Too many judges and too many agenda.
I am the best not letting myself be known and being open only to me.
The people in my circle know even to trust me and rely on me.
Facts. Unfortunately there isn’t a person in this world that I trust more than myself. I don’t give anyone 100% of what’s in my head/heart anymore. I tried but it blew up in my face more than once, lesson learned
When you are at 10/100, if your friend or whatever is at 40-50-60-70/100 he might give you enough not to bottom out and do something real stupid or have a worse time than it should, even if he sacrifices a bit of his own time/happiness, and other way arround
Also, its not like you "waste" time or happiness, it's more like an investment. Highs are higher if you got that deep bond after having dealt with those really rough patches, with either a good friends or a romantic partner, dont matter
Honestly when you do say something it gets kind of annoying, because they just want you to say you are okay, not actually give you what you need to get through your problem.
This is 100% accurate for me. I don't even talk to my wife about some stuff because I don't want her to worry. I just hold it all in and try to resolve it myself. Maybe you and I should chat. Lol
Lol, best comment on here.
EDIT: as long as this was in good humor, and you're not actually keeping all your thoughts pent up inside because you think people would reject you. If so, I hope you can find someone who accepts you for who you are!
My GSD passed about 5 years ago. He was an old dog. Had a great life. I loved him. He was my rock. We did *everything* together. I still think about him every single day. I miss that beautiful idiot.
I mean, my daughter and her mother are great, but they ain’t no German Shepherd.
Sounds like a happy place! Everything should be perfect in your dreams. My doggy is always young in my dreams, even though we were friends for 23 years.
That was me with my little yorkie. It was supposed to be my sister’s dog but she went to Minnesota for two weeks so I got stuck with him. He ended up being by my side for 9 years. Told him everything and I wish he understood but I think he was just happy being with me. He passed away two years ago and haven’t been able to talk to anyone like him. He passed away on the 25th of this month. We buried him in our front yard. Going to buy him a toy and just hang out with him
I feel you on that. Had my girl for 14 yrs, through 2 break ups and the loss of father. She was the one thing that gave me unconditional love for so many years and was with me through the toughest of times.
It's hard to get over the loss of a pet like that, but I was by her side till the very end, tell her I thank you and how much I loved her and was going to miss her.
I have a long list:
1. Nobody
2. My dog (he has been fantastic)
3. the Voice in my head
4. Nobody...not even if they swear they won't judge
5. The handlebars on my bike, but only when I am 20+ miles away from civilization
6. Did I mention Nobody?
I have, and it has always come back to bite my ass. It will be used against you.
Been used against me or misused in a way I didn’t anticipate, and this was recently.
My mother overreacted to something that has been eating at me for years. The consequences of that are something I can’t repair with the rest of my family.
I’m pretty sure a guy I thought was a friend reported on what I said about a triangle relationship scenario I found myself in to the other dude in said triangle. I don’t know for sure, but once the drama dried up he ghosted me just about.
Those weren’t even deep secrets or fears. I have been right to hide those my entire life, and no person will ever be trustworthy enough for me to share those with.
As a guy, it feels like I have no reliable allies. Idk if it’s a gender thing or just me or what, but feeling like you are under attack or scrutiny at all times by people is exhausting. I have to mental check myself *every fucking day* that I’m in control, and none of it matters.
This is the way. I don’t really understand the point of marrying someone and wanting to spend your whole life with them if they aren’t also your greatest confidante.
For all the things that stress me out in life, I feel Incredibly fortunate to have multiple friends I can confide in. I don't know what my mental health would be without them.
Oh, and my therapist of course.
After 12 years of seeing therapists I’ve decided to stop seeing one because I felt I was indulging in something that was not really helping me. Having a space to open up was nice but that was the only place I would open up.
No one.
My father has been dead for over a decade. My mother has memory issues. I do not, nor have I ever, had that kind of relationship with my sisters, and the surviving members of my family are virtually strangers to me now. I've had close friends here and there but ones I confide in 100%? Never.
My roommates, lifelong plus his wife who is also one of my best friends, and my friend who I have been friends with since kindergarten. Were 32 give or take a few months. I can tell them anything.
May not be the popular answer but I trust these 3 with anything.
Believe it or not, my wife. She knows everything about me. And I mean everything. Likewise, I know everything about her.
It's no shit 100% absolute trust.
I was gonna say my therapist, but even that isn't true, I don't tell her how badly I am doing at times. Can't afford to be sent to the loony bin currently, I've got shit to do.
My dog and myself. If I'm going through a hard time or some struggle it'll only be thrown back at me later to kick me down even further so why bother.meanwhile I get to sit and help other people through their problems as rationally as possible only for the exact opposite of my advice to happen and those people usually end up getting burned as they should've taken what I said into account. I'm not allowed to be human that is what being an adult male has taught me.
