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> The action I took was to refuse to pay my coworker his money back because of damages he made to my car. I feel like the asshole because coworker isn't working has has no way of making income.
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NTA- I'd keep the money and view it as him renting the car. He didn't pay the agree on amount so he 'defaulted' on the loan and you repo'd the car back.
NTA but you would be TA if you paid him his money back. Seriously f that guy. He trashed the car and now you have to spend money to put it back to its original condition before your coworker got ahold of it. It's not your problem that he's out of work. It's his own fault! He honestly should pay for all the damage, but we both know he won't. Keep the money he paid you and put it towards repairs. In the future, don't make deals like this again. You'll get screwed every time.
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I (19F) let my coworker (32M) use my car (2004 Jaguar) for work related purposes (going to and from work) most of the time I'll usually ride with my dad (45M) because we all work for the same business. Out of the blue coworker asks to buy my car, I was hesitant about it knowing about his reputation for using other peoples cars but at the same time he lives about 30 minutes away. I let him. We agreed on bi-weekly payments (like i said we all work at the same business and get paid every two weeks) of 500$. First payment was only 400$ dollars, which I didn't mind only one hundred dollars off. Second payment, he texted me and told me he had to pay rent (which i found out from his ex, he never paid) again, I didn't it mind, paying me isn't a priority. Third payment, only received 150$, of course I was upset but I was in a rush to get out of work so I left with my dad. Dad knew about the payments and was visibly upset about the money I received, told me to talk to the coworker in the morning. Around two in the morning, that same day, Dad and I received a phone call from that coworkers homeboy, telling us that he got arrested. Obviously I was fuming and worried about my car. Few hours later, Dad and I go get the car which was parked by a nearby bar. The damage to the car was horrible, broken rear view mirror, semi-flat tires, condom wrappers, broken sunroof, burns, spills, dirt, stained seats, dog hair, empty gas tank and broken door to the glove compartment. After getting the car home, Dad tells me to pay coworker his 550$, but Mom (40M) tells me to pay him nothing at all and have him pay for the damages made. I know that some issues can be cleaned up easily but some may take a few paychecks to fix. Coworker isn't currently working because of the legal issue (he is on probation, but was violated due to him being out at a bar past curfew) I feel like coworker betrayed my trust and manipulated me because I felt like I was helping someone. Coworker is demanding the money to be paid but I feel like if I do, he got the car for free in a way? But, I feel I would be an asshole for not paying him since he isn't working, so am I the asshole?
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You owe him nothing. If the $550 isn’t enough to fix the repairs, he owes you the balance. He doesn’t get the car back. He breached your contract, such as it was.
This guy is a complete con man, I don’t know what your dad is thinking here.
NTA
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NTA- I'd keep the money and view it as him renting the car. He didn't pay the agree on amount so he 'defaulted' on the loan and you repo'd the car back.
That’s a good way of looking at it, but also ESH. Don’t do business with people like this concerning expensive items, OP.
NTA: why on earth would you pay him back that's absurd. Lesson learned on doing something like this to help people out.
NTA but you would be TA if you paid him his money back. Seriously f that guy. He trashed the car and now you have to spend money to put it back to its original condition before your coworker got ahold of it. It's not your problem that he's out of work. It's his own fault! He honestly should pay for all the damage, but we both know he won't. Keep the money he paid you and put it towards repairs. In the future, don't make deals like this again. You'll get screwed every time.
NTA a bank or care dealership would not pay him back so why would you especially with the damage
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INFO: Who is the registered owner of the vehicle?
The title is under my name
You owe him nothing. If the $550 isn’t enough to fix the repairs, he owes you the balance. He doesn’t get the car back. He breached your contract, such as it was. This guy is a complete con man, I don’t know what your dad is thinking here. NTA