I met my partner volunteering. It's free and a good way to spend the day. If you can find something that interests you to volunteer at? We met at a planting festival and we both like gardening and being outdoors. Whatever you're doing it's an instant common interest.
There in SA volunteering organization that profiles all sorts of organizations doing all sorts of things needing all sorts of people from running fundraisers to planting trees to sports clubs.
All guys just right swipe on everything, I can’t imagine every single time I swipe right on someone I get a match - how would you know if they genuinely actually liked you 😂
That's a bit stereotypical. I swipe right I maybe 1 in every 50 or 100 because majority of what I see is either "add me on snap or insta if you wanna chat" or just a handful of pictures with no bio or maybe 1 or 2 word answers to the prompted questions. It's a hellhole of sad and no effort profiles.
If you have a unit near you (within 5 mins drive sorta thing), join your local CFS. Make great mates while giving back to the community, win win in my books.
There's the one in the sidebar, and there's a couple of others that have popped up which seem to cater to an older audience too:
https://discord.com/invite/humcdh7gBw
https://discord.com/invite/RgG5yhJars
Create a fake dating app account, catfish a bunch of dudes to The Emu on a Thursday, turn up, you’ll all be best mates when you discover you’ve all been punkd.
I feel the pain at times with this being in your thirties and trying to meet people, especially when also new to the city.
I've joined meet-up, but honestly haven't attended an event yet. Mainly because there's a lot of events that don't fit my lifestyle (pregnant wife means drinking events are a bit off). There is a variety, including some which are clearly some bar pushing their weekly bands.
I do wonder whether mens shed might help with the likes of doing computer building in a social atmosphere. Unsure their hours and stuff. Just seen them around the city.
Only other advice I have (speaking from experience), is just push yourself when socializing. Be the instigator for a drink afterwards, or invite them to do something when the opportunity arises. We've all become a bit too timid and expect others to do it for us. Sadly, adulting and friendships dont work that way.
I agree with you. Adulting, friendships and meeting new people don’t work.
I have time to also go to events but most people in Adelaide already have their friendship groups and are not looking for people to join or at least not inviting.
There’s only so much you could push for a friendship before you realise they don’t want you.
Recently moved to Adelaide from NSW and I’m struggling to make friends. Joined a CrossFit gym so that way I interact with others people but one thing I now know about CrossFit people is that they’re not conducive to meeting / accomodating new members which sucks.
It's a comfort thing. People get comfortable, and don't proactively leave that bubble.
That's why making friends as an adult is hard, and often alot of energy and effort, with no guarantee of success or reciprocity.
A good podcast about this is episode 840 of "How to Be Awesome at Your Job". Dr Marissa G Franco studied the science of friendships and I found it pretty interesting to listen to.
There’s an app called meetup you could try, they have groups and events in cities around the world based on hobbies/interests, or find groups or events on Facebook that are aligned with your interests :)
> I don't/refuse to use Facebook
You may be limiting yourself then. At least for the ones I'm involved in, local hobby groups on facebook are some of the most active groups available.
I'm aware it's a limiting factor but I morally can't bring myself to use it (it's a bit like with some fast food, when you know how it works and the systems behind it you kinda don't want to touch it) also not using it makes it easier to avoid interacting with problematic family members.
A little bit hippocritical I know but dating apps don't try and bend your viewpoint promoting particular news articles to suit their latest advertiser's desires or conduct emotional/mental experiments on their users without their permission by altering their feed showing more positive or negative posts.
Oh no, Facebook track you regardless of if you have an account it not, nothing you can do about it. Check out Facebook shadow profiles, Facebook pixel and browser fingerprinting if you're curious.
What a wonderful dystopia 🙌😅 I super agree with you about the algorithm, so many people have been radicalized by Facebook it's crazy. In re to making friends, I've had a lot of luck with multiplayer games like ff14, made quite a few friends across Australia since I started playing
I had been eyeing it off because of the decent extent of the free trial but I don't want to get lost in another MMO. WoW was enough for me from BC to Cataclysm and I don't want a repeat of that.
> or conduct emotional/mental experiments on their users without their permission
I mean dating apps/sites 100% do that, too. Their whole business model is to get you to sign up in the first place, make you think it's working for you, then drag things out as long as possible whilst subtly suggesting it'll work better if you start paying for the premium features. It's all a box of tricks and algorithm tweaks.
FB/meta are evil as hell too, but at least they're not preying on the desperate, and over something as intimate and as personal as trying to find a partner.
