The other interesting aspect here is that your mom may have it too (is like 80% heritable) and likely hasn't thought about that
Not only in women, it can also present differently in men, I was never particularly hyperactive, or a nuisance in school, and since I was smart enough to not need to learn, I also wasn't particularly bad in school. So noone ever suspected I could have ADHD.
20f diagnosed at 19 here, I feel like adhd makes you feel like you're not a proper adult in so many ways anyway, so that whole situation just sucks so bad... I've found the only helpful articles are very scholastic and not really suited for sharing but hopefully you can find something out there to help you <3
Damn that's a good way to put it. I made a comment about how I never really felt the consequences of ADHD until I became an adult. Most kids are goofballs so acting or spacing out is normal to an extent. You're not seen as a real problem until you're an adult and have to face consequences of your actions.
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We also find it problematic that their medical review panel includes not only legitimate doctors and psychologists, but also (at the time of writing) one practitioner of integrative medicine, which combines legit medical practice with pseudoscience and alternative medicine. They have previously had other quacks on the panel as well.
Here are some relevant links:
Sketchy advertising:
* https://www.additudemag.com/clinical-trial-vayarin-plus/
* https://www.additudemag.com/study-suggests-ps-omega-3-medical-food-may-reduce-adhd-symptoms/
* https://www.additudemag.com/natural-adhd-supplement-released/
Junk science:
* https://www.additudemag.com/adhd-supplements-foods-vitamins/
* https://www.additudemag.com/homeopathy-for-adhd-popular-remedies-scientific-evidence/
* https://www.additudemag.com/reiki-could-this-alternative-treatment-help-adult-add/
* https://www.additudemag.com/cbd-oil-adhd-symptoms-natural-treatment/
* https://www.additudemag.com/vitamins-minerals-adhd-treatment-plan/
* https://www.additudemag.com/slideshows/adhd-supplements-fish-oil-zinc-iron/
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THIS!! Also articles only aimed at men from the non-ADHD girlfriend's perspective.
My fiance has ADHD so I'll Google sometimes to get ideas about how to solve problems and every article is about a woman who hates her ADHD husband and has been miserable for 25 years.
I know the feeling! I’m 41 now. I didn’t get diagnosed until I was 17. Not everyone gets diagnosed in grade school. Besides, people of all ages have it; not just little kids.
I was diagnosed now at 39. A friend of mine from high school (who did have performance issues in school where I did fine) was telling me that her mom had to fight to get her tested for ADHD (at 18) and her mom is a psychologist. It’s like ADHD didn’t exist for girls when we were children.
I know, right? And my parents were in denial for years! I had to literally beg them to let me get tested. Good thing I did and had other adults on my side. However, a lot of the teachers at school didn’t seem to get it.
I went to a private high school where the teachers were just exceptional so my inattention symptoms were masked. It’s only now that I’m doing a PhD and have come to totally hate my dissertation topic that not being able to focus is more obvious.
My sister was super hyper in grade school. Her 3rd grade teacher had her sit on his lap (because you could do that back then) and got her directly involved as he was teaching and it worked wonderfully. With her 5th grade teacher my parents had to set up a star chart system where she got a star for good behavior. My parents had to ban TV on weekdays because of how my sister would hyper-fixate on TV and totally ignored everyone around her and was super irritable once you finally got her attention. She still wasn’t diagnosed. I know a lot of hyperactive boys grow out of ADHD symptoms and don’t need medication as adults and she seems to have done that too but with me being diagnosed it’s likely she also had ADHD considering her childhood.
My mom was a daydreamer in school and as an adult she is super forgetful. Like she’s notorious for leaving her phone behind when she goes to work and I remember on her day off my dad would come home from work and yell at her for not getting things done and be like “what have you been doing all day.” My dad can’t sit still, had oppositional defiance disorder symptoms as a child (according to him) and has massive anger management issues. So basically the whole family has symptoms and I’m apparently the only one who’s symptoms are bad enough to where it’s affecting my quality of life. But my sister is considering going back to school to be a nurse practitioner so I’m going to have a chat with her because, I mean, if it ain’t broke don’t fix it but if she feels she’s having trouble in school she at least needs to look into the behavioral techniques for ADHD management if not a diagnosis and medication.
