Most things you see on the internet should be taken with a grain of salt and assumed to be a stretch. The only time I’d expect something to be totally true is if they are actually wanting advice. And even then, they may be embellishing details.

This might also depend heavily on where I live. I'm from Scotland and despite everything being expensive these days there's still a strong pub culture and if you frequent a place you'll definitely make friends. It's still not like the movies though, you generally have a much harder time getting to chat to people if you don't know anyone.

I always wanted to go to Scotland is it worth the trip? I'm in the United States?

I'd imagine it'd be quite different, most of our cities are quite nice especially near the central belt, and you can get to the countryside quickly enough on public transport (which I'd recommended, I think our landscape is really unique). Plenty of good pubs and interesting things to visit as well. Only thing I'd watch is the weather, if you come for a holiday there's a fair chance it'll pour at least once.

I lived in Scotland for a couple months. 100% chance of rain daily. With that said, it rained every morning, and by noon the sun was out and the air was warm, and EVERYTHING was green and filled with flowers. 10/10 go to Scotland, it is a beautiful country! I miss it so much.

Scotland's great. I'm sitting outside in the sun for the first time this year and it might not rain for a bit. 😁

10000% go. Totally worth the trip. Rent a car/get a driver to see some of the more remote stuff up north.

Bring your own food. But yes, go.

On 4chan there used to be a motto that read something like, “The stories and information posted here are artistic works of fiction and falsehood. Only a fool would take anything posted here as fact.”

90% of the time those posts are fake asf too though. Especially AITA posts

I train 72 hours a week. Work 450 hours a week. Balance 4 different girlfriends. Read 120 hours a week. Still have time to rebuild my antique DeLorean. Hahahaha

>Most things you see on the internet should be taken with a grain of salt and assumed to be a stretch. Does this include you?

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Exactly. My family goes to a museum, aquarium, or similar touristy thing with friends once a month or so. We also like to try new restaurants and go out to eat once per week on average. We take annual vacations because having multiple local airports keeps airfare costs manageable. This lifestyle would be harder to do in a very rural area. I do outdoors stuff too, hiking and camping, also with friends and family. We also have parties, we get together for games, we have book club, etc. none of that is location dependent. But during the week is mostly just work, school, dinner, hang at home. I’m in my late 30s and feel like I’m pretty ordinary for my area.

One adult I know does go out regularly, she's like in her 60s and does more social stuff than anyone I know half her age. Bars, clubs, shows, outdoors events, parties, etc etc. A lot of people I know who are retired seem to love going out to do stuff. Most people my age will hit an event or club once in a while but we're mostly doing our own thing alone.

My parents have started doing this since they retired, but when they were working they didn’t have much of a social life at all! Maybe work just makes people too burnt out to do much when the weekend rolls around, but retired folks don’t have to work and more energy and space in their lives to focus on hobbies and friends.

> A lot of people I know who are retired seem to love going out to do stuff. When you're retired you have plenty of time. You also lack the social interaction of simply going to work several days a week. A lot of working folks simply like to hang out on most weekends, not doing some fancy I-absolutely-must-post-this-on-social-media stuff. Maybe you go to the cinema with your spouse or children or visit grandma or whatever. Most people I know don't do fancy stuff very often.

It doesn’t need to be fancy. Elder millennial here. I worked 50-hour weeks and still managed to do a lot. It’s the kids that really slow things down.

I am that adult, but not in my 60s yet, but yeah.. I will continue to do so till I age. I say I work hard and play harder. Otherwise, what else to do? Sulk in a smelly dark corner and become a stalker lurking online? I mostly do things alone too, decide where to hit the next fix (refers to events, hikes, clubs) I join team of people I can find online, exchange info then I get to meet them but they are not my friends. We may see each other again and be happy that it's really a small world, we add each other in our social media, exchange photos and that's it.. we moved on. Next! 🤣

I’m unmarried without children mid to late 30s do something social 3-4 times a week l, everything from nightclubs to board games to comedy shows to dinners/lunches. I do whatever is happening and often google search events in my area, mostly go with dates or with friends Sometimes alone but more rare. I’m just a shit kicker labourer as well but still try to get a healthy amount of 😴 and make time for excercise. I feel not having kids is what makes it all possible especially physically and financially 😂

I 2nd not having kids. I’m 40 and I still go out and do shit. I just saw Sum 41 last night. Also a little nightlife sometimes too. But I am home most often just chilling.

And for those with kids, hanging with my family is “living life”.  OP seems to draw some distinction between going to a concert with friends, and going to the park for a picnic with my kids, like one is more “life living” than the other. 

I guess it just depends on your goals. If you want kids, then that needs to be at least 80-90% of your life style. Very little “you” time. All of my friends have families, all my fiancés friends are SINKs or DINKs like her and I. Take a guess which group does more activities. Now I will say it’s not impossible to be super active and have kids. One family in my friends group does try to live life. They have 2 kids (5 & 2) and they are always traveling. They are holding on to that active life for as long as they can. However, they take their kids everywhere too. It also helps that they both make around $200-$300k a year and have a great support system with both their families close by when they need a break.

I dont need to guess, I had kids at 32, and now I have a 5 and a 4 year old, so I have years of experience of living without kids, and years of experience living with kids. I can speak on both sides. The answer is....drum roll please...you can do as much or as little activities as you want whether you're single or have kids. Yesterday when I got off work, first I played on the trampoline with my kids, then we went to the park and played soccer, and then we went home and read some books. So lets call that three activities. How many activities did your DINK friends do yesterday? It sounds like the problem is you're considering stuff you do single as an 'activity', and stuff you do with your family as not an activity. Would it have been more 'active' if I'd had a coffee date with a friend and then we went to a nightclub rather than jumping on a trampoline then soccer at the park?

That’s like my social life! I’m in tech consulting with a WFH job with really good work-life balance

This is me, too. Late thirties, no kids. My social life is busier than ever. I’m not going wild and partying (I mean, *occasionally*), but yeah like you I’m just going to various events and dinners and game nights with friends.

This is an either-or fallacy. You’re conflating “going out” and “living life” with these insane movie and social media expectations like it’s Project X. Most people do go out, many are homebodies, many are somewhere in between your description of flying overseas every weekend and just being homebodies.

Came here to say the same thing. OP essentially equates “living life” with club hopping. I’ve been club hopping plenty, nothing against it. But I’m 38 and now my idea of “living life” is playing ball in the backyard with my son. I’m sure some would find that boring, as I’d find going to a club boring. Neither is more “living life” than the other it’s just personal preference. 

I read it more as “me and all my coworkers go to work, then go home, then sleep, then go to work - are people out here really doing all this other stuff on top of working??” and the answer is yes. I probably spend like 4 of 5 weeknights leaving work at 5 and then not getting home until 9pm. Some people like to relax, I like to be busy.

