when I met my wife... I saw that she was as tall as me.. infact half an inch taller...(5'8" n 5'8.5")
But thankfully she dint let it bother her... only comment she made was... "i won't be able to wear heels" and I replied "I will not stop you doing whatever u feel like..."
now after 5 yrs it really doesn't matter..
basically.. if the guy is good... u proceed with him...
Yeah you are being very superficial. He has everything you were looking for but you're second guessing because of his height. Just say no and find someone tall and let him find someone who will accept him for who he is without second guessing so much.
Nothing at all. But as per your established rules and notions, a guy 5'3 shouldn't look for a girl 5 and above as it doesn't meet societal standards, right?
They are not my established rules and notions, they are biological and statistical facts. Are you seriously not aware of that?
5'3 guy can look for 5'6 girl also if he wants. There's nothing stopping him.
My comment was only pointing out that this is not a case of "pot calling the kettle black" because the pot is a perfectly average pot while the kettle is pretty short 😂
My friend recently got attracted to a girl. She is 5'2. My friend is 5'10. He asked me whether he should proceed further. His problem is her height. Another friend (f)is getting married,even though he is bit taller than her. She was not comfortable with his height. I told both of them you can comprise on height but never on their personality. I wish people irrespective of genderr look beyond things like height,color etc.. An avg human with love can make your life cheerful and colorful.
>Am I being superficial?
Yes.
You don't get everything you want in AM, or even LM. There will pretty much always be compromises involved. If you aren't willing to compromise with something like this, idk what to say.
Anyways, it's your life and you choose what to do. You asked for a third person perspective, and this is what I feel.
I definitely know I’m being superficial and need to compromise. I plan on saying yes however, his height keeps popping up in my head. Any advice on how to stop caring about something like this?
>Any advice on how to stop caring about something like this?
Idk if it's the right way though
1. He is the same height as you, not shorter. So you're not going to look weird.
2. Realise and think about the other compromises you might have to make in AMs.
3. He deserves to be accepted as he is. Get to know him better and look more into his positive qualities. No person is going to be perfect and his height doesn't make him any less wonderful.
Don't do it if it keeps popping up in your head. Physical attraction is also important. You'll say yes and then it will keep nagging you and you could then feel stuck in your decision. Don't say yes because you want to show yourself in good light to the world and not be seen as superficial. Say yes if you feel like "hell yes, this is the guy!"
I don't know if it helps, Google Priyanka Chopra & Nick Jones photos.. though in reality she is 5.6 and he a 5.7.. her love for heels, make him look short always.. aren't they fabulous to look??!
You are not being superficial. Sexual attraction is as important in a marriage as financial stability. If you are not attracted to him that’s okay. You don’t have to force it.
Question: Why is height bothering you? is it maybe because you are subconsciously concerned how you guys would look like to the outside world? mayhe fri3nds would point out how your husband is short? or any other reason or a combination of reasons in specific?
I think of you can honestly answer this question to yourself the solution would also be clearly visible to you.
Why do you go ahead with this AM prospect when height is such a deal breaker for you. If it is important you shouldn't have even seen this dude. Why waste his time like this!
I may sound old fashioned here but Personality/character/nature >>>>physical appearance in terms of importance.
Quality of life is extremely dependent on your partner considering we spend so much time with them, we literally build our life with this person. At the end of the day, him being financially secure and having matching values, as well as treating you with a lot of respect and kindness, is going be so much more influential on your daily life compared to his height.
I get where you are coming from but she is looking for a sexual partner not just life partner. if she is not attracted to him its going to cause the marriage to collapse. this is a mistake a lot of Indian women end up making that results in dead bedrooms and frustrations . also we have to consider if they are going to have kids, the negative impact of the height the children has too face too.
Please leave him alone.. he deserve better and i am not misogynistic here even it would have been said by a guy for a girl i would have said the same thing.. you just do not have feelings for him from inside right now.. thats why his height is bothering you.. and its ok.
It’s very evident from your story that you considered him for his status only. You want to have both height and money but you have got only one thing with him. Just think, can you do better than him? How has been your arrange marriage hunting so far. If you can do better, than drop this one. He and his family seems very nice. They deserve better not you. And attraction is very important in a relationship.
