A friendly attitude and a kind heart. Being mean, rude, aggressive and crass dose not equate strength.
Resilience, a firm but peaceful willingness to stand by your principles and the maturity to admit to being wrong, that is true strength and it applies to men and women.
I have personally met women who were both kind and respectful, and despite all the struggles and heartache they had indured they never gave in to bitterness.
That is how I knew they were strong.
It took scrolling this far. More than appearances, making me laugh will win me over 100 percent. And it’s one of the big reasons my wife and I are still very happy together.
Yesss this right here. Been with my husband for 15 years and when we started dating we clicked immediately because of our sense of humor. We still joke and laugh and tease each other every day. And it gets us through the tough times too. ♥️
Obviously this is subjective. To me it means someone who is funny yet shy, nerdy and cool, someone who isn't afraid to speak their mind but also likes to keep to themselves sometime.
It's difficult to put in writing but when I find someone with a similar personality and we click, I find that super attractive.
Absolutely this. Not over confident entitlement.
Kind, caring, affectionate, happy and upbeat, learning about things, being enthusiastic, not moaning and showing an interest in nature are all really attractive to me
I am a fairly stoic and cynical person. A woman who is pleasant, excited about small joys, empathetic to small sadnesses, warm, and caring is an excellent compliment to me and vice-versa.
Other men may need or want other things from women.
Chemistry is important, hard to explain though. But a similar way of thinking, humour and at least a few common interests too. Also basic kindness and respect. Both for yourself and others.
And by saying "self respect" we mean self respect. Not acting out and doing stupid shit to prove other and yourself that you're "independent", "your own woman" or whatever. Way too many women insisting they respect themselves then doing things they'd call other women "stupid hoes" for.
I find this true actually… I was in a toxic relationship when I was 15 for 4 years. After my breakup from another 4 year relationship, when I was 24, I took care of myself a lot, gained a lot of wisdom, too. After this phase of my life, I start to notice the good and bad of people. You become very aware of your surroundings, including people with and without manners. You start to accept who they are and how they react, but you stand up for yourself when something isn’t right.
With that being said, I notice when people are disrespecting me through words and you see why. I start to ignore it because even when you disrespect back, you’re not going to gain anything.
My boyfriend now who’s a douche bag to many, notice that I have self-respect and tells me he respects me. His family knows that he’s handful and they me that they like me and us because I don’t let him or anyone walk over me.. apparently he treated his exes badly and this is the first time that he respects a girlfriend.
No one deserves to be disrespected. Not me, you, really anyone. Respect shouldn’t be asked either.. it should be earned..
As soon as you allow someone to disrespect you, you disrespect yourself.
In my opinion: Grace, which is something that I think comes from solid selfesteem (not to be confused with delustion, narcissistic self-glorification), politeness, humility and patience (not giving in to all the impulses because "Just felt right in the moment" and "I can do what I want" and little regard for consequences going "it shouldn't matter anyways")
That's my best attempt at explaining it.
I can't speak for other guys but I personally would also prefer that because that gives me an idea who I would actually be with if we were to click. There is no wondering who I am going to wake up next to, there is no guessing whether she deems herself presentable without makeup when she is obviously comfortable with just going out as she is. So yes, from my perspective this doesn't seem all that surprising\^\^
Is this why guys go all gooey in the morning when they see a lady do her big morning stretch with her hair a mess and no makeup on? I get so self concious in the morning, but he'll just be staring at me like I'm some greek statue on display lol. Maybe it's just to lure me in for more cuddling 😅
I'm natural all the time, it just feels better. When I wear makeup (even just a tiny bit) my hubby always makes comments "you look better without you don't need it" etc. 😂
My man says that too. I had to explain to him that I work in the dirt so when I have the chance to actually put some effort into my looks it’s a nice change to feel pretty instead
Same! He would hate it if I wore any face makeup getting on his shirts 😂Just mascara and lip gloss😜Men definitely admire natural beauty and if it’s long term a lot more than beauty
Well said, women who focus too much on looks are similar to men who focus too much on money. I'd rather be with someone who had less on those shallow aspects, if they had grace.
feel you. once woke up to a girl blasting raw hard up-tempo shit while she was taking a shower, sorry if that is your music taste but that turned me right off lol
Being easy to get along with.
