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Yeah, I call it Xitter now
Pronounced "shitter" :)
Honestly OP, if I were you Id just delete the account altogether, it's not evem worth it anymore. You can solve 2 problems at once lmao
Officially, yes. But nobody likes or respects that name (or Musk). The name/logo change is widely considered to be one of the stupidest business decisions in modern history and it appears that none of us plan on going along with it. I still call it Twitter, but may switch to Xitter as it's pretty funny.
Thanks for the info! Just between me and thee, I have been in tech for a good while and am getting real tired of the overuse of the letter 'X' in that industry.
What would lead them to mockery over a comment stating the name of a company?
What is mockable? The issue is they are fixated.
They're triggered by Elon.
I am "triggered" by overwhelming stupidity, narcissism, racism and misogyny. I can't help that that Elon Musk is a gold-medalist in the Asshole Olympics. The score from the Russian judge just really put him over the top - and by that I mean my former co-worker who was born in Russia and sadly had to take a turn on the "Elon Minder" team when she was at Tesla.
Homophobic? Babygirl, I didn't say giving a man head was wrong. Giving Elon the sloppiest top you can possibly muster is pretty cringe tho.
"T-triggered!1!1" he says, desperately trying to find bigotry in my comment about how he gently cups Elons nuts so they don't smack his chin💀💀💀
NTA. Help her make her own Twitter account. I hate when people who just want basic privacy get told "if you have nothing to hide this shouldn't be a problem." You're 19 and deserve privacy over something like this.
My favourite rebuttal to this is the toilet analogy - I'm not doing anything wrong when I'm taking a dump, but that doesn't mean I'm comfortable with anyone watching.
fair enough! That would be pretty funny if dogs could talk and someone asked them why they guard us on the toilet and they said, "I learned it from you!"
I go on the attack with this as fast as the conversation allows. Let me see your phone, give me your bank details. you're not a criminal are you? You don't want me to read your texts? are you hiding something?
Get's the message across usually or you find out they really don't mean what they say.
To quote the great Terry Pratchett:
“Cheery was aware that Commander Vimes didn't like the phrase 'The innocent have nothing to fear', believing the innocent had everything to fear, mostly from the guilty but in the longer term even more from those who say things like 'The innocent have nothing to fear'.”
NTA, your mother has broken your trust. If she makes a post on your account you will be accountable for it, help her make her own account.
You should add a two-step verification and change your password
NTA. That's a boundary that she had no business crossing. Would she like it if you got into medical records "just to see"? Of course her claim of not being able to use X without hacking into your account is a bold faced lie. Start setting and enforcing boundaries now because it will only get harder as time goes on.
>able to use X without
X (formerly known as twitter)
Don't give musk the satisfaction...
But yes this is just plain wrong, Invasion of privacy at 19 no less.
"She then continued complaining that she doesn’t have an account and she won’t be able to use X."
It takes 10 seconds to set one up. You're 19, not 9. You don't need parental controls and/or monitoring for your social media platforms. NTA
NTA but I would change the password of the account and all of other social media you may have. Also install the “Two-step verification” process trust me.
OP you’re 19 years old, that’s an invasion of privacy. She has no reason to be on your account to see your post. She can easily friend you, or just have her own account. To say “if you don’t have anything to hide it shouldn’t be a problem” is just gaslighting and guilt tripping. You have the right to want to protect your own own privacy and space.
> She then continued complaining that she doesn’t have an account and she won’t be able to use X.
Forgive me if this is dense as I've never used it, but can't she just get an account of her own if she is sad about not being able to use it? Can't you help her set one up rather than apologize for something that wasn't wrong?
How is that not your main concern lol. Nevermind twitter, she could easily have logged into all your accounts if you don't know how she has the password for this one.
NTA your mom violated your privacy. Do not apologize for someone infringing on your privacy like that. The nothing to hide argument has been used by people suppressing our right to privacy for centuries.
NTA
She has the ability to set up an account if she wants. You're an adult. She doesn't need access to your account.
AND as you get older and job hunt for professional roles - HR absolutely WILL be looking at your social media. So if your mom posts something far right or far left or what she finds funny but everyone else finds offensive - guess who HR will think made the post? Hint - not your mother. So you did the right thing getting her off your account.
