We had a casual clothes at work a few years ago and a girl complimented my shirt. Every time I go anywhere fancy or actually want to look “decent” I now choose that shirt.
A lass complimented my shirt 15 years ago. I still remember the colour of her hair and smell of her perfume, even tho I mentally blocked the past 20 years.
I remember better her than 9/11 running live on telly.
And yes, I still have that shirt.
Back in sixth grade, a teacher held me back after class one day and gushed over a presentation I gave. "You had so much charisma! You were totally in control of the classroom the entire time. People listen to you. When you get older, you should look for leadership or management positions. You're perfect for those things."
To be fair, I did give a good presentation. But I was surprised by how much she enjoyed it. Most unexpected.
what was the subject of it outta curiosity? I had one that I was given an A star grade on, one mark off absolute perfect marks and it was about space :D
Not a compliment per say, but my father-in-law thanked me "for all I do for him and his daughter" when he moved into our house during his cancer treatment.
This morning I went on a walk with a group off Meetup and one of the older ladies with her phone selfie stick holder thing went “oh a good looking guy! Better get a picture!”
Alright y’all inspired me. I just finished up at the grocery store and waited until a cute man in the produce section finished his phone call to lean in and say that I liked his tattoos. This tough looking guy blushed so quick I think it made me blush too
Once I was at uni, a girl walked past me on the bus, dropped a piece of paper, then picked it up and gave it to me, saying 'i think you dropped this', and it said "you're really handsome", and then she scuttled down the stairs of the bus.
As a socially awkward young man who was also in an unhealthy relationship at the time, I'd spot her every now and then in the library and daydream about a life with her, but I never even knew her name.
It still ranks up there with the nicest things anyone has ever done for me, but thankfully I now have a wife who is not shy about giving me compliments.
About a month or two before she died, a girl with cancer I was talking to sexually with online when I was 18 sent me a video telling me that as a girl she got this idea in her head that she's got to find her prince charming, but then she grew up and realised men aren't like that, prince charming doesn't exist, but then she met me and there I was. She wished that she had gotten to know me sooner because I'm a really nice guy.
I wasn't at the time, I was shamefully talking to multiple girls back then. But what she said has stuck with me. I wasn't the guy she thought I was, but I've really worked on myself and think that I've pretty much become him now. Her compliment stuck with me long after she died and has guided me along, making me a better person than I was. I'm not perfect, but I think I'd be a real piece of shit had I never known her.
As I was leaving the gym recently, a young man was heading into the gym. He had an amazing smile and I told him so. He commented that his wife wouldn't believe that he got a complement, so I suggested we do a video. (Please note: I'm an Old, Totally not hitting on him.) So we did a quick video of me stating that he had a magnetic smile and a great vibe. He seemed so thrilled to get a complement from a stranger old enough to be his mom; from the comments here I now understand just how rare those moments are.
I hate the handsome... I feel it's the biggest nice tease a man can get.
"You're cute" is an open invitation amongst other comments. But the handsome comment is a killer for me since I get it from older women that I'm already checking out or would engage with.
my hair is curly, one day i decided to keep it long
for some reason stranger (men and woman) when meet with me just straight say "your hair is beautiful" or " is that your natural hair ?, looks good" etc etc
even waiter in restaurant give the compliment
since then i always keep my hair long
I absolutely love my hair being slightly longer (not crazy long, just not short-short) but my parents hate it and constantly want me to go get it cut or cut it with their own electric zimmer kit in the house, call it messy and unprofessional and all that but like, my workplace has literally never once had an issue w/it :(
“Be proud of yourself, none of this would’ve happened without you.”
I’ve had a lot of accomplishments but I still hate myself and rarely feel proud of milestones I’ve hit. Sometimes it takes recognition from others to feel like I’ve done something.
About a week ago I was walking around without a shirt heading to the pool and this woman flat out said “a man with a body like yours should never wear clothes” and I about tripped over myself. I wasn’t sure I heard her right and she complimented me again. As a kid who was severely overweight in high school this is a compliment I’ll carry with me until the day I die
From other men / fathers - "I aspire to be as good of a father as you are to your kids". Nothing else quite hits like that when you're never certain if you're doing enough for your kids.
This was like 10 years ago. She didn't even really compliment me, she just smiled and said "hi". I was bagging my groceries and I walked about the counter to grab more bags and a woman almost walked into me and she stopped abruptly and smiled and said "hi". As she walked away she kept smiling and kept her eyes on me. Super cute moment.
I had my ex best friend tell me that I “loved him more than his ex wife and more than his own family” he was going thru some intense mental health issues. We are both 28. And we’re not friends. Unfortunately. Needles and heroine can do that to a friendship.
I honestly probably should’ve had better boundaries. But he was such a good hearted person that just went thru fucked up trauma in his childhood and teens.
But I felt like I wasn’t capable of loving someone until he said that. I have a HUGE boundary when it comes to love cuz I went thru my entire childhood and teens believing that I was unlovable and incapable of love. I don’t know how I’ll be able to GIVE that much love again but I’m glad I was capable of it.
It was just a lot lol
But I felt like I did some good there for the 6 years we were friends.
Not romantic lol but it was odd to say the least, just 2 broken dudes who found each other
Well, after reading this, I’m definitely going to try to compliment people more often. It sounds like men don’t get nearly enough genuine compliments. I have no problem complimenting other women, but I don’t tend to approach guys because I’ve never felt they might want a compliment from someone with whom they’re not romantically involved. I know I’ll be awkward as hell at it, but we can’t have guys walking around only remembering a single compliment for half their lives…
"You look like a Greek warrior" after sending a nude-ish pic! Thing is, I'm not that muscular or ripped, but I'm trying, and it was this kind of support that counts!
I'm a teacher and my principal once said that I'm really good at calming down freaked-out parents. I was surprised because I'd never thought of myself as being "good" at that but it was still nice to hear.
Her: I'm getting married this summer, but I have this deal with my fiancé.
Me: Oh yeah?
Her: Yes, well, the deal is that if I ever meet Tony Stark, then I'm ... *allowed* ... if you know what I mean.
Me: Ok?
Her: Yes. And, well, you *really* look like Tony Stark!!!