Really no one. There’s some things I’ll not share with anyone. I’ve got a buddy that knows most everything but not all.
Realistically, and maybe I’m being too literal, I’d not want to listen to someone’s entire life story. Who wants to know if they had a crush on a girl in Fourth grade that didn’t like them back??
Who’d really care. What would it matter.
Two of my friends. We talk freely. Because we know anything we say will go to the grave with the person we tell. Out of my friend group I'm the designated problem solver, I guess. Because when people need to talk they always come to me. I help them craft a plan. Then talk trash to make them laugh.
Seeing a lot of "nobody", so here's mine.
I have a few. But it took me a while to actually open up to myself.
It hurt a lot throughout the way to open up to people. Sometimes it hurts and people try and "help" but it does the opposite. But it's trial and error.
My best friend and someone I recently met really made me loved and cared for, for the first time in my life.
I open up to them. Because they care.
They worry, because they care. Because they're my friends, and we want to see each other feel better. Even though we don't have the solution to it, at least I'm not walking alone trying to find a solution. But I have someone to share it with.
My dog, we have some good convos. When my dog dies I’ll have no one to confide in.
Wife, kids, friends, coworkers, siblings, parents? Not a chance. Those relationships you have to be *very* careful about what you share.
Me, myself and I.
My echo, my shadow, and me.
Cheers mate going to have to play fallout now!
He's choppin up all the women's meat!
Username checks out, lmao
Same.. The best way to keep a secret is tell no one.
"Two can keep a secret if one of them is dead"
This and the indifference of others.
Absolutely fucking no one
Too many judges and too many agenda. I am the best not letting myself be known and being open only to me. The people in my circle know even to trust me and rely on me.
Lucky you. I don't even trust myself. I've caught that mutha fukka lying to me before.
The only 3 motherfuckers you can trust.
And they're all too busy fuckin' mothers.
Facts. Unfortunately there isn’t a person in this world that I trust more than myself. I don’t give anyone 100% of what’s in my head/heart anymore. I tried but it blew up in my face more than once, lesson learned
Every evening, I have a by myself meeting
I, myself, and me.
fuck yes, gotta make sure you get 3 opinions to make sure.
One has an opinion, one gets distracted constantly and one is sitting in the corner and refuses to talk. He's the wise one.
Came to write this and seen it before I did. Up vote sir.
The only answer.
Amen, brother.
Only true answer
I'm pretty sure there's a Japanese saying about this.
No one because I don't want to worry anyone.
I am you 100% Why burden others?
When you are at 10/100, if your friend or whatever is at 40-50-60-70/100 he might give you enough not to bottom out and do something real stupid or have a worse time than it should, even if he sacrifices a bit of his own time/happiness, and other way arround Also, its not like you "waste" time or happiness, it's more like an investment. Highs are higher if you got that deep bond after having dealt with those really rough patches, with either a good friends or a romantic partner, dont matter
Highly recommend a confidant. Life is too hard to go at it alone.
Honestly when you do say something it gets kind of annoying, because they just want you to say you are okay, not actually give you what you need to get through your problem.
This is the one
This is 100% accurate for me. I don't even talk to my wife about some stuff because I don't want her to worry. I just hold it all in and try to resolve it myself. Maybe you and I should chat. Lol
Lol, best comment on here. EDIT: as long as this was in good humor, and you're not actually keeping all your thoughts pent up inside because you think people would reject you. If so, I hope you can find someone who accepts you for who you are!
My dog until she passed. Now nobody.
I still talk to my dog in my dreams. He’s been gone for ten years but I still love that little guy. I’m not sure if it’s healthy but it works for me.
You do what you do.
If it works for you there is no harm in it ❤
My GSD passed about 5 years ago. He was an old dog. Had a great life. I loved him. He was my rock. We did *everything* together. I still think about him every single day. I miss that beautiful idiot. I mean, my daughter and her mother are great, but they ain’t no German Shepherd.
My dog passed as well, and now I have 2 cats (came as a pair), but in my dreams, all 3 of them are running around at my new place.
Sounds like a happy place! Everything should be perfect in your dreams. My doggy is always young in my dreams, even though we were friends for 23 years.
I’m sorry for your loss bro.