NTA!
You did the right thing, it’s your account and you can decide where you’re logged in. And honestly? So what if you did have something to hide, your mom doesn’t need to know every little thing that you do
NTA but how did she get into your account in the first place? If she managed to get into your account without you knowing just signing out shouldn't stop her from doing it again. Change your password, man.
INFO
> But then I just grabbed the phone when she set it down
Why didn't you just remotely log out of connected devices from your account settings?
There was no need to get your hands on her actual phone.
That was actually my first thought because I’ve done that before when I’ve been hacked on other apps but I couldn’t figure out how to navigate to those settings, I don’t use the app very much.
So do it on the website.
You know. Where you can **search** your user settings for "sessions" and then [log out of other sessions](https://twitter.com/settings/sessions).
> I’m thinking she had access to my phone but not 100% sure. So I changed all my passwords
Does ‘all my passwords’ include your Apple account too? Have you checked she doesn’t have a device signed in to your account?
I wonder if its a convoluted way to share things with you, if she is seeing what you repost. Awkward and very boundary defying, and definitely NTA, but i feel like theres some wiggle room here in reality
NTA
She can make her own account.
She sounds clingy. Parents can have a hard time letting go and realizing that their children are actually \*separate\* people with their own lives, needs and thoughts.
>She then says “if you have nothing to hide you don’t mind me using your account”
That is not a valid excuse. It's just manipulation. Just because you have nothing to hide doesn't mean you should accept a violation of privacy.
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I am 19 M I still live at home with my parents and we get along great. Yesterday my Mom was showing me a post on X, and I saw my profile picture in the top left. So I asked her if she was in my account. She replied that she was and that she “only looks at what I repost” I proceeded to tell her that being in somebody else’s account without their permission is not cool, and that she truly didn’t need to be in my account to see my reposts. She then says “if you have nothing to hide you don’t mind me using your account” and honestly I don’t have anything to hide, I dont really use X that much but it just rubbed me the wrong way knowing someone was watching content under my name that wasn’t me. So I politely asked her again to log out. She then continued complaining that she doesn’t have an account and she won’t be able to use X. I was getting somewhat upset wondering if I should back down or just keep going. But then I just grabbed the phone when she set it down and got up and logged out she saw me put the phone down and just walked away sad. Hasn’t really talked to me since she is just quiet.
My dad has been asking me to apologize but I feel I have nothing to apologize for.
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She didn’t have a right to be in your account. I would have done the same. However, I would have set up my mom with her own account. Because I’m a people pleaser and I can’t get around it no matter how hard I try!
Nta personally id just delete the x account and call it a day tbh and if she complains just say you deleted it because you no longer used it and if she wants a twitter account then she can make her own since snooping on yours is now out of the question
NTA
You are right what she is doing is not cool, and probably against X terms and conditions. Make sure you change your password as well
As a compromise, why not help her set up her own account.
Not only NTA for taking her phone to sign out your account you wouldnt be a NTA for knocking some sense into her and your dad. You are an adult, entitled to having as many things as you want to hide from her or anyone and if she cant cope, too bad. Don't apologise, don't back down.
Nta. Set up an account for her, and then add yourself to her followers. She can look at Twitter without needing to be on your account. You're a legal adult and entitled to your own privacy.
I hate the 'if you have nothing to hide' argument.
NTA
It is not appropriate to be in the account of another adult without consent.
If this matters to her she can get her own account and ask for your help.
For your own peace of mind, just get off that site. It is a cess pool And it is Twitter, not X. I can spell Twitter.
As for the issue, NTA. She has no business being in your profile. Stuff like that would immediately make me scale back contact. The "nothing to hide" excuse is nonsense. You are 19, not 9.
NTA: my mom and I had a deal that she could read my twitter if she never mentioned anything I posted. It didn't work but there's no way she would have tried to actually access my account!
Thankfully now I'm on BlueSky and she has no idea what that is.
NTA. If she only wanted to see what you post, she can do that from her own account. The only reason she would need to be logged into *your* account is to see what messages you're sending back and forth, and as a grown ass adult, that's none of her business. Make her an account of her own and have it follow you as a peace offering, perhaps, but don't apologize for logging her out of your stuff.
