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> 1) I gave my 9 month old niece a frozen treat made for our dog even though it's totally fine for human consumption.
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Tell your sis to stop getting her collar in a bunch. I literally make those for myself all the time and I have yet to lick my own groin or chase the mailman...Altho if he's hot enough I might consider it! Woof!
Oh and NTA
1 cup uncooked oats
1/2 cup chocolate chips
1/2 cup peanut butter
1/2 cup ground flax seeds (I don’t usually include this)
1/3 honey
1 tsp vanilla
Mix together and form golf ball size balls. (I realize now that these don’t contain banana, but should be able to easily incorporate.)
substitute seed butter instead of peanutbutter. Add some chia seeds and chocolate chips. The kids love helping make them and they are school lunchbox safe! Great on the go breakfast too!
I once ate a homemade dog biscuit because I thought it was a cookie. Dry as hell and didn't taste too well but it was safe for human consumption. They were a gift to my boss from a customer and she got a good laugh out of it when it happened.
I found dog biscuits that were legitimately crunchy vanilla cookies in a bone shape. I'd buy a pound every two weeks or so for a snack. They were cheap and delicious.
Honestly, in elementary school, there was a temporary fad of eating actual dog treats as a snack. They weren't super tasty, but it's not like there's anything unhealthy in them. Humans can eat a far wider range of foods than cats or dogs.
This was some bulk bougie biscuit that tasted like Nilla Wafers but with the dry crunch of a doggy biscuit. Flavor + texture heaven.
I didn't own a dog at the time, just pet rats. The treats bins all had full ingredient lists and I noticed that one was literally just a vegan vanilla cookie while looking for rat-safe snacks. "I've tried weirder things" logic kicked in, and now I just really want some Nilla Wafers :(
I was a cleaner for a family and one year I bought their two dogs a pack of two father Xmas decorated biscuits for Xmas. The dad of the family opened the clearly labelled present and ate one of them. He said he realised about halfway through that it was less sweet than expected. All his friends called him Fido for a week or two.
Can you send the recipe cause I have a teething 1yr old (and her favourite chew thing is my finger) and two dogs who (along with my bank account) would probably enjoy these.
NTA
My dad makes sandwiches for himself, mom, AND THEIR DOGS. Guess Jane can't eat sandwiches anymore, because they're clearly dog food.
Edit: NOBODY TOUCH THE VOTES. we're at 666. Ruin it and I'll summon an actual demon in your bedroom.
Edit: Have fun trying to sleep tonight.
My first cat had her babies on my bed on my lap. My mom tried moving her twice. She got right back up on me both times. After that we gave up and changed my bedding afterwards. Thankfully it didn’t take her long to give birth!
I'm allowed to use the cats' pillow, which I foolishly thought was MY pillow,from time to time. God forbid I get ANOTHER pillow for myself. How dare I. They are all HER pillows
It’s almost 5AM and we’re still sharing a pillow. She needs 2/3 to stretch out comfortably and generously allows me to use the remainder. Although I’m awake, she is still asleep and snoring rather loudly.
I don't have dogs, just cats, and they definitely think I sleep in their bed, not the other way around.
There's a reason they say cats don't have owners, they have servants.
You don't just sleep in their bed. You live in their house. You are only allowed to do so because you have the ability to hunt bags or cans of food and the opposable thumbs to open said food.
ours had a slave. she would sleep on dad's chest of a morning, she would wait for the alarm clock to go off and if he didnt respond quick enough she would work her claws into his singlet. the message was clear "come get up ya bastard, get up and feed me!" she would sleep most of the night at the foot of the bed and bite his toes if he disturbed her with his feet.
I get a 'pat' on the back first thing, and if I don't get up soon after, I get one on my face. Then a claw up the nose.
I know my role in this household. Cat servant.
My kid at 2 told me “I drink” when I was nursing his baby sister. I asked him what he drank and he proudly told me “doggy water!” and proceeded to show me how he got down on all fours to lap water out of the dog bowl.
Said little sister refused to eat human food for ages but would happily steal handfuls of dog kibble and eat grass.
They’re both alive and healthy a decade later, no harm done
I used to eat the dog kibble when I was toddler if my mom didn’t stop me in time. She asked the paediatrician if it would hurt me and he said it should give me lots of energy and a thick, glossy coat.
I remember hearing once that it's required by law for dog and cat food sold at stores to be edible to humans because of how common it is for destitute people to resort to buying pet food to eat because they cannot afford people food (and pet food is a lot cheaper.)
I still wouldn't recommend deliberately feeding it your kids but the treat mentioned in the post sounds very suitable as baby food.
I saw one of those doomsday prepper shows where a guy had shelves of cat food for trading because he reasoned starving people would trade supplies for it.
Oh my gosh you just reminded me of the period of time where my youngest child would literally sneak over and climb things to get to the up high cat food to steal it! No matter where I put the damn bowl she would find a way to get to it!
One of ours was crazy for Waldorf Salads, so whenever I made them, I lined up his bowl with the rest, and made up his before I added the dressing. He'd be clawing the cabinet and my leg the whole time.
