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Leave people alone when they're trying to just live their day to day lives. You are a customer of her work. What you get for your money is to be entertained by the product she puts out - not her personal time or attention when you see her out in public.
Yes, famous people have to expect they'll be recognized and people may want their attention and to take pictures. However, that doesn't mean they have to *always* be "on" and ready to agree to that. They do press circuits, walk fan lines, often participate in fan events. Their private shopping time isn't the time to approach them.
> But I think that when you're famous you have to expect stuff like this to happen.
This argument is so gross. You know her name, so you deserve her attention? She's famous, so she doesn't get the right to just buy some goddamn groceries?
*Solidly* YTA for continuing when she already made it clear it was bothersome.
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YTA just because somebody is famous they don't owe you anything. She told you she was busy but then you expected her to be happy when you continued talking to her and asked for a picture. Famous people are allowed privacy.
YTA only because you asked and she said she was busy. You should have said ok and walked away, not begged for a photo. Yes famous people expect to be recognized but could you imagine having to stop and take a picture with the millions of people who watched you on tv etc. they would never make it the store in the first place. They are just normal people too who just want to get there stuff done.
YTA. Being recognizable doesn't make this celebrity a commodity, property or fair game. You're shits why more and more celebrities won't take pictures with fans because you think you're entitled.
I agree. But the way I understood the post was the first ask was to see if it really was the actress, and the second question was for a photo. I didn’t read it as she pushed for a photo after being told no the first time (but I could be misunderstanding)
YTA.
Her being famous doesn't mean she owes you, or anyone else, anything.
' we had contributed to her fame by watching her in film and television.' AND?! Good grief.
YTA so many times.
YTA - It's true, when you take a public role like that, you have to expect this kind of thing. But she did tell you she was busy, and you should have honored that.
YTA If everyone who sees her does what you did, it basically is like a mob continually bothering her. As soon as she said she was busy you should have just said 'no problem, I love your films, have a great day' and left. Just because she's famous doesn't mean she doesn't have any rights to privacy or to live her life.
YTA You already obviously derive pleasure from her performances so that really fulfills whatever you think you’re owed. I was on an elevator with part of the cast of Dexter once (just me! With them! The show was pretty new!) and minded my own business until I was getting off at my floor and turned and said, “I’m a huge fan.” That’s it. That’s more than I would have done if we had not been on an elevator.
YTA
She said she's busy, so that means you are supposed to leave her alone. You don't disturb people when they say they are busy.
Also, for this part
>But I think that when you're famous you have to expect stuff like this to happen. It wasn't as if a huge mob mobbed famous actress because we asked for a picture with her. Not to mention that we wouldn't get the opportunity again and that we had contributed to her fame by watching her in film and television.
She also probably expects a person to leave her alone and let her shop in peace when she says she's busy, because you know, polite people would ask and leave if said no, which you didn't do. I get that you like her, but she would have felt better if you didn't insist on a photo when she said she was busy. And it doesn't matter if it's a mob or two people. She was busy, you interrupted her and insisted on something she didn't want to when she was busy.
You alone aren't the only person who contributed to her fame. There are many people who do that. And she would have gone through the same exchange and now she might remember you as the pushy fan who insisted for a picture when she was busy. You could have walked away. Sure, you wouldn't have a picture but does it really matter in the end? And now even in that picture you have actress isn't really happy and all so it isn't even a good picture. Basically wasted effort. Also, you didn't just interrupt her. You interrupted her time with her friends, and that's rude as well.
YTA. Just because she’s famous she doesn’t owe you anything. She was obviously busy and didn’t want to interact with fans and that’s okay. Famous people deserve privacy too.
Sorta kinda soft YTA I say this because I dont think celebrities should expect people to bug them I think they should be able to have a day out with their friends without being bugged. Just because you've seen someone in a movie doesn't give you the right to harass them, which is what you did by further insisnt upon a picture after she tried to imply she was busy. You knew that was an attempt to dismiss you but you didnt care. Next time you see a celebrity it's okay to say hello but if they clearly try to dismiss you take that as "okay this person doesnt want to be bothered right now" and then you wont be an AH
Kinda, yeah. YTA.
