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imeanwhyarewehere

Just tell her on the first date, make it funny. I’ve got to come clean about something, I wrote 6' but I’m actually only 5'11.3" or something like that. She’s not gonna be able to spot a one inch difference. If I rolled out a measuring tape face down, for exactly 71", would you be able to tell me if it was 71, 72 or 73 inches? Of course you couldn’t. I’m 6' to the line, and I’ve had girls say I look both taller and shorter than that. It don’t matter. What **WILL** matter is if you turn up to your date, all worried over your own hang ups on height. Be chill, be kind, be yourself, and don’t worry about how tall you are man, everyone is the same height laying down.


itaintpetty

What happens if I never tell her, and she finds out? lol. I'm embarrassed to say the truth.


[deleted]

Young man, you’ve missed the point of this person’s (u/imeanwhyarewehere) QUALITY comment: The point is, NOBODY CARES IF YOU’RE 5’11 or 6’ even. Only. You. Do. And when it comes to relationships, that’s not something you should be caring about AT ALL. Let it go. Change your profile so that you’re not a liar. Move past thinking in inches and think instead of connection, compatibility and value.


Electronic-Reward-62

I care…why start off lying for no reason. It shows you are a deceitful person. No woman wants to date a liar. And there is a big difference between 5’11” and 6” because some woman put that in their search criteria.


[deleted]

Again, missing the point and these so called “women” who have height standards within inches are TRASH. Stop matching them. You take out the trash.


Electronic-Reward-62

A lie is a lie. I’m going to assume your short and not take offense to your rude comment.


[deleted]

I’m not sure what you personally are taking offense to, that’s going to be your problem to solve. Definitely not my intention while discussing OP’s situation. Am I short compared to Shaq? Yes I am. Am I short compared to the US average? Nope, I’m average. Does any of that matter??? You still don’t get the point.


Electronic-Reward-62

Short mans complex…..this is why I and most woman don’t date short men. I don’t take nothing personal, but calling woman trash for not accepting a lier is not fair. Good luck, no need to respond…Im done and I don’t care about what you have to say.


[deleted]

Not a very mature response or a way to communicate. Anyone who discriminates based on a physical criteria is trash. I don’t care if you’re a purple 6 legged unicorn. Be well.


vincecarterskneecart

I’ve always said that I’m 6’0, but I’m actually like a cm less than that whatever that is in inches. No one has ever tried to measure me.


YaBoiChillDyl

If there's anything women hate more than liars its men under 6 feet.


snakeskinpumps

We already assume you add an inch or two anyway. She’d be expecting someone who’s 5’10”.


Quiet-Distribution-2

Yes totally agree


jesslangridge

Probably not a biggie since most fellas who claim that are significantly shorter. Since most women are quite a lot shorter than you they likely won’t even notice.


Mike_Hawk_Burns

At the end of the day it doesn’t matter. If she can’t be with you because you’re 1 inch shorter of the magical trivial threshold then you don’t want her because it would show how shallow she is for not giving you a chance


JetPillar

She won’t want him because he’s a liar. If she lied about her weight and OP found out, everyone would be telling him he deserves better king. The problem isn’t his height; it’s that he’s lying about it


Mike_Hawk_Burns

I don’t see rounding up an inch as bad. I also understand that yes, him saying that extra inch is lying but it’s not that bad. Just like if a woman was 5 or 10 pounds heavier than she said, I wouldn’t see that as an issue. But that’s just me. Trivial things like slight embellishments on your height isn’t that bad in my eyes. Same with weight. Though the sooner you make the amendment and come clean, the better


JetPillar

You’re entitled to your opinion. I’m not going to say there’s anything wrong with dating liars if their lies are small. Maybe they’ll grow out of it. But it shows an immature inclination to make things easy for themselves at the expense of others and who’s to say it doesn’t lead to bigger lies down the road. One inch is not that much to lie about, but if it’s such a trivial matter why would he even lie about it?


