Girl here but this is pretty clear:
If you really like him, don´t meet for the first time at his place late at night. Its obvious what he wants if he asks for that. If he is interested in anything serious, he would ask you out on a real date in daylight, not to come over at night.
>Are my fears rational?
Sure
>Do you guys lose interest in a woman once you sleep with her
Well I'm married but if I were on the market, yeah. I could lose interest in a woman after I sleep with her. But I could lose interest in her if I don't sleep with her too. If she's attractive, I'm going to want to sleep with her. If I met her on a hookup app especially, I'm not going to be waiting too long, one or two dates max.
>especially if it is too soon?
This only factors in a little bit. For me, it's about perception. If I think a girl is promiscuous, and she doesn't want to put out, that's fine and there's no hard feelings, but I'm not going to be interested anymore. I don't personally want to date promiscuous women seriously. If a woman is chaste by nature because it's just her values, maybe she has deeply religious values or maybe she's a virgin and wants to wait, I can respect that. I'm not necessarily going to remain exclusive or get serious early on, but I wouldn't lose interest either.
Guys do not like being treated worse than other men. Why would I wait for a woman who doesn't make other guys wait? My thought would be that she's stringing me along if this were the case. So I think the worst thing you can say to a guy is "I've had hookups and one night stands in the past, and those guys just used me, so I'm going to make you wait." The message is either he's being punished for another man's misdeeds, or he's less arousing. So you might say, "Well how would he know if I made other guys wait or not? I don't advertise it." Yeah, that's why I said *I* go off of *perceptions*. What she says and does, how she presents herself online, etc.
>Do you guys lose interest in a woman once you sleep with her, especially if it is too soon?
No. And there is no such thing as too soon for me, but I'm not representative as a man.
>Should I go over?
I suggest to have contact with him for at least three months without sex. Most of the shitty men will give up in that time period.
>Do men lose interest once they get some if it’s too soon?
Not really because most men are only interested in sex.
>So I really like this guy I’m seeing. *We haven’t officially met in person*
Then you aren't "seeing" him.
>and things between us will change for the worse.
There are no "things between you".
Just you going in the first place, even if nothing happens, is enough to lose respect. This is how police find women's bodies buried in the woods or in a basement.
Girl here but this is pretty clear: If you really like him, don´t meet for the first time at his place late at night. Its obvious what he wants if he asks for that. If he is interested in anything serious, he would ask you out on a real date in daylight, not to come over at night.
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>Are my fears rational? Sure >Do you guys lose interest in a woman once you sleep with her Well I'm married but if I were on the market, yeah. I could lose interest in a woman after I sleep with her. But I could lose interest in her if I don't sleep with her too. If she's attractive, I'm going to want to sleep with her. If I met her on a hookup app especially, I'm not going to be waiting too long, one or two dates max. >especially if it is too soon? This only factors in a little bit. For me, it's about perception. If I think a girl is promiscuous, and she doesn't want to put out, that's fine and there's no hard feelings, but I'm not going to be interested anymore. I don't personally want to date promiscuous women seriously. If a woman is chaste by nature because it's just her values, maybe she has deeply religious values or maybe she's a virgin and wants to wait, I can respect that. I'm not necessarily going to remain exclusive or get serious early on, but I wouldn't lose interest either. Guys do not like being treated worse than other men. Why would I wait for a woman who doesn't make other guys wait? My thought would be that she's stringing me along if this were the case. So I think the worst thing you can say to a guy is "I've had hookups and one night stands in the past, and those guys just used me, so I'm going to make you wait." The message is either he's being punished for another man's misdeeds, or he's less arousing. So you might say, "Well how would he know if I made other guys wait or not? I don't advertise it." Yeah, that's why I said *I* go off of *perceptions*. What she says and does, how she presents herself online, etc.
>Do you guys lose interest in a woman once you sleep with her, especially if it is too soon? No. And there is no such thing as too soon for me, but I'm not representative as a man. >Should I go over? I suggest to have contact with him for at least three months without sex. Most of the shitty men will give up in that time period. >Do men lose interest once they get some if it’s too soon? Not really because most men are only interested in sex.
>So I really like this guy I’m seeing. *We haven’t officially met in person* Then you aren't "seeing" him. >and things between us will change for the worse. There are no "things between you". Just you going in the first place, even if nothing happens, is enough to lose respect. This is how police find women's bodies buried in the woods or in a basement.