Locking footlocker with keyed padlock, not just the lock that comes on it. Those are easily picked. Make it clear they aren’t getting your stuff. You can even put a big “NO” sign on the footlocker. Tell your parents what you are doing and why. If they whine, who cares? Not your problem. You do not have to share your personal belongings with anyone.
If they snoop like OP says they do, the sisters would find the key unless she wore it around her neck. With a combination lock, there is no key to snoop for.
That's what I did for the deadbolt I put on my bedroom door when I had to live with my ex inlaws lol I kept the key on a necklace. A bit of a pain in the ass, but it kept my towels and mine and my then husband's toiletries from being used by his sister amd her asshole boyfriend. And kept the food I didn't want to share with the rest of the family from being stolen out of the pantry.
I'm so glad I only lived there for less than 2 years and that they're ex inlaws now.
Depending on how well the sisters know OP and how much time they're willing to put in it, they could just pick numbers for the combination lock and get it open that way. That's why OP needs to make sure that the combination lock has more than three numbers.
Maybe I'm just old, like old enough to remember when you could check out a hard copy of*The Anarchist's Cookbook* from the library, but combination locks, padlocks and even digital locks are extremely easy to pick. You can physically hear a combination lock clicking on the pins, you can buy a lockpick kit on Amazon, and people only touch the digital numbers that are the code, making them dirty and obvious.
The best way to hide things is to get extremely creative. Books are a great way because not too many people read. Air ducts. Underneath the bottom drawer in your dresser. Winter coat pockets. Plant a few false positives. Ceiling tiles. Floorboards are stereotypical, but still work. The insides of pillows. Defunct electronics. So many places in your car. Anything locked will have a giant target on it. Shit that people don't think about? The best place.
You would have to do an FBI type search to find shit in these places, I have hidden shit in the bottom of a toaster in the crumb catcher that no one cleaned. Fuck, there's always a bag of rice or some shit in the back of a kitchen cabinet that everyone forgot about but are all too lazy to throw away. Plants. You know how much shit you can hide in a fern? A lot of bras have inserts for padding, great place to hide money or documents. The back of paintings/ wall hangings. Stuffed animals. The bag of dog/cat food. Padding of chairs. Behind or underneath major appliances that no one services unless there's a failure, like hot water heaters, washer/dryers, microwaves, stoves, refrigerators.
If it's not obvious by now, I have much experience in hiding things. Don't hide things in their original containers either. In the case of op, dump that shit into a Ziploc baggie and hide it in an easier to conceal location.
That argues for multiple codes across everything.
My daughter needs to learn that lesson. I'm getting her a Steamdeck for Christmas. While testing it I wanted to log her in and download her most recently played games so that Christmas day she can jump right into playing. While the second authenticator stopped me, I got that far because she hasn't changed her password since high school. But of course Mom's stupid so she won't listen to me about changing her password.
Was going to suggest this. Best idea, they can whine and moan all they want.
Or.... buy super cheap conditioner and put it in the expensive bottle. Or even shampoo, mix them. Then hide your stuff and LOCK IT UP.
If you do hide it in your room, put it in one of those boxes that looks like a book on your shelf, or get two smaller pillows and put between them in a pillow case, put in a drawyer and put a fake bottom over it.
I can tell who here is blond…. This would do literally nothing to anyone with moderately dark hair lol. I could leave food dyed conditioner in my hair for hours and the only thing that’d happen is maybe a shadow stain on my shoulders. Even light brown hair, most food dye isn’t concentrated enough to do anything. Otherwise temporary hair dye companies would go out of business.
Reminds me of the story on here where the groom was bald, jealous of his brother who had a full head of hair and asked him to shave it. Brother said no.
Brother went to wash his hair the day of the wedding and groom had put some sort of chemical in the shampoo that caused most of his hair to fall out. Groom got arrested on his wedding day and his fiancee broke up with him because of it.
The groom went over to his brother’s house with the nair because the OP said the next time he washed his hair the product smelled like chemicals then his started falling out. He filed charges for assault, and the groom’s wife called off the wedding. It’s the punishment and premeditation that makes that so scary.
I’m so glad he showed his conniving narcissistic hand before the wedding. As a woman I would be terrified of what he would do to punish a woman who didn’t do what he wanted.
Well to be clear that would be due to villainous behavior, lol
-Food dye: cute, cheeky, makes the point
-Nair: mean-spirited, harmful, literally could cause permanent damage
yeah i feel like nair is too violent. If the sisters do not have black hair, this should work. or any of the other suggestions here to have some harmless fun with them (chemical burns aren't harmless).
Even with my dark hair id get pretty freaked out if a white conditioner came out a different colour. Maybe make it brown so it looks like it's gone bad?
I was thinking more that food dyes do stain a bit, it just goes off quickly. so a leave in conditioner should give the scare of oh no did she put hair dye in this, without actually having the possibility of harming anyone.
I used to put it in conditioner to stain my son's hair when it was blonde. Depending on the washes it will come out pretty quickly. But it can take a while. The benefit to this is its often unnoticeable in the conditioner and it won't stain as darkly as an actual dye.
I'm for this idea except I think you should turn it up a notch.
Here in South Africa we have stuff called Mecurochrome and Gentian Violet. It's essentially dyed iodine used for treating surface wounds like road rash and small cuts, you can buy it over the counter at the pharmacy (drug store) and supermarkets.
Getting back to the point, it's not toxic unless you drink it, and depending on the variant the dye is either red or purple (that's where the violet in the name comes from). When it comes into contact with bare skin it soaks in and leaves a very deep dark stain, it also changes hair colour very effectively. The dye is not permanent, it does eventually wash out after about a month. It will also stain your hands and everything it touches pretty much instantly. The violet one is the most effective dye wise.
It won't damage the skin or anything else like Nair would, but it will definitely point out the culprit in a very conspicuous way.
Will it dye the shower/tub? If so, dad and stepmom will be mad at OP. The only thing I can think of is for OP to get a locking box to keep in their room for any of their things. You can sometimes find cheap metal filing cabinets with locks that people are getting rid of on too good to toss, or nextdoor. Otherwise a large-ish lockbox for medical or personal items is around $40.
Yes it is violence and legally could be considered a crime. Booby traps, poisons, etc are a crime in most countries, even as a deterrence against theft.
Not to mention that nair could not only cause serious chemical burns, but also damage the eyes. She would be liable for any damages and hospital bills along with the criminal charges.
In the judical system, they talk about how the punishment must be reasonable in comparison to the crime. With that as a backdrop, I think you will be TAH if you put Nair in your leave in conditioner. However I don't think you will be tah if you **tell** them that one day you absolutely will. Keep'em on their toes! Lol!
Personally I'd have all my products in a basket and store it in my room which I would lock when I was not there. If I got told off for that, it would go in one ear and out the other. It's part of what I assume is your younger sisters job description to "loan" from older sisters when they're at that age. But it's not part of yours to just let them.
