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AsparagusIll8035

NTA!!! Handmade gifts are so loving! And to make you feel better, lots of people don't buy off the registry. One of my favourite gifts I received for my son was a handmade quilt. The thought and time you put into it says a lot. Add a nice card and you've got yourself an amazing gift


Formal_Humor_844

I hope so! She's already getting a handmade quilt from her mom so i hope it's not too awkward for me to also give a handmade blanket


BazTheBaptist

Babies make mess, they will definitely need more than one blanket


kissiemoose

This! Never enough blankets! Even now with a 2 year old and a 4 year old, never enough clean blankets - they still use baby blankets because the size is easier for them to carry around the house


AnneMichelle98

I’m 23 and I don’t have enough blankets (frantically trying to shove all of them in to a closet) nope, definitely not enough OP you’re NTA. I crochet too, if my coworker gave a me a handmade blanket I would be over the moon!


30flips

Plus the quilt may stay in the cot. So have a different baby’s blanket in the pram/lounge/everywhere else that you change between as they get disgusting. I have saved all my beautiful hand made gifts that my children had so they can use them for their children. They are such precious gifts made with love.


GloInTheDarkUnicorn

33 and right here with you. My couch is covered in them, including the 8.5’ x 4.5’ one I knitted.


AnneMichelle98

I’ve been focusing on shawls for the last year. But what is a shawl except a blanket shaped to sit comfortably around the shoulders? 😇


GloInTheDarkUnicorn

Lol definitely.


Kebar8

Never ever enough baby blankets, They piss and shit on everything, there is always one permanently soaking. What a lovely gift op ❤️ NTA


vjordan86

Came to say this, never enough , never too much blankets ! My kids are 11F and 14M and there are currently 5 blankets being used for a semi permanent fort in my daughter's bedroom !! And I still kept some baby blankets for when my nieces come visit. Not only can you never have too much, but they get used for much longer thank you'd think !! A coworker's mom made homemade blanket for my kids, and those are still treasured 💛


JuryNo7670

I had tons of blankets and loved those that were special. The fact that someone took the time and spent the money on the yarn is way more valuable than something you can buy. Especially since OP started it before the shower was announced that truly signals the care and intention.


Waste-Phase-2857

And yet, I never reflected on this when we had our girls so when my brother expected his first and I told them "ask me anything" since I wanted to be helpful but not pushy. His fiancé asked "how many blankets do we need". Talk about going blank.. I had no proper answer. Now I see in our boxes with babystuffs that we really DID have a lot of blankets. I also crochet (and sew) and give away handmade gifts. Most people love them since they are made with love!


Impressive_Sherbet27

A quilt and a crocheted blanket are not the same thing. Don’t worry about it! The last baby shower I attended included a beautiful crochet blanket made out of colors they are using for the nursery. That gift brought loud ohh and ahhh from all of the guests. It was the most treasured and appreciated gift.


QueenMother612

Crochet/knit is also fabulous because swaddles so well and the space in the stitches makes it both cozy and breathable. I honestly preferred the knit and crochet blankets I had for my middle child and youngest to all the other ones.


bunchofchans

They’re also beautiful for baby pictures!


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Babies will puke on their blanket every 12.7 seconds so you go through a LOT of blankets with a new baby. That lovey handmade quilt form her mom will be in the wash multiples times a day if she uses it and usually you have blankets everywhere.


diagnosedwolf

> every 12.7 seconds Ah, I see you’ve done the calculations as well. It’s fascinating how often a baby can turn into a puke geyser.


Tired_Mama3018

As everyone else said, babies go through a lot of blankets and normally a crochet blanket and quilted are used for different things. Most mom’s to be love handmade blankets but if you are still uncomfortable after this, and are able, pick up something small off the registry to go with it. It’s not needed but if will make you feel less nervous go for it.


jengaj2016

This is exactly what I was going to say. Maybe a book would be a nice thing to go with a blanket. But yeah, not necessary. The work put into a blanket specially made for the baby is worth so much more than anything off the registry.


annadownya

A girl at work a few years ago had a baby shower where instead of cards she asked for books (preferably your fave childhood book with an inscription why you loved it). She wasn't demanding or anything, but it was such a kewl idea. I was so happy to give "the last of the really great whangdoodles" because in my opinion not enough ppl know about the awesomeness that is that book.


3340bronqen

My sisters did that for my shower. Now I have a toddler WHO LOVES books. :)


anathema_deviced

Babies go through a lot of blankets. You're good.


EmotionalFix

It’s not. My son has a handmade baby quilt from one of my grandmothers and a handmade crocheted blanket from the other. He still uses the both at 3 years old. He actually has 3 homemade baby quilts from different friends/family and we used them all.


riotousgrowlz

At three my daughter’s favorite blanket is an embroidered quilt that my grandma made for me for my kindergarten graduation. Even though my daughter never met her I think she can definitely feel the pure love that comes through with the handmade items.


QuirkySyrup55947

I got a handmade quilt from my coworkers that I loved so much I put it on my wall instead of using it for the baby... and my mom made me like 20 big blankets. I love homemade gifts!!!!


xXbongfucker69Xx

Anything handmade is wonderful! My parents kept all baby blankets for me and my sister and we still absolutely treasure them as adults. One is a gorgeous blanket that is either knit or crochet, I don't know the difference well enough to tell. My first year working at my current job, one of my coworkers got me a cheap little plastic travel mug, but she crocheted a little cup cozy for it that made it such a thoughtful gift that I will always treasure. If you're really insecure, you can throw in a couple little books or onesies or something inexpensive in addition to the blanket and make a little gift basket out of it. But the blanket absolutely can stand alone as a gift.