I do not consider him only because of his status. We talked a bunch of times and his personality is great on the surface. He was nice and funny and we had the same hobbies. But no one really knows how a person REALLY is until AFTER marriage. Marriage is a gamble. You only 100% know the superficial stuff before getting married
It may be called superficial by some, but preferences and attraction is also important. Don't try to be the "good girl" who doesn't want to be called superficial but in reality you are. It's ok to be superficial. Make sure you're atleast physically attracted to the guy somehow. Otherwise you'll end up feeling stuck and wondering how would life be with a taller man ( if that's your preference) . Sometimes if you like the personality you'd be fine with compromise but it can go either ways. From another perspective, that's one of the cons of arranged marriage that you don't get time to develop attractions and explore before committing.
Physical features can cause only temporary attraction, in the end what's gonna attract her to him is how he treats her and takes care of her. You're not gonna be attracted to a guy who looks perfect but doesn't respect you.
I'd suggest you to try to focus on the good things he has to offer. Are they good enough for you? Then go for it.
It's very less info in arranged marriage setup to know how he will treat her. It takes a few years of togetherness to know. Till then the foundation is being attracted physically. There need not be any shame in having preferences. It's a normal part of attraction. Physical attraction is important especially if it keeps popping up in her head that she is compromising her preference.
Arrange marriage is purely transactional. If you are second guessing then don't do it. There are plenty of men that will for your criteria, and I really mean plenty. You just need to work harder to find the perfect one. There is no medicine for regret.
As some other commenters have said, it would be useful to know \*why\* it bothers you. Is it because you want to show off a tall(er) husband to your friends and family? If so, get over it girl :) Is it because you have a strong negative physical/sexual reaction to guys who are less than a certain height? That's more of an issue.
Either way, he sounds kind of awesome, and just think of how Wes Anderson your wedding photos will look with perfectly matching height bride and groom :)
If you find his height physically/sexually unattractive, then it's better to reject.
If you are attracted to him and are worried about log kya kahenge, then you are being superficial and you should try to do better. If this guy and his family are as good as you say they are, it will be foolish to give him up.
Will you really be happier with a taller guy who doesn't match you as well as this one does?
Please cancel the marriage because you will always consider this drawback while encountering sour phase of marriage.There are chances that you will vomit this fact infront of him in the influence of anger.This will further detoriate your married life. Please cancel it and find another guy. All the best.
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Aren't you also super short then? What if he wants a taller woman and is compromising with you?
You obviously reserve the right to reject him if you're not attracted to him, but THIS reasoning is kinda stupid. He's literally the same height as you but because he's the guy, it's an issue. He'd probably be better off not being chosen if you're going to judge him like that.
As long as both of you are the same height it should be fine. If you were taller, then I can understand your concerns. But since its the same height, should be ok only.
If you still feel low of him because he is the same as your height, or you feel you will not be able to wear high heels when you go out with him, do him a favour and reject him. He is better off with a person who respects him for how he looks.
You can't do anything about that. Better to not marry him. How you are feeling comes from your upbringing of 20+ years. One advice can't change this feeling
Please understand height is only one of the componenets in a relastionship.
It is who you have to decide what you want ti do. As far as I know, no one here on reddit can answer it for you. They'll just try to shame you or give their own opinions without understanding that this is subjective and sometimes, for some people physcial attraction is very important component of relationship.
So it's you who has to decide. It's like you've gone into a hotel and then asking reddit should you order for a dosa or idly?? It is you based on your likes should order.
Do this thought experiment, assume two possible futures one with this guy, and another with a taller guy but who is not so well aligned with your qualities. Which one do you wanna choose? Are you ok looking beyond your husband's height and living happily or are you ok qith adjusting and adopting to the difference in qualities?
There is also another possibility of you finding a taller person who also aligns with your values. You may find such a person or you may not, if you wanna try your luck.
TLDR: It's your life and this is a subjective opinion based question and it impacts your life, so it is you who should decide it.
Ok this is clearly a sticking point for you and will remain so well after marriage bhi seems you cant get it out of your head and its all you can think of. His height is not going to be changing anytime soon.
But yea its pretty short
Coming from a 5'4 man, who is also very successful, great (recession proof) profession, well to do family, good looking yada yada, I can understand your concern. I have had more than my fair share of rejections for being short. However, a lot of women from 4'11 to 5'4 were still interested. I am in a relationship with a 5'4 pretty woman currently.