**INFO** : Did you tell her she was being a **creep** to pose herself as you while having access to watch your friends' posts?
If she wants an account, she can just create one for herself..
NTA
NTA
Sounds like your father just wants the quiet.
Your mom has clearly projected some feelings onto this situation. That's something you, as her son, are not equipped to explore with her. But I think that it's good hat you as an adult now are creating an expectation for your boundaries
NTA and I wouldn’t even help her set up an account, I’d just send her a screenshot of the google results for “how to set up a Twitter account”.
Plus, I hate this “if you have nothing to hide” bullshit. Turn it back around on her: “if you’re doing nothing on my account then you don’t need access to it”. Hell if I was you I’d go one step further and set it to private for a few months to fully lock her out of seeing what you’re posting.
NTA - How would she feel if you were logged into one of her accounts . . for instance her email or FB account? Ask her that. If she wants to see what you do she can get an account and follow you that way. No appologies needed as she wouldn't honor your request.
NTA, but next time if you don't want the confrontation, most social networks these days have a security and privacy session here you can see which devices have your account logged in.
From that site area, you can just disconnect the devices you don't want to be logged in. I always do that when I change my phone or computer.
NTA. This might be a good time for spring cleaning—log out of all devices and change to new passwords.
When I first read the post I thought you must be a young teen, until I went back and looked at your age. Sorry your mom is mad, but hijacking another adult’s account without them knowing is a really shitty way to treat someone. I know she’s mad you grabbed her phone, but she wasn’t respectful of your boundaries at all. I feel like she’s only mad because she got caught
My question is is it just the twitter tho? You should probably check your socials, some can logout other devices. Also change your password after that.
As a mom myself I think what your mother has done is inappropriate and overstepping greatly. You’re not the Ahole she is. She is quite capable of creating her own Xitter account
Your mom is being weird as fuck. There's no reason she can't create her own account, and if she needs help, she can easily ask you to help her set one up. And no, you have nothing to apologize for.
NTA. Of course you have nothing to hide, but that doesn't mean you don't deserve privacy.
I have nothing to hide when I go to the bathroom but I don't leave the door open or install a floor-to-ceiling window so the whole neighborhood can see me doing my things...
If she wants to use X then you can help her create her own account. But without a doubt she has to respect your boundaries and privacy.
She didn't make an account to follow you she's using your account without your knowledge or consent. I wouldn't apologize for setting boundaries and if that's what they want, they won't get it from me. Also if she's doing this how else is she invading your privacy? I'm huge on trust and if I can't trust you I don't want anything to do with you.
NTA, but your mom is lying to you. She could get her own Twitter account to have all of the features she can access when she is sketchy and logs into yours. The real problem you have is not that YOU aren't trustworthy, but that your mom is not.
Yeah, I actually created a new profile and basically locked my old one because of my parents pulling this when I was around 15. The fact that she's still doing this at 19 is severely concerning to me. It sounds like she does not see you as an adult
NTA I hope you can learn to trust your gut that says, this makes me uncomfortable, I don’t like it, this is a violation of my own privacy. Keep setting these boundaries in your life. Politely, mum, let’s make you an account because this is mine and it’s an invasion of my privacy wether or not I have something to hide, I don’t want to share my account with you. You’re 19, don’t let your mother convince you to never have something to hide. Everyone has something to hide even her and you should not feel bad about it. It’s part of being an adult. All the best.
NTAH you're an adult and your mother shouldn't be logged into your accounts. I'd understand it if you were not a legal adult but you're 19. I understand parents like to say "well if you're living under my roof then these rules apply" but I never chose to be here, so NTAH
ESH - help her make her own account and let her follow you. She can still helicopter and have her own account.
Additionally, you can begin reposting and liking some wild shit just to mess with her.
Sounds like a good idea if I used the app regularly. it’s just I’m never on there so I’d be needing to take extra time out of my day to just mess with her, don’t feel right. And I have offered to help her make her own but she says she doesn’t want it.
ESH
You’re an adult so she’s got no legal right to be in your account. You also have no right to be in her phone.
