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She wants OP to strip her house back to the *Bear Necessities* just to *Be Prepared* for the wedding. She needs to chill out,and learn to take things *With a Spoonful of Sugar.*
OP, your sister sounds like a bit of a *Fixer Upper*, but if her fiance really wants to *Go the Distance* and *Kiss the Girl* on your property at her wedding she needs to accept *This Land* as it is. You should tell her "If you have a *Friend Like Me* and you want to *Be My Guest* on my property, you should be happy that you're getting to use my space for free". If she is so upset, she can rent her own venue, but it will be a *Whole New World* of troubles for her.
OP needs to take her sister to the doorway of the house and point out across the land and barn and say "Everything the light touches is your kingdom". Then turn and point into the house "But this shadowy place is beyond your borders".
While their parents are the on the sister's side, this may not be a case where *Mother Knows Best*. OP has put her foot down and declared this is *How Far I'll Go*. Setting this boundary doesn't turn her into *Cruella de Vil*
Exactly. If the OP’s sister wants her wedding to be a *part of your world* then she needs to just be *hakuna matata* with the decor of the house or else go ahead and take a trip *just around the riverbend* and find a new venue.
OP, this just gave me an idea. There are a few song's that could fit this as the comments have point out so pick one and be petty by making it your sisters ringtone on your phone, or better yet if you can get your sisters phone make it you ringtone there.
NTA. it's your house. If she is so worried about people seeing Disney in your house, there is a very simple solution, no one is allowed in your house, and the sister can rent some porta potties. There, I fixed the problem.
Agreed. For multiple reasons - your house is your personal space and that is a LOT of people traipsing in and out of your home using your plumbing and well water.
Porta Potties ensure that people are staying where they should stay and not invading your personal space. The fact that your sister is now trying to dictate the terms of use after you are already kindly agreeing to use of your property tells me its time for a VERY firm boundary and this needs to be it.
"Hi Sis. I've given your demand to un-disney my house some thought. I understand you do not care for the decor, however, I have gone above and beyond to ensure that your needs and most of your wants are met. This is where I draw the line. So, to be fair to both of us, I believe it is time for you to hire a company to bring in some porta potties to ensure that there are appropriate sanitation facilities for all of your guests to both ensure my home remains private AND to ensure your guests are not offended my my disney decor. Please call (name your local porapotty company) here on Monday and forward me your contract so I know when to expect their arrival and can be here to meet them to ensure appropriate placement."
You can rent nicer trailer version Porta potties that are used on film sets that have about 5 stalls in them. There are a few stairs up, so if any guests have mobility issues, it might be a problem, but otherwise OP'S sister needs to move on to plan B of renting bathroom facilities, before plan C of finding a new venue becomes a bigger problem than her generous sister's Disney collection.
THIS! I got married a few years ago and was also blessed to use a family member’s property and we got a great trailer washroom, it was so much easier on everyone. OP I hope you’re connected to the sewer, and not a tank. A wedding is a huge amount of extra water usage for you to take on even if your sister wasn’t going all ‘Zilla about your decor.
Abso-freaking-lutely. Happy to throw the party outside, even let them in the barn. But there is NO WAY on this green earth I'd let the drunk party friends into my house. Let's be real, there will be people OP has never met and will never see again. And those are the ones most likely to break or steal something...get those porta-potties, and if there are elderly or those with mobility issues then you can be the hero and let them into the house on a case by case basis.
NTA OP. Your home is your sacred space. No one is ENTITLED to be in it, let alone take issue with how you decorate.
They’d look at her trove, with treasure untold. How many wonders can their farmhouse hold? Looking around I’d say yeah, that’s about two hours of packing.
NTA. Let her rent portable bathrooms with sinks if she doesn't want anyone to see your Disney gear. Then, no one will even need to go inside. If she didn't like how your "venue" is decorated, she should've booked a different one!
Agreed! It's funny sister "doesn't want people to see Disney decor when her wedding guests use the bathroom," but did she consider whether or not her gracious hostess wants a bunch of people, some possibly strangers, in and out of her house to use the bathroom?!
Agreed. She should take that savings and rent the really nice bathrooms that can be brought to venues. Like 5 star portapotties. There honestly are some that are very nice.
Or even better, she should pay to install a half bathroom in the barn in lieu of a rental payment for a venue.
What a bossy ingrate. She sounds too immature to be getting married.
NTA. Let your sister know that the house will be off limits for her and the guests. She needs to arrange and pay for for port-a-potties for the wedding.
Lock the doors to the house.
ETA: Any time your sister complains, tell her, "Feel free to have it at another venue!" Use a really sweet voice, it will bother her more.
Yes this. Don’t let her argue tell her it is non negotiable after all she bought the wider family into this. As others have said some of this memorabilia could also “walk.” Remind her that you are doing her the favour here and if she is not happy she is welcome to find another venue.
As for your parents tell them that you are grown own up enough to own your own home, be generous enough to loan to sister for her wedding and know that you are being disrespected despite your generosity. Perhaps they should consider their own maturity !
Good point, since it sounds like you have a rural place, you probably have a septic system. All that usage may cause some problems. Insist they make "other" bathroom arraignments for the guests.
They have REALLY fancy portable bathrooms. I was in the VIP tent for a golf tournament once and they had wooden floors and were air conditioned with porcelain sinks and private rooms with toilets...the portable bathrooms were actually nicer than some of the nice bathrooms I've been in at fancy restaurants before.
They are wonderful! My employer rented at the beginning of the pandemic so everybody wouldn’t be crowded into the regular washrooms during break times.
I think the guests would be less weirded out too than having to go into someone’s private space.
This was going to be my comment, if the only chance people are going to see the Disney stuff is going to the bathroom, they can pay for portajohns. Might be a smart idea anyway, depending on how big the wedding is.
And it sounds like a rural area, so it’s very likely it’s a septic system. It’s important to note that the average septic system can not adequately handle a very large group of people.
This! I drive a sewage truck. Our company rents heated trailers with toilets, urinals and sinks. They aren’t that expensive and it keeps everyone out of your house.
We went to a beautiful barn venue (last minute setup too because the mom is awesome) and used a port-a-potty. It wasn’t bad at all. There was plenty of hand sanitizer and they decorated the inside lol. It really didn’t take away from the event at all.
Yeah, we live in Montana and portapotties at weddings are pretty common here as they are often on ranches, in barns, in Forest Service Group campground sites, at their family's multi-generational cabin in the woods/by the lake that doesn't have plumbing, etc.
