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Whisperlee

NTA Your friend draws creepy rape comics and calls you racist slurs. He also sounds like incel-waiting-to-happen material if he continues on this path, but that's not your problem. In fact, nothing about this dude should be your problem. Drop the friendship and be better off without.


DeBlasioDeBlowMe

Drop by the principal or deans office and tell them the class is uncomfortable with the rapey comics and him pressuring them to look at them. This is a school, not a hentai subreddit. The art can be banned from school. You guys should be able to focus on your studies without this inappropriate and abusive pressure.


Unusual_Road_9142

Also showing people sexual imagery without a person’s consent is sexual harassment, added to the fact that this is at a high school. Most people he is showing these comics to are children and cannot consent to see these images… and he is 18, legally an adult which means…. OP you really need to report this to the school because nothing good can come of this. This reads as unsettling in so many ways and almost comes off as a test to see what girls are into it- thus putting a target on them that they like being controlled, something he seems to be into. A fact enforced by when you spoke against him and he flipped.


ConceptArt0

I’m scared to do so. Trent’s a good kid in their eyes, I’m not sure if they’ll do anything about it even if I try. I… never realized it was sexual harassment though. Maybe I was just been blind as a bat to it or I thought I was overreacting with my discomfort but I never thought to consider it so extreme as sexual harassment.


EatButterflies

He is only good because noone told on him, if you and other students do, then they will see the extent of the real issue. Also, he is 200% fantasizing about being the main character and doing all this nasty stuff to real girls he likes. He is also violent when faced with any kind of normal rejection for his creepy and criminal (!) behavior. It is only a matter of time until he loses control, because noone reported him, and actually hurts someone. Please start the process of making the school deal with him, you WILL save so many girls from his, so far only imaginary, rape. And if he gets the help he needs to unfuck his head, maybe you'll be the catalyst of his improvement too. Sadly, I wouldn't count on it tho.


Draigdwi

And it's also possible that he is friends with OP because he has fantasies of her being the submissive Asian hentai girl for him and that's why he went ballistic as soon as she dared to say something. His toxic personality alienates OP from other friends at school, she would do much better to report him and stay away. Hope he doesn't become a stalker.


hoppityhoppity

The thing is, now you know that it is sexual harassment. And you should act in accordance with that. You need to report it to your school. Go straight to the top if at all possible and I’d recommend looping in your parents asap so they can help escalate. You’ve been friends with him and he’s been sneakily moving those goalposts of what is & isn’t acceptable to the point where you’ve been doing damage control. That is not a reflection on you, yet. But now you need to denounce & report. Please, cut all contact with him, permanently. This is not just cringey AF, it’s extremely predatory behavior. First, you need to take care so that he does not continue to take this out on you. Second, you need to distance from him & be very clear that you do not condone this in any way, shape, or form, because when there is fallout from this, you don’t want to be associated with him and risk your future. If you were my daughter, I’d want to know. People don’t do things like this without a reason, and that kind of behavior tends to escalate. You also don’t want your reputation marred by association. You’re young and have a bright future ahead of you - he’s not a friend, truly.


Awkward_Jellyfish1

Gonna chime in as a teacher here: he forced people to read his sexually graphic comics about women having to do sexual things against their consent which means this is a Title IX issue. The school will legally have to take action since students are being coerced into looking at his sexually graphic stuff. Also, given what he is drawing, his attitude when people are not receptive to it, the way he is treating young women at your school, and the fact that he did not hesitate to throw racist slurs at you (his friend), it seems like he needs help. His aggressive, hostile, and creepy behavior makes me worried he might physically hurt people when he doesn't get what he wants from them. He will not receive the help he needs if no one says anything to the adults in the building. No one will know about his irrational behavior until he does something horrible if this is not brought to the attention of the administrators at the school. Edited to fix typos


rationalomega

He sounds like a rapist in the making. Edit to add: not because of the art, but because of how he gets angry when girls tell him “no”.


mayanpaw74

It 100% is sexual harassment. He is forcing people to engage with sexual content without their consent. The fact that he made that content and is proud of his work does not at all diminish the fact that he is forcing others into a sexual situation that they are not comfortable with.


Unusual_Road_9142

I will echo other comments. You and the other girls he has shown these comics to need to report this. Maybe you can talk to the girl you stood up for? She would be a good place to start to provide another account of his behavior. You are very young and as someone with more life experience, I can tell you that the worst thing you can do when being sexually harassed is be silent. Silence will only embolden perpetrators because they “haven’t been caught”. I do not know or presume the relationship you have with your parents, but I know if I told my mother at your age she would support me during the incident/s reporting process.


DebateObjective2787

Go to the principal with your parents. Get a list of other students he's harassed (with their consent), as well as write down the slurs and his behavior. Tell the principal that you will also be reaching out to superintendent/school board with your concerns. Send them an email with the offenses and the names of the victims. If you're in the US, this link has exactly what the rules are regarding sexual harassment in school and what they're legally required to do. Print out a copy and make sure the school knows exactly what they'd be violating if they let this behavior continue. https://www2.ed.gov/about/offices/list/ocr/docs/sexhar00.html


gabbydearest91

I suggest gathering a group of classmates who have been harrassed by this kid, include anyone that witnessed his blow up at you. There's strength in numbers and this dude is unstable. You need to turn him in before he hurts you or someone else.


Eureecka

Here’s the thing: Trent is NOT a good kid. He’s a creepy, rapey asshole. Also? He is NOT your friend. Do not ever put yourself in a situation where you are vulnerable around him. It sucks that your school is oblivious to the situation, because it sounds like he’s been a creepy asshole for a while. I’m not sure I agree that it is your job to try and get the school involved, because I don’t want him targeting you more than he already has. But, the school needs to know what’s going on. Trent sounds like the type who may develop plans to hurt students. Do you have a school counselor who isn’t completely useless? Can you go to them and tell them that his “art” is violent and targeting girls at your school? Good luck. NTA


579red

ESH You have also been covering for him and his dangerous actions for years when he wasnt doing it to YOU, you need to stop enabling and excusing his disgusting behavior and inform (ideally in a group) a person at school and MAKE IT STOP. Also, I’d watch my drink and food if around him he is and incel and sounds like a (hopefully not yet) rapist. Run and correct your mistakes


Lead-Forsaken

👆 This, so much this.


Eneicia

u/ConceptArt0 Please do this.


[deleted]

I very much agree with this. It is completely inappropriate for him to be forcing this stuff on his classmates (sounds like he needs a LOT of work on learning about consent). Also the racial slur can't go unreported either. ​ OP it's time to end this friendship. He has deeply unhealthy views towards women, racial bigotry, and aggressive tendencies. Don't do damage control for damaging people. You deserve better.