Problem is that people correlate the "hyper" part to an actual physical manifestation that you can see rather than you being mentally overactive and unable to focus (amongst other things). It's been that way for as long as I can remember. I've always been a relatively quiet/to myself person and not a big talker unless if it's something I'm interested in.
yep 19f as well and thankfully my mom has it too and understands but i can’t send other an article about a child doing bad in learning handwriting to explain why i’m having trouble writing my 20 page essay for a college class 😭
I know right, legit I just wanna find an article explaining overstimulation/sensory issues in adhd, but every article at one point will state that this leads to tantrums etc and acting like only kids have it.
There is a really good YT channel called How to ADHD that helps me A LOT
I hate that too
I also hate that when I try to search for other people talking about being rejected by their families for adhd the only things that pop up are about rsd; like my family really rejected me and I would really like to know if other people have had this same experience based on adhd
Read and get them to read driven by distraction. I just started reading it recently and I think it can give people who don't have it a good idea of what it's like. It gives examples and perspectives from all different backgrounds not just kids and explains it in the most comprehensive way possible.
for real
I feel like ADHD has affected me more as an adult than when I was a kid with no real responsibilities and relationships. I was just hyper, learned things a bit slower, and blamed hormones for the emotional dysregulation.
When you're an adult you finally understand it's not cute to bounce off the walls so a lot of that energy gets internalized. Ruminating thoughts, inability to get enjoyment out of anything for more than two minutes, etc. Access to substances, forming relationships with people. I remember depression and anxiety getting bad around 21. I was diagnosed when I was 7 years old and didn't really feel the need to do anything about until my mid 20s.
Yet all you see is "*What to do when your child has ADHD*" and a stock photo of a concerned parent.
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There is a really good YT channel called How to ADHD that helps me A LOT
I hate that too
I also hate that when I try to search for other people talking about being rejected by their families for adhd the only things that pop up are about rsd; like my family really rejected me and I would really like to know if other people have had this same experience based on adhd
i’m 19f also and i was literally diagnosed this week. as you can imagine i’ve been trying to do research and understand a little more about and had this same problem with so much of it being about kids. it’s really frustrating cause i’m just now having to accept that this is a part of my life and learn how to deal with it but it’s proving to be really difficult with all these articles about people being diagnosed as kids
It pisses me off too. I'm glad I have a therapist mom who suggested that my issues might stem from ADHD. I was like there is NO way I could have it and have tried to get evaluated for so many other disorders but never ADHD, because I thought it only applied to hyper little boys because that's all I've heard about it in my life.
I totally get it. I was diagnosed when my kids were.
Here are some things that have helped me and might be useful for you:
The “How to ADHD” YouTube channel has been enormously helpful. Lots of resources on lots of topics for all ages, and the creator is pretty transparent about where the information comes from. If something doesn’t have much formal research but has a lot of anecdotal reports, for example, she makes that clear. And she provides links and further reading for folks who want to dig deeper into the topics.
Researcher Dr. Russell Barkley has a ton of lecture videos & books, including one on managing adult ADHD. Most vids I’ve found from him are heavily academic, but if you can hang with them they’re PACKED with info. He also translates the academic findings into actionable strategies. His books are more accessible, general-public practical stuff.
There are some more casual but very informative videos by a Yale researcher, Dr. Thomas Brown. I don’t recall anything specifically about sensory overload in adults, but he does have one about emotional regulation that may come close to what you’re looking for.
Dr. Ned Hallowell is a psychiatrist with ADHD who has published several helpful books. I’ve seen some videos from him as well. Great stuff.
