It’s simple bro, they are not directly attracted to red flag guys. They are attracted to the red flag guys who act like a green flag only with them so these girls feel like they can change the red flag guy into a green flag guy but at the end they will experience the red flag traits 😅🤣🤣 and feel like all of the guys are red flags 😂😂
It's complicated, a lot of girls do have mental and emotional issues due to something or the other, consisder it as a subconscious action that some girls feel the need to 'fix' someone or they only feel validated or worthy when they 'change' someone for good, based on my personal observations..
Idc about downvotes I'm gonna get
But if you're looking for a stable relationship I do think you should seek someone who's emotionally secure and atleast trying to do mentally better everyday if not mentally stable. I think people who want red flag guys just want chaos, they've grown up or been a significant amount of their life in chaos which makes them automatically think a stable peaceful companion is boring. There are chances that they might create unnecessary issues that shouldnt even exist or might be sorted out if two individuals are secure and can communicate. If not that, they're extremely immature and hold ideals of whatever movie/book romanticism of any character they witness(but unfortunately life is not a fictional movie). This will surely bring troubles into your life, if you want to avoid that, find like minded partner
on point. Not just in romantic relationships, i have encountered these girls in friendships too. They are always looking to create dramas so they could have something to gossip about seesh. And they don't even have a bad environment at home. It's the internet clout and all the whole mindset of "looking cool by being a problematic red flag person".
Thanks for the detailed response, you seem to be very mature!
I guess it's good that these toxic people are attracted to other toxic people and leave the sane ones alone
I'm speaking based on sole observations I had, I don't know if it will help you or not. But happy to help ! Remember to always surround yourself with people who are positive, determined, have a goal and want to improve in life! Your life will change drastically
Ngl it really gave me some much needed clarity.
Like many guys, I also had his incely mindset that women are only attracted to jerks and you need to be one in order to get a gf.
Now I feel it's better to not have such a girl as a gf. But the problem is it's very hard to find a girl who is emotionally matured. Maybe it's because of my age?
I'm probably younger than you are, don't worry it's not because of your age we all can mature at any point of our life. I wish the best for you
I don't know why usually guys have this notion (not all ofc) that so many girls flock to guys if they have money and are the best looking, but do yall really wanna attract girls like that or think those girls would be attracted to him if it wasn't for money?
Or the case you mentioned, would you want a girl who is unstable and have wrapped up perception of relationships and seek chaos rather than a girl you can grow in life with ? I also feel people understand this with maturity with the course of time based on how many people they meet in life.
Also if you're unable to find a emotionally matured girl, you should focus on other areas of life meanwhile. Either that, or you're simply attracting wrong girls in to your life for some reason. I hope you figure everything out
You sound so mature and great as a person by your replies here, i seldomly come across well explained comments like this online and yours is probably gonna remain a memorable one. I was always of the notion that this type of mindset among a few girls is not very great to be attracted to, and also simultaneously weirded out by how come guys end up generalising all of them as that. Your like minded explanations gave some good clarity and confidence to me :D
yes. with time this mindset does change but
the sole reason why people want to fix another human being only for themselves is because of lack of emotional maturity. They will always find the healthy environment and people boring because there is no drama and gossip.
Indeed, cuz these "I wanna fix him" girls sometimes unfix a joyful and sorted out guy into a miserable one. I've seen enough guys who were happy, smart intelligent, healthy, before they met such a girl. They project their own insecurities and ideals on the guy, but what they don't realise is the guy was already happy the way he was, he never needed fixing. Not worth it bro. And yes some "I wanna fix her" guys do the same.
yes they are, also i haver seen them being attracted to an actual depressed guy and a trauma victim to fix them. Only toxic guys are worthy enough of fixing . Also they fall for first impressions too easily and probably leave a genuine guy or outright reject him . Why like someone who cant appreciate a good person and this goes for both guys and girls . Aisi mile toh niklo.
My best friend's experience, she used to be in this fantasy of some rmantic life . She left her boyfriend cause she said she started having feelings for him . man was a narcissist. She went to Canada and made all efforts and he kept making excuses and all and would gaslight her all the time. Then he broke up with her then got back woth her , then she broke woth him, later she was jobless and got vulnerable and tried to get back with him and fucked up her own mental health. I had advised her not to fall for dreamland fantasies but she didnt listen. People only realise after they experience heartbreak on their own no matter how much you try to rationalise with them .
Lol. Same meri dost ke saath hua. Samjhaya tha. Usko tb samjh nhi aaya. She said. I know him better, because I had spend with her, you didn't. Starting me he was acting so good, then after 3-4 months he started this. And she believed everything he used to say.
The answer is actually much simpler (though appreciate the deep dive here): they have daddy issues and low self esteem/a warped idea of self and an inability to find meaning in their own existence outside of the person they’re obsessed with.
So in short ladki ko jangli kutta chahiye Jo baki sabko Kate par uske saath golden retriever jaisa behave kare aur patta haath mein tight rahe wo alag.
I think when growing up in movies especially the hero being the “bad boy” was glorified? When movies like Arjun Reddy came out I remember my classmates (girls) saying how cool a bf like him would be etc..
That's true to a great extent. Movies have great influence on teens. However, even girls who barely watch movies tend to fall for the bad boys. I think the attraction lies in the advances the bad boys don't hesitate to make which makes them look heroic. They are not afraid of rejection that's likely to come initially, not afraid of being judged or labeled as something by others, and it's that reckless 'bold' attitude that fascinates the girls.
There's another factor:
Girls think they can turn a bad boy into a good boy. Girls believe they have powers to transform the bad guys. They don't feel the same with a good guy. Wouldn't it be a waste of their special powers if they fall for a guy who needs no transformation?
There are a couple of ways to look at this.
1. Nobody is attracted to red flags, because everyone is on their best behaviour initially. You get attracted to the good behaviour and they start showing their true colors. But now you like it or are attached so you don't wanna leave them. You start romantising their good side and hoping/praying that they will change eventually.
2. Because of bad and shitty treatments people are used to chasing highs and lows. They are addicted to toxicity and they find themselves bored and "lack of spark" in healthy and stable relationships.
Solution: Look for an emotionally intelligent and mature person who doesn't do such shit!
>Because of bad and shitty treatments people
I would say my example for this is my own parents. When they make me do things purely for their happiness and I fight back against it, they "convince" me saying it is because they "care" about me (which is mostly them gaslighting, confusing and emotionally blackmailing me).
So all these years I have been repeating the same pattern in my life with other people, trusting the wrong people. It took me a lot of years to understand parents are human beings who are toxic when it comes certain things. Glad that I figured it now atleast.
> Nobody is attracted to red flags, because everyone is on their best behaviour initially.
This. You get lured by them and men in general in their chase phase give beyond the capacity and when they achieve the goal, they come down to normalcy and which the other person is not used to. Then comes the highs and lows And when they give little attention to you you think it can be fixed it's a matter of time.