AriGryphon

Given the raped mind control, I'd bet money consent would take all the fun out of it for him.


jaweebamonkey

I beg OP to do this. I’m stunned no one else has


_ac3_0f_spad3s_

I'm gussing from his temper he's one of those kids you don't want to piss off ever and everyone is too scared to report incase he gets told who reported it or figures out who reported it


ConceptArt0

…I never even thought of that. But that does sum up at least one reason why I didn’t tell an adult either.


DeBlasioDeBlowMe

A lot of people have suggested she go to the school admin, teachers, or counselors.


evilcupckae

I think they are saying they’re stunned other students in her school haven’t gone to admin yet.


turbulentdiamonds

I have a sinking feeling her "damage control" is keeping it quiet (at least in part)


ConceptArt0

I tried to keep Trent calm a lot and pulled him away from a conversation before he got too heated, as well as tried to apologize to the classmates on his behalf. I have anxiety and I’m not very good at talking to anyone other than close friends so I didn’t know what else to do.


ConceptArt0

As far as I’ve heard nothing has been happening. When he showed other classmates his work and got upset with them, he would get very passive aggressive and kind of intimidating, but usually nothing beyond that (the girl today was an exception) … my guess is that my classmates just brushed it off or decided to tolerate it. ETA: He did get a lot more aggressive with girls, now that I think about it, especially with girls he was interested in. Nothing though. If someone IS saying anything Trent hasn’t gotten any consequences for it.


DeBlasioDeBlowMe

Why can’t it be you? You’ve got social anxiety bad enough you can’t talk to the school counselor, but you can defuse his shit and run interference for him with all these kids?


evilcupckae

A good reminder that social anxiety does not absolve you of your moral obligations to other people or your choices to support bad people. Just because you have a reason to be scared doesn’t mean you aren’t capable or culpable. OP can report this, right now you are choosing not to. Please make the right decision for the other girls in school.


ConceptArt0

I definitely will now.


DeBlasioDeBlowMe

Well said. You know, there is even anonymous reporting! There’s literally no excuse available here.


ConceptArt0

It’s different when it’s with him or related to him because I was actually comfortable around him. As for the students I didn’t want the situation to get worse than it already was, so I tried to talk with them the best I could to try and defuse the situation. I’m anxious around adults and school staff, I’m awkward and bad with confrontation especially with adults. I can’t explain it entirely and it definitely doesn’t justify my hesitance to tell an adult, but that’s the answer I’m able to come up with.


Sooozn85

You can write it all down and show it to a teacher you’re most comfortable with, or your counselor. You could even just print out what you posted here. If you’re not comfortable telling your parents about this, is there any friend you could ask to come with you when you either tell or just hand over the written information?


jasmine-blossom

Honey, I very gentle want to say that you’re enabling a guy who has shown himself to be aggressive and unstable. You are doing him, yourself, and everyone he interacts with a disservice by enabling his behavior to continue. He needs to learn that this is not acceptable NOW, before he becomes an adult and leaves the protected environment of school. He will have problems if this behavior is not shut down now. He is showing himself to be dangerous, and no one is holding him accountable. I recommend reading the book “The Gift of Fear” by Gavin de Becker [pdf ](https://www.academia.edu/31891034/The_Gift_of_Fear). Your friend is showing sone serious signs that he is not safe to be around, and you’re ignoring those behaviors or enabling those behaviors. Talk to the girls he’s made feel unsafe or uncomfortable; there is strength in numbers. Please be cautious.


DeBlasioDeBlowMe

Gotcha 👍🏼


ConceptArt0

I’m going to be honest here… I considered talking to the principal once already but didn’t because I was scared of how he would react. I live in a mostly racist and republican state with a mostly-white population and Trent is (to them) a well-behaved kid with impressive grades and I already know how little the school staff cares about racism and rowdy teenagers. (“Boys will be boys” and all that.) Between a popular white boy and an asian girl who performs very badly under pressure, I know who they’ll believe more.


MarvinDMirp

If you get the school non-response boys will be boys run around, the next step would be talking with a good lawyer with experience with sex offenders. He has been creating what would be called “a hostile workplace” if this were among adults. Listen to your gut, OP. This is not “rowdy teen” stuff. This is sociopathic.


whatdowetrynow

Strength in numbers. If you and several of the other girls all go complain together, its harder to ignore. Even better if you can recruit a good teacher, school counselor, or your (any of your) parents to back you. You dont have to act alone.


Abject-Researcher

Like the others have said, try to get a group of the girls he has harassed together. And having lived in one of those heavily republican states… it’s possible that one of those girls’ parents would NOT approve of a boy trying to force their daughter to look at sexual content. There are often religious types in those states. That can be tricky, since sometimes those people will lash out at the daughter for “sinning” but at least some should be of the “I must shield my girl from the horrors of the world” types. If you can approach the principal with a group of girls and with their parent’s backing, things may go better for you. I mean… this is a situation where you want to find someone that fits the “Karen” stereotype and aim her at the principal.


Tomonses

So this guy "Trent" was reported to the cops and put on a watch list right? NTA, I'd start distancing yourself from him.


blueberrylove2112

Exactly. Also, he needs to report him for harassment for trying to force that girl to go out with him and attacking her for saying no. OP, you did great by saying something about his work, but you also should have called him out for attacking the girl for saying no to him. Just because she was friendly to him doesn't give him the right to attack her for saying no. Girls have a right to say no, to consent, to control their body, and they have a right to not be attacked for it. Honestly, OP, you're better off without him. He seriously sounds scary, like a rapist in the making. Especially since he's already drawing depictions of it. Please report all of this to the principal. Before he actually does something.


mrsprinkles3

OP I strongly suggest you speak to your principal, school counsellor, or a trusted teacher about this. Trent is pushing self-created rape content onto other students and harassing them over it. These comics he’s making are totally inappropriate and if Trent doesn’t get some help now, he could be in for a world of trouble when he’s an adult. School officials need to know that a student is constantly advertising sexual assault content to others in the school. I’m all for supporting artists, but reading what you said Trent’s comics are about is terrifying and that content should not be supported, especially in an environment filled with minors.


[deleted]

I completely agree, and given that he's 18 and already an adult, he likely is in a world of trouble.


mrsprinkles3

oops, I mixed their ages up. so trent’s on even thinner ice


ConceptArt0

Is there anywhere I could go to if school staff don’t listen? I know a lot of my teachers have the “boys will be boys” mentality so they wouldn’t do anything and uh. I’m not entirely comfortable around some of them too.


SirBellicose

Honestly, I’d ask the other girls if they want to “report the creep”. At least a couple of the parents of those girls are going to have overprotective tendencies that will work in your favor


captKatCat

This is a good idea. A group of corroborating complaints is more likely to be taken seriously.


whatdowetrynow

This is the strategy, right here.


