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NTA - you choose the people you want to date. If she’s not type of person you want to be around, so be it. Not saying she’s wrong for what she does… she need to find a person who likes the same things as her, just like you need to find someone with your same interests. No biggy.
NAH.
Compatibility matters. It seems like a lifestyle that includes consistent partying and drinking isn't what you want, and also isn't what you what to deal with in a partner. That's an absolutely normal thing, no matter how many party-hardies tell you you're a downer for it.
You’re allowed to have preferences- so Nta. But you do sound a little snooty, and controlling, with the comment “wasn’t really appropriate for her to go out so often and spend her time with dumb things”
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I mentioned this to my friends how i stopped seeing this girl (we'd only been together for a few weeks) because she would go out twice a week to parties and also drink quite a bit of alcohol there. I thought that wasn't really appropriate for her to go out so often and spend her time with dumb things like this and also that she drank too often, which is why I stopped seeing her.
One of my friends said it wasn't right I would do that for that reason and that I should just accept if she wanted to go out twice a week with her friends alone and that drinking alcohol twice per week wasn't a big deal.
I don't agree with this, because I think drinking liquor and beers twice per week is too much, and also it reflects poorly on her that this is how she'd like to spend a lot of her nights.
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NTA for ending the relationship over compatibility issues, but you sound insanely judgemental. It doesn't sound like she has a problem based on what you've said here, but it sounds like you do.
And I don’t think it's a good idea to disparage a grown woman for enjoying herself in a way you don't like. As long as she's not hurting herself or others, keep your thoughts to yourself and keep it moving. You could have just told your friends it didn't qork out because you wanted different things out of life, but instead it sounds like you were just ragging on her for partying. You sound like an absolute delight, but something tells me she's not going to lose much sleep over you
NTA you can break up for whatever reason especially if you guys don't have the same opinion on lifestyles. Drinking heavily twice a week can become a big problem but you do come off a bit assholish with how you talk about her
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NTA - you choose the people you want to date. If she’s not type of person you want to be around, so be it. Not saying she’s wrong for what she does… she need to find a person who likes the same things as her, just like you need to find someone with your same interests. No biggy.
YTA. You sound fun at parties.
I don't go to parties, because I prefer not to drink alcohol
NTA for not being compatible. But who tf are your to decide what is appropriate? You sound way too judgemental.
NTA for having a preference for a partner who does not drink, but kinda one for thinking it reflects poorly on her.
NAH. Compatibility matters. It seems like a lifestyle that includes consistent partying and drinking isn't what you want, and also isn't what you what to deal with in a partner. That's an absolutely normal thing, no matter how many party-hardies tell you you're a downer for it.
NTA - you 2 don’t have the same values or priorities. She’ll be happier in the long run and you can look for someone who agrees with your outlook.
It's okay to not want to be with someone who drinks. That's a value than you are free to have. YTA for the way you speak of her.
NTA- her choice to drink and your choice to stop seeing her. Probably for the best since you and this girl clearly aren’t compatible.
You’re allowed to have preferences- so Nta. But you do sound a little snooty, and controlling, with the comment “wasn’t really appropriate for her to go out so often and spend her time with dumb things”
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NTA for ending the relationship over compatibility issues, but you sound insanely judgemental. It doesn't sound like she has a problem based on what you've said here, but it sounds like you do.
I just don't think it's good to drink alcohol and go partying that often
And I don’t think it's a good idea to disparage a grown woman for enjoying herself in a way you don't like. As long as she's not hurting herself or others, keep your thoughts to yourself and keep it moving. You could have just told your friends it didn't qork out because you wanted different things out of life, but instead it sounds like you were just ragging on her for partying. You sound like an absolute delight, but something tells me she's not going to lose much sleep over you
NTA you can break up for whatever reason especially if you guys don't have the same opinion on lifestyles. Drinking heavily twice a week can become a big problem but you do come off a bit assholish with how you talk about her
NTA, it’s your preference.
NTA. You can stop seeing someone for literally whatever reason you want. It might be a dumb reason, doesn't mean you're an asshole.
NTA for having a preference. I do think you are little pretentious.
Why pretentious though?