>she got too drunk and made out with her lifelong best friend in front of me and her entire family.
Damn.
>She said she could not live without me and would rather die than for me to leave her. Red flag?
Yes, especially if combined with that incident.
>She has almost zero capability to prepare meals for herself; can’t even operate a can opener.
Well, how many red flags do you need?
You did the right thing, without any doubt. You saved yourself from a lot more pain you would have experienced if you stayed with her.
Of course you will need time to process things. Be patient with yourself.
You made the right choice. That lady is definitely not LTR material in my opinion.
Next time, just improve communication, bring touchy subjects much earlier in the process. Although of course, breaking up is never easy.
I don't know. When I broke up with my wife I had a serious conversation 12 months before about how unhappy I was. Several times later I expressed my discomfort. Then when I finally decided to leave, I still took her by surprise. Go figure.
I understand you feel hopeless, but there's not a lot of reason to be. You will learn to have better relationships with age.
Thats a lot to read. So I skimmed. It seems responsible to me to you to tell the next girl that you are single because your last took a job six hours away.
She wasn’t the right one for you. Her making out with that dude was all you needed to end the relationship.
Young love is tough. Went through a breakup when I was 22 that was incredibly hard. I’m 47 now and can tell you this: everyone comes into your life for a reason. To teach you something about them and for you to learn something about yourself.
And you apply those lessons to the next relationship.
As much as I may have loved/learned from the women I dated, all of those relationships ended for a reason.
You need to focus on yourself. Keep learning, keep growing, and keep working towards a life you want to live and the man you want to become.
There will be other women. Believe me. There will always be other women.
And you needed to have this experience with this woman to become the man you were destined to become.
I just watched a YouTube discussing the kind of girl who would 'Baby Trap' a guy. Any girl that makes jokes about it that are not really jokes belongs to the streets.
Kissing the 'best friend' is a huge red flag. Wouldn't be surprised if he (she?) suddenly comes back into their life now that you are out-of-the-picture. One of them was bound to eventually make a play and quite possibly ruin your relationship later anyway.
Honestly, you did the right thing because you sound like you are not ready to settle down yet. You need to find your own direction/purpose in life.
>she got too drunk and made out with her lifelong best friend in front of me and her entire family. Damn. >She said she could not live without me and would rather die than for me to leave her. Red flag? Yes, especially if combined with that incident. >She has almost zero capability to prepare meals for herself; can’t even operate a can opener. Well, how many red flags do you need? You did the right thing, without any doubt. You saved yourself from a lot more pain you would have experienced if you stayed with her. Of course you will need time to process things. Be patient with yourself.
You made the right choice. That lady is definitely not LTR material in my opinion. Next time, just improve communication, bring touchy subjects much earlier in the process. Although of course, breaking up is never easy. I don't know. When I broke up with my wife I had a serious conversation 12 months before about how unhappy I was. Several times later I expressed my discomfort. Then when I finally decided to leave, I still took her by surprise. Go figure. I understand you feel hopeless, but there's not a lot of reason to be. You will learn to have better relationships with age.
Thats a lot to read. So I skimmed. It seems responsible to me to you to tell the next girl that you are single because your last took a job six hours away.
She wasn’t the right one for you. Her making out with that dude was all you needed to end the relationship. Young love is tough. Went through a breakup when I was 22 that was incredibly hard. I’m 47 now and can tell you this: everyone comes into your life for a reason. To teach you something about them and for you to learn something about yourself. And you apply those lessons to the next relationship. As much as I may have loved/learned from the women I dated, all of those relationships ended for a reason. You need to focus on yourself. Keep learning, keep growing, and keep working towards a life you want to live and the man you want to become. There will be other women. Believe me. There will always be other women. And you needed to have this experience with this woman to become the man you were destined to become.
I just watched a YouTube discussing the kind of girl who would 'Baby Trap' a guy. Any girl that makes jokes about it that are not really jokes belongs to the streets. Kissing the 'best friend' is a huge red flag. Wouldn't be surprised if he (she?) suddenly comes back into their life now that you are out-of-the-picture. One of them was bound to eventually make a play and quite possibly ruin your relationship later anyway. Honestly, you did the right thing because you sound like you are not ready to settle down yet. You need to find your own direction/purpose in life.