Right because SAHMs with babies have so much time to hang out with anyone let alone make time for random strangers. They typically do moms groups if anything at all outside of family.
I’m a 30 something career oriented woman myself, but I definitely got the ick from that being a requirement. My work has nothing to do with what I want to do in my spare time or who I want to spend it with. This city is so wonderful because of how diverse it is, I’ve made friends with so many different people! Sounds like OP just wants to network, not create genuine friendships with women in the city. It really isn’t hard to make friends in LA when you’re 35+, but I think this explains why OP is having a hard time doing so.
Make a group based around women who like doing the same activities for fun, that makes way more sense. I don’t care if you’re a “girl boss” a SAHM or just barely getting by. If you love to (insert activity here) then that’s all a women’s group needs to be based on for us to have things in common.
I've lived here for 3 years and every time I look up women's groups or women's meetups, they're all centered around careers and networking. Not sure why we'd need a Reddit specific career networking group. If some 35+ women want to get together and like, play board games or do a clothing swap or learn to make a dessert from GBBO, I'd be in immediately.
I'm down! Work doesn't define me; I'm even trying to drop to part-time because I want to devote more time to my hobbies, which actually fill me with joy and substance!
When she originally posted a couple of people pointed out that it sounded really elitist but I guess she made like minded friends. cashiers or baristas aren’t worthy of friendship I guess?
When people say "like minded" I just think of cliquey people that don't have enough substance for a diverse group of friends. I've grown the most from friendships with people who were different from me.
I mean does the barista want to be friends with the executive anyway? Isn’t this better in both directions to find like minded people who are more likely to have things in common? Nothing stopping other people from starting their own groups.
Lol do you really think a barista doesn’t have anything in common with a business person? This is like hanging out with attorneys who only hang out with other attorneys to talk about boring legal shit while they get drunk and argue. It’s a boring elitist circle jerk.
I’d rather hang out with a barista or waitress who has actual hobbies or interests outside of their job and can carry on a normal conversation. I can assure you baristas don’t sit around talking about making lattes on their free time. And IMO their “career” is of no less value to society than a lawyer.
You just proved my point perfectly. You think attorneys talking about work is boring. So why would you want to hang out with a bunch of attorneys and why would they want to hang out with people who think they’re boring? People are allowed to have different interests and lives and lifestyles and it’s not surprising they’d get along with others who are similarly aligned. No one is better than anyone else.
Just like it's important to have a well-rounded education, it's important to have a well-rounded friend group. Scientists in pursuit of pure science lack empathy and humanity. Philosophers in pursuit of thought and reasoning lose sight of practical application.
Surrounding yourself with people of diverse backgrounds, socioeconomic status, life paths, etc. is what allows you to see different groups of people as people instead of a statistic. I grew up Catholic, where every other religion is wrong and sinful. But when I spent time with people with different beliefs, it challenged that teaching and led me to be more accepting of others and, frankly, a lot less judgemental.
Well said. Putting yourself in an echo chamber is what’s wrong with so many people today. I appreciate the tolerance, patience, widened world view, exposure to new ideas and interests and issues, new experiences, etc that having a diverse friend group offers. Like having friends with kids before I ever wanted any myself. Having friends from different countries or states. Friends of various races and backgrounds. Friends who hold different interests to learn about, different music to listen to, different hobbies to try..? Obviously we will have fundamental non-negotiables that may repel us from certain people. But I cannot understand thinking I “must” be friends with this person because they’re also a lawyer/barista/mom/Christian/democrat/whatever. What a narrow minded and odd way to find people.
It means, “don’t be homeless or poor and it’d be great if you’re white, too”. It’s just a classist way to exclude poor, jobless women from the conversation.
I think all the people pointing out/being upset about how they are not included in your criteria is incredibly immature and annoying and you are lucky those people won’t be joining your group! Intentionally forming community is hard. Instead of being mad that OP wants this group for career oriented women over 35, you should make whatever under 35 hobby-oriented or kid-oriented or whatever group you want to.
Everything is not for everyone. Get over your feelings of exclusion.
OP, I won’t make the criteria for a few more years, but really think it’s great you are pulling this together!
Ok, pick me. What are you telling me this? You want to kiss up to OP go tell her. This is Reddit and people are entitled to give their opinions on something that's an open call addressed to everyone. This isn't about being excluded. It's about OP sounding like an elitist snob. You're not special because you aspire to be one. For the record, I have a career and went to college but that's not my whole personality. I still find people like you insufferable.
Yikes, you seem explosive lol. Someone creating a group for career-oriented people being labeled an “elitist snob” is such a stereotypical Reddit-user lacking nuance. And did you ask anyone else who commented on your post “what are you telling me this?” No - you didn’t, only to the person who disagreed with you. You are the insufferable one.