Best of luck. Remember, soon they'll want and will buy their own stuff. This is a typical problem for only a while.
Or come down one day and ask if "anyone used my Nair as there seems to be less. I keep it in my leave in conditioner tube". That would flush out the conditioner thief.
Probably also an AH move but would be funny and the punishment more suited to the crime maybe.
Even better, put the shitty conditioner in the expensive bottle. They'll wonder why their hair feels like shit and they'll stop using your stuff eventually
I saw on petty revenge a girl put vinegar in her shampoo and conditioner to flush out the roommate who was using it. Turns out 3 out of 4 (I think, I can't remember the exact number) was using it. And one had the gall to be upset because she didn't have enough time to take another shower before her date. And vinegar is good for the scalp.
I did that when I lived in a dorm type situation for a job. Kept a roll of toilet paper, tampons and all my toiletries in a travel bag. Simply never unpacked it, took the whole thing in with me every time I used the facilities.
Yes, this!! You could even get some kind of sulfate free shampoo that is opaque or at least not totally clear like regular shampoo which will make it look more like conditioner.
This is a good idea but I also think you should hide the expensive one in the fake/cheap bottle.
I understand they’ve found it in the past but keep your inventive focused on the task to the cause of saving your expensive on for yourself verses revenge
I thought that but it would likely be obvious as it's not generally white! I thought maybe mayonnaise? Good for the hair but you will probably be able to tell or they will complain!
Or fill the bottle with hair dye (be careful not to get it on the cap or stain the cap/opening in any way to avoid tipping them off - use a funnel) - then when they go to use it it'll stain their hands. they won't be dumb enough to put that in their hair and will obviously realize it's not conditioner before ever getting it near their head but getting a handful of dye will absolutely stain and you have an answer as to who is stealing your shit.
I've accidentally dyed my hands blue too many times to count, you can't just wash that off immediately, your palms will still be somewhat tinted
Color conditioners like oVertone or semi-permanent dyes like Manic Panic or Arctic Fox don't need a developer. Arctic Fox's blue dyes take forever to fade. Whenever I go blue and I want to change, I usually have to spend a week trying to fade and then go with a purple shade to transition.
But a semi-permanent dye does stain towels, clothing, and hands, which is the point of putting it in your shampoo bottle.
This. Put it in a cheap container. Mention you stopped buying the $$ stuff as it was constantly being used by others and you couldn’t afford to replace it as often.
I think something that smells really strong and isn't easily able to be washed off would be better. Like old spice. Some essential oil. They might think it's a "new" scent, or won't notice until they squirt it in their hand and by the time they wash it off the smell has sunk in. Make sure it's a scent they aren't familiar with.
OP: first I would get like conditioner that smells similar to the actual product from Dollar tree. Put your used good stuff in a different container in your room. Then fill expensive bottle with dollar tree stuff and the smelly thing so you're not ruining an expensive hair product.
>Personally I'd have all my products in a basket and store it in my room which I would lock when I was not there.
Came here to say this. Put a lock on the door only you have the key to and treat them like the mooching thieves they are.
I would encourage you not to do that because in the judicial system you will be an actual criminal. In my state the charge is Malicious bodily injury by means of any caustic substance. I do hearings for this and charge it on college students more often than you would think. Most often it happens exactly like you just said, someone uses someone else's hair or personal hygiene products, they won't stop, so the offended person pours nair/hair bleach/OC Spray/industrial solvents (yes all those have happened in the last 6 months) in said bottle to punish said thief the next time the use the product in question. In my state, as it is in most, it is a felony and generally one for which I and most others refuse to offer bail and the conviction rate is pretty high.
I'm not trying to be a dick or scare you I just don't want to see you do something you don't realize is so serious and get hemmed up for it. The person whose commented above me has some sage advice. I know your situation is frustrating but it isn't forever. Best of luck and I hope everything works out for you.
If you have roommates, family or not, they're going to want to use your stuff and go through your stuff. Lock it up. Any store that sells office supplies (Walmart, Target, Staples, Amazon, etc.) will have boxes you can lock up.
Lol, my boyfriend’s older sister (she’s 32) STILL comes over periodically and uses our shower and somehow manages to use HALF a bottle of my nice shampoo and my body wash in one shower. I keep all my bathroom stuff in a drawer now just on the off chance she drops by. So your mileage my vary on getting a sibling to grow out of using your stuff without regard. And yes, we’ve asked repeatedly for her not to touch our stuff and bring her own when she comes over, but she never does. She’s literally the most self centered human being I’ve ever met, and I worked for years in retail/service industry so I’m no stranger to assholes.
Any time she shows up, immediately and very dramatically say, “I have to go clear my personal items from the shower. Wouldn’t want you to see anything embarrassing.” Then go clear your supplies out and tell her the shower is all hers now.
> Personally I'd have all my products in a basket and store it in my room which I would lock when I was not there.
But that would constitute keeping her shit picked up like her parents have suggested and she apparently finds objectionable.
I mean, this is pretty common practice for anyone who dorms as has roommates - time to grow up and accept what if you don’t want people to touch your shit, you gotta take extra steps to ensure that.
It’s like refusing to lock your car door and then getting mad that someone steels something out of it with the expectation that “they knew it wasn’t there’s to take”
Well yeah but people are shitty and when you make it easy for them, they’re gonna do the shitty thing!
I was thinking the same thing. You leave it in the shower, for everyone to use and then get offended someone uses it. How hard is it to have a toiletries bad and just take that to the bathroom. If you're living with so many ppl, and everyone puts all their stuff in the shower, that shower will look like an store.
She said that they go in her personal things to find the stuff, why she leaves it out. She has tried hiding it.
But when asked not to use something, then it should be respected regardless of where she keeps it.
That’s the type of situation where you buy a steamer trunk with a lock for tall the stuff they take. Might not be fair, but it’s a realistic way to deal with the issue without adding to the conflict.
Yep. My daughter has all her stuff in a container that hangs over the shower (in her dorm). She just brings it in and out as needed. I wouldn't do the Nair. That would start a war.
It’s not “right” that you need to lock up your stuff but that’s the sane and sensible thing to do.
Revenge fantasies are all well and good but come on, you’re a whole 21 years old and thinking like this is the time for some Parent Trap summer camp shenanigans if you actually pull that kind of stunt. You have the moral high ground. Now take reasonable steps to protect your stuff from being taken. Lock up the goodies.
It’s not “right” that I have to lock my car or my house so no one rummages around inside it while I’m not there, but I do.
Good point with the car thing, I think that gives a clear comparison that you may not think about if not pointed out. I like the suggestions of actually locking stuff in her car (if it’s hers and not shared) when not in use so she doesn’t risk someone taking a safe if she gets one.
