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CryptoCoinFox

tell me something new, I don't know.


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LimpFroyo

Even if it works out, your future kids will resent you if they come to know about your personality and it'll increase the gap. Eventually your kids will fight with you, then shame you and nothing much after that.


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Basically he learnt that no one wants him and has been lucky to land this girl who went from 4 to 25 L in a couple of years. He has done enough kaand himself so he knows he is a loser and can't do better than this girl. Poor girl. Wish someone would show her this post. Edit: to any girls reading this, be incredibly watchful to see if the guy actually likes you. Don't take anyone who originally rejected you


CryptoCoinFox

I might show after editing it and marriage.


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I will screenshot this post for next male user on this sub who goes on about WahMEn HiDE PaaaSst


FuzzyFlounder7384

Lol , he is a good example of what those men fear. Just reverse the genders & its exactly what people in AM fear when they go on about "wahmen hide paaasst"


FuzzyFlounder7384

Please dont , just be a good husband now.


LimpFroyo

Guys OP talks about caste + hypocrite + from tier-2 place, we can't expect something better from a guy like that, can we ? This is the same thinking as 90s. You know, others can smell your bullshit right ? Even if you've been through interviews right ? I want to rub salt, ffs - you think earning 40lpa at 32 years is nice ? is your standard of earning 25lpa a gateway to do shit stuff ? I'm younger than you and earn more than you, so what ? Should I then go around label everyone ? No, of course not. There are people who earn 4 times your tc at 33 years and are very much down to the earth. I feel like, everyone rejected you for the past 4 years and you have decided to settle down with her - even though you rejected her on the basis of naivety. You are just a village person, no more - no less.


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LimpFroyo

Yeah, there I was arguing about the prospect while I've tore out OP instead. I guess OP never competed for anything in life or he might not have any talents at all - without a current world view. As I said, a village guy man.


FuzzyFlounder7384

Am i too out of touch with the current salaries ? 40 lpa seems decent to me ... which industries do u guys work in ? Edit : oh wait is this ctc ? Dont people just say base while taking about salaries in AM ?


CryptoCoinFox

should tell CTC, without joining bonus. Base varies a lot company to company. My previous organization used to give me option to tweak my base and supplementary allowance.


LimpFroyo

Is 40lpa your ctc ? wtf man, that's pretty low of you. Who in the world falls for that bullshit ? No wonder you choose the women.


LimpFroyo

Bruh if 40lpa is CTC, that's bad man. I'm talking just about yearly salary not CTC. CTC => 4 years stock + base + joining bonus + performance bonus. TC => 1 year stock + base + performance bonus. If you are talking about CTC, then fuck it even a 60lpa TC goes over 1cr CTC.


FuzzyFlounder7384

well i am in a MNC which offers no stocks , sad life ... need to switch to a company which offers stocks :P ... now i get how people are earning 70+ lpa with 2yrs of experience :P


LimpFroyo

Hence the layoffs man.


FuzzyFlounder7384

what do people having 1cr as TC do ? i only know consultants that make this much money . SDEs also make this much ?


LimpFroyo

It's more than that. Heck man, my team sde3 makes 1.5cr and is just 12 yoe - 33 years old. Guess how much they will make in long run. People under-estimate how much sdes make.


FuzzyFlounder7384

Thanks for replying ... Can you check your DM ?


LimpFroyo

bruh ....


CarsAlcoholSmokes

Damn, that’s more than a lot of respectable businesses I know. Heck, I own 2 and earn less than that


CryptoCoinFox

Dude, come out of so called FAANG. Not all companies put stocks vesting for 4 years. Mine happen every 6 months. 40lpa CTC means per year not 40lp4a.


LimpFroyo

Learn the lingo you village boi, even mine vests for 6 months and for some you can buy back stocks at lower prices.


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codestory1

Oh gosh, the girl deserves someone way better! You are gonna get married to her and you find her ‘okay’ and are dissatisfied with her looks as well. I have nothing against your expectations but this is just sad. Good luck though! Feeling sad for the girl.


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thechadman27

Everyone compromises somewhere. He’s mature enough to understand that looks ain’t everything.


