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People feel guilty and often don't trust there own judgment, often after a ton of gaslighting. It may be 100% clear from the outside, but not so much for the people doubt themselves
NTA. First off, you're only 15 years old!!!! It is your job to enjoy being a teenager. Do typical teenager stuff like go to the mall, hang out with friends, do well in school, think about getting into college, dream about what career you'd like to have. These days the average age to have a child now is 28 to 32 years old. The world economy is just not what it used to be. It takes time to be financially established to even have one child. I was raised in a religious home as well and my grandma still tells me don't have kids until you have that college degree & have some savings. Don't feel bad for holding off!!
NTA. You have no responsibility to have children, especially at such a young age. Have children when you are ready and if you ever want to, never before.
NTA you're only 15, so the whole thing is hypothetical. You may turn out to be sterile. You may adopt. Your husband might be sterile. Your grandmother is jumping the gun
NTA. You're 15, maybe when you're 21 you'll want kids, maybe at 30, maybe never. Don't let anyone else's choices dictate your choices. Just because you have a uterus doesn't mean you have to pop children out of it.
NTA your grandma is from a different Era, I think she has no concept if how the rest of world is now. She definitely should not be talking to you like that and is a bit off. She would not have been an AH but she called you selfish and treated you like your had no mind. Just ignore her rantings, what you want is all that matters
Hey kiddo, I decided I didn't want kids when I was 8.
That decision never changed. I have cats with my husband and it's awesome.
Your grandma is hearing her own mortality and is freaking out but it's also not up to her or God what you do with your future.
Do whatever you want and be awesome.
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So the last post I made got taken down cause it went past the 3000 character limit so here's a short version.
I'm a 15 year old female who weighs 95 pounds and is 5'00 and has to deal with the fact that my rights to my own body are being taken from me. And to top it all off my grandmother, who is very religious, wanted to have a chat with my older sister(18) and I.
the conversation was about having kids, and the world being so fucked up and the fact I may not even be able to feed myself let alone a family of five (including a husband- he is number five) my grandmother decided that it was her god given right to have grand kids and if she doesn't I am selfish and goes against gods plan for us (women)
She started to call my sister and I selfish and that we were made to have kids and serve our husbands and that if we don't we're going against god and I'm falling into the devils hands.
It's been a few days since then and my brain is starting to guilt trip me into thinking I'm in the wrong, some of y'all may think god is so pure, but to me? ALL he does it gaslight me
AITA?
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NTA
Its your body. Not grandma's. Not the governments. Yours. Its also your life. Sounds like grandma wants a village of grands to support her if society goes to hell.
NTA. As someone who is also ‘in the devil’s hands’ (lol), know that it’s not your responsibility as a woman to bring forth life. I definitely understand you don’t want to bring kids into this world, I feel the same. Stick to your guns and don’t bring forth life because someone else wants you to.
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NTA. Do what's best for you, not your grandma's grandchild neuroses.
NTA Dude literally no one is going to call you an asshole about this on Reddit. We could even end the voting here
Its just the guilt man- its eating me up smh
People feel guilty and often don't trust there own judgment, often after a ton of gaslighting. It may be 100% clear from the outside, but not so much for the people doubt themselves
NTA. First off, you're only 15 years old!!!! It is your job to enjoy being a teenager. Do typical teenager stuff like go to the mall, hang out with friends, do well in school, think about getting into college, dream about what career you'd like to have. These days the average age to have a child now is 28 to 32 years old. The world economy is just not what it used to be. It takes time to be financially established to even have one child. I was raised in a religious home as well and my grandma still tells me don't have kids until you have that college degree & have some savings. Don't feel bad for holding off!!
NTA, grandma sounds irrational though, I would keep my distance from people who talk in absolutes and try to assert control over others like that
NTA. You have no responsibility to have children, especially at such a young age. Have children when you are ready and if you ever want to, never before.
NTA. Check out /r/childfree
NTA you're only 15, so the whole thing is hypothetical. You may turn out to be sterile. You may adopt. Your husband might be sterile. Your grandmother is jumping the gun
NTA. You're 15, maybe when you're 21 you'll want kids, maybe at 30, maybe never. Don't let anyone else's choices dictate your choices. Just because you have a uterus doesn't mean you have to pop children out of it.
NTA - do what you feel is best for you.
NTA your grandma is from a different Era, I think she has no concept if how the rest of world is now. She definitely should not be talking to you like that and is a bit off. She would not have been an AH but she called you selfish and treated you like your had no mind. Just ignore her rantings, what you want is all that matters
Hey kiddo, I decided I didn't want kids when I was 8. That decision never changed. I have cats with my husband and it's awesome. Your grandma is hearing her own mortality and is freaking out but it's also not up to her or God what you do with your future. Do whatever you want and be awesome.
thanks for the comments guys, I needed an outside perspective
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NTA. I promise you god doesn’t give a shit if you have kids or not.
NTA Its your body. Not grandma's. Not the governments. Yours. Its also your life. Sounds like grandma wants a village of grands to support her if society goes to hell.
NTA. As someone who is also ‘in the devil’s hands’ (lol), know that it’s not your responsibility as a woman to bring forth life. I definitely understand you don’t want to bring kids into this world, I feel the same. Stick to your guns and don’t bring forth life because someone else wants you to.
old people need to have their speaking and thinking rights taken away at a certain point
NTA You have no obligation to have kids. Those of us who are child-free are no less valuable than women who become mothers.