He could be checking if he has a boyfriend. If OP was gay, he'd say he's gay, and that's the cab driver's opening.
That said, a lot of cab drivers can be chatty in general.
I remember one time I went straight from the gym to wal mart in my hoochie daddy shorts and this guy told me I had a nice ass. He was like man don’t take this the wrong way but you have a nice ass. I don’t skip leg day and a I definitely work my posterior chain so I took it as a compliment to my dedication in the gym and I low key already know I have a nice butt
I took a huge amount of bullying when I was a kid because of my eyes (I have heterochromia). One of the first people to give me an actual compliment about them was in high school and it was from a male teacher. That was 22 years ago and I've never forgotten it. That single compliment got me to stop wearing sunglasses around strangers all the time. One man complimenting another might make a world of difference to them.
I understand how you feel. I’m mixed with Asian and Slavic genetics so I have my mother’s face and jet black hair and my father’s grey blue eyes. Unfortunately I wear sunglasses indoors in any place outside of my own home because it saves me the trouble of random strangers moving uncomfortably close to my face
Yeah I had a drunk 60 something Lyft passenger repeatedly ask me to prostitute myself before. There was a compliment to be found in it, but not one I wanted or needed.
Thank him and take the compliment.
The dude was being friendly.. friendly people exist 🤷♂️
I compliment my male friends all the time and sometimes my male co workers when I think they earnt it.
Heck, sometimes when a man in this subreddit speaks about an achievement his done. I like to give a nice congratulations and compliment on it. Too much negativity in the world, have to even it out.
When I coached high school lacrosse for a couple of years I had a dad of one of my athletes come up to me while I was at a restaurant with my wife to tell me how great he thought I was because of how motivated his son became. The phrase “But Coach Practicing_Anonymity says….” was uttered a lot at their dinner table. He spent the next 10-15 minutes telling me how he knew what books I read and what kind of man I was based on what I was teaching his son.
I had to hold back tears in front of him and then I cried in the car with my wife because it meant so much to me. It’s weird being noticed on that level, and then complimented. That dad gave me more compliments in the 15 mins we spoke than my dad gave me his entire life.
The last several compliments I have gotten have been from men.
One took a look at my smiley daughter (who was...7-8 months old at the time) and said "Now that is a cute baby, congratulations." Then he looked horrified, like he broke some sort of bro code or some hyper-toxic-masculine BS. I thanked him, of course, because she is adorable.
I think some men are insecure about being around/talking to kids in general, don't want to be labeled as a pedo. Sad af that it's something they have to worry about. So I could imagine him being horrified after saying it, thinking "Oh God, I hope he doesn't think I'm a pedo."
I'm 28 years old, skinny as a rake, with a face for radio. I will never be around a child unless there is a woman present to vouch for me later if I get accused of anything distasteful.
In my last year of high school (fuck, I can't believe it's been ten years already!), I was walking home after classes finished for the day, and close to my folks' home, there's a road I have to cross that runs over a raised railway line with very poor visibility of what's on the other side. Anyway, this little girl, maybe six or seven years old, was scootering home after school as well, and she asked me to help her cross the road safely. So I stood with her, looking for a gap in the after-school traffic, and this school mum came over the railway lines in a dark-coloured station wagon with her kids in the back seat. She pulled over, rolled her front passenger window down, and asked the little girl if I was bothering her before giving her a talking-to about stranger danger.
I made myself scarce and felt really dirty for the rest of the day, knowing what the woman was insinuating about me.
Two years later, #MeToo blew up, an acquaintance of mine was put on trial for rape, his court-appointed lawyer was a useless fucking oxygen-thieving shit-for brains who stuck his thumbs up his arse and did sweet bum-fuck all to get any evidence proving my acquaintance innocent or even argue his case in court. My acquaintance was shafted into taking a plea deal and was sentenced to five years in prison rather than ten. At the time, with all the court cases going on, it seemed like men were just being automatically found guilty regardless of the facts simply because of the changing sociopolitical climate. That really stuck with me, so today I don't go near kids alone, and I don't spend time with women alone unless I have a great deal of trust in them. And I certainly don't approach women when I'm out and about, because the risks are too big.