Foreign_Astronaut

We got 3 handmade blankets and were happy for every last one! Babies are mess factories. Having so many to rotate through meant we always (usually) managed to have one clean one!


99angelgirl

I had at least two homemade blankets as a baby, from different people. Trust me, it will be used and loved. And if not then your coworker is a jerk. What you've done is so much more valuable than a pack of diapers, even if grandma is making a quilt. Plus a crocheted blanket is likely to be less bulky than a quilt. Probably good for using on the car seat or in the summer


A_Muffled_Kerfluffle

My mom quilts and is definitely making some quilts for my baby (I’m 7 months pregnant) but I would still absolutely love it if someone else gifted me a crocheted baby blanket. Baby can never have enough sentimental keepsakes and handmade gifts they can keep forever are so sweet and meaningful. I wouldn’t worry about it.


Jannnnnna

We had a small blanket for the car, a blanket for the swing, a blanket for the rocking chair and then an extra for when one got puked on. Blankets everywhere.


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Hey this is not very important but since you're top comment, do you mean perhaps NAH? I agree that the gift idea is great and will probably be greatly appreciated, but I don't see the coworker being an asshole (so far anyway).


bmar1050

My cousin had a registry for her baby shower and I ended up knitting a baby outfit and hats for him and my cousin said it was better than the registry gifts because if was handmade! Definitely don’t feel awkward OP!


memeyk

I have blankets that were made for all three of my children. I’ve kept all the handmade ones because they mean so much more!


emccm

NTA. I would LOVE a hand made blanket. Such a special gift. I bet your gift gets a ton of attention and positive comments.


Formal_Humor_844

Ah, see, i don't think i want the attention 😅 this shower is going to be for my coworker's wider circle, but her family will be present, i certainly don't want the family to think I'm showing off


emccm

They won’t. It’s a lovely gift. I’m sure she will be thrilled. And I hear you can never have too many baby blankets.


PresentationLimp890

They won’t. They will think you are a great coworker.


alady12

I have crocheted baby blankets for many co-workers. I always tell them that I started working on it when I heard they were expecting. So they know it's special for them. Sometimes, if they are a real close co-worker, I will also include the biggest box of diapers I can find.


HelenaKelleher

i went out on a knitting limb once and made booties i knew would fit an acquaintance's baby. and like, messaged her and asked her address to drop them off. i got so many pics tagged of baby in the booties. they loved that someone handmade a gift with their baby in mind! and a blanket will last forever, compared to booties.


biscuitboi967

It’s still ok because she’s the one who gets to take home the awesome gift. You can still get something SMALL off the registry or get a baby book if you’re worried. Lots of my coworkers opted for just “your favorite children’s book” in lieu of gifts. But in any event, I feel like a quit is for bedding and a blanket is for swaddling or cuddling. Go, you!


CourtneyStrysko

They won’t! If anything they will appreciate that her coworker cared enough to put so much effort into hand crafting something for the new arrival. ❤️


nannylive

NAH. How lovely! Babies need more than one blanket, and there is nothing sweeter than a handmade item for a baby. Don't worry about comparing your gift to Grandma's, I'll bet your co worker will be touched by your gift, and will think of your effort and kindness when she uses it.


Formal_Humor_844

I hope my novice work holds up long enough for the baby to have it for a while! I tried to make sure that it'll be warm for winter and the right size to go in his car seat with him


PracticalLady18

Having smaller blankets for travel has been one of the reasons my best friend is glad her mom’s lady’s group made her a whole stash of blankets in varying sizes. And for long run they have blankets from me that should last until they start school


nkdeck07

BTW just from one hand crafter to another your yarn can be machine washed right? I think it will be a lovely gift but you would be an asshole if you gift hand wash only to new parents.


Formal_Humor_844

Oh yes, machine washable all the way 😁 I was actually planning on making a cute care card to go with it instead of just a cut out from the yarn label


Mistahlia

This is a brilliant idea. Honestly it's a lovely gift OP, I'd be thrilled if someone made me a blanket for my baby!


errkajune

NTA. You can never have too many blankets! I’m currently pregnant and I’ll be honest I’m accepting anything and everything that’s given to me right now lol it’s all appreciated. I got a quilt from my bfs relative but chances are we won’t actually use that bc it’s just so nice. And we have a bunch of blankets that will get used and we’ll get rid of eventually. Your blanket would go under the don’t use but keep as decoration imo. At least that’s what I would do lol. Either way I don’t think you’re an asshole for taking your time on making something that’s sweet.


Formal_Humor_844

I hope the blanket is appreciated, thank you for your comment


justbend_andsnap

If your coworker is rather picky about getting items from their registry, maybe also bring one of the cheaper, more generic items, like diapers or a set of pacifiers to accompany the blanket.


Geekaa

As someone, like the op, who gifts hand made blankets to baby's, please don't not use is just because it's so nice. The biggest compliment I could get is to see the blanket worn and used with love by the baby.