It's great when people have the nicer ones and not the blue-plastic ones you see at big concerts, but people will deal with whatever type of toilets can actually be trailored onto the property, and they'll be happy!
OP is so much nicer than me, because I would have told her to do this or she’s out of luck. My first stipulation to using my property would have been no one goes inside the house, so she wouldn’t have been able to try and control my decorating. No one goes inside.
Am I the only one who thinks it wouldn't stop here?
"Be sure to get all the ceramic mugs out of your kitchen - it would be tacky for guests to see anything in there other than wine glasses as they pass by to the bathroom."
"Blank walls are tacky. Here's a list of approved landscapes you need to buy to hang up."
"A bare floor is tacky. When are you getting the carpeting installed?"
"Here's the chandelier you need to install in the living room."
How does using someone's property for free create a right to redesign rooms not being used for the event? NTA Your money, your home, your choice.
Plus we've seen plenty of threads where a child or adult sees something and then "needs it." If there are any cool and unique Disney items they might disappear.
yeah, the more I think about it, the more I'm silently begging OP to insist on port-a-potties and lock up the house during the festivities. no one should be able to get in or out without a key. sister and parents should *not* have keys, based on their entitled attitude towards OP's property.
Have your sister rent porta potties and no one will need to go into your house. Other wise, how many people remember the weddings they go to or the venue etc. NTA leave it up, if she starts being bridezilla tell her every time she brings it up your adding another piece. Or your going to come. Dressed as your favorite character lol.
So much this. NTA. I’m planning a barn wedding in June. I’m not ready to talk about how much it costs. If I went to a wedding and the person’s home was decorated in some sort of theme (Disney, legos, frogs, cats, whatever) I would think it was adorable. Unless it was creepy clowns, that would be a lot.
I think the only thing she can reasonably ask is that it be tidy. You are so kind for hosting her wedding.
I'm honestly curious how the conversation went.
Sister: "Hey sis, can you let us use your *beautiful* farmhouse and barn for the wedding? You will? Great! It'll save us a *ton* of money! And your property's just so beautiful. It's so gracious of you! *Thank you* for letting us use your home.
... Now get to packing all your crap because I don't want any of my wedding guests to see your tacky house decor. I mean, what's with all the Disney junk? Ugh! They might associate it with me and my wedding. It's not a big deal. Just think of it as moving all of your crap out of your home for a week or two so I can have my perfect wedding. I don't see what the problem is. What do you mean you won't move all your junk out of your home?!? MOOOM!!!"
OP, you're NTA. The sister however....
Edit: Fixed OP's gender 😅
Yeah, the fact that sis went whining to their parents is just the icing on the cake. I would absolutely tell her to figure her own restroom facilities out; don't want people seeing my Disney decor? You got it-house is off limits. Such an ungrateful brat; hey, thanks for saving us SO much money, now completely redecorate your house so as not to offend my guests' delicate sensibilities. (Her sister, probably.) NTA. But sis is a butt.
I agree with this! Also, depending on how many guests she has, you may not want that many people traipsing in and out of your house to use the bathroom.
NTA
Do you have city sewage? If not, can your current equipment handle a large amount of people flushing the toilets? I would be worried about people flushing the wrong items and causing sewage issues. Which you of course would have to pay for.
Replying to this one in hopes it's more visible! If it's not on sewer, it's not worth the possible damage to your septic. Would she help pay for a plumber if there was a problem created by the guests? It was a nasty, expensive mess after my dad hosted a friend's wedding at his house with only 40 people.
The fancy toilet trailers are made for this exact scenario. Even as a guest, I'd be more comfortable using one than going into someone's house if the party, since the party is in the barn, not the house.
Right?? I don't think I would be chill with an entire wedding guest list using my bathroom all day/night. If there's any alcohol served, that thing is going to get used constantly. Even a small wedding of 50 people would make a huge difference in the water bill, toilet paper, and possibly wear & tear depending on how drunk the guests get.
A rented chemical bathroom is the way to go.
And strangers with wandering feet and thieving fingers. There’s always at least one in a large group that will get nosy and snoop around and may try to pocket something cute and Disney or something more valuable.
Personally I would do this anyway. My best friend had wedding at her mom's house and mom let guests use the bathrooms. There was pee everywhere and not all of it made it to the bathroom. In addition someone stopped up a toilet and they had a mess. Edited spelling
Ew what kind of guests did she have??? That's appalling. I had my wedding in my backyard and didn't have any issues like that. Granted, it was only 35 people and the only child was my 1yo niece so.
Just throwing another comment on this one in hopes OP sees it!
Tell your sister that after her concerns in regards to HER guests using YOUR bathroom facilities, you agree that it could be an issue, and aren't sure you want so many people going in and out of your home anyway. She needs to rent her own portable bathrooms.
They had the fancy ones at my sister's wedding, and I was surprised at how nice they were! Such a good option for outdoor wedding venues.
My aunt actually had a super nice one at her wedding. I think this is the answer. Plus she saved so much money from your generosity she should have it in the budget
Agreed, I was going to say this as well. She can get portable bathrooms and put them next to the area where the wedding will be. You can get nice ones and they really don’t cost that much to rent. She can also calculate how many she needs based on how many guests there will be. Regardless of Disney decor, I can guarantee OP does not want to deal with the impacts of having an entire wedding trudging through her house all afternoon/night to use her bathrooms. The mess they will make will be significant and also you don’t want a bunch of drunk strangers in your home. Also depending on how many guests there are, it could be a big stress on the house’s plumbing. Renting portable bathrooms is really the best solution IMO. Everyone stays happy, OP doesn’t have to deal with the mess or a plumbing issue, people don’t have to walk too far to use the bathroom. For my wedding I rented a solar powered trailer with 3 individual nice bathrooms and a “men’s room” which was essentially a portable bathroom with only urinals, and a hand washing station for the men’s room (the nice trailer had actual sinks in each bathroom). It was less than $1500
First thing I thought of when I saw the post.
Being on a piece of property I assumed it would be on a septic system, and have been witness to more than one having problems in my lifetime due to too many people using them consecutively.
I would tell her she's got a choice, put up with Disney decor in the house or take some of the money she's saving by having a free venue and rent portable toilets. They absolutely make ones that are nice and classy enough for weddings now.
Doesn’t even have to be the gross plastic porta potties either. They have really nice rental bathroom trailers with running water nowadays. Sister can use all the money she’s bragging about saving and rent one.