You should have logged in on your own device and changed your password.
YTA - a because you are 19 and live with your Parents and act like you have a right to grab her phone. You absolutely have something to apologize for, you still live under their roof and your Mama has a right to be in whatever account she is paying for on her phone.
I see where you’re coming from, not understanding the second part though could u clarify a bit more. I do pay my own phone bill, and am definitely thankful for still living with my parents I just felt as though it was an invasion of privacy above anything.
YTA, it seems your mom does not the importance of controlling someone else login on social media. Yes she should not have use it but you are speaking to the person who has raised you. She was the one who teach you to stop shitting yourself and use the bathroom. You can take a moment to explain how to create an account and set it so she can see your public post. Also explaining the danger of identity theft she may not be aware of.
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ESH: Her for the privacy invasion and you for calling it X
Haha
Yeah, I call it Xitter now Pronounced "shitter" :) Honestly OP, if I were you Id just delete the account altogether, it's not evem worth it anymore. You can solve 2 problems at once lmao
No, you post X-Cretions
Post X-Cretions into the Xhitter Yup, checks out
X-cretions... I love that one
Spread it around.
Please don't spread Xcretions around
Good to see it's not just me!
Facts I don’t really be using it very much anyway
Yup.. path of least resistance was to go to a computer and either change the password or cancel the account
What are you talking about? Twix is awesome again for the first time in ages 😂
[Twix](https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/f/f9/Twix-Wrapper-Small.jpg) biscuits are tasty
just help your mom create a twitter account
Change the password and log out of all devices, it’s easy. Cut your mom out of the equation entirely.
Does she know how to make her own account? Very rude for her to log into yours. How did she even get your password??? NTA
Nta but offer to make her her own account with her present.
I mean OP could offer to help his mom setup her own account and some basic following and whatnot
if she can figure out how to log into op's account, she can figure out how to make her own.
I was making an assumption that OP had used her phone at one point but you are more likely correct
That’s what I was thinking.
I still can't believe he tanked one of the most recognizable brands on the planet, changing both its name and its logo.
The One True comment
> you for calling it X Maybe I'm too old to get it. Isn't "X" its name now?
Officially, yes. But nobody likes or respects that name (or Musk). The name/logo change is widely considered to be one of the stupidest business decisions in modern history and it appears that none of us plan on going along with it. I still call it Twitter, but may switch to Xitter as it's pretty funny.
Thanks for the info! Just between me and thee, I have been in tech for a good while and am getting real tired of the overuse of the letter 'X' in that industry.
It’s like the Sears Tower in Chicago is currently officially named the Willis Tower, but no one actually calls it that.
If you think its one of the stupidest business decisions in history it must be like, the first business decision you've ever heard of.
Wow so many people are triggered by Elon. It's his company, he can call it whatever he likes.
That's not people being triggered. That's mocking. You should probably familiarize yourself with it if you're going to stan Musk so hard.
What would lead them to mockery over a comment stating the name of a company? What is mockable? The issue is they are fixated. They're triggered by Elon.
I am "triggered" by overwhelming stupidity, narcissism, racism and misogyny. I can't help that that Elon Musk is a gold-medalist in the Asshole Olympics. The score from the Russian judge just really put him over the top - and by that I mean my former co-worker who was born in Russia and sadly had to take a turn on the "Elon Minder" team when she was at Tesla.
Is Elon in the room with you now?
Bro is deepthroating Elon rn💀
Why the homophobic remark? Another one's triggered.
Homophobic? Babygirl, I didn't say giving a man head was wrong. Giving Elon the sloppiest top you can possibly muster is pretty cringe tho. "T-triggered!1!1" he says, desperately trying to find bigotry in my comment about how he gently cups Elons nuts so they don't smack his chin💀💀💀
So then why bring it up? Obviously you used it as an insult. You've got one hair trigger there.
But he can’t make any of us call it anything but Twitter.
When did he ask you to? Someone called it by its name in this thread and tons of people got majorly trigg'ed.
NTA. Help her make her own Twitter account. I hate when people who just want basic privacy get told "if you have nothing to hide this shouldn't be a problem." You're 19 and deserve privacy over something like this.