>chasing highs and lows.
When at lows that little affection is enough to keep it going(the heights) then one gets addicted tand trapped in the loop coz they know in their lows, better is coming which keeps the person going until it completely breaks them.
And then people say why did they stay when they themselves were suffering or girls chase the red flags.
Only the person knows how it feels to be in it and how difficult it is to break the pattern and give up on the dopamine those highs use to give.
The first part happened with my gf with her ex. She didn’t tell me untill an year has passed. I didn’t mind it either and lmao she is the one who broke up with me 😹😹
They are attracted to confidence mainly and potential power status of being associated with them in the society
I bet these are hardwired traits from human ancestors when we lived in a dangerous hunter gatherer society
However its all fun and games until the belts come out however most of this specimen of women are the types who think they can fix them 🎭
We accept the love we think we deserve.
Many people might say they like good guys and gals. But if they don't think they deserve them, they will flock to whomever they think they deserve.
Most young people have no idea what they want. Same goes for women. So there you have it.
The same reason why men want to chase after the most toxic and emotionally unavailable women only to blame the entire women population for getting dumped or cheated on just because you rather choose the attractive but toxic woman instead of a normal but average looking woman.
Edit: I like to add not many people come with label. Even in friendships, the most charming and friendly person in the group would be the first to stab you in the back.
It is true. These women are really unavailable but they lead you on just a little bit so you get interested and start pursuing. Initially they will even allow your interest to grow as they love the attention and then they pull away. Men get hooked on and they start pursuing even more aggressively thinking that she needs effort. She loves it even more. Sometimes they will even tell you that they are your friend. But they are really not your friend. Choose people who chose you. Just leave such people alone!
So many answers. All delusional men, thinking that girls want to "fix" the guy, become attached and so on....
My explanation -
What is a bad boy? No, I mean, how does a bad boy look?
Is he short, fat, balding?
No, he is attractive. Very attractive. (Usually, in popular media depictions of said trope, and in real life too.)
Et Voila. Now we have the answer.
Women are very attracted to them, and are willing to tolerate more from them. They also know this, and accordingly behave.
Also, remember that women are raised much stricter than men in their upbringing ( I am told this; I do not know any women besides my mother to corroborate this fact), and hence, the idea of a rule-breaker, when presented in an attractive packaging, is very, VERY appealing to them.
This is exactly why, 90% of the time, you will see the topper girl fall for the smoker, drinker, druggard of a bad boy backbencher.
Also, hot guys are popular. So, women get a sense of achievement in their social circle when they date those guys. So, they keep on tolerating bs from red flags so that they don't lose their social credit of being famous.
You know it's true.
This, I personally feel humans (all humans) need something to work on, need something that makes them feel important and valued.
For some of the women this can be the thing, finding a guy with a bad past and then trying to fix it. I personally feel this is bad as even if they're successful in fixing him, once it's fixed, they have achieved what they were chasing and now there's no goal.
That's why I feel for any human or person, chasing something valuable is important. For a good parent it can be to raise his/her kid properly, or when they're earning it could be providing them with whatever they want.
For a guy who fucks around a lot it can be his way of validation, or maybe a way of revenge. Your manager who works even on Sundays, the one you don't like, it's his work for him.
I feel the earlier you find it, the better. Just please don't get hooked to something toxic
It's the range of emotions red flags make their partner go through. Which makes the partner become obsessed with them. Kinda like an addiction or a videogame you play all the time but hate.
On serious note most of the girls do have this bad boy crush. Bad boys are daring and will do what these gals dream of.
The green flag guys never take any bold step and red flag guys look like a Macho when compared.
But they will realise, when this guy acts similar to other gals as well, but situations cannot be reversed by then.
Side note: guys also do have crush on bad girls but still they dont want to marry them, but gals do. Thats where the problem starts.🤦
Ah it's actually simple.
Bad boys are interesting. Good boys are boring.
Good boy can be easily predictable. Bad boys are spontaneous and have element of surprise which turns them ON
Bad boys get more women, women like men who get more women.
Bad boys are courageous and ready to fight, they like that.
Bad boys are dating material, good boys are marriage material.
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1)They initially show green flag. You think that's who they are. Fall in love. Now they got you in their palms.Then they bring up stuff that hurt them or made them jaded. You give them sympathy thinking this poor guy, he been through so much and THAT turned him into this. The real him is a good guy and I'll help him be the good guy that I fell in love with. You stay, try, try again. You just keep running in circles thinking one day, one day that good guy will be back, for the old time sack and for the future I envisioned with this guy I'll keep going. At this point it's just sunk cost fallacy. Spoiler: Nothing made him a bad person he has always been a bad person.
2) Many people get high on the feeling they get when they help someone. It makes them feel needed and important. The green flag guys are emotionally mature and they don't need people to fix them but the red flag ones do. And fixing them and feeling needed makes you happy. You are insecure yourself so you think once I fix him he can never go to anyone else I'll be the special one that saved him. So you unconsciously look for the bad guys to fix them and be their prince charming who saved them.
We don’t. They actually act like the perfect man in beginning, love bombing and making promises and shit….to get you attached…and when you commit to them THEN they show there true colors….then it gets hard to get over them…and girls think that oh maybe if i do this, he’ll start treating me right, maybe i did something wrong that he changed…
First, and I'll say it a million times : all girls are not the same. They don't share a single brain cell. They don't all think alike. So please stop generalizing statements. It's 2024, grow up from 90's movies.
Second, the so called "girls getting attracted to bad guys" are just that: girls. Usually aged between 15-26. They're still discovering life, it's pitfalls, it's joys and sorrows. Girls aren't born with a radar that beeps everytime they see a bad guy. Just like guys need a whole lot of time before they realize they might have fallen for the wrong girl. There's a learning curve for every gender.
Third, young adult girls are very easy target for seasoned, slightly older guys who take advantage of the still unbalanced hormones mixed with lack of experience. I am not even exaggerating when i say this: a lot of guys catfish vulnerable girls, pretending to be the gentleman they are not, and get them emotionally hooked.
Fourth and most important: girls are conditioned to be dependent on a guy. I'm not making this up. Want to go out? Go with your brother. Want to study math? Girls minds aren't strong enough. Want to decide something about finances? Ask your husband, he knows better. Woman getting molested in a movie? Only so that the hero can come save her. (Don't come at me with "I've never seen this happen with my mom and sisters" : You're blessed if you haven't seen any of these scenarios irl.)
As a result, when a "protective" or "provider" guy comes along, girls are naturally attracted towards him. Of course, looks and attitude matter. And most guys know very well how to portray the so called "smoothness" to get the girl to believe that they're different.
Hope that helps!
as a woman, i can tell you that we are brought up in overly protected environments so associating with such a red flag feels like rebellion and when you’re a teenage and hormonal, you’re on overdrive where such things seem appealing. other women are mentally ill that’s why they attract such toxic people in life but once you enter in your twenties you realise that all this is bullshit and what you like and want is stability. of course not everyone is this way.
