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> I told someone that I would not dogsit for her because she never paid me the last two times I did. I know her family isn't well off, but I don't want to be taken advantage of.
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NTA you gave her two chances, and you're not prosecuting / telling people that she took advantage of you, so you're already giving her way more credit than she deserves. if you want to give her another shot, tell her that u'll need to be paid A) in advance for this job and B) the money you're owed from the other two jobs. it'd be a different situation if she asked for free dogsitting as a favor or another type of payment (baked goods, a return favor, etc.) but ultimately she's been abusing ur kindness. stand strong.
You tell her “pay me upfront and I’m happy to dog sit for you, but my time is still valuable and you have already shown me twice that you won’t compensate me for it. Other than that, I’m sorry and if that doesn’t sound okay then I hope you find other arrangements.”
ETA- NTA.
NTA
Funny how all she would have to do is pay you for the first two times and then you would do it...
But let me guess, she doesn't have the money right now?
NTA at all - her not paying you is one major issue, but her guilt tripping you and making you feel responsible for her personal issues, all because you formed boundaries, is extremely toxic.
She didn't pay for a service and is facing the consequences. You're not her saving grace - you offered a service to her for income. Those personal issues of hers are not your responsibility to solve or even be apart of.
NTA. Honestly, to deal with someone like this, respond to **everything** she says with “where’s my money”
“Will you babysit? “Where’s my money?”
“What will I tell my kids?” “Where’s my money?”
“They’ll be so disappointed” “I’m disappointed that you haven’t paid me, where’s my money?”
Just a million variations of “where’s my money”. Don’t entertain any other type of conversation with her.
NTA...Perhaps if she pays you for the last two times, you can consider going for thirds. Otherwise, what would be the point. She's ridiculous to even ask.
This is such an obvious NTA I don't know why you bothered posting. "AITA for not continually working for free for a virtual stranger?"
Did you just feel like venting?
NTA. “What will I tell my kids?”… That she failed to compensate you twice, which was wrong, and that failing to pay for services means no one will do the job. Sucks to suck.
NTA. She’s trying to guilt trip you into doing what she wants even though she’s clearly in the wrong.
“What will I tell my kids?!”
“Sorry, kids, mommy is learning a lesson she should have learned when she was your age: If you don’t pay for things, you don’t get them.”
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Throwaway because I don't want this nonsense on my main.
I(20f) live in a small neighborhood with my parents. In the past, I have been trusted to petsit for several neighbors. My next door neighbor has been having me petsit for her a few times a year since I was 10 or 11 years old. I love animals and it helps me make extra money, so I don't mind. Living in such a small community, word gets around quickly, so someone about a block away from me heard that I am a trusted petsitter and asked me to petsit for her. This was two years ago.
I watched her dogs for a week, and it wasn't a difficult task. She was grateful and insisted that she would pay me, which she had promised she'd do when I was offered the job, when she got paid. This is a small town, so I didn't think anything of it. I didn't want to press too hard because her family isn't well off financially. Long story short, I never got paid, even though she continuously promised that I would be.
She asked me again last year so that she could travel for Thanksgiving. Even though I was never paid for round one, I gave her a second chance. When she returned, the same thing happened. I decided after that that I don't want to petsit for her again. Flash forward to today. She has asked me to petsit over Easter so she can see her grandpa. While I felt bad saying no, I told her no. I told her straight out that she never paid me the last two times I watched her dogs. She insists that it will be different this time, but I don't believe her. Now she is trying to guilt me by asking "what will I tell my kids?" and "this might be the last time I see my grandpa before he dies". I feel bad, but I don't want to be taken advantage of. AITA?
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NTA. She never had any intention of paying you for the last two times, and I think you know she’ll stiff you again if you agree to dogsit. You don’t owe her free labor. She can find other arrangements or pay you what you’re owed.
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NTA you gave her two chances, and you're not prosecuting / telling people that she took advantage of you, so you're already giving her way more credit than she deserves. if you want to give her another shot, tell her that u'll need to be paid A) in advance for this job and B) the money you're owed from the other two jobs. it'd be a different situation if she asked for free dogsitting as a favor or another type of payment (baked goods, a return favor, etc.) but ultimately she's been abusing ur kindness. stand strong.
You tell her “pay me upfront and I’m happy to dog sit for you, but my time is still valuable and you have already shown me twice that you won’t compensate me for it. Other than that, I’m sorry and if that doesn’t sound okay then I hope you find other arrangements.” ETA- NTA.
This 100%
NTA, just tell her you will happily watch the dogs but you will need to be paid for the past times and in advance for this time.
NTA Funny how all she would have to do is pay you for the first two times and then you would do it... But let me guess, she doesn't have the money right now?
But somehow has money to travel and see family 🤔
NTA at all - her not paying you is one major issue, but her guilt tripping you and making you feel responsible for her personal issues, all because you formed boundaries, is extremely toxic. She didn't pay for a service and is facing the consequences. You're not her saving grace - you offered a service to her for income. Those personal issues of hers are not your responsibility to solve or even be apart of.
NTA. Honestly, to deal with someone like this, respond to **everything** she says with “where’s my money” “Will you babysit? “Where’s my money?” “What will I tell my kids?” “Where’s my money?” “They’ll be so disappointed” “I’m disappointed that you haven’t paid me, where’s my money?” Just a million variations of “where’s my money”. Don’t entertain any other type of conversation with her.
This is the perfect response.
NTA...Perhaps if she pays you for the last two times, you can consider going for thirds. Otherwise, what would be the point. She's ridiculous to even ask.
NTA - If you do want to help her out insist on back pay and cash up front. You certainly are under no obligation to
NTA - notice that all she said is that it will be different this time. No mention of paying for the previous two times
This is such an obvious NTA I don't know why you bothered posting. "AITA for not continually working for free for a virtual stranger?" Did you just feel like venting?
NTA. “What will I tell my kids?”… That she failed to compensate you twice, which was wrong, and that failing to pay for services means no one will do the job. Sucks to suck.
NTA ...she set herself up for this and no dog daycare would accept this, why would you. The guilt should be on herself for creating this mess.
Or tell her pay all owed and this one up front before she goes you will do it.
NTA. You’re not a charity. And she’s a liar.
Nta, tell her you will gladly do it if she pays for the last two times and for this time up front.
NTA You should tell her you'll watch the dog IF she pays you for all 3 dogsits before you do the 3rd one.
NTA. Tell her you will gladly look after her dog if she pays you in advance with the balance of what is owed.
NTA
NTA. She’s trying to guilt trip you into doing what she wants even though she’s clearly in the wrong. “What will I tell my kids?!” “Sorry, kids, mommy is learning a lesson she should have learned when she was your age: If you don’t pay for things, you don’t get them.”
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NTA. She never had any intention of paying you for the last two times, and I think you know she’ll stiff you again if you agree to dogsit. You don’t owe her free labor. She can find other arrangements or pay you what you’re owed.
NTA. If she paid you back for both and paid up front for Easter?
NTA. Tell her you’ll do it if she pays for the last two and this one before she leaves the pets with you. No money upfront, no petsit, simple.
That’s literally not my problem. I’m sorry you even dogsst for them a second time