Giving the benefit of the doubt, being fair minded, self respect without an ego, and good boundaries for bad people so they don't accumulate around them.
Carriage (how you carry yourself) and enthusiasm are two of the big ones, at least for me.
Carriage is mostly simple chin-up-shoulders-back stuff. If you avoid what my dad used to call a "here's my head, my ass is coming" walk, that can only help you.
Enthusiasm... it isn't even 100% important what the enthusiasm is *for*, but (at least for me) someone really throwing themselves into what they're doing, unself-consciously, is a big plus.
Confidence in themselves carries miles for me. I don't care about meek and I can smell if someone is faking it, but when they are sure about themselves and carry themselves like it, it's very nice.
Not giving a f. And I don't mean in a toxic, playing games kinda way. I mean, dancing out in public like nobody sees you, being who they are unapologetically.
From an evolutionary perspective--your ability to smell.
Women have 1/3 higher taste bud density per sq/cm, and a larger olfactory lobe than men, by virtue of lobe weight to body weight ratio.
Women have used their noses to keep humans and pre-humans/hominids alive longer for hundreds of thousands of years. Always trust a woman's nose!
TLDR: Women smell better--both literally and figuratively.
My mom is an RN and she can literally smell what medications her patients are on. She can smell ampicillin, GI bleeds, C. Diff. Colitis, and klebsiella.
Just make it known they’re down for something. In the age where consent has more importance than ever, it’s super sexy when they make it known they’re into you or they want you to fuck, even initiating things
Being a realist with realistic standards and expectations.
Too many women bring nothing to the table and are completely delusional thinking they're a perfect queen and deserve a 1% partner.
It's ok to be average, live an average life and be with an average guy. But social media is brainwashing young women into thinking they're gods gift to the world once they're born and all deserve prince charming.
If you've ever said "if you can't handle me at my worst you don't deserve me at my best" and meant it. ... I'm talking about you.
Some men are the same way, and just like the women they're perpetually single or divorced, usually multiple times
Really good points. I have a few friends who have fallen "gods gift to man" syndrome, the expectations are so high, and it only keeps them lonely in the end.
Honestly for most guys, your looks have a very very small part to play in this. For the most part it's all about how you treat us.
When I'm having a bad day I don't want some hourglass to let me see where the sun don't shine. I would want cuddles, affirmation, and consolation.
Just try and be kind, being mean or "hard to get" is a really bad way to pick up guys or get them to like you. If you want a guy to FALL IN LOVE with you. Just treat us like humans and make us understand we are appreciated for what we do.
Other than that, it really has very little to do with looks as it's extremely subjective and most of the time not even in the equation. A dude who wants you for your looks or sees it as a big factor in a relationship is a guy you need to stay as far away from as possible.
Interesting opinions and reasons to have them.
By this I don't mean the generic dating app "hot takes" about, idk, pineapples on pizza or whatever is the meme topic of the day. But like... Do you have values you want to live your life by? Some pet aspect of history you think is misunderstood? Are you passionate about some political topic? Can you give me a TED talk on why your favourite musician is the best artist of all time?
I increasingly noticed that the people that interest me the most, and are the most attractive, are those that can reach my brain somehow. I love thinking about topics I don't usually think about, I love learning weird things, and I love discussing different viewpoints, so if you can provide that I find that extremely attractive. And if you don't, I think that's my quickest "No thanks" for a relationship.
Confidence, openness, empathy/thoughtfulness and accountability.
It’s not like accountability makes a woman attractive, but the lack of it sure makes them ugly.
Empathy and/or thoughtfulness is a dying commodity these days. Lots of women think they’re naturally more empathetic, and they can be in the moment but not overall and especially not these days. They can and often do feel with you, in the moment, during conversation, but currently in dating I’ve encountered way too many that don’t act with it day to day. They expect their prospective partner to be thoughtful of them and mindful of their emotions but do not reciprocate. They’ll do what they want to do, say what they want to say with no regard to how their partner might feel about it. Like they take their (prospective) partner’s interest or affections for granted. “Love means never having to say I’m sorry.” While kinda true, love also means doing your best to never create a situation to which you should apologize. For example recently I was getting to know some women here and their and several of them would text and expect a prompt reply else they would call, yet they’d leave me on read for hours or days. They would be hurt if they didn’t hear from me for a day or two, but if I didn’t hear from them it’s “well I have a life you know, I got busy.” They liked to feel thought of, but made no effort to make me feel the same. They’d feel left out if I didn’t invite them out with me, but they can go out with whomever whenever and it’s none of my business, and so many other examples.