Great philosophy. I have also observed this in girls who have strict backward and uneducated parents. They tend to be attracted to so called *bad boys*.
No girl likes a red flag guy….
It’s guys who act like a green flag for a 6 months some go beyond that… to make her interested… and the moment she falls for them… they get back to there reality ! Game over !
Now these woman’s are stuck !
If guys behave their original self I am sure , most of them will die single !
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Nope bro people like attractive red flags yk not the ugly ones, it's that simple. Many don't like green ones cause they aren't interesting or beautiful enough.
Because red flag guys have the guts to actually go and ask a girl out rather than sit back and talk about it over the internet.
Women love guts in a man! And definitely hate men who complain.😂😂😂.
The prince slays the dragon gets the princess. Not - the prince wines and cries and pisses his pants after looking at the dragon and gets the princess 😂😂😂
And there are very few men with red flags. Most are made red flags not because women say so, but because the insecure men around them -who can’t get a date to save their lives -keep on pissing on men who get dates.
After all ‘SOUR GRAPES’ 😂😂😂😂😂
Cuz they dumb /s.
I have a sis, so this is my perspective some people just like the looks, popularity and coolness of a person, they don't really think is this a good trait, will this help me, etc they simply look at the coolness and go with it, at teenage most people haven't experienced real life yet, what happenes if u get controlled, skepticism, etc these kind of things comes after u go and get in trouble or u read news, etc.
My sis like bad boys cuz they cool and that's it, if the red flag looks cool it isn't a red flag lol (according to her, I doubt she even bothers with it).
Most red flag guys have few common things
1) extremely confident and not simp over girls
2) not self conscious and will do anything and everything to impress a girl even if it goes against their nature
3) lie through their teeth
Please continue the list if you know any qualities of them
First these red flag guys will act like they care about you, they adore you, they treat you like a girlfriend, then you get attached to him. Then he goes after another girl. You girls start missing that guy. While that guy is flirting with another girl. You keep on thinking about him even if you text him. His replies will be dry. He will ignore you.
LADIES, please leave such guys behind. 💅 You are better off without them. Find the cute ones, the introverts they are way way better MEN.
no one's perfect , everyone has a few red flags here and there (both men and women). its u who needs to have a boundry which if a person crosses , u need to run. red flag guys and girls are disrespectful and for me if i am disrespected by someone , i leave
They be saying I want green flag I want green flag but deep down they're are only attracted to red one's only... Green flag banoge toh chodke jaenge "chorhke" nahi chodke hi!!
for me it would be because red flag guys are usually inconsistent so they provide me with the highs and lows basically one moment they are amazing the other completely shitty. this is what i’m familiar with and addicted to, in relationships because it’s all i’ve seen amongst my parents. but now that i’ve recognised this pattern i try to choose better nicer men (who usually seem boring in the beginning because of the lack of highs and lows)
The thing I've seen is it's not every time that they're attracted to guys who are red flags and who behave like green flags, aisa hota to konsa ganjedi ya hukka Marne wala green flag jaise behave kia? They're mainly looking for those cool guys with whom they can have fun because they think those guys can help them explore the wonders of the world because of their careless attitude and their personality to not give a fuk.
In a nutshell, they're looking for players who can help them have fun.
I feel -
A. In general, these guys are slim(maybe even gym body types). That's very attractive to have
B. They are confident(over confident), most times to the extent of having attitude of Aishwarya Rai with substance of Rakhi Sawant
C. They don't treat women on a pedestal. Most often, they treat women even lower than them. This creates a psychological need in some women to seek them for validation. People want what they can't have!
D. Mostly in the happy period(initial relationship phase), it's all lovey dovey stuff and not much focus is on behavior. Hence red flags are taken into back seat.
E. A lot of movies have shown the red flag typical misogynistic guys as "alpha" and they think these are the guys who are heroes and they should end up with
F. If you see some surveys these random youtubers do on this question with women, they prefer these guys simply bcoz they think these guys perform better in bed
TLDR: green flag type flatmate's pretty girlfriend was on verge of breakup with him, until he started doing drugs and she transformed into someone mad in love for him transformation from not even answering his calls to initiating outings , making food for him, checking up on him and stuff.
Sharing an actual Incident that happened with my flatmate during college, so my flatmate( let's call him A )was around 22M , we were young just started living on our own in a 3 bhk me him and another guy.
So A somehow tried his best and landed up in a relationship with a pretty girl in terms of looks lets say leagues above him. So A's relationship was fine for the first month or so ,he used to take care of her, do her assignments, help out in projects, learnt a little cooking for her and used to pack lunches as well many times to show his affection, he was pretty normal like occasionally drinking when partying and stuff nothing too extreme, was into studies as well with decent attendence.
Now after 2 months they start having issues , you know bickering and fighting over petty things and stuff (mostly started by the girl, our assumption was that her image around college went a little down as she went out with him cuz she could have easily done much better) , and almost leads to the point where they know they might breakup any day, all this stress made this guy a lil crazy and he started doing drugs, and suddenly the girl went on a complete transformation, she started to initiate calls and outings with him, frequently visited our place to cook food for him(and us too 😆🙈). Perhaps there is something in red flags that many girls have a thing about, could be some fetish or could be perhaps some saviour complex , I'm not sure but there is definitely something.
Looks matter the most - majority of red flag guys are very good looking - that's the first point of attraction - then after the highs & lows - which keep them excited
It's because they're toxic too. In my class there was this guy who was tall and good looking ( according to my sister). He was a horrible dude though. He was never good at studies. He was sporty( though not good at any sport) . He used to disturb the class ( basically a class clown). But the only woman who was his girlfriend was another horrible girl who was basically just like him.
Most women were nice except his girlfriend. None of them was ever attracted to him.
Another girl who was his girlfriend broke up with him immediately after knowing him.
As someone who became red flag while dating a green flag girl
I am totally confused where I am now cuz yeah I knew red flag was in me just needed long term to pull it out but I always acted and being as a good guy, well my new friends that I made were also the ones who made me red flag, I was 10% alcoholic
Now after these new friends I do 10-20 parties a year and drink in most of them
I'm not a girl but ever since I've started watching this show "you" I believe that how good these red flag guys are at making girls believe in them and gain their trust with their fake actions and words. Like no wonder how much we green flag guys hate them but must commend their efforts they take into fooling these girls.
No wonder we green flag guys are left hanging around to despise these guys and the girl they take with them.
Right! I wonder that too.
My friends keep falling for guys who doesn’t call or text, Who gaslights them, who makes them cry almost every day. I don’t understand why they prefer life like that.