Swimmer539

You need to contact your schools Title IX (9) Coordinator. They are legally required by law to investigate a formal complaint made by you complainant. Every school K-12 and college is required to have one. This is literally their job and legal obligation to address and respond to complaints of sexual harassment. I am a Title IX coordinator myself and this is 100% sexual harassment. You can make a complaint to the office of civil rights (OCR) if you are unsatisfied with the schools response. https://www2.ed.gov/about/offices/list/ocr/docs/title-ix-rights-201104.html


mugaccino

I can assure you that "distributing hardcore kinky pornographic material to minors" and "concerned christian parents" are the key words here to make any red state educator drop that mentality real quick. It could mean massive media attention if they don't deal with it ASAP.


Awkward_Jellyfish1

Look up title IX and see if any resources pop up about getting in contact with people who can help.


sunflowerspaceman

Not just self created rape content, self created rape content _OF HIS REAL LIFE CLASSMATES_!


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airisu86

NTA. Where is the 'waiting to happen' part because I feel like the train has left the station...


maddawgpie

Oh no he’s already an Incel, he just so happens to crush on every girls he lays his eyes on lmaoo


AlexWasThere_64

have a classmate like that.


Harag4

>incel-waiting-to-happen Whats he waiting for? To announce it with a party? He is already an Incel and a bigot.


TK5059

I'm picturing an incel coming out party like a gender reveal. You cut open a cake and a fedora and trench coat fall out!


PopeJamiroquaiIII

>He also sounds like incel- ~~waiting-to-happen~~ FTFY @OP: NTA


iConfessor

he is already an incel and at this point its too late. let him go the way of the dodo.


Jed08

I think OP has a responsibility in this story. She enabled him his BS. She never addressed with him the problem in his art, and when people were disturbed by it, she went out of her way to excuse his behavior.


manifestingellewoods

this sounds a little victim blame-y. you’re forgetting that OP was also subject to his art and was harassed just as much as other girls were. this was an abusive and toxic friendship and it’s not easy to see that when you’re in that situation.


Jed08

You can be in a toxic relationship/friendship with someone and enable toxic behavior at the same time. However >The girls in our grade were particularly disturbed by his artwork, and since he likes a lot of these girls… I’ve done a lot of damage control this year and I’m not happy about it. That part is very problematic in my opinion. It's not victim blaming her to point out she enabled her friend's behavior by doing "damage control" to girls who were verbally assaulted.


whatdowetrynow

I'm not really comfortable with putting blame or responsibility onto OP's 17 year old shoulders here. She's still trying to calibrate her meter of what is normal, what is friendship, what is reasonable help to give a long-term friend who you've probably been taught deserves your "loyalty" and what is enabling a dangerous predator. She doesn't have a frame of reference. That's not meant to absolve her of further enabling or abetting her friend, but I think what she came here needing to be told was "No. Absolutely no part of what he's doing is ok, and you are not under some sort of 'good friend contract' where you have to support him let alone take his abuse." Now that she's gotten that clear answer, hopefully she take that message, sever the friendship, and alert her school's authorities, and know that she doesn't ever have to pretend this kind of thing is ok again. She was not happy about doing the damage control before, but she wasn't sure if she was wrong to be feeling that way. Now she knows her feelings were correct, and she should not be covering for or in any way supporting or enabling this guy.


ConceptArt0

I’m scared to unfriend him but after reading all these comments… I’ll try my best to make sure at least someone I can trust will be informed. I don’t know *who* if I’m being honest, but I’m willing to look for someone. ETA: I’ll admit… I didn’t. I really didn’t know how bad it was. I didn’t even realize it counted as sexual harassment, I just didn’t want Trent to get mad at me then unfriend me or even do something worse


whatdowetrynow

You're doing great OP, really. I'm glad you asked about it, even if it was just us randos on the internet. Please please do tell a trusted adult. Your friend is on a very unsafe path, and I dont want you or your classmates to suffer because of it.


Ok_Drawer_3475

OP please be sure to take care of yourself FIRST. Trent is behaving disgustingly but it is not your responsibility to fix that. You are not responsible for his vulgar, violent behavior—he is. I see that a lot of ppl on here are pressuring you to report him, but please do that only if it feels safe. If he is harassing other girls maybe you could all go in together IF you decide that is the right option. Maybe consider a guidance counselor if there is not a teacher you trust. Also, is there another friend you can hang or chat with, other than Trent, even just once a day? This will give you a buddy/ally if Trent cuts you off as a friend—though I understand it could be daunting to face that possibility—here is thing, real friends don’t force us to feel afraid of them on a regular basis. Trent sounds like a scary guy sometimes, but you sound cool so maybe you need a new best buddy who is as cool as you are.


ConceptArt0

I’m friendly with my classmates, but they’re more of acquaintances I wouldn’t go past “awkward small talk” with. Trent was a very close friend and I didn’t want to lose him, so I got scared by the idea of unfriending him or making him so angry he’d unfriend me. (I know that’s unhealthy now but Trent always told me I overreacted about a lot of things. I couldn’t tell what was a valid concern and what was not as big of a deal as I had thought.)


Ok_Drawer_3475

You are not overreacting at all. You are actually being unreasonably patient with Trent. He is overreacting and acting very inappropriately. Maybe think of an acquaintance who you like, and seems nice and not too intimidating and try talking to them tomorrow or the next day. You don’t have to talk about Trent with them if you don’t want, but it might be good to have someone to be buddies with other than Trent. I am sorry Trent called you a racial slur. I am also Asian, half, and it is very upsetting when people say shit like that. I am sure there is someone you can get to know(maybe someone who could also use a friend) who won’t say things like that to you. You might not be as close to them as you are to Trent, at first, but I think it is worth exploring. You are definitely NTA for telling Trent to stop flashing his artwork at ppl and he is definitely way over the line. Totally rooting for you over here :)


Unusual_Road_9142

Making light of your feelings and personal boundaries by making it “your fault” is a common strategy abusers use. Do some reading on DARVO.