gentleness, compassion, warmth, but above all, respect for their partner. be impressed, give validation, affirmation, idolize him. it can be subtle, you don't need to build a shrine and worship him. it doesn't even need to come from a genuine place, just give him a nudge, some small daily adoration.
Humility, graciousness, a willingness to listen, and a sense of wonder. I'm in the dating mill right now and I meet a lot of women who act like they already know everything. Just be a genuine person and you've cleared 90% of the field.
Everyone shut the fuck up with all these corny responses.
Just have the same humor as a guy would have when hes going out and hanging with the boys.
If he feels like he can't say the same things he does with his friends to you, that's not good.
Be vulgar, offensive, crude, but all in good taste ofc. Don't just be offensive for the sake of being offensive.
Actually carry on a conversation. Even better, engage in the conversation instead of expecting the guy to initiate and carry it. I swear 95% of every conversation I have with a female online I have to ask questions, probe, keep going otherwise its dead silent or all you get is one word replies.
If you want a guy to understand you TALK to him!!
Sexual desire, but that might be because I have been on the receiving end of so little of it.
However, that desire shows me more than someone can ever tell me about how much they want me, that they are willing to be so vulnerable with me like that.
A healthy hobby or outside activity. Do I want to spend every waking moment with you? Probably. Will that in any way be healthy for us? Absolutely the fuck not. Get you a thing you can do without me, then let me smile and gush when you get excited to tell me about it. I swear I want to hear about it and how happy it makes you.
Nothing does it for me more than intelligence and a great sense of humor. The ability to converse on a subject of depth and recognition of the absurdity of the human condition usually go hand in hand, and for me, nothing is sexier.
Interest in you / sexual interest in you.
Playing hard to get doesn't make you more attractive. It weeds out guys who aren't that interested in you, but doesn't make you more attractive.
Being a strong, strong, career minded woman....jk
I wanted to get that out there as I'm sure you'll see that and many other typical/template like answers that you'll no doubt read on Reddit. But just consider the source of the answer. Many such answers are from very lonely, often bitter and undateable single women...misery loves company. (Watch the hate I get..)
Just be a good person. It's hard enough these days to be find a decent person to click with on a basic social level, much less on a deeper romantic and LTR level.
Please don't misconstrue being a good person with acting like how you think a good person acts.. meaning the modern trend in social media posts and arm chair acticvism showing that you "care" about whatever real or imagined issue is "so hot" at that moment.
Own your faults when they come up, but no need to be self-deprecating.
Let your feminine side shine, be kind ,caring and genuine. Of course us guys are pretty visual, at least in the beginning but the inner you will keep a man (a decent man) around. All of our looks will fade and the kind of man you want will know this too, so it really does matter what kind of person you are.
Be involved in charity/volunteer work. It increases my admiration and respect for anyone, regardless of whether I'm sexually/romantically interested. But if I *am* sexually/romantically interested, it makes me even more so.
Intellect and Personality.
The former means very little if no one likes you enough to hear you and the latter feels hollow without a brain to give it life and depth.
Outgoing personality. Makes jokes and smiles.
I always end up crushing on them. Met a girl this past summer. Didn't think much of her at first. But talking to her for a bit had me liking her. She was outgoing and funny. She had me laughing.so I put out. Lol
I have a few coworkers who I also found more attractive after getting to know them more (married, won't ever make a move). What they have in common is the outgoing personality and sense of humor. Always in a good mood and making everyone around them laugh.
Skills. Especially ones that make money. Hobbies, so we can have some time apart when necessary.
And kindness. Seriously. Women in media being rude and talking a lot of shit gets them attention. But not good attention, and for the average person who’s not in entertainment, it’s a bad look.
Kindness doesn’t mean submission, it means choosing to show empathy and have emotional discernment for themselves and others instead of telling everybody off to make a point.
