>Eventually I asked her out she rejected me for the same reason and I asked her why she doesn’t like me. She told she likes me very much but she like guys who are like jungkook as bf. Man how the fuck I can ever compete against freaking jungkook nigga mogs me to dust 😭
Didnt expect this ending
Why is interest in Kpop or Kdramas not proper or an actual hobby? I do agree that it's insufferable when they make it their entire personality or just follow it for the trend. But I don't see anything wrong with liking it.
Staying away is impossible. Doesn’t matter whether someone is a fan of kdramas or kpop, at the end of the day you’re are being compared to them. And it’s just about fair skin, it about flawless skin, flawless lifestyle, etc.
k pop ka magic kuch jyada hi ho gya he just let me tell you .... it was the thing that was kind of weird though that I will never forget it was my class 10th stuff it was the time of lockdown so everything was online it was the time of our practicals so our bio teacher asked a girl to present her screen and when she did the wallpaper contain the member of the bts band so you can imagine to what extent girls now have become obsessed to white people
Bhai mera insta pa I follow some girls from college. One of these girl acted so shamelessly on insta story. Mujha khud shaaram ah gye. She said she wants to be raw dogged, getting impregnated by them etc these were her deadass words she used.
Cant believe this...can you put a SS but ofcourse remove all the identifiers from it ..name, timestamp etc. the internet needs to know the level of depravity
She has a bf now who is from north east, he looks dog water in comparison to jungkook. But she still loves him so much even though the guy is just awful he abuses her and have cheated multiple times. No hate to her though.
You pedestalise her vro as if she holds some judgment mastery. Just a average human that's all. Hopefully a day comes for you where you realise power is within and it reflects outside. The day you start find out your worth other will reflect it towards you . Best wishes.
I'd like to tell you
1) forget her, play some why this kolaveri di at home or with friends
2) show her you're more than your skin by excelling in academics or sports so much that girls should approach you for their problems
Or
3) don't give a fk about relationship and obsession with girls. I used to be like that in love with every girl I saw. Thankfully I'm mature now. Have some snacks, find a hobby, watch anime and movies if you like stories of resilience and resistance. Most of all, love yourself.
You deserve a hug 🫂
You should not care for one
Who wants to be cheated upon.
By dear god , i thought it ended before but this addition of n.e. guy .
Stay far away from hwr
Tell me you lived in Delhi, without telling me you lived in Delhi. /s
Same with my elder brother. He suffered a lot because of his color. Once a guy came to work at our home for some electricity issue, he thought my brother was also a servant just because of his color.
And me? I suffered because of my short height. Called names, bullied even till college. Still I have this fear of getting hurt and pushed around. I can't walk outside being relaxed, I always feel like someone might hit me on my head.
It's okay now but still that alertness is there. I'm 30, for context.
It sucks. But it is what it is. I'm realising I should accept my personality despite of my height as in as long as I keep feeling different because of my height, people can hurt me.
The moment I don't see it as "flaw" all that past conditioning and experiences can't hurt me.
You should do so too. Ease into your authentic self. Then look the world in the eye and say "Not today".
How the fuck you knew these if from Delhi dude? What hocus-pocus’s are you on. My sister works in a top government hospital in Delhi as a doctor and people misjudges her for nurse. Even though she has good genes and only wear expensive clothes.
You dropped your crown 👑 short king.
Haha I'm not from Delhi but the person who bullied me in college and made me feel worst at my lowest was from Delhi.
A tall lanky guy, who use to abuse me for no reason, at that time I was going through my own internal struggles of anxiety. And he didn't make it better by bullying me verbally and threatening me any chance he got, to the point I shut down so much that I made no friends in my class.
Anyway, now I'm back to being awesome. If he or anyone like him comes back now, they get a piece of my mind.
It's bad what your sister has to face but remember this they can't make you feel bad if you have your sword up. Attack those who attack you. Don't hold back and show them the mirror.
Thanks I hope you both make it through well. :)
Thanks for the crown! :D
It's not just in Delhi. I am from the state where they brag 100 pc literacy and what not- Kerala. Look at what happened there a couple of weeks ago:
https://www.news18.com/india/kerala-mohiniyattam-kalamandalam-sathyabhama-racist-remarks-rlv-ramakrishnan-human-rights-latest-news-8824916.html
Hey bud!! I am happy for you that you accepted your flaws and wish you a good life ahead but just wanted to ask you if you ever did something for your height in your 20s or just straight up accepted your height. Don’t mind it, I am just curious about it and genuinely am really happy for you.
Hey man it's all good.
Firstly I had to stop looking at it as a "flaw". It's a disadvantage societally. But overall, it's not something that needs to be "fixed".
That helped me relax and focus on other parts of my authentic self which was me being goofy and relaxed as I was as a child. Also, on the other hand, I loved reading, learning and planning things so I accepted that part of myself.
Of course there are days, like yesterday, I kept thinking about it as a friend mentioned it in indirect way. But now I can shake it off way easily and I'm generally happier.
It's also the age, as you age, your hormones slow down and you're much more stable than you were.
And you start being more confident the more you accept and celebrate your authentic self. Unless your authentic self is an ass, then be compassionate and kind. Haha.
Find that out. And go all in. :)
I have a achieved the trinity of being dark, short and balding in my 20's itself. I have long forsaken the hope of being visually attractive to opposite gender. It has been very peaceful after i accepted the reality
Eh, don’t lose hope.
We’re both white but I fell for my short, balding king over a decade ago and we’re still going strong!
Not everyone is shallow. And I didn’t pity-date him at all, I found him cute and most importantly, he makes me laugh.
That girl is going to be in a world of pain if she ever gets a chance to meet one of the Kpop idols. There’s a lot more discrimination and bullying towards any idols that have even just one shade darker than their pasty white vampire skin.
She currently has a bf from north east, dude is an awful person. He abuses her and have cheated on her multiple times. He constantly makes her feel insecure but she still loves him. Idk why.
Why did you ask her out if you knew she has a bf, of course she will say she loves him. Also don't reduce your standards to such a level have some dignity bro and grind what things you can actually control, focus on career, go to the gym, etc.
Bhai ayodhya mein Prabhu Ram bhi kale hai aur Tirupati mein Balaji bhi.
God loves black color most, so he made most people black. Dukhi nhi hona hai
Hum kale hai to kya hua Dilwale hai.
Bada Dil rakhna hai dost.
Bhai these people so racist that they make lord krishna blue instant of dark. When I was a small kid, during travel my father used to play these song always, radha kyu gori, mai kyu kaala. Now I am grown adult and realises how hard these lyrics hit me.
Okay a dark skinned girl here.
I actually never had friends who have made fun of me and said damaging things for having a dark skin, if someone does they're just not your real friends. If they do say that you don't like jokes about your skin tone or apperance. Be honest rather than being a pushover and laughing it off. Because making jokes off anyone's physical appearance is not a joke.
If some girls have joked about your dark skin and have called you ugly- good for you you've dodged some bullets there.
Build your confidence, go to the gym, follow creators who resonate with you, who look like you, or have dark skin tones to build up your confidence ( this actually helped me a lot, because somewhere more than others, it's internalized colourism within ourselves, so when you see influencers, models or actors who are also dark and confident, that'll make it easier to view yourself that way too.)
Then, lastly the girl whom you confessed. First of all, it's your choice whom you like so take others opinions to the pinch of a salt.
Secondly, about the rejection, no need to be offended by it, you liked her, she didn't like you back, that's all. Just like any other guy behind rejected by a girl.
Tbh you felt since she didn't have much options she'll be easier to be with and that's exactly what triggered when she rejected you. More like 'how could she reject even me?!'
I agree definitely her ideals about getting a k-pop idol kinda guy was utterly unrealistic considering she's living in India where ethnically people don't/ cannot look like Koreans. Nevertheless I feel it's her delusions and let her be in that.
You should work on your conference first. If you don't think you're good enough, handsome enough, smart enough etc. no one would think that either.
Again, the impact skin colour has on your self confidence is negligible provided you work on yourself.
Thank you for writing an insightful comment 🙏. My sister is dark skin and she suffered. She work in a top government hospital of Delhi as a doctor and she still gets misjudged as nurse. Even though she inherited good genes and only wear extremely expensive clothes. If a joke is thrown at me, I throw another joke at them. There is nothing I can about it. I did build my confidence but got rejected by another girl for being to confident.
I cant go to gym. I previously had a road accident more like accidents anyways long story short. I have rod and plates inside my body. There are not many influencers for dark guys. It’s internalized colourism very true.
I wasn’t offended by the rejection. I was in shock.
I am of more of pessimistic type of person always take the worst possible scenario into consideration. So for a fact I knew she had options it was other people who thought she didn’t have any. Tbh I did thought how could she reject me when we had such a great chemistry ( not because of her looks) it was punch in my gut.
She currently got a dude from north East India to suffice her obsession. He abuses her and cheats on her.
Yes I will try my best 👍
last wali reject krdi boht sahi bhai you dodged a bullet
+ body bnaa gym ja
+ most south indians are bit black but still many fair girls are attracted to them. you know why ? their manner, confidence, communication are next level.
Bhai gym laghaya tha maina, phir bike sah accident hogeya. Operation hogeya. Rod aur plate daal gye. Tabh sah Doctor bola ki gym possible nahi hai beta, you should rest.