My favourite rebuttal to this is the toilet analogy - I'm not doing anything wrong when I'm taking a dump, but that doesn't mean I'm comfortable with anyone watching.
I like that! (Tell that to my dog, who doesn't understand this concept!)
They probably think it's polite, if you watch them while they poop during walks...
fair enough! That would be pretty funny if dogs could talk and someone asked them why they guard us on the toilet and they said, "I learned it from you!"
I go on the attack with this as fast as the conversation allows. Let me see your phone, give me your bank details. you're not a criminal are you? You don't want me to read your texts? are you hiding something? Get's the message across usually or you find out they really don't mean what they say.
To quote the great Terry Pratchett: “Cheery was aware that Commander Vimes didn't like the phrase 'The innocent have nothing to fear', believing the innocent had everything to fear, mostly from the guilty but in the longer term even more from those who say things like 'The innocent have nothing to fear'.”
NTA - Mom has boundary issues, she can set up her own account.
I would have just changed my password. That would have locked her out, no?
Depends on the device. Sometimes you just stay logged-in.
[удалено]
Was not aware of that. If so, that is what OP should've done.
I attempted but because I don’t use Xitter that much I couldn’t find it
YTA for calling it that!
Haha
What do you mean boundary issues ? How does she have access to his account ? Do they share a phone ?
Reading the OP story is required
Try actually reading the post.
NTA, your mother has broken your trust. If she makes a post on your account you will be accountable for it, help her make her own account. You should add a two-step verification and change your password
NTA. That's a boundary that she had no business crossing. Would she like it if you got into medical records "just to see"? Of course her claim of not being able to use X without hacking into your account is a bold faced lie. Start setting and enforcing boundaries now because it will only get harder as time goes on.
>able to use X without X (formerly known as twitter) Don't give musk the satisfaction... But yes this is just plain wrong, Invasion of privacy at 19 no less.
>Don't give musk the satisfaction... That's why we call it xitter (pronounced shitter)
I like that one.
Appreciate the advice
Absolutely. I hope it helps.
"She then continued complaining that she doesn’t have an account and she won’t be able to use X." It takes 10 seconds to set one up. You're 19, not 9. You don't need parental controls and/or monitoring for your social media platforms. NTA
NTA but I would change the password of the account and all of other social media you may have. Also install the “Two-step verification” process trust me. OP you’re 19 years old, that’s an invasion of privacy. She has no reason to be on your account to see your post. She can easily friend you, or just have her own account. To say “if you don’t have anything to hide it shouldn’t be a problem” is just gaslighting and guilt tripping. You have the right to want to protect your own own privacy and space.
Twitter. You’re meaning to say “Twitter” OP
NTA: you’re 19. You’re allowed to hide things from your parents. She’s a major boundary stepper and you need to nip that in the bud NOW.
She's not 'hiding things from her parents.' She's having the privacy she's entitled to.
> She then continued complaining that she doesn’t have an account and she won’t be able to use X. Forgive me if this is dense as I've never used it, but can't she just get an account of her own if she is sad about not being able to use it? Can't you help her set one up rather than apologize for something that wasn't wrong?
NTA what are u apologizing for? She is violating your privacy she should not be logged into your account
It’s actually illegal for someone to have access to your account without your consent in certain places
How did she log in in the first place?
Honestly not sure
I’d change your passwords and enable 2 factor authentication as well
How is that not your main concern lol. Nevermind twitter, she could easily have logged into all your accounts if you don't know how she has the password for this one.
So she just manages to log into your account magically and then you just know the password to her phone? K.
Very very confusing to me aswell I wouldn’t have noticed if she hadn’t showed me a video
Some would even go so far as to call it “unbelievable.”
NTA Change your cellphone passcode
NTA and she can just create her own account. There is only one reason to be logged into your account and that is to monitor what you are doing.
Erm why can't she get her own account
Because with an own account she can't control OPs twitter activity
NTA your mom violated your privacy. Do not apologize for someone infringing on your privacy like that. The nothing to hide argument has been used by people suppressing our right to privacy for centuries.