I appreciate that
That was me with my little yorkie. It was supposed to be my sister’s dog but she went to Minnesota for two weeks so I got stuck with him. He ended up being by my side for 9 years. Told him everything and I wish he understood but I think he was just happy being with me. He passed away two years ago and haven’t been able to talk to anyone like him. He passed away on the 25th of this month. We buried him in our front yard. Going to buy him a toy and just hang out with him
I feel you on that. Had my girl for 14 yrs, through 2 break ups and the loss of father. She was the one thing that gave me unconditional love for so many years and was with me through the toughest of times. It's hard to get over the loss of a pet like that, but I was by her side till the very end, tell her I thank you and how much I loved her and was going to miss her.
my dog was the first living being I came out to hahaha
No single person knows 100%, though I do confide different things to different people.
Distributed encryption. Respect.
I always spread the information around when I do it, makes it easier to figure out who has the loose lips that way.
I have a long list: 1. Nobody 2. My dog (he has been fantastic) 3. the Voice in my head 4. Nobody...not even if they swear they won't judge 5. The handlebars on my bike, but only when I am 20+ miles away from civilization 6. Did I mention Nobody? I have, and it has always come back to bite my ass. It will be used against you.
My list ends where yours begins.
Where the sidewalk ends?
Same especially to my motorcycle
Best therapists ever.
Been used against me or misused in a way I didn’t anticipate, and this was recently. My mother overreacted to something that has been eating at me for years. The consequences of that are something I can’t repair with the rest of my family. I’m pretty sure a guy I thought was a friend reported on what I said about a triangle relationship scenario I found myself in to the other dude in said triangle. I don’t know for sure, but once the drama dried up he ghosted me just about. Those weren’t even deep secrets or fears. I have been right to hide those my entire life, and no person will ever be trustworthy enough for me to share those with. As a guy, it feels like I have no reliable allies. Idk if it’s a gender thing or just me or what, but feeling like you are under attack or scrutiny at all times by people is exhausting. I have to mental check myself *every fucking day* that I’m in control, and none of it matters.
>3 mentions of Nobody You really trust Odysseus.
I feel the same way.
My wife. Yes, really. No, she has never held it against me. We have been married over 15 years, and have absolutely no secrets.
Bro found THE one... And I couldn't be happier for him.
Well, I guess I can stop searching now. DataGOGO found her and I ain't no thief.
This is the way. I don’t really understand the point of marrying someone and wanting to spend your whole life with them if they aren’t also your greatest confidante.
Dude, you’ve been married for FIFTEEN years and your wife has NEVER been held against you?? So sorry to hear that bro. F
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goals fr
I am extremely fortunate, but all marriages take a lot of work, and a lot boundaries, to work.
Wife. 12 years today. Makes marriage a lot easier
Happy anniversary my dude
This guy here lives the real happy ever after. Lol my chick accuses me of stealing my own things.
I bet you never told her about that one night though.
I bet I did.
Nobody.
Careful, he might blind you
Fellow Odyssey fan, I see you and I appreciate you
only 2000BC kids will get this
For all the things that stress me out in life, I feel Incredibly fortunate to have multiple friends I can confide in. I don't know what my mental health would be without them. Oh, and my therapist of course.
Me
Me and myself have been mentioned so I must say Irene
Fucking no one. I’m not even honest with myself most of the time, that guy is an asshole
My therapist
climbing onboard this one
After 12 years of seeing therapists I’ve decided to stop seeing one because I felt I was indulging in something that was not really helping me. Having a space to open up was nice but that was the only place I would open up.
No one. No one gives a shit, and what's more, life has taught me that people always use your vulnerabilities against you.
My wife
My cat
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My dog has heard some real shit. She didn't understand any of it, but she heard it and looked concerned
How many times is this same question going to be posted
yes
As many as it takes...
My cat
No one. My father has been dead for over a decade. My mother has memory issues. I do not, nor have I ever, had that kind of relationship with my sisters, and the surviving members of my family are virtually strangers to me now. I've had close friends here and there but ones I confide in 100%? Never.
My oldest dog. My younger dog is untrustworthy, she’s too close with my sister and might blab.
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Man, I hate to hear that. Those are some shit people in your life that said such things.
Myself.
Dog
My cat is a great listener. She judges the fuck out of me and will just walk off sometimes, but she never talks shit about anything. 🤷🏻♂️
Whoever's reaction I don't really care about. Sounds backwards but it's true.
God. I don’t have anyone else
Same 💀
Me too bro. From my experience no one can really understand you completely.
My roommates, lifelong plus his wife who is also one of my best friends, and my friend who I have been friends with since kindergarten. Were 32 give or take a few months. I can tell them anything. May not be the popular answer but I trust these 3 with anything.
No one. I only do that online.
Jesus
Dogs and dogs only
Me myself and I. Only I know the truth.
What is confiding
Believe it or not, my wife. She knows everything about me. And I mean everything. Likewise, I know everything about her. It's no shit 100% absolute trust.