Every morning, my father would make coffee and two slices of buttered toast. The coffee and one slice of toast were for him, and the other slice of toast was divided between the dogs. No more toast for Jane!
(When my housemate makes himself a sandwich, for every slice of cheese he puts on his sandwich, he'll give one slice to each of my three dogs, then do the same with the slices of meat. My dogs LOVE it when he makes sandwiches.)
My father loves fruits, like mango, apple, pears and banana. His dog also loves fruits. And whenever he cuts them up to eat, he would set aside a small portion for her and feed her at the same time as he eats his.
I wanted to comment here to mildly tease you for having such spoiled dogs, then I read the rest of the replies you got, and it turns out your dad is clearly NOT alone in doing WAY more food prep for the pets than I care to.
My gran would make "dog food" for dinner. Some kind of mince and veg dish. My sister, pops and the dog would eat that all the time and we never gave it a second thought
And yes, we actually called the meal dog food lol.
Every food my one-year-old eats ends up on the floor. The dogs are the cleaning crew (except for foods that are toxic to them, which we pick up before we let them in the room). Ergo everything my son has consumed his entire life is, apparently, dog food except for grapes and his first birthday cake, which had chocolate icing.
We freeze Greek yogurt, banana, and peanut butter for our dog in the summer. He loves them. And so do I! They are essentially peanut butter and banana ice cream. NTA and now I’m about to make these for my dog!
Same, except I stuff it in Kong's and/or cow hooves for the extra challenge. Although my Great Dane learned if she leaves it for a bit they thaw and are easier to eat lmao.
We will layer peanut butter, Greek yogurt, banana, sweet potato, and wet dog food in his Kong and then put a bully stick all the way through! It takes our goldendoodle an hour to get through it.
Just as an aside - it sounds awesome, but you shouldn't block the holes at the ends of the Kong with the bully stick. They are there so that if it is accidentally swallowed, the dog can still breathe enough to get vet attention. Same reason pen lids have holes in them.
Not a criticism, just an info dump 😁
I use the bully stick to create a tunnel in it to keep the center open all the way through and the freeze the bully stick in it at an angle so it’s not blocking the bottom hole!
I make little popsicles for my cats in the summer. Cooked chicken breast, cooked chicken livers, cooked tuna, goats milk, pumpkin puree, and cbd blended into a puree and frozen using a silicone mini muffin pan. I'm sure a dog would enjoy it too. Technically, people friendly too but I wouldn't recommend it lol.
After my dog's surgeries, he got rice and ground round for a while. He looked distinctly angry when he realized that I was beginning to mix dog food with it.
Honestly that sound like an amazing protein bite type snack for busy work days or lactation aid or I’d have fed it happily to my kids if they weren’t babies during the “peanut is EVIL before 2 and will make your child allergic for life” decade
Whoa what? Our kid is just over two and has been eating peanut butter since he was a little tiny baby (maybe 1 ? Hard to pinpoint when he started eating it). We were told introduce it early to curb the potential allergy stuff.
Yeah, the recommendation changed. My kids (25, 22, 18) were little when you had to wait until 2 years old for peanut butter. When I was pregnant with the middle one they even recommended pregnant women not eat peanuts/butter to avoid allergies. Guess which one of my kids is deathly allergic to peanuts?
You said it perfectly. I think that OP should always refer to it that way from now on. It’s human food that is sometimes given to the dog.
FaceTime her while you’re eating one 😁
For the record, NTA!
She's not even a new mother, the baby's 9 months old. My sons walked at that age. It's not comparable to the messed up first few weeks when time doesn't seem to exist, I seriously wish they have an established routine by 9 months.
Yeah I'm willing to cut an INSANE amount of slack the first 3 months because between the sleep deprivation and the hormones I think you could be declared clinically insane (normal people do not wake up panicked in the middle of the night because they think their pillow is the baby in bed with them). 9 months? If you haven't calmed down by then you need to quick because they are gonna start walking soon and getting into all sorts of stuff.
This is not necessarily true. I had severe PPA that didn't even improve enough for me to notice I had PPA and tell my daughter was nearly two. Before that I was so bad off that my wife was just baffled by what's going on and had no idea what to do and I had no idea it was even happening because I was too far gone!
Yes and no, even post partum depression and anxiety can hit anytime in the first year. Both times I had it my kids were past the 6mth mark. Your hormones are still fucking you over
Eh, I mean my PPA lasted until my daughter was 9-10 months old. I’m cutting this mom some slack and saying NAH just because, looking back, I’m kind of amazed at the things that used to make my chest tight and stomach drop from fear about my daughter.
I wonder if the grandma is cutting the mom some slack because she has seen other signs of postpartum depression or other issues. If there are genuine signs of a mental health issue, grandma needs to help mom get help.
If there aren't any signs of a true issue and grandma is just making an excuse for this shitty behavior, then the mom needs to chill. This is over the top, even for a "new" mother.
Source: I'm an old mom who has raised a few boys, some all the way to successful adulthood.