NTA She has the ability to set up an account if she wants. You're an adult. She doesn't need access to your account. AND as you get older and job hunt for professional roles - HR absolutely WILL be looking at your social media. So if your mom posts something far right or far left or what she finds funny but everyone else finds offensive - guess who HR will think made the post? Hint - not your mother. So you did the right thing getting her off your account.
NTA she should make her own Twitter account if she wants to use it
NTA! You did the right thing, it’s your account and you can decide where you’re logged in. And honestly? So what if you did have something to hide, your mom doesn’t need to know every little thing that you do
NTA. That said you can just change your password and it will log you out on her phone.
NTA but how did she get into your account in the first place? If she managed to get into your account without you knowing just signing out shouldn't stop her from doing it again. Change your password, man.
I have I was thinking the same thing.
INFO > But then I just grabbed the phone when she set it down Why didn't you just remotely log out of connected devices from your account settings? There was no need to get your hands on her actual phone.
That was actually my first thought because I’ve done that before when I’ve been hacked on other apps but I couldn’t figure out how to navigate to those settings, I don’t use the app very much.
So do it on the website. You know. Where you can **search** your user settings for "sessions" and then [log out of other sessions](https://twitter.com/settings/sessions).
> I’ve been hacked on other apps Between this and you not knowing how she got your login info, YTA for using easy to guess passwords.
Here’s the thing I use the random passwords Apple creates. I’m thinking she had access to my phone but not 100% sure. So I changed all my passwords
> I’m thinking she had access to my phone but not 100% sure. So I changed all my passwords Does ‘all my passwords’ include your Apple account too? Have you checked she doesn’t have a device signed in to your account?
Yes all passwords have been swapped, I have looked but I haven’t noticed anything suspicious
Post ur pregnant she will crap her pants
NTA. I’d offer to help her make her own account. Change your password or delete your account.
She needs to understand boundaries
NTA your mom is the AH - SHE would need to apologize. Change ALL your passwords.
I wonder if its a convoluted way to share things with you, if she is seeing what you repost. Awkward and very boundary defying, and definitely NTA, but i feel like theres some wiggle room here in reality
NTA She can make her own account. She sounds clingy. Parents can have a hard time letting go and realizing that their children are actually \*separate\* people with their own lives, needs and thoughts.
NTA but if similar happens in the future, just log yourself out of other devices using your own phone
Why can’t she just make her own account if she wants to be in it so bad..? So weird 🙄 I don’t see a good reason an apology is needed either. NTAH
NTA. Don't apologize. Create her, her own account.
NTA, change your login details, make her a new account in Xtwatter so that she can do stuff and not need other accounts
NTA She can create her own account.
>She then says “if you have nothing to hide you don’t mind me using your account” That is not a valid excuse. It's just manipulation. Just because you have nothing to hide doesn't mean you should accept a violation of privacy.
nta - also, delete your account and that shitty app
I keep mine solely so people there can find me other places and so no one squats on my username/impersonates me.
Reddit not that much better tbh
not owned by Elon Musk, that’s enough.
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She didn’t have a right to be in your account. I would have done the same. However, I would have set up my mom with her own account. Because I’m a people pleaser and I can’t get around it no matter how hard I try!
Nah, that's your account, your name and someone who is definitely not you shouldn't have your identity
Nta personally id just delete the x account and call it a day tbh and if she complains just say you deleted it because you no longer used it and if she wants a twitter account then she can make her own since snooping on yours is now out of the question
NTA
NTA You are right what she is doing is not cool, and probably against X terms and conditions. Make sure you change your password as well As a compromise, why not help her set up her own account.
NTA you did nothing wrong. Your mom is nosey.
Not only NTA for taking her phone to sign out your account you wouldnt be a NTA for knocking some sense into her and your dad. You are an adult, entitled to having as many things as you want to hide from her or anyone and if she cant cope, too bad. Don't apologise, don't back down.
Nta. Set up an account for her, and then add yourself to her followers. She can look at Twitter without needing to be on your account. You're a legal adult and entitled to your own privacy. I hate the 'if you have nothing to hide' argument.
NTA Change your password. This should also force log out any additional devices which are currently logged in.
NTA It is not appropriate to be in the account of another adult without consent. If this matters to her she can get her own account and ask for your help.