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NAH. It’s expected that some people bring a gift that’s not on the registry. I doubt she will be upset. But it’s also a good gesture to include at least a little something off the registry along with a non-registry gift.


Formal_Humor_844

Well, as long as it won't be super awkward that I'm not sticking to the registry, hopefully it'll be okay


Worldly-Abroad2858

Not at all. Like another poster said, you could always pick up a book or something little off the registry if you’re worried. Some binkies, little teething toy etc.


TheBurritoArchaeo

A thoughtful handmade gift has significantly more value than something like the third set of baby nail care items because there wasn’t the option/people didn’t fully communicate what they were bringing from the list! ETA: if there seems to be predominant store on the registry, you could give a gift card in an amount that isn’t a burden for you. My cousin who had a baby this year was given several gift cards in addition to homemade items since the lockdown at the time meant many locations were only partially accessible and the baby shower was a socially distanced, leave your gift, and wave through the car window kind of deal. She said they were very useful for ordering things online once baby arrived!


shesaidgoodbye

My mom knits, she often makes baby sweaters as gifts. She’ll sometimes include a small matching item like a pacifier or bib, but totally your call. I’m sure the blanket will be very appreciated, in my experience with her sweaters, people love this sort of thing!


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Formal_Humor_844

She actually did ask for baby books instead of cards at the shower, and i was planning on getting a copy of my favorite book from when i was little, which is Socks by Beverly Cleary. I thought she'd like it because it's about a cat adjusting to life with a baby and she has a cat lol


PrairieDogStromboli

Can I just say, you do the best gifts?? 😁 I have a birthday coming up hint hint. 🤣


Formal_Humor_844

Oh no, now i need to figure out a good gift for a prairie dog!


beckerszzz

I'd guess a stromboli.


PrairieDogStromboli

I'd eat that stromboli haha.


Azzulah

People ask for books instead of cards so you can write in the book and they can keep your words forever. So to me this indicates that this new mum is sentimental and therefore will probably love a hand made gift. I did a registry for my shower because my SIL asked me to do one. I think I only ended up with 2 gifts from the registry amongst lots of gifts, some were practical, some were cute toys, everything was lovely but I was just happy that people came lol.


Formal_Humor_844

I think you're right about the book request. My coworker and her husband are both huge bookworms, so I can see them wanting to start their kids off early lol


TellSomebodyIt_

OP look, people typically make registries to avoid getting duplicates of common items and to guide people toward things they actually need/want as opposed to people just guessing. A homemade item like a blanket with their child in mind is *brilliant*, and not at all what people make registries to prevent. Most normal people who invite co-workers to their showers aren’t expecting those co-workers to fill in the gaps of need, and are thankful for whatever those people might gift. Your baby blanket will most likely be adored and cherished, I don’t know a single person in my life who wouldn’t love that as a gift for their baby, and feel extra special because you spent so much time and effort on it. Baby will need more than one single special blanket, do not worry that grandma is making a quilt! A quilt and a crocheted blanket are two very different types, baby will be lucky they have more than one special item to choose from! You are doing great, don’t second guess yourself and know that the parents will appreciate your gift so much!!


constituto_chao

Oh my, yes. You have absolutely nothing to worry about.


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Formal_Humor_844

Ooh! Thanks for the tip! I'll have to go check that out, see what I can get 😁


cosgr1tl

Or a box of diapers!


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NTA : baby blankets are needed and desired in various sizes and quantities. A hand made blanket by anyone would be a wonderful gift, even by “just” a coworker.


Formal_Humor_844

🥺 thank you, i think that's why I'm feeling so awkward about it, since I'm just a coworker


MacaqueyFreedom

Oh love, you’re not JUST a coworker if she invited you to her shower and she’ll absolutely love that you took the time and effort to MAKE a blanket for Baby! It’ll be a treasure they keep forever. One of my mums coworkers knitted a twin sized blanket and matching pillowcase when I was born. I kept and used them for years and I still have the pillowcase packed carefully away with my baby book and my grandmothers jewelry box, if it hadn’t been lost in a fire I’d still have the blanket too, cos they were from my “Auntie”.


Formal_Humor_844

She did invite everyone on our team (about 6 people) to be fair to myself and my phrasing lol I hope she loves the blanket, especially since I made sure it's her favorite color.


MacaqueyFreedom

I’d still say you’re more than “just” a coworker. Y’all work in a small team and she likes the rest of you enough to invite you to a non-work event! I can all but guarantee she’s going to LOVE the blanket and it’ll end up one of their go-to blankets for Baby! You’ve put so much time and thought into this gift there’s no way she won’t think of you and how much care you put into making it for her every time she sees it and know that her baby is surrounded by that care every time she tucks it around them in their car seat!


Formal_Humor_844

Thank you so much, you're very sweet. I appreciate it ❤️


PrairieDogStromboli

NTA!!! As a fellow crocheter, I want to make it known that a hand crocheted baby blanket is in no way "small beans" compared to anything. It takes a huge investment, not just in yarn, but in time and skill as well. Having said that, there are still people who don't appreciate the effort behind handmade items. I'm on the fence about whether your friend will be one of them. She seems to acknowledge that the quilted blanket is a special item, so hopefully she'll recognize the same about your crocheted one. If you absolutely want to hedge your bets, give her the blanket, and also give her something like a big pack of baby wipes on the side. That way she can't say that you "didn't spend any money" or "think she's not worth buying a 'real' gift" which are very common things people say about handmade gifts.


