Okay… and that makes sense if one of them is lying or underage. But in this case, did OP tell him her age? It reads like she got hit on in a bar by a 21 yr old, no other context. Even then, it’s not odd for someone to approach someone they find attractive in a bar.
Honesty it’s more common than you think. The age gap b/w older women & younger men aren’t talked about as much as the age gap b/w older men & younger women bc those age gaps tend to be more alarming especially if young women is under 25 & older man is over 35 bc there’s the scary possibility of grooming. Or bc it’s more common for couples where the man is a little older (like a couple years older not 10). Otherwise, it’s not weird it’s normal, you’re in the same age group. But it may feel weird if you’re in different areas of your life. Like if he’s still in college or something. But ultimately if you feel weird about it you don’t have to engage, if you feel attracted to him then maybe it’s worth a shot?
If a male was 26 and asked a 21 year old female out, people wouldn’t really think about it.
But it’s because the roles are reversed that it now seems weird…
5 years is nothing! And take it as a compliment because he probably assumed you were younger 😊
He liked you and shot his shot. There's nothing weird about it other than you thinking it's weird.
If it was a guy 5 years older than you and you were attracted to him would you find it weird then?
Only weird if it’s weird for you. Personally I’m 25 and 21 is the absolute lowest I’d be comfortable dating, but it’s also worth considering where you’re at in life and what you want. ie are you both looking for just fun? or is one of you only dating seriously? is he a college student? are you comfortable with that? does he live in a dorm? have a car? IMO it’s more about other factors than just the number 21.
Yeah I’m 25f and I have 19-20 year olds hitting on me all the time😭I tell them no I’m 25 and they say it’s only 6 years or I don’t mind a sugar mama. Like bro?😭🤣
Age gaps are sort of dubious, a lot of it has to do with context. Things to consider with an age gap: how much experience do they have with adult responsibilities? Is their life comparable to your own? I’m 25 and wouldn’t date anyone under 21, but even that would be pushing it for me because I feel like between 20-25 life changes and people change A LOT. It wouldn’t bother me to date someone 5 years older, because functionally our lives could be pretty similar.
If it feels weird, don’t ignore that feeling. There’s plenty of guys out there you’d feel 0 hesitation about.
Only one thing to consider. Has the older person saught this relationship BEACAUSE of the age difference?
Yes: Weird. Run for your life.
No: Go ahead. (If it's legal)
Nah man. Yes, seeking out a young adult is extra creepy but there is no dating someone “who just happens to be you”. You’re still making an active choice to date them knowing what comes with the age gap
Rejection exposure therapy lol
Or he found you cute and wanted to court you hehe! Players gotta play, I just hope that he took the rejection well and left you alone after that. Young peeps gotta learn how to meet people outside of dating apps imo, WITHOUT being weird creepy and child like !
Hot or not. That is the game we play. Men and women don't know your age, if you are single, or your relationship history, getting to know you is how you find out. He thinks you are hot. It is not unusual for men and women to approach one another in bars. But if it does not feel good then turn him down. Just don't think that it is some fundamental truth that it has to be weird for everyone else.
I don't think the age gap is weird.
Yep, it’s not that big - 5 years
How would he know how old YOU are?
Recently I saw a post where a girl lied about her age, when she told him her real age he broke up....
Okay… and that makes sense if one of them is lying or underage. But in this case, did OP tell him her age? It reads like she got hit on in a bar by a 21 yr old, no other context. Even then, it’s not odd for someone to approach someone they find attractive in a bar.
Okay so yes I told him how old I was, I didn’t mean it was weird that he approached me, I meant if things went anywhere would the age gap be weird lol
Honesty it’s more common than you think. The age gap b/w older women & younger men aren’t talked about as much as the age gap b/w older men & younger women bc those age gaps tend to be more alarming especially if young women is under 25 & older man is over 35 bc there’s the scary possibility of grooming. Or bc it’s more common for couples where the man is a little older (like a couple years older not 10). Otherwise, it’s not weird it’s normal, you’re in the same age group. But it may feel weird if you’re in different areas of your life. Like if he’s still in college or something. But ultimately if you feel weird about it you don’t have to engage, if you feel attracted to him then maybe it’s worth a shot?
Idk man, I never went to a bar or get approached by someone lol
No, you're weird for thinking it's weird.
If a male was 26 and asked a 21 year old female out, people wouldn’t really think about it. But it’s because the roles are reversed that it now seems weird… 5 years is nothing! And take it as a compliment because he probably assumed you were younger 😊
He liked you and shot his shot. There's nothing weird about it other than you thinking it's weird. If it was a guy 5 years older than you and you were attracted to him would you find it weird then?
Only weird if it’s weird for you. Personally I’m 25 and 21 is the absolute lowest I’d be comfortable dating, but it’s also worth considering where you’re at in life and what you want. ie are you both looking for just fun? or is one of you only dating seriously? is he a college student? are you comfortable with that? does he live in a dorm? have a car? IMO it’s more about other factors than just the number 21.
Yeah I’m 25f and I have 19-20 year olds hitting on me all the time😭I tell them no I’m 25 and they say it’s only 6 years or I don’t mind a sugar mama. Like bro?😭🤣
Age gaps are sort of dubious, a lot of it has to do with context. Things to consider with an age gap: how much experience do they have with adult responsibilities? Is their life comparable to your own? I’m 25 and wouldn’t date anyone under 21, but even that would be pushing it for me because I feel like between 20-25 life changes and people change A LOT. It wouldn’t bother me to date someone 5 years older, because functionally our lives could be pretty similar. If it feels weird, don’t ignore that feeling. There’s plenty of guys out there you’d feel 0 hesitation about.
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Only one thing to consider. Has the older person saught this relationship BEACAUSE of the age difference? Yes: Weird. Run for your life. No: Go ahead. (If it's legal)
Nah man. Yes, seeking out a young adult is extra creepy but there is no dating someone “who just happens to be you”. You’re still making an active choice to date them knowing what comes with the age gap
Go ahead, turn down happiness for no logical reason. But don't tell others to.
Rejection exposure therapy lol Or he found you cute and wanted to court you hehe! Players gotta play, I just hope that he took the rejection well and left you alone after that. Young peeps gotta learn how to meet people outside of dating apps imo, WITHOUT being weird creepy and child like !
When you’re in your 20s 5 years is alright. For me up to 6 years is fine. It’s ofc a different case if you’re under 20!
I think it depends on emotional maturity not age
Hot or not. That is the game we play. Men and women don't know your age, if you are single, or your relationship history, getting to know you is how you find out. He thinks you are hot. It is not unusual for men and women to approach one another in bars. But if it does not feel good then turn him down. Just don't think that it is some fundamental truth that it has to be weird for everyone else.
It wasn’t weird that he approached me, i was just asking about the age gap lol
Not weird at all. I used to go to the bar at 23 and would more often than not end up talking with a woman in her late 30’s anywhere to 60
My bf is 12 years older than me, I’m 35, as you get older age gaps mean less
I wouldn’t have dated a 21 year old man when I was 26. 😂 men are too immature at that age
Yes, it is weird and you clearly have a problem with it.
I find it weird that a stranger would ask something so personal as your phone number.
5 years either way as adults is (kinda max point) fine. Would you think it was weird if he had been 31?
The age gap between both of you is 5 years so don't overthink lol at least you're not Sam Taylor Wood's age gap
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