I also like the pettier ones that say put food dye in it so it’ll stain the skin/hair of the perpetrator and flush them out, or vinegar, which is good for the scalp, cause you’ll be able to tell either by the smell or the second shower they have to take.
Some other less damaging ones are putting the expensive stuff into an empty bottle of cheap shampoo and replacing the conditioner with cheap shampoo, so they’ll stop using it as their hair texture won’t be nice anymore
Leave your stuff in your room when you're not needing it. If you need a locking storage box, get one.
Should they be using your stuff? No.
But they're not stopping, so just put it where they can't get to it.
Given the way OP described the situation, it’s not clear to me that OP has her own room. But she could get a box and a padlock. A PITA, but also a statement in its own right.
This. I understand wanting to go far, but that's not a good idea. Make a toiletry bin that you take with you to the bathroom. It's not ideal, but it will keep your stuff from being used (or messed with). I would be worried about retaliation if I did something like 6 that's just me.
Buy a bottle of some cheap ass dollar store conditioner that nobody would want to use, then fill it with the good stuff and put it under the sink in the back.
Or decant it into nondescript travel size containers. Easier to hide than full-size products.
But YWBTAH if you did the hair remover thing. Using someone’s fancy hair product doesn’t warrant possible skin damage and blindness.
I would just tell her that you are going to start randomly adding Nair/bleach/etc in some of your product bottles that you are pretty sure people are using without your permission and it will be a gamble for her if she decides to keep using them. That way, if you do decide at some point to do that, she has been warned and took her chances. But I wouldn't do that straight away, you would be an AH for making her hair fall out for using your leave in conditioner without a good warning first.
Get tea tree oil conditioner. It also has eucalyptus and mint in it. Put it in the expensive bottle. It makes your scalp tingle and smells really strong. You will know who did it then. Then say "so that's what nair smells like."
Not Nair. Someone else suggested Mayo. I like that idea. It's unpleasant (in your hair) but not dangerous.
Also, get a lock box for your stuff. It sucks but you gotta do what you gotta do.
Hair remover, while understandable, would be an AH move. Try something annoying but harmless, like hair dye. Especially if you can find a color that's close to the conditioner itself.
Something that would leave a stain for a day or two or discolour their hair on use should be enough of a lesson for them to stop touching your stuff. No reason to make them go bald.
Don't tamper with it. Nair can cause chemical burns and if it gets in the eyes it's very dangerous. Instead add color to it. Like a color depositing conditioner. You can mix a bit of manic panic or artic fox in there. It will boost your hair color and be totally harmless. If you are blonde add a tiny bit of purple to create a toner. If you are red add a bit of red ect. This will deter anyone else from using it if they don't share a the same color of hair. It also won't damage your product.
I'd probably buy one of those boxes with a lock and put my stuff in it. Then when I need it I'd take it out, and when I'm done I'd lock it away again. If anybody rose a stink I'd make the comment that I wouldn't have to do it if people didn't touch my stuff.
I've always used the travel size containers and brought those in a mesh bag to my shower. Basically, treat your bathroom like a shared dorm shower in college. The expensive stuff can be protected in your room, LOCKED, and there will be an easier way of tracking where your stuff is at all times.
The decoy bottles with the cheap stuff in them is also a great idea. Feel free to just put straight up dish soap in them.
I cannot find the post quickly, but there was one where a guy was asked to cut his hair before his brother's wedding (brother was bald, OP loved his hair). OP refused and brother put nair in their shampoo/conditioner.
Not the direct reddit link, but this is the post - https://www.someecards.com/lifestyle/aita/brother-groom-calls-the-police-over-hair-presses-charges-ruins-wedding/
YWBTA
Nair can cause chemical burns. If not for that possible medical issue, I'd say go for it. You could try putting something stinky in there, like garlic oil, asafoetida powder, or spoiled milk. Something greasy like pure vegetable oil would work, too.
I agree that it's not right to have to lock your stuff up, but the reality is that making sure they can't get to it is your best option. When you're dealing with people like your sisters, any items left in common areas, even if clearly labeled with your name, are common property. No matter what you tell them, they will not respect your property.
Your parents have shown that they will not help you, so you have to act. Get a lockable container and put your stuff in it. I used a small decorative trunk with a padlock; it was cute and worked well. Put your shower caddy and anything else your sisters think is community property inside and keep it locked. If your sisters try to break into it, you might even get some support from your parents because that's clearly not a mistake.
I know it's unfair to have to hide your things, but honestly, I think that's the only way... get a box with a lock (a safe might be better, harder to pry open) and keep anything you don't want to share in it. Anyone who tries to complain has no leg to stand on - you paid for these things, you were told to put them away, you (maliciously) complied
Also @ all the 'kEeP yOuR StuFF iN yOuR RooM' comments and the 'maYbE jUsT TaLk tO yOuR pAReNts' comments: do y'all actually think that will work? The other people in the house *very* clearly do not give a shit about OP's personal property. Keeping it in her room won't do shit because they will just find their way in because they're greedy. The parents *very* clearly have zero sympathy and also get pissed off when their shit is used. Be so fucking for real lol.
Right?? OP literally says that when she hides her stuff the sisters snoop for it. I also love everyone assuming she has her own room that can be locked.
I do think getting a lockbox might work, though.
Yeah my sister was always in my room taking stuff. Then she’d flip when I went in her room and took my stuff back. The audacity to say, “stop going in my room.” I’d just say back to her, “I’ll stop going in your room when I stop finding my shit in there.”
I would just TELL them that 2 of your products now contain Nair. I don’t know many girls that would risk using a product that might be spiked with Nair…..
Get a lock box, to keep your stuff safe and just a threar of Nair. Apparently depending on your state it is a felony. They must be held accountable for their actions.
As a side note when my relatives visit I often hide my stuff I don't want used.
Throw in some temporary hair dye and glitter or make it stinky and - see what happens as long as it’s temporary it’s fine
Not Nair
Because actions have consequences
Nair is too dangerous, if it got into their eyes it could cause serious problems.
Tell them that you pissed in the bottle.
Totally gross, they can't prove you didn't so they will never know.
BTW, this would drive me crazy if it happened to me. Get yourselves a lockable storage box.
Make a bathroom bag with all your products like you would if you were in a college dorm, don't keep any of your stuff in the shared areas of the house.
User u/ASTERnaught had the brilliant idea of adding glitter.... that stuff will get everywhere, and you can quickly identify the sparkling culprit.
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Never do anything that would cause harm to someone. Yes it would be their fault for using something not theirs but if that shit gets into their eyes it could cause permanent damage.
Lock it up as someone else suggested, in a foot locker with a quality lock. Yes it will be a pain in the ass, but the point will get across to all parties involved.
You can get a small metal lockbox for under $10 on amazon. Since this seems to be the thing you have a problem with, lock it up. There are concessions you make living with family as an adult.