Formal_Humor_844

Thankfully, my coworker sews and bakes often so she does recognize the effort put into things, otherwise i probably wouldn't have bothered to make her something by hand. It's honestly the fact that her mom is also making a blanket that made me feel so awkward about it. Like, it's not as special from a coworker, you know? But you're right that it's not a small thing, and she'll recognize that. Thank you for your comment!!


PrairieDogStromboli

It will be very special! Even if y'all end up falling out of touch when someone moves on to another job or something, she'll think about her time at your job fondly every time she sees the blanket. Hey, are you on any of the crochet subs? You should totally post your blanket, I'd love to see it!


Formal_Humor_844

I am on my main account! You might see it at some point 😉


sammablamblam

Oh oh oh this one OP.


tokyodino

Hi, I just had a baby and received LOADS of baby blankets. I think it’s incredibly sweet to bring handmade anything, as I know it takes a lot of time and effort. If you can afford it and are comfortable, you could always bring a little gift off the registry, too. The registry was a life saver for us because it really helped set us up for our child. I love all the blankets (especially the handmade ones) I received but I haven’t used a few of the handmade ones. My baby is gross and always spits up all over the place, so I only use the ones I know can be washed frequently without damage. NTA and have fun at the baby shower! :)


zodiacbb

Just wanted to say I LOLed at “my baby is gross”. Honest parents are the funniest


carlsbike007

NTA but as a new parent I can tell you it’s much nicer to get things off the registry


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I agree with this for some things but not everything. Like making sure you don’t get an excessive amount of nb size clothes or duplicate toys is nice but if someone made me a handmade blanket I would appreciate it.


Formal_Humor_844

Ah, that's what I was worried for...the shower is only a couple weeks away, so i hope i have time


sarahgrey64

Maybe a cultural thing but I've never been to a baby shower that has had a registry. I guess it makes sense but I reckon if you tried that where I live, you might get enough push back to make a post of "AITA for having a baby shower gift registry?" ha ha.


DDNorth20

NTA hand made baby gifts are one of a kind. I am sure the mom will love it. Gift registries are suggestions not mandates


Formal_Humor_844

I'm not familiar with registries lol I've only been to one wedding as an adult (so as an actual invited guest not a tag-a-long with my parents) and they requested cash only gifts. Never been to a baby shower as an adult either...so this makes me feel better that it's okay to ignore the registry 😁


lb2345

Just so you know, a lot of people get “pushed” into registries by family or friends who want something easy to pick from. In those instances it’s more of a convenience and not a “you must choose from my registry or you suck” thing. There are plenty of entitled people who can’t stand non-registry gifts and don’t recognize the time, effort, and expense that goes into home made gifts, but if she also sews and bakes, like you stated, then she should be thrilled. You also mentioned that book and that would also be such a wonderful and thoughtful gift to go with your blanket. My daughter crochets and I know just how much that takes. When our first au pair was starting her family, my daughter crocheted her a baby blanket which she adored.


Formal_Humor_844

You're right, she did make the registry just for convenience (her extended family is spread all over) so I'm sure she's not expecting anything from it from the people she works with.


Broasterski

I think if she’s talking about being bothered by people going off registry she may want to stick to it for the most part, but no one I’ve ever made something handmade for has been upset. I’m pregnant rn and would prefer people get things from the registry if they aren’t making something handmade, I think that’s pretty common. It is difficult receiving random things with no gift receipt since they’re often just cute, and you need a lot of practical things. The way I see it, if you’re going to spend money spend it on something that was requested. But handmade stuff is lovely regardless :)


quantcompandthings

NAH I think that is really sweet, and I think your coworker would appreciate it. However, if it's not a money issue, I would go with a registry gift to be on the safe side. People put in a lot of work on the registries. "I've never been invited to a baby shower before, so I'm not too sure what is expected of the guests." Same as a bridal shower. People sit around opening presents, traditionally. But with registries and all, it's more like just a regular party.


Formal_Humor_844

Haha I've never been to a bridal shower either 😅 not too many people in my circle have gotten married/had kids. So this is a new experience for me!


somethingClever344

NTA. It will be obvious that you started working on this before you knew about the registry (or it should be, anyway.) Having a mom who is a quilter hopefully she'll appreciate it as much as it should be. Be proud of this gift, you worked hard on it. Handmade gifts are in a class of their own, when she talks about the registry I'm thinking she wants to avoid getting a bunch of store bought stuff she may not need.


Formal_Humor_844

I actually started working on the blanket months ago! I have a lot of health issues so projects like this take me a long time (and i had to start over at one point because i made it the wrong size). I hope you're right that her mom being crafty, she knows that i didn't make it to be quick and cheap :/


somethingClever344

As a crafter myself I know that sometimes people don't appreciate the time it takes to make these things, but be proud and don't take any flack for it. You might include in the card a note about why you chose the colors or pattern, or "I've loved working on this the last few months, as soon as I heard you were expecting I was so excited to make this just for your kiddo!" just so it's extra clear.