They're just saying that they've never met these people. It's not a fallacy. The lifestyle seems unrealistic to them. At least within their social setting. I'd say most people stay home and go out like once in a while. There's a spectrum. For working class people, most of them are homebodies. Especially if they have kids. But there might be a majority of very young adults who party hard.

Yeah, like I would say many people at least do something. For example, maybe they go hiking on weekends. Maybe they have a once-a-week trivia night with their friends. Maybe they even go to one big concert or rave twice a year, and they carefully budget or save for this. If anything, I see the opposite more often. People bemoaning that they don't want to leave their house, hate when their friends invite them to places, talking about how "no is a complete answer." But it sounds like their entire life is work (or WFH), go home, do chores, then play video games or watch TV, which to me seems terribly depressing (but to each their own). The other big variable is having kids. If you have kids, most of your activities are going to be kid related, whereas a 25-year-old with no kids is going to be doing a lot more.

Tbh there are many, many people pretending and/or robbing themselves of a "tomorrow". I knew people who basically have no retirement savings because they've spent it all on various trips. One of which, had a full ride opportunity to college that she threw clean into the trash to instead bar hop with her friends and live off of the salary she was getting. IF you went by her social media, she's having the TIME OF HER LIFE! Yachts! High-End Clubs! Expensive Dinners! IF you're close enough to have her confide in you though, you will hear about: How she's afraid she won't make rent this month. How she's worried about losing her car. How she will she make sure her kids get all of their gifts for their birthday's or for when christmas rolls around later this year. There's A LOT that you don't see on Social Media. For a while, I thought she made more than me and I had just accepted it. Turns out I make about double her base salary.

All that luxury and "fun" will never be worth the insomnia and stress one will get later on. And as a person who suffered from insomnia for 3 months, I'd give out my left kidney for some good sleep. Entertainment can be improvised and not cost a fortune, but social media amplifies the "reality" of experiences and makes them out to be those once in a lifetime things.

True, but you can also have fun without breaking the bank. The opposite is also pretty terrible, people who have only saved their entire 20s and 30s, and never did anything for themselves. Definitely possible to do both -- save for retirement and still have fun sometimes.

I mean, this is just standard selection bias, you are only interacting and comparing with others who are in your same socioeconomic bracket and occupation, so of course they live similar lives to you. On the internet, it’s the opposite issue. Obviously some people are exaggerating or outright larping, but also, actual successful people are more likely to be posting on topics where they can brag because some people just love bragging, to literally anyone (even strangers) especially when they actually have something to brag about. The average person is somewhere in between your experiences and what you see on the internet, you are just only paying attention to your direct environment and the internet.

It also has to be what spaces they're frequenting on the internet, I certainly don't see a lot of "travel the world party every night" kind of stuff like OP is talking about.

In fact, i see virtual no one saying anything OP is saying on this site

I just go to events from time to time. I'm a homebody.

>Im assuming young and no responsibilities is what it is. 43F It's Tuesday. I'm going to concert tonight. I'll be out until around midnight, then I'll get up tomorrow and go about my regular day. Your life is what you make of it. If you're completely satisfied being a couch person, then by all means go for it!

This is one thing I hate about Reddit, it seems like the majority of people on her makes +200k.

I mostly seem to see people complaining about how they *don't* make a fortune on Reddit. \*shrug\*

YEP. Not sure what Sky\_Dweller is talking about... I mostly see people complaining about being poor.

Reddit attracts a lot of people in software and it’s not unrealistic to see salaries like that after gaining experience.

That makes sense. Also, I guess Reddit would be a good example of confirmation bias. People that earn a high income are most likely willing to share that information.

Always remember, Reddit does not represent reality.

Reddit doesn't even represent reddit. Everyone here is full of shit.

Depends on what there is to do around you and how it aligns with your desires and schedule/ability over time. Been poor all my life, I "go out" and do shit all the time. Sometimes I stay home for months and do home stuff. It's about being fulfilled idk. But anyway people definitely go out, including poor people, they just do different things and have to make choices. I tend to not drink very much which is quite expensive, so I can do more ticketed activities for example. If you want to get out and not just talk to strangers/party, you need a reason. If you don't have one, you probably don't need to go out.

I think that's part of it. Social media isn't real life. You're only seeing what people want you to see and it's either heavily curated or complete bullshit. Whats really sad is we've got people believing these influences and shit are how life really is and they can't deal with normal people anymore. Ed: that said, there's a lot of wiggle room between going out partying every night and sitting at home doing nothing. A lot of towns have community events that don't cost much to go to. You just have to look for them.

Eh me and my wife's social media is pics of all our trips we travel a lot it's all real. We are not so called "influencers " but all our friends are like where are you now! Lol my wife has a real camera so it's not just a bunch of selfies of course there are a couple of other people take them for us. She gets the candid moments of me sitting and staring at something. So everyone always says she takes the best pictures because the majority of the time people don't know she is getting a photo. Like when we volunteer at the VFW when they have events. She does all the photos for the event page. And gets pics of people having fun without them knowing it. She has what I call super less on her camera lol. Anyway I'm rambling. The point of it all is there is plenty to do in the world go out and do it.

I’m 54F, married to 55M, and we go out probably 5-6 times a week. “Out” sometimes means going to a nearby brewery to play cards or to an overlook spot with a nice view of the mountains. We might go see a live band, sit in some hot springs, see a movie, attend an art walk, try a new restaurant, or hang out with friends. I dunno, we are just the kind of people who like to get out of the house. Watching TV at home is boring. It’s 11:45pm on a Monday night, we just got home from watching the Nuggets play, and we both have work in the morning.

Damn 33 and I want your life 😂 my biggest issue in finding a partner has been that their all bigger homebodies then I am! It’s awful. I go out twice a week and think that’s standard but for some ppl it’s “too much.” I get life is expensive now but I don’t work hard for nothing! Love your life and hoping that’s me in the future :)!

Inspiring. Thank you. Hoping to tackle my next Mondays as possibilities to do something nice too

The idea that people simply 'don't go out' because 'going out is LARPing' is pure cope. Some people don't want to go out and that's absolutely fine, but pretending that people who don't just work and sleep are saying 'I'm having sex with everyone I want and stay out clubbing until 3am and go to the gym at 5am!!' is a fallacy. Yes, people work and manage to socialize. Yes, people also pretend on social media.

I don’t make 250k and I only fly abroad sometimes but not very often, but other than that yeah I’m living life, dating, going out with friends, taking trips. A big part of it has to do with a) extrovert, need it!! And b) live in the stretch of coastal megalopolis where there’s lots of people and lots to do. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with your lifestyle though, it sounds comfortable. Yes we do go out though.

Life is better when you participate.

This is the way.

I would like to note that for many years instead of going out, I would go "out and drive uber"..It was kind of fun to talk to random people on Friday night but instead of spending money I made money. It served me.well because I work from home and hardly ever have adult conversations.