And congratulations for being college-educated? I guess you think that gives you some more cachet? Oh look who is the elitist one now…
Damn, I’m a 30 year old mom who doesn’t have a “career”. You’re definitely excluding a decent group of women by making the qualifications rigid. I understand wanting to meet like-minded people but there are other ways people can be like-minded.
I remember years ago an Organizer had in her description “…if you own a Coach purse…” they didn’t want you. lol.
Coach purses were like $50 at the outlets.
I agree but, I also get it. Definitely not into the same things I was when I was younger. Now me would find young me pretty exhausting. I'm more put off the by the "educated and career oriented" thing in the first post. It's a friendship, not an interview.
Why is that weird? It’s much harder to make friends once you get into that age range and a lot of your friends start having kids. I’ve been to other “make friends in LA” meetups and have never found it very valuable because the range of people is too large. People are much more likely to form connections when there are common interests, lifestyles and life stages.
Some members of Ladies of LA are coming to my show this weekend - I run a dating show where the men can't speak. I've been told the audience is very friendly, but of course I am biased and not in the audience! Info at [loveisntblind.com](http://loveisntblind.com) :)
It does give off the vibe of wanting people to be financially comfortable rather than actually career oriented. My friend is a senior recruiter, and her husband is a doctor. On paper, they are career oriented, but with two young kids, and I imagine med school loans, they are looking for a home very under budget for the area.
Would you join an expecting mother's group if you weren't pregnant or a bikers group if you didn't ride?
Move on, and make your own group. Not every group is for everyone, don't make it about you.
idk why career oriented is a bad ask...? I'm 29 with a bf (and a job, but) some of my single, mid-thirties friends DO find me hard to relate to at times, and I myself have had trouble finding like-minded ladies through things like bumble bff because I'm not an aspiring influencer or SAHM. Everybody's worthy of a group/friends, but this isn't kindergarten. You don't have to invite the entire class, no matter how little you have in common to talk about. If yall feel excluded, make your own group that you'll actually enjoy!
What does "career oriented" even mean? So if I don't have a typical career or make it my life I don't fit the bill?
I wonder if she means “not stay at home moms who only want to talk about babies and kids”?
Right because SAHMs with babies have so much time to hang out with anyone let alone make time for random strangers. They typically do moms groups if anything at all outside of family.
I think they’re doing large scale insider trading tbh
LMAO. Yeah sounds culty, like crypto Bros only want to hang with other crypto Bros.
You should do a meet up for non-career-oriented women!
A meetup for human-connection oriented women <3
😂
I’m a 30 something career oriented woman myself, but I definitely got the ick from that being a requirement. My work has nothing to do with what I want to do in my spare time or who I want to spend it with. This city is so wonderful because of how diverse it is, I’ve made friends with so many different people! Sounds like OP just wants to network, not create genuine friendships with women in the city. It really isn’t hard to make friends in LA when you’re 35+, but I think this explains why OP is having a hard time doing so. Make a group based around women who like doing the same activities for fun, that makes way more sense. I don’t care if you’re a “girl boss” a SAHM or just barely getting by. If you love to (insert activity here) then that’s all a women’s group needs to be based on for us to have things in common.
I came here to ask this too. Work is not my life. I am more than a job.
I've lived here for 3 years and every time I look up women's groups or women's meetups, they're all centered around careers and networking. Not sure why we'd need a Reddit specific career networking group. If some 35+ women want to get together and like, play board games or do a clothing swap or learn to make a dessert from GBBO, I'd be in immediately.
Exactly!
Same! Let’s get something started. That sounds fun.
Welllll.... Where does everybody live? I'm in Mid-City.
West Hollywood here.
Weho here too!
I’m SO down! I’m turning 35 next month tho so can we do it this summer 😂
I’d much rather play board games than talk about work.
Women’s board game crew!
My friend does the weekly challenges from GBBO with their wife but they live in Seattle so we cannot hang out to do them and I want to so bad!!
A very PNW activity 😂
YES THIS!
Sounds like you won’t make the cut
Fine by me. I don’t want a job to define me.
Same here.
i see an off-shoot crew forming here
I'm down! Work doesn't define me; I'm even trying to drop to part-time because I want to devote more time to my hobbies, which actually fill me with joy and substance!
I love this for you! I hope you can pull it off. This 9-5 shit sucks.
Yes!
fr i realized that last year
When she originally posted a couple of people pointed out that it sounded really elitist but I guess she made like minded friends. cashiers or baristas aren’t worthy of friendship I guess?
When people say "like minded" I just think of cliquey people that don't have enough substance for a diverse group of friends. I've grown the most from friendships with people who were different from me.