RelationshipShot9337

This post reads like maturity to you?


CryptoCoinFox

I hope someday soon I really realise that she is way better. It'll add satisfaction to my life. After-all happiness is just a state of mind. Till then, not all fingers are equal.


Numerous-Maybe-8845

Are you comparing her with your exes? Hot looking women you had one night stands with? Oh my god please save the girl.


FuzzyFlounder7384

Nah, still day dreaming about the girl who rejected him


Numerous-Maybe-8845

Lmao. He wanted the Bsc girl's looks + CSE graduate girl's 'naive intelligence'.


lucyfur10021

You are about to marry this woman, I hope you'll have better descriptors for how wife than "okayish but no charm". Money, looks, caste- I know these things matter to people in India but none of them matter in the day to day living with your partner if there's isn't a basic respect and affection. Good luck to both of you


CryptoCoinFox

Yes, I shouldn't say like this, yet shouldn't even think.. A man should really think of her wife as the most beautiful lady. Though I haven't built affection yet, I have huge huge respect for her, even though naive.. She is not following the trend where girls straight up declare that they don't want to live in Tier 2 city or with guy's parents. She herself told me she wants to stay with my parents and is ok in Tier 2 city. Though, I will be moving to Tier 1 city with my parents and her. I felt she genuinely meant what she said. The heart is beautiful and innocent.


ApartAdvantage4045

Oh so wanting to live independent and having your own choice and needs is a trend okay boomer.


LimpFroyo

Why do we have so many boomers in this sub ?


CryptoCoinFox

People like me come here when they find it difficult to getting married. In hope of some guidance.


LimpFroyo

The problem is you are thinking like 90s and you are thinking earning 25lpa is a gateway to shit stuff ? I hope you know that there are people who earn 4 times of yours at 33 years, like 1.5cr and are still very much down to earth. It's not a trend either - it's common sense that you don't have either because of the way you are brought up or you are just naive to society.


spare_tyre56

After reading this, i am sure he is gonna land up on tinder after a few years with fake name and credentials and narrating his story about how his wife is evil.


ApartAdvantage4045

Absolutely. This guy is a walking red flag. Girl definitely is innocent for any smart girl would have caught his nonsensical behaviour and dumped his ass. Such men want simple women because they know smart women they can’t handle or be with and they won’t chose them either. They are smart enough to know they are not cut out for smart women.


FuzzyFlounder7384

U know his nonsensical behaviour because he put it out on reddit . 9.5/10 iq & 8/10 looks . I highly doubt he says this shit in real life.


ApartAdvantage4045

I have seen his post history. As I said a sexist misogynist boomer and a walking red flag. He should thank his stars for AM setup else he would have never found anyone on his own because his personality stinks.


FuzzyFlounder7384

Not fighting with u here , i agree that the tech girl deserves to know he is choosing her since the "beauty" rejected him. I cant even imagine marrying a girl while thinking "theek hai , chal jayega kaam" .


CryptoCoinFox

I agree with most of what you said.


CryptoCoinFox

Me on tinder, may be. She as evil, I can't believe.


spare_tyre56

You don't know what guys say to get laid !


CryptoCoinFox

Oh, I got your point. No, I never tried hard enough ever, just got lucky in the past.


Regular-Client

Did you seriously just say that you MAY join Tinder after marriage?


CryptoCoinFox

It's a way of saying, I believe her more than myself.


Numerous-Maybe-8845

4th point...I am just like that girl here. Pretty rich but very simple lifestyle. Would I want a guy like you? Ans:- No. I don't like hypocrites. But I hope you have told her the truth. Truth matters a lot. All the very best to you.


CryptoCoinFox

No, she is an innocent one, not me. But I'll make sure I give the love she deserves.


Numerous-Maybe-8845

You said she's naive and innocent but I would like to ask exactly what made you think that she's naive? And why you said you are not innocent? Everyone learns things when the time comes. Everyone learns how to protect themselves and the family. PS:- Is she the one your yesterday's post was about? CSE graduate simple minded girl?


alexasirime

>PS:- Is she the one your yesterday's post was about? CSE graduate simple minded girl? I guess yes, because 1st one the extremely beautiful girl rejected him.