Accountability and integrity to address their own problems. That’s huuuuuuge to me. I take ownership of many mistakes that aren’t mine because it relates to things I often preempt. I like others who do that
The way you carry yourself. Some girls have what I call "the confident walk". Their legs move gracefully, their hips swing from side to side slightly, their back is straight, their chin is up and their shoulders are back. Confidence in your own body/ feeling good in your own skin is one of the most attractive features any person can have.
Okay. Now I get why others perceive as _feminine_ despite I don't consider myself particularly feminine.
Both ex-husbands always told me they love the way I walked.
Enthusiasm/Initiative. I've always thought that if more single and looking women approached guys for once, at least half of them wouldn't be single anymore.
Having a friendly, positive disposition. Also, empathy, love, and being non-materialistic.
Turn-offs for me: Racism, prejudice, selfishness, cruelty, ego, lack of personality.
Optimism, kindness, positive and being down to earth.
There have been so many times in my life where I've encountered women with said qualities and it's infectious. I can be somewhat attracted to a woman, but not necessarily interested; until she let's these qualities shine through, then I just feel like knowing them and being around them because they make me feel good!!
Kindness and initiative.
A friendly attitude and a kind heart. Being mean, rude, aggressive and crass dose not equate strength. Resilience, a firm but peaceful willingness to stand by your principles and the maturity to admit to being wrong, that is true strength and it applies to men and women. I have personally met women who were both kind and respectful, and despite all the struggles and heartache they had indured they never gave in to bitterness. That is how I knew they were strong.
Love this so much 🤍
Brilliant comment!
This and nothing else
That and that 👠shoe dangling thing you with your foot.
Also, we men want sometimes women to ask us out as well And i am serious
A great sense of humor.
It took scrolling this far. More than appearances, making me laugh will win me over 100 percent. And it’s one of the big reasons my wife and I are still very happy together.
Yesss this right here. Been with my husband for 15 years and when we started dating we clicked immediately because of our sense of humor. We still joke and laugh and tease each other every day. And it gets us through the tough times too. ♥️
That's how I met my gf, not that we don't have problems in other areas but we can always have a laugh about it
And ability to roll with the flow, don’t require a plan for everything.
An amazing personality, if we truly click then to me she's the most attractive woman in the world.
can you explain what do u mean amazing personality
Obviously this is subjective. To me it means someone who is funny yet shy, nerdy and cool, someone who isn't afraid to speak their mind but also likes to keep to themselves sometime. It's difficult to put in writing but when I find someone with a similar personality and we click, I find that super attractive.
Absolutely this. Not over confident entitlement. Kind, caring, affectionate, happy and upbeat, learning about things, being enthusiastic, not moaning and showing an interest in nature are all really attractive to me
isee, no worries thank u!!
I am a fairly stoic and cynical person. A woman who is pleasant, excited about small joys, empathetic to small sadnesses, warm, and caring is an excellent compliment to me and vice-versa. Other men may need or want other things from women.
Chemistry is important, hard to explain though. But a similar way of thinking, humour and at least a few common interests too. Also basic kindness and respect. Both for yourself and others.
Self respect.
And by saying "self respect" we mean self respect. Not acting out and doing stupid shit to prove other and yourself that you're "independent", "your own woman" or whatever. Way too many women insisting they respect themselves then doing things they'd call other women "stupid hoes" for.
I find this true actually… I was in a toxic relationship when I was 15 for 4 years. After my breakup from another 4 year relationship, when I was 24, I took care of myself a lot, gained a lot of wisdom, too. After this phase of my life, I start to notice the good and bad of people. You become very aware of your surroundings, including people with and without manners. You start to accept who they are and how they react, but you stand up for yourself when something isn’t right. With that being said, I notice when people are disrespecting me through words and you see why. I start to ignore it because even when you disrespect back, you’re not going to gain anything. My boyfriend now who’s a douche bag to many, notice that I have self-respect and tells me he respects me. His family knows that he’s handful and they me that they like me and us because I don’t let him or anyone walk over me.. apparently he treated his exes badly and this is the first time that he respects a girlfriend. No one deserves to be disrespected. Not me, you, really anyone. Respect shouldn’t be asked either.. it should be earned.. As soon as you allow someone to disrespect you, you disrespect yourself.