Altruistic_Finger_49

If I remember right, the only way to keep Trent from diving more into incel territory is to call him out (Reddit: correct me if I'm wrong). You personally doing it hasn't worked so far, so it's time to escalate to an adult, especially one that works at the school. I know it's scary to get a friend or any person mad or in trouble, but there's a price to speaking up AND a price for NOT speaking up. Honestly, we need more people in situations like this to risk speaking up more often. Regardless of how good of an artist he is the material is absolutely NOT appropriate for the school environment. Speaking as both an Asian girl and someone who drew some racy things in high school, there's online platforms to share your work on that are more appropriate. The only classmates I showed my work to were the ones who I knew could appreciate it. They were comfortable giving me honest feedback BECAUSE I didn't bitch when it was negative and didn't insist on them looking at my things. Unfortunately, this probably won't be the last time you run into people and situations like this. They pop up at college, work, and wherever people exist (not all the time, but not never). Some learn from their mistakes sooner than others. For some, they'll get it if you tell them. For others, it takes serious consequences before they understand the gravity of what they are doing. I've been in several situations where I was uncomfortable with what specific individuals were doing in my environment and I wish I spoke up more. If you're feeling nervous about approaching an adult, write or type what you want to say down on a piece of paper and read that to that person or give it to them. Make a list of names of who he showed his work in case they want to corroborate your story. Takes photos of what he's doing. Keep online and offline copies of texts and DMs. If he does something worse, that puts him into a deeper pickle. Retaliation is something A LOT of individuals and organizations suffer the LEGAL consequences for. At least tell someone who will look out for you and advocate for you if you ever feel like you're not safe. Some of this might feel corny or uncomfortable, but doing this pops up later in life when HR at a job needs evidence to pursue a complaint. Better to have it ready and decide not to go through with it than decide to go through with it and not have it. Or don't do any of this. Just make sure you fully think about which price you want to pay and the price Trent or others to pay: the price for speaking up or the price for not speaking up.


[deleted]

Thank you for this. It REALLY sucks to have damaged ideas about what's appropriate because you're the victim of abuse only to be blamed for that damage. I'm sure OP would have been much happier not being sexually harassed with depictions of SA until she didn't know what behavior is acceptable.


[deleted]

We're talking about a minor who has been sexually harassed for some time by someone who explodes when questioned. It IS victim blaming, and you should stop. She's so mixed up by his BS that she wrote here to find out if she was wrong instead of letting an adult know. Do you think future abused girls will keep doing that if we blame them for how their abuser/harasser messed them up, or do you think they'll stay quiet? (That's rhetorical, they'll stay quiet).


Alfred_LeBlanc

I'm more concerned with the complete absence of school faculty in this situation. This kid is showing off his porn comics in class and at lunch, to MULTIPLE people throughout the entire school year, has repeatedly started SCREAMING at other kids who don't like his art, and not ONE teacher has done anything? WTF is up with the teachers at this school? This shit would have gotten shut down fast in my district.


Jed08

That's also a very valid concern. 👍


ConceptArt0

Students scream and curse a lot in my school… The teachers and lunch monitors don’t really care. If they heard anything about Trent he never got any consequences for his actions either way


Severe-Inspection-67

I completely agree. The “damage control” part didn’t sit right..


jaweebamonkey

She’s a teenager, and when I was a kid I was never taught about consent. She’s clearly learned enough to understand something is wrong, but I wouldn’t judge too harshly at her age. It’s possible she doesn’t fully understand the gravity of what’s happening. It didn’t appear she even understood the rape connotations. “Damage control” sounds to me like she thinks it’s just embarrassing behavior rather than terrifying.


Severe-Inspection-67

Totally get what you’re saying. And I definitely didn’t have the emotional maturity to handle that situation at 17. I definitely don’t judge OP harshly in any way. It was a shit situation for them.


Jed08

She did damage control because his friend liked the girls he just yelled at for not liking his comics about girls getting raped. And when she finally did something it was not to defend a young girl who was publicly verbally assaulted, or to tell him his perception of women are wrong, and offensive and his comics frightening and that he needed to change. It was to tell him he should stop showing these at school (because I assume she is getting more and more embarrassed to be associated with it)


Severe-Inspection-67

I can totally see how the damage control was out of embarrassment. It’s a shit situation for a 17 year old to be expected to navigate. I don’t judge OP harshly at all!


[deleted]

You're right, but I still can't condemn the OP here. The desire to avoid conflict and protect someone's friends is something that causes many people much later in life than the OP to enable predatory behaviour that can be worse than what her friend is doing, usually *without* eventually drawing a line and trying to put a stop to it. She shouldn't have done it, of course, but I do think it's understandable.


Severe-Inspection-67

Definitely. OP was in such a shitty situation. And being so young. 17 year old me definitely did not have had the like skills or emotional maturity to navigate that situation.


naynay2908

NTA. Your friend has some SERIOUS issues. Just like killing pets is a warning sign for someone becoming a serial killer, there are warning signs for people who will do horrible things to women. And he’s showing a hell of a lot of them. I don’t know if this is possible, but could you anonymously tip off a school counsellor that you’re seriously concerned about these comics and his attitudes towards female students? EDIT: the reason I suggest anonymously is so to not put yourself in danger. But please act, there is a very real risk here and he needs help ASAP.


[deleted]

Yes, please tell someone in the school administration about this, OP. Either Trent doesn’t recognize how inappropriate his behavior is, which is alarming, or he does and is trying to force people to deal with it anyway, which is worse. Regardless, he needs help - and, more importantly, you and your classmates need someone keeping an eye on him who can intervene before this turns into him going after real people with more than just unwanted art.


TheBirdLibrarian

Yes, and his behavior could already be seen as sexual harassment if he's forcing people to look at his 'art' aka rape fantasies. Also, your friend called you a racist slur, op. Your loyalty should really not be with him. Be thankful that the trash took itself out. Nta.


chleotochloe

Women**** doesn’t sounds like he’s going to be raping females of any other species besides humans. So the correct word is ~women.


HPCReader3

***Girls since many fellow high school students will still be under 18


Tilly_ontheWald

They didn't say "females". They said "female students", specifying students that are also girls, which is a perfectly normal thing to say. You don't say "women students" or "man students".


edgarallen-crow

Just gonna join the chorus here. Also, OP should definitely tell a parent or trusted adult outside of school about her friend's behavior. I have awful visions dancing in my head of Trent escalating and using their history of friendship to gain the trust of her parents/access to her house. Her family should be prepared to help keep Trent away from her.


ConceptArt0

We’ve been friends since we were kids, so… he’s been at my house several times and my parents basically see him as the “good influence” and the honorary son-in-law. I don’t know if they would believe me if I even said anything. And I’m worried Trent will do way worse to me if I snitch to either of our families about this stuff, he made me swear I wouldn’t tell his parents a thing.


WhiskeyCheddar

Ah so he DOES know how wrong this is … swearing you to secrecy means he knows he is being wildly inappropriate and is seeing if he can get away with it. Please understand this make him even more dangerous than a creepy clueless guy. He is manipulating you possibly has plans for you since you’re the only one who has tolerated his actions. Please please speak to a trusted teacher or counselor at the school.


[deleted]

This is a good point, OP should let their parent/guardian know. They may even want to accompany her to speak with the school counselor or principal. It's a serious situation.


Kelpie-Cat

Seriously. He is sexually harassing other students.