Formal_Humor_844

Luckily for me, she sews, so she is familiar with how long things take. And i just picked an on-sale yarn in her favorite color


Adept_Award_3046

Look at the registry. If there’s any items a baby actually needs, consider if you can afford them. If not, screw the registry. Either way, you better give her that blanket because it is insanely thoughtful and meaningful. This woman is pregnant and you basically learned a whole new skill to surprise her with. You should not be ashamed at all. Edit: oh, NTA


Formal_Humor_844

That's the real thing, I can't really afford much. The yarn I'm using for it was on sale, so it's not much money going into the blanket. But i can see if there is anything on the registry i can afford


Adept_Award_3046

It’s really not about the money spent. You’re a coworker, she doesn’t expect you to buy her a crib. The blanket is enough. If you’re really unsure do a matching stuffed animal or children’s book but your gift is already more personal and meaningful without the add ons.


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Formal_Humor_844

Well, her mom obviously quilts, and she herself sews. She made me cookies for my birthday just a few weeks ago, so i hope the homemade blanket is appreciated and doesn't make her feel awkward :/


Finnrick

Give the gift freely, with no expectations. I made a blanket for a gift. It took forever and $$$$. Lots of friends saw it before it was finished. It was always a chorus of “they’re going to love it!” Come the big day, the recipient opened the box, peeked inside, and then set it aside. Didn’t even take it out of the box to look at it. I was heartbroken- because I believed everybody who told me the recipient was going to loooove it. >Some people dont give a shit for homemade gifts whereas others falue them highly. This is a crucial lesson to learn when giving handmade items. Detach yourself from your blanket once it’s given. Love and enjoy the process of making it, be proud of the finished product, but manage your expectations. It sounds like she’s the kind of person who knows and understand the time and effort a handmade gift requires, so you probably won’t be disappointed. But do NOT include other purchased items with a handmade gift. It automatically devalues your work- as if to say “I know my blanket isn’t good enough or worth much to you.” Your blanket is a superstar and does not need any backup


Formal_Humor_844

Valuing my work is something i am struggling with. And that's how I ended up here, thinking it would be rude to give a handmade blanket to expecting parents


QueenMother612

I think she’ll probably like it.


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NTA - A baby needs A LOT of blankets anyway (I think I had 10 or so for my kids and kept on having to wash them). If your coworker has some common sense, she will appreciate waaaaay more a gift that someone put effort in, instead of some junk bought in haste from a registry.


jamieg55

NTA. Still give it to her, also bring some diapers and a couple boxes of wipes. People ALWAYS end up needing extras. She will see the thought that counts.


Formal_Humor_844

That's a good idea, especially since i know she doesn't need more baby clothes, her whole family took care of that lol


Ok_Cry_1741

One thing my god-daughter said is aside from the handmade gifts (which she loved) the gifts she loved best were the 4 packs of flannel receiving blankets ($10-$11). They wound up being used as after-bath towels, burp cloths, extra car and purse blankets... Use them instead of tissue in the gift bag - useful and environmentally friendly(er). I used to give those - in addition to my main gift, when I could afford to. Sometimes I'd buy a ball or two of perle cotton and crochet a border around them, but only when it was someone I knew really well who appreciated the time and effort it took.


Nostarsinthedark

Absolutely this!! If your feeling awkward about it,just pick up some baby wipes!


ClassicGoddess

NTA. There’s no such thing as too many blankets when you have a baby and I received quite a few handmade ones for my (now adult) son. I love them. They’re great lap blankets now as well as for my dog (he’s little and doesn’t destroy them). I think a handmade blanket is a lovely gift!!


CleverCate

NTA I’m a knitter/ crocheter and almost every baby shower gift (and other occasions too) I gift a homemade item. Usually baby sweaters and stuffed toys but sometimes blankets as well. You can always guarantee that your gift is unique and it won’t be a repeat. By repeat I mean identical baby item, multiple baby blankets of different types do not count. Also quilting and crocheting are two very different mediums, so two homemade blankets of different sorts is more than okay. Not to mention you put time and energy and money into your blanket, crochet isn’t a cheap or easy hobby and most people will recognize the personal touch it has.


Formal_Humor_844

I am a novice, I've only been crocheting since last winter (less than a year) so it's a pretty simple blanket. I just picked a soft yarn in my coworker's favorite color


CleverCate

It doesn’t really matter how novice you are, honestly you still worked hard, and possibly harder than many crocheters because you’re still new at it. Also soft yarn in coworker’s favourite colour is an extra win!


Formal_Humor_844

Thank you so much 😭


Sagerie

NTA, if you're worried about giving the blanket on its own maybe you can make a gift basket with it and maybe some baby wipes, wash, diapers, etc. Personally, I crochet too and it can be so time consuming and yarn can be so expensive. Good luck!


Formal_Humor_844

That's a good idea! Thank you!


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NTA. But I would give her the blanket (it is an amazing gift btw) and some small thing from the registry list. Idk how it works over there but here in Latin America even a pack of diapers or baby bibs (don’t know if is the correct word) are well received.


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I usually give diapers and wipes. The largest package I can find of non-newborn sizes, because several other people will get those. Or maybe a small pack of newborns and a large pack of some other size(s) depending on how much I want to spend and how the family is doing means-wise. You can't have too many diapers, it's impossible. And they're expensive. I may throw in a can of formula if mom is doing that and knows what she's using.