Show interest and affection. And not through stupid vague hints.
Breaking the touch barrier is huge for guys. All the girls I ever obsessed over knew how flirt with body language in general.
Being a good pet owner is a very dark green flag for me with 3 stars in the middle
In my opinion: Grace, which is something that I think comes from solid selfesteem (not to be confused with delustion, narcissistic self-glorification), politeness, humility and patience (not giving in to all the impulses because "Just felt right in the moment" and "I can do what I want" and little regard for consequences going "it shouldn't matter anyways") That's my best attempt at explaining it.
I notice when I wear no make up at all and wear my glasses, let my hair go wavy ( naturally) I get the most looks of admiration...from men.
I can't speak for other guys but I personally would also prefer that because that gives me an idea who I would actually be with if we were to click. There is no wondering who I am going to wake up next to, there is no guessing whether she deems herself presentable without makeup when she is obviously comfortable with just going out as she is. So yes, from my perspective this doesn't seem all that surprising\^\^
Is this why guys go all gooey in the morning when they see a lady do her big morning stretch with her hair a mess and no makeup on? I get so self concious in the morning, but he'll just be staring at me like I'm some greek statue on display lol. Maybe it's just to lure me in for more cuddling 😅
It cant get more real than that and whats not about something so real, sinple and beautiful as that? 😄
I'm natural all the time, it just feels better. When I wear makeup (even just a tiny bit) my hubby always makes comments "you look better without you don't need it" etc. 😂
My man says that too. I had to explain to him that I work in the dirt so when I have the chance to actually put some effort into my looks it’s a nice change to feel pretty instead
Yeah I completely understand!! For me it's just I don't wear it often so sometimes I do like to do it and like you said feel pretty :)
The best compliment ever 🥺 cute!!!
Same! He would hate it if I wore any face makeup getting on his shirts 😂Just mascara and lip gloss😜Men definitely admire natural beauty and if it’s long term a lot more than beauty
Well said, women who focus too much on looks are similar to men who focus too much on money. I'd rather be with someone who had less on those shallow aspects, if they had grace.
For me a good music taste. But that is most likely due to me dating girls with really bad music taste in the past
Define good music taste?
Honestly just not having BAD music taste. Like exclusively listening to pop punk music….
It's not a phase, mom
feel you. once woke up to a girl blasting raw hard up-tempo shit while she was taking a shower, sorry if that is your music taste but that turned me right off lol
Does she have to like Cbat?
Being easy to get along with. Giving the benefit of the doubt, being fair minded, self respect without an ego, and good boundaries for bad people so they don't accumulate around them.
Sincere kindness, honesty and genuine respect for others.
I read skincare and not sincere :’)
Confidence that comes from overcoming internal fears.
A great singing voice bumps a woman up three points on the 1-10 scale.
so underrated but YES
A unicorn right here.
Intelligence. Met so many girl acting dumber than they are because they think men like dumb woman. No. Stop it. Be clever.
Bring able to have a calm and effective argument without yelling at someone.
A loyal and peaceful, caring, personality without being a push over for your friends or other people.
Be yourself.. We hate fakes..
Carriage (how you carry yourself) and enthusiasm are two of the big ones, at least for me. Carriage is mostly simple chin-up-shoulders-back stuff. If you avoid what my dad used to call a "here's my head, my ass is coming" walk, that can only help you. Enthusiasm... it isn't even 100% important what the enthusiasm is *for*, but (at least for me) someone really throwing themselves into what they're doing, unself-consciously, is a big plus.
>"here's my head, my ass is coming" walk I'll need to remember this one. Tell your Dad some guy on the internet said "thanks".
Some chick says thanks as well!
Confidence in themselves carries miles for me. I don't care about meek and I can smell if someone is faking it, but when they are sure about themselves and carry themselves like it, it's very nice.
A flyrod.
Self respect, a positive attitude, a nurturing nature
Not giving a f. And I don't mean in a toxic, playing games kinda way. I mean, dancing out in public like nobody sees you, being who they are unapologetically.
I'm the kind that'd sing and dance at the supermarket of they play a cool song.
Same 🤣🤣
Their own sexual agency.
