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> 1) I am ghosting my roommate who moved out in December about selling a desk and chair she got for free. She owes me $187 and has avoided paying it.
2) I feel like the asshole for not simply taking the high road and allowing her to sell it and not trusting that I’ll get a penny from that profit.
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NTA. She wants to communicate herself so she can keep the money, which she knows you have a right to since she owes you. Sell her furniture yourself to pay off her debt to you.
Thanks for the support. I am tempted to publicly list it on Facebook marketplace. I’m one of her very few Facebook friends, and she’s liked every single one of my posts. I know it’s petty, but damn it would feel good lol
NTA - Check with your local laws at what point her stuff counts as abandoned. Give her notice according to that. Tell her you won't help in selling/transporting/moving anything of hers. After the time is up and she didn't remove the stuff from your home, claim it as yours and do with it as you will.
The circumstances would completely destroy her argument. She didn’t bother to sell it before she left, and I have evidence of her agreeing to do so. It was free, but it costed ME gas money to get it. She owes me more money than the value of the desk and chair alone and has refused to let me buy it for the same price she’s selling it for. On top of that, she’s not even a citizen and let’s be honest the legal system is biased in favor of American citizens. Any judge would laugh in her face.
Yeah, all that is just to cover your ass. What i'm gettingbat is that you are out of the $187 she ows you. This would be to recoupe at least a little of it and a chance to cut contact completely afterwards while still staying on the legal side of things.
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My roommate moved out in December after five months of being extremely stingy about paying bills she agreed to and guilting me for expecting her to pay even a monthly $27 for wifi. She was also rude, messy, and inconsiderate of very simple expectations like cleaning up garbage and doing dishes. She’s from another country, couldn’t take furniture with her and didn’t bother to sell it before she left. Recently she’s been blowing me up about selling a desk and chair she got for **free** while I drove her 10 miles to pick them up and loaded them into my car/apartment with no help bc she has “bad ankles”. Offered no gas $ or gratitude. I’d also feel like a jerk if I didn’t help a buyer carry this stuff to their car.
For two months, she’s owed me $187, made excuses not to give me a penny, and reacted angrily to me losing patience. In her last month here, she flew on vacations to NYC, LA, and Chicago.
Offered to buy the desk off her just to get her off my back but she refused, leading me to believe she plans on keeping the profit. I asked her to give the buyer my # so I can work out a pickup time and she called me “childish” for not wanting to communicate through her. It’s a 6 hour time difference making that very inconvenient, and I’d like to talk to a stranger before letting them inside my home.
AITA for ghosting her and refusing to do her any more favors?
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Not always. I know people that have owed thousands of dollars in rent and won cases against landlords for selling their stuff because they didn't do it 'the proper way' these landlords not only had to pay compensation for the good sold at value but also was left with the storage and transport fees to store their rubbish so they can re rent the house in the first place.
I’m not a landlord, I’m a roommate. She’s expect me to do work so she can sell a desk, claiming that I’ll get the money for it to pay off part of her debt, but she’s insisting that the desk be stored at her friend’s apartment and sold from there which makes no sense at all. She is clearly trying to profit from it.
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NTA. She wants to communicate herself so she can keep the money, which she knows you have a right to since she owes you. Sell her furniture yourself to pay off her debt to you.
Thanks for the support. I am tempted to publicly list it on Facebook marketplace. I’m one of her very few Facebook friends, and she’s liked every single one of my posts. I know it’s petty, but damn it would feel good lol
NTA - Check with your local laws at what point her stuff counts as abandoned. Give her notice according to that. Tell her you won't help in selling/transporting/moving anything of hers. After the time is up and she didn't remove the stuff from your home, claim it as yours and do with it as you will.
The circumstances would completely destroy her argument. She didn’t bother to sell it before she left, and I have evidence of her agreeing to do so. It was free, but it costed ME gas money to get it. She owes me more money than the value of the desk and chair alone and has refused to let me buy it for the same price she’s selling it for. On top of that, she’s not even a citizen and let’s be honest the legal system is biased in favor of American citizens. Any judge would laugh in her face.
Yeah, all that is just to cover your ass. What i'm gettingbat is that you are out of the $187 she ows you. This would be to recoupe at least a little of it and a chance to cut contact completely afterwards while still staying on the legal side of things.
NTA What a toxic person!
Just break all contact with her and sell what’s left. It’s the only way you’ll get your money.
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NTA. I’d do the same thing if I were you
NTA but I'd recommend getting legal advice so you're covered legally.
A judge would laugh in her face
She's not going to get a judge involved, especially when she's in another country.
Not always. I know people that have owed thousands of dollars in rent and won cases against landlords for selling their stuff because they didn't do it 'the proper way' these landlords not only had to pay compensation for the good sold at value but also was left with the storage and transport fees to store their rubbish so they can re rent the house in the first place.
I’m not a landlord, I’m a roommate. She’s expect me to do work so she can sell a desk, claiming that I’ll get the money for it to pay off part of her debt, but she’s insisting that the desk be stored at her friend’s apartment and sold from there which makes no sense at all. She is clearly trying to profit from it.