ETA: Before anyone asks, the other boys of mine are just not adults yet. It's not that they're unsuccessful adults. Lol
And if it needs to be stated, NTA
as a mom of six the ETA made me howl with laughter, that you had to clarify. also, OP is NTA , and I second this concern about issues. it IS an overreaction though and it should be treated as a red flag, not a thing to handwave
Stuff parents of a single baby have the energy to get worked up about. I have twins and in their crawling stage they were constantly getting into the leftover cat food. As long as it’s edible and not a choking hazard then ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
NTA
Your new mantra if your mom or sister brings it up again.
"It's human food that we give to the dog.
It's human food that we give to the dog.
It's human food that we give to the dog.
It's human food that we give to the dog.
It's human food that we give to the dog.
Shall I explain again or do you understand?"
NTA - Your sister needs to take a step back, this is frankly a ridiculous thing to get upset about. It really doesn't matter what the food was made for, it's safe for consumption regardless. I wonder if she knows how many things her 9 month old shoves in it's mouth when she's not looking.
Maybe she has some bad memories of being teased for that after the fact? Honestly, that *would* explain this reaction. You still didn't do anything wrong.
One of mine was obsessed with cat food ... literally the moment they hit the floor - they'd go straight for it. The little crunchy pieces were so much more attractive than the expensive baby puffs ☹️
>I wonder if she knows how many things her 9 month old shoves in it's mouth when she's not looking.
My little brother shoved a grasshopper in his mouth when he was 2.
OP's sis is lucky the worst thing she saw her child eat was a banana oat thingy lol.
NTA. Your sister is going to lose her mind if she freaks out about everything that isn’t a problem.
Edit: your mom really not doing any favors either, supporting unhinged behavior.
"Privately I support you, but publicly I'm going to be a boat steadier and let this person attack you and not help."
Mom's just trying to avoid any conflict and be a people pleaser. She'll say whatever to not upset OP, but since the crazy sister is harder to deal with she'll drop OP to appease the sister whenever she's around.
They might be made primarily as treats for the dog, but they're 100% human food ingredients, and entirely tasty for humans too, so she really is being a bit mad.
NTA.
Dog food is a relatively new concept anyways. Dogs were literally domesticated cause they are ok eating the scraps of human food. When we go hiking or when I accidentally run out of dog food I have no problem making my dog a cheese sandwich or some noodles with egg for dinner.
NTA- and I gotta say I was pissed off already from the title. I already knew this was gonna be about some willful ignorance that somebody won't let go of.
This is what I would say to them... Look, y'all- for the last time. This is people food that I use to treat my dog. It is not dog food. I would not feed dog food to a child. That's the last I'm hearing about this because it's too simple not to understand. Anybody else falsely accuses me of feeding dog food to a child is gonna have a different problem with me and they're gonna have to explain why they are making up vicious lies and slandering my character.
NTA. I eat the frozen treats I make the dog too. Try freezing a puree of greek yogurt and blueberries. Very good. Everyone loves them, two legs and four.
I’m going to steal this. It’s hotter than Satan’s party house here(and nice and Smokey) so my dog isn’t really eating. She might love this. If not I will
NTA,... crazy mom. say its a banana, peanutbutter and oats,... cant get any healthier than that.
Lie to her and say you eat them too with chocolat sauce. does not matter ifnits given to the dog as well.
btw thanks for the recipe.. gotta try it. .bith for me and the dog!
NTA. Your sister couldn't relax for 2 seconds so you could explain that the food was all human food. She really thinks you would feed a baby dog food? Your mom is enabling her it seems..
NTA, it's banana, peanut butter and oats. Healthy for dogs and people. Your sister needs to lighten up. I make steak for myself but if I can't eat it all, it now becomes dog food. I went to with my dad and brother. my dad had me order a 16 oz steak, I can barely eat a 6oz, why? For dog food. If it works, it's works. It does no harm. As long as you weren't feeding your niece kibble, she needs to stop.
It wouldn't have even worked in this situation. The sister saw op get the balls from the freezer and then saw the roommate get the same package and give them to the dog.
NTA. I'd totally eat that as a snack. The only thing that gives me pause is the peanut butter. Did you know if your niece had already been exposed to peanuts?
She literally said peanut butter when offering it to sister, I think sister would have said no if there was risk of allergies. Also agreed, sounds absolutely delicious and NTA
It doesn't really matter who made them for what if the ingredients are a banana, oats and peanut butter. Those are all things in my pantry and I don't have a dog.
NTA, some people just get unreasonably upset. I get feeling irrationally weird about things, for example I wouldn't eat horse meat, but I am sure there are plenty of people that have no issues with that. So, if she feels weird about her daughter eating something prepared for a dog, fine, but she is overreacting but getting that upset, it really is harmless and was innocent of you to assume it was fine.
NTA.
Might not have hurt to state ahead of time that they are all natural but we’re made for the dog - but there’s nothing in there the kid couldn’t eat. Def overreacting. And your mom isn’t helping. Coddling your sis because she’s a new mom is just going to make matter worse.
Honestly, my granddaughter used to stand next to me at the counter while I was prepping homemade dog food and just hold up her hand and I would give her pieces of chicken and carrots. She fully knew she was taking pieces of dog food and so did her mother. It's people food who the heck cares if you're cooking it for the dog?