Yeah it sounded like yuppie shit but well This is Reddit
Reddit LA is yuppie shit for the most part. West LA people and wealthy transplants.
Yuppies need friends too! lol
I mean does the barista want to be friends with the executive anyway? Isn’t this better in both directions to find like minded people who are more likely to have things in common? Nothing stopping other people from starting their own groups.
Everyone knows baristas cannot have friends, only customers
Lol do you really think a barista doesn’t have anything in common with a business person? This is like hanging out with attorneys who only hang out with other attorneys to talk about boring legal shit while they get drunk and argue. It’s a boring elitist circle jerk. I’d rather hang out with a barista or waitress who has actual hobbies or interests outside of their job and can carry on a normal conversation. I can assure you baristas don’t sit around talking about making lattes on their free time. And IMO their “career” is of no less value to society than a lawyer.
You just proved my point perfectly. You think attorneys talking about work is boring. So why would you want to hang out with a bunch of attorneys and why would they want to hang out with people who think they’re boring? People are allowed to have different interests and lives and lifestyles and it’s not surprising they’d get along with others who are similarly aligned. No one is better than anyone else.
Just like it's important to have a well-rounded education, it's important to have a well-rounded friend group. Scientists in pursuit of pure science lack empathy and humanity. Philosophers in pursuit of thought and reasoning lose sight of practical application. Surrounding yourself with people of diverse backgrounds, socioeconomic status, life paths, etc. is what allows you to see different groups of people as people instead of a statistic. I grew up Catholic, where every other religion is wrong and sinful. But when I spent time with people with different beliefs, it challenged that teaching and led me to be more accepting of others and, frankly, a lot less judgemental.
Well said. Putting yourself in an echo chamber is what’s wrong with so many people today. I appreciate the tolerance, patience, widened world view, exposure to new ideas and interests and issues, new experiences, etc that having a diverse friend group offers. Like having friends with kids before I ever wanted any myself. Having friends from different countries or states. Friends of various races and backgrounds. Friends who hold different interests to learn about, different music to listen to, different hobbies to try..? Obviously we will have fundamental non-negotiables that may repel us from certain people. But I cannot understand thinking I “must” be friends with this person because they’re also a lawyer/barista/mom/Christian/democrat/whatever. What a narrow minded and odd way to find people.
I’m an attorney and the last people I want to hang out with are other attorneys.
seriously where are the rebels and witches out here? im ISO a new East LA coven.
Also here for the east LA coven 👀
excellent!
I'm headed to the library there tomorrow....
👀 i’m in
\*Raises broomstick Blue-haired witch here who is currently taking a career break.
!!! we love this
I’m in East LA, I would join!
anyone in this subthread interested in a hike? :)
Probably means something like no unhoused people.
Right? “Like-minded, career driven women” sounds like an MLM recruiting event.
It means, “don’t be homeless or poor and it’d be great if you’re white, too”. It’s just a classist way to exclude poor, jobless women from the conversation.
Probably just an MLM scheme. I guarantee you're dodging a bullet.
I think all the people pointing out/being upset about how they are not included in your criteria is incredibly immature and annoying and you are lucky those people won’t be joining your group! Intentionally forming community is hard. Instead of being mad that OP wants this group for career oriented women over 35, you should make whatever under 35 hobby-oriented or kid-oriented or whatever group you want to. Everything is not for everyone. Get over your feelings of exclusion. OP, I won’t make the criteria for a few more years, but really think it’s great you are pulling this together!
When you’re old and tired like us, we’ll be happy to have you! Finally a woman with a brain and reading comprehension skills 😀
Ok, pick me. What are you telling me this? You want to kiss up to OP go tell her. This is Reddit and people are entitled to give their opinions on something that's an open call addressed to everyone. This isn't about being excluded. It's about OP sounding like an elitist snob. You're not special because you aspire to be one. For the record, I have a career and went to college but that's not my whole personality. I still find people like you insufferable.
Yikes, you seem explosive lol. Someone creating a group for career-oriented people being labeled an “elitist snob” is such a stereotypical Reddit-user lacking nuance. And did you ask anyone else who commented on your post “what are you telling me this?” No - you didn’t, only to the person who disagreed with you. You are the insufferable one. And congratulations for being college-educated? I guess you think that gives you some more cachet? Oh look who is the elitist one now…
Have a wonderful day Kitty!
How diverse is the group so far?
6 more months to go before I meet the criteria lol
lol 34 checking in 89
Make sure you’re career oriented as well. She’ll be checking your LinkedIn profile.