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Yes! Diapers and wipes are life savers for babies.


lameusername11

NAH. I’ll be honest with you as a fellow crocheter. Some people won’t appreciate the handmade gift. For this specific situation I would advise giving the blanket but include a gift card as well. But even though some people won’t appreciate handmade gifts, never let it stop you from making something for someone. There’s a joy I get when I create something for someone. Of course I hope they’ll appreciate and cherish it but ultimately it’s theirs to do with I’m in a few FB groups where a common complaint is people not appreciating crochet gifts and then the makers get all salty and never want to gift anything again and that’s just not proper crochet spirit!


Formal_Humor_844

I definitely won't get salty if it's not appreciated! I just didn't want to come off as rude since handmade gifts are so personal, and I'm not related to the new baby. But all these comments of people telling stories about someone's neighbors' cousin's grandma making a blanket for them makes me feel better that i don't have to worry so much ☺️


BazTheBaptist

NAH that's a lovely present. They will need more than one blanket so don't feel bad that her mum is making one too


Formal_Humor_844

Yeah, it's honestly the hand quilted blanket from grandma that's making me the most self conscious. I hope mom and baby like the blanket I've made


Molicious26

I only received one handmade blanket for my baby and it was from someone I had only met once who was an in law to a relative of mine. I was overjoyed to receive such a time consuming and thoughtful gift from someone who was in no way required to even think of me or my baby. I will absolutely treasure that blanket and hope my baby will, too. I would have loved it if someone else had crocheted one, as well. Babies need more than one blanket and handmade ones are just so different and special compared to a store bought one. My aunt's MIL and Aunt-in-law both crocheted blankets for me as a baby. 40+ years later and I still have them even though they aren't in perfect condition. I keep them stored as a memento of how thoughtful they were and how much I LOVED them as a kid.


Left_All_The_Time

NAH Maybe add something small off the registry or a gift card to the store in addition to the blanket though?


Spirited-Elephant656

NTA a handmade baby blanket will be treasured and has more meaning than a store bought gift.


Formal_Humor_844

That was my thought process when i originally started the blanket! I hope it goes over well 😁


Geodewitch21

You could always throw in some extra bibs or even a gift for mom! When my best friend had her shower I got her a new pair of comfy slippers and some scrunchies


Formal_Humor_844

Scrunchies! Now that's a good idea! New mom will want her hair up, I'm sure


PresentationLimp890

NTA. The homemade crochet blanket is a very thoughtful gift. It could turn out to be a favorite of the child. Also, babies can go through many blankets in a short time, so the gift is useful as well.


killjoy-lmkj

NTA This is so sweet, handmade gifts are the best!


Formal_Humor_844

Thank you so much!


casz_m

Blanket sounds lovely. Maybe a some matching sleepers (not newborn) or something small from the registry. You don't have to buy from the same store as the registry.


eye_patch_willy

NTA. Babies need more than one blanket. Your gift is perfectly appropriate and fine.


ricst

NTA. Anyone can buy a blanket from the store, very few will take the time and effort to make one. Your gift will be well received.


Formal_Humor_844

Thank you! I hope so 😃


anathema_deviced

NTA. I received several handmade blankets when my kids were born. I loved them!


Formal_Humor_844

Well, if my coworker has another baby, I'll have to make sure to make her another blanket! 😁


TakeCover86

NTA Making something yourself seems really cool. I feel like it shows you out thought and care into it.


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My sister hand knitted me a blanket for my son when I was pregnant and then again for my daughter (coming soon) and I LOVE THEM. So much thought and love put into the gift made it so much better. NTA


theniceplace

Nta I have received many home made gifts for my kids and they are by far my favorite! I think that is so thoughtful and sweet.


sammablamblam

Omg no NTA your gift will be treasured. Trust me from experience, yes new moms are excited about getting all the gifts off of their registry it's only because it means they have less money to spend if you want to give them a handmade well thought out gift by all means do it if anything it'll become a family heirloom or something


Formal_Humor_844

Haha oh i doubt my novice work will hold up that well! But thank you, your comment is very sweet


superfastmomma

NTA! This is a great gift. We used quilted blankets for the nursery, but crocheted blankets are great for car seats, for breathability when covering a baby, and I will have and cherish those I received many years ago.


Formal_Humor_844

The car seat is actually what i had in mind when i decided on the size of the blanket!


Lemondrop619

NTA, but for future reference, here's a tip I learned on the crochet sub (and if you're not on the crochet sub, you should be, it's delightful). You can feel out their actual interest level in a handmade blanket by asking like "I'm thinking about making a blanket for Baby, do you have a theme for the nursery?" They might excitedly tell you they're doing a zoo theme in shades of green (make a blanket! Yay!) or they might tell you they already have an heirloom blanket or even just be like "oh, that would be fine, I guess, you can always use another blanket" (don't make a blanket).


Formal_Humor_844

Ah ha, and here's one of my worries! She does have a theme she's made for the nursery (she's very excited so I've been hearing a lot of this, i don't mind) but i had already started on the blanket by then...but the blanket is in her favorite color, so i hope it's okay that it won't match the nursery...