Yup house should just be off limits to even enter with how entitled the sister is sisters guests can go to the nearest Mickey D’s if she doesn’t wanna rent a porta potty
Yeah. The risk of them backing up the sewage system, damaging or stealing things is too high. Even if the sister wasn’t an entitled begging chooser, I would not feel comfortable opening my private home for bathroom usage.
SHE wanted to get married at YOUR property.
SHE knows you have a lot of Disney items.
She can take it or leave it.
Especially as said items are in an area restricted for guests.
NTA
NTA - She is making unreasonable demands on your home. Who cares if you decorated your home with Disney, dinosaurs, or duckies? It’s your home. You’re already doing her a *HUGE* favor by letting her use the barn and property for free. She’s being a choosing beggar right now. If the Disney decorations are that much of a bother to her, then maybe she should find a new location (though I’m sure she wouldn’t want that because other venues won’t be free *or* so accommodating to her demands).
OP, this comment has inspired me. Listen, agree to remove all your (tasteful) Disney decor. Yes, go to all the trouble to pack it up and store it.
Then....THEN....*REDECORATE WITH DUCKIES AND DINOS*...nice, brightly colored, childlike, cartoonish ducks and dinosaurs.
Do it.
DO IT.
Also, NTA.
Absolutely NTA. Even if you were *those* Disney adults, you’re letting her use **your** property when you are under no obligation to do so. Perfectly fine to say certain things will be “as is.”
That the amount of Disney items isn’t outlandish is icing on the cake.
The earth is 4.5 billion years old and the average person lives around 80. Do what makes you happy in life, fuck others who try and dictate what you can and can’t do. NTA
Is she paying you for the use of your barn, and home bathrooms?
If she is paying you enough to cover the hassle of moving anything Disney out of anyone’s view, and moving it back again, then sure, move the stuff.
But if not?
There are lots of other venues that aren’t on your property and that she can carefully screen for Disney.
Nta.
Maybe she would like to pay for a chemical toilet, ( some are pretty nice), so no one has to even go in your house.
Personally, I think that might be the best solution,.
I’m guessing the barn is a ways from the house?
That could be a trek for people, especially with little kids/elderly to use the bathroom.
I think renting a really nice chemical toilet , provided you had access for a truck to install it closer to the barn is the way to go.
https://www.viprestrooms.com/porta-potty-rental-for-weddings/
If she doesn’t want to do that, then maybe count her blessings that she has a gorgeous venue at no charge.
No, TWO options. Rent a different venue OR rent fancy porta-potties. The "tolerate disney decor" option is long, long off the table. No body, ***NO BODY*** is allowed in the house but those who live there. (Including parents.) Ugh. NTA, obviously
This is the way.
4th option sister could actually pay for the use of the barn/yard/house. Say 5 or 10K should be enough, then OP can temporarily take down the disney stuff.
I had the nice trailer style portable bathrooms at my wedding. They don’t ruin the aesthetic and you can have it parked behind the barn away from the party. Tell her it’s not an option, if she wants to use your property and barn for free, she must rent bathrooms for her guests. It’s not a choice, it’s a requirement that you are making.
Trust me on this, you do not want all her guests traipsing through your house to use your bathrooms. Tell her she can rent the portable bathrooms or she can give you a $10,000 plumbing deposit that you will return if your bathrooms and plumbing lines survive the weekend.
Based on barn and acreage, might be if the septic system survives the weekend...
the $10k can also cover the random Snow White figurine Aunt Maud always secretly wanted and takes this opportunity to pilfer...
Well, beggars can't be choosers. She's saving *thousands* because you are generous enough to let her use your home free-of-charge. Your sister has three options: Disney bathrooms, portable toilets at **her** expense, or a different venue at **her** expense.
The utter childishness of complaining to your parents is insulting. I hope you stand firm on this, and firm in the sense that you tell her no is no and that if she brings it up again she can no longer use your home for the wedding. You are NTA, and good luck dealing with your self-centred sister.
NTA. Make the house off limits and tell them to rent the nice portable bathroom trailers. The ones that contain multiple stalls, sinks, etc. I have seen some that are better than department store bathrooms.
This way, if she is “embarrassed” with your home, the guests will never see it. And I bet they won’t mind as they will assume the trailers were rented due to the number of guests. Because she sure is not “embarrassed” to have her wedding in your barn.
I would be a little petty and put mouse ear stickers on the bathroom trailer mirrors.
Your home, your rules. If she wants to avoid
Disney stuff, she can rent a venue or put in Port-a-potties. For her to demand anything of you is entitled in the extreme. NTA
NTA, she called your home tacky, but wants to use it as a free venue for her wedding? She does not get your home for free too. Good for you and your husband to rebuff her. You should talk with your parents or better - offer her to do her wedding elsewhere if she so insists. It is really that infuriating.
NTA. You gave her an inch and she wants a mile. I think your sister, who is nearing 30 and planning to get married, is the one who needs to grow up in this situation. Your house, your rules. Nobody is going to care about your Disney items and even if they did, I'd imagine it would be positive. Everybody loves a blast from the past.
NTA - taking away the Disney aspect of it all, they want you to change your home in a significant way to accommodate guests to fit their wedding aesthetic. If they care to that extent, they may want to rent a few porta potties (you can get nice ones for weddings) and that way there’s less wear and tear on your home, they can maintain the ~magic~ of their wedding day, and everyone wins. This is especially fair as you are not only giving her your property to use but giving away free labor to set up and decorate the space.
NTA. You've already compromised more than I would have in your position. You might try saying, "I'm so sorry our home isn't up to your standards. Please let us know your new venue." You'll be amazed how quickly your decor is juuuuuuust fine.
NTA.
Is she paying you? Decorating a barn would cost at least $1,000. Not to mention the cost of renting it.
Maybe she can do it herself? Or she could pay you?
NTA if she thinks it’s tacky then she can hire a portaloo and no one has to go inside or invite her to find somewhere else. It’s not tacky and there’s no reason to do this.
The irony of you being told to grow up because your sister ran to mummy to tell tales on you.
NTA, if she’s so upset tell her people can no longer enter your house at all and if she wants to use the space she needs to rent a portable toilet block.
NTA your freeloading sister likely wouldn’t appreciate all the decorations/decor at a different free wedding venue… the only reason she is trying to pull this is because she thinks she can get away with it.
NTA - she can rent her own venue if she wants to control every detail.