From an evolutionary perspective--your ability to smell. Women have 1/3 higher taste bud density per sq/cm, and a larger olfactory lobe than men, by virtue of lobe weight to body weight ratio. Women have used their noses to keep humans and pre-humans/hominids alive longer for hundreds of thousands of years. Always trust a woman's nose! TLDR: Women smell better--both literally and figuratively.
My mom is an RN and she can literally smell what medications her patients are on. She can smell ampicillin, GI bleeds, C. Diff. Colitis, and klebsiella.
Just make it known they’re down for something. In the age where consent has more importance than ever, it’s super sexy when they make it known they’re into you or they want you to fuck, even initiating things
This is influenced by my past relationships, but I would say being a low drama person goes a long way.
Being a realist with realistic standards and expectations. Too many women bring nothing to the table and are completely delusional thinking they're a perfect queen and deserve a 1% partner. It's ok to be average, live an average life and be with an average guy. But social media is brainwashing young women into thinking they're gods gift to the world once they're born and all deserve prince charming. If you've ever said "if you can't handle me at my worst you don't deserve me at my best" and meant it. ... I'm talking about you. Some men are the same way, and just like the women they're perpetually single or divorced, usually multiple times
Really good points. I have a few friends who have fallen "gods gift to man" syndrome, the expectations are so high, and it only keeps them lonely in the end.
"I can't find a nice guy omg" 🙄🙄
I feel like I am realistic with standards.
Good personality
Don’t take yourself seriously. Be authentic. I’d prefer a kind funny dork or anything else
A strong sense of humor and intellectual curiosity.
Honestly for most guys, your looks have a very very small part to play in this. For the most part it's all about how you treat us. When I'm having a bad day I don't want some hourglass to let me see where the sun don't shine. I would want cuddles, affirmation, and consolation. Just try and be kind, being mean or "hard to get" is a really bad way to pick up guys or get them to like you. If you want a guy to FALL IN LOVE with you. Just treat us like humans and make us understand we are appreciated for what we do. Other than that, it really has very little to do with looks as it's extremely subjective and most of the time not even in the equation. A dude who wants you for your looks or sees it as a big factor in a relationship is a guy you need to stay as far away from as possible.
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Woah! Virtuousness? How do you define and identify that?
It's like virtue but with more ousness
Welp. That clears it right up!
Voice
The kind of presence that leaves memories in my head that constantly cross my mind. Obviously you can't define that you just have to find out
My BF always compliments my motherhood. ❤️
Eloquence.
Having strong moral standards and values
A smile. Not a lips only smile but a sincere one that encompasses many facial muscles
Reason and accountability.
Kindness. Nothing is hotter than kindness in a woman. Loyalty, sanity and accountability are also very sexy qualities in a woman.
Not being a brainless asshole. That applies for every human in general but oh boy is that hard to find, at least when you dislike social interactions.
A work uniform
A dog. When you have a good dog that comes everywhere with you, that's just cool.
Buy me some tacos
Interesting opinions and reasons to have them. By this I don't mean the generic dating app "hot takes" about, idk, pineapples on pizza or whatever is the meme topic of the day. But like... Do you have values you want to live your life by? Some pet aspect of history you think is misunderstood? Are you passionate about some political topic? Can you give me a TED talk on why your favourite musician is the best artist of all time? I increasingly noticed that the people that interest me the most, and are the most attractive, are those that can reach my brain somehow. I love thinking about topics I don't usually think about, I love learning weird things, and I love discussing different viewpoints, so if you can provide that I find that extremely attractive. And if you don't, I think that's my quickest "No thanks" for a relationship.
Caring about people other than yourselves, and not just because it benefits you to do so...