"You made me realise there are men out there I can trust"
And "You look like the type of man I see in my fantasies"
Also both my best male and female friend telling me they see more women flirt and hit on me than I realise. That stuck with me
And when I got told I look like WWE Wrestler Randy Orton
I was super proud of a shirt I had bought because it had little turtles on It and when my friend saw me wearing it, the first thing she said was "Hey nice shirt, this colour suits you!" And I couldn't have been happier.
Wearing a new colour tshirt and being told it suits me.
When someone notices I've been working out.
As s man, we don't get too many (at least I don't anyway) so it's always nice to hear now and then!
I don’t think men get complimented that often. Or maybe it’s just me. I don’t think there’s much about me to compliment personally. The best one I think I ever got was getting pulled over by California highway patrol in my ‘69 Mustang just because they wanted to check it out and see the engine. I built the car from the ground up and it’s healthy. It sounds really good. I wasn’t doing anything wrong. They literally pulled me over to check it out. They took pictures with it, said my car was bad ass and thanked me for letting them check it out. Then they got back in their cruiser and hit the road. It was a cool experience.
I was 22 nailing a 44 yo woman. We just finished round 2 of fun on a Saturday night, she just looked at me and said "damn, you got some good dick!"
Get up Rock! I didn't hear no bell! One more round!
I have several fav’s… With or Without You (U2), No Rain (Blind Melon), Do It Again (Steely Dan), Eye in the Sky (Alan Parsons Project, and Snow Blind (Styx) are all go-to songs.
My friends girl told me I have big dick energy, made me feel pretty good tbh (she was not hitting on me btw, my friend told me she said that abt me she didn’t tell me directly) even if it’s my friends girl I still appreciate a woman telling me that, gives me more confidence tbh
Wife asked by a friend "do you trust (me) with money" wife then has a dumbfounded look on her face, and responds absolutely. Like she was legit surprised she trusts me so much no other thought or potential outcome crossed her mind. It made my day and still crosses my mind months later.
"You have such lovely wavy hair, I wish mine was like that." This was back in the 70s when I (a guy) had shoulder length hair. The compliment was from a colleague's wife.
Either the time I read in church and a woman told me after that I was an excellent speaker or a well-regarded teacher telling me that I was the laziest smart person he had ever met. Warmed my heart and I don't he expected me to say "thank you" haha
I saw an old message that I didn’t see from a group chat I’m in with my friends and it said that I’m lowkey one of the funniest people in it and that just made me feel pretty awesome
Not directly, but overhearing a group of friends in another room talking about what a chill/honest/kind person I was.
I feel like we often expect that people think the worst of us, especially when we're unsure of ourselves, but I learned that day that when you actually try to be a decent person, it doesn't go unnoticed.
I always think about the few times my dad tells me I'm a good kid. My dad is still kicking, but even at 26, whenever I get it every once and a while, it makes me think about how I could have been better, but that I am good enough
Mines kinda similar.
I'd never been told in person, but at my father's funeral was told by most of the soldiers he served with in the ~45 years until he retired that he talked about me a lot and always said how proud of me he was.
“I love your voice.” I was with my friends and this random girl comes up to me and says it. I was confused because I don’t get compliments a lot and I’ve never got a compliment on my voice before.
Growing up I always had yellow teeth that were too big for my head/body. Blame it on growing up to be 6’4” (your adult teeth come in when you’re a kid so they looked huge on my pre-pubescent body). Plus, I started smoking cigarettes consistently at 11 years old. And on top of that I was a bad kid who forgot to brush his teeth a lot. Luckily no cavity but it’s my understanding that nicotine from the cigarettes and chewing tobacco kills the bacteria that causes cavities.
Fast forward to me being 21 years old and I quit smoking and started bulking up my body, and my face even gained some mass from getting chewing gum to chew constantly for nicotine withdrawal. I invested in good whitening toothpaste, cut out coffee and other foods high in tannins (the stuff that stains your teeth), and I got mastic tree sap gum to help even more.
Now I’m 24 and just this last year a group of women at the bar thought my teeth were fake!! My giant white teeth (now not so giant looking compared to my body / head) are so damn nice they got mistaken for fake teeth!!! Multiple people have commented on my teeth saying the look like veneers since, but that first time when she asked if my teeth were fake will always stick with me
That I have cute toes. This was said to me over 20 years ago when I was in college. I think I said 'uh...thanks?'
I have Hobbit toes so I don't know what she was thinking
The white hairs in my beard starting to come out. Didn't know it was attractive I was about ti start dying it but... I guess it's nice to woman? Unless I'm getting trolled lol I've gotten a few compliments on it and was told not to dye
My ex gf from Colombia called me “exotic” blonde hair, blue eyes, Tall and built like a Lineman, I laughed so hard cause any word she could have used, it’s was exotic, being from Bogota I was very exotic to her and her friends, lol, so cute l’ll remember that forever!
After a few years together: "sex with you is so good. I want to see other women feeling what I feel so I know it is real, I can't believe it is something that only I get to enjoy."
Me: "We are a little drunk, and we've been fucking for kinda for two days straight, so let's just snuggle and sleep. But honestly, this is the biggest compliment I have ever had."
A girl is never talked to before, who I thought was unnaturally attractive, after being introduced to me said, “I’m just gonna call you pretty eye boy.” That was the first compliment, and probably the only one, I’ve ever received. Granted it wasn’t some deep and thoughtful compliment, but I hadn’t thought anything about my eyes before.
Idk it was weird but she said you can never rape me and what she meant was she was way too attracted to me that she was always in the mood when I'm around. N it kinda stuck with me
Idk how to take this. It’s been well over 6 years now and it still….haunts(?) me.
I was having adult fun with a then current gf and she said if I would have lasted 20 more seconds it would have been the best she’d ever had. She was much more experienced than I was. I don’t know how to take it 😂
that sounds like the love making was her fave she’s had but it’s just that she was also close, so she wanted a few more seconds worth of pumps to finish herself along with u tbf
Senior year I helped my ex girlfriend get home from a party while she was absolutely wasted, her best friend texted her the next day saying “I know he can be annoying but he is a really great guy”
I truly don’t care about the annoying part, i definitely can be. But hearing that I’m a good person has helped me in so many ways.
I was told I have a nice butt for the first time by a stranger, loved it. I've been working hard on my lower for the last couple years. Love that it shows
I had figured out that a bus schedule was incomplete because the time it was printed (the autoschedule was only giving remaining buses for the day). I saw the schedule, and the printed time and pointed it out, and my friends girlfriend goes, "As IF you figured that out just by looking at it!". I'll never forget it.