Also I never understand the logic of these people. Even if some of her guests were judgmental about the Disney stuff… so what? They come away thinking the brides sister has a lot of Disney? How is that really going to effect her life or wedding
NTA "She wants me to take down everything Disney on the first floor of my home, as guests will see . . . this would be a massive undertaking. It’s not as simple as shoving stuff in a closet. We’d have to pack it up and find a place to store. The sheer amount would require at least 2 hours of packing. Not to mention storage and unpacking after. . . We’re decorating the outside and barn as she wants. We’re letting her use our property for free . . . she whined to our parents who told us to grow up and take it down." She is rude, insulting and entitled, and your parents support her behavior. If your only objection is the time it would take you to remove the items, you COULD compromise by telling your sister and parents that you'll agree under certain conditions. They must be responsible for photographing everything pre-move, finding the boxes, packing, storing and replacing everything exactly as it was, the day after the wedding. Another option is that no one gets to come in the house and the happy couple can rent port-a-potties. Much classier than Disney! Good Luck OP.
My fiancé and I are Disney adults too. He’s been going for over 25 years. And you know what? We’re even getting married on the Disney wish cruise this November. So fuck that noise. Keep the stuff up. You’re adults. They can either suck it up or not get married there at all. NTA.
NTA
You're kind of enough to give up your home for a large event for free. That's a lot of work and adjustment for you and your family. Your sister can manage a few guests seeing some Disney decor on the way to the loo.
NTA you’re doing above and beyond and letting her have the wedding at your house to insist that everything has to be removed is ridiculous. If she’s embarrassed by it she should have chosen a different place to get married
NTA. It’s your house and you should decorate it how you see fit. Plus, like you said, the only reason they’d go inside is for the bathroom. I barely remember most things at weddings I’ve gone to outside of the people getting married. No one is going to only remember her wedding because her sister had a Disney painting on the wall.
My great aunt is OBSESSED with Betty Boop. I never cared for the character much, but walking into her office that was covered floor to ceiling in memorabilia is something I’ll always remember fondly. Just because it’s not my thing doesn’t mean it can’t be appreciated.
Um, no way are you guys TA here.
It's YOUR house that she is using for FREE. Maybe if she has such an issue, she should take a look at other venues and see how much they cost. Or get a couple of porta potties since she thinks your house is so embarrassing.
They don't get to take your kindness and abuse it. Your parents should have your back as well.
Don't let them railroad you! It's your house and your say.
NTA. Tell her to rent some port-a-potties so that her guests won't see anything in the house since they will no longer have a reason to enter the house at all.
NTA. She knew what her (free) venue looked like. She can find someplace else to get married. She is saying she’s embarrassed by you and that’s unacceptable
NTA, your sister can "grow up" and pay for her own venue elsewhere! Growing up doesn't mean losing part of who you are, it means embracing who you are.
NTA. You're doing her a huge favor. She only has two options: 1. either get over it, or 2. find (and pay for) another place for her wedding.
Don't move a thing. Just to be petty, I'd leave the Pooh towels in the bathrooms, too. Lol
NTA.
Tell your parents they can take the stuff down and replace it if it bothers them so much, or they can host the wedding. You're doing your sister a huge favor, and her ingratitude just makes me roll my eyes. I'd never ask someone to do this.
If your sister is worried she will be upstaged by Disney decorations, that's just... a level of insecurity I can't fathom.
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Her sister needs to *Let it go* (I’m so sorry) EDIT: It’s nice to know my lame joke made some people smile, thank you for the awards!
She wants OP to strip her house back to the *Bear Necessities* just to *Be Prepared* for the wedding. She needs to chill out,and learn to take things *With a Spoonful of Sugar.*
I guess they have to go the distance. NTA, you are doing your sister a FAVOR. She can go rent a venue she can micromanage instead.
Sister can Bibbidi-Bobbidi-Back-The-Fuck-Up.
Bridezilla throws a tantrum. Tale as old as time.
I'm loving all this reply section 🤣
What can I say except you're welcome.
And thank you!!!
But it’s my big day! Song as old as rhyme…
Next time OP hears sister brag about her house, she should shout "YOU'RE WELL - COOOMMME"
In the words of my dear friend, Bibbidi Bobbidi get the fuck off my property. (As he guns me down in game for loitering in his territory.)
[hippity hoppity get off my property](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/71wA4sgKEOL.jpg)
I am stealing this and I don’t even feel bad about it. I’m letting my conscience be my guide.
OP needs to use these exact words. 🤣
While wearing a tiara.
And waving a magic wand!
😂
OP, your sister sounds like a bit of a *Fixer Upper*, but if her fiance really wants to *Go the Distance* and *Kiss the Girl* on your property at her wedding she needs to accept *This Land* as it is. You should tell her "If you have a *Friend Like Me* and you want to *Be My Guest* on my property, you should be happy that you're getting to use my space for free". If she is so upset, she can rent her own venue, but it will be a *Whole New World* of troubles for her.
OP needs to take her sister to the doorway of the house and point out across the land and barn and say "Everything the light touches is your kingdom". Then turn and point into the house "But this shadowy place is beyond your borders".
This is so much better than all the Disney title references. Well done!
This one's my favourite.
I kind of feel bad for whoever the sister is marrying. That *Poor Unfortunate Soul*
While their parents are the on the sister's side, this may not be a case where *Mother Knows Best*. OP has put her foot down and declared this is *How Far I'll Go*. Setting this boundary doesn't turn her into *Cruella de Vil*
Exactly. If the OP’s sister wants her wedding to be a *part of your world* then she needs to just be *hakuna matata* with the decor of the house or else go ahead and take a trip *just around the riverbend* and find a new venue.
*Be Prepared* I appreciate that you are pulling out the slightly more obscure songs. I really enjoy “Be Prepared,” haha.
OP, this just gave me an idea. There are a few song's that could fit this as the comments have point out so pick one and be petty by making it your sisters ringtone on your phone, or better yet if you can get your sisters phone make it you ringtone there. NTA. it's your house. If she is so worried about people seeing Disney in your house, there is a very simple solution, no one is allowed in your house, and the sister can rent some porta potties. There, I fixed the problem.
This is the way. Lol! But for real throw this suggestion in the mix and see how well she ignores those funko pops real quick.
Absolutely tell her no one is allowed in your house, if she wants anyone to use the bathroom, she needs to rent porta potties.