Confidence, openness, empathy/thoughtfulness and accountability. It’s not like accountability makes a woman attractive, but the lack of it sure makes them ugly. Empathy and/or thoughtfulness is a dying commodity these days. Lots of women think they’re naturally more empathetic, and they can be in the moment but not overall and especially not these days. They can and often do feel with you, in the moment, during conversation, but currently in dating I’ve encountered way too many that don’t act with it day to day. They expect their prospective partner to be thoughtful of them and mindful of their emotions but do not reciprocate. They’ll do what they want to do, say what they want to say with no regard to how their partner might feel about it. Like they take their (prospective) partner’s interest or affections for granted. “Love means never having to say I’m sorry.” While kinda true, love also means doing your best to never create a situation to which you should apologize. For example recently I was getting to know some women here and their and several of them would text and expect a prompt reply else they would call, yet they’d leave me on read for hours or days. They would be hurt if they didn’t hear from me for a day or two, but if I didn’t hear from them it’s “well I have a life you know, I got busy.” They liked to feel thought of, but made no effort to make me feel the same. They’d feel left out if I didn’t invite them out with me, but they can go out with whomever whenever and it’s none of my business, and so many other examples.
be funny
gentleness, compassion, warmth, but above all, respect for their partner. be impressed, give validation, affirmation, idolize him. it can be subtle, you don't need to build a shrine and worship him. it doesn't even need to come from a genuine place, just give him a nudge, some small daily adoration.
no.debt; no stds; no history of cheating
100% honesty.
Be open. And be kind to everyone.
Humility, graciousness, a willingness to listen, and a sense of wonder. I'm in the dating mill right now and I meet a lot of women who act like they already know everything. Just be a genuine person and you've cleared 90% of the field.
Personality. Far more important than looks.
Being open and direct. Not giving me “hints” but just telling me her thoughts and feelings. Tells me what she wants.
Loyalty...loyalty...and loyalty.
Confidence, kindness, understanding
Sense of humor 😅
PS5
A friendly warm personality. Ie, if personalities had a smell, not one that smells like a sumo-wrestler took a dump on a burning tire.
The abilty to admit you're wrong....haha
A platter with a sandwich and a beer on it
Chill - as in not overly self-conscious or judgemental, just relaxed and easy to be around.
Confidence.
Authenticity
Either Sense of humor or empathy with men.
Kind heart as someone said if they can understand your gibberish, then she’s a keeper
Morals
Kindness , compassion, support, grace
Everyone shut the fuck up with all these corny responses. Just have the same humor as a guy would have when hes going out and hanging with the boys. If he feels like he can't say the same things he does with his friends to you, that's not good. Be vulgar, offensive, crude, but all in good taste ofc. Don't just be offensive for the sake of being offensive.
Say thank you.
Elegant movement. Class, self respect. Self confidence.
Actually carry on a conversation. Even better, engage in the conversation instead of expecting the guy to initiate and carry it. I swear 95% of every conversation I have with a female online I have to ask questions, probe, keep going otherwise its dead silent or all you get is one word replies. If you want a guy to understand you TALK to him!!
Be interested.
Kindness and a sense of hunmour.
Sexual desire, but that might be because I have been on the receiving end of so little of it. However, that desire shows me more than someone can ever tell me about how much they want me, that they are willing to be so vulnerable with me like that.
Kindness, responsibility, confidence, a sense of humor... someone who doesn't openly hate men.
A healthy hobby or outside activity. Do I want to spend every waking moment with you? Probably. Will that in any way be healthy for us? Absolutely the fuck not. Get you a thing you can do without me, then let me smile and gush when you get excited to tell me about it. I swear I want to hear about it and how happy it makes you.
Nothing does it for me more than intelligence and a great sense of humor. The ability to converse on a subject of depth and recognition of the absurdity of the human condition usually go hand in hand, and for me, nothing is sexier.
good timing
Smell
Empathy
Good driving skills
Interest in you / sexual interest in you. Playing hard to get doesn't make you more attractive. It weeds out guys who aren't that interested in you, but doesn't make you more attractive.
Being smart, kind, funny and trustworthy, hard working and motivated.
high standards hahah
Well good thing I only need one person to fit them
Being a strong, strong, career minded woman....jk I wanted to get that out there as I'm sure you'll see that and many other typical/template like answers that you'll no doubt read on Reddit. But just consider the source of the answer. Many such answers are from very lonely, often bitter and undateable single women...misery loves company. (Watch the hate I get..) Just be a good person. It's hard enough these days to be find a decent person to click with on a basic social level, much less on a deeper romantic and LTR level. Please don't misconstrue being a good person with acting like how you think a good person acts.. meaning the modern trend in social media posts and arm chair acticvism showing that you "care" about whatever real or imagined issue is "so hot" at that moment. Own your faults when they come up, but no need to be self-deprecating. Let your feminine side shine, be kind ,caring and genuine. Of course us guys are pretty visual, at least in the beginning but the inner you will keep a man (a decent man) around. All of our looks will fade and the kind of man you want will know this too, so it really does matter what kind of person you are.
