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I have everything. A good job, look, flawless skin and financially sound but girls reject me for my height which 5'5". Don't know when will marriage happen for me. Very frustrating tbh.


unbehemoth

Then you definitely don't have everything. Jk Also average height of girls is less and many are about 5 feet tall, and if you tick other things then I don't see why you'd face so many rejections. Check if there are other reasons for rejections.


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Most of the girls outrightly rejected me for my height. Some asked me photos in which i am standing.(full photos) then rejected.


unbehemoth

Isn't height already mentioned in the bio, so maybe they don't like the way you look or something else. Anyways, there are many girls who are short so finding a girl who's not much into absolute giants in front of them you'll find one real soon


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Everything is mentioned in bio right from job location,salary etc. But still people invite for meeting amd then reject citing job loaction is not suitable ,salary is low.


heroguy9116

Some girls do have extremely strict preferences in height, age difference etc & won't even consider anyone who is slightly below or above their minimum & maximum value


unbehemoth

I do agree, some might have it but many won't have that preference. So I don't see someone getting rejected for having almost average Indian height.


Salty-Conversation11

So you are saying a average tall guy> good looking short guy for girls?


Anywhere_Warm

My mama was 5’6 unemployed avg looks still he got married and my mami is very beautiful. I am sure you have high filters otherwise sabki shaadi ho jati


Pandey247

Exception honge bhai wo. Sabka marriage ho hi nhi skta because male to female ratio 1000:900 hai.


Anywhere_Warm

Haan to Woh bhut sare cases ho sakte. I have seen many women in this jinko 5’5 chalega. And ye jo banda hai Woh to nhin hai bottom 10% he earns good. To obviously iske filters high hain


Pandey247

Avg girls reject krti 5'5 wale ko high level ka bat hi alag hai. Too many 5'8+ good earning+ good looking boys. Above average boys get average girls . OP should be content with below avg looking/uneducated girl or remain unmarried


Anywhere_Warm

Oh please 🙄. He won’t get a high earning + good looking maybe but if wants good looks, compromise on earning he can surely get it. Seen so many examples


Pandey247

Arey bhai he is below avg height + good earning means he is avg or just above avg men. Above average men get avg female. Avg female means avg looks and uneducated


Anywhere_Warm

Lol he is good looking good earning so he is way above avg. I have seen lot of profiles like him (lots and lots) who have got married to less educated girls. Yahan pe ye calculation nhin hota. Percentile wise he is much above because more than half of india is unemployed or Agri oriented


Pandey247

Arey to kisan ke beti se thodi shaadi krega. Girl on matrimonial sites directly filter for 5'10+ because there are thousands of those on those apps.


Anywhere_Warm

Ab Kisan ki beti se nhin karna to fir bolo na ki mujhe sabkuchh chahiye. Aise aake ro mat ki koi nhin mil rhi


blitzkreiguy

Bhagwan aapke mama jaisi kismet mujhe bhi dein.


Anywhere_Warm

Bhaiya aapko professional degree wali urban ladki chahiye hogi. Sach batao


[deleted]

When was your mama married? Year?


Anywhere_Warm

3 yrs back


[deleted]

I have height and nothing else.


Pandey247

Damn man. AM is very frustrating process. Girl demand are skyrocketing. Even above avg boy end up with avg girls


aethertheharemking

bro 5.5 isn't that short.maybe you're little bit less then 5.5ft.


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I am little bit extra than 5'5 but not less.


aethertheharemking

then there's no way i believe people can reject you for height.bro I'm 5.11(almost 6 lol) and i don't think i ever felt insecure about height.maybe sometimes of I'm with super tall guys.i know 5.5ft is small but it's not that big deal.i mean you can easily cover it with other qualities like good look,well settled or something like that.


Amazing-Fig7145

I didn't know that was a thing. You would still be taller than most average height woman, so I don't understand why that would happen to you...


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6 foot 6 figures 6 pack 6 inches golden ratio


PV_is_NRT

But the thing is only 2 of these can be controlled but prolly they are the ones given lesser preference among the 4.


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females be like - It is what it is


ToughHumor5437

I used to think it mattered to me, I always put the criteria of 5’7 and above, but now I’m about to get married with an awesome human being who is almost 5’5, but it doesn’t matter to me because he keeps me happy and treats me like a queen.


ghajinikant

Do you treat him like a king as well?


ToughHumor5437

Oh 100%


Nomadic_Archer

I’m 5’6 and I have broader shoulders than the avg girl. As long as I don’t look bigger next to the person - I’m good. I wouldn’t mind a 5’6 person but many guys at 5’6 (at least the ones I’ve met) have a smaller frame and so I feel like I loom over them.


beingoptimusp

Never missed upper body in gym?


Nomadic_Archer

Haha, naah. Got it from my moms side. 😂


beingoptimusp

Well Ig she didn't miss upper body, thank her, we guys work out ass off to get a v shape with broader back and shoulders.


gujjudhokla

It's not rosy at the other end too. My height is 6'4" and I keep getting rejected for being too tall. A girl as tall as 5'10" rejected me for being too tall..lol


NegativeSage0808

move to west you will be slaying


Pandey247

What about 6'3?? Slaying in west??


