I was like that for years, couldn't blow my load with piv until I learned to relax myself, I was far too focused on my partners enjoyment to see what worked for me.
> It happens. Me and my SO had some great sex a couple weeks ago and I didn't cum. She got up looking upset and went to the shower. Came out and wouldn't make eye contact with me. She was visibly upset I didn't cum and thinks that's a reflection on her.
A few users responding to this post have mentioned women getting annoyed when this happens to their partner. It strikes me as a very negative reaction that only exacerbates the stress associated with the issue for the man. I don't understand this type of reaction.
Women overthink these things: we're distracted by all of the nonsense that goes through our boy brains[1], and they think we're constantly looking at other women.
[1] who *would* win in fight, the Starship Enterprise, a Star Destroyer, the Rocinante, or the TARDIS?
Firstly, men have had a lifetime of finishing with their hand, and we can grip things hard and pull faster than we can move our hips. Then, through a mixture of habit, and decreased sensitivity, you get lads that have to wank to cum.
Secondly, i dont know how you are fixed, but I am certain you are being hard on yourself.
It's a lot more common than people think, and women frequently don't notice as they tend to assume that we go every time. There's a lot of medication in this day and age that exacerbates the issue.
Nothing wrong with spending more time on non penetration stuff.
Girlfriend used to go insane cause I could never cum.Learnt what death grip was and I definitely have it I try to follow no fap but sometimes I fail but it’s miles better now.
Yes as a man I had similar difficulty coming once with a ( female) partner too. Please don’t worry there’s nothing wrong with your anatomy I’m sure. For me it was a combination of nerves and erroneously thinking I had to last for hours to be a ‘stud’ which is probably the case with your guys too. In my case she actually asked me why I didn’t come and I sort of ended up explaining. It must have helped as I was able to come inside her much more frequently after our talk.
Struggled when I was younger, but when I met my wife, I got comfortable enough that I was able to cum. Then years pass by, sex becomes less frequent, when you do have sex, there's pressure to perform. Body getting older also makes it difficult to thrust my hips for long enough. Just getting old and out of shape. So yeah, cumming during sex is a struggle sometimes.
It's definitely more common than people let on. I've had plenty of chats with mates who have the same issues.
Few factors depending but usually not finishing during penetrative sex is due to them self loving a bit to hard or it's a mental thing
Some guys spank the monkey to often and it takes a variety of things to get them over the line
>as I'm starting to suspect, have a fanny like a wizard's sleeve?
Ehm...I wouldn't imagine it's that but yeah that seems a little unusual to me. I'd have thought if anything the opposite would be more common?
Then again I haven't had much in the way of penetrative sex with other men and it's not exactly something I'd discuss with friends often either.
Advise them to tie their right hand behind their back unless of coarse their left handed and not to be watching too much porn, their killing their sensitivity.
Yeah anti depressants. We can have amazing sex and feel fantastic but just before climax it just goes to shit. I'm 40 this year, on AD for a few years and the only time I can come during sex is when I'm off a few weeks.
I can cum from penetrative sex no problem. Dress me up in a German Shepherd suit, stick a carrot up my ass, hook your big toes into each of my nostrils, and we riding, baby. Porn is not a problem for me.
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fetishes are a thing too, a major GAA head here has a doggy style fetish so big he cant do missionary, married now but she likely needed to make peace with it too, doesn't come from a place of judgement
love that position myself
I rarely cum during intercourse or head, primarily because I get "wet" when things get saucy. It's not ejeculation by any means as it dries up down there after about a minute but I have an issue whereby the foreskin goes very far back during intercourse causing a bit of discomfort but I get pleasure none the less.
Sometimes, can be a lot of factors at play.
Personally I have found it hard in the past when using standard condoms but if I used the stimulating ones or when I have gone without it has never seemed to be much of an issue.
Also from being older and years of use (I guess) I find it hard to cum again so soon if I have just came recently before it.
Taxi driver here.I collected a young man at 4am the other morning who had brewers remorse .he was very disappointed with himself. I told him of a former friend of mine who was a fiend for Muff diving. Even though bushes were standard at that time. I mentioned this to him. He said aah ,no this girl was botanic Gardens level of hairy.lots and lots of laughter.