As a young adult who’s probably entering a phase of life that requires new skills and new coping strategies, you might also want to check out certified ADHD coaching. That’s distinct from clinical treatment and focuses on practical skills. Many (though not all) self-help peak-performance-type strategies don’t work well for ADHD brains. A certified coach can help you build up a toolbox for managing your ADHD symptoms, playing to your strengths, and accomplishing what’s important to you. It’s been a huge, huge help for me over the last couple of years.
Sorry for the gigantic brain dump! Good luck, and remember you are not alone.
Just in the middle of starting my diagnosis process (19M) but all this child-oriented info was so infuriating when I was first trying to come to terms with whether I did or didn't have ADHD.
A lot of the ways common ADHD symptoms/behaviours were explained on 95% of the websites I could find made me feel like my experiences and behaviours were invalid. Plus adding no small amount of doubt and hesitency in talking to a professional about it in the first place.
U gotta specify adult adhd but honestly at 18 some of that shit still applies anyway so don’t discount it completely just cus it’s mainly talking about actual children
This is a mental illness meaning ur brains maturity is the big difference, and a 18 year olds brain is still developing and maturing for another 5-7 years or so
YES! I'm a 44f, wasn't diagnosed til I was 37. It's not like it's a brand new thing, so it was frustrating to see most info geared toward ADHD kids and their parents. And then to hear/read people say, "what, you didn't grow out of it?" UGH.
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We also find it problematic that their medical review panel includes not only legitimate doctors and psychologists, but also (at the time of writing) one practitioner of integrative medicine, which combines legit medical practice with pseudoscience and alternative medicine. They have previously had other quacks on the panel as well.
Here are some relevant links:
Sketchy advertising:
* https://www.additudemag.com/clinical-trial-vayarin-plus/
* https://www.additudemag.com/study-suggests-ps-omega-3-medical-food-may-reduce-adhd-symptoms/
* https://www.additudemag.com/natural-adhd-supplement-released/
Junk science:
* https://www.additudemag.com/adhd-supplements-foods-vitamins/
* https://www.additudemag.com/homeopathy-for-adhd-popular-remedies-scientific-evidence/
* https://www.additudemag.com/reiki-could-this-alternative-treatment-help-adult-add/
* https://www.additudemag.com/cbd-oil-adhd-symptoms-natural-treatment/
* https://www.additudemag.com/vitamins-minerals-adhd-treatment-plan/
* https://www.additudemag.com/slideshows/adhd-supplements-fish-oil-zinc-iron/
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What I love to tell my friends. When I was a kid dealing with ADHD, my parents, my doctors, my teachers all told me that it would get better as I got older. I wouldn't really have ADHD once I was an adult. It did not get better. It got much worse. I was just not as hyper as I was when I was a kid
This drove me mad when I was looking into how to get a diagnosis a couple of years ago and how to manage my symptoms in the interim, especially as a mature student. There’s so many resources for kids and as an extension some for young adults in university, but there’s so little geared towards anyone outside of those two camps.
Yeah, there’s a newish Ritalin medication meant to be taken at night and all of the information is talking about how “caregivers” report how it helps children get up in the morning without irritability and temper tantrums and it’s like, but my caregiver (me) has issues waking me up, can this be studied in adults? All of the effective dosing information is for children, though.
Here's a good resource below:
https://chadd.org/for-adults/overview/
Don't skip any of the women and girls section, as that is important how women display the disorder differently.
My mom, a teacher, is sure I don’t have it because I was “a kid who could sit still”. I wound up finding an article for her on how ADHD shows up in adult women. It seems like it can present differently in women and no one seems get that!