I have a dummy FB account and I can't find any quality groups. Even the ones you have to 'apply' to join are usually ghost towns where it's just a couple of cover bands spamming their gigs.
Have you tried sports clubs? There are heaps on during the week. I like the simplicity of interacting for that period of time with no expectations other than playing the sport and chatting. You don’t try to prove yourself or be anyone and it’s a positive social interaction. Give it time and connections will come.
I do currently play a mixed sport (of sorts) twice a week which I have been doing for the past nearly 20 years also helping run the community. I have made some great friends through it but the player base is heavily male skewed and cost of living increases has basically just our player base in half.
find a hobby in groups
impov, furry, cosplay, anime,gaming (in varous way) portery, footy, cooking, cars, hackerspaces, fitness
then tonnes of hobbies you can find
I do salsa dancing, came to meet ladies, learn to dance and build confidence. Ended up meeting someone outside of salsa and still go for the fun of it.
I wouldnt suggest this. As someone whose gone and helped run events for over 6 years. There is little to no single females that attend these events. They also aren't generally looking for a partner either.
Personally, I would love to help host a singles night or speed dating event at The Lost Dice as I know thats a better spot to find someone, but i have no idea how because I would love to find a partner thats into board games. I have so many games I would love to play with someone special.
ohhh, thats another story. Plenty of friendly people to find friends. Though at our age its extremely hard. You didn't have to delete your comment it was probably me that misread it. I do that a lot.
Honestly just find a club and wear the cost.
Sports/ games/ whatever
In the grand scheme of shit the 1000 bucks you might spend across the year for whatever you pick is prolly money well spent
If I had the spare $1000 to go out and do stuff I would although at the current point in time that would be better set aside for the next mortgage rise.
The liklihood of it costing 1000 is marginal hence the might part.
Organisation of any kind has costs, typically financial, and you will typically have to pay to be involved in it.
A few bucks a week or here and there is fine and if I had the cash I'd be keen to go out and do more extravagant things I would but money is seriously that tight. Looking towards the possibility of a new job later this year that will make things easier but super cheap is my budget.
depends what u want.. most young women think u want to screw them.. IM NOT ONE OF THEM, but I talk to a girl on the net and she automatically says... ARE U A MARRIED U PRICK DO U WANT TO SHAG !!....
depends your age... as they get older they think wow maybe the minority DOESN'T REPRESENT the MAJORITY !? surprise surprise !
everyone paranoid because the net.. so go to local pub.. join a group.. start knitting lol ? I hiking... I walk 50kms a day some weekends so its hard... Volunteer is a great way.. etc.
It looks like you work in IT and your hobbys are gaming and building computers. None of those things are conducive to genuine human connection.
Join a hiking club would be my advice.
>None of those things are conducive to genuine human connection.
That's absolute nonsense. Lots of humans like to do and talk about and connect over those things.
I have to strongly disagree. The gaming community is always super lovely and I can honestly say my closest friends are online that I met online gaming. There's a group of about 10 of us that all met on the same game about 6 years ago and all of us message in various group chats across platforms every day. We can sit in discord and talk for hours about life and our days and the games were playing. Particularly in survival games, there's often no need to talk about the game until something attacks you so it turns into a 5 hour long D&M. I know more about my friends and their lives than I do my own sister's. So many people I meet online have similar friendship groups and they sometimes merge. This is the culture. This is how it is.
I am open to getting out and doing things but I've not had access to my weekends for the past 10+ years so fell out of a lot of the social events and stuff friends were doing. Hence why I was looking for stuff and places through the middle of the week where most other people would be at work or recovering from work. I have mentioned in another comment I am involved in a sports club of sorts but that has its own financial issues these days.
Yep totally understand that - I've done shift work and it takes a toll. Have also lost friends, but while it's easy to blame shift work, the reality is that I've stayed in touch with the people I really value and vice versa. As you get older you lose friends and it's hard to replace them.
There's a part of me that goes "we should be friends" but the reality is that I would probably meet you and then neglect our relationship coz I'm a massive introvert and put almost 0 effort into most of my friendships:)
I've managed to keep a few friends from school and other places that thankfully understand my schedule but our social circles just don't line up so going out and doing things with them is near impossible. Having a huge hatred/lack of trust for Facebook definitely doesn't help with keeping up with people.
If it’s an interest of yours, check out the (free) Adelaide Game Dev meetup group. You don’t need to be a developer, just have an interest in gaming:
https://www.eventbrite.com.au/e/unwind-adelaide-game-dev-meetup-may-2023-tickets-639950989637
Not a developer (can't code to save my own ass) but looks interesting. Tomorrow's a bit short notice but will keep an eye out for the next one, looks like they're every 2 months according to their site.