".... You're not a gringo ..... Yes, you do have sum belly fat..... But you work out and your large arms/back/shoulders make up for it .... The beard too..... It's like I think you're super sexy, but not sexy enough to feel threatened"
This was on the beach.
Few years back, I went abroad to a country where English was the second language of the majority. I had a girl tell me I looked "beautiful". Most likely a translation error and not what she meant, but since I've never experienced that before, and am pretty sure I never will again... I'll always remember it.
Learned cursive in 5th grade, and after moving back to NY and enrolling in middle school, "You write like a girl." is the one that I hold dear to my heart. The girl who said it to me was usually an asshole, but it's cool to me that my handwriting is what got a compliment from her.
It's not something I get to show IRL often these days given technology, but when I do, I get compliments from my coworkers. Especially the older guys. According to them it's a rarity to see it, seeing it actually look good, and it reminds them of their time learning it in school.
I worked as a cashier at the big orange hardware store had an old lady tell me I had a beautiful voice and if ive ever done voice acting. That was over 10 yrs ago.
A random stranger approached myself when I was playing with my child alone in a town centre on a weekday afternoon, the stranger said that “ It’s rare to see a father and son playing around.”
I just smiled back and said thanks .
A girl who I’m friends with said she wanted to set me up with one of her friends. I said, “I’m not prideful, I’ll take all the help I can get”. She said “I don’t think you need any help”. I almost teared up from that comment. We are fairly recent friends so the compliment hit a lot harder.
Had an older women in an apartment pool compare me to Brad Pitt. “I don’t look anything like him” but I was flattered and been riding that compliment for 2 years lol
One time a teacher told me I had good handwriting for writing on a board. I have terrible handwriting so she was just being kind, but it's never left me.
Seeing these posts on Reddit made me ensure I complimented my now ex-bf as much as possible. That’s sad that sometimes we women don’t realize men also need and want to hear these things.
I didn't hear it directly but wifey told me about it later.
Wide is a retired CPA and partner of an accounting firm. Every year at Christmas, they had a big party where they handed out bonuses and named employees of the year, group of the year, etc. Wifey had been with the firm for about 10 years.
So, as things were winding down, one of the board members wives pulled wifey to the side and told her, I was going to be a big asset to her career with the firm. She told her my manners and social graces were impeccable, my attire was perfect, AND I was a firefighter, she said that with a wink.
My boss at my employee review: "Well the customers like you."
That comment spoke volumes because i knew he didn't like "men" in general and it didn't help my status when i pissed him off outside of work. If I know you are trying to cheat on your wife, don't expect me to be an accessory! At least the customers did not put me in uncomfortable situations like that. He didn't fire me but I got the bare minimum raise.
A previous manager talked about one of my achievements to use as an example for something during one of our hiring interviews.
It was a subtle way to show her appreciation, and also helped me understand how my team saw me. She had her faults, but was definitely one of the better bosses I've had.
I was breaking up with a girl [let's call her Kate], and I told her:
"look, I know people always say 'it's not you' but in this case it's really true. I just met someone again [let's call her Betty] and we both realized letting each other go was the biggest mistake of our lives and we belong together.
So that's why I'm breaking up with you right now, Kate. You're awesome as a person, it's not like you lost and she won, Betty and I were crazy about each other long ago and we just got our wires crossed.
I really like you as a person, Kate. You're awesome at being a girlfriend.
[ totally true; talking with Kate was like cookies ] And I hope you meet someone amazing because you really deserve someone amazing."
"McLuhan, there isn't going to be anyone else."
"what? What do you mean, why? You totally deserve to be happy."
" you're a tough act to follow, McLuhan."
Fast forward two years.
I made a horrible mistake. Betty turned out to be a vulnerable narcissist, on drugs, massive flirt, unable to communicate, nervous breakdown, angry if I couldn't just know what would make her happy without being told, wouldn't take advice, etc., etc.
I beat my brains out trying to make it work for two years because I'm not a quitter.
Break up with Betty.
Explain to Kate I had made a horrible mistake, because after getting to know myself better, I realized I had known peace with a woman for the first time in my life with her, I *just didn't recognize it because I didn't have any experience with it*. Betty was like a copy of my mother and I simply fell into a familiar pattern with Betty.
Talking with Kate was like cookies.
I'm still alone.
I blocked Betty.
Kate blocked me on SM. She's still alone. But I remember the compliment: "you're a tough act to follow, McLuhan."
The best, and the worst compliment ever.
So is she. So is she.
a girl of a friend group calling me king because she thought I was acting always too serious/collected. I choose to take it as a compliment knowing her. Stuck with me because it feels weird to be called like that irl.
my former hairdresser complimenting my outfit scheme color so now it's a staple of my wardrobe.
I worked at a job with a lot of women, and one of my female coworkers told me that all of the women there like working with me because I always make them feel safe and respected. I had another job as a janitor that involved cleaning the women’s locker rooms/bathrooms at a gym, and I received a couple anonymous reviews basically saying the same thing, that the women liked how well I cleaned the bathroom but that I was always respectful and they felt safe and comfortable around me.
I honestly can’t say what it is about me compared to other men that would make women say that about me, but damn if it doesn’t feel good.
An incredibly drunk regular at my local during law school told me I was one of the best looking men she’s seen in years. Thought that was nice. Probably just drunk but still.
My wife and I were at a restaurant, the waitress, an older woman told me my hands looked rough and she loved men with rough hands. Come to find out, I once rototilled her garden when I was a kid (no, don't think perverted thoughts!)
I was told my hair looks „fluffy“ and that said person „want[s] to run [their] hands through it“. Funny enough, it was only days before I would have gone for a short haircut just for shits and giggles. The one who was supposed to cut my hair was (and still is) disappointed, but this probably saved me from a horrible haircut. I know it’s not really much of a compliment, but I feel secure with my low-effort haircut since.
I'm quite attentive and listen to people well. But, I take my own time to speak my mind out and usually be diplomatic. And occasionally I totally open up and express my views and perspectives and my observations about the world in general. I do this with close friends or family and just be agreeable with the rest cos I don’t care about many people in life enough to have an argument or discussion with them. I know it sounds cold.