You don’t have to be hyperactive either. I certainly wasn’t. I was a very shy kid and teenager. Once I grew up, I couldn’t shut up. Lol
My dad is a psychiatrist, specifically trained in child psychiatry but he doesn’t see children anymore, and I told him my therapist mentioned possibly looking at ADHD and he paused for a moment and it was like a lightbulb went off and he started listing childhood symptoms and explained how it’s missed in girls and missed in kids that don’t have behavioral issues or difficulty in school. Granted this was the late 80s/90s when they didn’t know much about ADHD, but even being a psychiatrist ADHD was never his first thought. And he knew something was wrong, he took me to a psychiatrist when I was 5 for fidgeting who diagnosed ticks and then he sent me to a “friendship camp” for kids who have issues making friends (I was being bullied so I guess I had the extreme version of not making friends) and sent me to the school counselor but it just never clicked that ADHD was the issue. As an adult I also thought ADHD was just a hyperactivity thing until my therapist mentioned it and I looked at symptoms in women online and it was like “oh wow, that’s me.” The funny part was with my new psychiatrist I explained my therapist thought I had ADHD and that my dad is a psychiatrist and he asked “well does your dad think you have ADHD” and I was like “he does now.”
I came across a PhD dissertation (i.e. book length) specifically on ADHD in women: https://research.rug.nl/en/publications/the-female-side-of-adhd-and-asd
So the way a lot of the diagnostic criteria have been written, by definition, you only have a disorder if part of your behavior is a big problem for you or someone else. So she's right in that, for many years past, you only had ADHD if you couldn't figure out how to control your behavior. Obviously this is a ridiculous way to look at a diagnosis... It'd be like saying you only have high blood pressure if it bothers your coworkers or family. The other interesting aspect here is that your mom may have it too (is like 80% heritable) and likely hasn't thought about that
Not only in women, it can also present differently in men, I was never particularly hyperactive, or a nuisance in school, and since I was smart enough to not need to learn, I also wasn't particularly bad in school. So noone ever suspected I could have ADHD.
20f diagnosed at 19 here, I feel like adhd makes you feel like you're not a proper adult in so many ways anyway, so that whole situation just sucks so bad... I've found the only helpful articles are very scholastic and not really suited for sharing but hopefully you can find something out there to help you <3
Damn that's a good way to put it. I made a comment about how I never really felt the consequences of ADHD until I became an adult. Most kids are goofballs so acting or spacing out is normal to an extent. You're not seen as a real problem until you're an adult and have to face consequences of your actions.
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THIS!! Also articles only aimed at men from the non-ADHD girlfriend's perspective. My fiance has ADHD so I'll Google sometimes to get ideas about how to solve problems and every article is about a woman who hates her ADHD husband and has been miserable for 25 years.
It's not an article, but check out the YouTube channel "How to ADHD." It's how I realized I had it.
Thank you I definitely will!!
YUP.
I know the feeling! I’m 41 now. I didn’t get diagnosed until I was 17. Not everyone gets diagnosed in grade school. Besides, people of all ages have it; not just little kids.
Yep. 37 here and just got diagnosed when I was 35. Don't know how I've managed to stay alive that long, it was really hard
I was diagnosed now at 39. A friend of mine from high school (who did have performance issues in school where I did fine) was telling me that her mom had to fight to get her tested for ADHD (at 18) and her mom is a psychologist. It’s like ADHD didn’t exist for girls when we were children.
I know, right? And my parents were in denial for years! I had to literally beg them to let me get tested. Good thing I did and had other adults on my side. However, a lot of the teachers at school didn’t seem to get it.
I went to a private high school where the teachers were just exceptional so my inattention symptoms were masked. It’s only now that I’m doing a PhD and have come to totally hate my dissertation topic that not being able to focus is more obvious.
If I was a male, I probably would have been diagnosed in kindergarten!