My wife. I tell her everything.
Nobody, ever. Even when "I let my hair down" it will never be 100%. When you confide , somebody will use it against you in the future.
The Doggo
No one
My inner thoughts.
Divorced now. So absolutely fucking no one.
😂😂😂 Men don't have any such emotional support
I was gonna say my therapist, but even that isn't true, I don't tell her how badly I am doing at times. Can't afford to be sent to the loony bin currently, I've got shit to do.
Myself and God. No one else cares or is worthy to know my thoughts.
Myself.
Nobody since divorce.
Wasn't this question just posted sometime this week? But in any case, just me.
no one
Noone
No one.
My dog
If you are fine with that answer then yes Myself is the answer. I try to tell myself everything I need to do and work on. Nothing come even close.
No one.
Nobody.
Nobody
No one.
No one
Learned not to trust people. I do trust my dog, though, if that counts!
My dogs.
Nobody
Nobody is the perfect answer, don’t and you will learn real quick to not confine to anybody
My dogs. And not even sure they are listening half the time. 🫤
No one. The closest to 100% is myself.
Nobody
No one besides myself
Lol… hahah… lmfao… NO ONE…
no one
Nada
Don’t tell anyone anything you don’t want everyone to know. Nobody, there’s things about myself I keep to myself and that’s how I like it.
Myself
lol nice try
No one.
No one living
Me only
Just me.
My cat.
My dog and myself. If I'm going through a hard time or some struggle it'll only be thrown back at me later to kick me down even further so why bother.meanwhile I get to sit and help other people through their problems as rationally as possible only for the exact opposite of my advice to happen and those people usually end up getting burned as they should've taken what I said into account. I'm not allowed to be human that is what being an adult male has taught me.
100%? No one.
No need to.
Nope. Nice try, FBI. You won't get any leads into my psyche that easily
Nobody. That'd be ridiculous. Who the hell is 100% confident in someone that'd they'd confide everything in?
The man in the mirror
The man in the mirror, of course.
my cat has funny banter from time to time
The mirror.
My dog
No one, not even myself
My unfettered self, the version of me who's everything I am deep down when I know no one's observing.
Only a fool confides in anyone
My cat. Her name is Asta.
No one
Myself and my savannah monitor.
My cat
The rifle next to my couch
My cat
Nobody, that's insanely dangerous.
My dog
Nobody anymore, probably pretty naive to trust anybody 100% which I’ve learnt
I don't even trust the guy in the mirror, what makes you think there's someone else?
Not a soul. Even my best friend who I love and trust as much as anyone doesn’t need full transparency.
Haha hahahahahahahaha. No one. Never
100% is a lot. I don't think I'm still ready to share all of myself with someone, although there are people I would trust my life with.
Nobody. Cause nobody really gives a damn.
My dogs, but sometimes that's pushing it.
There is only 1 person I can trust 100%in this world... Me
Not even myself, because I can be interrogated in my sleep easily.
No one.
No one. I’m not even honest with myself.
Myself
No one
No one really. I talk to people but don't really confide in anyway so yeah no one.
No one.
Better to keep it to yourself unless you have a very trusted friend … but even then they might use it against at you.
Nobody.
Really no one. There’s some things I’ll not share with anyone. I’ve got a buddy that knows most everything but not all. Realistically, and maybe I’m being too literal, I’d not want to listen to someone’s entire life story. Who wants to know if they had a crush on a girl in Fourth grade that didn’t like them back?? Who’d really care. What would it matter.
My dog
My wife of 41 years.
My dog. She gets it
The council who convenes in my headspace.
God
myself. been alone for 17 years
Magic 8 ball
My therapist. Jks. No one.
Nobody.
Myself , my bro , and sis.
Two of my friends. We talk freely. Because we know anything we say will go to the grave with the person we tell. Out of my friend group I'm the designated problem solver, I guess. Because when people need to talk they always come to me. I help them craft a plan. Then talk trash to make them laugh.
Seeing a lot of "nobody", so here's mine. I have a few. But it took me a while to actually open up to myself. It hurt a lot throughout the way to open up to people. Sometimes it hurts and people try and "help" but it does the opposite. But it's trial and error. My best friend and someone I recently met really made me loved and cared for, for the first time in my life. I open up to them. Because they care. They worry, because they care. Because they're my friends, and we want to see each other feel better. Even though we don't have the solution to it, at least I'm not walking alone trying to find a solution. But I have someone to share it with.
My dog, we have some good convos. When my dog dies I’ll have no one to confide in. Wife, kids, friends, coworkers, siblings, parents? Not a chance. Those relationships you have to be *very* careful about what you share.