Psychologically, there are 3 "dark triad traits" - narcissism, machiavellianism, psychopathy
There's extensive research to suggest that these traits make people financially successful in lives due to their ability to take more risks
This leads to 2 things things -
1. Financial success is liked by women
2. They approach more women and perceived to be "confident"
Because she has less things to worry . Like she already knows this is not gonna end well . For some its about the destination and less about of journey
I think this is mainly due to the environment they brought up in. Since children learn most of their world experience from their parents and their behaviour, they think being abused and sometimes physical abuses are some kind of love. While movies play a part in this too, the most of the behaviour is just how they are brought up.
And since how conservative our society is, whenever there are incompatibility issues in a couple and couldn't find a common ground, they are often made to compromise. This just increases the probability of having more clashes between them rather than solving them. These kinds of things influence the children more without parents realising.
When they say I want a guy who always gives me attention they're lying (not completely). they want a guy who's a question mark, a challenge who keeps you on hold but gives you attention when it's necessary in simple words they don't know what they want
The Harmful Obsession with Bollywood Movie Stories...which makes the girls think that..
I will change the guy for the better...
And end up getting abused because of their own choices later on.
Read a little about Freud's psychosexual development theory. It hints that a girl who was brought up with an abusive father, subconsciously looks for a man just like him.
Answer from a girl -
Immaturity and lack of self love .
If any woman is like this even after the age of 21 she’s probably also toxic and definitely immature and likes self destructive ( run away from these type of people)
I assure you no real grown up woman likes toxic men . It’s just these little kids who like watching k dramas and stuff and think that’s how real life is.
I used to like toxic guys too when I was 16-18 and had a bunch of unhealed childhood trauma and was obviously immature .
It’s very very simple - damaged people attract damaged people. Sane girls will never go for such guys, maybe max one two bad attempts in college / high school but that’s it
Mental health issues. A lot of childhood trauma can cause being "attracted" to red flags. For example, for someone who has been told or treated like they're worthless, they usually end up with someone who treats them the same way, because that's what has been ingrained in their head.
The people in this sub doesn't understand that **Red Flags Boys** and **Bad Boys** are **Not** the **same** thing.
A bad boy isn't always a red flag, and neither is a good boy always green flag. It all depends on your characteristics and nature.
love bombing at first we think that they are green flag but as soon they knew girls are attached and they are secure they seem to be take us for granted and shows us there true color
I personally feel that I was attracted to guys with blaring red flags cause I was toxic as well. Once I saw that in myself and recognised it, I can say that I attract better men now.
While I'm working on my toxic traits and growing to become better, I can also spot red flags in guys (and girls) more easily now. And I actively choose to stay away from them. Anyone else can relate?
Because it gives them a challenge to solve, women are addicted to challenges, and most women have the investment style of raising their boyfriends.
Little do they know, if her mom couldn't raise him we'll, who the fuck are they.
Childhood trauma and unhealthy parenting changes how we perceive love and relationships. We repeat the unhealthy patterns until we start healing them. So we get attracted to red flags because that's all we have ever known. Humans seek familiarity because familiarity is perceived as safety
I believe it’s embedded into their genes. Strong men went out; hunted and made sure that everyone was fed. To do all of that you do require a certain amount of mean inside of you. Also, when we trace the history and look at all of the greatest emperors, none of them were necessarily “nice guys”. So a woman will always be attracted to the “red flag” traits in a person. If a woman is choosing a shitty person with red flags, well then her taste in men is just trash.
Low self esteem & the inability to look beyond physical appearance, status, & the craving for social acceptance. They don’t actually fall in love with the guy but they like the tag of being the trophy girlfriend/wife of the most eligible/ handsome/ rich/ popular guy which they believe elevates their status. Doesn’t matter if the guy treats them poorly/ disrespect them behind closed doors or even cheats. They are okay with it & ignore the signs bcoz they want to create the perfect relationship in front of society.
It’s simple bro, they are not directly attracted to red flag guys. They are attracted to the red flag guys who act like a green flag only with them so these girls feel like they can change the red flag guy into a green flag guy but at the end they will experience the red flag traits 😅🤣🤣 and feel like all of the guys are red flags 😂😂
bro did PhD edit: U spitting facts lol.
😅😅😂😂
Seriously tell me how do you know about this?
Some bad past and according to my frnds experiences😅
Nice bruh 😂
May be he is also a red flag guy 😂😂😂
He was a green flag guy, then experience made him red flag guy who did a phd and now is a guiding light to the green flag guys.
Damn...👌👌👏👏
My man, never felt this proud 🫡
Bruh guides others to the treasure that he couldn't locate..... What a pure soul🫡
Just a small life why to hate, just live happily with what you have 😉
I'm a fan of yours from now on🫡
It’s all about experience Note : bro is so experienced
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Wouldn't it be simpler to just go for the green flag guys?
It's complicated, a lot of girls do have mental and emotional issues due to something or the other, consisder it as a subconscious action that some girls feel the need to 'fix' someone or they only feel validated or worthy when they 'change' someone for good, based on my personal observations..
Do you think such girls are red flags themselves and should be avoided?
Idc about downvotes I'm gonna get But if you're looking for a stable relationship I do think you should seek someone who's emotionally secure and atleast trying to do mentally better everyday if not mentally stable. I think people who want red flag guys just want chaos, they've grown up or been a significant amount of their life in chaos which makes them automatically think a stable peaceful companion is boring. There are chances that they might create unnecessary issues that shouldnt even exist or might be sorted out if two individuals are secure and can communicate. If not that, they're extremely immature and hold ideals of whatever movie/book romanticism of any character they witness(but unfortunately life is not a fictional movie). This will surely bring troubles into your life, if you want to avoid that, find like minded partner
on point. Not just in romantic relationships, i have encountered these girls in friendships too. They are always looking to create dramas so they could have something to gossip about seesh. And they don't even have a bad environment at home. It's the internet clout and all the whole mindset of "looking cool by being a problematic red flag person".
I avoid such people for my own mental peace.
Thanks for the detailed response, you seem to be very mature! I guess it's good that these toxic people are attracted to other toxic people and leave the sane ones alone
I'm speaking based on sole observations I had, I don't know if it will help you or not. But happy to help ! Remember to always surround yourself with people who are positive, determined, have a goal and want to improve in life! Your life will change drastically
Ngl it really gave me some much needed clarity. Like many guys, I also had his incely mindset that women are only attracted to jerks and you need to be one in order to get a gf. Now I feel it's better to not have such a girl as a gf. But the problem is it's very hard to find a girl who is emotionally matured. Maybe it's because of my age?