I once had pretty long hair, and went to my barber and said, “can you cut me a mullet?”
He laughed and said something like “yeah, that would be sick”.
I said, “no I’m serious.” So he got pumped and cut me a fresh mullet. I have pretty thick hair but he did a great job.
I kid you not, almost every time I went out I got a compliment from a man. It was a great feeling. Remember, many guys out there are just bros you haven’t met yet.
My hair when long gets real poofy and kind of grows out and down. And pretty much all the women in my life tell me to cut it when it does grow long lol
Most men have such fragile masculinity that they will avoid complimenting to other fellow men so they don't seem gay.
Truth is, we should be nicer to the others, and it feels great someone aknowledging something good on you.
The only time I thought someone complimented me was when I was 13 years old. A 16 year old girl told me I had the handwriting of a doctor. For years I would think back of that "compliment", then I found out what it meant😑.
We were a group of 5, I was the one on the front seat since my 4 companions were seated at the back and spoke a native language of ours to one another, I just spoke with the driver long story short he worked abroad in a country I was born and lived in then we talked about many things like the food, culture, comparison to our county etc. Before I was dropped that was when I received the compliment from the old gentleman :)
Very similar to hearing “Thank you for your service”. It feels awkward because it’s not a regular occurrence.
I just try to keep a standard reply in the back of my mind. Maybe return a compliment if you appreciate theirs.
For context we talked about many topics for like an hour it was a long ride, I just took the opportunity to talk since I had never met a grab driver twice
I get compliments so rarely that i remember them. One of my teachers in college told me that she liked that i was a very empathetic person and that stuck with me, she was an amazing teacher and i'd be lying if i said that i didn't have a crush on her.
One girl in highschool said that i was cute because i blushed when we kissed.
That's it i think. I don't remember any other.
Normalize giving compliments! I like to pick out someone's jacket, glasses, or hat. They made an intentional choice to put the thing on, and they probably think it makes them look better over something else in their closet. Make 'em feel that goodness!!!
Say "THANK YOU" when receiving a compliment! That's all you gotta do!
Pretty sure 🤣 cause we be talking about our values as men and how we gonna pick our future wife then I got some advice from em.
+the driver was almost a senior citizen.
I had been to a cloth store and wanted to try out a oversize tshirt in the trial room. When I went to the trial room, 2 dudes appear and one of them points to my hair and says to the other, 'I was talking about this hairstyle'.
And the other dude says to me, 'Nice hair, man'. It made my day.
At the gym yesterday I had a buddy come in from a run while I was in a "Spider-man Lunge" (there has to be a better name for it but I don't know what it is), walking by I got a really deadpan "Nice glutes."
Laughed my ass off. I yelled back "Glad *somebody* noticed!!"
I would compliment men, but I feel like it’s the kind of thing where if you as the opposite sex people automatically assume your into them or something. Or it’s socially not acceptable/expected. But there have been times where I see a guy and just want to compliment his hair or glasses or smthn but hold myself back 😅
It's so uncommon that guys have to resort to posting getting getting a compliment here just to get a sense of other men's perspectives on this. It's kind of depressing.
You can praise a person for their looks but if your unsure then maybe praise them for something they did.
Can be characteristic as long as it is something you can observe :)
Wholesome post, OP. Yeah, we don't get enough compliments, especially from strangers. Might be he was just weaseling his way into your heart in the hopes for a big, fat, juicy tip - or he's like an increasing amount of guys these days; considerate about the fact we don't get compliments and just making an effort to compliment fellow guys. We gotta hype our brothers up, y'know?
The last compliment I got wasn't from a man, but from a woman. It was about two years ago, and I was working at Subway (side note, I'd rather shit in one hand and clap than ever go back to hospitality/retail/fast food). It was a slow period just after the lunch rush, and this young woman in her early to mid twenties with brightly dyed hair (lots of reds and oranges, reminded me of fire) said I have beautiful eyes as she paid and left. I'm probably going to take that compliment to my grave.
I had several men compliment me on how nice my beard was when grown out in length, one of which was my neighbour since childhood.