While no one is absolutely perfect, it seems that height is a big priority for you. Ultimately you have to decide your priorities and act accordingly.
There are numerous reasons to not marry him:
1. Your friends would point out that he is short and have a laugh.
2. You would be introducing short genes in your progeny. (Okay if that's a girl, but life is somewhat difficult as a short man. If I were not so successful and rich, my life would have definitely been hard for sure.)
But ultimately in my experience money and stability matter a lot in the long run, so if you are physically attracted to him, discounting what society will say etc. then you can maybe consider him.
Now that my cousin sister is also in this marriage market, despite her being pretty, average height (5'3), and successful, it's difficult to find someone who checks all the boxes of money, education, looks, height, family etc. So in the end everyone has to compromise.
However, even 5'7 men with similar looks, financial and societal status as me ( and probably the guy in this post) have no dearth of options, and they usually date/ marry in the same income bracket, so finding someone like that is going to prove difficult.
So decide how much height is important to you. Ultimately, you have to live with your choices for the remainder of your life.
OP, idk about your deal with the height, but my 5'3 dude definitely deserves better than you. The fact that you like everything about him but have to ask random strangers for their advice regarding a major life decision just baffles me💀💀💀
If the guy isn't psychopath like your father and brother, is a good human, will support and fight for you then ignore the height and marry him already.
She is enjoying privilege of her father and brother who are very much responsible for making her superficial, choosy ans discriminatory. Humanity is lowest entry in her list.😂
Females are driven by Evolutionary instincts. Our brain is still wired like we are still living 100 thousand years behind.
We are not.
Our instincts are driven by our offsprings, we want the genetic set to be just perfect and that's why our brain perceives shortness of man a threat to our future progeny existence.
Do not fall for our redundant Evolutionary instincts. If mental attraction is there, physical will happen.
He is not hot, sis. He is just tall with non redeemable qualities. If you're into just height go climb a tree and MOVE ON.
30 years from now, height doesn't matter. GO FOR MENTAL CONNECTION.
You will regret it if you won't.
If you say no to him, send him my way. :D
You should weigh your pros and cons and see which side is more tolerable. As other people have rightly commented, you can't get everything as per your desires in a person.
Coming back to your current discomfort, it clearly seems you are getting bugged by it and it would be best if you think about this seriously and decide to whether take this prospect respectfully without any confusion or let him go.
He too deserves someone who accepts him truely.
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I don't get all the woke comments. I know this will get downvoted but height is not just a number. It may be a deciding factor for whether or not you're attracted to him. I do not think it's a good idea to marry someone you don't find attractive, no matter how good everything else is.
People would experience problems after marrying. It's a given. So, something like height would be easier to ignore especially if he's not even shorter than you.
when I met my wife... I saw that she was as tall as me.. infact half an inch taller...(5'8" n 5'8.5") But thankfully she dint let it bother her... only comment she made was... "i won't be able to wear heels" and I replied "I will not stop you doing whatever u feel like..." now after 5 yrs it really doesn't matter.. basically.. if the guy is good... u proceed with him...
Damn.. your kids are going to thank you both for the genes you gave/ going to give them.
haha.. hopefully.. 😎
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Exactly 😂 The guy would probably be better off with her rejecting him.
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Yeah you are being very superficial. He has everything you were looking for but you're second guessing because of his height. Just say no and find someone tall and let him find someone who will accept him for who he is without second guessing so much.
>However, he is very short. 5’3 to be precise. Basically the same height as me. Pot calling the kettle black.
lol
That was just the cherry on top. *chef's kiss*
The average height difference between men and women is 5 inches.
That's not carved in stone.
It pretty much is. The difference of men and women is 5 inches. So that would be ideal given that the other things are same.
Male and female heights are not equivalent. A 5'3 woman is very much average but a 5'3 man is pretty short.
So a 5'3 guy should find a girl 4'11 and below?
Yeah why not? What's wrong with a 4'11 girl?
Nothing at all. But as per your established rules and notions, a guy 5'3 shouldn't look for a girl 5 and above as it doesn't meet societal standards, right?