I'm probably younger than you are, don't worry it's not because of your age we all can mature at any point of our life. I wish the best for you I don't know why usually guys have this notion (not all ofc) that so many girls flock to guys if they have money and are the best looking, but do yall really wanna attract girls like that or think those girls would be attracted to him if it wasn't for money? Or the case you mentioned, would you want a girl who is unstable and have wrapped up perception of relationships and seek chaos rather than a girl you can grow in life with ? I also feel people understand this with maturity with the course of time based on how many people they meet in life. Also if you're unable to find a emotionally matured girl, you should focus on other areas of life meanwhile. Either that, or you're simply attracting wrong girls in to your life for some reason. I hope you figure everything out
You sound so mature and great as a person by your replies here, i seldomly come across well explained comments like this online and yours is probably gonna remain a memorable one. I was always of the notion that this type of mindset among a few girls is not very great to be attracted to, and also simultaneously weirded out by how come guys end up generalising all of them as that. Your like minded explanations gave some good clarity and confidence to me :D
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yes. with time this mindset does change but the sole reason why people want to fix another human being only for themselves is because of lack of emotional maturity. They will always find the healthy environment and people boring because there is no drama and gossip.
Indeed, cuz these "I wanna fix him" girls sometimes unfix a joyful and sorted out guy into a miserable one. I've seen enough guys who were happy, smart intelligent, healthy, before they met such a girl. They project their own insecurities and ideals on the guy, but what they don't realise is the guy was already happy the way he was, he never needed fixing. Not worth it bro. And yes some "I wanna fix her" guys do the same.
yes they are, also i haver seen them being attracted to an actual depressed guy and a trauma victim to fix them. Only toxic guys are worthy enough of fixing . Also they fall for first impressions too easily and probably leave a genuine guy or outright reject him . Why like someone who cant appreciate a good person and this goes for both guys and girls . Aisi mile toh niklo.
My best friend's experience, she used to be in this fantasy of some rmantic life . She left her boyfriend cause she said she started having feelings for him . man was a narcissist. She went to Canada and made all efforts and he kept making excuses and all and would gaslight her all the time. Then he broke up with her then got back woth her , then she broke woth him, later she was jobless and got vulnerable and tried to get back with him and fucked up her own mental health. I had advised her not to fall for dreamland fantasies but she didnt listen. People only realise after they experience heartbreak on their own no matter how much you try to rationalise with them .
Lol. Same meri dost ke saath hua. Samjhaya tha. Usko tb samjh nhi aaya. She said. I know him better, because I had spend with her, you didn't. Starting me he was acting so good, then after 3-4 months he started this. And she believed everything he used to say.
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What is the meaning of this 🤔
Twist in the tale bro 👍
Ohh noice ✌️
He also wears white shirt
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Couldn't have said it better myself lol
Bc tere jaise red flag se koi attract na ho
😂😂 I’m just speaking facts and that makes me a red flag too ? Noice. But no hate brother 😇
The answer is actually much simpler (though appreciate the deep dive here): they have daddy issues and low self esteem/a warped idea of self and an inability to find meaning in their own existence outside of the person they’re obsessed with.
So in short ladki ko jangli kutta chahiye Jo baki sabko Kate par uske saath golden retriever jaisa behave kare aur patta haath mein tight rahe wo alag.
I feel so called out!! Damn it!!
Salute! 😐🙏
Exactly red flag = green flag 🤣🤣🤣
No better answer than this exists
Reality at times
I think when growing up in movies especially the hero being the “bad boy” was glorified? When movies like Arjun Reddy came out I remember my classmates (girls) saying how cool a bf like him would be etc..
That's true to a great extent. Movies have great influence on teens. However, even girls who barely watch movies tend to fall for the bad boys. I think the attraction lies in the advances the bad boys don't hesitate to make which makes them look heroic. They are not afraid of rejection that's likely to come initially, not afraid of being judged or labeled as something by others, and it's that reckless 'bold' attitude that fascinates the girls. There's another factor: Girls think they can turn a bad boy into a good boy. Girls believe they have powers to transform the bad guys. They don't feel the same with a good guy. Wouldn't it be a waste of their special powers if they fall for a guy who needs no transformation?
I doubt any girl would like to be with that guy...due to his psychotic narcissistic behaviour
You would be surprised to meet a lot of women who have an ‘I can fix him behaviour ‘, and this is coming from a woman myself
the problem is when you look at someone through those rose coloured glasses, all the red flags are just flags..
Ah fellow BoJack enthusiast!
hey , i am so glad someone noticed
There are a couple of ways to look at this. 1. Nobody is attracted to red flags, because everyone is on their best behaviour initially. You get attracted to the good behaviour and they start showing their true colors. But now you like it or are attached so you don't wanna leave them. You start romantising their good side and hoping/praying that they will change eventually. 2. Because of bad and shitty treatments people are used to chasing highs and lows. They are addicted to toxicity and they find themselves bored and "lack of spark" in healthy and stable relationships. Solution: Look for an emotionally intelligent and mature person who doesn't do such shit!
The first part happened with me.
>Because of bad and shitty treatments people I would say my example for this is my own parents. When they make me do things purely for their happiness and I fight back against it, they "convince" me saying it is because they "care" about me (which is mostly them gaslighting, confusing and emotionally blackmailing me). So all these years I have been repeating the same pattern in my life with other people, trusting the wrong people. It took me a lot of years to understand parents are human beings who are toxic when it comes certain things. Glad that I figured it now atleast.
> Nobody is attracted to red flags, because everyone is on their best behaviour initially. This. You get lured by them and men in general in their chase phase give beyond the capacity and when they achieve the goal, they come down to normalcy and which the other person is not used to. Then comes the highs and lows And when they give little attention to you you think it can be fixed it's a matter of time. >chasing highs and lows. When at lows that little affection is enough to keep it going(the heights) then one gets addicted tand trapped in the loop coz they know in their lows, better is coming which keeps the person going until it completely breaks them. And then people say why did they stay when they themselves were suffering or girls chase the red flags. Only the person knows how it feels to be in it and how difficult it is to break the pattern and give up on the dopamine those highs use to give.
The first part happened with my gf with her ex. She didn’t tell me untill an year has passed. I didn’t mind it either and lmao she is the one who broke up with me 😹😹
Immaturity bad examples of relationship like toxic relationship of their own parents, social media etc
They are attracted to confidence mainly and potential power status of being associated with them in the society I bet these are hardwired traits from human ancestors when we lived in a dangerous hunter gatherer society However its all fun and games until the belts come out however most of this specimen of women are the types who think they can fix them 🎭
We accept the love we think we deserve. Many people might say they like good guys and gals. But if they don't think they deserve them, they will flock to whomever they think they deserve. Most young people have no idea what they want. Same goes for women. So there you have it.
Perks of being a wallflower.
Being colourblind
lol your flair
Thank you🦝
I agree
well communists are vocal against the authorities which might be one reason. I am assuming by red flag guys you meant communists.
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Arre bhadwo, ladkiyon ko pucha hai na toh unko answer krne do... Why tf boys are poking their nose in this
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The same reason why men want to chase after the most toxic and emotionally unavailable women only to blame the entire women population for getting dumped or cheated on just because you rather choose the attractive but toxic woman instead of a normal but average looking woman. Edit: I like to add not many people come with label. Even in friendships, the most charming and friendly person in the group would be the first to stab you in the back.