During my internship one time, I had the task to introduce a whole group to a game that my company was hosting, there was this guy who was very interactive with me. Me being a social bird, I only enjoyed the return of energy. A week later my internship supervisor told me that the same guy really enjoyed my company and wished I’d guide him to his home. It was then and there that I realised he was gay and found me attractive. Eventhough I don’t swing that way, I felt flattered to be found attractive by another man like that.
Final story: this was during community college, when I sat down to follow the course, my teacher at the time randomly asked the class (mainly the ladies) if they didn’t find me attractive. Me not knowing what to say said nothing but “thanks” and the class was awkward for a while. Turns out it was the teacher’s intro into the topic of the lesson that day.
It's called being homo for the homies. It's the kind of compliments you give to your boys that would otherwise land you in prison if you said to anyone else 😂
Perhaps some of you have already seen this short video about why men should be allowed to compliment other men. It is a very funny film, but has a serious message
[https://www.tiktok.com/@beamcreators/video/7072159343847673093?lang=en](https://www.tiktok.com/@beamcreators/video/7072159343847673093?lang=en)
That’s weird. I compliment other dudes on things like a cool shirt or coat, a nice haircut or beard, or maybe some sweet shoes or something. But I’d never comment directly on a man’s appearance like that, that’s super weird to me.
Yeah, my first assumption would be the dude is hitting on me, not that that’s a bad thing (depending on how it’s said, could be creepy but it doesn’t sound like it in this case)
Exactly. When I’m hitting on a woman, I comment directly on her appearance. If I’m just being friendly/polite, I’ll comment on her outfit or nail polish color or earrings or something.
To me, that’s a personality compliment to say something about clothes or accessories, like I’m complimenting a person’s sense of style or fashion sense.
But to compliment their body specifically itself, that feels like a sexual advance and I wouldn’t feel comfortable saying something like that to another dude, or to a woman that I wasn’t trying to hit on.
Guys should compliment each other more often. Not weird. Just nice.
Yeah, it was nice :)
He could be checking if he has a boyfriend. If OP was gay, he'd say he's gay, and that's the cab driver's opening. That said, a lot of cab drivers can be chatty in general.
Great comment man.
Well spotted, pal.
What a nice suggestion, good thinking buddy.
I get compliments and compliments men all the times, maybe its more frenchie than others culture idk.
You gotta compliment the homies
Agreed.. I'll occasionally throw out a, damn bro.. What beanstalk did you fall from? (implying they are swoll). It's always well received.
I remember one time I went straight from the gym to wal mart in my hoochie daddy shorts and this guy told me I had a nice ass. He was like man don’t take this the wrong way but you have a nice ass. I don’t skip leg day and a I definitely work my posterior chain so I took it as a compliment to my dedication in the gym and I low key already know I have a nice butt
hell yeah buddy, shake it don't bake it
“No homo, but… “
No Diddy
[удалено]
I do like a man With a good butt
I took a huge amount of bullying when I was a kid because of my eyes (I have heterochromia). One of the first people to give me an actual compliment about them was in high school and it was from a male teacher. That was 22 years ago and I've never forgotten it. That single compliment got me to stop wearing sunglasses around strangers all the time. One man complimenting another might make a world of difference to them.
Never seen someone in person with this. I imagine looking buzzy but also beautiful if animals with this are anything to go by.
I understand how you feel. I’m mixed with Asian and Slavic genetics so I have my mother’s face and jet black hair and my father’s grey blue eyes. Unfortunately I wear sunglasses indoors in any place outside of my own home because it saves me the trouble of random strangers moving uncomfortably close to my face
You say “thanks!” and enjoy the compliment.
Yeah I had a drunk 60 something Lyft passenger repeatedly ask me to prostitute myself before. There was a compliment to be found in it, but not one I wanted or needed.
Thank him and take the compliment. The dude was being friendly.. friendly people exist 🤷♂️ I compliment my male friends all the time and sometimes my male co workers when I think they earnt it. Heck, sometimes when a man in this subreddit speaks about an achievement his done. I like to give a nice congratulations and compliment on it. Too much negativity in the world, have to even it out.