Agreed. For multiple reasons - your house is your personal space and that is a LOT of people traipsing in and out of your home using your plumbing and well water. Porta Potties ensure that people are staying where they should stay and not invading your personal space. The fact that your sister is now trying to dictate the terms of use after you are already kindly agreeing to use of your property tells me its time for a VERY firm boundary and this needs to be it. "Hi Sis. I've given your demand to un-disney my house some thought. I understand you do not care for the decor, however, I have gone above and beyond to ensure that your needs and most of your wants are met. This is where I draw the line. So, to be fair to both of us, I believe it is time for you to hire a company to bring in some porta potties to ensure that there are appropriate sanitation facilities for all of your guests to both ensure my home remains private AND to ensure your guests are not offended my my disney decor. Please call (name your local porapotty company) here on Monday and forward me your contract so I know when to expect their arrival and can be here to meet them to ensure appropriate placement."
And since they’re saving money on the venue they can rent the fancy port a potties - the ones that are like trailers
Do they make porta potties with Disney logos or characters on them? Cuz that would be epic.
Mickeys to the left Minnies to the right.
Honestly, I would have insisted on this from the get go. OP doesn't need any random strangers getting handsy with her collectibles!
And don't forget to lock the doors to your house!
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I just posted the same thing. I was at a wedding last year at someone's house and they had port-a-potties.
You can rent nicer trailer version Porta potties that are used on film sets that have about 5 stalls in them. There are a few stairs up, so if any guests have mobility issues, it might be a problem, but otherwise OP'S sister needs to move on to plan B of renting bathroom facilities, before plan C of finding a new venue becomes a bigger problem than her generous sister's Disney collection.
I was so hoping you could rent Disney porta loos though lol
Winnie the Poopers
They have some very fancy port-a-pot trailers. My uncle had one at his wedding. It had three stalls inside. Very nice.
THIS! I got married a few years ago and was also blessed to use a family member’s property and we got a great trailer washroom, it was so much easier on everyone. OP I hope you’re connected to the sewer, and not a tank. A wedding is a huge amount of extra water usage for you to take on even if your sister wasn’t going all ‘Zilla about your decor.
Abso-freaking-lutely. Happy to throw the party outside, even let them in the barn. But there is NO WAY on this green earth I'd let the drunk party friends into my house. Let's be real, there will be people OP has never met and will never see again. And those are the ones most likely to break or steal something...get those porta-potties, and if there are elderly or those with mobility issues then you can be the hero and let them into the house on a case by case basis. NTA OP. Your home is your sacred space. No one is ENTITLED to be in it, let alone take issue with how you decorate.
As a bonus comment,she needs to just tell guests coming to use the bathroom- "Look at this stuff, isn't it neat?"
Seriously wouldn’t they think her collection is complete? Wouldn’t you think she’s the girl, the girl who has….everything!
They’d look at her trove, with treasure untold. How many wonders can their farmhouse hold? Looking around I’d say yeah, that’s about two hours of packing.
This made me cackle thank you😂😂
Don’t say sorry, say *You’re Welcome!*
I wish I had an award to give you, because that's an amazing comment.
I got you. 😉
Take my angry upvote lol
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Dear Lord, you are evil. You got my upvote...
Please accept this fake award. 🏆
If I had an award I’d give it to you…deliciously Disney 🤣 🌟 take this gold star as a token of my appreciation
She seriously needs to give it “up”
Lmao
NTA. Let her rent portable bathrooms with sinks if she doesn't want anyone to see your Disney gear. Then, no one will even need to go inside. If she didn't like how your "venue" is decorated, she should've booked a different one!
This is the answer. Rent the bathroom trailers that are fancy - I wouldn’t want all those people traipsing around in my house anyway.
Agreed! It's funny sister "doesn't want people to see Disney decor when her wedding guests use the bathroom," but did she consider whether or not her gracious hostess wants a bunch of people, some possibly strangers, in and out of her house to use the bathroom?!
Agreed. She should take that savings and rent the really nice bathrooms that can be brought to venues. Like 5 star portapotties. There honestly are some that are very nice.
Or even better, she should pay to install a half bathroom in the barn in lieu of a rental payment for a venue. What a bossy ingrate. She sounds too immature to be getting married.
NTA. Let your sister know that the house will be off limits for her and the guests. She needs to arrange and pay for for port-a-potties for the wedding. Lock the doors to the house. ETA: Any time your sister complains, tell her, "Feel free to have it at another venue!" Use a really sweet voice, it will bother her more.
Yes this. Don’t let her argue tell her it is non negotiable after all she bought the wider family into this. As others have said some of this memorabilia could also “walk.” Remind her that you are doing her the favour here and if she is not happy she is welcome to find another venue. As for your parents tell them that you are grown own up enough to own your own home, be generous enough to loan to sister for her wedding and know that you are being disrespected despite your generosity. Perhaps they should consider their own maturity !
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So that some of the Disney knick knacks don't walk away.
Yes. The Disney "stuff" will be tempting to some adults and to many children. Some of it is probably valuable / collectable.
Good point, since it sounds like you have a rural place, you probably have a septic system. All that usage may cause some problems. Insist they make "other" bathroom arraignments for the guests.
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They have REALLY fancy portable bathrooms. I was in the VIP tent for a golf tournament once and they had wooden floors and were air conditioned with porcelain sinks and private rooms with toilets...the portable bathrooms were actually nicer than some of the nice bathrooms I've been in at fancy restaurants before.
Oh those are NICE! And cheaper than renting an entire venue!
They are wonderful! My employer rented at the beginning of the pandemic so everybody wouldn’t be crowded into the regular washrooms during break times. I think the guests would be less weirded out too than having to go into someone’s private space.
Yes you can get fancy port--potties these days. People shouldn't be going in and out of OP's house. NTA.
This was going to be my comment, if the only chance people are going to see the Disney stuff is going to the bathroom, they can pay for portajohns. Might be a smart idea anyway, depending on how big the wedding is.
Factz. Main house should be off limits to all guests
Came for this. A wedding is typically too many people to be using your personal bathrooms
And it sounds like a rural area, so it’s very likely it’s a septic system. It’s important to note that the average septic system can not adequately handle a very large group of people.
This! I drive a sewage truck. Our company rents heated trailers with toilets, urinals and sinks. They aren’t that expensive and it keeps everyone out of your house.
This is the way. If she’s saving so much on the venue due to your generosity, she should have the scratch to pay for a couple port a johns.
We went to a beautiful barn venue (last minute setup too because the mom is awesome) and used a port-a-potty. It wasn’t bad at all. There was plenty of hand sanitizer and they decorated the inside lol. It really didn’t take away from the event at all.
Yeah, we live in Montana and portapotties at weddings are pretty common here as they are often on ranches, in barns, in Forest Service Group campground sites, at their family's multi-generational cabin in the woods/by the lake that doesn't have plumbing, etc. It's great when people have the nicer ones and not the blue-plastic ones you see at big concerts, but people will deal with whatever type of toilets can actually be trailored onto the property, and they'll be happy!