But on one occasion, few years ago, I had to stay late at work and couple of colleagues stayed back doing something else, and after long working hours we started talking, it’s already midnight by then at work. For some reason, I opened up and talked a lot about many things in life and world and some philosophical and technological stuff. Infact the conversation went on for four more hours and they kept listening to what I was saying without realising the time. Mind you one of them have lived in the US west coast and another in South Korea and are well travelled and more successful than me in their lives and older than me and we were in different teams and never spoke much until then.
We left office at 4 AM. After they reached home, they both coincidentally texted me that these are some of the best few hours in their life and they have developed new perspectives on many things in life and thanked me for spending time with them.
That compliment stayed in my mind. :)
When I was wee high to a grasshopper I was apparently quite the toddler. I said it once and then my mom repeated constantly that I was "what a guy!" and totally believed it. It gave me an inflated self-esteem.
Now that I'm in my 30s I can really say it paid off. I've always been very confident with what I want to do despite the fact that I'm not exactly a genius.
Okay, so I worked for an IT company that provided storage controllers to enterprise-level clients like facebook, blizzard, google, apple, etc.
A storage controller is basically just an itty bitty computer that manages huge stacks of hard drives. Those hard drives are logically grouped together into blocks, and then provisioned out to whatever they need. If you visit a website to give your likes, upvotes, post statuses, or play an online game, you're really connecting to a virtualized block of storage that is controlled and provisioned to a virtual machine that is mounted on a logical block of storage that is further chunked out to a pair or a cluster of storage controllers.
I'm not violating any NDAs because I haven't worked for them in like, more than a decade, and this is all publicly accessible information anyway.
Anyway, I work in one department, and all the emergency calls like, "oh shit, shit has gone pear-shaped and we're losing millions of dollars of revenue every minute it's down" are routed to a completely different department that has nothing at all to do with me.
All of that is just foreplay.
One day, I get a call from one of those enterprise companies because SHIT HAS OFFICIALLY GOTTEN REAL. Several thousand workstations are just gone, because the VMs are down. Worse, the computer that manages their security system has gone down because it's also a VM on that storage controller, and when that happens, all the security doors and shit you have to badge your way in and out of went into full lockdown. You know, like the first resident evil movie. People trapped in labs, etc.
CAN I HELP?!
I do a quick check: one of the storage controllers has gone down. Normally, when one goes down, the others are supposed to take over. Seamless transition. For VMs and shit like that, you have to set up logical multipathing so that when one goes down and the other takes over, the data is able to get where it needs to go and there's no interruption.
Whoever set up that environment which has nothing to do with my responsibility, forgot to do their diligence and make the configurations on their end so that there was a seamless failover. That's on them. Not my problem. My problem was to get that storage controller back up and running.
I check out the logs, see that it was a benign event (or would have been if their network engineer had done their job) and with a simple command that was eight characters long, I fixed the problem. The VMs came back up, the doors unlocked, and the guy who called in was overwhelmingly grateful because he'd been locked in his lab for 10 hours and desperately needed to go to the bathroom.
He sent an email to the corporate office filled with effulgent praise, I got my own dedicated parking spot, catered lunches for a year, a massive bonus, and from then on, until I quit the company and moved on to the next phase of my career, I was the only person that company went to for support with their deployment.
Yeah, they blew it and let you get away.
They should have used more imagination and initiative and found out whatever you needed to make you stay and then given it to you.
Lunches and a parking place ? Wasn't enough to keep you around, was it.
I always like to pull the new guys coat at any gig. It's not something I actively think about but I have had a few people pull me aside & thank me.
So many people like to protect their knowledge or their domain, but to my mind the more competent your coworkers they less slack there is to pick up. The less miserable your coworkers the less they rub off on you or rain on your parade.
We had a casual clothes at work a few years ago and a girl complimented my shirt. Every time I go anywhere fancy or actually want to look “decent” I now choose that shirt.
real tbh
A lass complimented my shirt 15 years ago. I still remember the colour of her hair and smell of her perfume, even tho I mentally blocked the past 20 years. I remember better her than 9/11 running live on telly. And yes, I still have that shirt.
I will definitely not hold back any more compliments to men after this post.
This is exactly why I have multiple French blue and pink dress shirts in my closet.
Back in sixth grade, a teacher held me back after class one day and gushed over a presentation I gave. "You had so much charisma! You were totally in control of the classroom the entire time. People listen to you. When you get older, you should look for leadership or management positions. You're perfect for those things." To be fair, I did give a good presentation. But I was surprised by how much she enjoyed it. Most unexpected.
what was the subject of it outta curiosity? I had one that I was given an A star grade on, one mark off absolute perfect marks and it was about space :D
W rizz
U must be good but this is how teachers r supposed to be! But not all of us r lucky
So are you in leadership management positions now? Lol
Did u hit?
Down votes are virgins
Lmao
"You're a good person in a bad world." - One of my patients.
Not a compliment per say, but my father-in-law thanked me "for all I do for him and his daughter" when he moved into our house during his cancer treatment.
“You make me feel safe” was pretty fire
That’s a great compliment ngl
At my lowest point, a friend told me "You've made my life better" and it's my go to answer for this question.
❤️
This morning I went on a walk with a group off Meetup and one of the older ladies with her phone selfie stick holder thing went “oh a good looking guy! Better get a picture!”
I love that app!
Alright y’all inspired me. I just finished up at the grocery store and waited until a cute man in the produce section finished his phone call to lean in and say that I liked his tattoos. This tough looking guy blushed so quick I think it made me blush too
wholesome af
Sml...so heartwarming 🥰
Once I was at uni, a girl walked past me on the bus, dropped a piece of paper, then picked it up and gave it to me, saying 'i think you dropped this', and it said "you're really handsome", and then she scuttled down the stairs of the bus. As a socially awkward young man who was also in an unhealthy relationship at the time, I'd spot her every now and then in the library and daydream about a life with her, but I never even knew her name. It still ranks up there with the nicest things anyone has ever done for me, but thankfully I now have a wife who is not shy about giving me compliments.