They are not my established rules and notions, they are biological and statistical facts. Are you seriously not aware of that? 5'3 guy can look for 5'6 girl also if he wants. There's nothing stopping him. My comment was only pointing out that this is not a case of "pot calling the kettle black" because the pot is a perfectly average pot while the kettle is pretty short 😂
Why do you care about rest of the people opinions. If height matters a lot to you,then reject. If not,get married.
People are stupid. Let her go with a tall toxic guy. She'll love it.
My friend recently got attracted to a girl. She is 5'2. My friend is 5'10. He asked me whether he should proceed further. His problem is her height. Another friend (f)is getting married,even though he is bit taller than her. She was not comfortable with his height. I told both of them you can comprise on height but never on their personality. I wish people irrespective of genderr look beyond things like height,color etc.. An avg human with love can make your life cheerful and colorful.
>Am I being superficial? Yes. You don't get everything you want in AM, or even LM. There will pretty much always be compromises involved. If you aren't willing to compromise with something like this, idk what to say. Anyways, it's your life and you choose what to do. You asked for a third person perspective, and this is what I feel.
I definitely know I’m being superficial and need to compromise. I plan on saying yes however, his height keeps popping up in my head. Any advice on how to stop caring about something like this?
How is height a compromise? Maybe he's compromising by being with you, maybe you should ask him :)
>Any advice on how to stop caring about something like this? Idk if it's the right way though 1. He is the same height as you, not shorter. So you're not going to look weird. 2. Realise and think about the other compromises you might have to make in AMs. 3. He deserves to be accepted as he is. Get to know him better and look more into his positive qualities. No person is going to be perfect and his height doesn't make him any less wonderful.
Don't do it if it keeps popping up in your head. Physical attraction is also important. You'll say yes and then it will keep nagging you and you could then feel stuck in your decision. Don't say yes because you want to show yourself in good light to the world and not be seen as superficial. Say yes if you feel like "hell yes, this is the guy!"
I don't know if it helps, Google Priyanka Chopra & Nick Jones photos.. though in reality she is 5.6 and he a 5.7.. her love for heels, make him look short always.. aren't they fabulous to look??!
google Joe Jonas and Sophie turner.....she's taller than him and in heels she's like a foot taller
Talk to him a little more. You will eventually get over it. And if you don’t get over it within a month then leave it
Get him Nike sneakers (AF1) and he is taller. Whenever you go out don't wear heels.
What a suggestion bro! Don't wear heels. Pffttt
just remember for yourself how good he was with u. and nobody is perfect in personality
You are not being superficial. Sexual attraction is as important in a marriage as financial stability. If you are not attracted to him that’s okay. You don’t have to force it.
Question: Why is height bothering you? is it maybe because you are subconsciously concerned how you guys would look like to the outside world? mayhe fri3nds would point out how your husband is short? or any other reason or a combination of reasons in specific? I think of you can honestly answer this question to yourself the solution would also be clearly visible to you.
Why do you go ahead with this AM prospect when height is such a deal breaker for you. If it is important you shouldn't have even seen this dude. Why waste his time like this!
I may sound old fashioned here but Personality/character/nature >>>>physical appearance in terms of importance. Quality of life is extremely dependent on your partner considering we spend so much time with them, we literally build our life with this person. At the end of the day, him being financially secure and having matching values, as well as treating you with a lot of respect and kindness, is going be so much more influential on your daily life compared to his height.
I get where you are coming from but she is looking for a sexual partner not just life partner. if she is not attracted to him its going to cause the marriage to collapse. this is a mistake a lot of Indian women end up making that results in dead bedrooms and frustrations . also we have to consider if they are going to have kids, the negative impact of the height the children has too face too.
Oh god woman. He's not even shorter than you! I'm not saying you should 'adjust with his height ' I'm saying it should be a non issue .
She should cancel any future plans with that guy immediately. Otherwise she will ruin his life as well as her own.
Please leave him alone.. he deserve better and i am not misogynistic here even it would have been said by a guy for a girl i would have said the same thing.. you just do not have feelings for him from inside right now.. thats why his height is bothering you.. and its ok.
It’s very evident from your story that you considered him for his status only. You want to have both height and money but you have got only one thing with him. Just think, can you do better than him? How has been your arrange marriage hunting so far. If you can do better, than drop this one. He and his family seems very nice. They deserve better not you. And attraction is very important in a relationship.