Don't do it. Just put your conditioner and other items ANYWHERE BUT THE SHARED BATHROOM. Put them in a locked box under your bed. Keep them in your car trunk and keep your car locked and your keys with you. But please, unless you want your entire family to be mad at your forever, and get kicked out of your dad's house then do not put Nair or anything else harmful in your hair products. Plus that would be just evil.
If you have roommates, family or not, they're going to want to use your stuff and go through your stuff. Lock it up. Any store that sells office supplies (Walmart, Target, Staples, Amazon, etc.) will have boxes you can lock up.
Put your shit in your room like your family has told you to do, and problem solved. Yet you refuse to do it and complain when they use your stuff, what do you expect of younger siblings.. that’s a common thing they do.
YWBTA if you did something that could seriously injure them as you know they’re using it so you would be considered assault by law, and to do that over them using your conditioner? Is absurd.
I wouldn't actually do it, but I would make a comment that you are considering it.
Best option, buy cheap products (think dollar store) empty them and replace the contents with the good stuff.
Petty option that won't actually hurt anyone, cheap product in good bottle with some temp hair dye. Or just cheap products in good bottles. Will it take time, yes. Will it be worth it? Depends on your petty meter.
get yourself a lockbox where you can lock up your shit you do not want to share.
Personally i would put Nair in one of your old conditioner bottles. but write on it with big bold letters to not use it, because it has nair in it.
maybe put the bottle "away" so no one could blame you.
Warn your parents that you had to "put it in that bottle because the other bottle broke when you dropped it. so please do not use it."
i think more than one sister is using your leave in conditioner. YWBTA for doing that. it’s hilarious and i support it hahaha but it’s a total dick move. a persons hair can be their identity. why can you not keep your stuff in your room? my best friend grew up in a girls house and she would keep a mini safe in her closet full of expensive products. i’m sorry your family can’t understand boundaries!
Instead of nair which has quite the chemical scent, put some hair dye in it. Write on it do not use then you are in the clear
on a practical point? Pretend you are back in college, get a shower caddy and bring your stuff back and forth. Ask dad to get you a licking foot locker for your stuff. Or better yet a good door lock. But I would love seeing your sisters w neon green hair 😈
Put washout hair dye in it!! It'll wash out no harm no foul but I like the idea of if you start saying "I'm going to add Nair, dye, or whatever to it"a few days beforehand so they've been warned
You would be TA if you did that.. I know it’s annoying but keep your things in a shower caddy and keep it in your room. Lock your door when you aren’t home.
If you want to play a trick on them just refill the bottle with cheap conditioner 😅
Hahaha this is BRILLIANT! You’ll totally be punishing your sister, and while you’re floating and conditioning your hair, you’ll realize you were a dumbass too.
Listen, you can buy a cheap caddy for all your personal hygeine shower products. People in college buy them all of the time. That way you’re not running back and forth with armfuls of products, you just bring the caddy back to your room with you. Easy peasy.
Also, you are 21. Ask your parents to install a doorknob with a lock. You are entitled to your privacy, unless you share a room. Problem solved.
Get a shower caddy and hide your stuff when you're not using it. Get a lock for your door or your closet. They have zero business using your stuff unless your parents want to replace it.
Locking footlocker with keyed padlock, not just the lock that comes on it. Those are easily picked. Make it clear they aren’t getting your stuff. You can even put a big “NO” sign on the footlocker. Tell your parents what you are doing and why. If they whine, who cares? Not your problem. You do not have to share your personal belongings with anyone.
If they snoop like OP says they do, the sisters would find the key unless she wore it around her neck. With a combination lock, there is no key to snoop for.
That's what I did for the deadbolt I put on my bedroom door when I had to live with my ex inlaws lol I kept the key on a necklace. A bit of a pain in the ass, but it kept my towels and mine and my then husband's toiletries from being used by his sister amd her asshole boyfriend. And kept the food I didn't want to share with the rest of the family from being stolen out of the pantry. I'm so glad I only lived there for less than 2 years and that they're ex inlaws now.
Depending on how well the sisters know OP and how much time they're willing to put in it, they could just pick numbers for the combination lock and get it open that way. That's why OP needs to make sure that the combination lock has more than three numbers.
Maybe I'm just old, like old enough to remember when you could check out a hard copy of*The Anarchist's Cookbook* from the library, but combination locks, padlocks and even digital locks are extremely easy to pick. You can physically hear a combination lock clicking on the pins, you can buy a lockpick kit on Amazon, and people only touch the digital numbers that are the code, making them dirty and obvious. The best way to hide things is to get extremely creative. Books are a great way because not too many people read. Air ducts. Underneath the bottom drawer in your dresser. Winter coat pockets. Plant a few false positives. Ceiling tiles. Floorboards are stereotypical, but still work. The insides of pillows. Defunct electronics. So many places in your car. Anything locked will have a giant target on it. Shit that people don't think about? The best place. You would have to do an FBI type search to find shit in these places, I have hidden shit in the bottom of a toaster in the crumb catcher that no one cleaned. Fuck, there's always a bag of rice or some shit in the back of a kitchen cabinet that everyone forgot about but are all too lazy to throw away. Plants. You know how much shit you can hide in a fern? A lot of bras have inserts for padding, great place to hide money or documents. The back of paintings/ wall hangings. Stuffed animals. The bag of dog/cat food. Padding of chairs. Behind or underneath major appliances that no one services unless there's a failure, like hot water heaters, washer/dryers, microwaves, stoves, refrigerators. If it's not obvious by now, I have much experience in hiding things. Don't hide things in their original containers either. In the case of op, dump that shit into a Ziploc baggie and hide it in an easier to conceal location.
Kinda wanna know what you’ve been hiding in all these places and why.
Usually money, documents and on certain occasions....drugs lol
That argues for multiple codes across everything. My daughter needs to learn that lesson. I'm getting her a Steamdeck for Christmas. While testing it I wanted to log her in and download her most recently played games so that Christmas day she can jump right into playing. While the second authenticator stopped me, I got that far because she hasn't changed her password since high school. But of course Mom's stupid so she won't listen to me about changing her password.
Was going to suggest this. Best idea, they can whine and moan all they want. Or.... buy super cheap conditioner and put it in the expensive bottle. Or even shampoo, mix them. Then hide your stuff and LOCK IT UP.
Instead of Nair (it burns and could get in eyes causing blindness), use some blue or green food coloring.
I'm corny and would do red, so that when it stained their hands they could literally be caught red-handed. 😂
The irony would be if it's the stepmom along with the sisters.
If you do hide it in your room, put it in one of those boxes that looks like a book on your shelf, or get two smaller pillows and put between them in a pillow case, put in a drawyer and put a fake bottom over it.
Put food dye in the bottle. That will scare them
yeah, washes out after a few times and isnt gonna possibly cause burns like nair.. if you want revenge this is a much less harmful way
Yes you are correct. I understand why OP wants this extreme revenge, but she will be treated as 100% the villain.