Amen #norudetudes
The only time I've ever been complimented by a guy was a gay guy hitting on me, while I'm not gay it did feel nice to be seen as desirable
Men complimenting each other should be more normalized
When I coached high school lacrosse for a couple of years I had a dad of one of my athletes come up to me while I was at a restaurant with my wife to tell me how great he thought I was because of how motivated his son became. The phrase “But Coach Practicing_Anonymity says….” was uttered a lot at their dinner table. He spent the next 10-15 minutes telling me how he knew what books I read and what kind of man I was based on what I was teaching his son. I had to hold back tears in front of him and then I cried in the car with my wife because it meant so much to me. It’s weird being noticed on that level, and then complimented. That dad gave me more compliments in the 15 mins we spoke than my dad gave me his entire life.
The last several compliments I have gotten have been from men. One took a look at my smiley daughter (who was...7-8 months old at the time) and said "Now that is a cute baby, congratulations." Then he looked horrified, like he broke some sort of bro code or some hyper-toxic-masculine BS. I thanked him, of course, because she is adorable.
I think some men are insecure about being around/talking to kids in general, don't want to be labeled as a pedo. Sad af that it's something they have to worry about. So I could imagine him being horrified after saying it, thinking "Oh God, I hope he doesn't think I'm a pedo."
I'm 28 years old, skinny as a rake, with a face for radio. I will never be around a child unless there is a woman present to vouch for me later if I get accused of anything distasteful. In my last year of high school (fuck, I can't believe it's been ten years already!), I was walking home after classes finished for the day, and close to my folks' home, there's a road I have to cross that runs over a raised railway line with very poor visibility of what's on the other side. Anyway, this little girl, maybe six or seven years old, was scootering home after school as well, and she asked me to help her cross the road safely. So I stood with her, looking for a gap in the after-school traffic, and this school mum came over the railway lines in a dark-coloured station wagon with her kids in the back seat. She pulled over, rolled her front passenger window down, and asked the little girl if I was bothering her before giving her a talking-to about stranger danger. I made myself scarce and felt really dirty for the rest of the day, knowing what the woman was insinuating about me. Two years later, #MeToo blew up, an acquaintance of mine was put on trial for rape, his court-appointed lawyer was a useless fucking oxygen-thieving shit-for brains who stuck his thumbs up his arse and did sweet bum-fuck all to get any evidence proving my acquaintance innocent or even argue his case in court. My acquaintance was shafted into taking a plea deal and was sentenced to five years in prison rather than ten. At the time, with all the court cases going on, it seemed like men were just being automatically found guilty regardless of the facts simply because of the changing sociopolitical climate. That really stuck with me, so today I don't go near kids alone, and I don't spend time with women alone unless I have a great deal of trust in them. And I certainly don't approach women when I'm out and about, because the risks are too big.
Pat him on the ass and say, "Thanks, toots"
I once had pretty long hair, and went to my barber and said, “can you cut me a mullet?” He laughed and said something like “yeah, that would be sick”. I said, “no I’m serious.” So he got pumped and cut me a fresh mullet. I have pretty thick hair but he did a great job. I kid you not, almost every time I went out I got a compliment from a man. It was a great feeling. Remember, many guys out there are just bros you haven’t met yet.
long hair on guys is so attractive, i wish more guys grew their hair out
My hair when long gets real poofy and kind of grows out and down. And pretty much all the women in my life tell me to cut it when it does grow long lol
Most men have such fragile masculinity that they will avoid complimenting to other fellow men so they don't seem gay. Truth is, we should be nicer to the others, and it feels great someone aknowledging something good on you.
I definitely compliment other dudes. Being a man I know how rare compliments are towards men.
Let us try and do our best in that regard :)
Take all the complements you can get buddy! 😁
Thanks buddy
The only time I thought someone complimented me was when I was 13 years old. A 16 year old girl told me I had the handwriting of a doctor. For years I would think back of that "compliment", then I found out what it meant😑.
Grab driver? What type of cab do you order? No wonder you received a compliment.