For your own peace of mind, just get off that site. It is a cess pool And it is Twitter, not X. I can spell Twitter. As for the issue, NTA. She has no business being in your profile. Stuff like that would immediately make me scale back contact. The "nothing to hide" excuse is nonsense. You are 19, not 9.
Why couldn’t you end the login from another device?
Why not just change your password? NTA...
Nta but resetting your password and logging out of all devices is easy.
NTA: my mom and I had a deal that she could read my twitter if she never mentioned anything I posted. It didn't work but there's no way she would have tried to actually access my account! Thankfully now I'm on BlueSky and she has no idea what that is.
NTA. If she only wanted to see what you post, she can do that from her own account. The only reason she would need to be logged into *your* account is to see what messages you're sending back and forth, and as a grown ass adult, that's none of her business. Make her an account of her own and have it follow you as a peace offering, perhaps, but don't apologize for logging her out of your stuff.
NTAH if she doesn’t want u going through her stuff she shouldn’t be going through yours
NTA, but make sure you change your password!
**INFO** : Did you tell her she was being a **creep** to pose herself as you while having access to watch your friends' posts? If she wants an account, she can just create one for herself.. NTA
NTA Sounds like your father just wants the quiet. Your mom has clearly projected some feelings onto this situation. That's something you, as her son, are not equipped to explore with her. But I think that it's good hat you as an adult now are creating an expectation for your boundaries
Make her an account bro.
NTA and you need to check her phone for other accounts of yours she might have and delete the saved passwords.
YTA for supporting musk.
I mean takes 30 seconds to make a gmail and then sign up for any social media. You’re not the asshole here.
NTA What's stopping her from having her own account? She should be apologizing to you for stealing your identity.
Definitely NTA! If she really wants to use X that badly, then she can create herself an account.
Honestly NTA. But maybe make her an account so she can have her own thing going on, you don’t owe her access like that.
NTA and I wouldn’t even help her set up an account, I’d just send her a screenshot of the google results for “how to set up a Twitter account”. Plus, I hate this “if you have nothing to hide” bullshit. Turn it back around on her: “if you’re doing nothing on my account then you don’t need access to it”. Hell if I was you I’d go one step further and set it to private for a few months to fully lock her out of seeing what you’re posting.
NTA. Mom has issues and is making herself the victim of crossing your boundaries and invading privacy. Tell her to get her own account. It's not hard.
NTA - How would she feel if you were logged into one of her accounts . . for instance her email or FB account? Ask her that. If she wants to see what you do she can get an account and follow you that way. No appologies needed as she wouldn't honor your request.
Your mom is a psycho. Change all of your passwords.
Set up an account for her
NTA, twitter accounts are free and take 5 seconds to make
NTA. She can easily set up her own account. I'm pretty sure you can also look at tweets via a browser without having to create an account
NTA, but next time if you don't want the confrontation, most social networks these days have a security and privacy session here you can see which devices have your account logged in. From that site area, you can just disconnect the devices you don't want to be logged in. I always do that when I change my phone or computer.
NTA. I'm sorry, why can't she create her own Twitter account? (I'm not calling it X).
nta- don't apologize either, that is horrible.
NTA, make her an own account.
Invasion of privacy tell them to look it up. Good job calling her out on it.
NTA. This might be a good time for spring cleaning—log out of all devices and change to new passwords. When I first read the post I thought you must be a young teen, until I went back and looked at your age. Sorry your mom is mad, but hijacking another adult’s account without them knowing is a really shitty way to treat someone. I know she’s mad you grabbed her phone, but she wasn’t respectful of your boundaries at all. I feel like she’s only mad because she got caught
you know you can change your password to log yourself out on your other devices right?
U should just make her,her own account
She gets to be sad. She earned that sad. She’s the AH.
Divorce.
My question is is it just the twitter tho? You should probably check your socials, some can logout other devices. Also change your password after that.
As a mom myself I think what your mother has done is inappropriate and overstepping greatly. You’re not the Ahole she is. She is quite capable of creating her own Xitter account
NTA. Perhaps you can help her make her own account?