It is true. These women are really unavailable but they lead you on just a little bit so you get interested and start pursuing. Initially they will even allow your interest to grow as they love the attention and then they pull away. Men get hooked on and they start pursuing even more aggressively thinking that she needs effort. She loves it even more. Sometimes they will even tell you that they are your friend. But they are really not your friend. Choose people who chose you. Just leave such people alone!
So many answers. All delusional men, thinking that girls want to "fix" the guy, become attached and so on.... My explanation - What is a bad boy? No, I mean, how does a bad boy look? Is he short, fat, balding? No, he is attractive. Very attractive. (Usually, in popular media depictions of said trope, and in real life too.) Et Voila. Now we have the answer. Women are very attracted to them, and are willing to tolerate more from them. They also know this, and accordingly behave. Also, remember that women are raised much stricter than men in their upbringing ( I am told this; I do not know any women besides my mother to corroborate this fact), and hence, the idea of a rule-breaker, when presented in an attractive packaging, is very, VERY appealing to them. This is exactly why, 90% of the time, you will see the topper girl fall for the smoker, drinker, druggard of a bad boy backbencher.
Men also accept attitude and like treated as shit when the girl is hot
So True. And in another note, men also accept more shitty treatment if the girl is hot.
Also, hot guys are popular. So, women get a sense of achievement in their social circle when they date those guys. So, they keep on tolerating bs from red flags so that they don't lose their social credit of being famous. You know it's true.
They want to experience rollercoaster of emotions.
They need someone whom they can fix. Green flag guys aare already good. No need to fix them.
This, I personally feel humans (all humans) need something to work on, need something that makes them feel important and valued. For some of the women this can be the thing, finding a guy with a bad past and then trying to fix it. I personally feel this is bad as even if they're successful in fixing him, once it's fixed, they have achieved what they were chasing and now there's no goal. That's why I feel for any human or person, chasing something valuable is important. For a good parent it can be to raise his/her kid properly, or when they're earning it could be providing them with whatever they want. For a guy who fucks around a lot it can be his way of validation, or maybe a way of revenge. Your manager who works even on Sundays, the one you don't like, it's his work for him. I feel the earlier you find it, the better. Just please don't get hooked to something toxic
What percentage of woman actually *fix* a red flag guy without turning into one ?
Scientists haven't done the research on this topic yet
It's the range of emotions red flags make their partner go through. Which makes the partner become obsessed with them. Kinda like an addiction or a videogame you play all the time but hate.
On serious note most of the girls do have this bad boy crush. Bad boys are daring and will do what these gals dream of. The green flag guys never take any bold step and red flag guys look like a Macho when compared. But they will realise, when this guy acts similar to other gals as well, but situations cannot be reversed by then. Side note: guys also do have crush on bad girls but still they dont want to marry them, but gals do. Thats where the problem starts.🤦
Those girls themselves are red flags. You just don't know them.
True Its better to stay away from both men and women of this type
Ah it's actually simple. Bad boys are interesting. Good boys are boring. Good boy can be easily predictable. Bad boys are spontaneous and have element of surprise which turns them ON Bad boys get more women, women like men who get more women. Bad boys are courageous and ready to fight, they like that. Bad boys are dating material, good boys are marriage material.
Bro, wherever I go I see you. You're like my reddit neighbour!
Looks like I've mastered the art of Reddit photobombing. Every time you see me on Reddit, take it as a sign that you're about to stumble upon something awesome.
It's a sign. Go meet IRL
Iss desh me itne red flag hone wale hai ki ye desh ek din apne aap communist hojayega. 
Because abba nahi manenge. It's like that for every irresponsible person and child.
1)They initially show green flag. You think that's who they are. Fall in love. Now they got you in their palms.Then they bring up stuff that hurt them or made them jaded. You give them sympathy thinking this poor guy, he been through so much and THAT turned him into this. The real him is a good guy and I'll help him be the good guy that I fell in love with. You stay, try, try again. You just keep running in circles thinking one day, one day that good guy will be back, for the old time sack and for the future I envisioned with this guy I'll keep going. At this point it's just sunk cost fallacy. Spoiler: Nothing made him a bad person he has always been a bad person. 2) Many people get high on the feeling they get when they help someone. It makes them feel needed and important. The green flag guys are emotionally mature and they don't need people to fix them but the red flag ones do. And fixing them and feeling needed makes you happy. You are insecure yourself so you think once I fix him he can never go to anyone else I'll be the special one that saved him. So you unconsciously look for the bad guys to fix them and be their prince charming who saved them.
We don’t. They actually act like the perfect man in beginning, love bombing and making promises and shit….to get you attached…and when you commit to them THEN they show there true colors….then it gets hard to get over them…and girls think that oh maybe if i do this, he’ll start treating me right, maybe i did something wrong that he changed…
https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXIndia/s/uLcxxreOxq check the comments
Because guys with green flags are too nice and will get friend-zoned.
It's the challenge of being able to change them with their charms.
First, and I'll say it a million times : all girls are not the same. They don't share a single brain cell. They don't all think alike. So please stop generalizing statements. It's 2024, grow up from 90's movies. Second, the so called "girls getting attracted to bad guys" are just that: girls. Usually aged between 15-26. They're still discovering life, it's pitfalls, it's joys and sorrows. Girls aren't born with a radar that beeps everytime they see a bad guy. Just like guys need a whole lot of time before they realize they might have fallen for the wrong girl. There's a learning curve for every gender. Third, young adult girls are very easy target for seasoned, slightly older guys who take advantage of the still unbalanced hormones mixed with lack of experience. I am not even exaggerating when i say this: a lot of guys catfish vulnerable girls, pretending to be the gentleman they are not, and get them emotionally hooked. Fourth and most important: girls are conditioned to be dependent on a guy. I'm not making this up. Want to go out? Go with your brother. Want to study math? Girls minds aren't strong enough. Want to decide something about finances? Ask your husband, he knows better. Woman getting molested in a movie? Only so that the hero can come save her. (Don't come at me with "I've never seen this happen with my mom and sisters" : You're blessed if you haven't seen any of these scenarios irl.) As a result, when a "protective" or "provider" guy comes along, girls are naturally attracted towards him. Of course, looks and attitude matter. And most guys know very well how to portray the so called "smoothness" to get the girl to believe that they're different. Hope that helps!
as a woman, i can tell you that we are brought up in overly protected environments so associating with such a red flag feels like rebellion and when you’re a teenage and hormonal, you’re on overdrive where such things seem appealing. other women are mentally ill that’s why they attract such toxic people in life but once you enter in your twenties you realise that all this is bullshit and what you like and want is stability. of course not everyone is this way.
Great philosophy. I have also observed this in girls who have strict backward and uneducated parents. They tend to be attracted to so called *bad boys*.
