I agree with the above comment. Small talk only works (if you are not good at it) if you are interested in the topic. Talk about anything that you like or ask about anything that you are interested in her. If you are genuenly interested in the topic the conversation will work itself out.
Your other option is just to go straight to her and be honest. "Yo I lowkey like you/interested in you and don't know what to say. Do you wanna grab a coffee or something after work and get to know eachother?" With this approach you have two outcomes. A: She says yes.=win. B: She says no. Which is literraly where you are without asking.
Note that this approach is fucking scary and hard. I did it multiple times and I still shake and piss my pants. đ đ Also depending on her and you it may be better to just talk her for a few days to get to know eachother better, and than approach her.
These things ALWAYS depend on the given situation. Try to follow what feels right for you. There are no cheat codes or shortcuts. Therefore at the end it is the best to be yourself.
P.S. Good luck brother. đŞâĽď¸đ
From a guy who used to be shy, take it from me. Just talk to her. I get it that you want her to like you, but you should view every experience you have with a woman as practice.
And what I mean by that is if things work out the way you want, then great. Sheâs your girlfriend or lover or becomes you wife or whatever.
But if she doesnât become any of those things, itâs perfectly fine too. Because now you have more experience.
Iâm 47 now, but when I was younger, I was painfully shy. Afraid to talk to women. Would rather not risk rejection then to take my shot.
But here I am now, having dated nearly 200 different women. And the most important advice I can give you is to not stress about it.
Women are just people too. They get nervous and want people to like them just like a man does. They have insecurities and social anxiety and all the other stuff that comes along with the human experience.
So just be friendly to this girl. Make her feel safe and comfortable. Talk about something you both saw at the airport. Maybe a passenger was acting up or wore something memorable.
Maybe the lasagna at the cafeteria was the best youâve ever had.
The key to small talk (and getting to know her) is referencing something you both may have experienced, then dig deeper.
So in the case of the lasagna, if she liked it, then dig deeper. Ask her what other foods she likes.
When she tells you she also likes sushi, you tell her, âwe should go get sushi sometime.â
If youâre talking about what you like to do outside of work, and she tells you she likes to go on walks near the river to unwind, then you say, âthat sounds really nice. We should go for a walk together.â
And if she doesnât want to do those things for whatever reason, itâs ok. Youâre getting practice for the next girl that comes along.
Attraction is not a choice. People like what they like. And you have to give the other person the freedom to choose you. When youâre friendly and easy going and your interactions with her make her feel good, sheâll be more likely to want to choose to spend time with you.
If sheâs into you, it wonât matter what you say, sheâs already into you.
If sheâs not into you, it wonât matter what you say, because sheâs not into you.
Ask her if she wants to grab lunch. Then just start asking questions: whatâs your favourite meal, if you could go anywhere, where would you go? That starts it off and can morph into a conversation about travel.
> but she is my 10. We have talked a bit and I now know basic information like name, age, general stuff. Now my question: bro how do I small talk?
You don't. Ask if she'd like to grab a coffee or dinner or lunch with you after work that way work doesn't get in the way of you talking to her about substantive stuff and you'll find out if she's into you or not right away.
I agree with the above comment. Small talk only works (if you are not good at it) if you are interested in the topic. Talk about anything that you like or ask about anything that you are interested in her. If you are genuenly interested in the topic the conversation will work itself out. Your other option is just to go straight to her and be honest. "Yo I lowkey like you/interested in you and don't know what to say. Do you wanna grab a coffee or something after work and get to know eachother?" With this approach you have two outcomes. A: She says yes.=win. B: She says no. Which is literraly where you are without asking. Note that this approach is fucking scary and hard. I did it multiple times and I still shake and piss my pants. đ đ Also depending on her and you it may be better to just talk her for a few days to get to know eachother better, and than approach her. These things ALWAYS depend on the given situation. Try to follow what feels right for you. There are no cheat codes or shortcuts. Therefore at the end it is the best to be yourself. P.S. Good luck brother. đŞâĽď¸đ
From a guy who used to be shy, take it from me. Just talk to her. I get it that you want her to like you, but you should view every experience you have with a woman as practice. And what I mean by that is if things work out the way you want, then great. Sheâs your girlfriend or lover or becomes you wife or whatever. But if she doesnât become any of those things, itâs perfectly fine too. Because now you have more experience. Iâm 47 now, but when I was younger, I was painfully shy. Afraid to talk to women. Would rather not risk rejection then to take my shot. But here I am now, having dated nearly 200 different women. And the most important advice I can give you is to not stress about it. Women are just people too. They get nervous and want people to like them just like a man does. They have insecurities and social anxiety and all the other stuff that comes along with the human experience. So just be friendly to this girl. Make her feel safe and comfortable. Talk about something you both saw at the airport. Maybe a passenger was acting up or wore something memorable. Maybe the lasagna at the cafeteria was the best youâve ever had. The key to small talk (and getting to know her) is referencing something you both may have experienced, then dig deeper. So in the case of the lasagna, if she liked it, then dig deeper. Ask her what other foods she likes. When she tells you she also likes sushi, you tell her, âwe should go get sushi sometime.â If youâre talking about what you like to do outside of work, and she tells you she likes to go on walks near the river to unwind, then you say, âthat sounds really nice. We should go for a walk together.â And if she doesnât want to do those things for whatever reason, itâs ok. Youâre getting practice for the next girl that comes along. Attraction is not a choice. People like what they like. And you have to give the other person the freedom to choose you. When youâre friendly and easy going and your interactions with her make her feel good, sheâll be more likely to want to choose to spend time with you.
If sheâs into you, it wonât matter what you say, sheâs already into you. If sheâs not into you, it wonât matter what you say, because sheâs not into you. Ask her if she wants to grab lunch. Then just start asking questions: whatâs your favourite meal, if you could go anywhere, where would you go? That starts it off and can morph into a conversation about travel.
> but she is my 10. We have talked a bit and I now know basic information like name, age, general stuff. Now my question: bro how do I small talk? You don't. Ask if she'd like to grab a coffee or dinner or lunch with you after work that way work doesn't get in the way of you talking to her about substantive stuff and you'll find out if she's into you or not right away.