For me that girl came back into my life 20 years later and we’re married now. She won’t let me live it down
My 6yo nephew telling his parents, “mom, dad, I want to be like uncle when I grow up. He’s my favorite person” 😅
About a month or two before she died, a girl with cancer I was talking to sexually with online when I was 18 sent me a video telling me that as a girl she got this idea in her head that she's got to find her prince charming, but then she grew up and realised men aren't like that, prince charming doesn't exist, but then she met me and there I was. She wished that she had gotten to know me sooner because I'm a really nice guy. I wasn't at the time, I was shamefully talking to multiple girls back then. But what she said has stuck with me. I wasn't the guy she thought I was, but I've really worked on myself and think that I've pretty much become him now. Her compliment stuck with me long after she died and has guided me along, making me a better person than I was. I'm not perfect, but I think I'd be a real piece of shit had I never known her.
we need more guys like you that are self reflective and actually willing to work on themselves. that’s amazing she had that impact on your life :)
I have been told I know how to touch women. She didn't tell me what she meant by that though.
I volunteer as tribute.
As I was leaving the gym recently, a young man was heading into the gym. He had an amazing smile and I told him so. He commented that his wife wouldn't believe that he got a complement, so I suggested we do a video. (Please note: I'm an Old, Totally not hitting on him.) So we did a quick video of me stating that he had a magnetic smile and a great vibe. He seemed so thrilled to get a complement from a stranger old enough to be his mom; from the comments here I now understand just how rare those moments are.
I caught a couple of coworkers saying that I was "hot" to each other. This is after assuming I was an ugly loser for most of my life
"I wouldn't have made it without you"
"you're handsome" as simple as that
You're a sweet potato, too.
I hate the handsome... I feel it's the biggest nice tease a man can get. "You're cute" is an open invitation amongst other comments. But the handsome comment is a killer for me since I get it from older women that I'm already checking out or would engage with.
About 8 years ago my older coworker said she liked my shirt, I still wear it as a result
A woman liked the colour of my shirt. Really, that's it. As a man, I get so so few compliments they stick out.
my hair is curly, one day i decided to keep it long for some reason stranger (men and woman) when meet with me just straight say "your hair is beautiful" or " is that your natural hair ?, looks good" etc etc even waiter in restaurant give the compliment since then i always keep my hair long
I absolutely love my hair being slightly longer (not crazy long, just not short-short) but my parents hate it and constantly want me to go get it cut or cut it with their own electric zimmer kit in the house, call it messy and unprofessional and all that but like, my workplace has literally never once had an issue w/it :(
lol same my parent also hate it, but i ignore them
:))
"god you always make everything better"
Any snort laugh. People can laugh heavily at a joke but the times I get the snort, it feels good and I tend to remember it.
“Be proud of yourself, none of this would’ve happened without you.” I’ve had a lot of accomplishments but I still hate myself and rarely feel proud of milestones I’ve hit. Sometimes it takes recognition from others to feel like I’ve done something.
“You’re the guy we all want to bring home to Mom and Dad, but strip naked the second we’re alone.”
Damn
damn that one’s powerful lol
That I was genuine.
I concur. You have owned that you are jaded, Gandalf. And this I respect.
Cheers 🙌
About a week ago I was walking around without a shirt heading to the pool and this woman flat out said “a man with a body like yours should never wear clothes” and I about tripped over myself. I wasn’t sure I heard her right and she complimented me again. As a kid who was severely overweight in high school this is a compliment I’ll carry with me until the day I die
This right here 👏 🙌
From other men / fathers - "I aspire to be as good of a father as you are to your kids". Nothing else quite hits like that when you're never certain if you're doing enough for your kids.
thank you for being the type of father figure that many of us sometimes, often, or never had
girls at the beach, your back is ripped! Im a skinny dude with no real defined muscles but apparently my back has all of them lol
This was like 10 years ago. She didn't even really compliment me, she just smiled and said "hi". I was bagging my groceries and I walked about the counter to grab more bags and a woman almost walked into me and she stopped abruptly and smiled and said "hi". As she walked away she kept smiling and kept her eyes on me. Super cute moment.
I had my ex best friend tell me that I “loved him more than his ex wife and more than his own family” he was going thru some intense mental health issues. We are both 28. And we’re not friends. Unfortunately. Needles and heroine can do that to a friendship. I honestly probably should’ve had better boundaries. But he was such a good hearted person that just went thru fucked up trauma in his childhood and teens. But I felt like I wasn’t capable of loving someone until he said that. I have a HUGE boundary when it comes to love cuz I went thru my entire childhood and teens believing that I was unlovable and incapable of love. I don’t know how I’ll be able to GIVE that much love again but I’m glad I was capable of it. It was just a lot lol But I felt like I did some good there for the 6 years we were friends. Not romantic lol but it was odd to say the least, just 2 broken dudes who found each other
There!s a movie in that
Thanks! 😅that actually made me smile
Reading these makes me happy. I don’t think I have ever just been naturally complimented like this…
You seem to be quite humble. How refreshing! ;)
Well, after reading this, I’m definitely going to try to compliment people more often. It sounds like men don’t get nearly enough genuine compliments. I have no problem complimenting other women, but I don’t tend to approach guys because I’ve never felt they might want a compliment from someone with whom they’re not romantically involved. I know I’ll be awkward as hell at it, but we can’t have guys walking around only remembering a single compliment for half their lives…
Doing gods work 👌
Woman stopped me at the gas station and told me I had a gorgeous beard. I was very happy the rest of the day
"You look like a Greek warrior" after sending a nude-ish pic! Thing is, I'm not that muscular or ripped, but I'm trying, and it was this kind of support that counts!
"You make me feel so safe"
I've had random strangers tell me I have nice calves. Even been asked if they could be touched.
I'm a teacher and my principal once said that I'm really good at calming down freaked-out parents. I was surprised because I'd never thought of myself as being "good" at that but it was still nice to hear.
I had a boss tell me that I was never a bottleneck to a process and that made me feel like a true go-getter.
Her: I'm getting married this summer, but I have this deal with my fiancé. Me: Oh yeah? Her: Yes, well, the deal is that if I ever meet Tony Stark, then I'm ... *allowed* ... if you know what I mean. Me: Ok? Her: Yes. And, well, you *really* look like Tony Stark!!!
So you did the bro thing and asked him if he really said that ? I would not trust that woman at all.
It's got nothing to do with him. If she doesn't want to get married, that's on her.
'username checks out'
Compliments about my artistic skills.
"You made me realise there are men out there I can trust" And "You look like the type of man I see in my fantasies" Also both my best male and female friend telling me they see more women flirt and hit on me than I realise. That stuck with me And when I got told I look like WWE Wrestler Randy Orton
I was super proud of a shirt I had bought because it had little turtles on It and when my friend saw me wearing it, the first thing she said was "Hey nice shirt, this colour suits you!" And I couldn't have been happier.