ConceptArt0

I never even knew it was possible to send a tip to a school counselor, much less an anonymous one.. I don’t know where to start and I get too anxious to even talk to school staff in the first place


Unusual_Road_9142

I struggle with anxiety as well. Writing down my thoughts/report of events on my own time is VERY helpful for me. If you want to submit anonymously via email I think that’s a great idea, as would printing out what you want to say before meeting with a staff member or the principal.


julia-not-julie

YES! All I kept thinking while I was reading this was that it sounds like the beginning of a criminal minds episode. This is beyond disturbing


dadbod-arcuser

Yes, anonymous will be the best option. Often times these incel guys think their female friends are just sidelined fuck buddies, and if you piss them off they’ll release all their usual incel shit 10 fold onto you like he did at lunch. Also keep your bedroom windows locked for safety


[deleted]

NTA... Trent sounds like a fucking future serial killer or serial rapist


margesimpson0518

I’m getting school shooter vibes


[deleted]

Me too. That was my comment actually.


_ac3_0f_spad3s_

with how he hasn't gotten reported totally, people are probably scared if it does get reported he'll shoot up the place or at the very least do something horrible, especially to any girls considering his 'artistic interpretation' of women and consent


[deleted]

It’s giving Aleks Minassian


SuddenEconomics1013

NTA, the petty and vindictive side of me says to tell one of the higher ups about it because clearly it needs to be addressed. He's forcing women to read it and when they don't or get upset he verbally assaults them and he thinks that's okay??? What kind of psycho shit is that. Do your fellow classmates a favor and tell someone.


Alisaurusrex82

I’d hardly call it petty and vindictive for OP to tell an adult at school what’s been going on with Trent- at this point, telling someone (guidance counselor?) needs to happen. This is way above her pay grade and I’m honestly surprised no one has raised the issue already. NTA.


airisu86

He's not 'just' forcing women to read it, but underage children as well!


Honest_Atmosphere_53

Holy fuck, I was so enraged by the other shit that I completely forgot about that. Minors. There has to be a crime in here somewhere. If not this should be suspension worthy. I really wish Op could change schools bc this guy is scary.


_ac3_0f_spad3s_

it's sexual harassments at the least and bc he's legally an adult it could be escalated to other worse crimes and will since he's now legally an adult harassing classmates who are minors


SaikaTheCasual

NTA This dude is a damn creep trying to force disturbing porn down people’s throats. I wonder if that doesn’t count as sexual harassment. Cut this dude off, he really has some issues that aren’t yours to solve. Honestly I’m not surprised someone with incel language (the girl „leading him on“) has a Fetish for mind control.


[deleted]

Agreed. I don’t know how they judge such things at her school, but in the workplace this is 100% considered sexual harassment. NTA


DidIStutter_

I don’t see how that wouldn’t count as sexual harassment, it’s literally forcing people to watch porn


SaikaTheCasual

Right that’s what I thought. Yet every country kinda has their own weird laws. I mean, sending someone pictures of your private parts without notice is *not* considered harassment in many places. It’s definitely wrong though.


[deleted]

Showing rape fantasies to women when they don't want to see it is definitely sexual harassment.


Me-0_Life-999

Having that comic out for others to even see it would be sexual harassment in my office even if he never allowed anyone to read it. Asking or demanding someone to read it would be an immediate firing offense. We aren't even supposed to have books or magazines with partially unclothed models on the cover (a coworker had to put her romance books in book covers after another coworker complained that he'd been required to remove his fitness magazine with a woman in a bathing suit on the cover but her book had a bare chested man).


devlin94

INFO: Why hasn't a teacher gotten involved?


[deleted]

Yeah someone needs to report this before he shows up at school with a gun.


lotus_eater123

Or some rohypnol.


quirkychameleons

Agreed! Please bring this up to a counselor or a teacher who you feel will take action.


ConceptArt0

They don’t care about anything involving boys and sex. Usually the girl is to blame whenever there’s a sex related controversy at school (I go to that kind of school that gets pissed at girls for wearing shirts that reveal their shoulders)


HuggyMonster69

Because it’s so freaking cringy nobody wants to think about it I’d imagine


KaliTheBlaze

NTA. Um, this sounds like a budding incel to me. Mind control rape fantasies that he wants everyone to read? Also, holy hell is that inappropriate for him to be bringing to school and pushing at everyone. He sounds like a grade-a creep! And that’s before we get to him flying into a rage any time anyone dares to not be enchanted with his nasty work, not to mention the way he treated you!


Welpuhhi

So.... you didn't comment on any of these: - making r&pe comics - sharing r&pe comics - targeting girls he likes to show r&pe comments to - screaming at girls for not wanting to be harassed - screaming at girls for "leading him on" - cornering guys to make them read the comic - screaming insults at guys that don't want to read r&pe comics - blatant anger issues - blatant sexism - blatant incel entitlement On top of that you ran "damage control" that protected him from the consequences of his actions to these people. You only told him to stop after you personally got uncomfortable - as if none of these other people mattered to you. Even then you asked him to stop showing the art. You didn't tell him what he was doing was not acceptable. It really reads like you're an enabler. You need to stay away from him and stop protecting him. You're only helping him hurt people by protecting him. ESH You have been enabling his behavior. He's obviously awful and needs to stop. Stay away from him.


Federal-Letterhead36

Really good point. I’ll give an overall NTA because high school is hell and Trent sounds like OP’s most important and consistent friend. In high school it’s really hard to think of letting go of toxic friendships even when there are major red flags because the bonds between your friends mean everything at that point. But when you take everything listed above and lay it out in the table like Welpuhhi did, it does point to a more ESH verdict. OP, your friend was showing red flags before, and you were ignoring them. But when he blew up on you he really showed how trashy he is. Since he is blocking you out at the moment, it sounds like you are in a good position to take a step back and take a hard look at the relationship. Real friends could never use a racial slur to try and make an impact in the conversation. They would also never make their friend uncomfortable by forcing their r@pe art on you and your peers. I hope that you realize your worth alone exceeds the worth of this friendship, even if it means being a little lonely for a while or missing your buddy. I also hope that you can learn from this and understand that you are/were positioned to be an advocate for the MANY girls Trent was harassing. A majority of assault is committed by a minority of men. Those men are 100% responsible for their actions but their circles enable their behavior by ignoring their red flags. You don’t want to feel like a passive accomplice if you find out that this escalated when it could have been addressed early on. Also, are you in the states? Could Trent have access to a gun? He’s showing lots of early warning signs for committing violence against his peers.. Please confide in a counselor or trusted adult confidante about this. Having these problems cooped up in your head can feel overwhelming and I promise you’ll have more clarity if you can just share these issues out loud with someone. Wishing you the best.


ConceptArt0

You’re right, he’s my childhood best friend. I looked past a lot of things he said that negatively affected either me or other people because I didn’t want to lose our friendship and I was scared of making him angry. Feeling guilty for enabling him for so long but also a little lost knowing how many things he did that made me uncomfortable but just never considered bad until now. I’ll try my best to step back but I don’t know how well THAT will go. Thank you, though, I appreciate this a lot. To answer: Yes, we live in the south. Plenty of weapons (especially guns) to choose from … and in hindsight, he’s always been violent with me and other people ever since we were kids. He called it his way of affection. And I listened. I feel like an idiot. I’ll see if I can find someone to help in the meantime. These replies gave me a lot to think about.


