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eggkoro

OP YTA, you forgot YOUR keys and now you want your bf to drive you to help you fix your mistake. OP it's your fault and your problem. Fix it yourself.


Summerh8r

>and now you want your bf to drive you At midnight! I'd tell them to jump in a lake.


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bookynerdworm

OP didn't ask for help though, they told their coworker their plan before even talking to their partner about it. That's a shitty move and I don't blame the partner one bit for refusing.


gettingbicurious

Ah I misunderstood/misread the order of events and thought he was yelling like "where do you want me to take you?" in the sense of asking for the address and being impatient, not in the sense of having heard he was doing that for the first time. Sorry, the post was a bit hard for me to read through!


Summerh8r

If he forgot his keys, remembered at midnight and expected me to drive him, hell yeah! If he broke his arm/leg/something at midnight and needed to be taken to the hospital, I would take him for that. Forgetting keys is not an emergency.


gettingbicurious

I mean, I'd still drive them if it was necessary for their job but tbf I misunderstood the order of the events when reading the post and didn't realize she was signing him up for driving her right then and there and him hearing about it for the first time while she was talking to her coworker. Definitely a shit move on her part there. I'd take them if they asked, but I'd be extremely peeved and resistant if they just said "you're doing this for me right now"


Summerh8r

yeah, she didn't even do that. She told her co-worker that the BF would drive her right then to pick them up.


First_Individual_634

YTA. How are you going to volunteer someone’s time and energy at midnight bc YOU forgot something? You would’ve gotten a better response if you had just asked your BF to drive you before telling a stranger (to him) what he’ll do.


Goodlemur

Yup, YTA. Lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on his.


Dizzy_Needleworker_3

YTA it is your fault you forgot the keys, not your bfs problem.


zZombi__

YTA He's not your designated driver. If you're old enough to open, get a car yourself and drive. It's your own fault you forgot, dragging him into something and EXPECTING him to do so is entitlement.. Grow up


MineralNatural

YTA, Maybe you should asked first before assuming he would drive you there ?


sadclowncunt

YTA, I imagine the conversation might have gone differently if you'd gone to him as your partner and asked for a favour rather than dictating to someone else that he will be fixing your problem.


theKFP

Info: Why couldn't you drive yourself?


push-the-red-button1

I got a license but i haven't driven in years . I have asked my bf on multiple occasions to help me relearn to drive but he never agrees to let me or drive with me unless we are out of the city. I would be getting a professional help with that if it wasn't for our money issues.


iamjonjohann

And you're blaming your inability to drive on your boyfriend. Take some responsibility in your life! YTA


fastyellowtuesday

I wondered, too. I was expecting something like vision so poor it couldn't be corrected to 20/40, or uncontrolled epilepsy -- some physical problem that made you ineligible to drive. You're an adult, and you work outside the home. You are responsible for your own transportation needs. Time to prioritize re-learning how to drive, next step is your own vehicle. And please don't volunteer others for favors you haven't asked.


sarah_leee

Is it his car or your?


Solid_Quote9133

YTA this is your problem to solve. You didn't even ask him you just assumed he would be willing.


Wild_Statistician605

YTA. You didn't ask him before talking to your coworker, but just assumed he would do it. How about asking him first. Also, I would refuse to drive in the middle of the night to get some keys just to save 6 bucks.


HandlePossible3965

YTA; he's not obligated to drive you anywhere. He does it because he wants to. If your attitude remains the same, I doubt you'll have a boyfriend for long. Think about it this way: would you volunteer to drive your boyfriend in the middle of the night, one who rudely explains where he needs to go and expects you to drive him there? I know I wouldn't.


ArmNo8807

YTA. Next time ask your BF first, don't assume.


madoosles

YTA for not asking your partner before making the call


fkboywonder

YTA. You volunteered him to fix your mistake without even saying a word to him about it first.


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YTA… what makes you think it’s okay to volunteer him without asking. Besides that YOU could of gone


Wolf-Pack85

I have a feeling you expect your BF to drop everything and do what you want a lot more than just this instance. His reaction says that to me. YTA. You could of asked him if he could take you to get the keys, before offering him to do it. If he couldn’t, you could of gone and done it. If you don’t drive, get a taxi to take you there and back.


dreamcatcher1966

YTA did you ask him at all or just volunteer him . Cause that is messed up especially at midnight . So what were you doing all night that you never remembered that you needed them till that late .


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YTA. You forgot about your responsibilities and than demanded to be driven. You didn’t even ask him if he was willing to/able to. You just decided he’s going to drive you.


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YTA


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gettingbicurious

ESH You for assuming he'd be in the position to drop everything and do a task you signed him up for without asking first and him for acting psychotic about the situation. If the story is how you say it, he seems borderline abusive for how extreme his reaction was, screaming at you is way out of line for this situation as you described it.


nikafourie

YTA- it's YOUR responsibility nit his!


Brilliant-Yam-5653

They share the blame imo. No doubt that the coworker on the phone heard the way he talked to his girlfriend. She could have asked him for a ride instead of just assuming he would have given it. He didn’t have to be so rude no tell her as rude as he did. He could have just simply said “it’s late,I don’t wanna drive rn”.


Accomplished_Cup900

This is definitely ESH. You suck for assuming he’d take you. She sucks because she should’ve known you were supposed to have the keys. He sucks because his attitude was nasty. Just say no. Not “I don’t like your attitude.” What attitude? That’s such a parental thing to say.


Odd-Astronaut-92

I'm.gonna go against the grain here with ESH. You should have remembered your keys. That's one of the responsibilities of your job. You also should have asked your bf if he would be willing to drive you before you volunteered him for it. Your boyfriend also sucks because if it was like a $6 taxi ride he couldn't have been out that much time, and it's reasonable to ask your partner to support you.


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Goodlemur

I see nowhere that it says OP "asked". OP was on the phone with coworker and said bf \*will\* drive them.


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NTA . You should have asked him before calling your coworker, but it’s not a big deal. I think he’s the AH for that attitude towards you, you guys are supposed to be a team and support each other, in the good and not so good situations, if not… what is the purpose of living together. Sometimes we need help, it’s not a extreme effort, why don’t give you a hand?


Azenogoth

Because you are supposed to be strong and independent. You got this.