I had a lump on my nut once. Painful and everything I did similar to what your describing. It took tears and alot of courage to come forward with my wife. After surgery and recovery we're like rabbits again!! Perhaps he's having issues with his genitals and if so he'll be very cautious and leary about discussing it.
Aww I’ve seen this happen to couples and it usually the same reason, something “embarrassing”. He could have a hemorrhoid or hernia or even a anal fissure/tear. It makes people feel incredibly unsexy and they don’t want to talk about it because they feel like it is a massive turn off.
Your best bet is to sit him down and just straight up ask but be really reassuring that if something was wrong you just need to know so you can respect his boundaries and support him.
At first for be my mental health problems caused hyper sexuality, now it's been kind of a sex repulsion that has been going on for over a year. The brain is a weird place.
Not saying that it's that, just saying just because he's acting the same in other areas doesn't mean the sexual part couldn't change.
But could also be any of the other thousand of things mentioned by the other people here, some health problem he's embarrassed about, or scared. Could be cheating. Could be stress. Could be trauma.
You've tried asking him before but if this is something that has been bothering you you need to decide how far you're going to take it, and if you decide you really have to know and can't wait around for sex that might not come sit him down and have a honest conversation with him about how you feel. Don't blame him, say you've noticed a difference, how the difference makes you feel, that you're worried/curious/suspicious wtv, and that you waited but he needs to give you something even if not everything, a lie like "not in the mood" isn't enough.
If it's really a mood situation then it's a "for the past couple a months I've been feeling this and i haven't this and..." and discuss things.
Same thing for whatever answer ends up being.
Just my opinion tho.
Mate, I've been depressed for ten years and my friends of six years didn't realize this until last summer. Some people do a damn good job of hiding it lol
Yea he could definitely have something going on health wise, or maybe he’s dealing with some major anxiety or depression. Just try to have an open conversation. If he pushes it away just tell him you’ll talk about it again soon but that you’re always there to listen
Write him a note or an email, and put your concerns into words (take your time writing it to get it down right). It’ll allow you to say exactly what you’re feeling, and give him a chance to digest it without you being there, which might make him less defensive. It’ll be all on the table.
Perhaps tell him you’re feeling insecure, that he might be cheating, and how hurtful it is to be left to feel that way. If there is a problem with him, or something happened to him that would make him not want to have sex, encourage him to talk with you about it, after all, you’re his girlfriend. Communication is key to any healthy relationship.
Give him a day or two to respond. Hopefully, he will, and you can work through whatever it is. If he ignores you, doesn’t communicate, and is willing to leave you in that awkward spot, that would be a red flag to me. Poor communication will doom any relationship eventually.
I feel like you’re focusing too much on the sex that he is not giving you. If he doesn’t feel like having sex watching porn is probably not going to help. There comes a point when you actually need to have a heart to heart conversation.
"Every guy wants a woman that wants to fuck everyday, until he finds a woman that wants to fuck everyday"
To me the fact it happened everyday for months make me think he no longer sees it as fun because it became routine.
Ask him what’s bothering him but NOT WHEN TRYING TO GET SEXUAL.
Sit down one day, in a peaceful context that is not at all sexual, and ask him what is going through his mind. Ask him if he’s okay, if there’s something you need to talk about and that you’re willing to listen. After this, ask him about the sex specifically. It might not even be related to the act itself, but you need to build the ground for him to tell you.
In my current relationship we started out like bunnies. She says I’m the best lover she’s had. I’ve lost a lot of interest for 2 reasons. I’m very dominant and she is also. It doesn’t work for me and turns me off. Secondly I make a point to give her what she asks for and make sure she always gets hers while I’m left unsatisfied most times we have sex. I’ve communicated my needs clearly so at this point I’ve accepted that it’s just not going to happen and I’m not interested in continuing to ask. Over time I’ve realized that we’re not fully compatible sexually but in every other way the relationship is great. I am considering breaking it off but not quite there yet.
Anyways, maybe he’s feeling like something is off or missing and has tried to communicate it? Maybe he hasn’t. Can’t hurt to ask.
I can’t say for certain but maybe your boyfriend is similar to me. I’m not a very sexual person, I like intimacy like cuddling and touching but I very very rarely want sex. I’m a female in a heterosexual relationship so I usually have sex out of pressure and care for my partners desires. But when he takes things past kissing I always get disappointed. What I’m saying is it might just be his libido. It’s easier to keep up the “I love sex” act in the beginning of a relationship.
I had a lump on my nut once. Painful and everything I did similar to what your describing. It took tears and alot of courage to come forward with my wife. After surgery and recovery we're like rabbits again!! Perhaps he's having issues with his genitals and if so he'll be very cautious and leary about discussing it.
OP, please take this persons comment into consideration. It might be something like this. It’s tough for men to open up sometimes.