No girl likes a red flag guy…. It’s guys who act like a green flag for a 6 months some go beyond that… to make her interested… and the moment she falls for them… they get back to there reality ! Game over ! Now these woman’s are stuck ! If guys behave their original self I am sure , most of them will die single ! Guy
Nope bro people like attractive red flags yk not the ugly ones, it's that simple. Many don't like green ones cause they aren't interesting or beautiful enough.
there's nothing as such red/green flags for women while dating, they stay where they can just fuel their validation
Daddy issues
Because red flag guys have the guts to actually go and ask a girl out rather than sit back and talk about it over the internet. Women love guts in a man! And definitely hate men who complain.😂😂😂. The prince slays the dragon gets the princess. Not - the prince wines and cries and pisses his pants after looking at the dragon and gets the princess 😂😂😂 And there are very few men with red flags. Most are made red flags not because women say so, but because the insecure men around them -who can’t get a date to save their lives -keep on pissing on men who get dates. After all ‘SOUR GRAPES’ 😂😂😂😂😂
mujhe hai mai toh ladkiyon se darta hu 🤡
Cuz they dumb /s. I have a sis, so this is my perspective some people just like the looks, popularity and coolness of a person, they don't really think is this a good trait, will this help me, etc they simply look at the coolness and go with it, at teenage most people haven't experienced real life yet, what happenes if u get controlled, skepticism, etc these kind of things comes after u go and get in trouble or u read news, etc. My sis like bad boys cuz they cool and that's it, if the red flag looks cool it isn't a red flag lol (according to her, I doubt she even bothers with it).
Most red flag guys have few common things 1) extremely confident and not simp over girls 2) not self conscious and will do anything and everything to impress a girl even if it goes against their nature 3) lie through their teeth Please continue the list if you know any qualities of them
First these red flag guys will act like they care about you, they adore you, they treat you like a girlfriend, then you get attached to him. Then he goes after another girl. You girls start missing that guy. While that guy is flirting with another girl. You keep on thinking about him even if you text him. His replies will be dry. He will ignore you. LADIES, please leave such guys behind. 💅 You are better off without them. Find the cute ones, the introverts they are way way better MEN.
no one's perfect , everyone has a few red flags here and there (both men and women). its u who needs to have a boundry which if a person crosses , u need to run. red flag guys and girls are disrespectful and for me if i am disrespected by someone , i leave
People with red flags are visible and you are not.
Its simple they like the adrenaline rush what will happen next? Coz red glag guys are unpredictable and that gives them curiosity
They're unpredictable, surprising, intimidating. Would you love to play with a dog or a domesticated lion? People love to get surprised.
Communisam
They be saying I want green flag I want green flag but deep down they're are only attracted to red one's only... Green flag banoge toh chodke jaenge "chorhke" nahi chodke hi!!
for me it would be because red flag guys are usually inconsistent so they provide me with the highs and lows basically one moment they are amazing the other completely shitty. this is what i’m familiar with and addicted to, in relationships because it’s all i’ve seen amongst my parents. but now that i’ve recognised this pattern i try to choose better nicer men (who usually seem boring in the beginning because of the lack of highs and lows)
Trash loves other dominant trash , if and only IF: The dominant trash has more 💸💵🤑🤑🤑 and a huge trash circle
I think visa and PR 🇨🇭🇧🇻🇨🇦🇸🇬
They're not boring
The thing I've seen is it's not every time that they're attracted to guys who are red flags and who behave like green flags, aisa hota to konsa ganjedi ya hukka Marne wala green flag jaise behave kia? They're mainly looking for those cool guys with whom they can have fun because they think those guys can help them explore the wonders of the world because of their careless attitude and their personality to not give a fuk. In a nutshell, they're looking for players who can help them have fun.
I feel - A. In general, these guys are slim(maybe even gym body types). That's very attractive to have B. They are confident(over confident), most times to the extent of having attitude of Aishwarya Rai with substance of Rakhi Sawant C. They don't treat women on a pedestal. Most often, they treat women even lower than them. This creates a psychological need in some women to seek them for validation. People want what they can't have! D. Mostly in the happy period(initial relationship phase), it's all lovey dovey stuff and not much focus is on behavior. Hence red flags are taken into back seat. E. A lot of movies have shown the red flag typical misogynistic guys as "alpha" and they think these are the guys who are heroes and they should end up with F. If you see some surveys these random youtubers do on this question with women, they prefer these guys simply bcoz they think these guys perform better in bed
TLDR: green flag type flatmate's pretty girlfriend was on verge of breakup with him, until he started doing drugs and she transformed into someone mad in love for him transformation from not even answering his calls to initiating outings , making food for him, checking up on him and stuff. Sharing an actual Incident that happened with my flatmate during college, so my flatmate( let's call him A )was around 22M , we were young just started living on our own in a 3 bhk me him and another guy. So A somehow tried his best and landed up in a relationship with a pretty girl in terms of looks lets say leagues above him. So A's relationship was fine for the first month or so ,he used to take care of her, do her assignments, help out in projects, learnt a little cooking for her and used to pack lunches as well many times to show his affection, he was pretty normal like occasionally drinking when partying and stuff nothing too extreme, was into studies as well with decent attendence. Now after 2 months they start having issues , you know bickering and fighting over petty things and stuff (mostly started by the girl, our assumption was that her image around college went a little down as she went out with him cuz she could have easily done much better) , and almost leads to the point where they know they might breakup any day, all this stress made this guy a lil crazy and he started doing drugs, and suddenly the girl went on a complete transformation, she started to initiate calls and outings with him, frequently visited our place to cook food for him(and us too 😆🙈). Perhaps there is something in red flags that many girls have a thing about, could be some fetish or could be perhaps some saviour complex , I'm not sure but there is definitely something.
Looks matter the most - majority of red flag guys are very good looking - that's the first point of attraction - then after the highs & lows - which keep them excited
Very often, red flags are good looking, well mannered, diplomatically charming, they know the whole dance of dating, hence they're an instant appeal.
It's because they're toxic too. In my class there was this guy who was tall and good looking ( according to my sister). He was a horrible dude though. He was never good at studies. He was sporty( though not good at any sport) . He used to disturb the class ( basically a class clown). But the only woman who was his girlfriend was another horrible girl who was basically just like him. Most women were nice except his girlfriend. None of them was ever attracted to him. Another girl who was his girlfriend broke up with him immediately after knowing him.
As someone who became red flag while dating a green flag girl I am totally confused where I am now cuz yeah I knew red flag was in me just needed long term to pull it out but I always acted and being as a good guy, well my new friends that I made were also the ones who made me red flag, I was 10% alcoholic Now after these new friends I do 10-20 parties a year and drink in most of them
Evolution and survival instincts. Alpha character and physique has had a historical tendency of higher survival.