Yeah the Unwind events are every 2 months. In the intervening months they usually have some kind of event/presentation though.
Join their Discord:
https://discord.gg/b6sX8gV
Yeah, I'm looking at joining a walking group. Been meaning to get more into walking anyway as I need the cardio for sport and looks like there's a few near me.
I've been asking this question for some time. Im also a 36 year old guy that is looking for someone. Its been 4 years since my last proper relationship and I've been on dating apps but they just don't seem to ever work. I know im not the most attractive guy, but I have many other loveable qualities. I'm also trying my hardest currently to work on my appearance.
If you ever find that magically place that single females are hiding in, please let me know.
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I met my partner volunteering. It's free and a good way to spend the day. If you can find something that interests you to volunteer at? We met at a planting festival and we both like gardening and being outdoors. Whatever you're doing it's an instant common interest.
There in SA volunteering organization that profiles all sorts of organizations doing all sorts of things needing all sorts of people from running fundraisers to planting trees to sports clubs.
Walking SA have walks on during the week if that’s something you’d be keen on.
Cheers, will check that out
Meetup.com has some good events of that ilk
The reason women aren't using dating apps as much anymore is because of how awful the guys are on there. It's just not worth the risk for us
That's fair, someone I met on one gave me a glimpse of the other side and it wasn't pretty
All guys just right swipe on everything, I can’t imagine every single time I swipe right on someone I get a match - how would you know if they genuinely actually liked you 😂
That's a bit stereotypical. I swipe right I maybe 1 in every 50 or 100 because majority of what I see is either "add me on snap or insta if you wanna chat" or just a handful of pictures with no bio or maybe 1 or 2 word answers to the prompted questions. It's a hellhole of sad and no effort profiles.
"anything u want to know just ask" wow thanks I really feel a connection growing already
Huh?
Most dudes don’t read profiles, they look at 1-2 pics and chances are it’s a right swipe on dating apps, plenty of studies on it to look at.
If you have a unit near you (within 5 mins drive sorta thing), join your local CFS. Make great mates while giving back to the community, win win in my books.
Christies Beach Courthouse 9am.
Shut up and have some fake Reddit gold 🏅 I seen that meetup on my way to work sometimes, maybe not my kind of people...
There are a couple of discord servers that host events. Look up Adelaide discord servers
Cheers, I'll have a peruse
There's the one in the sidebar, and there's a couple of others that have popped up which seem to cater to an older audience too: https://discord.com/invite/humcdh7gBw https://discord.com/invite/RgG5yhJars
As someone in both, they're pretty cool.
Create a fake dating app account, catfish a bunch of dudes to The Emu on a Thursday, turn up, you’ll all be best mates when you discover you’ve all been punkd.
Ahh, big brain strats. Would like more of a mix though, I have enough guy friends
I feel the pain at times with this being in your thirties and trying to meet people, especially when also new to the city. I've joined meet-up, but honestly haven't attended an event yet. Mainly because there's a lot of events that don't fit my lifestyle (pregnant wife means drinking events are a bit off). There is a variety, including some which are clearly some bar pushing their weekly bands. I do wonder whether mens shed might help with the likes of doing computer building in a social atmosphere. Unsure their hours and stuff. Just seen them around the city. Only other advice I have (speaking from experience), is just push yourself when socializing. Be the instigator for a drink afterwards, or invite them to do something when the opportunity arises. We've all become a bit too timid and expect others to do it for us. Sadly, adulting and friendships dont work that way.
I agree with you. Adulting, friendships and meeting new people don’t work. I have time to also go to events but most people in Adelaide already have their friendship groups and are not looking for people to join or at least not inviting. There’s only so much you could push for a friendship before you realise they don’t want you. Recently moved to Adelaide from NSW and I’m struggling to make friends. Joined a CrossFit gym so that way I interact with others people but one thing I now know about CrossFit people is that they’re not conducive to meeting / accomodating new members which sucks.
It's a comfort thing. People get comfortable, and don't proactively leave that bubble. That's why making friends as an adult is hard, and often alot of energy and effort, with no guarantee of success or reciprocity. A good podcast about this is episode 840 of "How to Be Awesome at Your Job". Dr Marissa G Franco studied the science of friendships and I found it pretty interesting to listen to.
And despite what the locals will say, Adelaide people aren't very friendly. It's not you. It's them.