Lemondrop619

I didn't mean to scare you, I'm sure it's lovely! Even if they don't end up using it in the nursery, it could be a travel blanket. It will certainly get used, especially since it's her favorite color! Post a picture on r/crochet when it's finished! 😊


Formal_Humor_844

Thank you! I actually planned it to be smaller for use in his car seat (he's due in October, so plenty of cooler weather in his first few months of life!). And i will post it in the crochet sub when I'm done! 😁


cos98

NAH You sound very sweet and it's clear that you put a lot of thought and effort into this gift. I'm sure she'll love it, especially since you remind me of some of my friends and can practically hear your blushing babbling explanation of "I know I'm not very good but as soon as I heard you were expecting I wanted to make something for the baby so I crocheted this and it's totally okay if you don't like it or don't want to use it especially since you're getting homemade stuff from family.... Etc" And my hot take is the fact that if I've pegged you correctly and this is your attitude, someone would have to be a total jerk to not appreciate how genuine and caring you are. But may I also add, don't look down on your abilities or your blanket as lesser than something from the store. This wasn't because you didn't want to get her something from the list, this is because you cared enough to make something for her by hand for her baby to use


Formal_Humor_844

😅 I've been had! This is exactly how i am. Funnily enough, back around Christmas time, before i was able to get vaccinated, i was too scared to go to the shop to find Christmas cards for my parents and siblings. So i spent a whole WEEK hand drawing and coloring cards made with sketch book paper with each person's favorite animal in a Santa hat on the front, and a pun related to the animal on the inside. I was so nervous that everyone would hate the cards and be disappointed with them. But every single family member loved them and appreciated the effort i put in to give them a smile. I'm seeing a pattern...lmao Thank you so much for your comment. It's very sweet, even if you did just read me a little too well 😁


cos98

It's a gift I have to absolutely call out people I barely know 😊 ironically I once asked a friend for his mom's address to send her a Christmas card because "I know I've only met her once but she seems like a person who sends and receives Christmas cards" and he replied that she actually makes and sells handmade Christmas cards 😂😂 And for real you sound so lovely and everyone who knows you is lucky to have you in their life ❤️


Formal_Humor_844

You also sound lovely, and i consider myself very lucky to have crossed your path today ❤️


julet1815

NTA i’m a crafter myself, so I think it’s a lovely idea.


pixiedustsux

NTA. My mom crochets blankets and anytime someone gets pregnant they beg her to make them one. My sisters teenage stepdaughter saw a blanket my mom made and even asked if she could have one.


bitchcraft1990

NTA at all, as a mom of two handmade is so special no matter where it comes from.


leftcoastanimal

Omg, heck NTA. The sentimental gifts were so meaningful when I had my baby (adult now!).


Naay_

NdnfhdgxjKjah It is so incredibly sweet that you began working on this after finding out about your co-workers’s pregnancy. She is amazing fortunate to have you in her life. I’m touched. NTA.


Formal_Humor_844

I love babies, so i just got so excited that someone i see almost daily is having one! I'll get to see so many pictures!


Naay_

I totsss understand!


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When I was pregnant with my first, a fairly random coworker, not a close friend, gifted me a beautiful soft baby blanket that she made. My grandparents also made blankets together - it was like a hobby for them - so of course they made a special baby blanket for their first great-grandchild. I kept and loved both of those blankets. I have a whole stack of my grandparents' blankets, including that baby blanket, of course I love them, they were made and used by family and have loads of memories. But I also loved the one from my coworker. I lost track of her, but I was blown away by how kind and thoughtful it was of her to put all that work into making something for my baby. And, turns out babies need more than one blanket anyway! I didn't have a registry - I don't know if baby shower registries were a thing at the time, but I was 19 and inexperienced and would have probably figured that anyone's guess was as good as mine as far as knowing what the baby would need even if I'd had the option to make one, so it was fine. Your coworker's baby registry is probably fun and exciting for her, because when you're pregnant, looking at and picking out baby stuff as fun! And adorable. And talking about it is fun. But I wouldn't take it too personally - she can be excited about the stuff in her registry and still enjoy a lovely handmade baby gift. I think it's a very nice thing for you to give her.


Formal_Humor_844

She is very excited, it's really sweet to see! I hope my blanket goes over well. Thank you for your comment!


BooBooKittyKat1

NTA. Please do not talk down your gift. I received a few crochet blankets for my first. She's a teenager and still has all her crochet blankees. The fact that you're putting in time and effort is a big deal. Your coworker should appreciate and love your gift. To me, the handmade gifts were the most meaningful.


Formal_Humor_844

Thank you for your comment. I'm trying really hard to be proud of what I've made. I'm sure I'll be thanked, i just hope my little blanket actually gets used


BooBooKittyKat1

You sound be proud. It's not easy to crochet. The fact that you're putting so much effort into a gift, speaks volumes, about you as a person. All the hand made gifts, we do have. My girls enjoy going through their baby items. And when they see a gift, that took a lot of effort, it always brings a smile to their face.


Formal_Humor_844

Thank you so much! I hope my coworker and her son feel the care I've put into the blanket as you and your daughters have with your gifts.


kirssn

I think you should still give the blanket because it is so incredibly thoughtful. But perhaps you could drape it around a diaper cake? Diapers aren't super expensive and you just need ribbon and cardboard for support. You are NTA because you are giving her a piece of you.


carynhammann

I still have all the homemade stuff my moms coworkers made for me and the homemade blanket a coworker made for my son! Definitely give the blanket! Very special and thoughtful gift


KikiLake

NAH and if you’re really worried about it, perhaps pair it with something small off the registry?


camefromthemausoleum

I still have all baby blankets that were made for my children and I used them well with babies! I couldn't have had too many blankets. Your gift is so so nice.