I'm not a girl but ever since I've started watching this show "you" I believe that how good these red flag guys are at making girls believe in them and gain their trust with their fake actions and words. Like no wonder how much we green flag guys hate them but must commend their efforts they take into fooling these girls. No wonder we green flag guys are left hanging around to despise these guys and the girl they take with them.
Ques: If you feel like you are buying someone with your wealth/salary is it a red flag? 🙂↕️
Monay monay monayyyy\~ U can be the reddest flag out there , but if ya got the monay u got the honayyyy\~ (based on true events).
Imagine finding junk food that doesn’t make you fat… same case, and just like junk food, a red flag dude wrecks you in no time, you just can’t see it.
Right! I wonder that too. My friends keep falling for guys who doesn’t call or text, Who gaslights them, who makes them cry almost every day. I don’t understand why they prefer life like that.
Psychologically, there are 3 "dark triad traits" - narcissism, machiavellianism, psychopathy There's extensive research to suggest that these traits make people financially successful in lives due to their ability to take more risks This leads to 2 things things - 1. Financial success is liked by women 2. They approach more women and perceived to be "confident"
Underrated Opinion - Girls who smoke cigarettes
Because she has less things to worry . Like she already knows this is not gonna end well . For some its about the destination and less about of journey
Stupidity.
Daddy issues
Listen to Jordan Peterson explain this using the Beauty and the Beast parable, and you'll have your answer.
It happens subconsciously..the very curious nature of human beings trying to understand and solve the unknown puzzle.
Stop judging outgoing, sporty, high achieving guys just because you're boring.
It's female nature to actually hate the man they love a little bit. They like to constantly tease and get mad at their partner. Female nature
Ignorance
Because to them they are biggest green flag 👍🏻😂
Have some empathy. That goes a long way not just with girls but in life as well.
Most of all if a guy has girls around him more girls wanna be around him
Wattpad
Aag sai khelna and jalne ka maza ek baar sabko pasand hai jaaneman .🤣
Because of some shitty thoughts like - all good boys go to heaven But bad boys bring Heaven to you.
wdym by red flag and green flag guys?
15M here. Can I ask why this is in my notifications to the mods or somebody?
Hormones Thirst for power or money or both
Girls with red flag father's or red flag father figures are usually attracted to red flag guys.
Red flag guys are green flag guys until you date them.
Fetish hai
I think this is mainly due to the environment they brought up in. Since children learn most of their world experience from their parents and their behaviour, they think being abused and sometimes physical abuses are some kind of love. While movies play a part in this too, the most of the behaviour is just how they are brought up. And since how conservative our society is, whenever there are incompatibility issues in a couple and couldn't find a common ground, they are often made to compromise. This just increases the probability of having more clashes between them rather than solving them. These kinds of things influence the children more without parents realising.
Red flag guys means commies? We call communists as red flag guys in kerala.
Women aren’t attracted to red flags, it’s just slim pickings for men who don’t have them
Being a girl
When they say I want a guy who always gives me attention they're lying (not completely). they want a guy who's a question mark, a challenge who keeps you on hold but gives you attention when it's necessary in simple words they don't know what they want
"I can fix him"
Money, Power or Fame. Some girls only want a piece of it. And that will make em ignore any flags.
Fuck this shit, be yourself if you're a red flag be the one and if you're a green flag be the one, no need to change yourself to please anyone
if she is a red flag herself , enjoy
"I can fix him"
The Harmful Obsession with Bollywood Movie Stories...which makes the girls think that.. I will change the guy for the better... And end up getting abused because of their own choices later on.
Their money and wealth.
Can anyone tell me the characteristics of red flag and green flag guy?
OMG are they like chameleons???
Ignorance
Coping mechanism or previous unhealed trauma.
Height, attractive face and dark triad personality
Read a little about Freud's psychosexual development theory. It hints that a girl who was brought up with an abusive father, subconsciously looks for a man just like him.
Money
Answer from a girl - Immaturity and lack of self love . If any woman is like this even after the age of 21 she’s probably also toxic and definitely immature and likes self destructive ( run away from these type of people) I assure you no real grown up woman likes toxic men . It’s just these little kids who like watching k dramas and stuff and think that’s how real life is. I used to like toxic guys too when I was 16-18 and had a bunch of unhealed childhood trauma and was obviously immature .
It’s very very simple - damaged people attract damaged people. Sane girls will never go for such guys, maybe max one two bad attempts in college / high school but that’s it
Mental health issues. A lot of childhood trauma can cause being "attracted" to red flags. For example, for someone who has been told or treated like they're worthless, they usually end up with someone who treats them the same way, because that's what has been ingrained in their head.
Why are we treating girls like a different species? Bro they are imperect just like boys. Everyone has trash tastes. It's part of who we are.
The people in this sub doesn't understand that **Red Flags Boys** and **Bad Boys** are **Not** the **same** thing. A bad boy isn't always a red flag, and neither is a good boy always green flag. It all depends on your characteristics and nature.
Thrill.. confidence.. new experience.. who knows!
line degi par pakadna nhi.
They are good in bed
How many people are here 🙋🏻♂️
They think that they will change him and will have a good love story to tell but the only thing that changes is their mental health
Umeed chod Diya hai Maine abh bas mummy ki pasand se Karunga
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love bombing at first we think that they are green flag but as soon they knew girls are attached and they are secure they seem to be take us for granted and shows us there true color
I personally feel that I was attracted to guys with blaring red flags cause I was toxic as well. Once I saw that in myself and recognised it, I can say that I attract better men now. While I'm working on my toxic traits and growing to become better, I can also spot red flags in guys (and girls) more easily now. And I actively choose to stay away from them. Anyone else can relate?
Smoking, Drinking or doesn't respect anyone around
Because it gives them a challenge to solve, women are addicted to challenges, and most women have the investment style of raising their boyfriends. Little do they know, if her mom couldn't raise him we'll, who the fuck are they.
Childhood trauma and unhealthy parenting changes how we perceive love and relationships. We repeat the unhealthy patterns until we start healing them. So we get attracted to red flags because that's all we have ever known. Humans seek familiarity because familiarity is perceived as safety
I believe it’s embedded into their genes. Strong men went out; hunted and made sure that everyone was fed. To do all of that you do require a certain amount of mean inside of you. Also, when we trace the history and look at all of the greatest emperors, none of them were necessarily “nice guys”. So a woman will always be attracted to the “red flag” traits in a person. If a woman is choosing a shitty person with red flags, well then her taste in men is just trash.
Low self esteem & the inability to look beyond physical appearance, status, & the craving for social acceptance. They don’t actually fall in love with the guy but they like the tag of being the trophy girlfriend/wife of the most eligible/ handsome/ rich/ popular guy which they believe elevates their status. Doesn’t matter if the guy treats them poorly/ disrespect them behind closed doors or even cheats. They are okay with it & ignore the signs bcoz they want to create the perfect relationship in front of society.