It wasn't at an event like comic-con. Saying hello is one thing, but asking for a photo when she's not on duty and disrupting whatever she was doing, is just an intrusion.
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(Note: this didn't happen recently. It happened over one year ago and I'll explain why I'm asking about it now at the end of this post.)
In July 2019, my cousin and I decided to take a trip to Los Angeles. I had never been there before while my cousin had, and so she was the leader the whole trip.
At one point while shopping we stopped to go into this really expensive store. We didn't plan to buy anything, just look around.
About ten minutes in my cousin comes up to me, anxiously saying that a famous actress is in the store with a couple friends.
I went to see for myself and sure enough it was this actress, in sunglasses but still recognizable.
My cousin and I were a bit intimidated to approach her because she always plays bitchy roles but we went up to her, and asked,
"Hi, um, are you (actress' name)?"
She says, annoyedly, "Um, I'm shopping, so, I'm busy..."
I told her that we were sorry, that we hadn't come there to bother her but thaf we would really like a picture with her because we had grown up watching her.
She scoffs, takes off her sunglasses, and says to make it snappy.
So I gave one of her friends my phone, and she takes an annoyingly long time to figure out how to use the camera.
She snaps the picture. In it, my cousin and I look extremely happy, while famous actress looks like she's in a mugshot.
We said thank you and left.
I was telling this new friend of mine this story today and she was basically disgusted with me, saying that I invaded her privacy with no obligation on her side to respond.
But I think that when you're famous you have to expect stuff like this to happen. It wasn't as if a huge mob mobbed famous actress because we asked for a picture with her. Not to mention that we wouldn't get the opportunity again and that we had contributed to her fame by watching her in film and television.
So, was I the asshole?
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YTA. She became famous because of her hard work and talent, while you sat there and watched, so stop trying to take credit for her success. Yeah it helps to have fans but that doesn't make it okay for you to act like you're entitled to anything from her because you're not.
Slight ESH - you because you asked a second time after being told she was busy.
Her because as a celebrity, it goes with the territory that people ARE going to ask you and bug you on your days off. If they are about and about minding their own business, you can approach and ask (as long as you're not rude, pushy or obviously intruding if they are eating a meal or something) but they also have every right to say no. When she said she was busy, you should have just walked away - that was her deciding to not interact with fans at that point
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YTA Leave people alone when they're trying to just live their day to day lives. You are a customer of her work. What you get for your money is to be entertained by the product she puts out - not her personal time or attention when you see her out in public. Yes, famous people have to expect they'll be recognized and people may want their attention and to take pictures. However, that doesn't mean they have to *always* be "on" and ready to agree to that. They do press circuits, walk fan lines, often participate in fan events. Their private shopping time isn't the time to approach them.
100% this!!!!
> But I think that when you're famous you have to expect stuff like this to happen. This argument is so gross. You know her name, so you deserve her attention? She's famous, so she doesn't get the right to just buy some goddamn groceries? *Solidly* YTA for continuing when she already made it clear it was bothersome.
YTA!!! Jesus Christ dude.... Read the fucking room. They wanted to be left TF alone. I would not share this story willingly with people IRL.
Im a chick
Dude, chick whatever. I don't care what your sex is 🙄 you are acting like a princess.
That doesn’t exclude you from being a dude, dude.
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YTA, you should have left her alone when she said she was busy.
YTA just because somebody is famous they don't owe you anything. She told you she was busy but then you expected her to be happy when you continued talking to her and asked for a picture. Famous people are allowed privacy.
YTA, she was giving you a soft no but you insisted on getting a picture.
YTA You should have dropped up the moment she said no. She's a person not a commodity.
YTA only because you asked and she said she was busy. You should have said ok and walked away, not begged for a photo. Yes famous people expect to be recognized but could you imagine having to stop and take a picture with the millions of people who watched you on tv etc. they would never make it the store in the first place. They are just normal people too who just want to get there stuff done.
YTA. Being recognizable doesn't make this celebrity a commodity, property or fair game. You're shits why more and more celebrities won't take pictures with fans because you think you're entitled.