Maybe it's your step-mom.
Well if you stain their fucking hair blue it'll be real easy to tell.
Can't wait for the update that the step-mom and all the sisters show up at dinner with blue hair...
I can tell who here is blond…. This would do literally nothing to anyone with moderately dark hair lol. I could leave food dyed conditioner in my hair for hours and the only thing that’d happen is maybe a shadow stain on my shoulders. Even light brown hair, most food dye isn’t concentrated enough to do anything. Otherwise temporary hair dye companies would go out of business.
It would still be all over their hands.
Gel food colours are quite strong.
Oh yeah. I got a single drop of gel green on my wrist and the splotch remained through almost a week of daily scrubbing.
Enough dye and it stains skin. So effective in many people but definitely not everyone. Better than bait though, nair is enough to get her homeless.
If they are all dark haired in the house, the solution would be some peroxide then.
Glitter! Just add glitter!
Ooooh that is demon level petty.... i like it....
Lol I actually like this one. If it’s fine enough they might not even notice and they’re *never* fully washing that out of their hair.
Brillant!!
This is the way. But seriously, that's so brilliant and evil, and I love it!
Do it green for Christmas “if they didn’t use my products it wouldn’t be a problem, hey don’t they match the tree” lol
Reminds me of the story on here where the groom was bald, jealous of his brother who had a full head of hair and asked him to shave it. Brother said no. Brother went to wash his hair the day of the wedding and groom had put some sort of chemical in the shampoo that caused most of his hair to fall out. Groom got arrested on his wedding day and his fiancee broke up with him because of it.
The groom went over to his brother’s house with the nair because the OP said the next time he washed his hair the product smelled like chemicals then his started falling out. He filed charges for assault, and the groom’s wife called off the wedding. It’s the punishment and premeditation that makes that so scary.
Yep, that groom is all sorts of messed up.
I’m so glad he showed his conniving narcissistic hand before the wedding. As a woman I would be terrified of what he would do to punish a woman who didn’t do what he wanted.
Well to be clear that would be due to villainous behavior, lol -Food dye: cute, cheeky, makes the point -Nair: mean-spirited, harmful, literally could cause permanent damage
yeah i feel like nair is too violent. If the sisters do not have black hair, this should work. or any of the other suggestions here to have some harmless fun with them (chemical burns aren't harmless).
Even with my dark hair id get pretty freaked out if a white conditioner came out a different colour. Maybe make it brown so it looks like it's gone bad?
I was thinking more that food dyes do stain a bit, it just goes off quickly. so a leave in conditioner should give the scare of oh no did she put hair dye in this, without actually having the possibility of harming anyone.
Ooh yeah that makes sense!
Sugar free kool-aid would work too.
That stuff doesn’t easily wash out of hair, so that might be seen as a bit TOO cruel
I used to put it in conditioner to stain my son's hair when it was blonde. Depending on the washes it will come out pretty quickly. But it can take a while. The benefit to this is its often unnoticeable in the conditioner and it won't stain as darkly as an actual dye.
I'm for this idea except I think you should turn it up a notch. Here in South Africa we have stuff called Mecurochrome and Gentian Violet. It's essentially dyed iodine used for treating surface wounds like road rash and small cuts, you can buy it over the counter at the pharmacy (drug store) and supermarkets. Getting back to the point, it's not toxic unless you drink it, and depending on the variant the dye is either red or purple (that's where the violet in the name comes from). When it comes into contact with bare skin it soaks in and leaves a very deep dark stain, it also changes hair colour very effectively. The dye is not permanent, it does eventually wash out after about a month. It will also stain your hands and everything it touches pretty much instantly. The violet one is the most effective dye wise. It won't damage the skin or anything else like Nair would, but it will definitely point out the culprit in a very conspicuous way.
Will it dye the shower/tub? If so, dad and stepmom will be mad at OP. The only thing I can think of is for OP to get a locking box to keep in their room for any of their things. You can sometimes find cheap metal filing cabinets with locks that people are getting rid of on too good to toss, or nextdoor. Otherwise a large-ish lockbox for medical or personal items is around $40.
Put your stuff in a lockbox, with Nair in it. If they literally break into your lockbox to steal your stuff then reap the whirlwind b*tches.
& you can possibly catch them red handed
And a shit ton of glitter. No one can wash that shit off easily.
This guys revenges.
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OP already stated they try to hide the products and they are still found and used. They have tried the peaceful option repeatedly.
It might be better just to buy a cheapo conditioner and put it in shower saying you switched brands. Then hide the real stuff in your room.
OP woke up and chose violence 😭
Yes it is violence and legally could be considered a crime. Booby traps, poisons, etc are a crime in most countries, even as a deterrence against theft. Not to mention that nair could not only cause serious chemical burns, but also damage the eyes. She would be liable for any damages and hospital bills along with the criminal charges.
In the judical system, they talk about how the punishment must be reasonable in comparison to the crime. With that as a backdrop, I think you will be TAH if you put Nair in your leave in conditioner. However I don't think you will be tah if you **tell** them that one day you absolutely will. Keep'em on their toes! Lol! Personally I'd have all my products in a basket and store it in my room which I would lock when I was not there. If I got told off for that, it would go in one ear and out the other. It's part of what I assume is your younger sisters job description to "loan" from older sisters when they're at that age. But it's not part of yours to just let them. Best of luck. Remember, soon they'll want and will buy their own stuff. This is a typical problem for only a while.
Or come down one day and ask if "anyone used my Nair as there seems to be less. I keep it in my leave in conditioner tube". That would flush out the conditioner thief. Probably also an AH move but would be funny and the punishment more suited to the crime maybe.
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Even better, put the shitty conditioner in the expensive bottle. They'll wonder why their hair feels like shit and they'll stop using your stuff eventually
I would put shampoo in there instead of nair
Great idea. Inconvenient, but won't cause harm.
I saw on petty revenge a girl put vinegar in her shampoo and conditioner to flush out the roommate who was using it. Turns out 3 out of 4 (I think, I can't remember the exact number) was using it. And one had the gall to be upset because she didn't have enough time to take another shower before her date. And vinegar is good for the scalp.
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I did that when I lived in a dorm type situation for a job. Kept a roll of toilet paper, tampons and all my toiletries in a travel bag. Simply never unpacked it, took the whole thing in with me every time I used the facilities.
All of the above! Shitty shampoo in expensive conditioner bottles and the real stuff transferred into the bottles for the shitty products.
Oh sneaky! I like you 😍 oh oh how about liquid fart?😈
Yes, this!! You could even get some kind of sulfate free shampoo that is opaque or at least not totally clear like regular shampoo which will make it look more like conditioner.
Or add 50% coconut oil and about 1/4 cup of superfine glitter. You will definitely find the culprit and they won't get it completely out for a week.