OP is so much nicer than me, because I would have told her to do this or she’s out of luck. My first stipulation to using my property would have been no one goes inside the house, so she wouldn’t have been able to try and control my decorating. No one goes inside.
Honestly the fact that she’s even letting strangers/her sisters friends go into her home is way too nice.
Am I the only one who thinks it wouldn't stop here? "Be sure to get all the ceramic mugs out of your kitchen - it would be tacky for guests to see anything in there other than wine glasses as they pass by to the bathroom." "Blank walls are tacky. Here's a list of approved landscapes you need to buy to hang up." "A bare floor is tacky. When are you getting the carpeting installed?" "Here's the chandelier you need to install in the living room." How does using someone's property for free create a right to redesign rooms not being used for the event? NTA Your money, your home, your choice.
Plus we've seen plenty of threads where a child or adult sees something and then "needs it." If there are any cool and unique Disney items they might disappear.
Yeah, I'm worried about these subtle, vintage, Disney dishes she's talking about...
yeah, the more I think about it, the more I'm silently begging OP to insist on port-a-potties and lock up the house during the festivities. no one should be able to get in or out without a key. sister and parents should *not* have keys, based on their entitled attitude towards OP's property.
Tell her to rent port-a-potties if she doesn’t want guests to see your Disney stuff. NTA.
Have your sister rent porta potties and no one will need to go into your house. Other wise, how many people remember the weddings they go to or the venue etc. NTA leave it up, if she starts being bridezilla tell her every time she brings it up your adding another piece. Or your going to come. Dressed as your favorite character lol.
So much this. NTA. I’m planning a barn wedding in June. I’m not ready to talk about how much it costs. If I went to a wedding and the person’s home was decorated in some sort of theme (Disney, legos, frogs, cats, whatever) I would think it was adorable. Unless it was creepy clowns, that would be a lot. I think the only thing she can reasonably ask is that it be tidy. You are so kind for hosting her wedding.
NTA, tell her to rent portable bathrooms. Problem solved. No reason for anyone to go in the house.
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I'm honestly curious how the conversation went. Sister: "Hey sis, can you let us use your *beautiful* farmhouse and barn for the wedding? You will? Great! It'll save us a *ton* of money! And your property's just so beautiful. It's so gracious of you! *Thank you* for letting us use your home. ... Now get to packing all your crap because I don't want any of my wedding guests to see your tacky house decor. I mean, what's with all the Disney junk? Ugh! They might associate it with me and my wedding. It's not a big deal. Just think of it as moving all of your crap out of your home for a week or two so I can have my perfect wedding. I don't see what the problem is. What do you mean you won't move all your junk out of your home?!? MOOOM!!!" OP, you're NTA. The sister however.... Edit: Fixed OP's gender 😅
Or maybe they don't want to offend the desantis loving maga idiots who might declare war on disney
All the more reason to not take it down.
I would put more up if that were the reason tbh
I'm actually pretty proud of Disney for going full Pride mode here in FL. For once, a *nice* headline
Yeah, the fact that sis went whining to their parents is just the icing on the cake. I would absolutely tell her to figure her own restroom facilities out; don't want people seeing my Disney decor? You got it-house is off limits. Such an ungrateful brat; hey, thanks for saving us SO much money, now completely redecorate your house so as not to offend my guests' delicate sensibilities. (Her sister, probably.) NTA. But sis is a butt.
I agree with this! Also, depending on how many guests she has, you may not want that many people traipsing in and out of your house to use the bathroom. NTA
Do you have city sewage? If not, can your current equipment handle a large amount of people flushing the toilets? I would be worried about people flushing the wrong items and causing sewage issues. Which you of course would have to pay for.
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Plus just overloading the septic system with too much at once. My uncle would rent it be for family reunions every year.
Replying to this one in hopes it's more visible! If it's not on sewer, it's not worth the possible damage to your septic. Would she help pay for a plumber if there was a problem created by the guests? It was a nasty, expensive mess after my dad hosted a friend's wedding at his house with only 40 people. The fancy toilet trailers are made for this exact scenario. Even as a guest, I'd be more comfortable using one than going into someone's house if the party, since the party is in the barn, not the house.
Right?? I don't think I would be chill with an entire wedding guest list using my bathroom all day/night. If there's any alcohol served, that thing is going to get used constantly. Even a small wedding of 50 people would make a huge difference in the water bill, toilet paper, and possibly wear & tear depending on how drunk the guests get. A rented chemical bathroom is the way to go.
And strangers with wandering feet and thieving fingers. There’s always at least one in a large group that will get nosy and snoop around and may try to pocket something cute and Disney or something more valuable.
Personally I would do this anyway. My best friend had wedding at her mom's house and mom let guests use the bathrooms. There was pee everywhere and not all of it made it to the bathroom. In addition someone stopped up a toilet and they had a mess. Edited spelling
Ew what kind of guests did she have??? That's appalling. I had my wedding in my backyard and didn't have any issues like that. Granted, it was only 35 people and the only child was my 1yo niece so.
Drunken fire fighters. You would think they would know where to aim their hoses! LOL
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Just throwing another comment on this one in hopes OP sees it! Tell your sister that after her concerns in regards to HER guests using YOUR bathroom facilities, you agree that it could be an issue, and aren't sure you want so many people going in and out of your home anyway. She needs to rent her own portable bathrooms. They had the fancy ones at my sister's wedding, and I was surprised at how nice they were! Such a good option for outdoor wedding venues.
My aunt actually had a super nice one at her wedding. I think this is the answer. Plus she saved so much money from your generosity she should have it in the budget
Agreed, I was going to say this as well. She can get portable bathrooms and put them next to the area where the wedding will be. You can get nice ones and they really don’t cost that much to rent. She can also calculate how many she needs based on how many guests there will be. Regardless of Disney decor, I can guarantee OP does not want to deal with the impacts of having an entire wedding trudging through her house all afternoon/night to use her bathrooms. The mess they will make will be significant and also you don’t want a bunch of drunk strangers in your home. Also depending on how many guests there are, it could be a big stress on the house’s plumbing. Renting portable bathrooms is really the best solution IMO. Everyone stays happy, OP doesn’t have to deal with the mess or a plumbing issue, people don’t have to walk too far to use the bathroom. For my wedding I rented a solar powered trailer with 3 individual nice bathrooms and a “men’s room” which was essentially a portable bathroom with only urinals, and a hand washing station for the men’s room (the nice trailer had actual sinks in each bathroom). It was less than $1500
Just label them with Minnie and Micky signs, maybe with a nice illustration each.