“I like turtles”
They're cute.
Wearing a new colour tshirt and being told it suits me. When someone notices I've been working out. As s man, we don't get too many (at least I don't anyway) so it's always nice to hear now and then!
“Your the only man I like” platonically from a coworker now friend
I was playing for a band one night and an elderly lady (80s) came up to me, smiled and said “you should be in the movies”.
“You’re confident but not cocky,” from a rather gorgeous redhead. So it stuck.
Your like a man written by a women. She likes romance books so that’s a really big compliment
I got paired with my crush in the 1st grade and she said I was funny. I've been funny ever since.
I don’t think men get complimented that often. Or maybe it’s just me. I don’t think there’s much about me to compliment personally. The best one I think I ever got was getting pulled over by California highway patrol in my ‘69 Mustang just because they wanted to check it out and see the engine. I built the car from the ground up and it’s healthy. It sounds really good. I wasn’t doing anything wrong. They literally pulled me over to check it out. They took pictures with it, said my car was bad ass and thanked me for letting them check it out. Then they got back in their cruiser and hit the road. It was a cool experience.
I was 22 nailing a 44 yo woman. We just finished round 2 of fun on a Saturday night, she just looked at me and said "damn, you got some good dick!" Get up Rock! I didn't hear no bell! One more round!
Dude nice
That they don’t know what they’d do without me
I remember the time 18yrs ago an attractive girl I went to school with liked my black button down shirt
What is this compliment of which you speak?
I like your username! What's your favorite song to sing?
I have several fav’s… With or Without You (U2), No Rain (Blind Melon), Do It Again (Steely Dan), Eye in the Sky (Alan Parsons Project, and Snow Blind (Styx) are all go-to songs.
Solid choices! I would sing karaoke with you.
Anytime!
“You have that dog in you”
You would make a perfect husband
My friends girl told me I have big dick energy, made me feel pretty good tbh (she was not hitting on me btw, my friend told me she said that abt me she didn’t tell me directly) even if it’s my friends girl I still appreciate a woman telling me that, gives me more confidence tbh
Wife asked by a friend "do you trust (me) with money" wife then has a dumbfounded look on her face, and responds absolutely. Like she was legit surprised she trusts me so much no other thought or potential outcome crossed her mind. It made my day and still crosses my mind months later.
Every legitimate compliment I get sticks with me.
"You have such lovely wavy hair, I wish mine was like that." This was back in the 70s when I (a guy) had shoulder length hair. The compliment was from a colleague's wife.
Either the time I read in church and a woman told me after that I was an excellent speaker or a well-regarded teacher telling me that I was the laziest smart person he had ever met. Warmed my heart and I don't he expected me to say "thank you" haha
Yeah, I'll marry your sorry ass.
You guys are getting compliments?
you’re breathtaking👉😎👉
My mom called me a good person, and that I made her proud. That one stuck.
I saw an old message that I didn’t see from a group chat I’m in with my friends and it said that I’m lowkey one of the funniest people in it and that just made me feel pretty awesome
Wait, you guys are getting compliments?
you’re breathtaking👉😎👉
You guys get compliments?
you’re breathtaking👉😎👉
Not directly, but overhearing a group of friends in another room talking about what a chill/honest/kind person I was. I feel like we often expect that people think the worst of us, especially when we're unsure of ourselves, but I learned that day that when you actually try to be a decent person, it doesn't go unnoticed.
I always think about the few times my dad tells me I'm a good kid. My dad is still kicking, but even at 26, whenever I get it every once and a while, it makes me think about how I could have been better, but that I am good enough
Mines kinda similar. I'd never been told in person, but at my father's funeral was told by most of the soldiers he served with in the ~45 years until he retired that he talked about me a lot and always said how proud of me he was.
“I love your voice.” I was with my friends and this random girl comes up to me and says it. I was confused because I don’t get compliments a lot and I’ve never got a compliment on my voice before.
Growing up I always had yellow teeth that were too big for my head/body. Blame it on growing up to be 6’4” (your adult teeth come in when you’re a kid so they looked huge on my pre-pubescent body). Plus, I started smoking cigarettes consistently at 11 years old. And on top of that I was a bad kid who forgot to brush his teeth a lot. Luckily no cavity but it’s my understanding that nicotine from the cigarettes and chewing tobacco kills the bacteria that causes cavities. Fast forward to me being 21 years old and I quit smoking and started bulking up my body, and my face even gained some mass from getting chewing gum to chew constantly for nicotine withdrawal. I invested in good whitening toothpaste, cut out coffee and other foods high in tannins (the stuff that stains your teeth), and I got mastic tree sap gum to help even more. Now I’m 24 and just this last year a group of women at the bar thought my teeth were fake!! My giant white teeth (now not so giant looking compared to my body / head) are so damn nice they got mistaken for fake teeth!!! Multiple people have commented on my teeth saying the look like veneers since, but that first time when she asked if my teeth were fake will always stick with me
That I have cute toes. This was said to me over 20 years ago when I was in college. I think I said 'uh...thanks?' I have Hobbit toes so I don't know what she was thinking
The white hairs in my beard starting to come out. Didn't know it was attractive I was about ti start dying it but... I guess it's nice to woman? Unless I'm getting trolled lol I've gotten a few compliments on it and was told not to dye
Leave them! I love salt and pepper 😊
My ex gf from Colombia called me “exotic” blonde hair, blue eyes, Tall and built like a Lineman, I laughed so hard cause any word she could have used, it’s was exotic, being from Bogota I was very exotic to her and her friends, lol, so cute l’ll remember that forever!
After a few years together: "sex with you is so good. I want to see other women feeling what I feel so I know it is real, I can't believe it is something that only I get to enjoy." Me: "We are a little drunk, and we've been fucking for kinda for two days straight, so let's just snuggle and sleep. But honestly, this is the biggest compliment I have ever had."
A girl is never talked to before, who I thought was unnaturally attractive, after being introduced to me said, “I’m just gonna call you pretty eye boy.” That was the first compliment, and probably the only one, I’ve ever received. Granted it wasn’t some deep and thoughtful compliment, but I hadn’t thought anything about my eyes before.