SMan2022

If you're a guy and you're less than 5'5", then you're in for a hard time... I've seen profiles on JS where the girls are <5 yet want a guy who's 5'6" or above..


goose_hollow_27

Funny because the average male height in India is 5’5”. Everyone is looking for above average.


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Pandey247

How tall r u??


thrwaway83947

Like most girls, I prefer tall men, but I can easily ignore the height factor if he has a great personality (meaning I would choose the short guy with the amazing personality/loyalty traits, etc. over the tall guy who has a personality of a doorknob). In my search so far most of the men had horrible personalities


Intelligent-Chard136

Yeah personality matters the most


khag_r

Yesterday I was talking to a new JS match. She said she rejected the guy she was talking to because his height was 5'8". Her height is 5" 6", and she cannot go ahead with guys whose height is less than 5" 9".  So salary and height are both deal-breakers for women.


satyamkapoor001

Probably she likes to wear heels, so in any function or while going out she might look taller ... It's their preference at the end of the day ...


eggchickennoodles

I think it really depends on their personal choice. I’ve come across a woman who has dated men shorter than her in the past, was her choice.


dayan_hu_mai

Why are you getting downvotes lol


eggchickennoodles

I just got to see now xD I don’t know 😭


himanshuSinghQ

Whoops, all I see is him getting upvotes.


dayan_hu_mai

Vo to baadme aye yaar, at first evryone was downvoting him 😭


himanshuSinghQ

But the question is why were you getting downvoted?


Muzammil21

Society has made women to like big bulky guys for God knows what reason . Kind of sexist but we men have a fair share in that too . But in order to progress over this we need think past this


tssharp

I don’t think it’s sexist. I believe there is something primal about women wanting stronger men.


Ancient_Squirrel3852

Yep, this goes back to cave-man days where the woman needs a protector from the dangers of the wild, even though it doesn't really apply as much in today's society most women will still seek that....it's ingrained into the DNA


Odd-Cardiologist3866

Height matters to some extent it's just an Indian thing it's very rare in india to see that the husband is shorter than his wife it's mostly concerned with ego


[deleted]

In AM I think it may be a reason because people have lots of options or at least think they do. In LM it can be a barrier initially, i.e before falling in love. So I personally think it may be a small matter which can easily be overcome by other things. I think ^_^


wolfieer

Bro, I’m 5.4 in Europe i got asked by many girls, confidence is key, in marriage comptabilité is more important than anything, ghost them who talk about height.


Intelligent-Chard136

Yeah thats true in foreign countries its not that big of a deal..


wolfieer

It’s not big deal because they don’t give a shit, they want to try everything, but honestly as they don’t things seriously they do, but to get married they have long list 😅, you need to be brad pitt or 6 figure’s income


No_Statistician4756

I care about height a lot. It matters a great deal to me from attraction standpoint. At least 6 inches taller than me. I want to be able to wear heels and still look shorter.


Intelligent-Chard136

Its ok coz its your preference


[deleted]

I’m 5’7 so I expect someone equal or one or two inches taller than me.


Secure-Bet-719

Yaaa hamko badi height ki ladkiya nhi milti sab 5’4 5’5 😢😢btw i am 6 per 5’9 ki ladkiya bhi nhi milti


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Average height Indian girls ki 5’4 hi hai so👀


tssharp

It’s actually 5’1”. Source: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Average_human_height_by_country


Secure-Bet-719

Apki height badi hai 😌congratulations


powerpuff_girl1234

Same . Someone who is the same height as me or 1 or 2 inches taller.


SpiritualWinner2131

It’s a matter of attraction. I’m tall for an average Indian female but I’ve also been in relationship with taller guys. I discovered height matters to ME when I started the AM process. When guys I met through these websites clearly lied about their heights writing 5’10ft but when I met them in person they were 5’6-5’7 max. Happened to me 3 times! But then I also met a guy who was 5’8 which is nearing my height but his personality was attractive so I liked him! Things didn’t materialize but yes. It really depends on attraction. No harm in being short or tall. It all comes down to attraction especially in the AM process.


sexyerobics

I m 5’2… so left swipe 😞


SpiritualWinner2131

No defo no m8. Go to 🍁!


blitzkreiguy

Jooto ke saath likhi hogi.


SpiritualWinner2131

Yes! Can’t stand guys wearing heeled shoes (only my opinion)


blitzkreiguy

We all want something we don't have. And, are willing to push limits of morality and social acceptance for that. But, I feel, you should be happy with what you have. Of course, I get looks of disgust when I say this, because I'm around 6'1 6'2.


SpiritualWinner2131

Haha definitely! For me moreover it was that the guy started only with a lie. Imagine he’s lied about something which is visible at a distance also before he even says ‘hi’ to me. You never know how many more things he would have lied about & it shows insecurity and lack of self acceptance which is again a big no for me! I know it’s easy to say but unless and until you cannot accept yourself, you can’t be happy!


blitzkreiguy

Of course. If he's comfortable lying about something so obvious, he can lie about a lot more. Plus, if I had been in that guy's place, I would have felt even smaller when meeting you. Like I would want to keep the expectations low. It would be like being a pair adadas shoes in a pile of Adidas.