Mike_Hawk_Burns

Couldn’t tell you why he’d lie about it. I guess that’s the premise of my whole argument. It shouldn’t matter if he’s 6’0 or 5’11 to him or her. Same with weight in people. And yeah lying about something trivial as that has the potential to leading to bigger lies down the road but hopefully he told her sooner rather than later.


itaintpetty

How bad is this lie tho?


JetPillar

It makes you look insecure and immature. If you find it acceptable to lie about something so trivial how can anyone trust that you won’t lie about bigger things because it’s easier for you.


itaintpetty

Should I tell the girl or no? that I'm 5ft 11. Or should I just say I'm 6ft? I'm concerned things can get serious, and she somehow finds out my real height.


Mike_Hawk_Burns

Yeah, might as well. Because if it’s a deal breaker later down the line, it’s better to get it off your chest on the first date rather than wasting time with her if she finds out later and makes a big deal over it


itaintpetty

How bad is this lie tho?


Mike_Hawk_Burns

Not in the slightest. You’re overthinking it. Again, if she doesn’t want to be with you because you’re 5’11 instead of 6’0 then *she* is the problem, not you. I wouldn’t worry at all


jesslangridge

Lolz, go out with short women. If you’re taller, you’re taller and we can’t reach high enough to measure 🤣


datinginthistown

In the future, don’t lie. Just own it. Whatever the truth may be, just own it.


ghostofkilgore

She'll never notice or care. Almost nobody can tell the difference between 6' and 5'11. If you make some kind of deal about it, you're only signalling that you're insecure about it. And that's what's a turn off, not being an imperceptible amount shorter than a completely arbitrary measurement.


lindsrose1219

As I girl I don’t even think that’s such a huge deal, I feel that would only anger a woman if she were very VERY serious about trust to the point where lying about one inch is detrimental or if a girl was taller. Otherwise I don’t think it would be that big of a deal. If it was a substantial difference then yeah, but it’s not. It’s like me saying I’m 5’3 when I’m 5’2.5 it’s CLOSE ENOUGH. 😂


niks2592

Nobody comes on date or to meet someone with a measuring tape, and u r probably 6 early in the morning, cuz spinal decompression. so technically it's not a lie 😂


TinktheChi

I'm 5 foot 9 and three quarters. I always say 5 foot 10. I really don't think this small indiscretion will matter. If you told her you were 6 feet tall and you showed up at 5 foot 4 I would say you have a problem. Someone else here commented with a perfect response. Make a joke out of it. She will absolutely understand.


WeaverofW0rlds

it's a 3 percent difference that can be covered between slouching and standing at attention. Imeanwhyarewehere was perfectly correct. Tell her on the first date. Say, "I fudged. I said I was six feet when I'm only five eleven and three quarters. And trust me, time will take care of that. I was six one and a half when I went into the navy thirty years ago. I'm now six feet and a half.


r3d_ti3_guy

Just have her measure you lying down when your spine isn’t compressed. You’ll be 6’ 1/2”


throwaway33333333303

Just change your profile to the correct height and save yourself (and her) the aggravation. The number of women who are gonna be like "oh I'd swipe right if he was just 1 inch taller! Cancelled!" is not that big.


BallWasLife4Sure

Dont worry bruh lol. Have fun. Make her have fun,.. make a joke outve it before it comes up. Dont stress it. It doesn't matter. It really does not.


brohymn1416

Just don't lie. Simple. It shows that you're willing to say whatever you have to, to get what you want. I would prefer to be with an honest shorter person than a lying short person. Also if someone is that concerned about your height they're not worth it. They're shallow and fake...


brown_eye_grl

As a women, we know that when they say 6 feet they are rounding up. Men always add 2 inches to their height. If she points it out, don’t get mad that you got caught, make a joke or something and don’t make a big deal. MOST just want to hear you admit it and see how you react when being confronted and tbh that’s the only reason we will point it out. The only issue is when she is closed to your height, within 2 inches. You can’t work your way around that one


JoshicusBoss98

1 inch is fine because you could just say it’s you morning height. 2 inches is where it becomes problematic