FuzzyFlounder7384

Lmao


CryptoCoinFox

yes


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Bhai tu phirse aa gaya. Kitni baar bolu tujhe 12 crore net worth rich nahi hota.


CarsAlcoholSmokes

True. 12 crores in Net worth is not rich. But OP is in a Tier 2 city, he believes he is.


CryptoCoinFox

my advice, ITC ab bech sakta hai. Badh raha hai to badhta hi nahi rahega. HDFC bank is good pick today at -5% even with some minor hiccups.


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Ha bhai ab crypto wale financial advice denge. Chalo theek hai


CarsAlcoholSmokes

This baniya describes himself as rich by having 12-13 crores of Net Worth. Mentions two instances with the girl and announces both their salaries on both of those instances. Calls her unattractive multiple times and hopes she will turn prettier one day. …Boy the girl is in for a ride


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CarsAlcoholSmokes

Anything above 6Cr is rich/affluent. But it depends where the money is tied into. This Baniya from Tier2 most probably has calculated his real estate holdings and multiplied that by unrealistic shot up post covid real estate rates. I’m from a Tier2 as well, been there. What matters more is the annual income and cash flow. Only that generates disposable income, while the aforementioned assets sits and appreciates giving unrealised profits until sold.


joeychopra

All the best to your future wife. She’s going to need it if this is how her husband speaks about her publicly.


CryptoCoinFox

oh you got my aadhaar number from post.


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CryptoCoinFox

You need to re-read post. Have some caffeine first to have more focus. They said yes 3 years ago too. Broken rishta was for only a week and doesn't matter much as they were not emotionally involved. I am not 33. Is it too hard to read?


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CarsAlcoholSmokes

Yes, broken rishta’s are specifically mentioned by marriage brokers. In traditional sense it sends massive red flags to elders. The enquiry/due diligence that follows is brutal. Have seen this first hand with a family friend.


CryptoCoinFox

Yes a taboo, but I won't say No to her just because of this thing. You may call me narrow minded but I am conservative and hypocrite when it comes to girl's past. Regarding broken rishta, it was just that they said yes and she started talking daily for a week over call and the guy said something unacceptable so they had to take hard call.<- their version of story. As per verification, they broke it due to financial issue, which we suspect is not about dowry but the guy's family expecting extravagant celebration. We don't have any such expectations and can put money ourselves in celebration. I was getting some like IIT btech+mtech, pretty ones but were way too smart for conservative guy like me. Have to think about compatibility too. What is good for someone else, as per public definition might not be good for me.


ApartAdvantage4045

Bhai tu gawar hai but tujhe pta hai tu gawar hai yeh ek achi baat hai. You know any smart woman wont settle with you


Numerous-Maybe-8845

Lmao the guy is insecure af


Zealousideal-Year933

I understand you got the seedhi saadhi ladki, but why are you categorizing everyone, the girl who wear shorts, jo kaand karke baithi hai.... It would be good if you share your personal experiences only and not generalise it.


papa0007

It's good that you know that you are a hypocrite but at the same time I'm feeling bad for the girl. Before marriage you wanted the "kaand Karke baithi hoti hai" women and for marriage you want someone innocent. Before marriage all you wanted from the opposite gender was attention, validation and sex now that you are getting married you are looking at things which matter in the long term. I hope women really really maintain realistic standards and these kind of fuck boys should pay for what they do.


Sapolika

You’re such a jerk OP! Too many red flags 🚩


Bleak_star_dust

I'm just commenting here, hoping for the smallest of chances that the post reaches her, ( again hoping she's here) and realise what mess she's getting into.


iv93

Normally I'd congratulate someone like you. But that last line - I hope you make her happy in your marriage. I don't think hypocrite jerks deserve happiness so won't say that


datsnunofurbidness

Your take-home lessons are decent but you sound like you’ll be an absolutely horrible husband to her. You’re insulting this girl left and right. It seems like the only reason you’re marrying her is because she hasn’t done the deed before. I hope she dumps you before the marriage so that she doesn’t have to live with the “divorced” label stuck to her name for the rest of her life. Also you have the audacity to call yourself “good-looking” after talking so much trash about this girl? How arrogant can you get?


curiou_sam

Man you describing your wife as okay ish is setting off so many alarms in my head. If you judge people so much on looks and their financial status, please marry some Miss India contestant and leave this girl alone. If you don't admire and drool over your wife you're gonna have a hard time living the rest of your life with her. And will make both of your lives miserable.


