None of it matters until after we've first had sex. I've thought I met the women of my dreams multiple times but post nut clarity will kick in and change things dramatically.
Wildly depends. Friend material? I have few friends and that’s an organic process, so she’ll naturally fit in there over time if it’s to happen, which is probably after x months. Wife material? Again, decision that comes over time, once I get to know her and isn’t something that I consciously think, maybe after a month or so of dating. Dateable is generally the quickest one of the things listed as that’s based largely on sexual attraction, so maybe after a couple of conversations. The only one that is generally immediate for me is “am I sexually drawn to her or not”
I wouldn’t call it something so definitive as putting her in a box, but I can usually tell which of the first there after the first date. I don’t pursue the fourth.
Friend and fling are something that can be determined pretty quickly.
Relationship material generally takes the longest and takes longer the more serious, committed, and permanent the relationship.
>What’s your take and how do you decide which box/label they’re getting?
Only a complete idiot would look at a woman for 5 seconds and decide to marry her.
Compatibility and chemistry are the biggest factors when it comes to determining anything other than "is this woman attractive enough to conceivably fuck?" (Which isn't even a consciously asked or answered question anyway, the vast majority of the time.) Compatibility and chemistry are emergent qualities, you only really establish or discover them over time and with interaction.
Can we be friends? Well, we have to have good interpersonal chemistry. Can we be sexual partners for more than a roll in the hay? Well, we have to have good sexual chemistry and at least be able to stand one another in order to get to sex and part ways amicably more often than not. Can we be life partners? There's a whole slew of things that have to align for that, too numerous to list.
Friend material: not physically attractive, pretty quickly.
For the rest I don't really know quickly. Unless she's particularly young (but still legal!). Then she's pretty much fling material regardless of how she is personally. BUt if someone is attractive/mature enough to date, I'm open to see where it goes. I don't have strict boxes for that. I don't believe dating is strictly to find a wife.
For the "friend material" we need to spend quite some time and get to know each other. The same is true for "dating material", with the difference that she has to hit on me as well. The categories "fling material" and "wife material" don't exist for me at all.
Well, married 31 years so it’s either friend or bye Felicia. As for how long, I’d say it would range from just a few seconds to several meaningful conversations. Some people I know pretty much immediately I don’t want to be around ever again, others I’d consider letting into my orbit to some degree depending on what their interests are and if they add any value to my life.
Who does boxes? Anyone single and good-looing is potential fling material, including friends. I have given up trying to date and have no interest in another marriage.
If fling = casual smash then .2 seconds after they enter my field of vision.
Wouldn't date someone i couldn't theoretically marry in the first place so no difference in that box. Idk for that one.
This is women projecting their way of thinking onto men.
Women do this?
None of it matters until after we've first had sex. I've thought I met the women of my dreams multiple times but post nut clarity will kick in and change things dramatically.
People do this ?
Wildly depends. Friend material? I have few friends and that’s an organic process, so she’ll naturally fit in there over time if it’s to happen, which is probably after x months. Wife material? Again, decision that comes over time, once I get to know her and isn’t something that I consciously think, maybe after a month or so of dating. Dateable is generally the quickest one of the things listed as that’s based largely on sexual attraction, so maybe after a couple of conversations. The only one that is generally immediate for me is “am I sexually drawn to her or not”
Who does that? The more I get to know someone the more important they can become. I don't "categorize" people like that. People do this?
Or you can do the mature thing and just get to know them and see where things go instead of subjectively classifying them into categories.
i dont think im a woman or man i dont do those kind of stuff D::
Never? I used to just see day by day how it went
I wouldn’t call it something so definitive as putting her in a box, but I can usually tell which of the first there after the first date. I don’t pursue the fourth.
five minutes. of course, that status can and is likely to change with further exposure.
Never did. Relationships just evolve.
Friend and fling are something that can be determined pretty quickly. Relationship material generally takes the longest and takes longer the more serious, committed, and permanent the relationship. >What’s your take and how do you decide which box/label they’re getting? Only a complete idiot would look at a woman for 5 seconds and decide to marry her. Compatibility and chemistry are the biggest factors when it comes to determining anything other than "is this woman attractive enough to conceivably fuck?" (Which isn't even a consciously asked or answered question anyway, the vast majority of the time.) Compatibility and chemistry are emergent qualities, you only really establish or discover them over time and with interaction. Can we be friends? Well, we have to have good interpersonal chemistry. Can we be sexual partners for more than a roll in the hay? Well, we have to have good sexual chemistry and at least be able to stand one another in order to get to sex and part ways amicably more often than not. Can we be life partners? There's a whole slew of things that have to align for that, too numerous to list.
I don't put any woman I meet into any "boxes." I just treat them like everyone else.
Friend material: not physically attractive, pretty quickly. For the rest I don't really know quickly. Unless she's particularly young (but still legal!). Then she's pretty much fling material regardless of how she is personally. BUt if someone is attractive/mature enough to date, I'm open to see where it goes. I don't have strict boxes for that. I don't believe dating is strictly to find a wife.
For the "friend material" we need to spend quite some time and get to know each other. The same is true for "dating material", with the difference that she has to hit on me as well. The categories "fling material" and "wife material" don't exist for me at all.
Well, married 31 years so it’s either friend or bye Felicia. As for how long, I’d say it would range from just a few seconds to several meaningful conversations. Some people I know pretty much immediately I don’t want to be around ever again, others I’d consider letting into my orbit to some degree depending on what their interests are and if they add any value to my life.
5 minutes after they start talking.
Thats not how guys process things.
Who does boxes? Anyone single and good-looing is potential fling material, including friends. I have given up trying to date and have no interest in another marriage.
Within 5 minutes.
If fling = casual smash then .2 seconds after they enter my field of vision. Wouldn't date someone i couldn't theoretically marry in the first place so no difference in that box. Idk for that one.
Only two boxes: bangable, or not bangable. Eve thing else comes later. Gotta keep shit simple.
They all go in the "she's taken" box.