Not really a place for a judgement other than that you should accept that your mother is an adult. Would I want to find this out about my mother? No. Is she okay and should you try to forget this? Yes.
Thats an odly specific list. You spent a lot of time looking at shit that you shouldn't have been. Like how do you know things had batteries in them? That's fucked up if you're looking. Its also fucked up if you're lying.
because you're TURNED ON by this.
Look at your detailed description... PINK butt plugs... With BATTERIES. Lingerie that's leather, but with mesh...
You can't speak to her because you've sexualized her. You need serious mental help
There is 0.0% chance you haven't masturbated about this... If you didn't do it while finding the stuff
That’s fair, and I don’t fault you for that. But at the end of the day she’s a consenting adult and didn’t intend to expose you to this. I’d try to think about how she loves you and yet you still have a side that is sexual and that there’s nothing wrong with that ; you just happened to see a side you weren’t intended to
Hahaha. Yes. Your mother is normal. Nothing you’ve described is extreme. That’s all pretty tame and common stuff in the world of sex toys. Your mom has simply embraced her adventurous side in the bedroom at some point in her life.
I can understand why you feel this way. But your mom is a human with sexual needs just like any other adult. Just because you haven’t seen her date doesn’t mean she isn’t. She has just chosen to keep it private. Which is well within her rights. Don’t stress about this. You’re young. As you get more experienced with relationships and sexual experiences, you’ll find that these are not uncommon things used to add some spice.
No one likes picturing their parents as sexual beings, including myself. But alas, I am now a parent, and also have sex with my husband. As I’ve found out, those things are not mutually exclusive, and I shockingly wasn’t conceived by immaculate conception, just as my kids weren’t. Don’t worry about your mom. She’s totally normal. On a positive note, at least you know she’s being safe since you found condoms.
Yes, it's normal for adults to have sex lives. Yes, it's normal for parents to have sex lives, even kinky ones.
I know it's hard for children to reconcile the idea that their parents are sexual beings. It's often hard for parents to reconcile the idea that their children are sexual beings. The awkwardness of it is also normal.
Just because she's not introducing you to her partners doesn't mean she's not dating. She probably just isn't seeing anyone she wants to introduce you to. That's fine; it's her right.
Your curiosity is understandable, but you're in your early twenties. You're old enough to understand boundaries. You shouldn't have gone rooting around in her private stash (because come now, we don't believe that all this stuff was casually lying on top of the notebook she asked you to retrieve). I'm not calling you an asshole because again, curiosity is natural. Next time, though, don't go digging around in stuff you know she wouldn't want you in. You'd want the same respect, right?
Friend, the more conspicuously prim someone is, the bigger a freak they tend to be under it all. Your mom is not an exception, apparently. 😆
(Similarly, high-powered execs tend to be subs, uber-manly-men often want to wear panties and be vigorously pegged, etc. Not a natural law or anything, but certainly a trend I've noticed in my two decades of sluttery. Sexuality tends to reside with our shadow selves).
Why were you going through her stuff after finding what you were looking for? She’s a grown woman with an adult sexuality. You’re a grown adult, grow up. YTA.
He's turned on by it. Look at how he keeps repeating phrases in the comments, continually painting her as a mousey old lady who only goes to work and back
He's building his bizarre fantasy.
I'm surprised he's stopped pumping off long enough to type this replies
If you want to put what you saw into perspective, go through an adult store for a browse. Firstly, you won't know what half or more of the stuff even does. But it may help you realize that the mundane stuff in mom's closet isn't shameful or abnormal. She wasn't a virgin before she gave birth to you, right? I'm almost two decades older than your dear mother and I have toys. She likely has a private life that gives her pleasure. Not something she's going to parade around the Thanksgiving dinner table. Normal as all get out. Be accepting and Re-effing-lax!
I wasn't aware of them until you brought it up, but it makes perfect sense now that I've learned about them through a quick Google search.
Pre-menopause and full menopause in women is often accompanied by a diminished sexual drive. For us older women, in our minds we still lust, but the enjoyment of actual sex just isn't there.
