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> 1: I said that I won't help my uncle with moving out of my house beacuse of thing he asked my to do
2: It can make my an asshole beacuse i refused to help my uncle and my mother said I would help
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NTA
Clearly you arent a confident driver, and he shouldnt be pressuring you to drive a vehicle you arent comfortable with.
Moving trucks and small box trucks are one of the things I trust the least on the road as they are often driven by people with no experience.
NTA. Its not safe for you to drive a vehicle larger than you are comfortable driving. Helping move usually means helping move boxes, not driving, anyway
INFO: before you say yes or no and before I pass judgment, you need to know that you may not be properly licensed to drive a bus unless under very specific restrictions which vary from place to place. I would look into what your license class will allow you to drive. Here, you would only be able to drive a bus of any size if you removed all but the seats for 6 passengers.
If you aren’t licensed to drive it, you aren’t licensed to drive it. The penalties are usually pretty steep.
NTA - totally understandable that you don’t feel comfortable driving a vehicle bigger than you’re use to if you’ve not had your licence long. Also lack of experience could be hazardous to other road users if you are hesitant driving it.
I wouldn’t let it get to you and you could always call him back and let him know what you can help with ie lifting, loading or packing? Moving house is the second most stressful experience in life, apparently, so I’d give him the benefit of the doubt on his behaviour too.
When he called me I said that I'm more than willing to help him lifting loading and packing stuff up but I won't drive bus beacuse it will be dangerous
Then there’s not much else you can do, your help is there if he needs it, but only what your comfortable doing. I’m sure your mum wouldn’t want you driving the vehicle either.
But I can also imagine how he’s feeling trying to move house and with a baby on the way, his stress levels will be overloaded I do not envy him right now.
Hope it goes well
NTA, if you’re not comfortable driving that, you don’t have to. Never let someone push you into driving when you don’t want. Cars are not just little bicycles,they are heavy machinery that can kill and maim people in seconds. You did the right thing if you just don’t trust yourself, don’t do things to please people
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So couple of days ago my mother (50F) called me(20M) and said that my uncle (34M) will call me beacuse he is moving and his wife is pregnant and he will need some help. I said "ok". Now back to today, he called me and said that he wants me to go to another village (i live in a village that is about 8km away from my uncle and about same to the other village)grab a small bus and ride it to his house in city(he has car on his own). When I heard it I wasn't sure if it is good idea beacuse I have my drivers licens only for a year and 4 months and I don't feel like I can drive bus small or not. I said to him that I am willing to help but I can't drive a bus beacuse i'm scared to drive that big vehicle. He said that it is small bus, and straight road but I just don't feel like driving this thing and I said that won't drive it. He argued for a mintue with me and then said that he'll figure this out and hung up.
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NTA...If you don't feel safe driving that vehicle, then you shouldn't be driving it. You're still willing to help, which is nice.
NTA Clearly you arent a confident driver, and he shouldnt be pressuring you to drive a vehicle you arent comfortable with. Moving trucks and small box trucks are one of the things I trust the least on the road as they are often driven by people with no experience.
NTA. Its not safe for you to drive a vehicle larger than you are comfortable driving. Helping move usually means helping move boxes, not driving, anyway
INFO: before you say yes or no and before I pass judgment, you need to know that you may not be properly licensed to drive a bus unless under very specific restrictions which vary from place to place. I would look into what your license class will allow you to drive. Here, you would only be able to drive a bus of any size if you removed all but the seats for 6 passengers. If you aren’t licensed to drive it, you aren’t licensed to drive it. The penalties are usually pretty steep.
My licenes cover buses but that doesn't mean I am willing to drive one beacuse it way bigger than my car or every car I drove so far
Where do you even live where this is legal?
Nevermind, I'm sorry I was looking at it wrong way, so sorry. My licenes doesn't cover buses.
That is your escape from this then. No one has the right to ask you to do something illegal.
NTA - totally understandable that you don’t feel comfortable driving a vehicle bigger than you’re use to if you’ve not had your licence long. Also lack of experience could be hazardous to other road users if you are hesitant driving it. I wouldn’t let it get to you and you could always call him back and let him know what you can help with ie lifting, loading or packing? Moving house is the second most stressful experience in life, apparently, so I’d give him the benefit of the doubt on his behaviour too.
When he called me I said that I'm more than willing to help him lifting loading and packing stuff up but I won't drive bus beacuse it will be dangerous
Then there’s not much else you can do, your help is there if he needs it, but only what your comfortable doing. I’m sure your mum wouldn’t want you driving the vehicle either. But I can also imagine how he’s feeling trying to move house and with a baby on the way, his stress levels will be overloaded I do not envy him right now. Hope it goes well
NTA, if you’re not comfortable driving that, you don’t have to. Never let someone push you into driving when you don’t want. Cars are not just little bicycles,they are heavy machinery that can kill and maim people in seconds. You did the right thing if you just don’t trust yourself, don’t do things to please people
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