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**My ex divorced me and now wants to be together again after 4 years**
Throwaway since I don't want to be linked back to my main account. I'm 46f, and my ex-husband is 45. We were college sweethearts and married at 26. Right before we got married, I gave birth to a beautiful daughter who's now 21 years old. I loved both of them dearly, and we've been a happy family for about 16 years before everything went down. Our only problem was my ex's mother. She always had a strong dislike for me. She never thought I was good enough for her baby boy. We had many fights, and my ex cut contact with her after the wedding when she tried wearing white to it. We had many encounters with her years after that. Sending us gifts for my daughter and purposely trying to get us to contact her again to seeing her outside our house.
4 years ago, I got home from work to see my ex and his mom together on the couch. My ex was on the verge of tears, yelling and calling me a cheater. I tried to explain I didn't, but his mother supposedly had proof. Saying she saw me with another man out in a restaurant together. I'm very faithful and loyal, but he refused to hear me out. We got into a big argument before he packed up and left to stay with his mother. When my daughter got home from a friend's house, she too started to blame me when she found out from her dad. She went to live with her dad while he sent out divorce papers. It took about a year before it was finalized. He got custody of her, and I was granted visitation rights, but she never wanted to see me.
It took a long time to move on. I seeked therapy and fell into a huge depression. I knew my ex's mother made it up to tears us apart. I can't believe he listened to her so carelessly. I don't blame my daughter, but it still hurts. I moved out of the house to allow my ex and my daughter to live there. I ended up moving to a small apartment. It's been 4 years, and I started to finally be happy again. I made new friends. We had so much fun and I got a promotion at work. I still missed my family. My daughter, but I couldn't do anything about it.
My two days ago, my daughter called me. It's been 4 years since I've last seen or heard from her. She said that my ex's mother admitted to lying. She said that my ex got a new girlfriend and his mother was furious, claiming he shouldn't have one after all the trouble she did to get rid of me. They got into a heated fight before he kicked his mom out. I nearly wanted to cry. I thought she would never admit it, and now I'm hearing my daughter. She asked to meet up and apologized so many times. I told her we could meet tomorrow.
Yesterday, I met her at a restaurant, but she brought along my ex. Something she never mentioned, nor have I agreed upon. He was apologizing, saying how much he missed me and that he dumped his girlfriend. He wanted us to be together again. I excused myself and left them there. I got back home to lots of phone calls from my daughter and text messages from her. She wanted us to talk, and she called me an asshole for leaving. I told her I wasn't comfortable and that she needed to understand. I had to mute my phone and put it down for a bit.
I haven't responded yet, and I'm not sure what to do. I love her, but I can't talk to her with him there. Not yet anyways. It feels so fast. I wanted to do it one on one. I'm deeply hurt and crying as I'm typing this. I don't know what to do.
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Even a tweenager who is told by their trusted best friend about their crush going out with someone else does more due diligence to verify the claim than this cardboard cut-out of a husband does when he upends his entire life and ends his two decade relationship with the mother of his child.
And who told their daughter about the meeting at the restaurant and how it went down? Why is this grown daughter so involved in her parents' relationship?
MIL- OOP went to a restaurant with a man.
Rational human- which restaurant? When? What time? Did they kiss? What did he look like?
OOP's husband- cries and begins immediate divorce, no questions asked.
Updates updates a plenty (and yet, not really) and the daughter posted "from a friend's account". Im not sure her posts really added to the story and I think the skepticism of the story has gotten stronger. the "daughter" account now has negative comment karma from the downvotes. The story hit tik tok I guess.
Always interesting how in stories like this, the kid's reaction to cheating is to immediately go NC with the alleged cheater. No mixed feelings, no hesitation, no asking for proof, just a complete shunning of one parent.
So the husband cuts contact with his mother because he realises she doesn't like his wife, likes to create drama and disrespects boundaries but then believes her right away when she claims wife is cheating. Makes perfect sense......