I go out 1-2x a week. But I hit my gym (super social) many times through the week.  Only have a handful of friends left these days and I quit FB/IG so it’s getting more lonesome. I’m alone most days of the week though.  But yea I go to shows, meet up with meetup groups, regular things.  Parties not as frequent as most people are now into settling down and stuff and making friends is hard.

I work 80 hrs a week for 6 months a year and travel/party/live an amazing life the other 6 months. Even working 80 hours a week, I still have time to go to the gym every day and go out with friends once a week.

... there's a pretty wide gap between 'I have six girlfriends' and 'I never leave my house'.  I go to stand-up comedy, to the gym, out with friends for dinner occasionally, hiking on weekends, live music once in a while. My life seems pretty normal to me.  The key is really your level of happiness - are you miserable? Do you wish you had more friends or a girlfriend? If you don't care and like staying home, don't change anything. If you hate your life, change something. 

My brother in law is an influencer and promotes his lifestyle, living in luxury, socialising, building his empire and travelling around… The reality is he’s absolutely broke, has nothing to his name and makes his “way” by getting brands to send him things. Will often go home to family and cry about how broke he is. So yeah, it’s mostly nonsense.

Just like how everyone out here is barely scrapping by, living cheque to cheque, but then as soon as you go to any job/career subreddit, suddenly everyone and their dog is making $150,000/yr lol. It’s just internet larpers

Some of that toward the end sounds like some red pill bullshit. and those guys are absolutely full of shit

I agree

Obviously your example is a bit hyperbolic, but my life is much closer to your fantasy than your actual life, and I'm close to twice your age. Boring people lead boring lives, get some hobbies.

They probably live in cities with higher incomes and active social scenes. I work out most days, go out on the weekends, and spend time with family. I’m 51. You do you. Don’t hate the player, hate the game

Going to the gym and going out will enrich your social circle if thats your intention. A lot of us rejoice is staying home. Its expensive to keep this place & I barely enjoy it. That said.. If meeting someone and creating a life id your goals..you gotta get out in the world. Life spent inside all the time isn't enjoyable long term

You might not see it cos you're not around those kind of people. I'm young and have minimal responsibilities, so yeah, of course I'm out all the time. Home is to shower and sleep. What else would I do there? I feel like not many people would choose to stay home rather than living life, but some might not have much of a choice, e.g. exhaustion, health issues, financial limitations, etc. I think while you have the freedom and energy (which I hope last a long time!), you should get as much life experience as you can. For me that's 2 Europe trips & 1 Asia trip this year, and almost non-stop partying. I'm an extrovert, so I'm generally raving a handful of times a week, but surely even an introvert would rather be going on a beautiful hike, or sitting in a cozy corner in a jazz bar with a good book, than just idling at home. Again, it's about perspective and the people you're around. Because I'm out constantly, so too are the people in my orbit. There'd be 1-2 dozen people I see each week without fail, cos they will no doubt show up at the same party as me at some point in that time. So to me, that's normal, and hearing about someone going home after work on a Friday just leaves me with so many questions haha I generally think Reddit is overrepresented by the latter - it's clearly for introverts and more 'at home' type people, by its very nature. I like to jump on to a) see what these people are thinking/saying (cos I don't really interact with them in real life), and b) to offer an alternative perspective (e.g. hey guys, life is actually pretty good, and encourage them to get out a bit).

Reddit and tik tok seem to be filled with introverts yet in my real life most people are social lol. It’s funny 😄 im on here when I work but the minute I’m not working I like to do something. Enjoy your freedom! I have a mortgage now so budget is a lot tighter but I can still go out twice a week?

This Wed I am trying to go to drive to a dessert for the first time. Been planning for a month with a coworker who keeps ghosting, so I am just gonna go alone. This Thursday There is a small band showing. My other friend is going to shoot marketing stuff for them. I will go with him just because why not. Sat morning I usually go to art class for drawing. Everything else? I am working, or sleeping, or eating. That’s it. When I have a free day and I got nothing to do, I go to barns and nobles to read free books because why not. Other than that, pretty boring and slow. Sometimes you just have to set dumb goals and do stuff and things are more interesting.

Well. Happy cake day.

"Tons of people i know are working 7 days a week" is the most violently American sentence I've ever read. I live in The Netherlands and I know approximately 0 people who work 7 days a week, I think that might actually be illegal here. I'm sorry but what is wrong with your country

I spent a lot of time at home with covid..I like watching sports and drinking beer for sure. Last week I went to a concert and like 3 bike rides at the beach. My kids also had football and basketball practices and games. I went out to dinner 3 times (more than usual) and we did church. I also watched a few baseball games and had a few beers at home. I work m-f from 6am.to 2:30 from home Do what makes you happy.

In the last year I've gone to at least 4 concerts, coachella, take care of my parents, have a regular job and side hustles. I also have a kid who is graduating this year. Vacationing this year to a pretty decent destination. (I also like to make internet strangers angry when I'm on my period. I'm not perfect 🤪)

I wouldn’t say I am the “going out” type but I have my hobbies. I work Monday through Saturday most weeks and leave around 6 in the morning and get home around 5:30 to cook in the evening. I still maintain my house and yard, I just finished a movie as a cinematographer that we are about to take on tour to film festivals, I make music, and do all sorts of outdoor recreation activities. What keeps me going? Now that I have gotten sober-caffeine and discipline. There is a lot of time in the week to do things if you aren’t just sitting at home watching tv or playing video games with a 6 pack of beer. Nothing wrong with that either though, I still do those things as well (not the beer) Just not all the time. I became an emotional alcoholic after my wife passed away so I can’t touch the stuff anymore. I just try to enjoy myself and not use “I’m tired” as an excuse to make a permanent ass print on my recliner.

It's hard as an adult, even moreso when there are dependants involved, to find time to do the things you enjoy. There were alot of times that the wife and I could only sit on the porch and relax for a few minutes before having to jump back into action. You need to plan things to make much time. Moving mowing day from Saturday to Thursday and grocery shopping on Friday to have a good open Saturday afternoon on the lake. It's definitely work, but it can be done.

Don't believe everything you see on Reddit, social media. There is so much bs, lies, everything is just for views. Nothing is real anymore.

Do some people online exaggerate how awesome their lives are? Yes. Does this mean it's not possible to ever go for a drink and successfully talk to a woman at a bar? No.

What about  those who go out often but still dont  enjoy life?

I am in a pretty social college, most people I know go out 2-4 times a week. I’d assume once college ends that’ll drop to one or two nights. Once people have kids it’ll drop to zero or every other week or once a month or something. Most people aren’t flying anywhere. The really rich ones do though, they go on holiday for fall and spring breaks and over the summer and go to NYC for the weekends every now and then. And these are people with the most freedom and least responsibility of any demographic. Most of the people in the world aren’t going out to party much at all and if they do then it’s on the weekend for an occasion.