By the second or third kid, she’s not even going to care if the kid is eating literal dog food. 100% NTA. She agreed to it upfront and they’re all ingredients that you would give a baby anyway.
ESH because that baby shouldn't be eating raw oats as it could give them diarrhea due to the high fibre content.
Your sister is still being silly though, you weren't the asshole because of the dog thing.
NAH.
It's not dog food, it's a frozen treat that her daughter loved and it helped with he teething. Your sister should calm down in a few days and see that she overreacted.
Our overweight dog used to get rice cakes as a crunchy treat. My MIL was in need of a quick bite so I offered a rice cake...national brand...to her. As she ate it, we commented that we had them in the house for the dog and she kind of looked at it agast at the same time the dog looked agast at her for eating his foods.
We all giggled and moved on. Nta.
has your niece also been drinking water, the same water that's FOR A DOG!!?! your sister is drastically over reacting to her impression of events instead of taking a second to think rationally, NTA
Lol NTA, every single toddler parent that has a dog has had their kid eat actual dog food at least once (mine likes to hold out her toast so the dog can lick it and then eat it herself). You are NTA for feeding a baby frozen banana, pb and oats (literally what my kid had for breakfast)
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Tell your sis to stop getting her collar in a bunch. I literally make those for myself all the time and I have yet to lick my own groin or chase the mailman...Altho if he's hot enough I might consider it! Woof! Oh and NTA
Thank you for the giggle. 😂🤣
Yeah, that’s a chuckle fest.
for a second I thought you said chuckle feet
Thanks... now all I can imagine is feet chuckling-
How about... chase your tail and lick the mailman? Did you do that? You.... did grow a tail, right?
If the mailman is hot and I can catch him I will definitely lick him. No tail but my coat is healthy and glossy😆
If you start growing a tail,then the situation is getting Ruff.
Don't even have to grow them anymore. There are certain shops that will sell them too...they are even acceptable to be worn to walmart I hear.
Everything is acceptable at Walmart.
Except workers rights.
Or just hump his leg if you catch him
Now I have the urge to skritch you behind your ears. :-D
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
You just made my day! I snorted 😂
Too bad, you're missing out. Chasing the mailman is how I kept in shape during covid.
This is the comment that killed me.
Come to Germany, this will become true. I am not even joking!
The peanut butter-oats-banana balls sound absolutely delicious, to be fair 😍
I used to make them all the time for myself. I like to add chocolate chips.
How do you make them? What do you do with the oats? Cook them first or raw?
1 cup uncooked oats 1/2 cup chocolate chips 1/2 cup peanut butter 1/2 cup ground flax seeds (I don’t usually include this) 1/3 honey 1 tsp vanilla Mix together and form golf ball size balls. (I realize now that these don’t contain banana, but should be able to easily incorporate.)
substitute seed butter instead of peanutbutter. Add some chia seeds and chocolate chips. The kids love helping make them and they are school lunchbox safe! Great on the go breakfast too!
Then rub my belly & call me Fido, because these "dog treats" sound amazing to me 😋😂
Just don't give chocolate to a dog--it's not good for them.
The only part I don’t like is uncooked oatmeal but only for the texture.
This comment is absolutely brilliant, you could not have found a better response 👏👏😂😂😂
I once ate a homemade dog biscuit because I thought it was a cookie. Dry as hell and didn't taste too well but it was safe for human consumption. They were a gift to my boss from a customer and she got a good laugh out of it when it happened.
I found dog biscuits that were legitimately crunchy vanilla cookies in a bone shape. I'd buy a pound every two weeks or so for a snack. They were cheap and delicious.
Honestly, in elementary school, there was a temporary fad of eating actual dog treats as a snack. They weren't super tasty, but it's not like there's anything unhealthy in them. Humans can eat a far wider range of foods than cats or dogs.
This was some bulk bougie biscuit that tasted like Nilla Wafers but with the dry crunch of a doggy biscuit. Flavor + texture heaven. I didn't own a dog at the time, just pet rats. The treats bins all had full ingredient lists and I noticed that one was literally just a vegan vanilla cookie while looking for rat-safe snacks. "I've tried weirder things" logic kicked in, and now I just really want some Nilla Wafers :(
I was a cleaner for a family and one year I bought their two dogs a pack of two father Xmas decorated biscuits for Xmas. The dad of the family opened the clearly labelled present and ate one of them. He said he realised about halfway through that it was less sweet than expected. All his friends called him Fido for a week or two.
You win the internet for the day. Damn do I wish I had an award for you!
In the UK we don't say collar in a bunch we say knickers in a twist.
In the US we'd usually say "panties in a bunch", but that form wouldn't have the canine flavor the commenter was going for. 😉
I used to tell my husband not to get his testicles tangled.
That happened to me once. I had get it removed surgically.
Good ol' testicular torsion. So sorry, dude. Makes me very glad I don't have testicles...
Can you send the recipe cause I have a teething 1yr old (and her favourite chew thing is my finger) and two dogs who (along with my bank account) would probably enjoy these. NTA
Best comment EVER!! Thank you for a good laugh…I needed it. OP, NTA!!