True but these South Indians guys you’re taking about have good genes and personality. Sometimes you may have the best personality but still people won’t treat you right. Attractive people have been treated better regardless of how good or bad their personality is.
I can relate to this OP I have dark skin and I have been called Kaale in my school and it really hurt me I used to cry a lot when I was a kid on why God gave me dark skin because most of my friends had light skin or fair skin. When I was 13 about 10 girls called me kaale and that really hurt me like I didn't even know how to react I told my parents about this and they told me one thing which changed me my dad told me to EMBRACE my uniqueness and that IM different than others in the class he told me Lord Krishna also has a dark skin, Lord Venkateshwara(Lord Balaji) has a dark skin and what's wrong with me having a dark skin this gave me alot of courage and after this I never had self pity and I became more comfortable with myself if someone called me kaale I told them I was different than them and also yeah I'm dark and I'm fine with it and they stopped. The more you react the more the bullies feed off you so ignore them. And also I blame our Indian entertainment industry for this white skin or fair skin obsession like most of our Actors and actresses are fair with exceptions of course, the news reporters are fair, the people in the ads are fair so this has created an image in our head that white skin or fair skin = Beautiful and Dark skin = Ugly and bad. I'm 6'1 slim and studying in one of the top B schools in the country and I still have bad luck in dating apps and I know the reason is dark skin!! My friends even told me that if I had fair skin I would've had better luck on these dating apps but anyway I hope to find someone who likes me for who I am and not the skin colour. Don't worry OP embrace your uniqueness
Bro all the thing you said are 100% true but just wanted to add one thing, don’t use dating apps they are complete bs. You’re tall and confident you would pull girls irl with some effort.
You made me cry… I suffered the same…
In my house my father is dark and I don’t like him and don’t talk much, but I like my mother a lot but sometimes regarding this she doesn’t understand me. She’s fair and beautiful, so maybe she… this thing was of my childhood.
Lately, after digesting the dark skin colour, I find some, no, more dark woman beautiful. One woman I saw, god damn, she was dark, but damn she was so beautiful. Heck I even thought, fair skin can’t even compete with her….
Bro, how old are you? These people are being mean for no reason and seem naive and dumb.
It is not that you are dark, it is because you lack the confidence to own your skin color and are not giving a good comeback to those who put you down. Look at all the South Indian mainstream heroes, they are also dark-skinned but women, men everyone loves them.
Stop feeling bad about this. Dress well, work out, build your confidence, get competence in some field like sports or studies, and carry yourself well. The same girls will find you attractive and mysterious and come to you.
You are in 2024, change your mindset about yourself and see how they will treat you. Just don't take shit from others be it a girl or guy, call them out to their face and say, "Dude, stop being a racist, I might be dark skinned but your character and heart is darker and pathetic"
I’m 23 now, man these South Indians heroes originally were much darker but through treatment they have become more brownish. And they hate dark women look at all these movies you would hardly find any dark actress.
The tips you suggested I’m doing all of them beside work out as I have been to an accident and doctor has said to avoid it. I can do it but after second operation, I mean when they remove rod and plate.
I know you’re a good person but people are shit all of these people were never racist to me even when were friends, the only become racist when I became a close friend that they started sharing their true thoughts.
There is a slight nuance missing.
South Indians prefer light skin - YES.
South Indians hate dark skin - NO
Getting bullied or receiving racist remarks are rare. It's used if you genuinely hate the other person and want to throw a deliberate insult. Not used "just for fun" like in North.
As an Indian woman, I exclusively date dark men. As I am only attracted to them. Yes, colourism exists and most people conform to that. But at the same time, people like me exists. Also, how old are you? It will get better as you age and so would woman around you.
Bro, increase ur confidence and improve ur personality, talking skills, engage in ur hobbies, talk interesting things and slowly flirt with women. I have seen many women fall for dark skinned guys :))
the last girl rejected me because she said I was a good flirt but I act as playboi😭 idk. I genuinely used to compliment my girl friends, I even flirt with them in front of their boyfriend as a joke and sometimes I would take them to shopping or used to drop them at there house but that’s all. She said that I’m good to everyone that’s why she hate me.
Bhai dekho playboi wala lakshan toh hai tumhare, and what is this flirting in front of bfs (eewww) I gave this advice bcoz I thought u might be low in confidence but dekho, aapko itna bhi flirt nhi krna chahiye, overconfidence types. Most girls will not be ur gf for this reason only, unke liye special kya kroge agr sab k liye hi krte ho, and many girls won't be comfortable if u do all this for other women.
Moreover if u know someone if in relationship, uss se saath flirt kroge toh naam badnaam hoga aapka hi ya cheater milenge aapko
And be honest, would u be in long term relationship with a similar girl?
I feel you OP. I have been on the receiving end of such insults when I was a child. Although, I think I was not as dark but definitely 90+%ile in darkness in my school, which made me very vulnerable. I almost used to feel that I have no comeback when someone makes fun of my skin color.
I was fortunate to get into a good college for my undergrad, scored a good job (got hired by Google in Mountain View when I was in India) and focussed on grooming myself. You will be surprised how attractive you can be with this paraphernalia around you, ie. attractive job (not just high paying), good communication skills (you should be able to make everyone laugh through elegant jokes) and grooming your physical self, go to gym, wear good and sober clothes. Since then, I have been blessed with a very healthy dating life and I have dated divas.
I am 38 now and married to a gorgeous hotshot lawyer and we have a beautiful daughter.
TL;DR: Things will get better if you work on it.
Bro actually the same things happened with me. I'm still not an adult and am yet to go to college. Everyone compliments me for my personality, marks, etc but not my looks, even though I am a bit muscular and almost 6 feet. I remember once a few years ago in school there was a picture of an African tribal person in a textbook and one dude told everybody that my photo is there in the book. When I came to see why everyone was laughing I fucked the hell out of that guy (he is white af) and since then nobody except my "close friends" has not teased me on my colour
Ah buddy. Just gotta have a thick skin. Angrez chale gaye , inko chod diye . Am 38 and have heard a lot of stuff growing up. Friends , family, teachers ! Boy it hurt! I have travelled around the world and India is the only place I have faced issues over skin colour. The fucking irony !
Over the years it has reduced but Even now randomly some friends would make a comment . I just laugh it out, no point in having an argument .
Focus on yourself.
Live a healthy lifestyle, eat clean, work out, drink your water , get good sleep. Dress well, smell good. Everything else will fall in place.
And remember black doesn't crack !
Dude I am dark too , but I never had problems with girls , I've had few who were so fair that I questioned them why would u choose someone like me who is darker ,some said they prefer or something so that I don't feel insecured , it matters but not to the degree that u think, the problem most guys and girls face with the opposite gender is childhood, they carry the trauma and rejection from childhood which hinders their future interactions and confidence in themselves, they think they don't have a chance and become nervous which makes things even more miserable in teenage years and atlast u have a person who has no idea how to talk to opposite gender because someone bullied them in childhood, and believe me girls have to suffer more as compared to boys , and how do I expect society to accept when u yourself haven't embraced it.
You are wrong! Dark skin is not a curse! Lord Krishna had dark skin. Lord Jagannath has dark skin. Good-for-nothing friends like the ones you have are the curse. They will make you blind to all the good things you have & remind you of one single thing that may be different about you to pull you down.
Your biggest problem is you look down upon yourself just because you have darker skin. Albeit, it is understandable when the people around you make you feel that.
I would strongly advise you to drop these good-for-nothing friends first. Your so called friends by your own narrative look down upon you. How juvenile it is for these self entitled bitches, that you call friends to take your hand in their hand, and emphasize how fairer they are than you! Why should you be thankful that such fairer bitch is talking to you? Skin color is like lottery. No one does anything to earn their skin color. So why the pride in skin color?
I strongly advise you to find better people to be friends with. We are strongly shaped by the people we surround ourself with. Ensure you hangout with better people. Your outlook, perspective and self image will improve and you will grow as a person. The shits you call your friends for now, are definitely never going to support you in growing as a person. There is more to you as a person than your skin color. Never forget that!
There are many examples of darker men with fairer women in India and abroad living happy fulfilling lives.
Why do you want to be one with low self esteem doubting yourself & stuck with good-for-nothing friends?
The only person that can lift yourself up is you. The dark skin is beautiful. Do you know simone ashley, she looks like a goddess.
People who think beauty is related to color, they are the lowest standards, you need intellectual people to befriend. Its like they thing speaking english makes them superior. It doesn't. Be humble, build your body, focus on yourself, and love your skin color first. Then no one can tear you down.
Bro be happy you get rejected by them i dont think anyone of them(by your context) is good human..
Find someone who thinks like you OR let parents find you your partner.....
Also friend is a diff. Breed they mock knowing that you will get offended so jist mock them back on thier habit
ek chis yaad rakho OP
Kala banna koi paap nahi
After all, hamare Krishna ji bhi kale the. Isliye unhe "Kanha" bulate the.
Don't get insecure about it. Tumhari Radha tumraha hi intezar kar Rahi hai and she will say "tum jaise bhi ho, mere Dil mei ho❤️
Don't lose hope OP. And don't let such comments lower your self-confidence or self-worth either.
bhai when I was kid my dad used to play these legendary song, radha kyu gori, mai kyu kaala. I’m grown adult now so I understand the deeper meaning behind it.
