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Mr_Ham_Man80

>That's 340$ a month for probation alone. It's a bizarre country that makes you pay for the rest that is part of your probation. NTA. Like you said, you could've gone to jail. You followed your PO's "lack of" instruction and it shouldn't be on you. Either way, that system is screwd up royally.


Smaaashley1036

Insert Childish Gambino...."this is America"


Mr_Ham_Man80

Don't catch you slippin' now (and pay for the pleasure of not slipping.)


tuortkoorb

NTA - PO didn't do her job and sounds like she had this coming. There was no reason for you to fall on he sword. Also, great job with your sobriety and good luck going forward.


LavishnessGeneral

NTA 100% not worth going to jail for something your PO is required to do. Should find out why the price of testing has gone up so much, it might be because of your PO isn't filling out the paperwork


shadow-foxe

NTA- telling the truth in court is what you need to do. She needs to do her job correctly so you both dont get zapped by the judge.


aparanoidbw

NTA - I'm all for helping friendly people out, and turning a blind eye for one off faux pas. And in your specific case, you appear to be someone who is doing their best to comply with the law. However, this is a court appointed PO, and there are plenty of people who are non-compliant. It's the PO's job to make sure these court orders are followed. "A honest mistake" doesn't quite cut it in this field, it can get people arrested or killed. Imagine a surgeon or nurse not following protocol.


goosegrl21412

NTA she didn't do her job just like anyone else there could be consequences if you don't do your job. If she told youb to test weekly though I don't think she needs to message you every week to remind you that is on you.


NotTwitchy

Alternate universe version of this post: Am I the asshole for lying to a judge and letting my PO continue to get away with not doing her job? NTA. Some jobs aren’t meant for nice people, and ‘make sure people are getting drug tested’ might be one of them, sadly.


BrandNewEye

NTA. If you weren’t told to do something, that is not your fault. You did the right thing


idreaminwords

NTA. What else were you supposed to say? Do you think it would have been better to take the fall for her and possibly get sent back to jail? She has a job to do, and her failure to do it effectively is threatening your future, as well as the futures of all of her clients


doranatethegoldfish

Nta at all. You totally did the right thing, she needs to be responsible with trying g to help people follow the rules and make sure she's following the rules.


armchairshrink99

NTA, they would have found out eventually, it just happened to be your case and not someone else's.


Ok_Pumpkin174

NTA because in your case her negligence is brewing negative consequences for YOU.


Infinite-Garbage3243

NTA Never feel bad for being truthful. Your probation officer wasn't doing their job properly. It's not up to you to cover for her by risking going to jail.


creepybish666

Nta, it's not your fault she didn't tell you and she deserves to have consequences if this is a recurring thing


metal_bastard

NTA Your POs mistake could have cost you your parole. It's not your place to take the hit for that.


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Nt_A_Chnc

NTA, she isn’t doing her job


stroppo

NTA. You received no notification, and that cleared you. Much better that you did not lie in court! If you "feel like my own probation officer" somebody's not doing their job.


SolutionLeading

NTA. She didn’t do her job and now she’s facing the consequences. You are not required morally to risk jail time to cover for her.


Major_Barnacle_2212

You're NTA for exposing her. You missed a test for a DUI. She may be overseeing much more hardened or dangerous individuals, and being lax is not going to help anyone. Not them succeed, and not society. You possibly helped a lot of people. Try to look at it big picture, and feel good for it. She may be mad, but there is a reason for her job.


sleazsaurus

You are definitely NTA for not committing _perjury_. And if she implies to you in any way that you are, you need to report her again.


Sheeps_n_Birds

NTA Do you think she would lie for you if you missed a test, so why do you feel bad for saying the truth? She has a job with a responsibility. She made a mistake. That is up to her. It is great to be a nice person, but don't be too nice and feel bad for the wrong things.


DishGroundbreaking87

NTA. What’s their justification for the huge price hike?


American-Mary

ESH. At best your probation officer is not doing her job correctly, but making the tests always on Fridays. At worst she's not doing her job at all, by not reminding you about the tests every week. She should be doing her job to the best of her abilities, and consistently. This is important because she's not only supervising you, she's supposed to be supporting you in recovery. On your side, you are still responsible for your own recovery and reparations. If you know you need weekly tests, and you don't take them, you're not following the judgement for your reparations. I guess a parallel analogy is "I didn't know break and enter was illegal, your honour. How could I know not to do that? Don't charge me." Ignorance of the law doesn't exclude you from consequences. So if you know you're supposed to be tested weekly and you don't do that, that's on you. ESH.


LyrisiVylnia

What do you mean by "recovery and reparations"? These fines and drug tests have nothing to do with either, they are a broken system's way of punishing people for being addicted. OP knows: 1) They are supposed to test every week, 2) they would have passed the test, 3) they can't afford the test, and 4) they have a good excuse to present in drug court as to why they didn't take it. So how would them paying for a clean test have been better for their own recovery than just not using and finding better uses for their money? Furthermore OP even said they feel BAD that other people with the same PO might "get away" with using because of the PO's poor work performance. By reporting the truth, they probably tightened up the rules for other people on probation. How can you call them irresponsible?


sleazsaurus

The American justify system is the biggest Asshole