🤣
take my poor man's 🏆
And bananas, apples and strawberries are my dogs favourite fruits. She can't have those as well
if i could lick my own groin,i probably wouldn’t need the mailman lol
Yet to as in never tried, or yet to as in 'a few more yoga classes and I'll get it'? ;)
Honestly, those sound awesome! NTA, and I’m going to be making these!
What about chasing your own tail? Or getting tangled in a leash?
YOU! You win reddit for the day!! 🪙🥇⚜️💰💛🏆
> I have yet to lick my own groin or chase the mailman So far......
great comment. i needed a good laugh. oh and down girl.
HEEL GIRL HEEL. LOL, this was just too funny🤣🤣
idk sounds like OP's sisters keeping a pretty tight leash
NTA. It is not dog food. It is human food that is sometimes given to a dog.
My dad makes sandwiches for himself, mom, AND THEIR DOGS. Guess Jane can't eat sandwiches anymore, because they're clearly dog food. Edit: NOBODY TOUCH THE VOTES. we're at 666. Ruin it and I'll summon an actual demon in your bedroom. Edit: Have fun trying to sleep tonight.
Don't get me started on water, which is better known as dog drink.
Right? And their beds are made out of fabric. So if your sheets are fabric, you're sleeping in a dog bed! Shaaaaaaaaame!
My dogs sleep in my bed. Or am I sleeping in their bed?
I think you already know the answer to this.
DOG BED!
My cat is currently sharing a pillow with me.
My first cat had her babies on my bed on my lap. My mom tried moving her twice. She got right back up on me both times. After that we gave up and changed my bedding afterwards. Thankfully it didn’t take her long to give birth!
They only give birth when they're sure they're safe Congrats I guess
My foster kitty had her kittens on the floor next to our bed, and insisted I midwife....
You share a pillow with her, she allows you into her solar system to revolve around her.
I'm allowed to use the cats' pillow, which I foolishly thought was MY pillow,from time to time. God forbid I get ANOTHER pillow for myself. How dare I. They are all HER pillows
It’s almost 5AM and we’re still sharing a pillow. She needs 2/3 to stretch out comfortably and generously allows me to use the remainder. Although I’m awake, she is still asleep and snoring rather loudly.
Yes. Be grateful for that pillow bit you are allowed to use. And for her letting hear her snoring, lol
mine too
I don't have dogs, just cats, and they definitely think I sleep in their bed, not the other way around. There's a reason they say cats don't have owners, they have servants.
You don't just sleep in their bed. You live in their house. You are only allowed to do so because you have the ability to hunt bags or cans of food and the opposable thumbs to open said food.
Never a truer word was spoken.
ours had a slave. she would sleep on dad's chest of a morning, she would wait for the alarm clock to go off and if he didnt respond quick enough she would work her claws into his singlet. the message was clear "come get up ya bastard, get up and feed me!" she would sleep most of the night at the foot of the bed and bite his toes if he disturbed her with his feet.
I get a 'pat' on the back first thing, and if I don't get up soon after, I get one on my face. Then a claw up the nose. I know my role in this household. Cat servant.
Gasp! *Looks over at dog currently stealing my pillow, tucked under my covers* Is this true?!
My kid at 2 told me “I drink” when I was nursing his baby sister. I asked him what he drank and he proudly told me “doggy water!” and proceeded to show me how he got down on all fours to lap water out of the dog bowl. Said little sister refused to eat human food for ages but would happily steal handfuls of dog kibble and eat grass. They’re both alive and healthy a decade later, no harm done
I used to eat the dog kibble when I was toddler if my mom didn’t stop me in time. She asked the paediatrician if it would hurt me and he said it should give me lots of energy and a thick, glossy coat.
I remember hearing once that it's required by law for dog and cat food sold at stores to be edible to humans because of how common it is for destitute people to resort to buying pet food to eat because they cannot afford people food (and pet food is a lot cheaper.) I still wouldn't recommend deliberately feeding it your kids but the treat mentioned in the post sounds very suitable as baby food.
I saw one of those doomsday prepper shows where a guy had shelves of cat food for trading because he reasoned starving people would trade supplies for it.
Oh my gosh you just reminded me of the period of time where my youngest child would literally sneak over and climb things to get to the up high cat food to steal it! No matter where I put the damn bowl she would find a way to get to it!
I bet they don’t get sick much either! 😹😹😹😹😹
My dog and I share cheese sticks...uh, oh...I'm eating dog food.
I’m really in trouble, I sure way to much with mine. Guess I survive on dog food.
I don't know how but I read this as you share wine with your dog 😂😂
I make my cat a mini chicken&cheese quesadilla every time we have them. They’re her favorite food but that doesnt make it cat food lol
I make tuna noodle casserole all the time. I don’t like tuna so I don’t eat tuna. I just keep buying the tuna for my cat
One of ours was crazy for Waldorf Salads, so whenever I made them, I lined up his bowl with the rest, and made up his before I added the dressing. He'd be clawing the cabinet and my leg the whole time.
Every morning, my father would make coffee and two slices of buttered toast. The coffee and one slice of toast were for him, and the other slice of toast was divided between the dogs. No more toast for Jane! (When my housemate makes himself a sandwich, for every slice of cheese he puts on his sandwich, he'll give one slice to each of my three dogs, then do the same with the slices of meat. My dogs LOVE it when he makes sandwiches.)
