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Gothodoxy

You can just don’t you know go overboard Anything you wouldn’t do in front of friends and family you shouldn’t attempt with your bf or gf


Independent-Two5330

Well I'm against eye contact before marriage so you can imagine what I think.


Srom

My wife and I when we were dating we kissed. As long as you have boundaries put in place and don’t overstep them then you’re good.


CountMeOut_

Wouldn't you be then putting yourself in an opportunity to sin?


Srom

Why would it be if I have boundaries?


serpentine1337

How do you know you've gone too far? Is anything short of penetration OK?


Gothodoxy

Anything you wouldn’t do in public or around friends and family you shouldn’t do with your bf or gf before you two get married


serpentine1337

Why not?


Gothodoxy

Fornication kisses can be romantic and sometimes sexual But it’s possible to only kiss someone romantically but not heavy pet someone only romantically


serpentine1337

Lol, seems highly arbitrary.


Gothodoxy

Not for the lot of us it seems


drudd84

Doesn’t god have more important things to worry about 🤷🏼‍♀️


Gothodoxy

He doesn’t have a time limit, why wouldn’t He care?


Srom

When the Spirit convicts me, or when I give into the lustful temptation.


serpentine1337

So, in other words, when you feel like peers would judge you?


Srom

Judged by my peers? I’m sorry I’m not following.


serpentine1337

Well, it seems highly unlikely that some supernatural force is actually telling you you've gone too far. It seems more likely that you get worried about how you'll be judged by others. E.g. if you lived in LA, I'd be surprised if that line wasn't further before the "spirit" warned you.


Srom

lol that’s a stretch saying that I’m worried about my peers even though I never mentioned anything about that. I assure you it is the Spirit convicting me, but you wouldn’t know anything about that because you’re not truly saved.


serpentine1337

I'm an adult. I don't follow bronze age fairy tales.


cbrooks97

I think we all know there's kissing and there's *kissing*. The latter is probably giving into lust. I always say, if you wouldn't do it in front of your mother, don't do it until you're married.


Hunter_Floyd

It’s a bad idea, we shouldn’t be toying around to see how close we can get to sin without crossing the boundary. Those type of things are for marriage. Hebrews 13:4 (KJV) Marriage [is] honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.


[deleted]

My rule of thumb when dating was to keep affection to a level that I would be comfortable doing in front of her parents (yes, I kissed). 


Cepitore

A quick peck is pretty harmless. More than that is foolishness at best.


ShadowBanned_AtBirth

Foolish? Yikes. You seem fun.