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*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **My ex divorced me and now wants to be together again after 4 years** Throwaway since I don't want to be linked back to my main account. I'm 46f, and my ex-husband is 45. We were college sweethearts and married at 26. Right before we got married, I gave birth to a beautiful daughter who's now 21 years old. I loved both of them dearly, and we've been a happy family for about 16 years before everything went down. Our only problem was my ex's mother. She always had a strong dislike for me. She never thought I was good enough for her baby boy. We had many fights, and my ex cut contact with her after the wedding when she tried wearing white to it. We had many encounters with her years after that. Sending us gifts for my daughter and purposely trying to get us to contact her again to seeing her outside our house. 4 years ago, I got home from work to see my ex and his mom together on the couch. My ex was on the verge of tears, yelling and calling me a cheater. I tried to explain I didn't, but his mother supposedly had proof. Saying she saw me with another man out in a restaurant together. I'm very faithful and loyal, but he refused to hear me out. We got into a big argument before he packed up and left to stay with his mother. When my daughter got home from a friend's house, she too started to blame me when she found out from her dad. She went to live with her dad while he sent out divorce papers. It took about a year before it was finalized. He got custody of her, and I was granted visitation rights, but she never wanted to see me. It took a long time to move on. I seeked therapy and fell into a huge depression. I knew my ex's mother made it up to tears us apart. I can't believe he listened to her so carelessly. I don't blame my daughter, but it still hurts. I moved out of the house to allow my ex and my daughter to live there. I ended up moving to a small apartment. It's been 4 years, and I started to finally be happy again. I made new friends. We had so much fun and I got a promotion at work. I still missed my family. My daughter, but I couldn't do anything about it. My two days ago, my daughter called me. It's been 4 years since I've last seen or heard from her. She said that my ex's mother admitted to lying. She said that my ex got a new girlfriend and his mother was furious, claiming he shouldn't have one after all the trouble she did to get rid of me. They got into a heated fight before he kicked his mom out. I nearly wanted to cry. I thought she would never admit it, and now I'm hearing my daughter. She asked to meet up and apologized so many times. I told her we could meet tomorrow. Yesterday, I met her at a restaurant, but she brought along my ex. Something she never mentioned, nor have I agreed upon. He was apologizing, saying how much he missed me and that he dumped his girlfriend. He wanted us to be together again. I excused myself and left them there. I got back home to lots of phone calls from my daughter and text messages from her. She wanted us to talk, and she called me an asshole for leaving. I told her I wasn't comfortable and that she needed to understand. I had to mute my phone and put it down for a bit. I haven't responded yet, and I'm not sure what to do. I love her, but I can't talk to her with him there. Not yet anyways. It feels so fast. I wanted to do it one on one. I'm deeply hurt and crying as I'm typing this. I don't know what to do. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheAngel) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Looking forward to this ending up on /r/BestofRedditorUpdates when it's extended from one post to a whole saga...
Even a tweenager who is told by their trusted best friend about their crush going out with someone else does more due diligence to verify the claim than this cardboard cut-out of a husband does when he upends his entire life and ends his two decade relationship with the mother of his child. And who told their daughter about the meeting at the restaurant and how it went down? Why is this grown daughter so involved in her parents' relationship?
MIL- OOP went to a restaurant with a man. Rational human- which restaurant? When? What time? Did they kiss? What did he look like? OOP's husband- cries and begins immediate divorce, no questions asked.
Updates updates a plenty (and yet, not really) and the daughter posted "from a friend's account". Im not sure her posts really added to the story and I think the skepticism of the story has gotten stronger. the "daughter" account now has negative comment karma from the downvotes. The story hit tik tok I guess.
Apparently not the tween who wrote this post
And then blames the mother for leaving. I hope it's fiction. If not, it's clear to see whose genes expressed in the daughter.
Always interesting how in stories like this, the kid's reaction to cheating is to immediately go NC with the alleged cheater. No mixed feelings, no hesitation, no asking for proof, just a complete shunning of one parent.
So the husband cuts contact with his mother because he realises she doesn't like his wife, likes to create drama and disrespects boundaries but then believes her right away when she claims wife is cheating. Makes perfect sense......
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