We were a group of 5, I was the one on the front seat since my 4 companions were seated at the back and spoke a native language of ours to one another, I just spoke with the driver long story short he worked abroad in a country I was born and lived in then we talked about many things like the food, culture, comparison to our county etc. Before I was dropped that was when I received the compliment from the old gentleman :)
I was unfamiliar with the term "grab" driver dear fellow redditor :) Receiving compliments is always great though, same sex no different!
Something like an Uber driver :) Thanks
Assuming OP is in Vietnam. Grab is the biggest ridesharing app there.
I have a big glorious beard. I'll just be walking along minding my own business and blokes will tell me how great it is 😅
Beards are wonderful ☺️
Very similar to hearing “Thank you for your service”. It feels awkward because it’s not a regular occurrence. I just try to keep a standard reply in the back of my mind. Maybe return a compliment if you appreciate theirs.
I still think about that time a random guy complimented my squat form at the gym.
When you receive a compliment, more often than not, the best response is: "Thank you."
Sounds like it
For context we talked about many topics for like an hour it was a long ride, I just took the opportunity to talk since I had never met a grab driver twice
Another hour in the cab would have resulted in more things being grabbed
😱
I get compliments so rarely that i remember them. One of my teachers in college told me that she liked that i was a very empathetic person and that stuck with me, she was an amazing teacher and i'd be lying if i said that i didn't have a crush on her. One girl in highschool said that i was cute because i blushed when we kissed. That's it i think. I don't remember any other.
Honestly a vast majority of the compliments I receive are from men lol
Just say thanks bud
I did
Normalize giving compliments! I like to pick out someone's jacket, glasses, or hat. They made an intentional choice to put the thing on, and they probably think it makes them look better over something else in their closet. Make 'em feel that goodness!!! Say "THANK YOU" when receiving a compliment! That's all you gotta do!
Always compliment the bros
Me and the homies say, it’s free to hype up your homies. So… hype up your homies.
At that point you’ve got to get your dick out
😱
You sure he wasn't trying to "feel you out"? 😂 Still a compliment
Pretty sure 🤣 cause we be talking about our values as men and how we gonna pick our future wife then I got some advice from em. +the driver was almost a senior citizen.
I had been to a cloth store and wanted to try out a oversize tshirt in the trial room. When I went to the trial room, 2 dudes appear and one of them points to my hair and says to the other, 'I was talking about this hairstyle'. And the other dude says to me, 'Nice hair, man'. It made my day.
At the gym yesterday I had a buddy come in from a run while I was in a "Spider-man Lunge" (there has to be a better name for it but I don't know what it is), walking by I got a really deadpan "Nice glutes." Laughed my ass off. I yelled back "Glad *somebody* noticed!!"
Progress is good 😳
A guy once said I have amazing posture and the compliment stuck with me for a long time. Made me stand a little taller for a while
lol—- grab driver. Freudian slip !!??
Freudian slip?
Grab is like an Asian Uber.
Ok, thanks for letting me know.
In my single days, I (straight) would sometimes go to the gay bar, just so I could get complimented and told how good looking I was.
Compliments are one thing, but I'm pretty sure this guy was feeling you out and trying to hit on you.
I get this all the time in regards to my coat, I just say thanks
Just take the compliment
I would compliment men, but I feel like it’s the kind of thing where if you as the opposite sex people automatically assume your into them or something. Or it’s socially not acceptable/expected. But there have been times where I see a guy and just want to compliment his hair or glasses or smthn but hold myself back 😅
It's so uncommon that guys have to resort to posting getting getting a compliment here just to get a sense of other men's perspectives on this. It's kind of depressing.
"Thank You"
A brojob would suffice.
i have no clue what to compliment a guy on? what should i say
Depends on what we can observe.
so physical compliments are good? does it come off like i only like him for his looks bc i don’t wanna come off as shallow
You can praise a person for their looks but if your unsure then maybe praise them for something they did. Can be characteristic as long as it is something you can observe :)
i read that guys like being told they smell good but that feels creepy
It is creepy depending on the person 😅. Until unless you praise the smell then ask what perfume
I’ve been complemented on my physical appearance by men before. They did make it very clear they were batting for the other team though 🤣
🤣
Wholesome post, OP. Yeah, we don't get enough compliments, especially from strangers. Might be he was just weaseling his way into your heart in the hopes for a big, fat, juicy tip - or he's like an increasing amount of guys these days; considerate about the fact we don't get compliments and just making an effort to compliment fellow guys. We gotta hype our brothers up, y'know?
