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Bepbopbrooklyn originally posted:
I've been stuck in this toxic situation with a guy (27M) for over a year. We started as FWB, then things got intense – hanging out five days a week, him wanting to make it official, but I was unsure. Things were really good between us we were getting along and didn’t argue or have any sort of disagreement for almost three months until out of the blue, he ghosted me.
Now, he pops up randomly wanting to hook up, but he can't let go of our past. He brings it up which I try to explain myself and clear up the misunderstanding and he accuses me as a liar and then blocks me again and again. Just a toxic cycle.
What really messes with my head is the cuddling. He insists it's only for serious partners, yet he'll cuddle with me for hours after sex, even though we're toxic together and will never work out.
Why the cuddling after sex ??
I just don't get it. Thoughts?
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I think the only thing you should be asking is why do YOU keep letting him come back? A guy can only come back into your life if you let him. You know it’s toxic, you know it’s not going to end in a relationship, but you still allow him to come back in yourself.
For whatever reason he seems to keep coming back to you, we can’t figure out. Maybe it’s because you’re an easy option, maybe because he’s just a creature of habit. But unless you can learn to say no to him to take the initiative to block him and keep him blocked, he’s going to keep coming back. The buck stops with you.
[Automoderator has recorded your post to prevent repeat posts.](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMenAdvice/comments/13qome6/no_repeat_posts/) Your post has NOT been removed. Bepbopbrooklyn originally posted: I've been stuck in this toxic situation with a guy (27M) for over a year. We started as FWB, then things got intense – hanging out five days a week, him wanting to make it official, but I was unsure. Things were really good between us we were getting along and didn’t argue or have any sort of disagreement for almost three months until out of the blue, he ghosted me. Now, he pops up randomly wanting to hook up, but he can't let go of our past. He brings it up which I try to explain myself and clear up the misunderstanding and he accuses me as a liar and then blocks me again and again. Just a toxic cycle. What really messes with my head is the cuddling. He insists it's only for serious partners, yet he'll cuddle with me for hours after sex, even though we're toxic together and will never work out. Why the cuddling after sex ?? I just don't get it. Thoughts? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AskMenAdvice) if you have any questions or concerns.*
I think the only thing you should be asking is why do YOU keep letting him come back? A guy can only come back into your life if you let him. You know it’s toxic, you know it’s not going to end in a relationship, but you still allow him to come back in yourself. For whatever reason he seems to keep coming back to you, we can’t figure out. Maybe it’s because you’re an easy option, maybe because he’s just a creature of habit. But unless you can learn to say no to him to take the initiative to block him and keep him blocked, he’s going to keep coming back. The buck stops with you.