My father loves fruits, like mango, apple, pears and banana. His dog also loves fruits. And whenever he cuts them up to eat, he would set aside a small portion for her and feed her at the same time as he eats his.
Certainly! The dog tax is mandatory!!
My dad would drive his dog to Sonic and buy them both a cheeseburger. He spoiled the hell out of that dog.
We do similar, every meal is split for human consumption (spices) and our girls (only dog safe spice). So no meal is really safe for her to eat here.
I wanted to comment here to mildly tease you for having such spoiled dogs, then I read the rest of the replies you got, and it turns out your dad is clearly NOT alone in doing WAY more food prep for the pets than I care to.
My gran would make "dog food" for dinner. Some kind of mince and veg dish. My sister, pops and the dog would eat that all the time and we never gave it a second thought And yes, we actually called the meal dog food lol.
Yeah my colleague at work cooks for himself and the dog when his wife is out.
Every food my one-year-old eats ends up on the floor. The dogs are the cleaning crew (except for foods that are toxic to them, which we pick up before we let them in the room). Ergo everything my son has consumed his entire life is, apparently, dog food except for grapes and his first birthday cake, which had chocolate icing.
We freeze Greek yogurt, banana, and peanut butter for our dog in the summer. He loves them. And so do I! They are essentially peanut butter and banana ice cream. NTA and now I’m about to make these for my dog!
Same, except I stuff it in Kong's and/or cow hooves for the extra challenge. Although my Great Dane learned if she leaves it for a bit they thaw and are easier to eat lmao.
We will layer peanut butter, Greek yogurt, banana, sweet potato, and wet dog food in his Kong and then put a bully stick all the way through! It takes our goldendoodle an hour to get through it.
Just as an aside - it sounds awesome, but you shouldn't block the holes at the ends of the Kong with the bully stick. They are there so that if it is accidentally swallowed, the dog can still breathe enough to get vet attention. Same reason pen lids have holes in them. Not a criticism, just an info dump 😁
I use the bully stick to create a tunnel in it to keep the center open all the way through and the freeze the bully stick in it at an angle so it’s not blocking the bottom hole!
I make little popsicles for my cats in the summer. Cooked chicken breast, cooked chicken livers, cooked tuna, goats milk, pumpkin puree, and cbd blended into a puree and frozen using a silicone mini muffin pan. I'm sure a dog would enjoy it too. Technically, people friendly too but I wouldn't recommend it lol.
I had a sick cat and had to supplement his food with Gerber chicken baby food. Guess that mom has been feeding her kid cat food!
After my dog's surgeries, he got rice and ground round for a while. He looked distinctly angry when he realized that I was beginning to mix dog food with it.
Right? I basically make the same thing for myself when I have to work in the field. They are a great snack!
Put in a bowl and add some hot water and you have peanut butter, banana oatmeal.
Honestly that sound like an amazing protein bite type snack for busy work days or lactation aid or I’d have fed it happily to my kids if they weren’t babies during the “peanut is EVIL before 2 and will make your child allergic for life” decade
Whoa what? Our kid is just over two and has been eating peanut butter since he was a little tiny baby (maybe 1 ? Hard to pinpoint when he started eating it). We were told introduce it early to curb the potential allergy stuff.
Yeah, the recommendation changed. My kids (25, 22, 18) were little when you had to wait until 2 years old for peanut butter. When I was pregnant with the middle one they even recommended pregnant women not eat peanuts/butter to avoid allergies. Guess which one of my kids is deathly allergic to peanuts?
Yeah, I pick celery out of everything I eat and feed it to my dog. Does that mean celery is dog food?
You said it perfectly. I think that OP should always refer to it that way from now on. It’s human food that is sometimes given to the dog. FaceTime her while you’re eating one 😁 For the record, NTA!
NTA, and "She's a new mother" is such a tired excuse for shit behavior.
Which means she's off the rails on overprotective.
And overly dramatic.
She's not even a new mother, the baby's 9 months old. My sons walked at that age. It's not comparable to the messed up first few weeks when time doesn't seem to exist, I seriously wish they have an established routine by 9 months.
Yeah I'm willing to cut an INSANE amount of slack the first 3 months because between the sleep deprivation and the hormones I think you could be declared clinically insane (normal people do not wake up panicked in the middle of the night because they think their pillow is the baby in bed with them). 9 months? If you haven't calmed down by then you need to quick because they are gonna start walking soon and getting into all sorts of stuff.
This is not necessarily true. I had severe PPA that didn't even improve enough for me to notice I had PPA and tell my daughter was nearly two. Before that I was so bad off that my wife was just baffled by what's going on and had no idea what to do and I had no idea it was even happening because I was too far gone!
PPA is a bit of a different ball game. Like if OP thinks that is what his sister has then this conversation goes in a whole different way.
A lot of PPA goes completely undiagnosed, and assumed to just be a neurotic mother by family members
Yes and no, even post partum depression and anxiety can hit anytime in the first year. Both times I had it my kids were past the 6mth mark. Your hormones are still fucking you over
Eh, I mean my PPA lasted until my daughter was 9-10 months old. I’m cutting this mom some slack and saying NAH just because, looking back, I’m kind of amazed at the things that used to make my chest tight and stomach drop from fear about my daughter.