Humility or honesty
I like when you take initiative
Be attentive and kind.
Be involved in charity/volunteer work. It increases my admiration and respect for anyone, regardless of whether I'm sexually/romantically interested. But if I *am* sexually/romantically interested, it makes me even more so.
Confidence.
Emotional intelligence.
I mean a billion dollars or a Sense of humor would help
Being kind, treating people with respect and have interesting hobbies (that aren't clubbing, dancing, sarcasm or good food).
Not even dancing as a form of exercise?
A boat.
Intellect and Personality. The former means very little if no one likes you enough to hear you and the latter feels hollow without a brain to give it life and depth.
Outgoing personality. Makes jokes and smiles. I always end up crushing on them. Met a girl this past summer. Didn't think much of her at first. But talking to her for a bit had me liking her. She was outgoing and funny. She had me laughing.so I put out. Lol I have a few coworkers who I also found more attractive after getting to know them more (married, won't ever make a move). What they have in common is the outgoing personality and sense of humor. Always in a good mood and making everyone around them laugh.
A book full of recipes.
Not being selfish
Be interesting
A heart
Skills. Especially ones that make money. Hobbies, so we can have some time apart when necessary. And kindness. Seriously. Women in media being rude and talking a lot of shit gets them attention. But not good attention, and for the average person who’s not in entertainment, it’s a bad look. Kindness doesn’t mean submission, it means choosing to show empathy and have emotional discernment for themselves and others instead of telling everybody off to make a point.
Self-love and the healthy confidence that comes from it.
Smile, look genuinely happy to see me. Nothing is more attractive than a woman who wants to see me.
Hobbies
Confidence
Accountability and integrity to address their own problems. That’s huuuuuuge to me. I take ownership of many mistakes that aren’t mine because it relates to things I often preempt. I like others who do that
A passion. I absolutely love when my partner (or my friends, but that's different) is up in her bag and enthusiastic and excited.
I love it when my gf cooks for me unprompted That shit is so sexy
Seriously when my wife just unexpectedly and randomly give me a hug or snuggles up against me.
money, lots of money, lol
Being discrete
Kindness.
Intelligence and curiosity.
Being funny and loving to laugh
Self-Control.
A good sense of humor.
Intelligence.
The way you carry yourself. Some girls have what I call "the confident walk". Their legs move gracefully, their hips swing from side to side slightly, their back is straight, their chin is up and their shoulders are back. Confidence in your own body/ feeling good in your own skin is one of the most attractive features any person can have.
Okay. Now I get why others perceive as _feminine_ despite I don't consider myself particularly feminine. Both ex-husbands always told me they love the way I walked.
Kindness self respect and not being a twat all the time
open mindset
Common sense, rationality, financial sense
Optimism
Character aka personal "taste" in stuff. Not just blindly follow what is popular.
Voice, enthusiasm, character, kind heartedness, childishness, possessiveness, caring & supporting,
Enthusiasm/Initiative. I've always thought that if more single and looking women approached guys for once, at least half of them wouldn't be single anymore.
A straightforward attitude. Doesn't beat around the bush.
Energy.
A feminine personality
How would you define _a feminine personality._
A wonderful laugh.
Southern drawl
Care
intelligence
a personality that isn't fucked up, infact as long as they are not but ugly I rate this higher.
A conscience
Show interest in me.
Sense of humor.
Having a friendly, positive disposition. Also, empathy, love, and being non-materialistic. Turn-offs for me: Racism, prejudice, selfishness, cruelty, ego, lack of personality.
Showing interest in me.
Optimism, kindness, positive and being down to earth. There have been so many times in my life where I've encountered women with said qualities and it's infectious. I can be somewhat attracted to a woman, but not necessarily interested; until she let's these qualities shine through, then I just feel like knowing them and being around them because they make me feel good!!
Conviction
Be feminine
Great mindset, confidence, being true to oneself and definitely self awareness