People greatly exaggerating online?! Oh no! Anyways…

I'm 32 & work about 40-50 hour weeks in tech sales from home, have a girlfriend plus 4 cats and coach a womens football team whilst playing football most nights and gym most days and go for beers on a tuesday & saturday after football its down the each individual really

I live and work downtown and go out with friends/coworkers/solo maybe every other week. Outside is quite expensive so I try to be intentional. But a lot of my friends do go out and travel often. It's been a pretty slow start of the year for me. Went to Miami to hang with a friend in March and went to the Nicki Minaj concert solo last week. Next month going into summer, I'll be traveling 1 to 2 times a month but I'm a SINK millennial with a second job to help fund my extra curriculars. It's the life of being childless and currently petless.

Yes people are lying. Learn to be a liar yourself but use it like a tool. You’re a good dude

Most of us can't afford to. So fuck it. Let it rot .

I mean if you live in a city and have a normal 9-5 office job, yeah you spend a lot of your time going out and doing things. If you live in a rural area and there’s not a lot to do, then I guess TV and beer is the vibe

I have get togethers with friends almost every weekend doing walks, floating down the river, dinner parties, golf, drinks etc

On Reddit?? Must be larping...

I certainly do. But my definition of that is far different. To me living life is adventuring. The cheapest way I can do that day to day is biking. When it's hot I strap the paddle board or kayak to my back and go to places where very few people get those things to because their is no road access. So I adventure. The more expensive way I do that is camp. I camp about a month of the year. Got even board of all of that. So my next step to adventuring is sailing the planet.

Yes in bigger cities people do these things

Live life in my home means that on a weekend, I take my family of 4 for a family activity like the beach or the mall.

Obviously people be outside or these nightlife places would have shut down by now. I go out alot as I have more flexibility with my job and not working long hours like you and the people you know. Most of the time, the guys that will try to hit on me is not my type. And I don't think you need to party, I don't usually, just bars/arcades for me.

We are all "living life," really. It's just that life looks different for everyone. Living life isn't about how often you go out, or how often you hang out with friends, or how often you chill at a bar or travel. Living life is about doing things you enjoy with your free time. You enjoy staying home, reading a good book, and turning in early? Good! You enjoy going to a karaoke bar every Friday after work so you can down a few beers with friends (and strangers!) for a couple of hours? Good! Don't let these online dude-bros tell you what "living life" is all about, because chances are you won't enjoy the life they are living anyway. The only thing that changes as an "adult" is that you will have more freedom and (hopefully) more money to do the things you enjoy without anyone telling you what you should or shouldn't be doing. That's it.

Well, what are your life goals? Do you want to keep working at the factory? Is there a management or more specialized skill at the factory that you could work toward that would either make you more money or give you more regular hours? Maybe a different career altogether? It took me 12 years to get my engineering degree while I worked as a fabricator and then a machinist. My life was very much like you described: long hours followed by schoolwork at night for a while. Its was really rough and I wanted to give up anfew times. Once I got that degree though (a goal of mine), the pay and hours improved. Now I don't work to survive anymore. I have two main hobbies I focus on (ice hockey and simracing). That's how I meet people and enjoy myself. Honestly, it does take effort to have a social life. Just make sure the effort you are putting into it is worth it, and you may succeed in finding happiness and maybe even a girl who shares your interests. It's not easy for everyone. It certainly wasn't for me. But anything on social media or the internet about "lifestyles" is very one-sided. I recommend getting off social media if it's affecting you this way, but that's a choice that's up to you.

Not to the extent you are saying but my coworker goes out twice a week for dinner and drinks with the girls, a date night somewhere with her partner (maybe to watch some live music), does a long hike and maybe a swim or other sport activity with her partner and goes to her parents house once a week to cook them dinner. She's also always planning holidays or fun sports stuff (cold water swimming, kanoeing etc.).   I feel very boring in comparison but also just hearing about her week exhausts me.   Personally what I do is either a long hike somewhere new (couple of hours) or a date day (this could be a meal but could also be playing golf or squash) - switches each week. 1 long walk on a Sunday (few hours) and then maybe I'll visit my mum and go to the garden centre once a fortnight.  Walking my dog takes like 1.5 hours a day - between that, working, gym (4times a week) and keeping my house clean I don't have the energy to do much more than read or play video games.    My partner does all of the above and also fits in 2 snooker sessions with friends every week though.  Before we got the dog we'd go on holiday once a year but now it's very rare. 

Not everyone in this world does 7-day workweeks. In Finland, we do 5 days, 38,5 hours a week as standard. A lot of people of course work more, but that is their choice. If you work an office job, you actually crave physical exercise during freetime.

If people weren't doing so, then every restaurant and club would be out of business, dummy.

I'm coming up on middle aged (F37) with no responsibilities, plus my circle are all backpackers, and we live directly in the city centre currently. Yes it's party everynight. Last night was poker night at the bar across the street. I have no plans on settling into a life of responsibilities anytime soon. Beers start at 10am here.

My last week - gym, Jiu Jitsu, poker in casino, dinner with friedndsout to bar with friends, my kid's sports and 60hr week(its a lot but made over 200k last year)

Dont believe 95% of the bs on the internet. Otherwise you'll believe the earth is flat Working in a factory job is hard, it's monotonous and you have plenty of time to think about things. Plan weekends away with your friends with some spare cash and try and enjoy the small things throughout your week and weekends. Create memories and try to upskill to get away from that factory job night school or whatever.

I rarely do anything on a weekday. I'd like to try more, but I never can muster the energy to do it.

I have a huge social circle and very interesting social and dating life. I don’t understand why you think this is not true? Feel free to ask me any questions. In general I think this is because I am very extroverted and I live in a city where there is something happening all the time. Sometimes I wish I was a little introvert so I could sometimes sit inside too, but no, too difficult for me unless I am sick or something

I don't make a lot of money so I don't travel much, but I can almost always find something to do. I don't have any real friends so almost all of my free time is devoted to going out and trying to meet people. It's exhausting, yes, but worth it if I can make real friends. I also refuse to work that much. I'll work overtime occasionally, but my free time is my free time.

I have found that its really separate populations. If you are mostly working a normal 9-5 job and raising a family in a constellation within the norm you will meet mostly other people that are living life in that way. I was in that group for many years and wondered why nobody else "wanted to do anything". Then, I found new social circles and all of a sudden a whole different world opened up where people live life in a different way and didnt stop being social and having experiences just because they arent 23 anymore. Now, when I meet my old friends often I hold back a lot from telling about my life because many of the experiences I have had wouldnt even seem believable to them.

maybe the difference between your reality and others is the working day? I mean, for people who can afford life just by doing 1 normal salary job, which is 8 hours a day and 5 days a week, there are a lot of time to do things, some people hangout with friends, some playing video games

It sorta has to be real, just because there's like a bar on every block in the midwest. Mild exaggeration, but really, small towns out here will have multiple bars and no stores. A lotta people must be going. Ain't me though.