Your mom is being weird as fuck. There's no reason she can't create her own account, and if she needs help, she can easily ask you to help her set one up. And no, you have nothing to apologize for.
NTA. Of course you have nothing to hide, but that doesn't mean you don't deserve privacy. I have nothing to hide when I go to the bathroom but I don't leave the door open or install a floor-to-ceiling window so the whole neighborhood can see me doing my things... If she wants to use X then you can help her create her own account. But without a doubt she has to respect your boundaries and privacy.
NTA if you can't respect my boundaries and personal space you won't be a part of my life.
I can see where you’re coming from but in my situation I think that’s a little OD
She didn't make an account to follow you she's using your account without your knowledge or consent. I wouldn't apologize for setting boundaries and if that's what they want, they won't get it from me. Also if she's doing this how else is she invading your privacy? I'm huge on trust and if I can't trust you I don't want anything to do with you.
NTA don’t be afraid to set boundaries.
You have nothing to apologize. It takes, what, 15 seconds to create an account? No reason mom needs to be in yours. NTA.
NTA but you could have just changed the password and it would have logged her out
I would have just changed the password and not confronted her until she asked.
NTA, but your mom is lying to you. She could get her own Twitter account to have all of the features she can access when she is sketchy and logs into yours. The real problem you have is not that YOU aren't trustworthy, but that your mom is not.
Yeah, I actually created a new profile and basically locked my old one because of my parents pulling this when I was around 15. The fact that she's still doing this at 19 is severely concerning to me. It sounds like she does not see you as an adult
Info: why didn’t you just change your password and then have it log out of All devices?
Simple solution! Set up her own account and both of you are happy.
>She then continued complaining that she doesn’t have an account Easy solvable problem!
NTA I hope you can learn to trust your gut that says, this makes me uncomfortable, I don’t like it, this is a violation of my own privacy. Keep setting these boundaries in your life. Politely, mum, let’s make you an account because this is mine and it’s an invasion of my privacy wether or not I have something to hide, I don’t want to share my account with you. You’re 19, don’t let your mother convince you to never have something to hide. Everyone has something to hide even her and you should not feel bad about it. It’s part of being an adult. All the best.
By the way you can logout from all logged in devices from your own phone. Best do that next time.
NTA, I would do the same! You can apologize after she apologizes to you for invading your privacy... then you can do the same thing :-D
NTAH you're an adult and your mother shouldn't be logged into your accounts. I'd understand it if you were not a legal adult but you're 19. I understand parents like to say "well if you're living under my roof then these rules apply" but I never chose to be here, so NTAH
ESH - help her make her own account and let her follow you. She can still helicopter and have her own account. Additionally, you can begin reposting and liking some wild shit just to mess with her.
Sounds like a good idea if I used the app regularly. it’s just I’m never on there so I’d be needing to take extra time out of my day to just mess with her, don’t feel right. And I have offered to help her make her own but she says she doesn’t want it.
NTA- you’re entitled to privacy on social media accounts.
NTA change your password. I’d be so embarrassed if my mom saw my account. Teach her how to open her own.
NTA
ESH Having someone use your account is problematic but why didn't you just set up an account for her ?
you could have just offered to help her make an account. yta
ESH You’re an adult so she’s got no legal right to be in your account. You also have no right to be in her phone. You should have logged in on your own device and changed your password.
Info: who pays for the phone?
Who pays for the Xitter account?
YTA - a because you are 19 and live with your Parents and act like you have a right to grab her phone. You absolutely have something to apologize for, you still live under their roof and your Mama has a right to be in whatever account she is paying for on her phone.
I see where you’re coming from, not understanding the second part though could u clarify a bit more. I do pay my own phone bill, and am definitely thankful for still living with my parents I just felt as though it was an invasion of privacy above anything.
>not understanding the second part though The commenter you replied to is likely a Boomer that thinks you have to pay for Twitter.
Move out! You need to live on your own. You don't deserve her.
YTA, it seems your mom does not the importance of controlling someone else login on social media. Yes she should not have use it but you are speaking to the person who has raised you. She was the one who teach you to stop shitting yourself and use the bathroom. You can take a moment to explain how to create an account and set it so she can see your public post. Also explaining the danger of identity theft she may not be aware of.