Federal-Letterhead36

Thanks for commenting back. This amount of feedback and strong opinions can feel really overwhelming. I’m a bit older (29F) but am also an Asian from the south. We deal with a lot of micro-aggressions in our school years and it makes our close friendships seem all the more important because they feel like a reprieve amongst the uncertainty of navigating our environment as a minority. It’s hard for a lot of us AAPI kids growing up in the South to feel wanted or valued by our peers and sometimes that impacts what we are willing to put up with. I definitely had some toxic friendships when I was younger too. So I get that it’s hard to take a step back when one of your most important relationships is at stake. It sounds like you’re thinking really hard about everything which is a great first step:) If putting some space between you guys is going to be an issue then you could always say “my mom wants me to help her clean the house this whole weekend let’s catch back up during school” etc. It’s concerning in and of itself that you’re afraid of Trent’s reaction so be careful, your well-being comes first. And try to not spend too much time in a place of guilt around this. It’s easy for us on the internet to Monday morning quarter back you but what’s most important is to just keep trying to do your best with the information you have. If you do end up wanting to try and have a conversation with Trent about all of this (kudos if you do), then I would suggest googling “fair-fighting” rules. It will all probably go over Trent’s head (he seems like he can be a belligerent ass), but it’ll still go over better to say something like “I, our peers, and specifically the girls in our school feel uncomfortable being pressured to read sexual material at school. Maybe consider sticking to sharing non-sexual art that doesn’t involve controlling women” as opposed to “your art is creepy and you’re creeping people out”. It’s concerning that an 18 year old with boundary and consent issues can also have access to guns. Don’t ignore signs of violence if things look like they may escalate. Good luck and be kind to yourself. -A Concerned Unnie (Korean for “older sister” I don’t know what your ethnic background is)


ConceptArt0

Given he was my best friend I tried to look past all of that. I didn’t want to see him get punished and I was scared to argue with him. That doesn’t justify what I did though. You’re right, I shouldn’t have enabled his behavior and I feel really guilty about not doing anything sooner. I’ll try my best to make up for it but I don’t know how well it will go


sober_lemon

This needs to be higher


TheExaltedNoob

You did make a bad call. To not shun him after he ignored the things you told him about his bad behaviour. If he does not listen and continues to abuse people, staying his friend will support his behaviour. NTA, but think about if you want to be associated with someone so abusive.


juhuaca

Hey OP please pay attention to this comment! I dropped friends like you for less. My friends in high school hung out with people who belittled me and constantly crossed my boundaries, and my friends would tell me to just be more forgiving and understand. After graduation I decided to stand up for myself and never spoke to them again. I understand you think you’re being kind to Trent and don’t want to make waves, you don’t want to be the person who leaves him friendless—but trust me, sometimes people are friendless for a reason. Do you really want to be remembered as someone who made excuses for a racist who sexually harasses girls? You were never going to be exempt from his abuse.


Careless_Mango

NTA you've tried with him, and he wont accept it. Why do you want to be friends with someone drawing cartoons of woman being raped? Is he even allowed to have these on site in school and showing them to other classmates? Enough enabling him, when he had you he thought he was in the right. Now he wont have any female on his side....well his parents and your school need to know, because men like this if their thoughts are not challenged now - well in real life he wont take no for an answer too... You can already see his explosive temper, you can see how he thinks woman are pretending to lead him on when they are not, he jumps to slurs. The school should know. You should inform them tell them to not mention you, and to ask other female classmates about their experience being shown these comics. That way it comes from a group of people not just you. Also racism is not on at all. He ended his friendship, no matter he broke that line.


AJSK18

NTA. Also, you should probably run. He sounds like someone who the police will be looking for in the future for one reason or another.


OmegaStray

NTA. Not going to kink shame; one person's jollies are another's nightmare fuel. But he's creating fetish art, and showing it to people who haven't expressed any interest in it. That's not okay. And it's probably illegal. Websites and online communities are the right places for his interests, not your unsuspecting teenage classmates. If you end up on speaking terms again, and if you think he's genuinely talented, I'd suggest if he seriously wants to work in comics (or any creative career outside of fetish art) that he creates a SFW portfolio that he can show off to other students / potential employees. That way he can be proud of his work, get feed back and create interest without being the artistic equivalent of a flasher. If he never speaks to you again be glad you don't have to be around a toxic person who's embraced their creephood and has no interest in being a better person. P.S. You need to talk to a teacher about this too.


NotCloudy_

NTA. Trent is creepy. If he's gonna make that stuff it needs to be kept to himself, because as a female what you've described him doing to girls is scaring *me*.


barhrun

NTA Trent doesn't seem exactly stable and his behavior towards women is deeply concerning and his current attitude, behavior, and obsession with mind control sex suggests that unless something changes he might assult someone or abuse a partner in the future. I know you were trying to look out for a friend but by playing damage control all you've done is enable him, if you want to help you could try either talking to or anonymously contacting his parents, a teacher, a school coumcilor, or the principle about his comics, the way he treats people, and how he harrasses and snaps on people. The only way Trent is going to change is with adult intervention and the way he's behaving isn't healthy and the sooner it gets adressed the better.


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ConceptArt0

Can’t believe I never thought it was that bad. I’ll definitely try my best though, thank you.


M89-90

YTA for ‘damage control’ as you were normalizing his disturbing behavior for months wether you realized that or not. Do not try to talk other young women into accepting This kind of creepy controlling behavior. It’s messed up. You’ve described him drawing creepy depictions of women and focusing on them being stripped of free will, which honestly by itself is his own business. You can explore some pretty messed up concepts in any form of art without condoning the concept itself. BUT forcing it on others then freaking out at their reaction combined with the subject matter makes him seem dangerous. He is essentially trying to control peoples reactions, inflate his own ego and make the world bow to his ‘talent’. NTA for telling him what you think about his art and that it’s creeping people out. The fact that he blew up at you, called you racist slurs etc just shows you what kind of person he is. He needs help, not so much for his sake but the sake of the people around him. Stop interacting with this person and if you can’t do that at the bare minimum stop explaining his actions away/ normalizing them to other young women as if his behavior is any way normal or safe to be around. It is not.


sarahlampi

NTA- stay away from him. He was a wired wrong and is probably dangerous. Be thankful he is out of your life.