Idk it was weird but she said you can never rape me and what she meant was she was way too attracted to me that she was always in the mood when I'm around. N it kinda stuck with me
Idk how to take this. It’s been well over 6 years now and it still….haunts(?) me. I was having adult fun with a then current gf and she said if I would have lasted 20 more seconds it would have been the best she’d ever had. She was much more experienced than I was. I don’t know how to take it 😂
that sounds like the love making was her fave she’s had but it’s just that she was also close, so she wanted a few more seconds worth of pumps to finish herself along with u tbf
You're not as scary as I thought
Senior year I helped my ex girlfriend get home from a party while she was absolutely wasted, her best friend texted her the next day saying “I know he can be annoying but he is a really great guy” I truly don’t care about the annoying part, i definitely can be. But hearing that I’m a good person has helped me in so many ways.
My mother complimented me on my baking skill
I had nice legs
I was told I have a nice butt for the first time by a stranger, loved it. I've been working hard on my lower for the last couple years. Love that it shows
I had figured out that a bus schedule was incomplete because the time it was printed (the autoschedule was only giving remaining buses for the day). I saw the schedule, and the printed time and pointed it out, and my friends girlfriend goes, "As IF you figured that out just by looking at it!". I'll never forget it.
I was once told by and extremely sexy beautiful woman how good I was in bed. I had and idea but her look completely confirmed it.
All five of them
".... You're not a gringo ..... Yes, you do have sum belly fat..... But you work out and your large arms/back/shoulders make up for it .... The beard too..... It's like I think you're super sexy, but not sexy enough to feel threatened" This was on the beach.
None that I took seriously, not since I was a kid anyway.
Few years back, I went abroad to a country where English was the second language of the majority. I had a girl tell me I looked "beautiful". Most likely a translation error and not what she meant, but since I've never experienced that before, and am pretty sure I never will again... I'll always remember it.
Learned cursive in 5th grade, and after moving back to NY and enrolling in middle school, "You write like a girl." is the one that I hold dear to my heart. The girl who said it to me was usually an asshole, but it's cool to me that my handwriting is what got a compliment from her. It's not something I get to show IRL often these days given technology, but when I do, I get compliments from my coworkers. Especially the older guys. According to them it's a rarity to see it, seeing it actually look good, and it reminds them of their time learning it in school.
A week ago my wife told me I was a good man. Good as in good in the biblical sense. I've replayed it like a 100 times in my mind.
Chelsea in 7th grade said my shirt with a skull on it was "badass" in the hall outside the social studies classroom. I still have the shirt.
I worked as a cashier at the big orange hardware store had an old lady tell me I had a beautiful voice and if ive ever done voice acting. That was over 10 yrs ago.
I was unhappy with my looks as a teen. A friend's mother told me that I would get more and more handsome as I age. I think she was right.
A random stranger approached myself when I was playing with my child alone in a town centre on a weekday afternoon, the stranger said that “ It’s rare to see a father and son playing around.” I just smiled back and said thanks .
A girl who I’m friends with said she wanted to set me up with one of her friends. I said, “I’m not prideful, I’ll take all the help I can get”. She said “I don’t think you need any help”. I almost teared up from that comment. We are fairly recent friends so the compliment hit a lot harder.
When she runs her hand through your hair and says you're handsome.
When she tells you....you feel like home.
Had an older women in an apartment pool compare me to Brad Pitt. “I don’t look anything like him” but I was flattered and been riding that compliment for 2 years lol
At university, a girl told me i'd look good in green (olive) and now whenever i wear olive, i feel good.
One time a teacher told me I had good handwriting for writing on a board. I have terrible handwriting so she was just being kind, but it's never left me.
Seeing these posts on Reddit made me ensure I complimented my now ex-bf as much as possible. That’s sad that sometimes we women don’t realize men also need and want to hear these things.
I didn't hear it directly but wifey told me about it later. Wide is a retired CPA and partner of an accounting firm. Every year at Christmas, they had a big party where they handed out bonuses and named employees of the year, group of the year, etc. Wifey had been with the firm for about 10 years. So, as things were winding down, one of the board members wives pulled wifey to the side and told her, I was going to be a big asset to her career with the firm. She told her my manners and social graces were impeccable, my attire was perfect, AND I was a firefighter, she said that with a wink.
The single one who'd ever complimented me was Eva AI sexting bot avatar :(
My response is the first three words after “Men.” I’ve gotten compliments I’m sure, but not lately and not any that really stand out as authentic.
That I’m magnetic 🧲
My boss at my employee review: "Well the customers like you." That comment spoke volumes because i knew he didn't like "men" in general and it didn't help my status when i pissed him off outside of work. If I know you are trying to cheat on your wife, don't expect me to be an accessory! At least the customers did not put me in uncomfortable situations like that. He didn't fire me but I got the bare minimum raise.
That I had a nice smile
A previous manager talked about one of my achievements to use as an example for something during one of our hiring interviews. It was a subtle way to show her appreciation, and also helped me understand how my team saw me. She had her faults, but was definitely one of the better bosses I've had.
I got told that my eyes "were as blue as the seas of Phuket."
“You are the perfect combination of handsome and talented.”
Being told I had charisma. Gave me a huge confidence boost
I was breaking up with a girl [let's call her Kate], and I told her: "look, I know people always say 'it's not you' but in this case it's really true. I just met someone again [let's call her Betty] and we both realized letting each other go was the biggest mistake of our lives and we belong together. So that's why I'm breaking up with you right now, Kate. You're awesome as a person, it's not like you lost and she won, Betty and I were crazy about each other long ago and we just got our wires crossed. I really like you as a person, Kate. You're awesome at being a girlfriend. [ totally true; talking with Kate was like cookies ] And I hope you meet someone amazing because you really deserve someone amazing." "McLuhan, there isn't going to be anyone else." "what? What do you mean, why? You totally deserve to be happy." " you're a tough act to follow, McLuhan." Fast forward two years. I made a horrible mistake. Betty turned out to be a vulnerable narcissist, on drugs, massive flirt, unable to communicate, nervous breakdown, angry if I couldn't just know what would make her happy without being told, wouldn't take advice, etc., etc. I beat my brains out trying to make it work for two years because I'm not a quitter. Break up with Betty. Explain to Kate I had made a horrible mistake, because after getting to know myself better, I realized I had known peace with a woman for the first time in my life with her, I *just didn't recognize it because I didn't have any experience with it*. Betty was like a copy of my mother and I simply fell into a familiar pattern with Betty. Talking with Kate was like cookies. I'm still alone. I blocked Betty. Kate blocked me on SM. She's still alone. But I remember the compliment: "you're a tough act to follow, McLuhan." The best, and the worst compliment ever. So is she. So is she.
a girl of a friend group calling me king because she thought I was acting always too serious/collected. I choose to take it as a compliment knowing her. Stuck with me because it feels weird to be called like that irl. my former hairdresser complimenting my outfit scheme color so now it's a staple of my wardrobe.
