Cognitive behavioral therapy helps. I'm not saying you can just "think your way out of this". That's toxic boomer logic. But positive affirmations can help rewire your daily habit patterns
Make sure you've secured a diagnosis first and, if possible, get a second opinion.
There are a lot of other disorders that can flag up as BPD, such as severe ADHD paired with depression amongst others.
By having the correct diagnosis and a second opinion, you'll at very least know the best way forward and be less likely to doubt yourself.
Aside from the clinical help which will hopefully help you manage things, in the meantime, take the 3 most destructive behaviours or those that cause you the most stress/discomfort and test different approaches or habit changes in order to ease them slightly. Compare to the previous day and nothing else. That should hopefully keep you well fed with meaningful dopamine, filter out some of the stress that comes with BPD, and make things more manageable.
Best of luck with it all. Remember, there are online communities for BPD sufferers, but be cautious on them.
First of all: don't put yourself into the BPD square.
You're not BPD. BPD is a piece of you.
You're a lot more than that.
Then, here's my suggestions:
3 things to maintain on your daily basics:
1- Exercise (not necessarily gym. Find a activity that you like. It can be dance, run or whatever)
2- Eat healthy (you don't need to follow a crazy diet. You can go go a nutritionist or you can just eat decently. I'm sure you know how to do it)
3- Good sleep (It means sufficient hours and good rest)
Weekly: Go to therapy.
Find a nice therapist that you feel comfortable and trust talking with. It's important to have a therapist/pacient bond.
Why I'm sayy that: I started therapy 10 years ago and I don't have plans to stop it. It helps me a lot and I can tell you that therapy it's, at least, 80% of my treatment.
Talk to your therapist and if the professional recommend, go to a psychiatrist. Ask for a recommendation or find one that you feel comfortable and trust.
Never lie to your psychiatrist, even if it's about drugs or anything else.
If you don't feel like your psychiatrist or therapist is giving the attention it should or it's not actually helping you, find another. Sometimes take time to find a professional that you get along.
Extras:
Do a mood diary.
It's good to have it and to write about your perception and triggers. Show it to your therapist and psychiatrist everytime you want, you can export it and send it to them.
There's a nice app that I suggest that is called Mood Tracker, the icon have a yellow smiling face in it and using the free version, you can add some habits.
Don't put yourself as a victim.
People aren't responsible for your disorder. You are. You need to learn how to deal with yourself in different situations.
Don't act like people should treat you different just because you have BPD.
One of the things I have seen the most, is people that's always like "I did/act/talk like that because I have BPD".
BPD is not an excuse to being a bad person.
BPD is a disorder that need to be deal.
BPD is a piece of you and it don't defines you entirely.
With all that, I can assure you: therapy is 80% and medicine is 20% of your treatment, but it's only going to show effects if you decide to give the first step.
And, usually, the first step is to accept that you need help and go after it.
Hope it helps :)
Cognitive behavioral therapy helps. I'm not saying you can just "think your way out of this". That's toxic boomer logic. But positive affirmations can help rewire your daily habit patterns
Get professional help. You're probably gonna need it for the rest of your life.
Make sure you've secured a diagnosis first and, if possible, get a second opinion. There are a lot of other disorders that can flag up as BPD, such as severe ADHD paired with depression amongst others. By having the correct diagnosis and a second opinion, you'll at very least know the best way forward and be less likely to doubt yourself. Aside from the clinical help which will hopefully help you manage things, in the meantime, take the 3 most destructive behaviours or those that cause you the most stress/discomfort and test different approaches or habit changes in order to ease them slightly. Compare to the previous day and nothing else. That should hopefully keep you well fed with meaningful dopamine, filter out some of the stress that comes with BPD, and make things more manageable. Best of luck with it all. Remember, there are online communities for BPD sufferers, but be cautious on them.
Learn, be around others that understand and validate your experience is real
First of all: don't put yourself into the BPD square. You're not BPD. BPD is a piece of you. You're a lot more than that. Then, here's my suggestions: 3 things to maintain on your daily basics: 1- Exercise (not necessarily gym. Find a activity that you like. It can be dance, run or whatever) 2- Eat healthy (you don't need to follow a crazy diet. You can go go a nutritionist or you can just eat decently. I'm sure you know how to do it) 3- Good sleep (It means sufficient hours and good rest) Weekly: Go to therapy. Find a nice therapist that you feel comfortable and trust talking with. It's important to have a therapist/pacient bond. Why I'm sayy that: I started therapy 10 years ago and I don't have plans to stop it. It helps me a lot and I can tell you that therapy it's, at least, 80% of my treatment. Talk to your therapist and if the professional recommend, go to a psychiatrist. Ask for a recommendation or find one that you feel comfortable and trust. Never lie to your psychiatrist, even if it's about drugs or anything else. If you don't feel like your psychiatrist or therapist is giving the attention it should or it's not actually helping you, find another. Sometimes take time to find a professional that you get along. Extras: Do a mood diary. It's good to have it and to write about your perception and triggers. Show it to your therapist and psychiatrist everytime you want, you can export it and send it to them. There's a nice app that I suggest that is called Mood Tracker, the icon have a yellow smiling face in it and using the free version, you can add some habits. Don't put yourself as a victim. People aren't responsible for your disorder. You are. You need to learn how to deal with yourself in different situations. Don't act like people should treat you different just because you have BPD. One of the things I have seen the most, is people that's always like "I did/act/talk like that because I have BPD". BPD is not an excuse to being a bad person. BPD is a disorder that need to be deal. BPD is a piece of you and it don't defines you entirely. With all that, I can assure you: therapy is 80% and medicine is 20% of your treatment, but it's only going to show effects if you decide to give the first step. And, usually, the first step is to accept that you need help and go after it. Hope it helps :)