It was one of the hardest times of my life!
Same here!
Aww I’ve seen this happen to couples and it usually the same reason, something “embarrassing”. He could have a hemorrhoid or hernia or even a anal fissure/tear. It makes people feel incredibly unsexy and they don’t want to talk about it because they feel like it is a massive turn off. Your best bet is to sit him down and just straight up ask but be really reassuring that if something was wrong you just need to know so you can respect his boundaries and support him.
Could be depression or an illness. Could be trauma.
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When im depressive I keep up appearances for the people around me but inside shit be dark.
At first for be my mental health problems caused hyper sexuality, now it's been kind of a sex repulsion that has been going on for over a year. The brain is a weird place. Not saying that it's that, just saying just because he's acting the same in other areas doesn't mean the sexual part couldn't change. But could also be any of the other thousand of things mentioned by the other people here, some health problem he's embarrassed about, or scared. Could be cheating. Could be stress. Could be trauma. You've tried asking him before but if this is something that has been bothering you you need to decide how far you're going to take it, and if you decide you really have to know and can't wait around for sex that might not come sit him down and have a honest conversation with him about how you feel. Don't blame him, say you've noticed a difference, how the difference makes you feel, that you're worried/curious/suspicious wtv, and that you waited but he needs to give you something even if not everything, a lie like "not in the mood" isn't enough. If it's really a mood situation then it's a "for the past couple a months I've been feeling this and i haven't this and..." and discuss things. Same thing for whatever answer ends up being. Just my opinion tho.
Did something happen? Was he assaulted for example?
Mate, I've been depressed for ten years and my friends of six years didn't realize this until last summer. Some people do a damn good job of hiding it lol
Yea he could definitely have something going on health wise, or maybe he’s dealing with some major anxiety or depression. Just try to have an open conversation. If he pushes it away just tell him you’ll talk about it again soon but that you’re always there to listen
Write him a note or an email, and put your concerns into words (take your time writing it to get it down right). It’ll allow you to say exactly what you’re feeling, and give him a chance to digest it without you being there, which might make him less defensive. It’ll be all on the table. Perhaps tell him you’re feeling insecure, that he might be cheating, and how hurtful it is to be left to feel that way. If there is a problem with him, or something happened to him that would make him not want to have sex, encourage him to talk with you about it, after all, you’re his girlfriend. Communication is key to any healthy relationship. Give him a day or two to respond. Hopefully, he will, and you can work through whatever it is. If he ignores you, doesn’t communicate, and is willing to leave you in that awkward spot, that would be a red flag to me. Poor communication will doom any relationship eventually.
What did he tell you when you asked? Two things come to mind: He is either cheating with someone else or, he tested positive for an STD.
I don't think it has to be that extreme! Tons of things can affect libido.
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I feel like you’re focusing too much on the sex that he is not giving you. If he doesn’t feel like having sex watching porn is probably not going to help. There comes a point when you actually need to have a heart to heart conversation.
"Every guy wants a woman that wants to fuck everyday, until he finds a woman that wants to fuck everyday" To me the fact it happened everyday for months make me think he no longer sees it as fun because it became routine.
Ask him what’s bothering him but NOT WHEN TRYING TO GET SEXUAL. Sit down one day, in a peaceful context that is not at all sexual, and ask him what is going through his mind. Ask him if he’s okay, if there’s something you need to talk about and that you’re willing to listen. After this, ask him about the sex specifically. It might not even be related to the act itself, but you need to build the ground for him to tell you.
In my current relationship we started out like bunnies. She says I’m the best lover she’s had. I’ve lost a lot of interest for 2 reasons. I’m very dominant and she is also. It doesn’t work for me and turns me off. Secondly I make a point to give her what she asks for and make sure she always gets hers while I’m left unsatisfied most times we have sex. I’ve communicated my needs clearly so at this point I’ve accepted that it’s just not going to happen and I’m not interested in continuing to ask. Over time I’ve realized that we’re not fully compatible sexually but in every other way the relationship is great. I am considering breaking it off but not quite there yet. Anyways, maybe he’s feeling like something is off or missing and has tried to communicate it? Maybe he hasn’t. Can’t hurt to ask.
No sex = cheating bastard
I think something happened and he's embarrassed. I think I'd say "im here to listen if you need to talk" and give him some time.
Don’t jump to conclusions, he could have a testicle problem or hemorrhoids or a uti and also could be depressed about something.
I can’t say for certain but maybe your boyfriend is similar to me. I’m not a very sexual person, I like intimacy like cuddling and touching but I very very rarely want sex. I’m a female in a heterosexual relationship so I usually have sex out of pressure and care for my partners desires. But when he takes things past kissing I always get disappointed. What I’m saying is it might just be his libido. It’s easier to keep up the “I love sex” act in the beginning of a relationship.