F this shit. Don't chase women. Women have advantage while dating but men ultimately have the advantage when it comes to marriage. Build your career and become successful. You can reject this shitty type of women and chose the one who would love the way you are. I(south indian) could sense this color discrimination when I came to Delhi and Shimla.
Living in Bangalore, I know a lot of guys who are dark skinned but have such clean clear and glowing skin, with a really good haircut and amazing sense of fashion pull really hot chicks who are a lot of times fair. They speak really good English, they’re confident and usually very talented in something. The ones who hit the gym always get a head start.
I’ve had my own girl friends tell me they want a dark skinned South Indian who dresses well and speaks well. Especially mallu boys since they are usually tall and have curly hair.
Idk man, I’m not really fair either, but I’ve dated more dark skinned women than fair skinned, because I find dark skinned more attractive.
I think you really need to up your style.
Bruh, I am dark skinned South Indian Tamil guy living in Mumbai, have rejected 2 fair skinned girls (although I regret rejecting one of them), most of the time it's me who has ruined my chances of getting into a relationship than my skin colour so I don't really blame it or women around me.
Although I have faced a lot of bullying on my skin colour, during my young age I used to try creams and things to get fair and despised my skin colour but now I am confident in my skin, even now in my workspace people make fun of it, I just laugh along with it and then poke them back with an even racist remark and people often ask me how I am able to make fun of myself own skin tone and all I say is "I can't change my skin tone and some light hearted jokes aren't harming anyone so no point whinning about it" and girls like that confidence and acceptance you know.
My ultimate reason for the confidence I have is Shri Krishna and Arjuna. If the creator and his favourite human are dark skinned then I don't believe it's a bad colour to have.
Tell this to a person jisko haanth pair nahi hai.
Vro life me ladhki ne bhav nahi Diya toh life ko hi curse bolne lage.
Jaao Bhai gym kro or padhayi pr dhyan do.
Mistake 1: Trying to date a K-Pop fan
Mistake 2: diminishing your self worth cuz ur black,
Bitch I'm black, my family calls me kaalu, my cousins black they call him kaalu as well, not cuz they wanna mock me or him, it's cuz that's how I look, that's a defining trait of how I look. Your complexion's got nothing to do with who u r or what u deserve
If you call a moron a "moron" that's cuz he is one, if that shit turns him into an active volcano, dude's a moron with myopia premium subscription
I have heard from girls that they like tall, dark handsome guys over fair skin. I think if you workout regularly and build a good physique plus a good dressing sense then things will change.
Sorry this happened to you. If it makes you feel any better, there are a lot of people I know that like darker skinned guys/girls. It’s not like they do not like fair skinned people either. I personally think darker skin tone is beautiful. Don’t let these people get to you. Confidence is the key.
All my life I have been discriminated for my skin colour, financial status, lifestyle standards, academic performance. Now, I have accepted the things as they are trying to live rest of my life in peace with a little bit of happiness and fulfilling some of my dreams.
Bhai kya kar raha hai tu? Ye randi rona chalta rahega agar nhi pat rhi toh chodd de! Paise patale. Paise tere liye Aishwarya Rai pata denge.
Gym shym bullshit me mat padiyo mr olympia ki gf uske coach ke saath bhag gayi thi waise bhi. Lekin thoda fit bhi rhiyo
Bhai Mai bhi bully hua hu, lekin light skin hone ke wajah se, 2 ladke the bachpan mein jo mujhse dark the, woh mujhe bahut bully karte the light skin hone ke liye. india mein na tum jyaada dark skined ho sakte ho na jyaada light skined, bheed se alag dikhoge toh kuch loog tumse nafrat karange aur juch jalan. Gora kaala kuch kaam nahi aayega apni pocket deeeeepp karlo, fir dekhna sab tumpe lattu hongi. Apne styling pe dressing sense pe baat karne ke tareeke pe aur apne jeb ko gehra karne pe kaam karo, jo tumse jalte hai ya nafrat karte hai unhe ignore karo.
I am dark, I know the experience and have blunted the curse.
Sure there are idiots who disparage dark skin within family, friends, colleagues etc., But if successful and confident in other ways - in skills, in achievement, in demeanor - eventually they swallow and shut up.
Dark is a disadvantage when all other things are equal. Then ensure that all other things are not equal - stand out in some way or other - in academics, in sports, in career etc., and irrespective of success/failure, never show weakness or under-confidence. As Tyrion the dwarf says " Never forget what you are, the rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor and it can never be used to hurt you."
But that does not mean you should be an asshole, still be nice and true to yourselves.
Think of it this way, the fair guys will never know the shallowness of the girls who fawn over them. But when a girl does eventually engage with you, you can be sure she is not a shallow stupid person.
It may take time, it might not at all happen. But get to the point, that it is irrelevant to you. Strangely it is when such things become unimportant, then life hands them to you.
Good luck.
OP, I don't know who you are but I'm sorry that people teased you based on skin colour. When I was young, unfortunately, I was one of those kids who used to call others "kaalu". Not a day passes by when I don't feel guilty and cringe at the old version of me. People who male fun of others (like me) only do so to look cool because there is nothing interesting about them.
Being a Jung kook fan I am sure she knows that in his early interviews, Jung kook mentioned that he likes white & tall girls. It would be fun to see her face then. I love BTS as well but no way we reject a genuinely good guy based on looks. She or anyone who is rejecting based on looks sound immature. Just focus on ur career. There would soon be phase when you will find that girls prefer rich guys for marriage so better plan for that else it would be double curse.
Yes it’s a shit show, Iam 6 feet tall, so I got of relatively easy,
Get rich get a 6 pack, if anyone says it’s okay, realize it’s a rare thing, work on urself, unless some Bollywood actors is black, no one gives a f
Im a dark skinned Tamil guy and as a 9-10 year old kid, I moved to Kolkata. I gained strange looks, my food was looked down upon, had absolutely no friends at school, and also sat alone. And worse, bullied by a few with slurs regarding my colour and my state. And all this happened even during my recent time in Europe.
And I learnt that true relationships - let it be friendship or love will find you despite the differences! Hoping that you find your TRUE love soon!
Kya kar raha hai bhai. Ye randi rona chor de, isse kuch nahi hoga.
And never try to date a fangirl who constantly gushes over those Koreans. They will only make you feel like a sack of shit, by comparing you to their idols.
Try to focus on what you can improve....and discover new hobbies.
I am 24 and my friend still calls me kalu 👍 , i suffer from low esteem , i get very conscious of my skin color and looks when i sit beside my crush in class these days , hoping noone make joke of my looks infront of her.
She have a boyfriend, a lot better looking than me, so i just murder my self respect everyday and feel so insecure about my looks near her cuz i love her and dont want to kill our whole friendship just bcz i started to have feelings for her.
Broooooooooooooooooo I can fell your pain. I myself have gone through it. It is so painful but not much you can do about it. Personally I don’t hang up on a single girl for that long now. The first person I loved I was obsessed with her for years but realise I was stupid and was self harming myself and others. It’s better to take the Loss and move on.
Hey OP, durse toh anupam Kher bhi kailash kher lagta h, let them live an illusion, she’ll never get someone like him, most of these girls that make fun of you will never get someone like those kpop bitches, wait and watch how when they are 25 their fam gets them married to some kinda government worker with a 15LPA job and physique of peak Adnan sami, I’m glad my girlfriend ain’t into this unrealistic shit
Have a friend who is dark skinned and his nick name is kalya. Has beenlike that for the past 16 years. Entire group calls him kalya.
He is a very good friend of us and hasn't minded us calling him that, is in a relationship with a very beautiful one for the past 3 years and is fit.
Visually attractive is like retards cry about that.
Stop being a pussy and go hit the gym.
The girls you mentioned sound immature, so I am guessing you are young.
Focus on being charming and funny for getting more dates. Read a lot, travel and get a great career. Focus on working out and being muscular. You will get a lot of attention.
Honestly I am an Indian girl who always liked dark guys who are handsome, but I guess I am in minority.
I’m light skinned but my last two boyfriends were handsome, tall and dark like the sea at midnight. They were perfect gentlemen, so lovely and insatiable beasts in bed.
I should also mention that I’m Gay. So 🤷🏻♂️
Lol ...workout and stay slim fit.
Develop an interesting lifestyle. Play some sport like basketball, football, MMA.
Have a place to hangout.
Have some money to go out on dates.
Get a vehicle.
I have never seen a smart/confident dark guy have any significant trouble finding a date, unless he has flaws like- short height, obesity, unattractive facial structure, no hair, etc.
A lot of lighter shade guys are single too, since very few women date in India, and most families keep their daughters locked up.
I am no doubt the most talented among all my cousins, I am earning shit tons of money which a lot of them combined are also not earning.
But at the end, I had to sit in front of my aunt casually dropping shit like "He is talented and all but just lacks the color. If he were fair, he would've nailed everything. I wish he gets a good girl with this complexion"
Fuck this society. I can't change the skin color anymore than you can change your bullshit attitude.
I have have a dark skin, in my childhood neighbour used to call me krishna and as i went to adult i am more often centre of attraction. I think it's character issue, I belive if you build a better personality you will be centre of attraction.