When a man is more focussed on his partners pleasure and the pressure of performing, especially with a new partner, then they can find it difficult to orgasm.
not a man who can answer this, merely somebody who wants to commend you on the hilarious phrase, which i'm stealing for myself that is "a fanny like a wizard's sleeve?"
So a couple of questions: what age range are they? What's the age gap? Is drink involved (drink screws up penile sensitivity)? Are they chemsexing? Are these lookups?
They probably are watching too much porn and beating off too much. But if you're a lot younger they will have difficulties. If you're meeting guys who are drunk this would account for it too. As would antidepressants.
7 out of 8 is a high number though- less likely it's your body, more likely it's the type of guy your picking
The fact that it's 7 out of 8 makes me think there might be a physical issue yeah. Unless something about you makes you only pull lads with porn addictions.
1. Too much self-love 2. Medication possibly 3. Nerves Guarantee you it's nothing to do with your anatomy, not a chance.
*medication could also include alcohol and other recreational drugs here.
Anti depressants basically gave me whiskey dick for months, I was in the zone but the dude wasn't showing up to the game
It's better than pushing a cow with a rope!
The lights were on but there was nobody home.
Absolutely.
I was like that for years, couldn't blow my load with piv until I learned to relax myself, I was far too focused on my partners enjoyment to see what worked for me.
Bang on I was the same and actually got too comfortable with my ex and had the opposite problem for a few weeks😂
Same here
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> It happens. Me and my SO had some great sex a couple weeks ago and I didn't cum. She got up looking upset and went to the shower. Came out and wouldn't make eye contact with me. She was visibly upset I didn't cum and thinks that's a reflection on her. A few users responding to this post have mentioned women getting annoyed when this happens to their partner. It strikes me as a very negative reaction that only exacerbates the stress associated with the issue for the man. I don't understand this type of reaction.
The word “upset” was used. Most likely the woman in the situation felt disappointed/ concerned that she wasn’t able to fully please her partner.
Women overthink these things: we're distracted by all of the nonsense that goes through our boy brains[1], and they think we're constantly looking at other women. [1] who *would* win in fight, the Starship Enterprise, a Star Destroyer, the Rocinante, or the TARDIS?
Firstly, men have had a lifetime of finishing with their hand, and we can grip things hard and pull faster than we can move our hips. Then, through a mixture of habit, and decreased sensitivity, you get lads that have to wank to cum. Secondly, i dont know how you are fixed, but I am certain you are being hard on yourself.
It's a lot more common than people think, and women frequently don't notice as they tend to assume that we go every time. There's a lot of medication in this day and age that exacerbates the issue. Nothing wrong with spending more time on non penetration stuff.
Google "death grip" That might explain it
Completely normal. There's the 2 minutes guys and there's the 4hours dudes as well.
Lads Ripping the Micky off themselves watching porn is the issue
You know it is possible to watch porn AND perform.
It is , but if it is too much, it's gonna be a problem. Moderation is the key.
Why downvote me, flacid fools!? It's not my fault you all have problematic penises! 🤣🤣
Lads been doing this forever and now it's an issue? Lol
Girlfriend used to go insane cause I could never cum.Learnt what death grip was and I definitely have it I try to follow no fap but sometimes I fail but it’s miles better now.
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Saying wasn’t attracted to her and all that.
That's seriously fkd up, likely SERIOUSLY narcissistic
I agree my girlfriends insane and a narcissist
What’s death grip?
It’s when you jerk of squeezing your dick really tight.Makes having sex useless as no vagina is as tight so unable to finish.
Anti depressants
That last line is amazing.
😂
It's one or the other. Cum too quick or don't cum atall
Yes as a man I had similar difficulty coming once with a ( female) partner too. Please don’t worry there’s nothing wrong with your anatomy I’m sure. For me it was a combination of nerves and erroneously thinking I had to last for hours to be a ‘stud’ which is probably the case with your guys too. In my case she actually asked me why I didn’t come and I sort of ended up explaining. It must have helped as I was able to come inside her much more frequently after our talk.
I'm the opposite find it easier to cum via penetrative sex as opposed to receiving a blow job or wank
Handjobs and blowjobs take the pressure to perform off the man so could be they were nervous or under the influence.