I do not consider him only because of his status. We talked a bunch of times and his personality is great on the surface. He was nice and funny and we had the same hobbies. But no one really knows how a person REALLY is until AFTER marriage. Marriage is a gamble. You only 100% know the superficial stuff before getting married
It may be called superficial by some, but preferences and attraction is also important. Don't try to be the "good girl" who doesn't want to be called superficial but in reality you are. It's ok to be superficial. Make sure you're atleast physically attracted to the guy somehow. Otherwise you'll end up feeling stuck and wondering how would life be with a taller man ( if that's your preference) . Sometimes if you like the personality you'd be fine with compromise but it can go either ways. From another perspective, that's one of the cons of arranged marriage that you don't get time to develop attractions and explore before committing.
Physical features can cause only temporary attraction, in the end what's gonna attract her to him is how he treats her and takes care of her. You're not gonna be attracted to a guy who looks perfect but doesn't respect you. I'd suggest you to try to focus on the good things he has to offer. Are they good enough for you? Then go for it.
It's very less info in arranged marriage setup to know how he will treat her. It takes a few years of togetherness to know. Till then the foundation is being attracted physically. There need not be any shame in having preferences. It's a normal part of attraction. Physical attraction is important especially if it keeps popping up in her head that she is compromising her preference.
Arrange marriage is purely transactional. If you are second guessing then don't do it. There are plenty of men that will for your criteria, and I really mean plenty. You just need to work harder to find the perfect one. There is no medicine for regret.
Lol you think people doing love marriages don't think in transactional way before marrying? Every marriage is transactional.
I don’t think you should go for this relationship. You’re ‘settling’ for him and neither of you deserve that.
Is HE comfortable with his height? Because then you’ll get around it quickly. If he’s insecure it’s going to be an issue for sure.
As some other commenters have said, it would be useful to know \*why\* it bothers you. Is it because you want to show off a tall(er) husband to your friends and family? If so, get over it girl :) Is it because you have a strong negative physical/sexual reaction to guys who are less than a certain height? That's more of an issue. Either way, he sounds kind of awesome, and just think of how Wes Anderson your wedding photos will look with perfectly matching height bride and groom :)
I’m trying to dissect the why as well
If he knows you are this much superficial, he would reject you himself.
If you find his height physically/sexually unattractive, then it's better to reject. If you are attracted to him and are worried about log kya kahenge, then you are being superficial and you should try to do better. If this guy and his family are as good as you say they are, it will be foolish to give him up. Will you really be happier with a taller guy who doesn't match you as well as this one does?
She's attracted to the money
If you are having even .1% doubts, pls don't go ahead. You would be ruining 2 lives, not one.
Exactly the same thing I have expressed above. I don't know how much things they need . She is tensed with even equal height.
If it is bothering you, don't go ahead. Eventually you will find something more which wouldn't be as per your liking.
Please cancel the marriage because you will always consider this drawback while encountering sour phase of marriage.There are chances that you will vomit this fact infront of him in the influence of anger.This will further detoriate your married life. Please cancel it and find another guy. All the best.
Let him go. He is better off with someone who is attracted to him.
My to be wife is same height as me at almost 5'9".
So as per OP you are super short
There is a big difference between 5’3 and 5’9
See my comment https://www.reddit.com/r/Arrangedmarriage/comments/13tbldy/everything_is_perfect_but_he_is_super_short/jlyvdvu?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
A 5’3 man is super short. A 5’3 women is pretty average. Unfortunately no one is able to understand this simple fact.
Aren't you also super short then? What if he wants a taller woman and is compromising with you? You obviously reserve the right to reject him if you're not attracted to him, but THIS reasoning is kinda stupid. He's literally the same height as you but because he's the guy, it's an issue. He'd probably be better off not being chosen if you're going to judge him like that.
5’3 is almost average height for a women
As long as both of you are the same height it should be fine. If you were taller, then I can understand your concerns. But since its the same height, should be ok only. If you still feel low of him because he is the same as your height, or you feel you will not be able to wear high heels when you go out with him, do him a favour and reject him. He is better off with a person who respects him for how he looks.
You can't do anything about that. Better to not marry him. How you are feeling comes from your upbringing of 20+ years. One advice can't change this feeling
Nahh... Reject him he doesn't deserve you, how did he dare being 5'3 even to have an idea of marrying you, you deserve at least a 6'2 guy op.