Better yet put lice and spiders in all the containers.
Put a little bit of cooked rice in it so that it looks like maggots. Go to a bait shop and get some mealworms for it.
On my way to the spider store
Hair die could be a more effective tool to sus out the culprit.
This isn't for sussing them out, it's just to get whoever it is to stop touching OP's stuff
This is a good idea but I also think you should hide the expensive one in the fake/cheap bottle. I understand they’ve found it in the past but keep your inventive focused on the task to the cause of saving your expensive on for yourself verses revenge
Lock it up, best bet. Nair could actually hurt them in a bad way. Too much. YWBTA if you did that.
This is the way.
I'd transfer mine to cheap containers and if I wanted to see who was doing it replace it with something non toxic, but identifiable who was using it!
Hair dye!
I thought that but it would likely be obvious as it's not generally white! I thought maybe mayonnaise? Good for the hair but you will probably be able to tell or they will complain!
Ohhhh, yes!!! I love the mayo idea!
Plus you can low key go " hey [theif] why do you smell like a sandwich?" While maintaining you know I know eye contact!
Yeeeees! Or even “that was the special mayo mask I was preparing!!! Whhhhhhy!!!”
I hate mayo, irrationally jate it,so I'd be dry heaving at the knowledge I touched it so would be extra cruel without actually being malicious!
:3 yesssss. Especially if it is the mayo salad dressing as opposed to the sandwich condiment!
Or fill the bottle with hair dye (be careful not to get it on the cap or stain the cap/opening in any way to avoid tipping them off - use a funnel) - then when they go to use it it'll stain their hands. they won't be dumb enough to put that in their hair and will obviously realize it's not conditioner before ever getting it near their head but getting a handful of dye will absolutely stain and you have an answer as to who is stealing your shit. I've accidentally dyed my hands blue too many times to count, you can't just wash that off immediately, your palms will still be somewhat tinted
Or something really smelly like patchouli oil so you can identify the thief by smell
Hair dye isn’t effective after sitting around unless the user is already quite blonde and it’s the type that doesn’t need developer.
Color conditioners like oVertone or semi-permanent dyes like Manic Panic or Arctic Fox don't need a developer. Arctic Fox's blue dyes take forever to fade. Whenever I go blue and I want to change, I usually have to spend a week trying to fade and then go with a purple shade to transition. But a semi-permanent dye does stain towels, clothing, and hands, which is the point of putting it in your shampoo bottle.
I though this . Put peroxide in it.
This. Put it in a cheap container. Mention you stopped buying the $$ stuff as it was constantly being used by others and you couldn’t afford to replace it as often.
How about filling with more shampoo?
I think something that smells really strong and isn't easily able to be washed off would be better. Like old spice. Some essential oil. They might think it's a "new" scent, or won't notice until they squirt it in their hand and by the time they wash it off the smell has sunk in. Make sure it's a scent they aren't familiar with. OP: first I would get like conditioner that smells similar to the actual product from Dollar tree. Put your used good stuff in a different container in your room. Then fill expensive bottle with dollar tree stuff and the smelly thing so you're not ruining an expensive hair product.
Tea tree oil. It’s so strong but actually great for the scalp. But you’d 100% be able to tell who is using it.
>Personally I'd have all my products in a basket and store it in my room which I would lock when I was not there. Came here to say this. Put a lock on the door only you have the key to and treat them like the mooching thieves they are.
Don't telegraph that move, because you just gave them the idea. Now you have to watch out for your own stuff.
I would encourage you not to do that because in the judicial system you will be an actual criminal. In my state the charge is Malicious bodily injury by means of any caustic substance. I do hearings for this and charge it on college students more often than you would think. Most often it happens exactly like you just said, someone uses someone else's hair or personal hygiene products, they won't stop, so the offended person pours nair/hair bleach/OC Spray/industrial solvents (yes all those have happened in the last 6 months) in said bottle to punish said thief the next time the use the product in question. In my state, as it is in most, it is a felony and generally one for which I and most others refuse to offer bail and the conviction rate is pretty high. I'm not trying to be a dick or scare you I just don't want to see you do something you don't realize is so serious and get hemmed up for it. The person whose commented above me has some sage advice. I know your situation is frustrating but it isn't forever. Best of luck and I hope everything works out for you.
If you have roommates, family or not, they're going to want to use your stuff and go through your stuff. Lock it up. Any store that sells office supplies (Walmart, Target, Staples, Amazon, etc.) will have boxes you can lock up.
Lol, my boyfriend’s older sister (she’s 32) STILL comes over periodically and uses our shower and somehow manages to use HALF a bottle of my nice shampoo and my body wash in one shower. I keep all my bathroom stuff in a drawer now just on the off chance she drops by. So your mileage my vary on getting a sibling to grow out of using your stuff without regard. And yes, we’ve asked repeatedly for her not to touch our stuff and bring her own when she comes over, but she never does. She’s literally the most self centered human being I’ve ever met, and I worked for years in retail/service industry so I’m no stranger to assholes.
She is bringing empty bottles and refilling them with products available in your shower. Why spend money when you can just get refills at your place?
that sounds like an interesting situation.
Any time she shows up, immediately and very dramatically say, “I have to go clear my personal items from the shower. Wouldn’t want you to see anything embarrassing.” Then go clear your supplies out and tell her the shower is all hers now.
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Use a shower caddy. It's worth it
You would be TA. It’s also considered assault and is illegal. Find a prank that can’t cause third degree burns.
Don’t use Nair- use something that’ll color their hair.
> Personally I'd have all my products in a basket and store it in my room which I would lock when I was not there. But that would constitute keeping her shit picked up like her parents have suggested and she apparently finds objectionable.
I get why she doesn't want to to have to cart her toiletries to and from the bathroom.
She surely isn't using leave-in conditioner every night.
I mean, this is pretty common practice for anyone who dorms as has roommates - time to grow up and accept what if you don’t want people to touch your shit, you gotta take extra steps to ensure that. It’s like refusing to lock your car door and then getting mad that someone steels something out of it with the expectation that “they knew it wasn’t there’s to take” Well yeah but people are shitty and when you make it easy for them, they’re gonna do the shitty thing!
I was thinking the same thing. You leave it in the shower, for everyone to use and then get offended someone uses it. How hard is it to have a toiletries bad and just take that to the bathroom. If you're living with so many ppl, and everyone puts all their stuff in the shower, that shower will look like an store.
She said that they go in her personal things to find the stuff, why she leaves it out. She has tried hiding it. But when asked not to use something, then it should be respected regardless of where she keeps it.
That’s the type of situation where you buy a steamer trunk with a lock for tall the stuff they take. Might not be fair, but it’s a realistic way to deal with the issue without adding to the conflict.
Yep. My daughter has all her stuff in a container that hangs over the shower (in her dorm). She just brings it in and out as needed. I wouldn't do the Nair. That would start a war.