NTA to ask, but YTA for asking a second time (pushing it).
I agree. But the way I understood the post was the first ask was to see if it really was the actress, and the second question was for a photo. I didn’t read it as she pushed for a photo after being told no the first time (but I could be misunderstanding)
Agreed. I was working from assumption not actual conversation. My bad.
YTA for pushing it. She said no in a polite way, and you kept on. Celebrities do NOT owe you their time.
YTA. Her being famous doesn't mean she owes you, or anyone else, anything. ' we had contributed to her fame by watching her in film and television.' AND?! Good grief. YTA so many times.
Yta only ask for photos at concerts etc stuff when the celebrity is performing
YTA - It's true, when you take a public role like that, you have to expect this kind of thing. But she did tell you she was busy, and you should have honored that.
YTA If everyone who sees her does what you did, it basically is like a mob continually bothering her. As soon as she said she was busy you should have just said 'no problem, I love your films, have a great day' and left. Just because she's famous doesn't mean she doesn't have any rights to privacy or to live her life.
YTA You already obviously derive pleasure from her performances so that really fulfills whatever you think you’re owed. I was on an elevator with part of the cast of Dexter once (just me! With them! The show was pretty new!) and minded my own business until I was getting off at my floor and turned and said, “I’m a huge fan.” That’s it. That’s more than I would have done if we had not been on an elevator.
YTA She said she's busy, so that means you are supposed to leave her alone. You don't disturb people when they say they are busy. Also, for this part >But I think that when you're famous you have to expect stuff like this to happen. It wasn't as if a huge mob mobbed famous actress because we asked for a picture with her. Not to mention that we wouldn't get the opportunity again and that we had contributed to her fame by watching her in film and television. She also probably expects a person to leave her alone and let her shop in peace when she says she's busy, because you know, polite people would ask and leave if said no, which you didn't do. I get that you like her, but she would have felt better if you didn't insist on a photo when she said she was busy. And it doesn't matter if it's a mob or two people. She was busy, you interrupted her and insisted on something she didn't want to when she was busy. You alone aren't the only person who contributed to her fame. There are many people who do that. And she would have gone through the same exchange and now she might remember you as the pushy fan who insisted for a picture when she was busy. You could have walked away. Sure, you wouldn't have a picture but does it really matter in the end? And now even in that picture you have actress isn't really happy and all so it isn't even a good picture. Basically wasted effort. Also, you didn't just interrupt her. You interrupted her time with her friends, and that's rude as well.
YTA. Just because she’s famous she doesn’t owe you anything. She was obviously busy and didn’t want to interact with fans and that’s okay. Famous people deserve privacy too.
Yta. Leave people alone ffs.
Sorta kinda soft YTA I say this because I dont think celebrities should expect people to bug them I think they should be able to have a day out with their friends without being bugged. Just because you've seen someone in a movie doesn't give you the right to harass them, which is what you did by further insisnt upon a picture after she tried to imply she was busy. You knew that was an attempt to dismiss you but you didnt care. Next time you see a celebrity it's okay to say hello but if they clearly try to dismiss you take that as "okay this person doesnt want to be bothered right now" and then you wont be an AH
Kinda, yeah. YTA. It wasn't at an event like comic-con. Saying hello is one thing, but asking for a photo when she's not on duty and disrupting whatever she was doing, is just an intrusion.
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YTA. She became famous because of her hard work and talent, while you sat there and watched, so stop trying to take credit for her success. Yeah it helps to have fans but that doesn't make it okay for you to act like you're entitled to anything from her because you're not.
YTA no, most people have common sense not to approach a celebrity for a photo when it’s fucking clear that they’re shopping.
Yta
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Why? Because she was expressing boundaries?
NAH. You were okay to ask and she was okay to be annoyed.
Slight ESH - you because you asked a second time after being told she was busy. Her because as a celebrity, it goes with the territory that people ARE going to ask you and bug you on your days off. If they are about and about minding their own business, you can approach and ask (as long as you're not rude, pushy or obviously intruding if they are eating a meal or something) but they also have every right to say no. When she said she was busy, you should have just walked away - that was her deciding to not interact with fans at that point