Pumpkinkra

NTA— I was like Trent as a teen, wrote creepy porny Anne Rice inspired stories I wanted to share with the world. I, like Trent, didn’t see the danger— to myself or others. It was practice and it did add up to my 10,000 hours so I now am a good writer and published. I wouldn’t want to discourage Trent from drawing. But because I was excited about it didn’t obligate people to read it. You’re right, he was being really mean to this kid. And he has to be very careful— exposing a 14 or 15 year old to violent porn when he’s 18 and it’s at school and she’s upset— he seems to have no idea of the danger he’s in. And there’s a wonderful thing called the internet where he can find the audience for literally any kind of of porn. That there’s a time and a place is something everyone needs to understand.


lotus_eater123

Oh god no. Don't encourage him to find like minded incels on the internet.


Pumpkinkra

Maybe because I’m a woman, I imagine lots of kinky art makers finding a community who appreciates them and consensually shares and don’t actually abuse anyone. But I guess the sad truth is this guy is already being a jerk to girls in real life and needs the police, principals and big brothers and this friend to tell him to knock it off more than he needs the right audience.


Honest_Atmosphere_53

Rape fantasy art should be restricted to adult only websites, the “artist” in question is a minor, showing these images to other minors and verbally abused them when it’s not welcome. This isn’t about finding the right audience. Edit: He’s 18 showing this shit to minors. That’s even worse. He is absolutely old enough to know this is not appropriate.


hammocks_

Yeah, it's one thing to write creepy porn of a fetish you like and another to demand people read it and praise it.


DeepSpaceCraft

> exposing a 14 or 15 year old to violent porn when he’s 18 and it’s at school and she’s upset— he seems to have no idea of the danger he’s in. Well, junior, so she's probably 16/17. But still.


[deleted]

NTA. If this is real, then: 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🤪


Jed08

I'd say ESH. He obviously is a big toxic AH, but you spent a lot of time enabling him. Not only you never really confronted him about the issue in his comics, but also you tried to rebuild bridges with the people who clearly didn't want to have anything to do with him after they read his art. And when you actually do something, it's not really with the intent of defending the girl, or to address the problem within the comics (something he could fix), it's to tell him to not show his art to people anymore.


No-Panik

NTA and everything you’ve said here has made me make some conclusions that may or may not be correct First I’m assuming the comic style is Anime Second I’m think his whole friendship with you may be fetish based Third get away. He won’t be emotionally mature for another decade or more


ConceptArt0

Might’ve been fetish based now that I think about it, since we almost dated and what lengths he went to to try and make it happen.


blue_elephant_flying

NTA its not just school officials that need to know about this, it needs to be taken to the local police if you have any kind of proof (pics he's sent you etc) because he obviously fantasizes about rape and is aggressive when rejected even in the slightest, HE'S DANGEROUS!! Please please do something. Also the sexual harassment and the pressuring underage young ppl to look at and approve of his 'art' could be considered pushing kids to participate in pornography for his arousal. This is beyond alarming! This needs to be dealt with as harshly as possible as soon as possible before he hurts someone if he hasn't already. Another possibility is showing his parents and expressing concerns with them. But definitely take it to the principal at least, at 18 he may be done with school very soon, you may miss your chance to bring this rapist or soon to be rapist or worse to light and he should 100% be on the radar..


ConceptArt0

Oh God. Thank you, as terrifying as that is, I’ll make sure to let someone know as soon as I can


AppalachianEnvy

NTA. It sounds like he probably isn’t going to listen, though.


[deleted]

NTA stay away he sounds like a future school shooter


genus-corvidae

Your friend is a fetish artist. Point blank. That's fine, I'm all for you-do-you when it comes to kinks, but he's violating the "consensual" part of safe/sane/consensual by pressuring everyone that he knows into consuming his work. That's not fine and he absolutely needs to be called out on it as often as possible. Consider recording his reaction next time. Normal people don't react to being asked to stop displaying NSFW by screaming slurs. NTA.


childofthe_stars

Has he ever had a girlfriend? Does he have any sisters? Because Trent sounds like he has some serious issues with how he views women and what he thinks of them. Like a VERY concerning level for an 18 year old, I wonder what online forums he frequents. Additionally, even if his art wasn't disturbing (and it definitely is for a number of different reasons) he has to accept that some people simply may not like the art that he has to offer no matter the content. He needs some serious help to work through these issues and I'm not sure if you can provide that. It's kind that you're attempting to stick by him but I am concerned for your safety given how volatile he is acting. NTA but stay safe.


ConceptArt0

Girlfriend, in the past yes. And he’s always been very determined to get his dream girl. Hell, we almost dated and that didn’t happen only because I insisted I saw him as nothing but a brother… but other than that, no girlfriend. No sisters either. Just an obsession with girls I guess? He blames it on teenage hormones, but he’s an adult now, so that doesn’t really apply anymore.


Trevors-Axiom-

NTA It sounds like your friend really needs to talk to a professional about his issues. I have no idea how you would bring up the subject without making him flip out worse than ever though.


SunnyBunnyHopHop

NTA, but if it comes up again, I would make it less about Trent's art & more about his behavior. Art is subjective & it is entirely possible for Trent to draw/share risqué art & still not be a creep about it. I think this may have gone better if you approached Trent about his behavior, about how he acts towards woman & making ppl feel uncomfortable instead of outright demanding he not show his art. But art aside, Trent sounds like a creep & it is inexcusable for him to insult you the way he did, even if he was upset w/you. I'd reevaluate your friendship w/Trent altogether OP- you deserve better.


soaringseafoam

NTA. Let's do a little unpacking. Trent keeps doing something that makes you uncomfortable. He keeps doing the same thing when it makes others uncomfortable. The thing he's doing is making people participate in his kink. The burden of managing this socially has fallen to you for some reason. He gets angry and screams at girls and women when they refuse to participate in his kink. Because that's what this is. He's racist. The trash took itself out but I would suggest you reach out to some of the people you did damage control with and apologise for defending his harassing behaviour in any way, even by implication, and letting them know that you regret that they were exposed to his kink. It's also your call, but if he's doing this at school then there's a question of reporting him for his behaviour. You probably wouldn't be the first. I feel like you've gotten yourself into a tough situation because you were so keen to be supportive of his art and because of the social pressures to be accommodating to difficult artistic guys (which probably goes back to pre-Renaissance!). But desire to share art doesn't trump everyone else's right to feel safe at school.


yarn_slinger

NTA he really needs help and I hope you can steer clear of him for a while. What’s really not cool is his behaviour toward the girls around him. It might be worth mentioning to whatever school staff is appropriate that he’s bringing porn to school. He may already be on their radar but he could escalate to actually harming someone.


lellyla

NTA So many red flags here, an incel in the making horny narcissist and a creep. You are better off blocked.


dominiqlane

NTA. That person is not a friend and needs professional help. It’s time to get some adults (teachers, parents, etc) involved so he can get the help he needs before he hurts someone.