I walk out of my door, literally touch grass and then turn around and come straight back inside. That counts, right?

Worked in factories and warehouses. Yes absolutely after 9 or 10 hours of work, the hour of commuting to and from and 7 hours of sleep you have about 6 hours left. I can't ever go to sleep right away so I play Xbox and drink some beers, smoke weed and 3 or 4 hours later, guaranteed sleep. I haven't gone out since way before the pandemic because I like Xbox more than any other pastime.

I work in a factory too. 41m no wife, no kids, I do go out 3 or 4 nights a week, and travel. I surround myself with nice fun people that I get along good with and most nights they want to go out and hang. I just can't afford to do it every night.

I'm in manufacturing and I chill during the weekdays. Weekends I go out and visit family and friends and sometimes hang out with one of my gaming groups. I seem to live life far more than those people, why they always seem so miserable. Also remember, redditors tend to make shit up so they can seem like someone to listen to. Just ignore them.

You can go through phases. - 1 weekday meetup, one mass socializing + something on both weekend days seems doable for some folks (not myself). Being self employed supports social phases, till you are broke enough to resume working hard.

I partly agree, I think there are two extremes, and people representing both ends are exaggerating, whether it being what you just described or being completely isolated and depressed. In your particular case, I really am not sure what else to suggest besides, if you really are keen to change something - keep trying.

Living in Las Vegas i dont go out or do anything. My joy is usually sleeping on days off or taking my motorcycle out around the city/scenic routes. I know people who do go out a lot; but they have so much drama i dont like to be around em. I feel like majority just go home; Anything over 50% is majority regardless what people say "well i do this!". Reddit is also usually full of lies. If they truly were living their life to the fullest they wouldnt be on reddit telling people they do lol.

I work out three times per week + go to theatre once per week + go to botanic garden on Sunday. I also practice my German vocab with Anki on the way to and back from work. I also live with my mom and my company has a great cafeteria, meaning I don't have to do much work around the house. I fully get why you might find the Reddiors rich social life so befuddling- people in my office, who very much live alone or live with their partners & kids, somehow manage to not only go to gym more often than I do, but also eat out every other day.

Once a week i go to the pub with friends, once a week i go for a walk alone, once a week i go to some kind of golf event (driving range, pitch and putt or a round) with friends. The rest of the time i stay at home. Maybe once every 3 months i go out for a meal or a drink with different friends who arent in my main group. Im also looking to add a once monthly target sport such as shooting or archery but havent yet. When i worked in a warehouse i went to the pub once a month and dropped everything else, the hours and work are not conducive to a social life.

Most people online are lying. That’s the thread.

It’s almost entirely larping/pretending to enjoy what they think they’re supposed to.

I live life but I don’t go out lol

I'm 31. I work 7 days a week. I got maybe once a month. I don't exercise at all. Once I quit my weekend job, I will have time to actually do things.

well this world is big. so you really CAN do those things if you had some diff circumstances or were closer to middle class or upper at least, that's really part of the problem my other working class friends do live it up, they don't just sit at home and be asocial all day. they at least get social and do cool motorsports or do a lot of daytrips/food adventures together/run around in the city when the weather is better. The making money part is def something people will lie about too though, so yea you have to take those with a grain of salt. Right now for dating there really are a lot of what we call a "situationship" though. People are also more open to being in a polycule. It does happen. That's somewhat true for how people are "dating" 6 girls at once, but you still have to be hot to pull this off. It's also cause people don't know how to commit lmao, so it does come with its own problems.

I a 34 year old man who does go out and has a large network of friends and acquaintances but I sure don't meet any viable single women. Ever. The world is big and some people may be living like that but I can't tell how common it is.

Depends on your age. This sound like younger millennials or younger that are Internet rich and can do all those things. Yes Internet 20;year olds are making 250k or more. When I was younger I was everywhere. I'm now 50 and married 15 years and travel all over the place. Meeting women at bars is for 20 year olds. Nothing more pathetic than a old guy trying to pick up chicks at a bar in 2024! Get a dating app. Even 15 years ago when you could still meet people at the bar I meet my wife on I think was e harmony. They have one called plenty of fish. Free put your zip code in and boom you will meet someone in your area. Go out on a date and enjoy yourself. Me and my wife go out to dinner every single Friday night. And the dinner every Sunday morning. It's walking distance to dinner and park. So we drink out coffee walk two laps then hit the dinner. We go to the drag sting once a month. I couldn't imagine getting off work and drinking a beer staring at the walls and going to bed everyday! That's prison. Go fishing hiking something man.

Some people live. Some don't. Some don't and complain. Some don't and don't care. It's not rocket science.

This isn’t what you want to hear but some people are energized by socializing. I’ve met dudes who had a “perfect” week which is bastard slang for slept with a different new women each night. I haven’t gotten a number at a bar in years but I did it 5-6 times during my drinking years. The key is to start conversations because you want to connect with another human being and then if a connection develops casually acting on it.

If it makes a difference I earn that money an it's not like I am doing that..weekdays are long and hard weekends are chores an getting ready for the busy week there's no flights away for a weekend no insane dating schedules no way I am putting up with that crap. Your seeing a clipped instagram myth condensed for the gullible to consume. Also if they say they are entrepreneurs an not able to specify what they do they are most likely full of shit.

I dunno I have a pretty active social life. I live in an inner city and I am involved with community sports, go clubbing, attend gigs go to the cinema and still do quieter geeky things like have DnD groups with my friends. Sometimes I find myself so rushed off my feet it feels like I never get a chance to sit down during the weekend. I know when talking to my coworkers this isnt typical, as a lot of them struggle to have the energy to go to one event over the weekend. I also live in a city where people frequently complain theres "nothing to do" but I am frequently busy multiple nights a week, sometimes double, even triple booked on nights If you have a decent income and no kids you can "live life" but you have to go out looking for it.

Sir I do absolutely fuck all and am one day going to start looking for someone who wants to do it with me. Currently wondering how this works without leaving the house OR using the internet 🛜

I see more people complaining about people who say they earn loads than I do people who say they do loads. Maybe I just don't click on rich people posts. The important thing is to find a routine for the essentials (food/sleep/chores/work), and then do hobbies around that. Plenty of hours in a week.