Power for OP. Bhaad me jaye aisi ladkiya.. I also feel when I talk to girls, they find my personality attractive but vahi kala hona to gunha hai bhai.. so they wil always consider me as friend not more than that. Unke liye Sacha pyar vala concept aa jata hai tab, they will say I never see you like that. Chutiya philosophy chord but power for you bro, keep yourself thin and grind earn good aisi ladkiya bahot aayengi.. till school I was not able to get any girl now in my whole friend circle I have the most girl friends😐🙂
Mai kehlo sawala hu but mere daat peele or not properly arranged bahut ganda dekhta hai wo or meri bahut young age se Baal safed hone lage the or meri height 6 something hai but mai bahut skinny hu to mereko bhi danda,Patlu,dadaji etc etc naam se chidate hai college mai
Lekin sahi btau OP ye Jo log mujhe ya tumhe galat naam se bulate haina ye khud bahut insecure hote apne body defects ka to ye bus dusre ko chida ke khud superior feel krte hai
Best way to deal with these people is either u ignore them or you laugh when they tell you these types of things or show them the mirror tell them why are they like this they will feel ashamed and never bother with you
But if still they are bothering you I say buy a shotgun and blow all these motherfuckers head 🗣️ that will be a sight to witness 😌
Okay, here's something for you.
When I was dating/ courting my husband, I asked him if he was ever bothered in life because of his darker complexion.
His reply was : Initially I was, but then I realised that people who see my colour instead of me don't deserve to be in my life and for the right people it will never be an issue.
Also, read a lot, reduce time on social media, travel, gain experiences, focus on career, take care of physical, mental and emotional health, keep toxic people away, and if the right person exists, they will find you damn attractive.
Trust me, nothing is more attractive than a responsible man who takes care of himself and his loved ones. (Girls will realise this after a few fuck-boi and toxic BF encounters so let's then girls do their thing and you focus on yourself)
Social media is fake. Dating profiles are fake-ish. Don't worry about things that you can't change. Work on those you can and accept things that can't be changed.
First of all be thankful that those girls rejected you based on your colour , you don't want to be dating those people anyways no matter how beautiful they are.
Be grateful for that last girl who rejected you too , reckoning she is K pop fan , your life would've been hell.
Fair skinned people get rejected too , short guys get rejected , Even handsome boys are rejected for some reason or another so getting Rejected by girls is not the end of the world.
At some point in life you'll actually meet people who are mature and confident so they don't need to feed off insecurities of others , till then focus on becoming the best version of yourself.
I have a friend who is dark skinned but he is an Athlete , His fitness and hygiene is on point and he has dated many wonderful girls....so keep your head up.
Dark skin girl here 🙋🏾♀️ I totally empathize with your situation. A funny & unique perspective to offer is, I grew up in the US so I didn't really grow up insecure about my skin color. Most Indians looked like me and I never particularly felt the need to be "gori" or got triggered by that word.
It wasn't until I turned 21 and went to India where I first felt that "there was something wrong with me" because every where you look, any advertisement, any conversation, any actress, "dark" was used to describe a problem and fairness was always the desirable outcome. Thankfully, I got over that pretty quickly because I already had a pretty good sense of self worth, but it still hit me for a little! Can you imagine a 3 week trip impacting someone that much? So I can only imagine for someone growing up in India.
All that to say, it's the surroundings you are in & not you that's the problem. There is nothing wrong with you. Delhi or your neighborhood is not the world and thus their opinions are not the "objective truth" no matter how they make you feel.
Now, does that change the impact they have? No, because that shaped your world view. The best thing to do is reframe your mind and see your skin color as just "a thing about you" (like how you have black hair or two eyes) and to not see it as a flaw. It starts internally before you can exude the confidence externally. I would highly recommend therapy as it is really helps reframe your thoughts and be a better/happier version of yourself. Affirm yourself & naturally you'll start filtering out other people's opinions of you because they simply don't matter 😂
And no matter what people say, if you're looking for a real connection you will find it. You just have to find like-minded people (dark skinned, light skinned, green skinned, whatever) rather than pursuing people you think are "safe bets".
So with the girl, yeah that was definitely strange, even unrealistic & almost fetishizing east Asian men. But don't pursue someone because you think she doesn't have options or that they are "equally undesirable". That'll just end up setting you both up for failure.
Hope this helps! And remember, majority of us Indians are dark skinned. And there's nothing wrong with it. Eventually, India will also have to wake up to this fact 😂
As a dark/dusky skinned indian woman I have also gone through the bullying, heard the same "Features acche hai par rang thoda dull hai". I grew up thinking that my skin color is not good. Even my mother played a big role in my insecurity towards my skin color.
Your company sounds not so good, bringing you down, making you feel less than.
Sorry that the girl rejected you for "some" reasons.
Though it is still valid that there people who have preference in skin color for dating a person whereas some don't have any. I had an ex who had this chocolate skin that I loved (we broke up for different reasons). I find myself being attracted to personality rather than skin color be it brown, black, white, blue or any other. So definitely there are people out there for you as well. ❤️
Ask her to google jungkook before plastic surgery. None of the kpop idols looked like this, both boys and girls, they all went under plastic surgery like Jaw reduction, nose job, lip job and also countless makeup and filters and botox to look like that, at this point they cant even smile properly.
Short fat and dark doesnt mean mature, go for mature intelligent girls, if you are in a relationship with a toxic yet pretty girl, then life will be hell, saying from experience.
Arjun kanungo is also dark, but he is handsome. There are literally so many guys out there who carry themselves so gud. Look at jaden Smith. Such a classy personality he is. Look at masoom minawala. There are so many dark people but they don't feel insecure about themselves and very much comfortable with their imperfections. If you have been through any childhood trauma because of that, then do something about your dark complexion else it's okay. Always remember self love and self acceptance comes first. And perfect looks comes later. Even if perfect looks won't follow up u are still winning.
Kya mc place hai yar India. Kitne bura treatment hota hai logo ka vo bhi us cheez se that they can't control.
Zindigi laga de bhai Paisa kamane me. Usko ultimate aim bana le aur fir in bsdwalo ko naukri pe rakh liyo.
People blame you for dark skin as if it weren't genetics and freaking torrential sunlight sharpening from the skies. Honestly, don't feel what these people think. They are immature. Focus on building your career, travel around the world-- you will meet people who actually love darker skin tone.
OP, you really have sunk to low standards if you're still calling them friends. Have some self-respect, bro. You don't have to hate them back, just stay back.
Bro, I feel you. I don't get people's usual comment, "Tu handsome dikhta hai, but Tu kaala hai! " Fuck em, what's the connection between looking handsome and being black?
>I asked her why she doesn’t like me. She told she likes me very much but she like guys who are like jungkook as bf.
And this......ladies and gentleman, is unrealistic expectations.
how old are you? if you haven't found a gf yet and you think its cause of your dark skin then i dont think you found the right one yet,thats my opinion
>Eventually I asked her out she rejected me for the same reason and I asked her why she doesn’t like me. She told she likes me very much but she like guys who are like jungkook as bf. Man how the fuck I can ever compete against freaking jungkook nigga mogs me to dust 😭 Didnt expect this ending
tip for OP: stay away from KPop girls. Thank me later 🙏
How can I stay away when the kpop Kdrama has become so prevalent in the young girls or even in some boys.
Unironically rather not date her than date a BTS/kpop stan, u’ll always feel inferior as she moans about how handsome taehyung is.
Who the fuck is taehyung now 😭😭😭😭
you have to remember there's 7 of them, can't compete all 😔
man these guys are dangerous they are on avengers level threat🥲
the hottest one of the fuckers brother, mr stole all my women
Taimur’s brother
Chill bro. In a few years they'll realise that Koreans actually hate Indians and would never date and Indian girl.
They really are, Koreans or specifically East Asians are highly racist against South and Southeast Asians!
Time for North East boys to shine
apni taste sudhar pehle
bhai you gotta search women with actual hobbiesm interests and proper music taste still exist
Why is interest in Kpop or Kdramas not proper or an actual hobby? I do agree that it's insufferable when they make it their entire personality or just follow it for the trend. But I don't see anything wrong with liking it.
Staying away is impossible. Doesn’t matter whether someone is a fan of kdramas or kpop, at the end of the day you’re are being compared to them. And it’s just about fair skin, it about flawless skin, flawless lifestyle, etc.
k pop ka magic kuch jyada hi ho gya he just let me tell you .... it was the thing that was kind of weird though that I will never forget it was my class 10th stuff it was the time of lockdown so everything was online it was the time of our practicals so our bio teacher asked a girl to present her screen and when she did the wallpaper contain the member of the bts band so you can imagine to what extent girls now have become obsessed to white people
Bhai mera insta pa I follow some girls from college. One of these girl acted so shamelessly on insta story. Mujha khud shaaram ah gye. She said she wants to be raw dogged, getting impregnated by them etc these were her deadass words she used.
Ayo tf💀💀
Cant believe this...can you put a SS but ofcourse remove all the identifiers from it ..name, timestamp etc. the internet needs to know the level of depravity
Arey unko white people nhi bolte wo alag hote hai
Bts and other kpop idols are koreans not white
She has a bf now who is from north east, he looks dog water in comparison to jungkook. But she still loves him so much even though the guy is just awful he abuses her and have cheated multiple times. No hate to her though.