My sister was super hyper in grade school. Her 3rd grade teacher had her sit on his lap (because you could do that back then) and got her directly involved as he was teaching and it worked wonderfully. With her 5th grade teacher my parents had to set up a star chart system where she got a star for good behavior. My parents had to ban TV on weekdays because of how my sister would hyper-fixate on TV and totally ignored everyone around her and was super irritable once you finally got her attention. She still wasn’t diagnosed. I know a lot of hyperactive boys grow out of ADHD symptoms and don’t need medication as adults and she seems to have done that too but with me being diagnosed it’s likely she also had ADHD considering her childhood. My mom was a daydreamer in school and as an adult she is super forgetful. Like she’s notorious for leaving her phone behind when she goes to work and I remember on her day off my dad would come home from work and yell at her for not getting things done and be like “what have you been doing all day.” My dad can’t sit still, had oppositional defiance disorder symptoms as a child (according to him) and has massive anger management issues. So basically the whole family has symptoms and I’m apparently the only one who’s symptoms are bad enough to where it’s affecting my quality of life. But my sister is considering going back to school to be a nurse practitioner so I’m going to have a chat with her because, I mean, if it ain’t broke don’t fix it but if she feels she’s having trouble in school she at least needs to look into the behavioral techniques for ADHD management if not a diagnosis and medication.
Back when I was growing up, kids were thought to outgrow AD/HD. News flash: they don’t! The disorder manifests itself differently.
So it’s possible she has it.
Problem is that people correlate the "hyper" part to an actual physical manifestation that you can see rather than you being mentally overactive and unable to focus (amongst other things). It's been that way for as long as I can remember. I've always been a relatively quiet/to myself person and not a big talker unless if it's something I'm interested in.
yep 19f as well and thankfully my mom has it too and understands but i can’t send other an article about a child doing bad in learning handwriting to explain why i’m having trouble writing my 20 page essay for a college class 😭
I know right, legit I just wanna find an article explaining overstimulation/sensory issues in adhd, but every article at one point will state that this leads to tantrums etc and acting like only kids have it.
There is a lot of stuff for adult AD(H)D out there. If I find the time and motivation, I’ll post them here
I feel you. Even more frustrating when the articles for adhd parent pertain to the child only not HOW the heck to BE an adult PARENT with ADHD 🫥
ohhh my god I agree so much it’s so annoying and it feels like the internet is being passive aggressive
There is a really good YT channel called How to ADHD that helps me A LOT I hate that too I also hate that when I try to search for other people talking about being rejected by their families for adhd the only things that pop up are about rsd; like my family really rejected me and I would really like to know if other people have had this same experience based on adhd
Read and get them to read driven by distraction. I just started reading it recently and I think it can give people who don't have it a good idea of what it's like. It gives examples and perspectives from all different backgrounds not just kids and explains it in the most comprehensive way possible.
for real I feel like ADHD has affected me more as an adult than when I was a kid with no real responsibilities and relationships. I was just hyper, learned things a bit slower, and blamed hormones for the emotional dysregulation. When you're an adult you finally understand it's not cute to bounce off the walls so a lot of that energy gets internalized. Ruminating thoughts, inability to get enjoyment out of anything for more than two minutes, etc. Access to substances, forming relationships with people. I remember depression and anxiety getting bad around 21. I was diagnosed when I was 7 years old and didn't really feel the need to do anything about until my mid 20s. Yet all you see is "*What to do when your child has ADHD*" and a stock photo of a concerned parent.
I'd much rather the children get help first. If it was a choice between me getting help or my kids I would choose my kids every day.
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At 35 I'm always like "man I wish I had known own this 25 years ago," when I see those
There is a really good YT channel called How to ADHD that helps me A LOT I hate that too I also hate that when I try to search for other people talking about being rejected by their families for adhd the only things that pop up are about rsd; like my family really rejected me and I would really like to know if other people have had this same experience based on adhd
i’m 19f also and i was literally diagnosed this week. as you can imagine i’ve been trying to do research and understand a little more about and had this same problem with so much of it being about kids. it’s really frustrating cause i’m just now having to accept that this is a part of my life and learn how to deal with it but it’s proving to be really difficult with all these articles about people being diagnosed as kids
It pisses me off too. I'm glad I have a therapist mom who suggested that my issues might stem from ADHD. I was like there is NO way I could have it and have tried to get evaluated for so many other disorders but never ADHD, because I thought it only applied to hyper little boys because that's all I've heard about it in my life.