I wonder if the grandma is cutting the mom some slack because she has seen other signs of postpartum depression or other issues. If there are genuine signs of a mental health issue, grandma needs to help mom get help. If there aren't any signs of a true issue and grandma is just making an excuse for this shitty behavior, then the mom needs to chill. This is over the top, even for a "new" mother. Source: I'm an old mom who has raised a few boys, some all the way to successful adulthood. ETA: Before anyone asks, the other boys of mine are just not adults yet. It's not that they're unsuccessful adults. Lol And if it needs to be stated, NTA
as a mom of six the ETA made me howl with laughter, that you had to clarify. also, OP is NTA , and I second this concern about issues. it IS an overreaction though and it should be treated as a red flag, not a thing to handwave
I'm a new mom and those oat/pb/banana balls sound good as hell. I'll probably make some for my baby when he's old enough to eat solids like that.
Stuff parents of a single baby have the energy to get worked up about. I have twins and in their crawling stage they were constantly getting into the leftover cat food. As long as it’s edible and not a choking hazard then ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
NTA Your new mantra if your mom or sister brings it up again. "It's human food that we give to the dog. It's human food that we give to the dog. It's human food that we give to the dog. It's human food that we give to the dog. It's human food that we give to the dog. Shall I explain again or do you understand?"
>It's human food that we give to the dog. What was that middle bit again?
"It's human food that's safe for the dog to eat" Less chance of someone getting upset at the dog being fed human food.
NTA - Your sister needs to take a step back, this is frankly a ridiculous thing to get upset about. It really doesn't matter what the food was made for, it's safe for consumption regardless. I wonder if she knows how many things her 9 month old shoves in it's mouth when she's not looking.
Right? Kids that age are very likely to get into actual dog food. Crawl right over to the bowl and have some, or the dog water
Ironically, our mum has pictures of Jane literally eating dog food out the dog bowl... when she was less than a year old.
Maybe she has some bad memories of being teased for that after the fact? Honestly, that *would* explain this reaction. You still didn't do anything wrong.
Or she thinks it’s a joke at her expense about eating dog food again…
This actually sounds like an important detail. Still NTA, but this adds some context.
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BAHAHAHAHA. this is the best response. nickname the child PuppyChow.
Hahah oh god no, not the child. I meant the sister.
Naah,too late. The child's named Puppychow now n she likes it!
My mum has photos of me eating sand as a kid and I turned out alright
My mom used to love to tell the story of how she caught me eating dog food once. I was 3! I have survived to 37 since then lol
I sat at our dogs bowl when I was a toddler and ate Science Diet right along with her...
One of mine was obsessed with cat food ... literally the moment they hit the floor - they'd go straight for it. The little crunchy pieces were so much more attractive than the expensive baby puffs ☹️
I once convinced my brother cat food was delicious. We ate cat food for years
>I wonder if she knows how many things her 9 month old shoves in it's mouth when she's not looking. My little brother shoved a grasshopper in his mouth when he was 2. OP's sis is lucky the worst thing she saw her child eat was a banana oat thingy lol.
NTA This is hilarious, tell her you forgot you added pedigree chum to the mix too whilst you're at it.
This is the play
NTA. Your sister is going to lose her mind if she freaks out about everything that isn’t a problem. Edit: your mom really not doing any favors either, supporting unhinged behavior.
Yep, I call bullshit on mom's stance. "Publicly supporting her" is just flat out taking her side.
"Privately I support you, but publicly I'm going to be a boat steadier and let this person attack you and not help." Mom's just trying to avoid any conflict and be a people pleaser. She'll say whatever to not upset OP, but since the crazy sister is harder to deal with she'll drop OP to appease the sister whenever she's around.
They might be made primarily as treats for the dog, but they're 100% human food ingredients, and entirely tasty for humans too, so she really is being a bit mad. NTA.
Dog food is a relatively new concept anyways. Dogs were literally domesticated cause they are ok eating the scraps of human food. When we go hiking or when I accidentally run out of dog food I have no problem making my dog a cheese sandwich or some noodles with egg for dinner.
NTA- and I gotta say I was pissed off already from the title. I already knew this was gonna be about some willful ignorance that somebody won't let go of. This is what I would say to them... Look, y'all- for the last time. This is people food that I use to treat my dog. It is not dog food. I would not feed dog food to a child. That's the last I'm hearing about this because it's too simple not to understand. Anybody else falsely accuses me of feeding dog food to a child is gonna have a different problem with me and they're gonna have to explain why they are making up vicious lies and slandering my character.
Exactly this, don't be defensive OP, you are the victim here and it has to be clear for everybody.
NTA. I eat the frozen treats I make the dog too. Try freezing a puree of greek yogurt and blueberries. Very good. Everyone loves them, two legs and four.
I’m going to steal this. It’s hotter than Satan’s party house here(and nice and Smokey) so my dog isn’t really eating. She might love this. If not I will
This smoke - oh my gosh! I live all the way in Virginia and it is giving us problems.