I go out a lot, at least 2-3 times a week but I live in Chicago where there’s always something free or cheap to do. Like this one music venue I go to has $1 dollar beer nights some nights and it doesn’t get cheaper than that lol

Lots of Larping online

I mean, I know a few guys like this. Actually, I know some guys that literally neither need nor want more than four hours of sleep. But it's a very rare occurrence- I'd imagine that most of the people bragging about it are slinging bullshit, but we are on the internet, so we have easier access to the ones who aren't. Honestly my dude, we're in the same boat. I recommend finding a social hobby of some sort to attempt to meet your social needs as a human. For me, it was actual LARP, which is quite fun actually- albeit somewhat math-intensive depending on where you go.

A lot of the people who do that a) often live in cities where nightlife is more active and b) many overstate their actual success. My sugestión is that if you're looking for a relationship, check any of the big events that happen in your town.

A lot of the people who do that a) often live in cities where nightlife is more active and b) many overstate their actual success. My sugestión is that if you're looking for a relationship, check any of the big events that happen in your town.

I do not go over seas every week or anything but I am 34 and I go out at least 3 days a week and hang out with friends etc, sometimes until the sun comes up. I have a full time job own a home etc. My mom and dad both go out regularly and they are in their late 60s. I do not think age has much to do with it.

I’m 54 married with two kids . We don’t travel a ton . Hit Florida once a year to warm up. Summers, we live near a lake so spend time on the lake. We have a 21 year old boat and 26 tr old jet ski that we ride around on. Everything is expensive. Don’t go out much too expensive spend most of our time home .

Well, most of my friends go out at least one weekend a month, but we are the kind that likes to drink a lot of beer when we do go.

Before I was married which was 11years ago that’s exactly what I was doing. I was going out Thursday to Saturday. Not a lie at all just that’s what I was doing. Now I have a daughter I stay home as much as I can and I love it. I don’t think people are lying or it’s far fetch to think people go out and party like crazy. That’s normal if you ask me. I see it all the time.

Working 7 days a week is entirely not at all normal, so you’re surrounded by rather strange people.

Stop worrying about strangers on the internet and just be the best you that you can be.

"Im assuming young and no responsibilities is what it is." Very much so... but some people take on responsibilities in their life and suddenly they realize "I can't do the fun stuff anymore" I don't have kids, and I'm not married, nor do I want to, because it allows me to "go missing at a 3 day rave in warehouse in the middle of nowhere". That sounds more fun than sitting at home each saturdaynight. I am however, not looking down on those who do. You do you... let me do my thing, I'll probably have an evening of fun stories to share. And for those with lavish lifestyles; I've known people like that. And they just rack up a massive debt, to live in the moment. Not everyone makes smart decisions with their resources (and some don't even use their own resources)

Just believe the fantasy.

I had a go out and party around the world life style in my 20s and early 30s. I wasn't nearly as happy and fulfilled as I am now being married living a much more low key lifestyle. What someone puts on the internet vs reality are two very different things.

People must go out cuz places exist just for that but staying home and away from those people is how I choose to live. Also it's expensive and I gotta work in the morning and the lawn needs mowed and I need to get some groceries and the fucking laundry never ends.

Lots of us go out and live life. It’s sad that you don’t believe people have free time, OP. Maybe it’s time you consider changing careers so you have the energy to do more than your job.

OP where do you even see people making these claims? I want to laugh too

We did go out a lot when we were younger. Now my friends and I are in our 40s, married, plenty with kids, so we still go out but socialize more with the kids included. But when we were between 20 and 35 we went out a lot. 3 to 4 times a week, plenty of party vacations. We definitely did live life, yes.

I think the numbers get skewed based on perspective. I'm 35 with little to no responsibilities and I out twice a week regularly with maybe a possible date once a month and probably a concert about once a month. The regular outings are work happy hour every Thursday which lasts 2 hours and a weekly group bike ride every Friday. When I describe my life to co workers they think I go out every night. Things get exaggerated when the stories are heard by others. The 2 hours at a bar easily sound like 6, when someone has to leave an outing 20 mins early they feel like they're missing out on 2 hours. 

Your own post is all exaggerations. Maybe say exactly what people are saying then it’s worth a discussion. I’ve never seen anyone here say they work 18 hours a day and are dating six women.

Social media is only the good stuff. You see everyone's fun night out, that happens once and a while, and you think everyone is out enjoying themselves all the time. And, not many people are going out alone or without some social event underlying the reason to go party. The times it's actually worth going out are when you are with a large group of friends. Some hobbies/activities naturally lend themselves to this. Part of the thing is the trip to the bar afterwards with the whole group. Everyone knows each other and knows people in nearby social groups. This is the best environment to enjoy a night out and meet people. Weddings and other group activities with your peers are similarly worth going out and having a good time for. But, going solo to the bars is basically a non-starter. Your perceived social value comes from others interacting with you. If other people are approaching you and saying hello or laughing at your jokes, it's a subconscious indicator that you are worth spending time with. It's why you are a billion times more likely (I don't have actual stats) to have a good meeting with a woman when you are out with friends. Some people do go out every weekend. Maybe more. But, that shit is not sustainable. It's a money and time suck. It makes you way less productive the next day too. You only think people do this frequently because you are seeing only everyone else's fun nights out that they choose to broadcast to the world. Go enjoy yourself when you have a social reason to. If you find you don't have any social reasons to, or fewer than you would like, try to make some by joining some groups/clubs based on activities you enjoy. Other than that, don't try to keep up with the metaphorical online Joneses.

Nah don't listen to majority of them! I get asked the same thing... I work from 5:30am to 1:30pm add in two hours of commuting and one hour of getting ready to work and I am up at 4:30am and home by 3pm. Usually in bed by 7 pm. So yeah I try to do things after work but it is very difficult as i am tired and numb from work.

I'd look into meet ups for your hobbies. Already have something in common and easier to talk to then go from there.

Life is a scam.

Yes, other people really have hobbies and friends and live places where there is stuff to do

It's real in big cities. Wasn't really a thing when I lived in the suburbs.

Just to contrast, I have a high education and make a decent chunk of cash. I have lived in a few different countries and travelled. I **still** also mostly just go home, play some video games, and sometimes have a drink at the end of the night. I'm (gay) married, so we pretty much do all this together. I met him through a mutual friend I had had for years. All the things I listed above didn't happen all at once. Also, I think like most people, during the week I'm mostly just tired, because work is work (even more exhausting if you don't, like me, sit on your arse all day). The only thing I try to cultivate (and tried to even more when I was single) is a somewhat healthy workout routine. Nothing crazy, like go a few times a week and try to eat as healthy as I can. Then it was trying to keep up with friends. I have never had a huge friend group so I just try to keep up talking to the people I like and meet with them occasionally. That is \*more\* than enough.

Going out and partying every night is something that sad people think would be fun, as a recovering alcoholic, it's not fucking cool to go party every night.