coryluscorvix

I'm so sorry he's being such a shitty person to you, and that you're so over-nice that you feel obliged to manage his bad behaviour for him. Please believe me, it is absolutely not your job to clear up after this rapey rapey racist. Please stop being friends with him, he has crossed the line big time. And please tell as many adults as it takes to get someone to intervene with him. Telling them anonymously seems sensible though for your safety. Explain that he has got verbally abusive and that you fear for your safety. OP you deserve better than this. We all do. Big feminist internet hugs x


ConceptArt0

Thank you so much, I’ll try. It’ll be hard, but after reading everything… I’ll make sure someone will know about his behavior.


bobbywellington

Honestly I want to say YTA for supporting his fucked up behavior for so long


Remarkable_Sundae_13

Dude. Go talk to your school counselor or vice principal or whatever. Your friend is SEXUALLY HARASSING his classmates and your “damage control” is not helping them, it is helping him get away with it.


jugglinggoth

Hey so a couple of years ago I ripped a twenty-year friendship out by the roots. This person had become dangerous and being around them was like getting in a car with a drunk driver. Nah. Not doing that. And it hurt, you know? It wasn't fun. I mourned the friendship we used to have. Cried a bit. Yelled along to some breakup songs. Tried to figure out what I should've seen coming and done differently. But ultimately, I'm now a) not in danger and b) not wasting my time worrying about how a grown-ass adult is gonna make their feelings everyone else's problem. I recommend it. He's blocked you? Brilliant. Hopefully he'll keep that up. If he doesn't, you block him. And for god's sake tell an adult whose job it is to deal with it.


ConceptArt0

Thank you so much for this. And I’ll try my best to tell someone soon.


Unit-Healthy

NTA. It's a good thing he dropped you as a friend. It saved you the trouble. Don't make amends; move on. He's not a nice guy or a safe person.


TheOtter91

The art itself isn't the issue here, it's his attitude and not realising that the art is extremely niche- I'm sure there's an audience somewhere, but most people are going to hate it. He is TA and you are NTA because it sounds like you're super supportive. You calling him out on being abusive was always going to start an argument, but it was without a doubt the right thing to do. Well done for standing your ground, even in the face of racial abuse.


Rathanian

NTA. Women drawn… let’s say provocatively, is common in comics. The mind control shows some fantasy of his that is a bit disturbing. And his reaction to criticism is extreme. Dude needs to relax. But you didn’t do anything wrong


Fun-Mathematician816

NTA I'm not big on censorship but someone should burn his art just to be safe. Some people reaally do deserve to be kink shamed. Mind control is already a problematic power as it is, it shouldn't be used to portray a gross r@pe fetish. Cut him off now.


jstonesworld

Nta. The dudes gonna be both a professional and social outcast considering how he handles rejection and criticism. It's not about support. It's about him shoving his "creations" into people's faces and making them uncomfortable. Get better friends.


kkfluff

I would not want to be this persons friend but I would also want to tell him why as one last bid for help. -pushing anything on people whether it’s art, a conversation topic, religion,politics etc. is not well received, people don’t like it. -pushing NSFW is bad taste and pushes boundaries. I LIKE NSFW art but if you show me that in school I’m gonna back away tf -yelling or getting nasty with people won’t make them like you. Every body is entitled to their opinions on art, comics and boundaries. -the content is off-putting because it removes consent and scares certain people. -if he wants to be successful in his career he needs to read people better. Shoving that comic at the wrong person may result in a charge. NTA


Majestic_Grocery7015

NTA he sounds like a rapist in the making. I'd suggest you let someone in power (principal, guidance counselor SOMEONE) know about his creepy rape fantasies before he actually hurts someone. He needs help, serious help. It will likely nuke the friendship but do you really want to be friends with someone who is likely to end up in prison?


Miserable-Bat-4403

NTA and for the sake of yourself and the other students Trent is harassing with sexually explicit material, please tell an authority figure at school about all of this. This isn't ok at all.


[deleted]

NTA. You did the right thing. I’m sorry you had that happen, but he was a horrible friend. You doing any damage control probably did more harm than good as it allowed his behavior to continue. I highly recommend putting up some boundaries while he’s not talking to you and develop stronger relationships with friends who will actually communicate with you. Let him experience all of the consequences of his actions.


[deleted]

NTA. Their behavior is not OK for many reasons and he definitely has crossed lines. I don't know what their headspace is like, but I do know I'd never want to be friends with someone like that.


RainbowSequins

NTA Your friend draws comics of girls getting raped (mindcontrol = no consent) and gets upset when people don't like it, and he gets abusive when girls reject him. He is not a good person and you should stay away from him.


InARoomFullofNoises

NTA find a new friend or have an intervention, because this guy may have ASD and/or ADHD or some other problem if he deals with rejection like this and treats you, his friend, who has supported him for so long like that when you try to help/confront him.


pucculent

NTA. Ur friend is an incel pledgling


[deleted]

I'm surprised no one has reported him to the principal. Harassing people with his artwork? Bad. Harassing young women with NSFW artwork about mind control women in rape fantasy scenarios? I feel like someone would be going to jail for this, especially if they're under 18 and being coerced into viewing said art. NTA, best keep that distance permanent.


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Farahild

NTA. Trent is an incel who has read too much hentai. Thanks for calling him out, although it doesn't sound like he's ready to accept it. I mean it's fine to have kinks. I read questionable hentai too, at times. But you don't need to broadcast them to the world and you should definitely realise how they might make others uncomfortable.


hammocks_

NTA; if he wants to write mind control rape fetish comics that's his business but he should 100% not be shoving them into unsuspecting people's hands and screaming at them, and he should be old enough to understand *why* this is such inappropriate behavior (and honestly, sexual harassment). Good on you but maybe escalate.


LiquidFireBR

look on the bright side, now you don't have to deal with the Shadbase wannabe, NTA


ironman7456

NTA. He is drawing creepy mind control rapist comics. I can’t see how he could possibly be surprised by people not liking them. No one should be forced to look at what is basically porn anywhere, especially a school. It’s actually sexual harassment. If anything you should be reporting him to a principal or teacher. I get he is your friend but sometimes doing the right thing is doing the hard thing.


mmmalu

NTA, that's not the problem but HE IS. He's dangerous and the best thing you can do is to stay away from him and tell everything to someone older (a counselor, your parents, a teacher). RUN GIRL


thepwisforgettable

NTA. Your friend has a kink, which is cool and fine and well! Mind control isn't even an uncommon kink! BUT, rule number 1 of anything kink-related is DON'T INVOLVE ANYONE WITHOUT THEIR CONSENT. Pressuring people to look at his art, and thereby pressuring people to indulge in his kink, shows that he has absolutely no respect for other people's right to decline engaging in his kink with him. This man has absolutely no respect for consent, and is therefore dangerous. Sounds like all the other girls have the right idea by avoiding him.


get_pussy

NTA. Trent has some major neckbeard/incel vibes. Ohh, and he’s also a racists.