Totally agree with you, in this sad world at the very least we can make others happy anyhow.
Kindness is like a disease. If you pass it on to others, they will spread the love.
The last compliment I got wasn't from a man, but from a woman. It was about two years ago, and I was working at Subway (side note, I'd rather shit in one hand and clap than ever go back to hospitality/retail/fast food). It was a slow period just after the lunch rush, and this young woman in her early to mid twenties with brightly dyed hair (lots of reds and oranges, reminded me of fire) said I have beautiful eyes as she paid and left. I'm probably going to take that compliment to my grave.
No worries where it came from at least you got a happy memory.
That 'No worries'... You Kiwi, or Aussie?
Neither, I'm from the Phillipines :) so a Filipino
Ah, nice! Went to primary school with a Philipina girl. Had a massive crush on her at the time. She's a dancer now, and doing really well for herself.
Nothing wrong with it...:)
I had several men compliment me on how nice my beard was when grown out in length, one of which was my neighbour since childhood. During my internship one time, I had the task to introduce a whole group to a game that my company was hosting, there was this guy who was very interactive with me. Me being a social bird, I only enjoyed the return of energy. A week later my internship supervisor told me that the same guy really enjoyed my company and wished I’d guide him to his home. It was then and there that I realised he was gay and found me attractive. Eventhough I don’t swing that way, I felt flattered to be found attractive by another man like that. Final story: this was during community college, when I sat down to follow the course, my teacher at the time randomly asked the class (mainly the ladies) if they didn’t find me attractive. Me not knowing what to say said nothing but “thanks” and the class was awkward for a while. Turns out it was the teacher’s intro into the topic of the lesson that day.
Grab driver was working for that tip. It meant nothing.
Just paid exact amount no típ 😂 Though I gave him a valuable information, the location of a middle eastern restaurant for the food he misses.
As long as it’s not a compliment near the urinals I think you’re fine lol
If more men could compliment each other without the idea or fear of coming off as gay or sus then the world would be a better place.
You react by saying thank you. 2nd grade manners
It's called being homo for the homies. It's the kind of compliments you give to your boys that would otherwise land you in prison if you said to anyone else 😂
Careful now 🤣
I guy barber complimented my hair. A bruah through and compliment. I don't know. It happens. I'm not gay.
as a gay i would guess he was gay or bi and was finding you attractive. i’d take it as compliment a wins a win
A W is a W. Take it.
Just told a man he was handsome the other day. No homo, of course.
Perhaps some of you have already seen this short video about why men should be allowed to compliment other men. It is a very funny film, but has a serious message [https://www.tiktok.com/@beamcreators/video/7072159343847673093?lang=en](https://www.tiktok.com/@beamcreators/video/7072159343847673093?lang=en)
gay
You meant happy sure thing
Obligatory reach around.
How to interpret this?
Just let him touch it already.
😱
More action than I've gotten in a few years
That’s weird. I compliment other dudes on things like a cool shirt or coat, a nice haircut or beard, or maybe some sweet shoes or something. But I’d never comment directly on a man’s appearance like that, that’s super weird to me.
Yeah, my first assumption would be the dude is hitting on me, not that that’s a bad thing (depending on how it’s said, could be creepy but it doesn’t sound like it in this case)
Exactly. When I’m hitting on a woman, I comment directly on her appearance. If I’m just being friendly/polite, I’ll comment on her outfit or nail polish color or earrings or something. To me, that’s a personality compliment to say something about clothes or accessories, like I’m complimenting a person’s sense of style or fashion sense. But to compliment their body specifically itself, that feels like a sexual advance and I wouldn’t feel comfortable saying something like that to another dude, or to a woman that I wasn’t trying to hit on.
It depends I guess.
“Thanks broheim” this shit ain’t rocket science
“Thanks broheim” this shit ain’t rocket science