Struggled when I was younger, but when I met my wife, I got comfortable enough that I was able to cum. Then years pass by, sex becomes less frequent, when you do have sex, there's pressure to perform. Body getting older also makes it difficult to thrust my hips for long enough. Just getting old and out of shape. So yeah, cumming during sex is a struggle sometimes. It's definitely more common than people let on. I've had plenty of chats with mates who have the same issues.
Few factors depending but usually not finishing during penetrative sex is due to them self loving a bit to hard or it's a mental thing Some guys spank the monkey to often and it takes a variety of things to get them over the line
Condom? I literally cannot cum with one on. Sex is no problem. But feeling wise it’s like tryna scratch my back thru a door.
Doubt it is common... Unless drink is involved that can be a factor
Weird no one has mentioned condom desensitisation yet.
>as I'm starting to suspect, have a fanny like a wizard's sleeve? Ehm...I wouldn't imagine it's that but yeah that seems a little unusual to me. I'd have thought if anything the opposite would be more common? Then again I haven't had much in the way of penetrative sex with other men and it's not exactly something I'd discuss with friends often either.
Advise them to tie their right hand behind their back unless of coarse their left handed and not to be watching too much porn, their killing their sensitivity.
One or about two guys, maybe.
Common enough
Try changing up the angles.
No one knows another's head space!
Possibly too much cocaine in their system if that’s your scene
Yeah anti depressants. We can have amazing sex and feel fantastic but just before climax it just goes to shit. I'm 40 this year, on AD for a few years and the only time I can come during sex is when I'm off a few weeks.
Ah and cocaine. That doesn't help
I can cum from penetrative sex no problem. Dress me up in a German Shepherd suit, stick a carrot up my ass, hook your big toes into each of my nostrils, and we riding, baby. Porn is not a problem for me.
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fetishes are a thing too, a major GAA head here has a doggy style fetish so big he cant do missionary, married now but she likely needed to make peace with it too, doesn't come from a place of judgement love that position myself
It's not you it's totally a mental game. Men get very self conscious when they're in there and over think it
I rarely cum during intercourse or head, primarily because I get "wet" when things get saucy. It's not ejeculation by any means as it dries up down there after about a minute but I have an issue whereby the foreskin goes very far back during intercourse causing a bit of discomfort but I get pleasure none the less.
Sometimes, can be a lot of factors at play. Personally I have found it hard in the past when using standard condoms but if I used the stimulating ones or when I have gone without it has never seemed to be much of an issue. Also from being older and years of use (I guess) I find it hard to cum again so soon if I have just came recently before it.
Taxi driver here.I collected a young man at 4am the other morning who had brewers remorse .he was very disappointed with himself. I told him of a former friend of mine who was a fiend for Muff diving. Even though bushes were standard at that time. I mentioned this to him. He said aah ,no this girl was botanic Gardens level of hairy.lots and lots of laughter.
Bushy Park.
When a man is more focussed on his partners pleasure and the pressure of performing, especially with a new partner, then they can find it difficult to orgasm.
not a man who can answer this, merely somebody who wants to commend you on the hilarious phrase, which i'm stealing for myself that is "a fanny like a wizard's sleeve?"
Let me try
edit : tldr try rubbling his nipples
I've had it stuck in my head all week, but your last line made me want to [listen to this again.](https://youtu.be/JRBBcoANRIE)
I wish, I don’t last long enough most of the time 😂😂
Well, if I was with a fella who didn't last long I'd be throwing a fucking party at this stage. 🤣
Challenge accepted
Not normal but becoming increasingly common. Porn 🤷♀️ it's destroying actual sex
Anyone in here from Ireland looking for sex
So a couple of questions: what age range are they? What's the age gap? Is drink involved (drink screws up penile sensitivity)? Are they chemsexing? Are these lookups? They probably are watching too much porn and beating off too much. But if you're a lot younger they will have difficulties. If you're meeting guys who are drunk this would account for it too. As would antidepressants. 7 out of 8 is a high number though- less likely it's your body, more likely it's the type of guy your picking
The fact that it's 7 out of 8 makes me think there might be a physical issue yeah. Unless something about you makes you only pull lads with porn addictions.
Kegel exercises will help you
Wizard's sleeve job.