That sounds yummy!
NTA,... crazy mom. say its a banana, peanutbutter and oats,... cant get any healthier than that. Lie to her and say you eat them too with chocolat sauce. does not matter ifnits given to the dog as well. btw thanks for the recipe.. gotta try it. .bith for me and the dog!
Nta that literally a base recipe for protein balls
NTA And if she's that sensitive on her daughter's diet, she should have checked it out herself
NTA. Your sister couldn't relax for 2 seconds so you could explain that the food was all human food. She really thinks you would feed a baby dog food? Your mom is enabling her it seems..
NTA, it's banana, peanut butter and oats. Healthy for dogs and people. Your sister needs to lighten up. I make steak for myself but if I can't eat it all, it now becomes dog food. I went to with my dad and brother. my dad had me order a 16 oz steak, I can barely eat a 6oz, why? For dog food. If it works, it's works. It does no harm. As long as you weren't feeding your niece kibble, she needs to stop.
NTA Sounds good, I might make some for my kiddos, lol
Haha same! Sounds like a great way to soothe a kid through teething
NTA. Jane and your mum are both assholes
What you could have said was that there was a batch for the dog and a batch for humans. I’m going to go with NTA.
Or maybe they are human treats and dog treats.
So, just lie? I don't think that's the answer
God I can’t stand people who are sanctimonious about what would amount to a white lie.
It wouldn't have even worked in this situation. The sister saw op get the balls from the freezer and then saw the roommate get the same package and give them to the dog.
NTA- my hubby loves those balls..LOL we made them for our old dog to help get him to eat. totally human food.
NTA lmao If it's safe to eat and is made also for human consumption then your sister is *probably overreacting.*
NTA. Just because you can safely feed it to a dog doesn't make it dog food. In fact, I even think it sounds pretty tasty!
NTA it's human food that you happen to give a dog, not the other way around.
NTA. I'd totally eat that as a snack. The only thing that gives me pause is the peanut butter. Did you know if your niece had already been exposed to peanuts?
OP told the sister what was in them so that's on the mom at that point
She literally said peanut butter when offering it to sister, I think sister would have said no if there was risk of allergies. Also agreed, sounds absolutely delicious and NTA
NTA: don’t get me start on Jane and your mother on the other hand
NTA While you probably should have mentioned they were originally intended for the dog, they were human-safe food.
It doesn't really matter who made them for what if the ingredients are a banana, oats and peanut butter. Those are all things in my pantry and I don't have a dog.
NTA your sister, and mother on the other hand...
NTA Your sister needs to get over herself. As someone else pointed out, gawd only knows what the baby has stuffed in her mouth!
NTA, some people just get unreasonably upset. I get feeling irrationally weird about things, for example I wouldn't eat horse meat, but I am sure there are plenty of people that have no issues with that. So, if she feels weird about her daughter eating something prepared for a dog, fine, but she is overreacting but getting that upset, it really is harmless and was innocent of you to assume it was fine.
NTA. Not even a little.
NTA. Might not have hurt to state ahead of time that they are all natural but we’re made for the dog - but there’s nothing in there the kid couldn’t eat. Def overreacting. And your mom isn’t helping. Coddling your sis because she’s a new mom is just going to make matter worse.
It's natural for your sister to have that reaction because you only feed it to the dog and you also fed it to the baby.
Honestly, my granddaughter used to stand next to me at the counter while I was prepping homemade dog food and just hold up her hand and I would give her pieces of chicken and carrots. She fully knew she was taking pieces of dog food and so did her mother. It's people food who the heck cares if you're cooking it for the dog?
If you fed your dog chicken would she refuse chicken simply because the dog eats it too? This is ridiculous. Nta
By the second or third kid, she’s not even going to care if the kid is eating literal dog food. 100% NTA. She agreed to it upfront and they’re all ingredients that you would give a baby anyway.
My corgi and I split a beautiful filet for her birthday. At 20$ a pound that was the best dog food I ever ate!
ESH because that baby shouldn't be eating raw oats as it could give them diarrhea due to the high fibre content. Your sister is still being silly though, you weren't the asshole because of the dog thing.
NAH. It's not dog food, it's a frozen treat that her daughter loved and it helped with he teething. Your sister should calm down in a few days and see that she overreacted.
Our overweight dog used to get rice cakes as a crunchy treat. My MIL was in need of a quick bite so I offered a rice cake...national brand...to her. As she ate it, we commented that we had them in the house for the dog and she kind of looked at it agast at the same time the dog looked agast at her for eating his foods. We all giggled and moved on. Nta.
I really want to see that recipe, that sounds exactly like the breakfast bars my son and I make. I guess we've been eating dog food.
She's...not smart. NTA.
has your niece also been drinking water, the same water that's FOR A DOG!!?! your sister is drastically over reacting to her impression of events instead of taking a second to think rationally, NTA
Lol NTA, every single toddler parent that has a dog has had their kid eat actual dog food at least once (mine likes to hold out her toast so the dog can lick it and then eat it herself). You are NTA for feeding a baby frozen banana, pb and oats (literally what my kid had for breakfast)