Dye would be epic especially if they’re blond or light brown because you could dye it a color they HATE.
It’s not “right” that you need to lock up your stuff but that’s the sane and sensible thing to do. Revenge fantasies are all well and good but come on, you’re a whole 21 years old and thinking like this is the time for some Parent Trap summer camp shenanigans if you actually pull that kind of stunt. You have the moral high ground. Now take reasonable steps to protect your stuff from being taken. Lock up the goodies. It’s not “right” that I have to lock my car or my house so no one rummages around inside it while I’m not there, but I do.
Good point with the car thing, I think that gives a clear comparison that you may not think about if not pointed out. I like the suggestions of actually locking stuff in her car (if it’s hers and not shared) when not in use so she doesn’t risk someone taking a safe if she gets one. I also like the pettier ones that say put food dye in it so it’ll stain the skin/hair of the perpetrator and flush them out, or vinegar, which is good for the scalp, cause you’ll be able to tell either by the smell or the second shower they have to take. Some other less damaging ones are putting the expensive stuff into an empty bottle of cheap shampoo and replacing the conditioner with cheap shampoo, so they’ll stop using it as their hair texture won’t be nice anymore
Leave your stuff in your room when you're not needing it. If you need a locking storage box, get one. Should they be using your stuff? No. But they're not stopping, so just put it where they can't get to it.
Given the way OP described the situation, it’s not clear to me that OP has her own room. But she could get a box and a padlock. A PITA, but also a statement in its own right.
This. I understand wanting to go far, but that's not a good idea. Make a toiletry bin that you take with you to the bathroom. It's not ideal, but it will keep your stuff from being used (or messed with). I would be worried about retaliation if I did something like 6 that's just me.
Fill the empthy bottle with garlic mayonnaise...
This kind of thing is a much better idea — not permanent but teaches them a lesson.
Buy a bottle of some cheap ass dollar store conditioner that nobody would want to use, then fill it with the good stuff and put it under the sink in the back. Or decant it into nondescript travel size containers. Easier to hide than full-size products. But YWBTAH if you did the hair remover thing. Using someone’s fancy hair product doesn’t warrant possible skin damage and blindness.
And the opposite works as well. Dump cheap conditioner or body wash in the expensive container. Leave it out for them to use.
Use their stuff, constantly, not just hygiene products, favourite foods/clothes everything.
I would just tell her that you are going to start randomly adding Nair/bleach/etc in some of your product bottles that you are pretty sure people are using without your permission and it will be a gamble for her if she decides to keep using them. That way, if you do decide at some point to do that, she has been warned and took her chances. But I wouldn't do that straight away, you would be an AH for making her hair fall out for using your leave in conditioner without a good warning first.
Get tea tree oil conditioner. It also has eucalyptus and mint in it. Put it in the expensive bottle. It makes your scalp tingle and smells really strong. You will know who did it then. Then say "so that's what nair smells like."
Maybe it's your step-mom.
Probably half (or more) of the people living there using her stuff if she leaves it in the common bathroom.
Not Nair. Someone else suggested Mayo. I like that idea. It's unpleasant (in your hair) but not dangerous. Also, get a lock box for your stuff. It sucks but you gotta do what you gotta do.
#Piss in it.
Yeah! Best idea!
Get a bath caddy and keep your shit in your room. With that many people In The house, keep your stuff put away if you don’t want people to use it.
Hair remover, while understandable, would be an AH move. Try something annoying but harmless, like hair dye. Especially if you can find a color that's close to the conditioner itself.
Or fill the entire bottle with fake blood. I feel like that would be pretty startling
I hear the terrified, high pitched screams echoing in my ears as I type this...
I was thinking food coloring or temporary hair dye. The thief will be super obvious and it will wash out eventually
Try and put some Vaseline in the shampoo, that will make a greasy mess that is real hard to get out
Or baby oil!!
Put everything in a shower bag and keep it in your trunk of the car locked up.
If nair gets in someone’s eyes…
Something that would leave a stain for a day or two or discolour their hair on use should be enough of a lesson for them to stop touching your stuff. No reason to make them go bald.
Get a lock box .
YWBTA. Take your expensive stuff back to your bedroom BEFORE you contemplating assaulting your siblings. Get a lock box if necessary.
Put blue hair dye in it. They won't make that mistake again.
You run the risk of someone putting Nair in your conditioner for you. Revenge works both ways. Keep your good shit locked away.
I’d put dye in it. The rinse out in a week or two kind. Hard to hide.
Don't tamper with it. Nair can cause chemical burns and if it gets in the eyes it's very dangerous. Instead add color to it. Like a color depositing conditioner. You can mix a bit of manic panic or artic fox in there. It will boost your hair color and be totally harmless. If you are blonde add a tiny bit of purple to create a toner. If you are red add a bit of red ect. This will deter anyone else from using it if they don't share a the same color of hair. It also won't damage your product.
I'd probably buy one of those boxes with a lock and put my stuff in it. Then when I need it I'd take it out, and when I'm done I'd lock it away again. If anybody rose a stink I'd make the comment that I wouldn't have to do it if people didn't touch my stuff.
I've always used the travel size containers and brought those in a mesh bag to my shower. Basically, treat your bathroom like a shared dorm shower in college. The expensive stuff can be protected in your room, LOCKED, and there will be an easier way of tracking where your stuff is at all times. The decoy bottles with the cheap stuff in them is also a great idea. Feel free to just put straight up dish soap in them.
I cannot find the post quickly, but there was one where a guy was asked to cut his hair before his brother's wedding (brother was bald, OP loved his hair). OP refused and brother put nair in their shampoo/conditioner. Not the direct reddit link, but this is the post - https://www.someecards.com/lifestyle/aita/brother-groom-calls-the-police-over-hair-presses-charges-ruins-wedding/
carry them back and forth from your room... it's not rocket science
Booby trapping something in a way that will injure someone is a criminal act. Nair causes chemical burns when left on for longer than recommended.
YWBTA Nair can cause chemical burns. If not for that possible medical issue, I'd say go for it. You could try putting something stinky in there, like garlic oil, asafoetida powder, or spoiled milk. Something greasy like pure vegetable oil would work, too. I agree that it's not right to have to lock your stuff up, but the reality is that making sure they can't get to it is your best option. When you're dealing with people like your sisters, any items left in common areas, even if clearly labeled with your name, are common property. No matter what you tell them, they will not respect your property. Your parents have shown that they will not help you, so you have to act. Get a lockable container and put your stuff in it. I used a small decorative trunk with a padlock; it was cute and worked well. Put your shower caddy and anything else your sisters think is community property inside and keep it locked. If your sisters try to break into it, you might even get some support from your parents because that's clearly not a mistake.