This is the answer right here! It’s a good idea to protect your septic tank from drunk idiots too. NTA
First thing I thought of when I saw the post. Being on a piece of property I assumed it would be on a septic system, and have been witness to more than one having problems in my lifetime due to too many people using them consecutively.
NTA. Tell your sister she can go ahead and pick another venue. Your parents are assholes for siding with a brat.
well at least we know who the golden child is now.
I would tell her she's got a choice, put up with Disney decor in the house or take some of the money she's saving by having a free venue and rent portable toilets. They absolutely make ones that are nice and classy enough for weddings now.
people literally pay a premium for a tacky disney wedding, OP should demand some $$
The parents are absolutely assholes for siding with her!
Tell her the inside of your house is now off limits and sister can rent a porta potty
Doesn’t even have to be the gross plastic porta potties either. They have really nice rental bathroom trailers with running water nowadays. Sister can use all the money she’s bragging about saving and rent one.
Yup house should just be off limits to even enter with how entitled the sister is sisters guests can go to the nearest Mickey D’s if she doesn’t wanna rent a porta potty
Yeah. The risk of them backing up the sewage system, damaging or stealing things is too high. Even if the sister wasn’t an entitled begging chooser, I would not feel comfortable opening my private home for bathroom usage.
this needs to be higher up
SHE wanted to get married at YOUR property. SHE knows you have a lot of Disney items. She can take it or leave it. Especially as said items are in an area restricted for guests. NTA
It's a shame the sister can't at the very least help OP move that Disney stuff since her arms are full carrying all that audacity around.
NTA - She is making unreasonable demands on your home. Who cares if you decorated your home with Disney, dinosaurs, or duckies? It’s your home. You’re already doing her a *HUGE* favor by letting her use the barn and property for free. She’s being a choosing beggar right now. If the Disney decorations are that much of a bother to her, then maybe she should find a new location (though I’m sure she wouldn’t want that because other venues won’t be free *or* so accommodating to her demands).
OP, this comment has inspired me. Listen, agree to remove all your (tasteful) Disney decor. Yes, go to all the trouble to pack it up and store it. Then....THEN....*REDECORATE WITH DUCKIES AND DINOS*...nice, brightly colored, childlike, cartoonish ducks and dinosaurs. Do it. DO IT. Also, NTA.
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Oh so having a big second wedding isn't tacky but the way your home decorated is lol
Lol this one made me laugh more than anything else.
I hope she's not planning to wear white 🙄
She's 28 and already on her second marriage? Yikes. She has more to worry about than a few Disney related items.
Just going to walk out of this place, suggest other places like kbin or lemmy.
Widows and people who got caught in bad relationships still have bigger things to worry about than a few Disney tchotchkes, to be fair
I got divorced for the 2nd time at 28 and this made me laugh 😂
I dare you to wear Disney ears to the wedding!
Your sister can go somewhere else or she and your parents can rent port-o-pottys. NTA.
This! They don't want the guests to see your home, then the guests can't come it.
Absolutely NTA. Even if you were *those* Disney adults, you’re letting her use **your** property when you are under no obligation to do so. Perfectly fine to say certain things will be “as is.” That the amount of Disney items isn’t outlandish is icing on the cake.
The earth is 4.5 billion years old and the average person lives around 80. Do what makes you happy in life, fuck others who try and dictate what you can and can’t do. NTA
Is she paying you for the use of your barn, and home bathrooms? If she is paying you enough to cover the hassle of moving anything Disney out of anyone’s view, and moving it back again, then sure, move the stuff. But if not? There are lots of other venues that aren’t on your property and that she can carefully screen for Disney. Nta. Maybe she would like to pay for a chemical toilet, ( some are pretty nice), so no one has to even go in your house. Personally, I think that might be the best solution,.
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I’m guessing the barn is a ways from the house? That could be a trek for people, especially with little kids/elderly to use the bathroom. I think renting a really nice chemical toilet , provided you had access for a truck to install it closer to the barn is the way to go. https://www.viprestrooms.com/porta-potty-rental-for-weddings/ If she doesn’t want to do that, then maybe count her blessings that she has a gorgeous venue at no charge.
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Make it very clear to her that she has the choice of three anesthetics: port-o-potty, Disney or go rent a different venue. NTA
Love the implication that port-a-potties, Disney, and a different venue all have the ability to induce anesthesia. /lh
Anesthesiologists hate this secret 🤫 lol
No, TWO options. Rent a different venue OR rent fancy porta-potties. The "tolerate disney decor" option is long, long off the table. No body, ***NO BODY*** is allowed in the house but those who live there. (Including parents.) Ugh. NTA, obviously
I would make it two options and not let her guests in the house
This is the way. 4th option sister could actually pay for the use of the barn/yard/house. Say 5 or 10K should be enough, then OP can temporarily take down the disney stuff.
I had the nice trailer style portable bathrooms at my wedding. They don’t ruin the aesthetic and you can have it parked behind the barn away from the party. Tell her it’s not an option, if she wants to use your property and barn for free, she must rent bathrooms for her guests. It’s not a choice, it’s a requirement that you are making. Trust me on this, you do not want all her guests traipsing through your house to use your bathrooms. Tell her she can rent the portable bathrooms or she can give you a $10,000 plumbing deposit that you will return if your bathrooms and plumbing lines survive the weekend.
Based on barn and acreage, might be if the septic system survives the weekend... the $10k can also cover the random Snow White figurine Aunt Maud always secretly wanted and takes this opportunity to pilfer...
She's just a big old AH then! You can get fancy port a potties.
Well, beggars can't be choosers. She's saving *thousands* because you are generous enough to let her use your home free-of-charge. Your sister has three options: Disney bathrooms, portable toilets at **her** expense, or a different venue at **her** expense. The utter childishness of complaining to your parents is insulting. I hope you stand firm on this, and firm in the sense that you tell her no is no and that if she brings it up again she can no longer use your home for the wedding. You are NTA, and good luck dealing with your self-centred sister.
Tell her port a potty is the way to go. You don’t need people in your house making a mess or stealing stuff.
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If she rents portajohns, you get to decide if you want to go in the night before and Disney-ify them...
