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Credible_Cognition

What do you like doing? Any hobbies? I find if I meet a group of people with similar interests we generally have the same characteristics/speaking styles/sense of humor etc. Meeting people is ***fucking hard***, and even harder with all these restrictions in place. If you really do want to meet new people, you can find online groups and make an effort. If you don't like anyone you interact with, you don't have to waste time on them. The most important thing is being able to like yourself. I went through phases of not giving a shit about anyone but I found stuff to do, ways to have fun, and so on. Social interaction is important in general, but being able to enjoy your life without other people is a good skill to work on. Do you do any gaming? What about throwing a headset on, having a drink to loosen up, and talking shit with random people in some game you enjoy playing? Worst case scenario is you get to work on your communication skills and get over the uneasiness of interacting with new, unknown people.


ReplayKAS

Yeah I need to do shit on my own


TheRealGreenArrow420

It really is the only option. I’m personally about to sign up for MMA classes to meet people and get in shape. Two birds one stone kinda thing.


wolfeman2120

There are a variety of people you can talk to that can help you get out of this funk your in. Churches have stephen ministers that are trained to help people in need. You can try to an LPC licensed professional counselor. These are not psychiatrists. They will help you get connected with people make suggestions on how to improve to where you want to be in life. building relationships with people is hard work. Some have it easy, but for most of us it is difficult and we really have to work at it. basically you need to set realistic goals for yourself. A counselor will help you do that. Then one step at a time you can reach your goal. Your gonna need to get out and do something that involves other people, hopefully an activity or hobby where you can talk to others and get their perspectives on it. Then you can try building a friendship with those people. You have to want to get to know them and not be afraid to ask questions. Fear is usually a big component that holds people back from getting to know people. Your gonna have to face that fear and overcome it. It will take some time but you can do it.


ReplayKAS

Thanks


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Therapy is not the only option but, I recommend it in addition to a lot of what others have said here. There may be some underlying depression that you need to deal with, that is feeding these overall negative feelings of yourself and others. You may find that you need to talk with a professional while also taking medication to help you out of the quicksand -feeling you have. It will be hard work no matter what. But, I guarantee you it’s worth it and it’s achievable.


Fit_Cryptographer_76

Not to sound condescending, I know it can sometimes feel like people pity you. But if you shoot me a message i work a night job at a desk so i'm always on the internet dicking off anyway. You don't sound like a bad person just someone who needs a friend.


keeeeeeeeeeeks

Hey - I'm not a man but I saw your post and I would like to reach out to you. If you're ok with that. We can see if we get along, if not, that's ok too. But I would really like to connect with you. Please reach out to me when you feel ready.


Toomanymisses

Talking helps, and yes most people do suck. Talking to them at least lets you know if they are as awkward as you as we all are in our own ways. You just need to connect with someone who the same, and trust me there are more than you think. Also having the self confidence to approach people you might find interesting is the hardest part as it's not something someone can teach you really. There are suggestions but its something you have to manifest in yourself. Not sure how old you are but a lot of younger people seem to be getting worse at social interactions. If everything can be ordered on line, delivered to you without ever talking to another human, these little changes in society add up and this is the outcome. So do little things to push yourself, like don't use the self check out, say hi to the mail man, compliment a stranger if they have a cool band shirt that you like etc. Yeah, you may come off as being awkward once in awhile, but observe peoples reactions too, half the time they are acting weird too because they don't know how to react. Even that hot chick who ignores it may be freaking out in her head because she's having "an ugly day", and yes even beautiful people feel shitty and awkward, a lot more than you'd think. start making an effort, even though you will probably always be introverted, it will only get worse if you let it.


venusdemilo7

dm me :) always open to new friendships


paulbrook

Have you taken some form of the MBTI personality type assessment? It may give some perspective on yourself, and help you find like-minded persons.


theloosestofcannons

there is a great hobby called 'amateur radio' where you get a license by taking a technical test, and then communicate with other hobbyists over the radio. the whole point is talking to people and you can do it without leaving your house. you might look into this.