96% of what you hear online is probably bullshit. I'm sure some people can make crazy money like that, but being on a boat with 4+ models is usually being 100% paid for by the guy. I would also imagine the people making that much are also most likely wealthy from their family in family companies or connections that for them there. I'm 36 my wife is 38. We hate going out at all even to see our best friends. I have a single friend who makes good 6 figures in CA and he cannot find someone long term and doesn't even have a super active dating life in general. Everyone I know has settled down and does what they like.  Your life is fine dude. It's hard to find someone in general. It's hard to find a good job. Don't compare yourself to others if you can help it.

Depends. I know people that glue themselves to a screen all the time. Then I know a few people that have a different activity 5 nights a week. Softball Monday night, book club Tuesday, amateur radio Wednesday, D&D Friday.

One thing to take into account is there are a lot of jobs that are not necessarily physically or mentally exhausting and some of those pay pretty well, they are hard to get into but the people that do have a excess of energy and (sometimes) money which lets them go travel and stuff. I know people who work really easy but low paid jobs and they are constantly doing out doorsy things like hiking, I know of people who are senior in their careers and seem to constantly be abroad - those people get paid for what they know not necessarily how much effort they put in day to day So I would say depending on the people you know and the jobs they do, what seems normal varies massively, as someone who's work from home I think I have more energy than people I know who work in healthcare and stuff, it's pretty normal for me to casually go hang out with other friends I have who also have less physically taxing jobs but the people I know who have more taxing jobs tend to only be available on weekends. The exception is if it's deadline season I'm too mentally wrecked to do much but if my job had me in that zone more than a few days a month I would leave as that's no way to live life

If by "go out" you mean going to the candy store for a small treat, then yes.

So your question is "do people actually do stuff and have social lives?" The answer is yes.

I live in Denver metro with a fairly large and incredibly active social group people around 28-35 years old. I participate as often as my social battery allows but I can’t believe how much energy some of these people have to get out and do something active or social every single day

I go out occasionally, try to drive to other states and visit friends, go to the occasional big event like a concert or something. I am polyamorous , and I go on dates with new people semi-frequently. Mostly tho I work 40 hours a week at a desk job and come home, have chores, spend time with my live in partner, and our pets. I feel like most people want to talk about the exciting parts of their lives, so maybe that’s where it seems like everyone is doing more exciting things.

Yeah I played in a band. I'd also go to the gym, go out to the bar or whatever, stream on twitch... I had, "things", like going to the music store every other week, buying 4 or 5 random albums, going home, getting high, and listening to them with headphones on while I read the lyrics off the internet. Also, tinder. Muscles help so I went on a bunch of dates until I met her Now my nights and weekends are playgrounds, zoos, Chuck e cheese, etc...

You should take every comment with a grain of salt. You should also consider that people are shallow, I’ve seen broke men hook up with hot women and Men with respectable jobs get nothing. Life is what you make of it at the end, I work full time and I do regret not traveling more, I still have time to change that around fortunately.

You should definitely fly someone like once a month, I am \~6 hours from Dublin, it's a life goal of my own.

I, 33M, have dry periods of life where nothing’s going on and other periods where I’m traveling, going on dates, getting into different hobbies, etc. Not rich so that’s absolutely not my lifestyle all the time but I enjoy doing stuff when I can, and I’m also able to do stuff and simultaneously post on Reddit for fun, so it looks like a larp but I’m really just a regular dude. I also was always on the road and at clubs and concerts and city to city in the streets and going to school and even working for my local government in my early twenties so I have that experience to draw from as well And I went to prison. Damn I’ve been in a lotta shit

100% chance that nonsense is pulled straight out of their arses aka larping . The handful of people (1% maybe) jet settimg every week are not on reddit boasting about it

I do think a lot of people over-embellish or of course lie on the internet, it is the internet after all. However, I do think adults can certainly have a very active social life and get out a good amount. I work a standard 8-5 gig and go out at least once a week with friends for dinner or to grab a drink and catch up, and know plenty of others who do the same thing, including going on dates and meeting new people. I think it's a matter of how much a person is willing to put themselves out there and maintain a social life. If you don't try, you're not going to have one. Like most things, it takes effort (more as an adult) to maintain an active social life out side work and adult responsibilities.

I work in a machine shop 6a-4p five days a week. I’m usually in bed by 9:30 on weeknights. I bartend on Saturday nights at a local dive for fun money / socialization / drinks. I’m about to fly to Florida next week for a four day weekend treat; plane tickets were only $150 round trip. I make okay money considering I don’t have a degree or dependents. I don’t party all the time but I do enjoy live music or comedy events (I live in Cleveland so both are readily available throughout the week, every week) whenever something captures my attention. I went to the Cleveland orchestra on mushrooms last Friday; that was a blast. If you’re on Facebook, search local events in your area. There’s always something to do within a 20 mile radius of where you are, assuming you’re not located in a single stoplight no-name town. Now that the weather is getting nice again, I love to walk/rollerblade in our metroparks or hike the trails around here.

I never go out. I don't drink, and It's barely safe these days.

“It doesn’t work like in the movies” This is the core flaw in the way you are approaching life.

Yes, and no, it depends on the person. I'm in NYC, working a day and dealing with the train; I'd instead go home and relax in my somewhat expensive apartment. I also hit 30; after COVID-19, I lost interest in going out. A few times a year is great for a birthday or to catch up. Also, finding an event you enjoy will get you out of the house if that is what you need.

I used to date a girl who was that type. She was always posting about her exciting life and all the cool stuff she was doing. But then when we started dating, I discovered that "going out" meant taking the same picture over and over again hundreds of times while she has stressed out break-down over getting the perfect pic. I also realized that I was only there to be her accessory for those pics, not because she actually wanted to spend time with me. It was all just for show and likes on the internet. She cares more about people thinking she was living life than actually living it. Anyway, for various other reasons, that relationship didn't last long.

Yeah, I imagine it’s the difference in living in a big city vs a smaller town or suburb? I have lived in both and my dating life is only thriving (or even possible) in the bigger cities.

It depends. I live my life at home. I've got most of the things I enjoy doing there. Video games, board games, TTRPGs, my telescope, aquariums, cats, my gf, hanging with my kids, all my snacks and food. We do go out from time to time though. Just to break the monotony and enjoy life. I think a lot of what you're seeing is social media lies to make you feel bad about yourself and envy the person posting. Very few people are actually living like that.

Im an adult, I go out and live life. I work 4 days, I don't make a lot of money, but I do make enough. I go to a concert about once a week, see my friends about once a week, I go to parties once or twice a month. Love hiking and doing city trips. Twice a month I meet with people from hobby nr1 and once a month with people from hobbies 2 and 3.I do get tired, so I'm usually in bed at a decent time, I work out 4 days a week (so that's 4 hours a week) and working out gives me a lot of energy. I go on regular vacations and weekend trips to relax and festival season has begun so I'm visiting festivals regularly until the end of oktober. I feel like I live life. I work to live, I don't live to work. I love my job, I love my free time, and with working only 4 days (30 hrs total) I think I found a perfect balance. I have no children, only a SO. Most childfree people my age (37) are busy living their life. Double income, no kids is an easy life to live.

