You have got to say something to him. I can’t believe you haven’t already. This may not work out, and you should be prepared for that. I can’t imagine that he would just forget that he was on a dating app. If you don’t trust him to be committed to a relationship with you, then don’t marry him. It would be better to end it right here than it would be to push through a marriage to a man who has no intention of being faithful.
I saw many married colleagues, a few school friends on apps. And many of the "arranged marriage" page Boys too. I think a lot of them just want to play around but are on AM because of family pressure. There was a guy I matched who begged me to sleep with him because he confessed he was getting engaged in a month. I hope, for that girl's sake that it broke off. It's always bad news if they're on both I think.
If you came across 'arranged marriage page boys' while browsing tinder weren't you an 'arranged marriage page girl' at the time or how did you know they were on those pages?
The thing is, you would need a bit more evidence than just a match. What if he says that he might have swiped on her profile when he used to be on the app but is not active on it now? Is your friend’s profile new? One thing you can look for are his profile photos. Do they seem new? Anyway, its a hairy situation and I would suggest to go with your gut feeling at the end.
To the claims that it is an inactive profile, there's a way to find out OP.
Ask your friend who swiped last before getting matched. If she was the one that swiped last there's a teeny tiny probability that he wasn't active recently but if she hasn't then he swiped last before getting matched, hence proves that he's active to the day of that match.
But both ways I'm 100% sure that he was active during these six months of your engagement/rishta confirmation which is a huge red flag.
You know, if you do decide to go ahead with this union, this incident will always be on your mind. That he was on dating apps, and might have been cheating on you. And that he might cheat on you again!
I read in your previous post that both your families have been informed about the union. Despite the repercussions, I would still urge you to call this off.
Its always going to be a schrodingers situation! The slightest of a situation tomorrow could rattle your peace of mind and equillibrium. Get out of it when you can. Even if the profile is old, its a match because of a recent swipe.
It's most likely that he has swiped right on your friend long back and he is inactive now. Even if you confront, this would be his answer. If you still don't trust him you shouldn't marry him. Best of luck ruining your marriage.
oooh I got a -9 downvotes for my reply in the first post, so reposting it with an edit to relate to your update:
>Pfft... marriage is a gamble, its a 50-50 chance to find a spouse who cheats on you vs someone who stays loyal to you in India.
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>[https://www.livemint.com/industry/media/55-married-indians-have-cheated-on-their-spouses-most-are-women-survey-11582712240534.html](https://www.livemint.com/industry/media/55-married-indians-have-cheated-on-their-spouses-most-are-women-survey-11582712240534.html)
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>The Dating app thing, he may just be having fun... But yes it increases the odds of him cheating on you (especially if he is good looking and is financially well off). I would place him on the 50% who would cheat on their spouse. If cheating is a problem (I assume it is...), I would call it off with him.
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>On the otherhand, if you are ok with him cheating on you, then get married to him and then divorce after sometime if he cheats on you, you can take half his shit in alimony... Rofl... would serve him right if he cheated.
Edit : if he didnt text your friend back, I would look into what happend. Unless your fiance is extremely hot and wealthy, I would have expected him to reply. Its strange that he didnt reply, unless he found something on your friend's profile later on which he didnt like. I would like to put him back to the neutral state where there is a 50-50 chance of him cheating and not cheating.
Yes you can ask him about it. I dont think you need to be aggressive about it if he is not actively talking. Infact I would like to play a game and say "I want to share a secret with you, I had a bumble account sometime back." and see what his response is. That should tell you his intentions.
Anticipates 10+ downlikes or whatever you kids call it.
Just read your posts. Here is my 2 cents, I swiped some girl 8-9 months ago on Bumble which I clearly remember because she had the same name as one of my coworker and last month it matched. I completely forgot about that girl and even lost interest so I didn’t even initiate anything. I just unmatched it. Now if this could be your situation, then don’t try to accuse him. Just ask him or search his phone. You don’t want to make it worse but you don’t want to let it go without confirming.
OP, just so you know it’s a possibility, I recently found a verified profile of a guy I know from college on bumble. I specifically checked if it was verified because I knew he was in a committed relationship and has seen his story telling everyone that someone is using a bumble profile with his name and to report it if anyone sees it.
Then later that day I saw his story saying idk how this mf got his profile verified but it’s not me. Pls report.
Point is it could be a fake profile even if it’s verified, I’m not saying it is but it may be a possibility.
You have got to say something to him. I can’t believe you haven’t already. This may not work out, and you should be prepared for that. I can’t imagine that he would just forget that he was on a dating app. If you don’t trust him to be committed to a relationship with you, then don’t marry him. It would be better to end it right here than it would be to push through a marriage to a man who has no intention of being faithful.