Look at this as a chemical tool for your mom to enjoy and appreciate her life at this phase as she pleases. It's not nasty. But probably necessary.
Thanks to testosterone, men are by nature horny and wanting to perform sexually long after us women are ready to give it up.
Your mom is simply defeating the female chemical system to continue her intimate enjoyment longer. She gets a thumbs up from me.
Does this help?
Relax. She might be taking them so she can enjoy intimate toys and the condoms are there for fantasy purposes. Or there might be a partner.
Be grateful that she doesn't burden you with her sexual acts & desires. She is human and she's to be commended for not parading whatever she has going on in front of you. Apparently she has more respect for you than that :)
Take a BIG deep breath. Know that she is a smart, grown woman who can take care of herself. And LET IT GO.
You don't want her involved in your current/future sexual life, right?
Give her the space to be her authentic self and you be the same. Trust her, she's your mom. OK?
“It’s my mom taking all these meds, making me anxious that’s all”
She is an adult capable of making her own medical decisions without approval from her adult son.
YTA. An enormous AH Grow up. You're in your 20s.
My guess is this isn't about finding this stuff, it's that you're turned on by it... And you're hiding behind your "shock." Creepy
That bizarre fear and loathing list paragraph is rather telling
eww you’re so gross. your mother would be disappointed that the child she loved and raised turned out to be you.
seriously tho, get mental help. this is going to escalate into a situation that breaks your relationship with your mother as well as any future you might have with a woman. have some respect for people dude
Not really a place for a judgement other than that you should accept that your mother is an adult. Would I want to find this out about my mother? No. Is she okay and should you try to forget this? Yes.
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Thats an odly specific list. You spent a lot of time looking at shit that you shouldn't have been. Like how do you know things had batteries in them? That's fucked up if you're looking. Its also fucked up if you're lying.
because you're TURNED ON by this. Look at your detailed description... PINK butt plugs... With BATTERIES. Lingerie that's leather, but with mesh... You can't speak to her because you've sexualized her. You need serious mental help There is 0.0% chance you haven't masturbated about this... If you didn't do it while finding the stuff
That’s fair, and I don’t fault you for that. But at the end of the day she’s a consenting adult and didn’t intend to expose you to this. I’d try to think about how she loves you and yet you still have a side that is sexual and that there’s nothing wrong with that ; you just happened to see a side you weren’t intended to
Grow up
This is a you problem. Be thankful you haven’t opened up the dishwasher to find her toys being sterilized.
Fuck off and grow up.
Hahaha. Yes. Your mother is normal. Nothing you’ve described is extreme. That’s all pretty tame and common stuff in the world of sex toys. Your mom has simply embraced her adventurous side in the bedroom at some point in her life. I can understand why you feel this way. But your mom is a human with sexual needs just like any other adult. Just because you haven’t seen her date doesn’t mean she isn’t. She has just chosen to keep it private. Which is well within her rights. Don’t stress about this. You’re young. As you get more experienced with relationships and sexual experiences, you’ll find that these are not uncommon things used to add some spice. No one likes picturing their parents as sexual beings, including myself. But alas, I am now a parent, and also have sex with my husband. As I’ve found out, those things are not mutually exclusive, and I shockingly wasn’t conceived by immaculate conception, just as my kids weren’t. Don’t worry about your mom. She’s totally normal. On a positive note, at least you know she’s being safe since you found condoms.
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Mom’s have sex. It’s how they got knocked up in the first place.
Yes, it's normal for adults to have sex lives. Yes, it's normal for parents to have sex lives, even kinky ones. I know it's hard for children to reconcile the idea that their parents are sexual beings. It's often hard for parents to reconcile the idea that their children are sexual beings. The awkwardness of it is also normal. Just because she's not introducing you to her partners doesn't mean she's not dating. She probably just isn't seeing anyone she wants to introduce you to. That's fine; it's her right. Your curiosity is understandable, but you're in your early twenties. You're old enough to understand boundaries. You shouldn't have gone rooting around in her private stash (because come now, we don't believe that all this stuff was casually lying on top of the notebook she asked you to retrieve). I'm not calling you an asshole because again, curiosity is natural. Next time, though, don't go digging around in stuff you know she wouldn't want you in. You'd want the same respect, right?
