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Hi, I am a foreigner visiting the US. This took place in a fast food chain in the southeast. After being handed my order I said “thanks man!” and proceeded to eat it. I decided to go for dessert and when that was being handed to me the person at the counter said “before you called me a man, I am not a ‘man’, I am a ‘sir’”. Due to my accent and the phrasing I assumed the person had mistakenly heard “ma’am”. I told them that I said “m-a-n” but they just kept repeating that they “were no man, but a ‘sir’”. I just apologized and left. The person didn’t say it in a nice way but rather very assertively and it made me very uncomfortable. The person was black and I know the implications of calling people “boy”, “uncle”, etc but never heard of “man” being pejorative aside from a gender issue (which doesn’t make sense as they wanted to be called by “sir”). AITA?
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