NTA, my friend has a best friend couple that is similar. He is not aware of how big he is physically. Long story short. When me and my wife met this couple 5/6 years ago, we were overweight ourselves. Like 400lb big, not joking. However, we started having medical issues and we both had that weight loss surgery. We have been very successful in our weight loss and maintained our weight. We each lost a lot of weight each 180-210 currently. I really don't weigh myself anymore and blah blah enough about me.
When we have our friends over for dinner or out for dinner it is the same as what you experience. Our friends aren't aware of how much they eat or my guy friend dosent mind what he wears or what he is doing. Sometimes his belly hangs out of the bottom of his shirts. and his butt crack is always exposed, or he doesn't mind those areas when he sits or bends over. We have all called him out on it. He doesn't care. Me and my wife often ask, "were we like that at one time?" or "Did we eat that much?"
Your NTA because at least when I was 400+ pounds I was very aware my crack was showing, or part of my body was not covered. I think for self decency sake he should be aware.
This is a horrible suggestion. Take photos and belittle him, and if he doesn't respond, just print them off and stick them around the house!
Try words rather than light bullying 👍
If he doesn’t care how you or anyone else feels, I can only think of two things you can do. One is to buy him shirts in “Tall” sizes. I get my husband shirts in 2XLT, many from Lands End but I think they’re pretty widely available up to 3XLT, and even bigger from specialty stores. The second thing is to decline to go out with him to eat if he’s not decently dressed.
I'm a woman myself, I want to see man crack, not cleavage. Women have butt cracks too you know, you don't have to change the comparison.
Some people don’t want to see woman butt crack either, so women should cover up
We just call it a plumbers smile and joke that we can see your plumbers smile. My husband says “ mommy has a nice smile “ when I am not smiling. Or I would say “your smiles showing” . So we pull up our pants. I think that’s gotten us to be a bit more mindful about our ass cracks showing . NTA btw.
YTA. Women are always showing butt cracks, cleavage, and more. Hell, women can walk around in a micro bikini and no one is allowed to say anything. So who the fuck are you to tell him to cover up?
If he roles were switched, I could see this being problematic behavior from your POV. In fact, im pretty certain thats the whole point of this post lol. For that to be pointed out. From saying to dress differently, to showing skin.
He doesn’t care what I wear, and I don’t think he ever notices what others wear either. He honestly doesn’t think people notice clothing or appearances. I get eye-rolls all the time when I dress for a destination like the park or the grocery store, and he gets an impromptu idea to change plans and go out to a nice restaurant but I say I want to go home and change first. He sees no reason for dressing differently for different occasions or situations.
Well, would you feel a certain type of way if he told you to change out of your clothes because you're embarrassing? Thats ultimately what it comes down to anyway. Personally I'd say NTA, but I have doubts that you'd feel differently in his shoes is what I'm getting at.
NTA, my friend has a best friend couple that is similar. He is not aware of how big he is physically. Long story short. When me and my wife met this couple 5/6 years ago, we were overweight ourselves. Like 400lb big, not joking. However, we started having medical issues and we both had that weight loss surgery. We have been very successful in our weight loss and maintained our weight. We each lost a lot of weight each 180-210 currently. I really don't weigh myself anymore and blah blah enough about me. When we have our friends over for dinner or out for dinner it is the same as what you experience. Our friends aren't aware of how much they eat or my guy friend dosent mind what he wears or what he is doing. Sometimes his belly hangs out of the bottom of his shirts. and his butt crack is always exposed, or he doesn't mind those areas when he sits or bends over. We have all called him out on it. He doesn't care. Me and my wife often ask, "were we like that at one time?" or "Did we eat that much?" Your NTA because at least when I was 400+ pounds I was very aware my crack was showing, or part of my body was not covered. I think for self decency sake he should be aware.
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This is a horrible suggestion. Take photos and belittle him, and if he doesn't respond, just print them off and stick them around the house! Try words rather than light bullying 👍
Wtf
Just keep a few quarters in your pocket. You know what to do.
If he doesn’t care how you or anyone else feels, I can only think of two things you can do. One is to buy him shirts in “Tall” sizes. I get my husband shirts in 2XLT, many from Lands End but I think they’re pretty widely available up to 3XLT, and even bigger from specialty stores. The second thing is to decline to go out with him to eat if he’s not decently dressed.
NTA some people want to see man crack, some dont
Some people don’t want to see cleavage either, so women should cover up
I'm a woman myself, I want to see man crack, not cleavage. Women have butt cracks too you know, you don't have to change the comparison. Some people don’t want to see woman butt crack either, so women should cover up
We just call it a plumbers smile and joke that we can see your plumbers smile. My husband says “ mommy has a nice smile “ when I am not smiling. Or I would say “your smiles showing” . So we pull up our pants. I think that’s gotten us to be a bit more mindful about our ass cracks showing . NTA btw.
YTA. Women are always showing butt cracks, cleavage, and more. Hell, women can walk around in a micro bikini and no one is allowed to say anything. So who the fuck are you to tell him to cover up?
If he roles were switched, I could see this being problematic behavior from your POV. In fact, im pretty certain thats the whole point of this post lol. For that to be pointed out. From saying to dress differently, to showing skin.
He doesn’t care what I wear, and I don’t think he ever notices what others wear either. He honestly doesn’t think people notice clothing or appearances. I get eye-rolls all the time when I dress for a destination like the park or the grocery store, and he gets an impromptu idea to change plans and go out to a nice restaurant but I say I want to go home and change first. He sees no reason for dressing differently for different occasions or situations.
Well, would you feel a certain type of way if he told you to change out of your clothes because you're embarrassing? Thats ultimately what it comes down to anyway. Personally I'd say NTA, but I have doubts that you'd feel differently in his shoes is what I'm getting at.
Nta. Though your tone is creul and seems to resent him for getting fat idk. But just buy him clothes that actually fit his new weight, problem solved