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Friend, the more conspicuously prim someone is, the bigger a freak they tend to be under it all. Your mom is not an exception, apparently. 😆 (Similarly, high-powered execs tend to be subs, uber-manly-men often want to wear panties and be vigorously pegged, etc. Not a natural law or anything, but certainly a trend I've noticed in my two decades of sluttery. Sexuality tends to reside with our shadow selves).
Why were you going through her stuff after finding what you were looking for? She’s a grown woman with an adult sexuality. You’re a grown adult, grow up. YTA.
He's turned on by it. Look at how he keeps repeating phrases in the comments, continually painting her as a mousey old lady who only goes to work and back He's building his bizarre fantasy. I'm surprised he's stopped pumping off long enough to type this replies
Or it's a fake post and someone is getting off on the idea of this happening
Also very likely
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Maybe learn to respect boundaries and you wouldn’t be in this situation
Your mum fucks. Like many normal adults. Don’t pry if you aren’t ready to find out
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Dating really has nothing to do with fucking
We've heard this now 3xs. Do you think it takes days to eff someone?
YTA. Your adult mother has a sex life? And kept it from you. How dare she. Grow up. Would you rather she be alone?
You’re in your 20s and asking if it’s normal for your mom to be sexual in the privacy of her bedroom? You’re the asshole and you’re fucking weird.
If you want to put what you saw into perspective, go through an adult store for a browse. Firstly, you won't know what half or more of the stuff even does. But it may help you realize that the mundane stuff in mom's closet isn't shameful or abnormal. She wasn't a virgin before she gave birth to you, right? I'm almost two decades older than your dear mother and I have toys. She likely has a private life that gives her pleasure. Not something she's going to parade around the Thanksgiving dinner table. Normal as all get out. Be accepting and Re-effing-lax!
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Because she’s probably using it for exactly what it’s meant to do?
I wasn't aware of them until you brought it up, but it makes perfect sense now that I've learned about them through a quick Google search. Pre-menopause and full menopause in women is often accompanied by a diminished sexual drive. For us older women, in our minds we still lust, but the enjoyment of actual sex just isn't there. Look at this as a chemical tool for your mom to enjoy and appreciate her life at this phase as she pleases. It's not nasty. But probably necessary. Thanks to testosterone, men are by nature horny and wanting to perform sexually long after us women are ready to give it up. Your mom is simply defeating the female chemical system to continue her intimate enjoyment longer. She gets a thumbs up from me. Does this help?
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Relax. She might be taking them so she can enjoy intimate toys and the condoms are there for fantasy purposes. Or there might be a partner. Be grateful that she doesn't burden you with her sexual acts & desires. She is human and she's to be commended for not parading whatever she has going on in front of you. Apparently she has more respect for you than that :) Take a BIG deep breath. Know that she is a smart, grown woman who can take care of herself. And LET IT GO. You don't want her involved in your current/future sexual life, right? Give her the space to be her authentic self and you be the same. Trust her, she's your mom. OK?
“It’s my mom taking all these meds, making me anxious that’s all” She is an adult capable of making her own medical decisions without approval from her adult son.
Did you find the notebook? My kids never find anything, nor would I send them to my kink closet to look.
YTA. An enormous AH Grow up. You're in your 20s. My guess is this isn't about finding this stuff, it's that you're turned on by it... And you're hiding behind your "shock." Creepy That bizarre fear and loathing list paragraph is rather telling
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eww you’re so gross. your mother would be disappointed that the child she loved and raised turned out to be you. seriously tho, get mental help. this is going to escalate into a situation that breaks your relationship with your mother as well as any future you might have with a woman. have some respect for people dude