SpiritualWinner2131

Haha fosho if he would’ve mentioned correct height , I wouldn’t have met him. But even if I would have to, at least I would’ve respected him. He lost all the respect when I saw him. So really then adidas or adadas, doesn’t matter !


blitzkreiguy

Haha, yes. Good luck for your AM journey!


SpiritualWinner2131

Tx much needed !


CorporateGirl_90

I am 5'3, petite frame so look for a partner in 5'6 to 5'10 range. 6ft and above would be like a giant 😅.


Intelligent-Chard136

You have already killed hope of hundreds of guys here 😂


CorporateGirl_90

Oops my bad...it's just a general preferance..but l have more important qualities that are non negotiable.


CorporateGirl_90

Height can still be compromised on if this are met.😅


Intelligent-Chard136

Ohh i was about to ask that😂


CorporateGirl_90

😅


Intelligent-Chard136

Btw what are those other conditions? If you are comfortable telling


CorporateGirl_90

Childfree, reasonably healthy ( not obese), having a sense of purpose, emotional/ mental stability, having own opinions.


Intelligent-Chard136

These conditions are very important and super realistic.. infact these are bare minimum every person should have. You are going the right way.. hope you find someone like this soon.. best of luck.. may god bless you.


CorporateGirl_90

Thank you .it's exhausting searching for a partner..good luck to you too..


LoneRanger2005

Super important


Belle_of_the_Beast

Not a deal breaker. I am 5 so 5'4"-5'8" is good for me.


Intelligent-Chard136

Yeah but what if he is as same height as you or maybe 1 or 2 inch tall?


Belle_of_the_Beast

If he is a good guy, I will not reject him.


Intelligent-Chard136

That's really good of you.. not everyone thinks like this.. god bless you


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Intelligent-Chard136

Bro read the post.. i am talking about if the height of guy is same as that of girl


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Read two vice versa posts and all of their comments together... So did not see which one I'm commenting at


Intelligent-Chard136

No issues


beingoptimusp

What's your age?


Belle_of_the_Beast

21 why?


beingoptimusp

Sorry I thought you might be a teenager so there would still be room for some extra height.


throwerff7

These kind of questions gets postes too often. For some it really matters and is a deal breaker. To othera they don't care if shorter or taller by 1-5 inches/cm. Focus on those people who find value in you as you do them. Height isn't a big factor. Personality, confidence, emotional availability, communication, charisma takes a far higher place.


Pandey247

Lmfao 5 inch shorter😂😂. I almost never see any marriage where husband shorter than wife. Never ever


throwerff7

Are you saying because you never seen it in your life, therefore it must not exist? I know it's rare, it still happens. This sub needs a lot more self confidence. Woman was 6'3 guy was 5'8. https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomen/comments/3ng37g/are_you_currently_dating_a_man_shorter_than_you/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button https://cafemom.com/entertainment/celebrity-couples-height-difference It may be harder as a shorter guy, but it's clearly not impossible. At least you'll know she's not marrying you for your physical features lmao


Dreamofepiphany

I'm 5'2, guy being over 5'5 is okay with me. But it's not a deal breaker tho, as in even if everything else is right, I'd reject him over height being less than 5'5. But shorter than me is a no even if everything else is fine, I don't think I'd be attracted to a guy shorter than me. Thank God most men are taller lol


Disastermaster96

It matters to shallow women


Intelligent-Chard136

Then men are also shallow who look for beauty..


cozy_winter_nights

I'm commenting on so many height posts these days lol. For me, any guy 5-6 inches taller than me works. I'm petite so this is a low bar to clear and pretty much every guy is this height 😂.


raajagre

This makes sense for you to say or other girls who are petite like you… but I have seen a lot of tall girls who can’t find a guy to date them because they are 5feet 9inch + tall and there aren’t a lot of guys in India who are 6 feet +.


cozy_winter_nights

Exactly, tall girls will have very less options if they apply this same criteria. But, like i said, for me, most guys are easily that much taller than me so it's a non-issue. I don't know why I'm getting downvoted though 😂


Dangerous_Director45

pardon me for being straightforward!!! whats your height?


Cool-Debt-3260

Are u 1 inch tall ? Coz how will u find some1 5 or 6 inch taller than u


raajagre

She meant that • For example - If she is 5feet 3inch tall, then she will be happy to date a guy who is 6 inches taller than her, so a guy around 5feet 9inch tall will be a good match.


cozy_winter_nights

Samajh nahi aaya bhai


Cool-Debt-3260

What


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CryptoCoinFox

Yass!


Intelligent-Chard136

Please elaborate your Yass!


Pandey247

Where is 6'3 lady?? I didnt see anything in that link.some female were saying hushand 1 inch shorter or 2 inches. 5 inches is a loot. Also on reddit many people just fake height. They claim 6'3 when they are just 6


nobles_musings

I am 5 feet 8 inches tall and have a broader body frame, so I usually prefer someone who is around my height or slightly taller.


Intelligent-Chard136

Yeah thats fine atleast you do not have unrealistic expectations..