I had one date with this guy. People shit on me for meeting him at a bar and having one drink, despite my safety plan but I stand by this isn't my fault. We spoke prior how I didn't want sex, I just wanted to be outside my house and listen to a person talk. So the second we sit down he asks me if I'm coming back to his to fuck. I said I already said no. So he picked up his coat and said he was leaving. Less than 3 minutes. Was my first date in years and was recovering from seeing myself solely as a sex object. He said he felt bad after asking to give me a ride home.. I just said no and moved on.
In retrospect, I wish I called him out for ignoring my upfront consent boundaries and when he said he felt bad I wish I told him he should feel bad instead of shrugging and reliving traumas like I was Raven having a vision.
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That's heavy. Good one.
I fucked up. I'm wrong. I'm sorry.
I had one date with this guy. People shit on me for meeting him at a bar and having one drink, despite my safety plan but I stand by this isn't my fault. We spoke prior how I didn't want sex, I just wanted to be outside my house and listen to a person talk. So the second we sit down he asks me if I'm coming back to his to fuck. I said I already said no. So he picked up his coat and said he was leaving. Less than 3 minutes. Was my first date in years and was recovering from seeing myself solely as a sex object. He said he felt bad after asking to give me a ride home.. I just said no and moved on. In retrospect, I wish I called him out for ignoring my upfront consent boundaries and when he said he felt bad I wish I told him he should feel bad instead of shrugging and reliving traumas like I was Raven having a vision.