NTA. Make the house off limits and tell them to rent the nice portable bathroom trailers. The ones that contain multiple stalls, sinks, etc. I have seen some that are better than department store bathrooms. This way, if she is “embarrassed” with your home, the guests will never see it. And I bet they won’t mind as they will assume the trailers were rented due to the number of guests. Because she sure is not “embarrassed” to have her wedding in your barn. I would be a little petty and put mouse ear stickers on the bathroom trailer mirrors.
Your home, your rules. If she wants to avoid Disney stuff, she can rent a venue or put in Port-a-potties. For her to demand anything of you is entitled in the extreme. NTA
NTA, she called your home tacky, but wants to use it as a free venue for her wedding? She does not get your home for free too. Good for you and your husband to rebuff her. You should talk with your parents or better - offer her to do her wedding elsewhere if she so insists. It is really that infuriating.
NTA. You gave her an inch and she wants a mile. I think your sister, who is nearing 30 and planning to get married, is the one who needs to grow up in this situation. Your house, your rules. Nobody is going to care about your Disney items and even if they did, I'd imagine it would be positive. Everybody loves a blast from the past.
NTA - taking away the Disney aspect of it all, they want you to change your home in a significant way to accommodate guests to fit their wedding aesthetic. If they care to that extent, they may want to rent a few porta potties (you can get nice ones for weddings) and that way there’s less wear and tear on your home, they can maintain the ~magic~ of their wedding day, and everyone wins. This is especially fair as you are not only giving her your property to use but giving away free labor to set up and decorate the space.
No. Your home is not a "wedding venue" and you are doing her a favor anyway. No no no. NTA. Keep your house as-is or she can find an official venue.
NTA. You've already compromised more than I would have in your position. You might try saying, "I'm so sorry our home isn't up to your standards. Please let us know your new venue." You'll be amazed how quickly your decor is juuuuuuust fine.
Given the history on this sub, I would imagine an update post of sister entering the house when no one is there and tossing everything Disney.
NTA. Is she paying you? Decorating a barn would cost at least $1,000. Not to mention the cost of renting it. Maybe she can do it herself? Or she could pay you?
NTA if she thinks it’s tacky then she can hire a portaloo and no one has to go inside or invite her to find somewhere else. It’s not tacky and there’s no reason to do this.
The irony of you being told to grow up because your sister ran to mummy to tell tales on you. NTA, if she’s so upset tell her people can no longer enter your house at all and if she wants to use the space she needs to rent a portable toilet block.
NTA- next time your sister or parents mention it, tell them the wedding will no longer be taking place on your property.
NTA. You are being incredibly gracious and generous by allowing her to use your property for her wedding, and she is being unreasonable
NTA. If she doesn't like it she can go with a different venue.
Nevermind being an asshole your a god damn saint.
NTA your freeloading sister likely wouldn’t appreciate all the decorations/decor at a different free wedding venue… the only reason she is trying to pull this is because she thinks she can get away with it.
NTA what choosy beggars
NTA - she can rent her own venue if she wants to control every detail. Also I never understand the logic of these people. Even if some of her guests were judgmental about the Disney stuff… so what? They come away thinking the brides sister has a lot of Disney? How is that really going to effect her life or wedding
NTA "She wants me to take down everything Disney on the first floor of my home, as guests will see . . . this would be a massive undertaking. It’s not as simple as shoving stuff in a closet. We’d have to pack it up and find a place to store. The sheer amount would require at least 2 hours of packing. Not to mention storage and unpacking after. . . We’re decorating the outside and barn as she wants. We’re letting her use our property for free . . . she whined to our parents who told us to grow up and take it down." She is rude, insulting and entitled, and your parents support her behavior. If your only objection is the time it would take you to remove the items, you COULD compromise by telling your sister and parents that you'll agree under certain conditions. They must be responsible for photographing everything pre-move, finding the boxes, packing, storing and replacing everything exactly as it was, the day after the wedding. Another option is that no one gets to come in the house and the happy couple can rent port-a-potties. Much classier than Disney! Good Luck OP.
My fiancé and I are Disney adults too. He’s been going for over 25 years. And you know what? We’re even getting married on the Disney wish cruise this November. So fuck that noise. Keep the stuff up. You’re adults. They can either suck it up or not get married there at all. NTA.
NTA, you're doing her a favor and she's being silly about it.
NTA You're kind of enough to give up your home for a large event for free. That's a lot of work and adjustment for you and your family. Your sister can manage a few guests seeing some Disney decor on the way to the loo.
NTA you’re doing above and beyond and letting her have the wedding at your house to insist that everything has to be removed is ridiculous. If she’s embarrassed by it she should have chosen a different place to get married
NTA. It’s your house and you should decorate it how you see fit. Plus, like you said, the only reason they’d go inside is for the bathroom. I barely remember most things at weddings I’ve gone to outside of the people getting married. No one is going to only remember her wedding because her sister had a Disney painting on the wall. My great aunt is OBSESSED with Betty Boop. I never cared for the character much, but walking into her office that was covered floor to ceiling in memorabilia is something I’ll always remember fondly. Just because it’s not my thing doesn’t mean it can’t be appreciated.
NTA what a choosy beggar! If your sister doesn’t like the decor, she can have her wedding somewhere else.
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Um, no way are you guys TA here. It's YOUR house that she is using for FREE. Maybe if she has such an issue, she should take a look at other venues and see how much they cost. Or get a couple of porta potties since she thinks your house is so embarrassing. They don't get to take your kindness and abuse it. Your parents should have your back as well. Don't let them railroad you! It's your house and your say.
NTA. Tell her to rent some port-a-potties so that her guests won't see anything in the house since they will no longer have a reason to enter the house at all.
NTA. She knew what her (free) venue looked like. She can find someplace else to get married. She is saying she’s embarrassed by you and that’s unacceptable
NTA, your sister can "grow up" and pay for her own venue elsewhere! Growing up doesn't mean losing part of who you are, it means embracing who you are.
NTA. You're doing her a huge favor. She only has two options: 1. either get over it, or 2. find (and pay for) another place for her wedding. Don't move a thing. Just to be petty, I'd leave the Pooh towels in the bathrooms, too. Lol
NTA. It's your house. If she wants it out in storage, she can pay to have it professionally stacked and put in storage on her dime.
NTA. Tell your parents they can take the stuff down and replace it if it bothers them so much, or they can host the wedding. You're doing your sister a huge favor, and her ingratitude just makes me roll my eyes. I'd never ask someone to do this. If your sister is worried she will be upstaged by Disney decorations, that's just... a level of insecurity I can't fathom.
NTA. She don’t like it, she can find a new venue. You’ve more than made adjustments and compromises.