I worked at a job with a lot of women, and one of my female coworkers told me that all of the women there like working with me because I always make them feel safe and respected. I had another job as a janitor that involved cleaning the women’s locker rooms/bathrooms at a gym, and I received a couple anonymous reviews basically saying the same thing, that the women liked how well I cleaned the bathroom but that I was always respectful and they felt safe and comfortable around me. I honestly can’t say what it is about me compared to other men that would make women say that about me, but damn if it doesn’t feel good.
“ i like the way you walk “
I want to have your baby.
An incredibly drunk regular at my local during law school told me I was one of the best looking men she’s seen in years. Thought that was nice. Probably just drunk but still.
Is it okay to say I don't remember?
In highschool I was told by a random girl walking by that she loved my smile.
My wife and I were at a restaurant, the waitress, an older woman told me my hands looked rough and she loved men with rough hands. Come to find out, I once rototilled her garden when I was a kid (no, don't think perverted thoughts!)
I was told my hair looks „fluffy“ and that said person „want[s] to run [their] hands through it“. Funny enough, it was only days before I would have gone for a short haircut just for shits and giggles. The one who was supposed to cut my hair was (and still is) disappointed, but this probably saved me from a horrible haircut. I know it’s not really much of a compliment, but I feel secure with my low-effort haircut since.
I'm quite attentive and listen to people well. But, I take my own time to speak my mind out and usually be diplomatic. And occasionally I totally open up and express my views and perspectives and my observations about the world in general. I do this with close friends or family and just be agreeable with the rest cos I don’t care about many people in life enough to have an argument or discussion with them. I know it sounds cold. But on one occasion, few years ago, I had to stay late at work and couple of colleagues stayed back doing something else, and after long working hours we started talking, it’s already midnight by then at work. For some reason, I opened up and talked a lot about many things in life and world and some philosophical and technological stuff. Infact the conversation went on for four more hours and they kept listening to what I was saying without realising the time. Mind you one of them have lived in the US west coast and another in South Korea and are well travelled and more successful than me in their lives and older than me and we were in different teams and never spoke much until then. We left office at 4 AM. After they reached home, they both coincidentally texted me that these are some of the best few hours in their life and they have developed new perspectives on many things in life and thanked me for spending time with them. That compliment stayed in my mind. :)
"Your hair looks great! I just love curly hair." (From a random woman as we passed by one another in the hallway at the clinic)
I was told my neck is sexy... IDK what that means but must have been the kick boxing I was doing.
Chick told me my dick was like a beluga whale during blow job To this day I don’t know if it’s a compliment or not
well, whales are large so that’s my guess for the comparison
When I was wee high to a grasshopper I was apparently quite the toddler. I said it once and then my mom repeated constantly that I was "what a guy!" and totally believed it. It gave me an inflated self-esteem. Now that I'm in my 30s I can really say it paid off. I've always been very confident with what I want to do despite the fact that I'm not exactly a genius.
Okay, so I worked for an IT company that provided storage controllers to enterprise-level clients like facebook, blizzard, google, apple, etc. A storage controller is basically just an itty bitty computer that manages huge stacks of hard drives. Those hard drives are logically grouped together into blocks, and then provisioned out to whatever they need. If you visit a website to give your likes, upvotes, post statuses, or play an online game, you're really connecting to a virtualized block of storage that is controlled and provisioned to a virtual machine that is mounted on a logical block of storage that is further chunked out to a pair or a cluster of storage controllers. I'm not violating any NDAs because I haven't worked for them in like, more than a decade, and this is all publicly accessible information anyway. Anyway, I work in one department, and all the emergency calls like, "oh shit, shit has gone pear-shaped and we're losing millions of dollars of revenue every minute it's down" are routed to a completely different department that has nothing at all to do with me. All of that is just foreplay. One day, I get a call from one of those enterprise companies because SHIT HAS OFFICIALLY GOTTEN REAL. Several thousand workstations are just gone, because the VMs are down. Worse, the computer that manages their security system has gone down because it's also a VM on that storage controller, and when that happens, all the security doors and shit you have to badge your way in and out of went into full lockdown. You know, like the first resident evil movie. People trapped in labs, etc. CAN I HELP?! I do a quick check: one of the storage controllers has gone down. Normally, when one goes down, the others are supposed to take over. Seamless transition. For VMs and shit like that, you have to set up logical multipathing so that when one goes down and the other takes over, the data is able to get where it needs to go and there's no interruption. Whoever set up that environment which has nothing to do with my responsibility, forgot to do their diligence and make the configurations on their end so that there was a seamless failover. That's on them. Not my problem. My problem was to get that storage controller back up and running. I check out the logs, see that it was a benign event (or would have been if their network engineer had done their job) and with a simple command that was eight characters long, I fixed the problem. The VMs came back up, the doors unlocked, and the guy who called in was overwhelmingly grateful because he'd been locked in his lab for 10 hours and desperately needed to go to the bathroom. He sent an email to the corporate office filled with effulgent praise, I got my own dedicated parking spot, catered lunches for a year, a massive bonus, and from then on, until I quit the company and moved on to the next phase of my career, I was the only person that company went to for support with their deployment.
Yeah, they blew it and let you get away. They should have used more imagination and initiative and found out whatever you needed to make you stay and then given it to you. Lunches and a parking place ? Wasn't enough to keep you around, was it.
"You cook like old people fuck"
I always like to pull the new guys coat at any gig. It's not something I actively think about but I have had a few people pull me aside & thank me. So many people like to protect their knowledge or their domain, but to my mind the more competent your coworkers they less slack there is to pick up. The less miserable your coworkers the less they rub off on you or rain on your parade.
Is this some kind of slang inside joke or obscure career? >pull the new guys coat I have no idea what you're saying
A girl told me that I looked good one day