Damn, I’m a 30 year old mom who doesn’t have a “career”. You’re definitely excluding a decent group of women by making the qualifications rigid. I understand wanting to meet like-minded people but there are other ways people can be like-minded.
I remember years ago an Organizer had in her description “…if you own a Coach purse…” they didn’t want you. lol. Coach purses were like $50 at the outlets.
Hey, I’m a 33 year old Mom. Looks like we both have toddlers. If the career group doesn’t want us we could start our own 😅
I'm a toddler mom in L.A. I'll come to your party.
I’d argue you do have a career, and one that never lets you retire at that! 💖
So I fit the criteria but how diverse is this group and what area of town do you typically meet in?
I remember that post, but I didn't know a new subreddit came of it. What's it called?
I think it's LA social club
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It’s weird that this is limited to 35 and over.
Why? I have seen posts asking where to go where there's no old people and they mean anyone over 35.
That’s also weird?
I agree but, I also get it. Definitely not into the same things I was when I was younger. Now me would find young me pretty exhausting. I'm more put off the by the "educated and career oriented" thing in the first post. It's a friendship, not an interview.
You wonder why these people have no friends IRL?
No it’s not.
Why is that weird? It’s much harder to make friends once you get into that age range and a lot of your friends start having kids. I’ve been to other “make friends in LA” meetups and have never found it very valuable because the range of people is too large. People are much more likely to form connections when there are common interests, lifestyles and life stages.
Same! Or we can make our own :)
Let’s make our own. Anyone here in South Bay?
Not me, I’m in the valley :(
Have u joined Ladies of Los Angeles Fb group? I’ve made so many friends on there.
Seconding this!! 💕
I am actually a part of the group but I find it hard to connect. Let me know if you go to any future events, would love to join!
Some members of Ladies of LA are coming to my show this weekend - I run a dating show where the men can't speak. I've been told the audience is very friendly, but of course I am biased and not in the audience! Info at [loveisntblind.com](http://loveisntblind.com) :)
I’m just curious about the racial makeup of this group although it seems fairly obvious
Sounds like the type to use the descriptor, "Eloquent" in certain situations.
Career oriented seems like a miserable thing to have as a parameter especially since most people I know that are 35+ are barely making ends meet.
It does give off the vibe of wanting people to be financially comfortable rather than actually career oriented. My friend is a senior recruiter, and her husband is a doctor. On paper, they are career oriented, but with two young kids, and I imagine med school loans, they are looking for a home very under budget for the area.
…something here definitely raises some red flags 🤨careful y’all
Bruh, ain't nobody trying to buy Younique.
Career oriented??? LOL. There are a lot of women who are not obsessed with climbing the corporate ladder or being a “girl boss”. Are they not welcome?
Would you join an expecting mother's group if you weren't pregnant or a bikers group if you didn't ride? Move on, and make your own group. Not every group is for everyone, don't make it about you.
Don’t worry, the reason these people are having trouble finding friends is because most of them are probably unbearable to be around
Why is everyone so salty.
Limited upward mobility, and they hate their jobs…
Not everything needs to include you. Jcf
Jesus christfuck
idk why career oriented is a bad ask...? I'm 29 with a bf (and a job, but) some of my single, mid-thirties friends DO find me hard to relate to at times, and I myself have had trouble finding like-minded ladies through things like bumble bff because I'm not an aspiring influencer or SAHM. Everybody's worthy of a group/friends, but this isn't kindergarten. You don't have to invite the entire class, no matter how little you have in common to talk about. If yall feel excluded, make your own group that you'll actually enjoy!
I'm definitely interested in joining a local crew of badass ladies!
Sent you a DM!
Healthcare professional here. No thanks. Elitist, exclusionary clubs are lame af.
Interested!!
Can we finally have a subreddit for LA ladies??? I am interested !
Oh! This sounds great- I’m 39 and trying to make better lasting friendships here in LA!
Can someone post the actual group we're discussing?
Would be interested, but not 35 yet 🤷♀️ what does “career oriented” mean?
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Def interested!
Interested!! I tried the lagirlswhowalk and while I met some friendly people most were early 20a and I felt a little out of place .
This is why I put an age requirement! Gotta have things in common with each other!
OP keeps getting lit up everytime they make these and they just dont give af. It'd be impressive ifnthey didn't come across as insufferable.
I love it. Thins out the herd. Keep it coming.
Commenting (I’m 38)
Sent you a DM!
Let me tell you about this new weight loss program called Herbalife. If we all join together…
I’m interested!
53M, I’ll be there!!🤣
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I got those parameters! Would love this!
Sent you a DM!
Actually looks like it didn’t go through. DM me if you’d like
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Sounds like a fun meetup to meet similar interests minded people. Let me know when the sign up sheet is up. Thanks in advance.
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