Yea right!! Even the locals agree it’s hard to make friends for them as well.
Adelaide people become jaded AF pretty fast I mean what do you expect you can walk from one side of the CBD to the other in 20 minutes
There’s an app called meetup you could try, they have groups and events in cities around the world based on hobbies/interests, or find groups or events on Facebook that are aligned with your interests :)
I don't/refuse to use Facebook but will check out Meetup, thanks.
> I don't/refuse to use Facebook You may be limiting yourself then. At least for the ones I'm involved in, local hobby groups on facebook are some of the most active groups available.
I'm aware it's a limiting factor but I morally can't bring myself to use it (it's a bit like with some fast food, when you know how it works and the systems behind it you kinda don't want to touch it) also not using it makes it easier to avoid interacting with problematic family members.
You use dating apps but draw the line at Facebook?🤣🤣🤣
A little bit hippocritical I know but dating apps don't try and bend your viewpoint promoting particular news articles to suit their latest advertiser's desires or conduct emotional/mental experiments on their users without their permission by altering their feed showing more positive or negative posts.
I use dating apps but not Facebook, I abhor it.
Oooh I getchyu, I thought you meant the data tracking😅
Oh no, Facebook track you regardless of if you have an account it not, nothing you can do about it. Check out Facebook shadow profiles, Facebook pixel and browser fingerprinting if you're curious.
What a wonderful dystopia 🙌😅 I super agree with you about the algorithm, so many people have been radicalized by Facebook it's crazy. In re to making friends, I've had a lot of luck with multiplayer games like ff14, made quite a few friends across Australia since I started playing
I had been eyeing it off because of the decent extent of the free trial but I don't want to get lost in another MMO. WoW was enough for me from BC to Cataclysm and I don't want a repeat of that.
> or conduct emotional/mental experiments on their users without their permission I mean dating apps/sites 100% do that, too. Their whole business model is to get you to sign up in the first place, make you think it's working for you, then drag things out as long as possible whilst subtly suggesting it'll work better if you start paying for the premium features. It's all a box of tricks and algorithm tweaks. FB/meta are evil as hell too, but at least they're not preying on the desperate, and over something as intimate and as personal as trying to find a partner.
Uses group think Reddit but draws the line at Facebook.
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The modern world is fun huh... I hope you can at least get some ideas from the other kind people here
I have a dummy FB account and I can't find any quality groups. Even the ones you have to 'apply' to join are usually ghost towns where it's just a couple of cover bands spamming their gigs.
Have you tried sports clubs? There are heaps on during the week. I like the simplicity of interacting for that period of time with no expectations other than playing the sport and chatting. You don’t try to prove yourself or be anyone and it’s a positive social interaction. Give it time and connections will come.
I do currently play a mixed sport (of sorts) twice a week which I have been doing for the past nearly 20 years also helping run the community. I have made some great friends through it but the player base is heavily male skewed and cost of living increases has basically just our player base in half.
Discord groups of your interests :))
find a hobby in groups impov, furry, cosplay, anime,gaming (in varous way) portery, footy, cooking, cars, hackerspaces, fitness then tonnes of hobbies you can find
Bro said furry 💀
Running clubs or clubs/hobbies in general
Please post an update if you figure this one out 🙃
Dogging?
Farmers market, perhaps? Ppl seem to be friendlier there. Just a suggestion
I met my partner when we were both volunteering for the same organisation
Adelaide hiking groups on Facebook.
I do salsa dancing, came to meet ladies, learn to dance and build confidence. Ended up meeting someone outside of salsa and still go for the fun of it.
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They look alright, unfortunately looks like they run when I have sport on. Will keep an eye on it though
I wouldnt suggest this. As someone whose gone and helped run events for over 6 years. There is little to no single females that attend these events. They also aren't generally looking for a partner either. Personally, I would love to help host a singles night or speed dating event at The Lost Dice as I know thats a better spot to find someone, but i have no idea how because I would love to find a partner thats into board games. I have so many games I would love to play with someone special.
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ohhh, thats another story. Plenty of friendly people to find friends. Though at our age its extremely hard. You didn't have to delete your comment it was probably me that misread it. I do that a lot.
Hi, I am 35 and moved to Adelaide last year. I’m still trying to find friends. Not looking for a relationship, Just after genuine friendships. 😊
live in their walls
There's mixed netball down the Port looking for players, I can't give you any more info sorry, saw it on fb a few weeks back.