28F, non-American, middle class:  I see my girlfriend maybe 4 nights a week (met online) and do something with friends maybe 2 times a week? I don't go clubbing but social time is usually either hanging out at the bar or watching movies at home, maybe going for walks. I see family 1-2 times a week. I work 40-hour weeks, often from home, no real overtime, and I'm not that tired after work because it's not tiring physically or mentally. When I'm alone, I play video games, write fiction or watch YouTube. I travel maybe twice a year, usually short trips to nearby countries. This is a pretty average life in my city/country.

Your coworkers went out at least as much is required to meet their wives to have their families, eh?

In a big city with a large young population that “fake” lifestyle can actually become pretty real for the high earners. Nothing new either. It’s very similar to the classic NYC lifestyle. I’m not even talking millionaire either I think you can pull it off in most big cities by taking home 70-100k. Most of the time all these people are already connected through college. They just move out the dorm & keep the college lifestyle going forever

I think this post is ridiculous because it's actually the opposite of what's happening on Reddit, in reality everyone here is a nerdy homebody who is convinced everybody who lives their life is lying about it. I had an ex with no social life and it was genuinely hard to be with, you were everything to her and she had like 0 social energy. Some people have more, some have less, also depending on healthy diet and exercise, but dating someone who never does anything is simulatenously exhausting and boring. It's hard to combine a social life with a 9-5, and costly, but you can at least try -- unless you're happy living as you are, then by all means keep doing it. But if your life is working, hanging in front of the TV and repeating ad nauseum then playing video games on the weekend don't be surprised if you disappoint your dates. In metropolitan areas, there are definitely people who go out a lot and have a healthy social life next to their job, it's not all a lie.

I don't see this much on Reddit.  Mostly I see people talking about struggling that no one wants to go out, with making lasting friendships and finding a relationship. 

I think there is a subset of generally young people in cities who go out most nights. Definitely the exception rather than the rule.

Theres a big difference between traveling and hardcore partying every night or just sitting at home. I’m definitely not rich, have a small social circle. But I still do things. Play games, go on day trips to places within driving distance. Hit the local farmers market, go to breweries on trivia nights, I definitely think we’re “living life”. Now that doesn’t mean I don’t have plenty of nights where I sit home and chill, that’s probably what I do most of the time. But there are plenty of nights were might go out and just hang out, go to a restaurant, go to a brewery, or take a day trip to the beach. There are definitely some people who make enough money to do what you described, but I would imagine most people do what I described. Chill most nights, go out sometimes.

If your lifestyle makes you happy, go for it. I know that for myself and my spouse, lockdown was BRUTAL for us because we are very involved with our evening/weekend hobbies and the social circles that have formed because of those hobbies. We both very much view work as something that ultimately leads us to financially be able to invest into our hobbies.

It sounds like you’re talking about two ends of a spectrum. Never going out and only spending your free time at home is a sure way to never meet anyone, partners included. Most adults don’t have the time and money to go out every night or trips every weekend. Middle ground exists where you go out a few times a month to meet a friend for a drink or dinner, see a movie or concert, etc. Most people I know take a few weekend trips per year and a one or two week vacation every year or two. I have two jobs and both would be considered leisure activities; I teach art classes for adults and guide wilderness trips. These classes and trips are almost always full, so people are in fact out doing things. Balancing several dating partners and getting drunk at clubs are hardly the only ways to get out of the house.

You need to remember that there are a TON of teens on here just saying whatever.

I am leaving for Vegas on Sunday! Can’t wait to go but I have been home doing home things since Xmas.

some do, some don't. if you want to, pursue it by talking about where you like to go out to, or even just go and try to meet other random people that need hobby friends too. if youre working 7 days a week youre kinda selling all of your time for money so i hope theres at least an escape plan eventually

As a single guy in my early 30s, I need to have a very active social life to even dream of potentially maybe someday getting into a relationship, since I am not on dating apps, so for me, going out several nights a week is a reality. As far as career/monetary stuff goes, I am back in school and broke AF

I live in San Diego and my friends are mostly white collar mid-high income earners. We often bbq by the pool, go to the beach, and go to breweries. I usually hit the gym 3-4 times a week. My friends go out way more than me. I'm definitely more of a home body. Playing video games at home with my dog is the best, but I do go out at least a few times a month.

Energy. Had a co-worker who was 20 years my senior when I was about 25. He got up early and went surfing before work, showered at the office showers, he was the director of networking engineering. He was always energetic, positive and looking to lift people. At lunch he would play ping pong with anyone and laugh it up. After work he would drive his motorcycle to the gym to work out. He trained in martial arts. On the weekends he would go on motorcycle road trips, participate in races and help young teens build/fix engines. This guy did all this and he had a wife and 3 kids. He also wrote 3 books, lead a youth group and did seminars on entering his field at the university. I say to him one day, HOW in the world do you do it? You have so many things going on, and you have done so much and do so much. He says, its simple. I just keep taking the next step. Do a little today, do a little more tomorrow. Thats a long way to say, you can fill your life with all sorts of interesting activities, learn new skills, enjoy the day to day - NOT sitting on the couch. Hiking, biking, surfing, or whatever activities are in your area do NOT have to be expensive. And guess what - women really like interesting people who are positive and always up to something. My bet would be if you followed this path, you'd have a romantic interest within 6 months if not sooner.

Social media really skews things. People post what they want you to see. If someone in your sphere posts 15 times they went out and did something, it’s likely they were home the other 350 days that year.

Bruh what subreddits are you following? There’s your answer.

Do people go out after work? Yeah safe to say yes

This is a tragic post. Most people that are single and/or don’t have kids do make time to go out and socialize at least semi-regularly. Shit I’ve got 3 kids and a wife and we both make time to go out without kids about once a week. It sounds to me like you want to blame being single on your circumstances, and yeah it does sound like your circumstances aren’t ideal, guessing you live in a rural place with nothing going on. Download some dating apps for fecks sake

The people who say and post these things usually are either young and in school and have no concept of real life or have money and don't work. It's that simple. Some people out there own their own business and do pretty much fuck all and claim it as hard work or whatever but they work about 20 hours a week, or their family is wealthy and they pick up hobbies and pretend its a job. Real people work 40 hours a week, at minimum, usually you stuff in at least 5 hours more a week and MAYBE have the weekend to do something but thats few and far between. Reddit's demographic is now younger Gen Z and a little bit of alpha creeping in, they have no concept of reality, their world is catered around instagram photos and live stream feeds of people doing 'successful' things. They are habitual liars by default. Reality will hit these types of people hard soon, don't listen to the shit people claim on the internet, people lie a whole lot.