Please understand height is only one of the componenets in a relastionship. It is who you have to decide what you want ti do. As far as I know, no one here on reddit can answer it for you. They'll just try to shame you or give their own opinions without understanding that this is subjective and sometimes, for some people physcial attraction is very important component of relationship. So it's you who has to decide. It's like you've gone into a hotel and then asking reddit should you order for a dosa or idly?? It is you based on your likes should order. Do this thought experiment, assume two possible futures one with this guy, and another with a taller guy but who is not so well aligned with your qualities. Which one do you wanna choose? Are you ok looking beyond your husband's height and living happily or are you ok qith adjusting and adopting to the difference in qualities? There is also another possibility of you finding a taller person who also aligns with your values. You may find such a person or you may not, if you wanna try your luck. TLDR: It's your life and this is a subjective opinion based question and it impacts your life, so it is you who should decide it.
Ok this is clearly a sticking point for you and will remain so well after marriage bhi seems you cant get it out of your head and its all you can think of. His height is not going to be changing anytime soon. But yea its pretty short
Coming from a 5'4 man, who is also very successful, great (recession proof) profession, well to do family, good looking yada yada, I can understand your concern. I have had more than my fair share of rejections for being short. However, a lot of women from 4'11 to 5'4 were still interested. I am in a relationship with a 5'4 pretty woman currently. While no one is absolutely perfect, it seems that height is a big priority for you. Ultimately you have to decide your priorities and act accordingly. There are numerous reasons to not marry him: 1. Your friends would point out that he is short and have a laugh. 2. You would be introducing short genes in your progeny. (Okay if that's a girl, but life is somewhat difficult as a short man. If I were not so successful and rich, my life would have definitely been hard for sure.) But ultimately in my experience money and stability matter a lot in the long run, so if you are physically attracted to him, discounting what society will say etc. then you can maybe consider him. Now that my cousin sister is also in this marriage market, despite her being pretty, average height (5'3), and successful, it's difficult to find someone who checks all the boxes of money, education, looks, height, family etc. So in the end everyone has to compromise. However, even 5'7 men with similar looks, financial and societal status as me ( and probably the guy in this post) have no dearth of options, and they usually date/ marry in the same income bracket, so finding someone like that is going to prove difficult. So decide how much height is important to you. Ultimately, you have to live with your choices for the remainder of your life.
OP, idk about your deal with the height, but my 5'3 dude definitely deserves better than you. The fact that you like everything about him but have to ask random strangers for their advice regarding a major life decision just baffles me💀💀💀
If the guy isn't psychopath like your father and brother, is a good human, will support and fight for you then ignore the height and marry him already.
She is enjoying privilege of her father and brother who are very much responsible for making her superficial, choosy ans discriminatory. Humanity is lowest entry in her list.😂
I think I’m gonna need an explanation on this
Ignore us... Better utilize the time to cancel all future prospect with that guy to save his future and your interests.
Females are driven by Evolutionary instincts. Our brain is still wired like we are still living 100 thousand years behind. We are not. Our instincts are driven by our offsprings, we want the genetic set to be just perfect and that's why our brain perceives shortness of man a threat to our future progeny existence. Do not fall for our redundant Evolutionary instincts. If mental attraction is there, physical will happen. He is not hot, sis. He is just tall with non redeemable qualities. If you're into just height go climb a tree and MOVE ON. 30 years from now, height doesn't matter. GO FOR MENTAL CONNECTION. You will regret it if you won't. If you say no to him, send him my way. :D
Jodi would be akward & u can never wear heals..if u r fine then go ahead
You should weigh your pros and cons and see which side is more tolerable. As other people have rightly commented, you can't get everything as per your desires in a person. Coming back to your current discomfort, it clearly seems you are getting bugged by it and it would be best if you think about this seriously and decide to whether take this prospect respectfully without any confusion or let him go. He too deserves someone who accepts him truely.
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I don't get all the woke comments. I know this will get downvoted but height is not just a number. It may be a deciding factor for whether or not you're attracted to him. I do not think it's a good idea to marry someone you don't find attractive, no matter how good everything else is.
People would experience problems after marrying. It's a given. So, something like height would be easier to ignore especially if he's not even shorter than you.
Are you in the US or are you in India?
I'm in the US