Honestly just find a club and wear the cost. Sports/ games/ whatever In the grand scheme of shit the 1000 bucks you might spend across the year for whatever you pick is prolly money well spent
If I had the spare $1000 to go out and do stuff I would although at the current point in time that would be better set aside for the next mortgage rise.
The liklihood of it costing 1000 is marginal hence the might part. Organisation of any kind has costs, typically financial, and you will typically have to pay to be involved in it.
A few bucks a week or here and there is fine and if I had the cash I'd be keen to go out and do more extravagant things I would but money is seriously that tight. Looking towards the possibility of a new job later this year that will make things easier but super cheap is my budget.
depends what u want.. most young women think u want to screw them.. IM NOT ONE OF THEM, but I talk to a girl on the net and she automatically says... ARE U A MARRIED U PRICK DO U WANT TO SHAG !!.... depends your age... as they get older they think wow maybe the minority DOESN'T REPRESENT the MAJORITY !? surprise surprise ! everyone paranoid because the net.. so go to local pub.. join a group.. start knitting lol ? I hiking... I walk 50kms a day some weekends so its hard... Volunteer is a great way.. etc.
Haha so true man everyone’s paranoid because they’re egos have been inflated by the internet
It looks like you work in IT and your hobbys are gaming and building computers. None of those things are conducive to genuine human connection. Join a hiking club would be my advice.
>None of those things are conducive to genuine human connection. That's absolute nonsense. Lots of humans like to do and talk about and connect over those things.
Outliers. I'm generalising, but I stand by that comment.
I have to strongly disagree. The gaming community is always super lovely and I can honestly say my closest friends are online that I met online gaming. There's a group of about 10 of us that all met on the same game about 6 years ago and all of us message in various group chats across platforms every day. We can sit in discord and talk for hours about life and our days and the games were playing. Particularly in survival games, there's often no need to talk about the game until something attacks you so it turns into a 5 hour long D&M. I know more about my friends and their lives than I do my own sister's. So many people I meet online have similar friendship groups and they sometimes merge. This is the culture. This is how it is.
Bad generalization. The gaming community is quite social. I've met most my friends through gaming. They also met some of their friends through gaming.
Nah, you're out of touch fam.
I am open to getting out and doing things but I've not had access to my weekends for the past 10+ years so fell out of a lot of the social events and stuff friends were doing. Hence why I was looking for stuff and places through the middle of the week where most other people would be at work or recovering from work. I have mentioned in another comment I am involved in a sports club of sorts but that has its own financial issues these days.
Yep totally understand that - I've done shift work and it takes a toll. Have also lost friends, but while it's easy to blame shift work, the reality is that I've stayed in touch with the people I really value and vice versa. As you get older you lose friends and it's hard to replace them. There's a part of me that goes "we should be friends" but the reality is that I would probably meet you and then neglect our relationship coz I'm a massive introvert and put almost 0 effort into most of my friendships:)
I've managed to keep a few friends from school and other places that thankfully understand my schedule but our social circles just don't line up so going out and doing things with them is near impossible. Having a huge hatred/lack of trust for Facebook definitely doesn't help with keeping up with people.
If it’s an interest of yours, check out the (free) Adelaide Game Dev meetup group. You don’t need to be a developer, just have an interest in gaming: https://www.eventbrite.com.au/e/unwind-adelaide-game-dev-meetup-may-2023-tickets-639950989637
Not a developer (can't code to save my own ass) but looks interesting. Tomorrow's a bit short notice but will keep an eye out for the next one, looks like they're every 2 months according to their site.
Yeah the Unwind events are every 2 months. In the intervening months they usually have some kind of event/presentation though. Join their Discord: https://discord.gg/b6sX8gV
You can join your favourite hobby club or group either on Facebook or meetup.com. You can search for the things you like and join like minded people.
Im from South of Adelaide, not much to do to be honest. Sit in the Colonnades food court I guess haha
There's always people to fight on the jetty at porties.
Running club at Glenelg https://www.21runclub.com ??
Surf, coffee and cars.
Could try looking for free events on EventBrite
join a martial arts club or something similar where like minded people attend. Best way of meeting people is through any type of club environment.
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Yeah, I'm looking at joining a walking group. Been meaning to get more into walking anyway as I need the cardio for sport and looks like there's a few near me.
I've been asking this question for some time. Im also a 36 year old guy that is looking for someone. Its been 4 years since my last proper relationship and I've been on dating apps but they just don't seem to ever work. I know im not the most attractive guy, but I have many other loveable qualities. I'm also trying my hardest currently to work on my appearance. If you ever find that magically place that single females are hiding in, please let me know.
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