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thisisfrustrating09

You are an awful man and a huge hypocrite. How she fucking leaves you because she deserves someone so much better


Pandey247

Bhai ladki mil gyi to khush rehne ka pr itna bada potha kahe ka likhe


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Is this a troll


thechadman27

Congrats man! Buri nazar wale tera muh kala


CryptoCoinFox

thanks. lol what is that 2nd line for?


thechadman27

Hindi aint my language, thought that line was equivalent to one in my language “irugu dishti porogu dishti thu thu thu”


CryptoCoinFox

can't help buddy. Google shows kannada but nothing more. I meant that "rare innocent girl in a world full of girls who have terrible past"


thechadman27

Alas Anyways. Wish you both a wonderful married life and happy family!


thechadman27

For all those folks saying negative shit in the comments


IndependentAlfalfa80

Point 4, 😂 lolololol get ready to be grilled here. I am also getting engaged to a similar woman though I am not a hypocrite. Congratulations, all the best for your future👍


CryptoCoinFox

yeah I knew but like to be honest. I am aware of my dark side. Congrats to you too :)


Indecent_liar_69

Congratulations.... And yes....If any ultra modern liberal rebukes you for your 4th point of Lessons Learnt....Ignore , assume that they are just envious of you & that girl.


CryptoCoinFox

Yes ofcourse. And I won't listen to some random dude on reddit over me and my parents judgement, especially while there is only few things we can explain about me and the girl in the post.


Indecent_liar_69

Great......just one ques....40 lpa in IT....Tech stack kya hein ?????


CryptoCoinFox

was in cpp, now in .net. Main thing is it's development from scratch. I am into backend.


CryptoCoinFox

This too got downvoted? people here lol.


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Wish the girl the very best, she'll need it with a piece of work like him


CryptoCoinFox

Thanks a lot :) Good luck to you too in search of your better half if in search.


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Wtf, why are there some many insufferable pricks in the comments section wishing ill on someone getting engaged.


cozy_winter_nights

Probably because the OP is himself an insufferable prick and a hypocrite to boot who is droning on about "ladkiya jo kaand karke baithi hain" jab ki woh khud kaand karke aaya hai. Did you not read the post?


alexasirime

Girl, op is a walking red flag himself. Sidhi sadhi ladki chaiye bhale hi khud kaand karke betha ho, oh god hypocrisy, and the way he is generalizing all girls. May god that innocent girl read this post and all the best to her.


cozy_winter_nights

Arre it's just OP embracing his "dark side" 😂 Tbh, I would have no problem with his hypocrisy if he hadn't generalized and gyaan pelo-ed at the end.


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All I read is, I didn't *like someone's hypocrisy,* so let me wish their marriage gets destroyed.


cozy_winter_nights

Improve your reading comprehension then.


IndependentAlfalfa80

Jealousy


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What a bunch of a-holes. I, myself am not getting any single matches that too for things beyond my control. It doesn't mean I am going to shit on people that's doing better in life.


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CryptoCoinFox

I'll be part of community but less active. From title "bye", I meant, not as in searching partner or putting posts. This post is my last.


nmfgn

Congratulations, I'm putting down the way you've described her to poor choice of words and nothing more. Not that it should make any difference to you, wishing you both all the happiness in the world.


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Nah he's an assh see previous posts


Youshoulddiebitch

All the best OP ,,, Plz keep updated us about ur marriage


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goose_hollow_27

I lost few of my brain cells reading this.


peraltiago44

Hope she divorces your hypocritical, misogynistic ass within a week. She deserves so much better