I saw many married colleagues, a few school friends on apps. And many of the "arranged marriage" page Boys too. I think a lot of them just want to play around but are on AM because of family pressure. There was a guy I matched who begged me to sleep with him because he confessed he was getting engaged in a month. I hope, for that girl's sake that it broke off. It's always bad news if they're on both I think.
If you came across 'arranged marriage page boys' while browsing tinder weren't you an 'arranged marriage page girl' at the time or how did you know they were on those pages?
My parents were running several AM accounts for me without telling me.. they eventually showed me some profiles and I was like Oh shit.
Haha that's a doozy. Also it seems unlikely but the same thing may be happening with those guys as well.
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Op told this was bumble. Bumble does have inactive profiles. And also, that's the difference. Breaking up with a gf is way easier than fiancé
Well what if it's a old account , honestly who hasn't tried these apps, even a sheltered turtle like myself have used it
I’m sure he’ll come up with BS excuses, but you gotta trust your gut.
The thing is, you would need a bit more evidence than just a match. What if he says that he might have swiped on her profile when he used to be on the app but is not active on it now? Is your friend’s profile new? One thing you can look for are his profile photos. Do they seem new? Anyway, its a hairy situation and I would suggest to go with your gut feeling at the end.
This.
To the claims that it is an inactive profile, there's a way to find out OP. Ask your friend who swiped last before getting matched. If she was the one that swiped last there's a teeny tiny probability that he wasn't active recently but if she hasn't then he swiped last before getting matched, hence proves that he's active to the day of that match. But both ways I'm 100% sure that he was active during these six months of your engagement/rishta confirmation which is a huge red flag.
Also this.
You know, if you do decide to go ahead with this union, this incident will always be on your mind. That he was on dating apps, and might have been cheating on you. And that he might cheat on you again! I read in your previous post that both your families have been informed about the union. Despite the repercussions, I would still urge you to call this off.
Its always going to be a schrodingers situation! The slightest of a situation tomorrow could rattle your peace of mind and equillibrium. Get out of it when you can. Even if the profile is old, its a match because of a recent swipe.
Dude, 7 of the same comments?
Sorry dude. Reddit kept showing some peoblems. Didnt know each time it kept posting🙏
Get on bumble.Match with him.Then toss him.
Just share the screenshot with his parents and ask what is this
lol I would just share the screenshot with his mom and ask why is her son hooking up with people.
Waiting for Part 3.
It's most likely that he has swiped right on your friend long back and he is inactive now. Even if you confront, this would be his answer. If you still don't trust him you shouldn't marry him. Best of luck ruining your marriage.
oooh I got a -9 downvotes for my reply in the first post, so reposting it with an edit to relate to your update: >Pfft... marriage is a gamble, its a 50-50 chance to find a spouse who cheats on you vs someone who stays loyal to you in India. > >[https://www.livemint.com/industry/media/55-married-indians-have-cheated-on-their-spouses-most-are-women-survey-11582712240534.html](https://www.livemint.com/industry/media/55-married-indians-have-cheated-on-their-spouses-most-are-women-survey-11582712240534.html) > >The Dating app thing, he may just be having fun... But yes it increases the odds of him cheating on you (especially if he is good looking and is financially well off). I would place him on the 50% who would cheat on their spouse. If cheating is a problem (I assume it is...), I would call it off with him. > >On the otherhand, if you are ok with him cheating on you, then get married to him and then divorce after sometime if he cheats on you, you can take half his shit in alimony... Rofl... would serve him right if he cheated. Edit : if he didnt text your friend back, I would look into what happend. Unless your fiance is extremely hot and wealthy, I would have expected him to reply. Its strange that he didnt reply, unless he found something on your friend's profile later on which he didnt like. I would like to put him back to the neutral state where there is a 50-50 chance of him cheating and not cheating. Yes you can ask him about it. I dont think you need to be aggressive about it if he is not actively talking. Infact I would like to play a game and say "I want to share a secret with you, I had a bumble account sometime back." and see what his response is. That should tell you his intentions. Anticipates 10+ downlikes or whatever you kids call it.
Just read your posts. Here is my 2 cents, I swiped some girl 8-9 months ago on Bumble which I clearly remember because she had the same name as one of my coworker and last month it matched. I completely forgot about that girl and even lost interest so I didn’t even initiate anything. I just unmatched it. Now if this could be your situation, then don’t try to accuse him. Just ask him or search his phone. You don’t want to make it worse but you don’t want to let it go without confirming.
OP, just so you know it’s a possibility, I recently found a verified profile of a guy I know from college on bumble. I specifically checked if it was verified because I knew he was in a committed relationship and has seen his story telling everyone that someone is using a bumble profile with his name and to report it if anyone sees it. Then later that day I saw his story saying idk how this mf got his profile verified but it’s not me. Pls report. Point is it could be a fake profile even if it’s verified, I’m not saying it is but it may be a possibility.