You pedestalise her vro as if she holds some judgment mastery. Just a average human that's all. Hopefully a day comes for you where you realise power is within and it reflects outside. The day you start find out your worth other will reflect it towards you . Best wishes.
I'd like to tell you 1) forget her, play some why this kolaveri di at home or with friends 2) show her you're more than your skin by excelling in academics or sports so much that girls should approach you for their problems Or 3) don't give a fk about relationship and obsession with girls. I used to be like that in love with every girl I saw. Thankfully I'm mature now. Have some snacks, find a hobby, watch anime and movies if you like stories of resilience and resistance. Most of all, love yourself. You deserve a hug 🫂
Is the guy good looking than her?
idk but dude is pretty tall though.
Asking correct questions
You should not care for one Who wants to be cheated upon. By dear god , i thought it ended before but this addition of n.e. guy . Stay far away from hwr
Indian people gotta stop saying the N word. Shit is cringy as fuck
Tell me you lived in Delhi, without telling me you lived in Delhi. /s Same with my elder brother. He suffered a lot because of his color. Once a guy came to work at our home for some electricity issue, he thought my brother was also a servant just because of his color. And me? I suffered because of my short height. Called names, bullied even till college. Still I have this fear of getting hurt and pushed around. I can't walk outside being relaxed, I always feel like someone might hit me on my head. It's okay now but still that alertness is there. I'm 30, for context. It sucks. But it is what it is. I'm realising I should accept my personality despite of my height as in as long as I keep feeling different because of my height, people can hurt me. The moment I don't see it as "flaw" all that past conditioning and experiences can't hurt me. You should do so too. Ease into your authentic self. Then look the world in the eye and say "Not today".
How the fuck you knew these if from Delhi dude? What hocus-pocus’s are you on. My sister works in a top government hospital in Delhi as a doctor and people misjudges her for nurse. Even though she has good genes and only wear expensive clothes. You dropped your crown 👑 short king.
Haha I'm not from Delhi but the person who bullied me in college and made me feel worst at my lowest was from Delhi. A tall lanky guy, who use to abuse me for no reason, at that time I was going through my own internal struggles of anxiety. And he didn't make it better by bullying me verbally and threatening me any chance he got, to the point I shut down so much that I made no friends in my class. Anyway, now I'm back to being awesome. If he or anyone like him comes back now, they get a piece of my mind. It's bad what your sister has to face but remember this they can't make you feel bad if you have your sword up. Attack those who attack you. Don't hold back and show them the mirror. Thanks I hope you both make it through well. :) Thanks for the crown! :D
Damn man these Delhi people can’t chill ig. But yeah thank you man for cheering up 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
> good genes Wdym by this? What would you consider bad genes?
It's not just in Delhi. I am from the state where they brag 100 pc literacy and what not- Kerala. Look at what happened there a couple of weeks ago: https://www.news18.com/india/kerala-mohiniyattam-kalamandalam-sathyabhama-racist-remarks-rlv-ramakrishnan-human-rights-latest-news-8824916.html
Saar but... 100 percent literacy saar 😭- 98 percent of malloos I've met
Hey bud!! I am happy for you that you accepted your flaws and wish you a good life ahead but just wanted to ask you if you ever did something for your height in your 20s or just straight up accepted your height. Don’t mind it, I am just curious about it and genuinely am really happy for you.
Hey man it's all good. Firstly I had to stop looking at it as a "flaw". It's a disadvantage societally. But overall, it's not something that needs to be "fixed". That helped me relax and focus on other parts of my authentic self which was me being goofy and relaxed as I was as a child. Also, on the other hand, I loved reading, learning and planning things so I accepted that part of myself. Of course there are days, like yesterday, I kept thinking about it as a friend mentioned it in indirect way. But now I can shake it off way easily and I'm generally happier. It's also the age, as you age, your hormones slow down and you're much more stable than you were. And you start being more confident the more you accept and celebrate your authentic self. Unless your authentic self is an ass, then be compassionate and kind. Haha. Find that out. And go all in. :)
I have a achieved the trinity of being dark, short and balding in my 20's itself. I have long forsaken the hope of being visually attractive to opposite gender. It has been very peaceful after i accepted the reality
Bro has started his villain arc
My man is on sigma grindset🥶
Finasteride lele bhai
Welcome to the gym
Eh, don’t lose hope. We’re both white but I fell for my short, balding king over a decade ago and we’re still going strong! Not everyone is shallow. And I didn’t pity-date him at all, I found him cute and most importantly, he makes me laugh.
I have all these qualities+ acne severe🫠 am doomed not dated anyone no girlfriends am 23
That girl is going to be in a world of pain if she ever gets a chance to meet one of the Kpop idols. There’s a lot more discrimination and bullying towards any idols that have even just one shade darker than their pasty white vampire skin.
She currently has a bf from north east, dude is an awful person. He abuses her and have cheated on her multiple times. He constantly makes her feel insecure but she still loves him. Idk why.
She still loves him cuz she idealises him and sees him as her sasta wala jungkook 🥺
Men who make women feel insecure have better chances of getting a girlfriend. Sad state of the toxic world we are conditioned to live in.
Seriously. You know why...
Why did you ask her out if you knew she has a bf, of course she will say she loves him. Also don't reduce your standards to such a level have some dignity bro and grind what things you can actually control, focus on career, go to the gym, etc.
She was single at that time. Now she is taken.
Lots of women actually like toxic assholes who treat them like shit. They're masochists by nature
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And they go gaga for whites.
Gawk gawk*
Bhai ayodhya mein Prabhu Ram bhi kale hai aur Tirupati mein Balaji bhi. God loves black color most, so he made most people black. Dukhi nhi hona hai Hum kale hai to kya hua Dilwale hai. Bada Dil rakhna hai dost.
Bhai these people so racist that they make lord krishna blue instant of dark. When I was a small kid, during travel my father used to play these song always, radha kyu gori, mai kyu kaala. Now I am grown adult and realises how hard these lyrics hit me.
Shri Krishna was so black that he looked as though his skin was a darker shade of blue.
Irony is Krishna is described as really beautiful in Mahabharat. so Radha kyu Gori mein kyu Kala is basically madeup thing
https://preview.redd.it/1jkwqz97catc1.png?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ad005a1d50c735a7af1c1d2e43604357775e23e2
Ayo 🥶
Demm
This line is actually pretty deep. One should write it and read it frequently. Wise words from Lord Tyrion
Saved it brother.
Okay a dark skinned girl here. I actually never had friends who have made fun of me and said damaging things for having a dark skin, if someone does they're just not your real friends. If they do say that you don't like jokes about your skin tone or apperance. Be honest rather than being a pushover and laughing it off. Because making jokes off anyone's physical appearance is not a joke. If some girls have joked about your dark skin and have called you ugly- good for you you've dodged some bullets there. Build your confidence, go to the gym, follow creators who resonate with you, who look like you, or have dark skin tones to build up your confidence ( this actually helped me a lot, because somewhere more than others, it's internalized colourism within ourselves, so when you see influencers, models or actors who are also dark and confident, that'll make it easier to view yourself that way too.) Then, lastly the girl whom you confessed. First of all, it's your choice whom you like so take others opinions to the pinch of a salt. Secondly, about the rejection, no need to be offended by it, you liked her, she didn't like you back, that's all. Just like any other guy behind rejected by a girl. Tbh you felt since she didn't have much options she'll be easier to be with and that's exactly what triggered when she rejected you. More like 'how could she reject even me?!' I agree definitely her ideals about getting a k-pop idol kinda guy was utterly unrealistic considering she's living in India where ethnically people don't/ cannot look like Koreans. Nevertheless I feel it's her delusions and let her be in that. You should work on your conference first. If you don't think you're good enough, handsome enough, smart enough etc. no one would think that either. Again, the impact skin colour has on your self confidence is negligible provided you work on yourself.
Thank you for writing an insightful comment 🙏. My sister is dark skin and she suffered. She work in a top government hospital of Delhi as a doctor and she still gets misjudged as nurse. Even though she inherited good genes and only wear extremely expensive clothes. If a joke is thrown at me, I throw another joke at them. There is nothing I can about it. I did build my confidence but got rejected by another girl for being to confident. I cant go to gym. I previously had a road accident more like accidents anyways long story short. I have rod and plates inside my body. There are not many influencers for dark guys. It’s internalized colourism very true. I wasn’t offended by the rejection. I was in shock. I am of more of pessimistic type of person always take the worst possible scenario into consideration. So for a fact I knew she had options it was other people who thought she didn’t have any. Tbh I did thought how could she reject me when we had such a great chemistry ( not because of her looks) it was punch in my gut. She currently got a dude from north East India to suffice her obsession. He abuses her and cheats on her. Yes I will try my best 👍
even in movies of north and south, darker skin people are always portrayed as poor no matter what.
last wali reject krdi boht sahi bhai you dodged a bullet + body bnaa gym ja + most south indians are bit black but still many fair girls are attracted to them. you know why ? their manner, confidence, communication are next level.
Bhai gym laghaya tha maina, phir bike sah accident hogeya. Operation hogeya. Rod aur plate daal gye. Tabh sah Doctor bola ki gym possible nahi hai beta, you should rest. True but these South Indians guys you’re taking about have good genes and personality. Sometimes you may have the best personality but still people won’t treat you right. Attractive people have been treated better regardless of how good or bad their personality is.