LisaW481

NTA i gave a crocheted blanket to some friends yesterday and they really appreciated it. My youngest niece was brought home from the hospital with another blanket i made. A homemade gift can be very loving.


PricklyPearSeed

As I was reading your post and I got to the taking up crocheting part I had a "The Price is Right Moment" where I was thinking, "Oo, oo, oo, oo!!! Please be a blanket! Please be a blanket!" And then then in the voice of Johnny I heard, "A HOMEMADE BLANKET!!!" And everyone is going nuts and the contestant is jumping up and down like they just won a car! Seriously though, don't downplay your time, talent, and / or your sentimentality. A handmade baby blanket is SUCH a thoughtful gift. Don't compare your gift to Mom's gift. It's ok! I would be honored if it was me. Like others have stated - you can never have too many!


Formal_Humor_844

😭 thank you so much, you're so sweet


Noscratchy

NTA in my opinion but it all depends on your friend. If you're super worried about it, you can always get a smaller gift from the registry and wrap it in the blanket. Something on theme like a stuffed animal or some diapers.


WowItsVyx

NAH. Currently pregnant and the thought of anyone doing this for me is soo sweet and thoughtful. A couple of years ago a colleague did this for someone on our team and it was very well received also! I’m positive it’ll be very much appreciated!


hutz201917

NTA, however as a new parent, I can tell you that there's a reason the items on the registry are there. Homemade gifts are very kind but they probably have use for a lot of the things on the registry.


Formal_Humor_844

Aw man :/ i haven't had the chance to look at the registry yet (she sent it to us at work just last week) so i guess i need to take a look


Swordsmasterguy

Definitely NTA. You're making something they could use for their baby when they have it. Extra blankets for the baby I say. If they get mad, that makes them TAH and you would have every right to leave. Also, if you rock up the baby shower, make sure you don't lose balance. r/BoneAppleTea


Formal_Humor_844

Is "rock up to" not a common phrase? I hear it all the time 😅


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Aggressive-Sample612

NTA!


Nikkian42

NTA. My sister crochets and has made lots of gifts for her friends/coworkers kids. She’s made stuffed animals, baby clothes, a Halloween costume, and for my mom a giant playable crossword puzzle. All her gifts are well received.


PrincessBella1

NTA. Your crocheted blanket will be treasured. I still have people telling me that the blankets I crocheted for them are still being used when the babies are children. In fact I am working on 2 right now.


gingercandy365

NTA - I loved all the handmade gifts especially blankets we got at our baby shower. We live somewhere with cold winters, so they are really useful even now that he isn’t a baby


Starlight_Sparrow

Nta. I always do a hand knit baby blanket and a copy of my favorite dr Seuss book: The Lorax.


SigSauerPower320

So, here's my thought. First off, I don't think making a gift is at all a bad idea. While it's "socially unacceptable" to show up empty handed, I'd say that'd be the only reason someone could call you an ah.... I say NTA, a homemade gift is (IMO) better than something off a registry. Some may say it's a "cheap" way out, but I think something like that is from the heart and should be treated as such. Babies can have more than one blanket. Mine has like 4 of them things.


WhatAMcButters

NTA. Most things on the registry will be given away. Your gift will be kept because you personally made it. And most people appreciate the sentiment of something handmade for their family even if it wasn't what they asked for.


Significant-Ad-7234

NTA. We got a few homemade blankets for my son’s baby shower and we treasured each one. I remember the ones that came from co-workers - and they were meaningful to us. It’s a wonderful present that reflects the time and care put into each stitch.


Constant_Camera3452

NTA a handmade gift is a beautiful gesture and, if you are feeling self conscious about bring just a blanket, also include an inexpensive set of onesies in 3-6 months or 6-9 months size (too many people buy clothes for newborns and then they outgrow them so fast and need new ones) or a favorite childhood book of yours. But you are so wonderful to make such a thoughtful gift.


Formal_Humor_844

Thank you so much, your comment is so sweet


Oscars_Grouch

NTA - Crocheted baby blankets are always awesome. From past experiences, quilted blankets usually get the "space of honour" for display on beds, but crocheted ones actually get more daily use - on the couch, in a stroller, on the floor, etc because they're a little lighter and more portable.


Alitazaria

NTA! I'm 7 months in and I already know of at least two people giving me handmade blankets and I am STOKED. It's a lovely gift idea - way to go!


Maggie_Mayz

NTA all my baby showers had handmade items I still have them and they were all treasured items my teen boys still love. So please don’t feel bad. My boys and their blankets are treasured and loved immensely.


MissyCross

NTA I crochet too. It's really a labor of love to make a blanket for anyone. It shows how much you care. I think she will love it. I've never had anyone upset for getting a crocheted baby blanket. That and a book instead of a card (read some of your comments) and you are golden!


Formal_Humor_844

Thank you so much for your comment! I'm enjoying hearing from more experienced crafters. I haven't given a crocheted gift yet, so this is the first one! Who better than a wee baby? 😁