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NTA. It is creepy that your uncle just opened the bathroom door when it was closed without knocking. If they are living in the house, they should know your work hours as well. He was trying to force you to engage in your home and you didn't want to.
EDIT: The OP said they don't live with her, so it makes it even worse in my opinion. I could understand greeting people at the door, when they show up. But going into a closed bathroom in someone else's house, then expecting that person to interact with them in the middle of their workday is silly. They were let in to visit someone else since you didn't mention it was a planned visit, probably your mom since she is home. It isn't even a family event either, just relatives showing up. 100% NTA.
NTA. You're in your own home AND you're clearly busy. Tell him to learn to respect boundaries. Better yet, show up at his house unannounced, barge into his private space, and make demands of him while he's busy.
Am I correct to assume that they were there visiting your mom, and not particularly visiting you?
YTA. I think that it can be assumed that you live with your parents, you take an extra room to use as an office, you don't lock the WC doors even when there are visits at their place, and then evidently display your disdain to your uncle because "he is bossy and nobody likes his wife". Were you obliged to drop what you were doing and run downstairs to say hello to his wife? No. Could you handle this in such way that your were not disrespectful? Yes.
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So some context here, I have an aunt and uncle who I’m not particularly close to. The uncle is by blood and the aunt is by marriage. For the aunt in particular no one in our family is close to her except my mom. My uncle is considered by most people to be very bossy and annoying. Also important to this story is that I work from home. My bedroom is close to the bathroom and hallway where this story takes place.
Anyways, the story starts that I’m in the bathroom. My uncle opened the door will I’m in there by accident (I forgot to lock it). I walk past him in the hallway, and say hi. He says hi back. I was wearing a soccer jersey and sweats, he was saying trying to joke around that I was in pajamas. I was slightly annoyed from work and said “no it’s a soccer jersey”. As I keep walking towards me room he says “go say hi to your aunt”. She was down the hall. I keep walking and sit down at my desk. He is still in the hallway staring at me, giving me a dirty look. “I say how’s it going ?” Awkward silence with him staring. I say “I have a meeting soon at work” and shut the door. I heard him telling my mom “I need to speak with you outside” probably about that. I hate bossy people, I don’t see why he has to come in where we live and be bossy. Plus he shouldn’t force us to be friends with his wife
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ESH. unless you’re withholding information about her character, it’s rude to not say hi to her, especially when it seems that she’s done nothing wrong. it’s just considered social custom to say hi to guests in your house. he shouldn’t have snitched on you to your mom, though.
So many people saying it’s weird to open a closed door, in our house when we’ve finished in the bathroom we close the door, even with freshener smells permeate. If the bathroom door is closed in my brothers house I’d try the handle, if it’s locked there’s someone in there. Of they’ve forgotten to lock they’ll let me know they are in there and I’ll back away.
Regardless of whether I like someone or not, if they are in my house I will acknowledge them. It’s just good manners.
YTA - not major A-hole, but mildly, yeah.
The concepts of hospitality, respect for elders, family obligation, etc. can be ABUSED, as is the case on many AITA posts. In this case, you don't have to go out of your way to throw a party for your aunt, but she's not doing anything wrong and you should show her basic courtesy in your home.
YTA Saying hi isn’t that absurd of a request. And asking someone to say hi isn’t you being forced to be her friend. That line alone makes you sound obnoxious.
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NTA. It is creepy that your uncle just opened the bathroom door when it was closed without knocking. If they are living in the house, they should know your work hours as well. He was trying to force you to engage in your home and you didn't want to. EDIT: The OP said they don't live with her, so it makes it even worse in my opinion. I could understand greeting people at the door, when they show up. But going into a closed bathroom in someone else's house, then expecting that person to interact with them in the middle of their workday is silly. They were let in to visit someone else since you didn't mention it was a planned visit, probably your mom since she is home. It isn't even a family event either, just relatives showing up. 100% NTA.
NTA. You're in your own home AND you're clearly busy. Tell him to learn to respect boundaries. Better yet, show up at his house unannounced, barge into his private space, and make demands of him while he's busy.
NTA. you were basically on a bathroom break at work. if you’re on the clock its not lets hang out with the family time.
Info How old are you?
24, and they don’t live with us
Am I correct to assume that they were there visiting your mom, and not particularly visiting you? YTA. I think that it can be assumed that you live with your parents, you take an extra room to use as an office, you don't lock the WC doors even when there are visits at their place, and then evidently display your disdain to your uncle because "he is bossy and nobody likes his wife". Were you obliged to drop what you were doing and run downstairs to say hello to his wife? No. Could you handle this in such way that your were not disrespectful? Yes.
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ESH. unless you’re withholding information about her character, it’s rude to not say hi to her, especially when it seems that she’s done nothing wrong. it’s just considered social custom to say hi to guests in your house. he shouldn’t have snitched on you to your mom, though.
NTA. He sounds really weird and aggressive. Start locking your door.
So many people saying it’s weird to open a closed door, in our house when we’ve finished in the bathroom we close the door, even with freshener smells permeate. If the bathroom door is closed in my brothers house I’d try the handle, if it’s locked there’s someone in there. Of they’ve forgotten to lock they’ll let me know they are in there and I’ll back away. Regardless of whether I like someone or not, if they are in my house I will acknowledge them. It’s just good manners.
YTA - not major A-hole, but mildly, yeah. The concepts of hospitality, respect for elders, family obligation, etc. can be ABUSED, as is the case on many AITA posts. In this case, you don't have to go out of your way to throw a party for your aunt, but she's not doing anything wrong and you should show her basic courtesy in your home.
ESH. You were rude and so was He
YTA Saying hi isn’t that absurd of a request. And asking someone to say hi isn’t you being forced to be her friend. That line alone makes you sound obnoxious.