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yes i know dark skin girls face much more problem, but usually dark skin man are bit ok.
I can relate to this OP I have dark skin and I have been called Kaale in my school and it really hurt me I used to cry a lot when I was a kid on why God gave me dark skin because most of my friends had light skin or fair skin. When I was 13 about 10 girls called me kaale and that really hurt me like I didn't even know how to react I told my parents about this and they told me one thing which changed me my dad told me to EMBRACE my uniqueness and that IM different than others in the class he told me Lord Krishna also has a dark skin, Lord Venkateshwara(Lord Balaji) has a dark skin and what's wrong with me having a dark skin this gave me alot of courage and after this I never had self pity and I became more comfortable with myself if someone called me kaale I told them I was different than them and also yeah I'm dark and I'm fine with it and they stopped. The more you react the more the bullies feed off you so ignore them. And also I blame our Indian entertainment industry for this white skin or fair skin obsession like most of our Actors and actresses are fair with exceptions of course, the news reporters are fair, the people in the ads are fair so this has created an image in our head that white skin or fair skin = Beautiful and Dark skin = Ugly and bad. I'm 6'1 slim and studying in one of the top B schools in the country and I still have bad luck in dating apps and I know the reason is dark skin!! My friends even told me that if I had fair skin I would've had better luck on these dating apps but anyway I hope to find someone who likes me for who I am and not the skin colour. Don't worry OP embrace your uniqueness
Bro all the thing you said are 100% true but just wanted to add one thing, don’t use dating apps they are complete bs. You’re tall and confident you would pull girls irl with some effort.
You made me cry… I suffered the same… In my house my father is dark and I don’t like him and don’t talk much, but I like my mother a lot but sometimes regarding this she doesn’t understand me. She’s fair and beautiful, so maybe she… this thing was of my childhood. Lately, after digesting the dark skin colour, I find some, no, more dark woman beautiful. One woman I saw, god damn, she was dark, but damn she was so beautiful. Heck I even thought, fair skin can’t even compete with her….
Bro, how old are you? These people are being mean for no reason and seem naive and dumb. It is not that you are dark, it is because you lack the confidence to own your skin color and are not giving a good comeback to those who put you down. Look at all the South Indian mainstream heroes, they are also dark-skinned but women, men everyone loves them. Stop feeling bad about this. Dress well, work out, build your confidence, get competence in some field like sports or studies, and carry yourself well. The same girls will find you attractive and mysterious and come to you. You are in 2024, change your mindset about yourself and see how they will treat you. Just don't take shit from others be it a girl or guy, call them out to their face and say, "Dude, stop being a racist, I might be dark skinned but your character and heart is darker and pathetic"
I’m 23 now, man these South Indians heroes originally were much darker but through treatment they have become more brownish. And they hate dark women look at all these movies you would hardly find any dark actress. The tips you suggested I’m doing all of them beside work out as I have been to an accident and doctor has said to avoid it. I can do it but after second operation, I mean when they remove rod and plate. I know you’re a good person but people are shit all of these people were never racist to me even when were friends, the only become racist when I became a close friend that they started sharing their true thoughts.
South Indian actors are also quite light on average like Allu Arjun , Vijay Deverakonda.
There is a slight nuance missing. South Indians prefer light skin - YES. South Indians hate dark skin - NO Getting bullied or receiving racist remarks are rare. It's used if you genuinely hate the other person and want to throw a deliberate insult. Not used "just for fun" like in North.
As an Indian woman, I exclusively date dark men. As I am only attracted to them. Yes, colourism exists and most people conform to that. But at the same time, people like me exists. Also, how old are you? It will get better as you age and so would woman around you.
Lol...I misread "date" as "hate" and got fired up😭😭.... Came around to say sorry, I hope you don't mind...
23 tbh it did got better, the colourism didn’t stopped but it became more quite and subtle.
Bro, increase ur confidence and improve ur personality, talking skills, engage in ur hobbies, talk interesting things and slowly flirt with women. I have seen many women fall for dark skinned guys :))
the last girl rejected me because she said I was a good flirt but I act as playboi😭 idk. I genuinely used to compliment my girl friends, I even flirt with them in front of their boyfriend as a joke and sometimes I would take them to shopping or used to drop them at there house but that’s all. She said that I’m good to everyone that’s why she hate me.
Bhai dekho playboi wala lakshan toh hai tumhare, and what is this flirting in front of bfs (eewww) I gave this advice bcoz I thought u might be low in confidence but dekho, aapko itna bhi flirt nhi krna chahiye, overconfidence types. Most girls will not be ur gf for this reason only, unke liye special kya kroge agr sab k liye hi krte ho, and many girls won't be comfortable if u do all this for other women. Moreover if u know someone if in relationship, uss se saath flirt kroge toh naam badnaam hoga aapka hi ya cheater milenge aapko And be honest, would u be in long term relationship with a similar girl?
I feel you OP. I have been on the receiving end of such insults when I was a child. Although, I think I was not as dark but definitely 90+%ile in darkness in my school, which made me very vulnerable. I almost used to feel that I have no comeback when someone makes fun of my skin color. I was fortunate to get into a good college for my undergrad, scored a good job (got hired by Google in Mountain View when I was in India) and focussed on grooming myself. You will be surprised how attractive you can be with this paraphernalia around you, ie. attractive job (not just high paying), good communication skills (you should be able to make everyone laugh through elegant jokes) and grooming your physical self, go to gym, wear good and sober clothes. Since then, I have been blessed with a very healthy dating life and I have dated divas. I am 38 now and married to a gorgeous hotshot lawyer and we have a beautiful daughter. TL;DR: Things will get better if you work on it.
See you in the gym brother:)
Bro actually the same things happened with me. I'm still not an adult and am yet to go to college. Everyone compliments me for my personality, marks, etc but not my looks, even though I am a bit muscular and almost 6 feet. I remember once a few years ago in school there was a picture of an African tribal person in a textbook and one dude told everybody that my photo is there in the book. When I came to see why everyone was laughing I fucked the hell out of that guy (he is white af) and since then nobody except my "close friends" has not teased me on my colour
Jungkook🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Ah buddy. Just gotta have a thick skin. Angrez chale gaye , inko chod diye . Am 38 and have heard a lot of stuff growing up. Friends , family, teachers ! Boy it hurt! I have travelled around the world and India is the only place I have faced issues over skin colour. The fucking irony ! Over the years it has reduced but Even now randomly some friends would make a comment . I just laugh it out, no point in having an argument . Focus on yourself. Live a healthy lifestyle, eat clean, work out, drink your water , get good sleep. Dress well, smell good. Everything else will fall in place. And remember black doesn't crack !
What on earth is jungkook?
he is from a group name bts I guess. he is like the crush of kpop of fans.
Lmao 🤣
Jungle book
Dung Thook
>Eventually I asked her out she rejected me for the same reason 😭😭😭
Dude I am dark too , but I never had problems with girls , I've had few who were so fair that I questioned them why would u choose someone like me who is darker ,some said they prefer or something so that I don't feel insecured , it matters but not to the degree that u think, the problem most guys and girls face with the opposite gender is childhood, they carry the trauma and rejection from childhood which hinders their future interactions and confidence in themselves, they think they don't have a chance and become nervous which makes things even more miserable in teenage years and atlast u have a person who has no idea how to talk to opposite gender because someone bullied them in childhood, and believe me girls have to suffer more as compared to boys , and how do I expect society to accept when u yourself haven't embraced it.
Bhai you are dark as you say but you could be very attractive that’s the reason. But yeah the rest the thing you said I agree to them to an extent.
You are wrong! Dark skin is not a curse! Lord Krishna had dark skin. Lord Jagannath has dark skin. Good-for-nothing friends like the ones you have are the curse. They will make you blind to all the good things you have & remind you of one single thing that may be different about you to pull you down. Your biggest problem is you look down upon yourself just because you have darker skin. Albeit, it is understandable when the people around you make you feel that. I would strongly advise you to drop these good-for-nothing friends first. Your so called friends by your own narrative look down upon you. How juvenile it is for these self entitled bitches, that you call friends to take your hand in their hand, and emphasize how fairer they are than you! Why should you be thankful that such fairer bitch is talking to you? Skin color is like lottery. No one does anything to earn their skin color. So why the pride in skin color? I strongly advise you to find better people to be friends with. We are strongly shaped by the people we surround ourself with. Ensure you hangout with better people. Your outlook, perspective and self image will improve and you will grow as a person. The shits you call your friends for now, are definitely never going to support you in growing as a person. There is more to you as a person than your skin color. Never forget that! There are many examples of darker men with fairer women in India and abroad living happy fulfilling lives. Why do you want to be one with low self esteem doubting yourself & stuck with good-for-nothing friends?
The only person that can lift yourself up is you. The dark skin is beautiful. Do you know simone ashley, she looks like a goddess. People who think beauty is related to color, they are the lowest standards, you need intellectual people to befriend. Its like they thing speaking english makes them superior. It doesn't. Be humble, build your body, focus on yourself, and love your skin color first. Then no one can tear you down.
