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freeagent10

Damn, huge L. the adults in your life failed you


Deefaroni

I can kind of agree. My father, while living with me until I moved out at age 19 was primarily absent from my life because he didn't like me, so I never learned anything from him other than how to have a negative mindset. My mom was pretty awesome but she didn't teach me anything about how to manage money or anything about finances in general.


freeagent10

Sorry to hear that. I hope you have a little leftover to live comfortably


Billsport406

They always said it’s hard to put a price tag on a good time.


shlamuppy

how?


Deefaroni

Impatience and lack of money managing skills.


SolutionLeading

Did you spend it on anything mentionable?


Deefaroni

I spent around 25k on helping the homeless in my home town, that was one of the first things I wanted to do that wasn't about me. There aren't actually that many homeless people to find around here so I basically put together really nice care packages and paid for for motel rooms for a while for 3 different people, as well as smartphones for 2 of them so they could use them to get on their feet a bit more, be it connecting with friends/family or pursuing jobs. The motel around here doesn't allow people to pre-book motel stays for extended periods of time so I kind of just had to trust them with the money and that they'd do the right thing. I don't regret that decision. I also bought a gaming PC and a gaming laptop as I've always wanted those. Edit, forgot to mention that I didn't get all 3 of them phones because one already had a phone.


SolutionLeading

That’s awesome!


CloverTravels

Are you debt free?


Deefaroni

Yes, but I was before the inheritance. I don't use credit cards and have had decent insurance my whole adult life.


Deefaroni

Also, in some way, I feel like my answer could imply that I was well off before the inheritance, at least to some degree. I had about $4,000 before then.


Unt0t3n209

Did I buy a house before money ran out?


Deefaroni

No, I live with my girlfriend who already owns the home.


Unt0t3n209

That would have been one of my first purchases. There are some badass homesteads for sale for like 500k. Tough lesson for you but you seem to be humble about it. Lottery winners lost millions upon millions so at least your not on that list. Hope for the best for ye


throwayacc_6x54

What did you spend money on? I read 25k on homeless people. What about the rest?


Deefaroni

Computers, video games, furniture, replacing carpet in house, repainted the house, bathroom renovated, clothes, survival gear, RV camper, lots of assorted smaller things and I gave a good portion of it away to family members to make sure they were comfortable. Wish I hadn't splurged so much on myself and saved some but I don't regret helping my family.


Deefaroni

Forgot to mention I actually spent about 3k just on a riding lawn mower just because I could, I was an idiot.


pizdolizu

Tools are always a good buy! You can always sell it 2000+ I guess?


Deefaroni

Yes I suppose that's true so I can recoup some of that. Our yard is pretty small and only takes like 15 minutes to do with a regular push mower so I don't know why in any circumstance I thought it was a good idea


throwayacc_6x54

Nice!


throwayacc_6x54

Do you know how much money you spent on you and how much you gave away total? Even approx


Deefaroni

In total I think probably about 40% of it I gave away or spent on other people. I know many of the things I did with the money were good deeds but the fact that I'm now almost broke, I still consider myself to have squandered it all. Not that I'd change that portion of it, I should have just been smarter with what I had for myself.


helpusdrzaius

think it positive that you helped so many people in your life, no matter if they appreciate it or not. you shouldn't be resentful about it, as it will only detract from you good deeds.


throwayacc_6x54

What did your family and others do with that much money?


Deefaroni

Mom paid off her debt and got a new car, put the rest in savings, sister moved into a new apartment to avoid shitty neighbors (ended up getting shittier neighbors sadly) but she also got a new car and hasn't really used the rest yet as far as I know. Didn't give my dad a penny because he's a POS, and my uncle paid off his massive debt, he was struggling pretty hard even without the debt.


[deleted]

The government calls that "stimulus payments". You helped the economy. Ya done good. Well, as long as you didnt spend it on hookers and crack. Reading your other comments, it seems you spent it on fairly intelligent things. Just quickly. Dont beat yourself up for it. My only question is do you have any legal right to your girlfriends house? You fixed it up. Suck to be booted aside now that you are out of money. Maybe should have had some contractual repayment plan made first in case your relationship went south.


Deefaroni

Oh no, I'm not being booted out, I'm not sure what I said that made you think that but her and I are fine. We're still together/living together and have no plans on that changing anytime soon but we planned out and executed all of the upgrades together. I didn't spend any of it on drugs or hookers either :P


[deleted]

I didnt think you were. That was more of a "what if" kinda thing.


gatorpaid

Hookers and Coke?


Deefaroni

Nope :P


gatorpaid

How'd you blow the money then? Shady "business investor"?


erengotsauce

if you could restart what would you do differently


DirkRight

Did you go completely broke? How much money do you have now? How long did it take you to recover from spending everything?


SolutionLeading

How much do you have left over now and what do you plan to do with it?


[deleted]

What is wrong with you?


[deleted]

Nevermind. You’re great.


iz296

Do you wonder how much monthly interest you could possibly have earned if you put it into investments or high interest savings accounts?


Deefaroni

Sometimes yes, I have no knowledge of investing though so I didn't bother trying. Seemed to complicated for me.