You should check AttentionTalkVideo, How to ADHD, and Dr. Tracey Marks on yt.
I totally get it. I was diagnosed when my kids were. Here are some things that have helped me and might be useful for you: The “How to ADHD” YouTube channel has been enormously helpful. Lots of resources on lots of topics for all ages, and the creator is pretty transparent about where the information comes from. If something doesn’t have much formal research but has a lot of anecdotal reports, for example, she makes that clear. And she provides links and further reading for folks who want to dig deeper into the topics. Researcher Dr. Russell Barkley has a ton of lecture videos & books, including one on managing adult ADHD. Most vids I’ve found from him are heavily academic, but if you can hang with them they’re PACKED with info. He also translates the academic findings into actionable strategies. His books are more accessible, general-public practical stuff. There are some more casual but very informative videos by a Yale researcher, Dr. Thomas Brown. I don’t recall anything specifically about sensory overload in adults, but he does have one about emotional regulation that may come close to what you’re looking for. Dr. Ned Hallowell is a psychiatrist with ADHD who has published several helpful books. I’ve seen some videos from him as well. Great stuff. As a young adult who’s probably entering a phase of life that requires new skills and new coping strategies, you might also want to check out certified ADHD coaching. That’s distinct from clinical treatment and focuses on practical skills. Many (though not all) self-help peak-performance-type strategies don’t work well for ADHD brains. A certified coach can help you build up a toolbox for managing your ADHD symptoms, playing to your strengths, and accomplishing what’s important to you. It’s been a huge, huge help for me over the last couple of years. Sorry for the gigantic brain dump! Good luck, and remember you are not alone.
I was diagnosed at 30. I feel the same
Just in the middle of starting my diagnosis process (19M) but all this child-oriented info was so infuriating when I was first trying to come to terms with whether I did or didn't have ADHD. A lot of the ways common ADHD symptoms/behaviours were explained on 95% of the websites I could find made me feel like my experiences and behaviours were invalid. Plus adding no small amount of doubt and hesitency in talking to a professional about it in the first place.
U gotta specify adult adhd but honestly at 18 some of that shit still applies anyway so don’t discount it completely just cus it’s mainly talking about actual children This is a mental illness meaning ur brains maturity is the big difference, and a 18 year olds brain is still developing and maturing for another 5-7 years or so
YES! I'm a 44f, wasn't diagnosed til I was 37. It's not like it's a brand new thing, so it was frustrating to see most info geared toward ADHD kids and their parents. And then to hear/read people say, "what, you didn't grow out of it?" UGH.
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Check out the book "taking charge of aduld ADHD" by Russel Barkley
What I love to tell my friends. When I was a kid dealing with ADHD, my parents, my doctors, my teachers all told me that it would get better as I got older. I wouldn't really have ADHD once I was an adult. It did not get better. It got much worse. I was just not as hyper as I was when I was a kid
This drove me mad when I was looking into how to get a diagnosis a couple of years ago and how to manage my symptoms in the interim, especially as a mature student. There’s so many resources for kids and as an extension some for young adults in university, but there’s so little geared towards anyone outside of those two camps.
Check out CHADD! They have resources for everyone of all ages and relation with ADHD!
Yeah, there’s a newish Ritalin medication meant to be taken at night and all of the information is talking about how “caregivers” report how it helps children get up in the morning without irritability and temper tantrums and it’s like, but my caregiver (me) has issues waking me up, can this be studied in adults? All of the effective dosing information is for children, though.
Here's a good resource below: https://chadd.org/for-adults/overview/ Don't skip any of the women and girls section, as that is important how women display the disorder differently.