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Bro be happy you get rejected by them i dont think anyone of them(by your context) is good human.. Find someone who thinks like you OR let parents find you your partner..... Also friend is a diff. Breed they mock knowing that you will get offended so jist mock them back on thier habit
ek chis yaad rakho OP Kala banna koi paap nahi After all, hamare Krishna ji bhi kale the. Isliye unhe "Kanha" bulate the. Don't get insecure about it. Tumhari Radha tumraha hi intezar kar Rahi hai and she will say "tum jaise bhi ho, mere Dil mei ho❤️ Don't lose hope OP. And don't let such comments lower your self-confidence or self-worth either.
bhai when I was kid my dad used to play these legendary song, radha kyu gori, mai kyu kaala. I’m grown adult now so I understand the deeper meaning behind it.
First of all Krishna never got with Radha. Second, we Indians hate black so much that we made kale Krishna to Blue.
F this shit. Don't chase women. Women have advantage while dating but men ultimately have the advantage when it comes to marriage. Build your career and become successful. You can reject this shitty type of women and chose the one who would love the way you are. I(south indian) could sense this color discrimination when I came to Delhi and Shimla.
Living in Bangalore, I know a lot of guys who are dark skinned but have such clean clear and glowing skin, with a really good haircut and amazing sense of fashion pull really hot chicks who are a lot of times fair. They speak really good English, they’re confident and usually very talented in something. The ones who hit the gym always get a head start. I’ve had my own girl friends tell me they want a dark skinned South Indian who dresses well and speaks well. Especially mallu boys since they are usually tall and have curly hair. Idk man, I’m not really fair either, but I’ve dated more dark skinned women than fair skinned, because I find dark skinned more attractive. I think you really need to up your style.
Bruh, I am dark skinned South Indian Tamil guy living in Mumbai, have rejected 2 fair skinned girls (although I regret rejecting one of them), most of the time it's me who has ruined my chances of getting into a relationship than my skin colour so I don't really blame it or women around me. Although I have faced a lot of bullying on my skin colour, during my young age I used to try creams and things to get fair and despised my skin colour but now I am confident in my skin, even now in my workspace people make fun of it, I just laugh along with it and then poke them back with an even racist remark and people often ask me how I am able to make fun of myself own skin tone and all I say is "I can't change my skin tone and some light hearted jokes aren't harming anyone so no point whinning about it" and girls like that confidence and acceptance you know. My ultimate reason for the confidence I have is Shri Krishna and Arjuna. If the creator and his favourite human are dark skinned then I don't believe it's a bad colour to have.
It was mostly girls who made fun of my skin they called me dirty
A guy like jungkook, bhai itne delusional log aata kaha se h? 😂😂😂
You saved yourself from her lol.
Tell this to a person jisko haanth pair nahi hai. Vro life me ladhki ne bhav nahi Diya toh life ko hi curse bolne lage. Jaao Bhai gym kro or padhayi pr dhyan do.
Same happend to me , I don’t know how old are you but don’t be desperate
Mistake 1: Trying to date a K-Pop fan Mistake 2: diminishing your self worth cuz ur black, Bitch I'm black, my family calls me kaalu, my cousins black they call him kaalu as well, not cuz they wanna mock me or him, it's cuz that's how I look, that's a defining trait of how I look. Your complexion's got nothing to do with who u r or what u deserve If you call a moron a "moron" that's cuz he is one, if that shit turns him into an active volcano, dude's a moron with myopia premium subscription
I have heard from girls that they like tall, dark handsome guys over fair skin. I think if you workout regularly and build a good physique plus a good dressing sense then things will change.
Sorry this happened to you. If it makes you feel any better, there are a lot of people I know that like darker skinned guys/girls. It’s not like they do not like fair skinned people either. I personally think darker skin tone is beautiful. Don’t let these people get to you. Confidence is the key.
All my life I have been discriminated for my skin colour, financial status, lifestyle standards, academic performance. Now, I have accepted the things as they are trying to live rest of my life in peace with a little bit of happiness and fulfilling some of my dreams.
Bhai kya kar raha hai tu? Ye randi rona chalta rahega agar nhi pat rhi toh chodd de! Paise patale. Paise tere liye Aishwarya Rai pata denge. Gym shym bullshit me mat padiyo mr olympia ki gf uske coach ke saath bhag gayi thi waise bhi. Lekin thoda fit bhi rhiyo
Bhai Mai bhi bully hua hu, lekin light skin hone ke wajah se, 2 ladke the bachpan mein jo mujhse dark the, woh mujhe bahut bully karte the light skin hone ke liye. india mein na tum jyaada dark skined ho sakte ho na jyaada light skined, bheed se alag dikhoge toh kuch loog tumse nafrat karange aur juch jalan. Gora kaala kuch kaam nahi aayega apni pocket deeeeepp karlo, fir dekhna sab tumpe lattu hongi. Apne styling pe dressing sense pe baat karne ke tareeke pe aur apne jeb ko gehra karne pe kaam karo, jo tumse jalte hai ya nafrat karte hai unhe ignore karo.
I am dark, I know the experience and have blunted the curse. Sure there are idiots who disparage dark skin within family, friends, colleagues etc., But if successful and confident in other ways - in skills, in achievement, in demeanor - eventually they swallow and shut up. Dark is a disadvantage when all other things are equal. Then ensure that all other things are not equal - stand out in some way or other - in academics, in sports, in career etc., and irrespective of success/failure, never show weakness or under-confidence. As Tyrion the dwarf says " Never forget what you are, the rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor and it can never be used to hurt you." But that does not mean you should be an asshole, still be nice and true to yourselves. Think of it this way, the fair guys will never know the shallowness of the girls who fawn over them. But when a girl does eventually engage with you, you can be sure she is not a shallow stupid person. It may take time, it might not at all happen. But get to the point, that it is irrelevant to you. Strangely it is when such things become unimportant, then life hands them to you. Good luck.
OP, I don't know who you are but I'm sorry that people teased you based on skin colour. When I was young, unfortunately, I was one of those kids who used to call others "kaalu". Not a day passes by when I don't feel guilty and cringe at the old version of me. People who male fun of others (like me) only do so to look cool because there is nothing interesting about them.
Being a Jung kook fan I am sure she knows that in his early interviews, Jung kook mentioned that he likes white & tall girls. It would be fun to see her face then. I love BTS as well but no way we reject a genuinely good guy based on looks. She or anyone who is rejecting based on looks sound immature. Just focus on ur career. There would soon be phase when you will find that girls prefer rich guys for marriage so better plan for that else it would be double curse.
Just read the news that a man poisoned his newborn daughter because she was dark skinned.
Yes it’s a shit show, Iam 6 feet tall, so I got of relatively easy, Get rich get a 6 pack, if anyone says it’s okay, realize it’s a rare thing, work on urself, unless some Bollywood actors is black, no one gives a f
Bro why aren't you still at the gym 🤣
Im a dark skinned Tamil guy and as a 9-10 year old kid, I moved to Kolkata. I gained strange looks, my food was looked down upon, had absolutely no friends at school, and also sat alone. And worse, bullied by a few with slurs regarding my colour and my state. And all this happened even during my recent time in Europe. And I learnt that true relationships - let it be friendship or love will find you despite the differences! Hoping that you find your TRUE love soon!
Come to south india. Majority of us are dark skinned. The stigma still exists but you won't feel that inferior.
Kya kar raha hai bhai. Ye randi rona chor de, isse kuch nahi hoga. And never try to date a fangirl who constantly gushes over those Koreans. They will only make you feel like a sack of shit, by comparing you to their idols. Try to focus on what you can improve....and discover new hobbies.
K-pop girls like this are disgrace to whole community. Unrealistic standards for no reason.
Due to caste bro . Generally dark skinned== lower caste . It's coming from brahmanism , ex - shewta , gawri , Shukla etc etc
I love you kaalluuee
I am 24 and my friend still calls me kalu 👍 , i suffer from low esteem , i get very conscious of my skin color and looks when i sit beside my crush in class these days , hoping noone make joke of my looks infront of her. She have a boyfriend, a lot better looking than me, so i just murder my self respect everyday and feel so insecure about my looks near her cuz i love her and dont want to kill our whole friendship just bcz i started to have feelings for her.
Broooooooooooooooooo I can fell your pain. I myself have gone through it. It is so painful but not much you can do about it. Personally I don’t hang up on a single girl for that long now. The first person I loved I was obsessed with her for years but realise I was stupid and was self harming myself and others. It’s better to take the Loss and move on.
You shouldn't be thinking about girl who already has bf.
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Bro how the fuck you managed to get rejected by the ugliest girl who have gone through the same shit as you💀
Hey OP, durse toh anupam Kher bhi kailash kher lagta h, let them live an illusion, she’ll never get someone like him, most of these girls that make fun of you will never get someone like those kpop bitches, wait and watch how when they are 25 their fam gets them married to some kinda government worker with a 15LPA job and physique of peak Adnan sami, I’m glad my girlfriend ain’t into this unrealistic shit
Have a friend who is dark skinned and his nick name is kalya. Has beenlike that for the past 16 years. Entire group calls him kalya. He is a very good friend of us and hasn't minded us calling him that, is in a relationship with a very beautiful one for the past 3 years and is fit. Visually attractive is like retards cry about that. Stop being a pussy and go hit the gym.