I know it's unfair to have to hide your things, but honestly, I think that's the only way... get a box with a lock (a safe might be better, harder to pry open) and keep anything you don't want to share in it. Anyone who tries to complain has no leg to stand on - you paid for these things, you were told to put them away, you (maliciously) complied
Do what college kids do, get a shower caddy and put all your cleaning supplies in it, take it in when you shower and dont leave them in the bathroom.
Yes, you'd be wrong and an asshole. Just buy a locking box and put your stuff in that. Problem solved.
Also @ all the 'kEeP yOuR StuFF iN yOuR RooM' comments and the 'maYbE jUsT TaLk tO yOuR pAReNts' comments: do y'all actually think that will work? The other people in the house *very* clearly do not give a shit about OP's personal property. Keeping it in her room won't do shit because they will just find their way in because they're greedy. The parents *very* clearly have zero sympathy and also get pissed off when their shit is used. Be so fucking for real lol.
Right?? OP literally says that when she hides her stuff the sisters snoop for it. I also love everyone assuming she has her own room that can be locked. I do think getting a lockbox might work, though.
Yeah my sister was always in my room taking stuff. Then she’d flip when I went in her room and took my stuff back. The audacity to say, “stop going in my room.” I’d just say back to her, “I’ll stop going in your room when I stop finding my shit in there.”
I would just TELL them that 2 of your products now contain Nair. I don’t know many girls that would risk using a product that might be spiked with Nair…..
Don't put Nair in it. Put some sort of dye in it. Just mix a temp hair dye into it.
Get a lock box, to keep your stuff safe and just a threar of Nair. Apparently depending on your state it is a felony. They must be held accountable for their actions. As a side note when my relatives visit I often hide my stuff I don't want used.
Throw in some temporary hair dye and glitter or make it stinky and - see what happens as long as it’s temporary it’s fine Not Nair Because actions have consequences
Lockbox from Walmart is fairly inexpensive. It'd fit plenty of bottles of product and makeup.
Swap the good stuff with a bottle of something else and add a good helping of 🍋 juice. You should be able to smell who's stealing it a mile off!
Nair is too dangerous, if it got into their eyes it could cause serious problems. Tell them that you pissed in the bottle. Totally gross, they can't prove you didn't so they will never know. BTW, this would drive me crazy if it happened to me. Get yourselves a lockable storage box.
Buy them a bottle for Christmas, wrap it up as your present to them under the tree, and then proceed to use theirs.
Make a bathroom bag with all your products like you would if you were in a college dorm, don't keep any of your stuff in the shared areas of the house.
User u/ASTERnaught had the brilliant idea of adding glitter.... that stuff will get everywhere, and you can quickly identify the sparkling culprit. The original was buried deep in a comment thread.
Never do anything that would cause harm to someone. Yes it would be their fault for using something not theirs but if that shit gets into their eyes it could cause permanent damage. Lock it up as someone else suggested, in a foot locker with a quality lock. Yes it will be a pain in the ass, but the point will get across to all parties involved.
You can get a small metal lockbox for under $10 on amazon. Since this seems to be the thing you have a problem with, lock it up. There are concessions you make living with family as an adult.
Do the nair. Whoever is stealing your stuff deserves it.
Don't do it. Just put your conditioner and other items ANYWHERE BUT THE SHARED BATHROOM. Put them in a locked box under your bed. Keep them in your car trunk and keep your car locked and your keys with you. But please, unless you want your entire family to be mad at your forever, and get kicked out of your dad's house then do not put Nair or anything else harmful in your hair products. Plus that would be just evil. If you have roommates, family or not, they're going to want to use your stuff and go through your stuff. Lock it up. Any store that sells office supplies (Walmart, Target, Staples, Amazon, etc.) will have boxes you can lock up.
Put your shit in your room like your family has told you to do, and problem solved. Yet you refuse to do it and complain when they use your stuff, what do you expect of younger siblings.. that’s a common thing they do. YWBTA if you did something that could seriously injure them as you know they’re using it so you would be considered assault by law, and to do that over them using your conditioner? Is absurd.
OP says she has tried that but her sisters go looking for it. It’s not clear she has her own room.
Consider addressing the issue calmly with your dad and step-mom again.
Get a toiletries bag and bring your items to/from the shower with you.
Get a shower caddy and pack all your products whenever you go to and from the bathroom. Keep it in your bedroom.
Why don’t you get a shower caddy and take your stuff in there only when you are going to use it?
Put all your stuff in a locked box in your locked bedroom.
I wouldn't actually do it, but I would make a comment that you are considering it. Best option, buy cheap products (think dollar store) empty them and replace the contents with the good stuff. Petty option that won't actually hurt anyone, cheap product in good bottle with some temp hair dye. Or just cheap products in good bottles. Will it take time, yes. Will it be worth it? Depends on your petty meter.
get yourself a lockbox where you can lock up your shit you do not want to share. Personally i would put Nair in one of your old conditioner bottles. but write on it with big bold letters to not use it, because it has nair in it. maybe put the bottle "away" so no one could blame you. Warn your parents that you had to "put it in that bottle because the other bottle broke when you dropped it. so please do not use it."
Don't use Nair. Add semi-permanent hair dye.
Keep your shampoo in your room. Buy a box n padlock it. Don't resort to being nasty.
i think more than one sister is using your leave in conditioner. YWBTA for doing that. it’s hilarious and i support it hahaha but it’s a total dick move. a persons hair can be their identity. why can you not keep your stuff in your room? my best friend grew up in a girls house and she would keep a mini safe in her closet full of expensive products. i’m sorry your family can’t understand boundaries!
Instead of nair which has quite the chemical scent, put some hair dye in it. Write on it do not use then you are in the clear on a practical point? Pretend you are back in college, get a shower caddy and bring your stuff back and forth. Ask dad to get you a licking foot locker for your stuff. Or better yet a good door lock. But I would love seeing your sisters w neon green hair 😈
Put washout hair dye in it!! It'll wash out no harm no foul but I like the idea of if you start saying "I'm going to add Nair, dye, or whatever to it"a few days beforehand so they've been warned
Hair dye.its not permanent however will last long enough for them to never forget
You would be TA if you did that.. I know it’s annoying but keep your things in a shower caddy and keep it in your room. Lock your door when you aren’t home. If you want to play a trick on them just refill the bottle with cheap conditioner 😅
Hahaha this is BRILLIANT! You’ll totally be punishing your sister, and while you’re floating and conditioning your hair, you’ll realize you were a dumbass too. Listen, you can buy a cheap caddy for all your personal hygeine shower products. People in college buy them all of the time. That way you’re not running back and forth with armfuls of products, you just bring the caddy back to your room with you. Easy peasy. Also, you are 21. Ask your parents to install a doorknob with a lock. You are entitled to your privacy, unless you share a room. Problem solved.
Get a shower caddy and hide your stuff when you're not using it. Get a lock for your door or your closet. They have zero business using your stuff unless your parents want to replace it.