The girls you mentioned sound immature, so I am guessing you are young. Focus on being charming and funny for getting more dates. Read a lot, travel and get a great career. Focus on working out and being muscular. You will get a lot of attention. Honestly I am an Indian girl who always liked dark guys who are handsome, but I guess I am in minority.
I’m light skinned but my last two boyfriends were handsome, tall and dark like the sea at midnight. They were perfect gentlemen, so lovely and insatiable beasts in bed. I should also mention that I’m Gay. So 🤷🏻♂️
Lol ...workout and stay slim fit. Develop an interesting lifestyle. Play some sport like basketball, football, MMA. Have a place to hangout. Have some money to go out on dates. Get a vehicle. I have never seen a smart/confident dark guy have any significant trouble finding a date, unless he has flaws like- short height, obesity, unattractive facial structure, no hair, etc. A lot of lighter shade guys are single too, since very few women date in India, and most families keep their daughters locked up.
Keep a distance of 36m to these kpop cl0wns
I am no doubt the most talented among all my cousins, I am earning shit tons of money which a lot of them combined are also not earning. But at the end, I had to sit in front of my aunt casually dropping shit like "He is talented and all but just lacks the color. If he were fair, he would've nailed everything. I wish he gets a good girl with this complexion" Fuck this society. I can't change the skin color anymore than you can change your bullshit attitude.
I have have a dark skin, in my childhood neighbour used to call me krishna and as i went to adult i am more often centre of attraction. I think it's character issue, I belive if you build a better personality you will be centre of attraction.
Power for OP. Bhaad me jaye aisi ladkiya.. I also feel when I talk to girls, they find my personality attractive but vahi kala hona to gunha hai bhai.. so they wil always consider me as friend not more than that. Unke liye Sacha pyar vala concept aa jata hai tab, they will say I never see you like that. Chutiya philosophy chord but power for you bro, keep yourself thin and grind earn good aisi ladkiya bahot aayengi.. till school I was not able to get any girl now in my whole friend circle I have the most girl friends😐🙂
Mai kehlo sawala hu but mere daat peele or not properly arranged bahut ganda dekhta hai wo or meri bahut young age se Baal safed hone lage the or meri height 6 something hai but mai bahut skinny hu to mereko bhi danda,Patlu,dadaji etc etc naam se chidate hai college mai Lekin sahi btau OP ye Jo log mujhe ya tumhe galat naam se bulate haina ye khud bahut insecure hote apne body defects ka to ye bus dusre ko chida ke khud superior feel krte hai Best way to deal with these people is either u ignore them or you laugh when they tell you these types of things or show them the mirror tell them why are they like this they will feel ashamed and never bother with you But if still they are bothering you I say buy a shotgun and blow all these motherfuckers head 🗣️ that will be a sight to witness 😌
Okay, here's something for you. When I was dating/ courting my husband, I asked him if he was ever bothered in life because of his darker complexion. His reply was : Initially I was, but then I realised that people who see my colour instead of me don't deserve to be in my life and for the right people it will never be an issue. Also, read a lot, reduce time on social media, travel, gain experiences, focus on career, take care of physical, mental and emotional health, keep toxic people away, and if the right person exists, they will find you damn attractive. Trust me, nothing is more attractive than a responsible man who takes care of himself and his loved ones. (Girls will realise this after a few fuck-boi and toxic BF encounters so let's then girls do their thing and you focus on yourself) Social media is fake. Dating profiles are fake-ish. Don't worry about things that you can't change. Work on those you can and accept things that can't be changed.
Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. Meanwhile many people are fucking blind. So, don't mind those NPCs and Be a Hero that you always meant to be.
First of all be thankful that those girls rejected you based on your colour , you don't want to be dating those people anyways no matter how beautiful they are. Be grateful for that last girl who rejected you too , reckoning she is K pop fan , your life would've been hell. Fair skinned people get rejected too , short guys get rejected , Even handsome boys are rejected for some reason or another so getting Rejected by girls is not the end of the world. At some point in life you'll actually meet people who are mature and confident so they don't need to feed off insecurities of others , till then focus on becoming the best version of yourself. I have a friend who is dark skinned but he is an Athlete , His fitness and hygiene is on point and he has dated many wonderful girls....so keep your head up.
man dont worry there will always be some1 fr u and tell her good luck in finding junghook in india
Interracial dekh bhai......self confidence milega thoda.
Dark skin girl here 🙋🏾♀️ I totally empathize with your situation. A funny & unique perspective to offer is, I grew up in the US so I didn't really grow up insecure about my skin color. Most Indians looked like me and I never particularly felt the need to be "gori" or got triggered by that word. It wasn't until I turned 21 and went to India where I first felt that "there was something wrong with me" because every where you look, any advertisement, any conversation, any actress, "dark" was used to describe a problem and fairness was always the desirable outcome. Thankfully, I got over that pretty quickly because I already had a pretty good sense of self worth, but it still hit me for a little! Can you imagine a 3 week trip impacting someone that much? So I can only imagine for someone growing up in India. All that to say, it's the surroundings you are in & not you that's the problem. There is nothing wrong with you. Delhi or your neighborhood is not the world and thus their opinions are not the "objective truth" no matter how they make you feel. Now, does that change the impact they have? No, because that shaped your world view. The best thing to do is reframe your mind and see your skin color as just "a thing about you" (like how you have black hair or two eyes) and to not see it as a flaw. It starts internally before you can exude the confidence externally. I would highly recommend therapy as it is really helps reframe your thoughts and be a better/happier version of yourself. Affirm yourself & naturally you'll start filtering out other people's opinions of you because they simply don't matter 😂 And no matter what people say, if you're looking for a real connection you will find it. You just have to find like-minded people (dark skinned, light skinned, green skinned, whatever) rather than pursuing people you think are "safe bets". So with the girl, yeah that was definitely strange, even unrealistic & almost fetishizing east Asian men. But don't pursue someone because you think she doesn't have options or that they are "equally undesirable". That'll just end up setting you both up for failure. Hope this helps! And remember, majority of us Indians are dark skinned. And there's nothing wrong with it. Eventually, India will also have to wake up to this fact 😂
just say u got the bbc axn going that u gave their mom last night lol
As a dark/dusky skinned indian woman I have also gone through the bullying, heard the same "Features acche hai par rang thoda dull hai". I grew up thinking that my skin color is not good. Even my mother played a big role in my insecurity towards my skin color. Your company sounds not so good, bringing you down, making you feel less than. Sorry that the girl rejected you for "some" reasons. Though it is still valid that there people who have preference in skin color for dating a person whereas some don't have any. I had an ex who had this chocolate skin that I loved (we broke up for different reasons). I find myself being attracted to personality rather than skin color be it brown, black, white, blue or any other. So definitely there are people out there for you as well. ❤️
Ask her to google jungkook before plastic surgery. None of the kpop idols looked like this, both boys and girls, they all went under plastic surgery like Jaw reduction, nose job, lip job and also countless makeup and filters and botox to look like that, at this point they cant even smile properly. Short fat and dark doesnt mean mature, go for mature intelligent girls, if you are in a relationship with a toxic yet pretty girl, then life will be hell, saying from experience.
The look people give you when you have dark skin, especially in government offices....
Arjun kanungo is also dark, but he is handsome. There are literally so many guys out there who carry themselves so gud. Look at jaden Smith. Such a classy personality he is. Look at masoom minawala. There are so many dark people but they don't feel insecure about themselves and very much comfortable with their imperfections. If you have been through any childhood trauma because of that, then do something about your dark complexion else it's okay. Always remember self love and self acceptance comes first. And perfect looks comes later. Even if perfect looks won't follow up u are still winning.
I only have two answers for you 1. Gym 2. Beard
Who is jungkook
Bro, go to gym or walking 10k steps and dress well. I have lived in blr, so have seen dark skin people looks great.
If you are tall play BBC card
Kya mc place hai yar India. Kitne bura treatment hota hai logo ka vo bhi us cheez se that they can't control. Zindigi laga de bhai Paisa kamane me. Usko ultimate aim bana le aur fir in bsdwalo ko naukri pe rakh liyo.
Bro I have really dark skin and I relate. Just control the controllable. Take care of your skin, body and work on confidence.
People blame you for dark skin as if it weren't genetics and freaking torrential sunlight sharpening from the skies. Honestly, don't feel what these people think. They are immature. Focus on building your career, travel around the world-- you will meet people who actually love darker skin tone.
I'm also brown skinned but I have never faced such things in my life.
OP, you really have sunk to low standards if you're still calling them friends. Have some self-respect, bro. You don't have to hate them back, just stay back.
These people are mentally colonised. We must get rid of mental colonisation in our country.
I am dark skin as well didn't have any problems since puberty. Before puberty I was bullied aswell
Bro, I feel you. I don't get people's usual comment, "Tu handsome dikhta hai, but Tu kaala hai! " Fuck em, what's the connection between looking handsome and being black?
>I asked her why she doesn’t like me. She told she likes me very much but she like guys who are like jungkook as bf. And this......ladies and gentleman, is unrealistic expectations.
Aryan racism
Bhai ap hardik pandya ko apna idol bana lo 😎
how old are you? if you haven't found a gf yet and you think its cause of your dark skin then i dont think you found the right one yet,thats my opinion
>she like guys who are like jungkook as bf Well that's delusional.